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Published by Temple Shalom of Aberdeen, NJ Vol. XLVIII No.142 Jan/Feb 2019
Dates to Remember
Sunday, January 6, 11:00amRenaissance Trip to JewishMuseum
Friday, January 11, 6:30pmKabbalat Shabbat4th & 5th Grade Shabbat
Sunday, January 13, 4:00pmWTS Chick Flick
Thursday, January 17, 1:00pmHigh Tea
Friday, January 18, 7:45pmShabbat WorshipMLK Shabbat
Sunday, January 20, 10:00amMLK Service (location TBD)
Monday, January 21, 7:00pmWTS Tu B’Shevat Seder
Friday, January 25, 7:45pmShabbat WorshipGuest Speaker – Faith in NJ
Friday, February 1, 6:30pmKabbalat ShabbatWinter Wonderland
Tuesday, February 5, 7:30pmWTS Book Club
Saturday, February 16, 6:30pmRenaissance Dinner & Movie
Sunday, February 24, 9:30amGuest Speaker Rabbi IsaiahRothstein
The Rabbi Writes 3From the President 4Talmud Torah 5WTS 6Brotherhood 6Bna’i Mitzvah 7Temple Calendar 8-9Life Cycles 10Donations 14
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www.templeshalomnj.orgThe Connection between Judaism and Chinese New Year ....
as described in the Jewish Forward by Seth Rogovoy. . .
This February 16th (the Chinese calendar) will usher in the Year of the Dog . . . Theobservance is also known as Spring Festival, Jews, of course, have their own spring
festival, otherwise known as Pesach, or Passover. It’s sometimes referred to as ChagHa’aviv, which means, well, spring festival. And while the Jewish New Year is commonlythought of as Rosh Hashanah, which typically comes around in early fall, Passover isactually considered one of four possible Jewish New Years. The term “Rosh Hashanah”does not appear in the Torah; in fact, in both Exodus and the Book of Ezekiel, the Hebrewmonth of Aviv — later renamed Nisan — is referred to as the beginning of the year or asthe first month of the year. Nisan is also the month of Passover. To make matters evenmore interesting, the Chinese word for year is nian.
Chinese New Year, like Passover, Rosh Hashanah and all Jewish holidays, pops up atvarious times each year within two months of the Gregorian calendar (January and
February), because the Chinese calendar, like the Hebrew calendar, is based on theMetonic cycle, a lunisolar calendar that intercalates an extra month every 19 years (asopposed to the Gregorian, with its months of varying lengths and its additional day everyfour years). Generally speaking, Chinese New Year falls on the second new moon afterthe winter solstice. . . .
But the similarities between Chinese New Year and Passover aren’t merely those of cal-endric quirks. The holidays share rituals and practices that bear striking and provoca-
tive resemblances.
Before New Year’s celebrations begin, Chinese homes are (thouroughly cleaned) deco-rated in red, a practice traced back to the story of a Chinese New Year monster who
roamed around eating children and livestock. Once people discovered that the monsterwas afraid of the color red, they began hanging red lanterns, wearing red clothes, drapingdoors with red cloth and posting red scrolls printed with lucky messages on their door-posts!
In other words, mezuzahs, which, in Judaism, are amulets containing miniature scrollswith auspicious Biblical verses that are hung on door thresholds. But in the Chinese
case, red ones, akin to the color of the blood (of the Pesach offering, or the sacrificiallamb) that the Jews in ancient Egypt painted on their doorposts as a signal to the angel ofdeath to pass over their houses while on his way to carrying out the plague of the killing ofthe firstborn. From this evolved the spiritual practice of the mezuzah. And, in the Chinesecase, the red amulets are meant specifically to ward off an evil monster bent on killing chil-dren.
Just as the custom in Judaism is to usher in most festivals with a ritual meal attended byfamily on the night before the first day of the holiday (as with the Passover Seder),
Chinese New Year also kicks off with a “reunion dinner” with special foods. In China,dumplings are traditional — that’s kneydlekh (matzo balls) to you. Nian gao — a stickysweet cake akin to a Rosh Hashanah honey cake — is customary at the meal. And per-haps recognizable to those Jews whose family elders weren’t as creative in the kitchen asothers, boiled chicken is often served.
One other Chinese New Year custom has its analogue in a Jewish tradition; Chineseparents give children gifts of money in red-paper envelopes. And Chinese children
have developed their own custom surrounding the giving of what could well pass for‘Hanukkah gelt. These days, they sometimes jokingly say to their elders,’Congratulations‘and be prosperous; now give me a red envelope!”"
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PresidentHoward Scheines [email protected]
Executive Vice PresidentSteve Slome [email protected]
First Vice PresidentJessica Sammut [email protected]
Second Vice PresidentEric Menaker [email protected]
SecretaryLeo Stamm 732.972.9474 [email protected]
TreasurerMichael Kaplan 732.316.1196mikekaplanMSK97@optonline
Past PresidentSusan Miller [email protected]
ToSTY LeadershipDevyn Battaglia and Jake [email protected]
Temple Shalomof Aberdeen
Rabbi Laurence P. MalingerCantor Sarah Zemel
5 Ayrmont LaneAberdeen, NJ 07747
732.566.2621 Fax: 732.566.4185
Social Action CommitteeRachel Macaulay, Chairperson
Thanks to the generosity of Temple Shalom members, the Social ActionCommittee’s Coat Drive was a resounding success! We were able to donate 12large bags of coats and six small bags of hats, gloves and scarves to ProjectPaul, to help the most vulnerable within our own community. All items were verymuch appreciated!
As we have done for the past several years now, Temple Shalom will be hostingand participating in an “MLK Weekend” with area churches in celebration ofMartin Luther King, Jr. and the values he treasured and promoted. Now, morethan ever, we need to continue to join together, to both celebrate and embraceour diversity and further our connections with our neighbors in the community.Mark your calendar to join us on the weekend of January 18-20, 2019 - moreinformation will be sent via email as the dates near.
Our Backpack Buddies program continues to go strong, thanks to a team of ded-icated volunteers led by Ruth Queen. We currently provide weekend food for 36children at three local schools. If you’d like to help out, there are several ways todo so: volunteer to shop for food or pack backpacks, donate food from our sup-ply list and/or make a monetary donation to help fund the food purchases.Please reach out to me at [email protected] or to Ruth [email protected] for more information.
Do you have ideas for the Social Action Committee? Do you like to lend a help-ing hand to those in need? Come join the Social Action Committee, and help usbe the change in our community, and the world. We meet at the temple on thefirst Wednesday of the month at 7:00pm. I look forward to seeing you there!
Education CommitteeDebbie Worthington,Chairperson
We are moving into the second half of the year. We see lots of learning and fun across thegrades! Our Confirmation students are preparing for the trip to the Religious ActionCommittee in Washington, DC. This trip is eye opening! Not only are they meeting kids fromaround the US, they have their first opportunity to lobby their Representative and/or Senatoron a meaningful issue.
The Education Committee welcomes any congregant to our meetings. We want to hear fromyou! We meet at Temple Shalom on the 3rd Wednesday of the month at 7:45pm
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THE RABBI WRITESRabbi Laurence P. Malinger
Worship CommitteeAllan Rubinstein, Co-Chairperson
At the midpoint of winter, we will celebrate another Groundhog Day, made memorable by the 1993film in which Bill Murray plays a weatherman covering Groundhog Day, who then gets trapped in atime warp and finds himself forced to relive it until he gets it right. All of us experience the symptomsof Groundhog Day - the mornings, afternoons and evenings all seem to be the same, an endlessprocession of chores. The sameness can be numbing. How do we break the cycle? We must focuson our opportunities, our blessings, by appreciating the good. It begins with Modeh ani – with the firstwords of Jewish prayer upon waking being an expression of gratitude for the gift of another day. Wecan allow the burdens of the day to defeat us or make the most of the moment that lies ahead. Wecan get it right.
L’Shanah Tovah
How did I make it over? Going on over, all these years,Tell me how we got over, Lord - Had a mighty hard
time, You know my soul, look back and wonder - How didwe make it over?
How I Got Over, Clara Ward
These were the lyrics sung by gospel singer MahaliaJackson midway through the hot August day of the
1963 March on Washington for Jobs and Freedom, justbefore Rabbi Joachim Prinz took the stage. The songarticulates the journey from slavery to freedom, a journeythat both Jews and African Americans were on at thattime. Is it possible that Bayard Rustin—the primary practi-cal organizer of the March - recommended the song toJackson, knowing that the Jewish representative was tospeak next?
The great Ms. Jackson was a tough act to follow. “Iwish I could sing,” Rabbi Prinz joked before launching
into his speech. “When I was the rabbi of the Jewishcommunity in Berlin under the Hitler regime, I learnedmany things,” he said. “The most important thing that Ilearned in my life is that bigotry and hatred are not themost urgent problem. The most urgent, the most dis-graceful, the most shameful and the most tragic problemis silence. A great people, which had created a great civi-lization, had become a nation of silent onlookers. Theyremained silent in the face of hate, in the face of brutalityand in the face of mass murder. America must notbecome a nation of onlookers. America must not remainsilent.”
At the words, “America must not become a nation ofonlookers,” the crowd erupted into their loudest applause
yet. The people at the March understood that Prinz was shar-ing his journey with them. He was telling them how the Jewshad struggled for centuries to cross the waters from slaveryto freedom, and how they would, too. Looking back, hismoment at the podium represented the fulfillment of both theprophetic Jewish role in history and of his life’s journey.
Today, once again, we are struggling to secure the free-dom for all who are shackled in the bondage of enslave-
ment. As persistent poverty, poor education, urban decay andthe growing disparity of wealth threatens the well-being of ourcommunity as a whole; as evangelism erodes church-stateseparation and the respect for difference that separation haspermitted; as the weakening of civil rights protections turnAmerican society increasingly segregated even as it becomesmore multicultural demographically, it is possible that ourmessage of mutual respect has fallen onto deaf ears. As wecommemorate MLK Weekend this year, may we recommitourselves by not remaining silent in the face of injustice. Ourvoices need to cry out in our need to join as one.
Iencourage you to make time on either Friday night orSunday morning, the weekend of January 18-20th, as our
community joins with members of New Light Baptist Churchand Second Baptist Church of Keyport. Together, in strength,we pray and sing to continue the sacred work of Dr. King.May we never remain silent in the midst of injustice.
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As I started to put thoughts together forthis article, I determined the best use
of this opportunity would be to update youon what the Temple Board and leadershave been focusing on, especially forthose of you that I do not engage with asoften either at services or at other events.
1Our High Holy Day appeal continues.For those of you that have pledged, I
sincerely thank you for supporting yourcommunity. For those that have not yetdonated, it is not too late; all donationsmatter, regardless of amount.
2 On the facilities front, we are proceed-ing with plans to address the grading
and drainage issue in the back of thebuilding. Once completed, we will addressany other repairs caused by this condition.
3Our Budget and Finance committeeheld its first quarterly hearing in
December. The attendees offered valu-able input on how we can work through ourbudget. A second hearing is planned in theSpring and you are encouraged to attend.As a committee, we continue to look at alloptions to reduce expenses and increaserevenue.
4We are in the last stages of negotia-tions with regards to renting out the
“ELC Wing” starting in June 2019.Additional information will be communicat-ed once we have a finalized deal. This ini-tiative has the potential to add significantrevenue.
5We have performed preliminary workin determining the possibility of selling
the property adjacent to our building whichis generally used during High Holy Daysfor overflow parking. Once the preliminarywork is completed and if approved by theTownship, a meeting will be scheduled
FROM THE PRESIDENTHoward Scheines
with the congregation to discuss and ulti-mately vote on whether we should proceedwith the plans to sell the property.
6We are planning a Golf Outing event formid May. More information will be sup-
plied as we confirm the details of the event.
The input of every member is always wel-come as we continue to look for all
opportunities to grow our community. TheBoard of Trustees is committed to LongTerm Planning and I am hopeful that youwill join us and share your thoughts.I am always available to discuss all ideasregarding our community.
As we approach the wintry months ofJanuary and February, please stay
warm and safe and remember your Templecommunity is only a call away should youneed any assistance or support.
IMPORTANT TEMPLE UPDATES
Board ReportLeo Stamm, Temple Secretary
At recent Board of Trustees meetings the following are some of the agenda points discussed:
• Property assessment update - The hearing date for the Temple to present to the Township isnow expected to be in early December. If approved by the Township, a Special CongregationalMeeting will then have to be called – the Congregation will ultimately vote on whether we go for-ward with selling the property adjacent to the temple or look at other options.
• ELC wing rental update – Negotiations continue on a potential renter of the ELC wing and addi-tional classrooms. A contract has been presented and we hope to have a signed agreement shortly.If the agreement is consummated, the timing of the revenue would not impact the current fiscalyear.
• Security procedures - Board discussion led by Steve Surowitz – Steve spoke about the shootingin Pittsburgh. Temple Shalom has previously taken steps to upgrade the doors and glass as well asenhancing our access system and our cameras. The security camera system will be further upgrad-ed to include the social hall. The Temple received a July 2018-June 2019 State Grant of $10,000for security services that had not been performed in the past. We will use those funds for SecurityGuards at selected Temple services and events.
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The roots of Tu B’Shvat stretch back tothe beginnings of organized Jewish
life. We learn from the Mishnah (TractateRosh Hashanah) that “the New Year of theTrees” divided the tithing of one year’scrop from the next - the end and start ofthe tax year, so to speak. After the expul-sion from the Land of Israel, Tu B’Shvatwent underground, lying beneath the soilof Jewish thought and life. The expulsionfrom Spain in 1492 scattered Jews inmany directions, and some landed inTzfat. Like a forest fire that cracks openseeds dormant for decades, Tzfat’s kab-balists rediscovered Tu B’Shvat andbegan a period of mystical celebration ofthe festival.
The idea and structure of Tu B’Shvatseders traces back to them. Among
early Zionists, Tu B’Shvat became the dayto celebrate their reconnection to the land.As a student in Orlando, Florida, I got JNFtree certificates at Tu B’Shvat and Israelischool kids to this day celebrate it by plant-ing trees.
The fourth phase of Tu B’Shvat’semergence of a holiday of impor-
tance was on the account of the firstEarth Day in 1970 and the growing alarmat the degradation of the planet’sresources. The origins of Tu B’Shvatremind us that we are the descendantsof an indigenous people, heirs to anancient wisdom whose echoes caninform our choices today on subjects likehow to eat in a manner that is healthy forus and sustainable for the whole planet,or how to rest in a 24/7 world.
The kabbalistic Tu B’Shvat of Tzfatencourages us to open ourselves to
mystery, wonder, creativity and celebra-tion; this is an oral wisdom, somethinglearned from others, rather than frombooks. The spreading in many parts ofthe Jewish world of drums, yoga, andmeditation is part of this phenomenon.The peaceful and the joyous in Jewishlife are being rediscovered. Tu B’Shvat isa moment to celebrate new life and newbeginnings, physical and cultural.
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The Zionists’ Tu B’Shvat prompts us tothink afresh about the assumption
that the era when Jews were connectedphysically to the land is over, with Israelnow a country of venture capitalists andMBAs. Kibbutzim like Lotan and Yahel(two Reform kibbutzim), among others,are renewing that connection with theland, and although agriculture is shrink-ing, there is growing awareness of theneed to preserve the environment.Kosher organic farms and educationalgardens are spreading across NorthAmerica, and there is a deepening movein American Jewish life toward recon-necting with the land in a variety ofways. Today’s Tu B’Shvat seders groworganically from more than 2,000 yearsof Jewish tradition; yet the vital elementsof them are new and reflect the world welive in. The encounter of postmodernurban life with contemporary environ-mental challenge is renewing Jewish lifein unanticipated ways. It is an opportuni-ty to deepen our roots, and to branch outafresh to engage the world. Our stu-dents will explore Tu B’Shvat as we con-tinue to stay connected with our worldJewishly.
Rabbi Laurence P. Malinger - Acting Director of EducationTalmud Torah
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On behalf of Brotherhood, I would like toextend a “WARM” and heartfelt wish to
you and your loved ones for a wonderful NewYear 2019. It is also my wish that you wouldcheck out Brotherhood and see if your partic-ipation enhances your life as it has ours. Lastyear we eliminated dues to make everyone a
Brotherhood member but we still need your involvement.Send me an email at [email protected] and let meknow if you would enjoy events like Hatchet Throwing, anEscape Room, a Whiskey Tasting or just letting the ball rollat Asbury Park’s Pinball Museum. Don’t like these ideas?That’s ok, just send me suggestions for what you wouldenjoy doing.
Brotherhood is one of the most important universal con-cepts. As an integral part of our Temple community,
Brotherhood of Temple Shalom aims to give its members theopportunity to experience the concept of Brotherhood with itsfinancial support of the Temple, volunteer work, charitable giv-ing, programs, events and fundraisers.
Some of our members have been involved with ourBrotherhood for years and it has enriched our lives and our
connection to our Temple. We get to see old friends and meetnew ones, and we don’t have to impress anyone with our jobtitles or business success, but at the same time we get toschmooze and network. Great stuff!!
BROTHERHOODPhil Devinsky, Brotherhood President
Women of Temple ShalomDuryan Clark, Director
It’s that time of the year where the days are dark. We leave for work in the darkand we come home in the dark. So Friday night with the lighting of the candles
takes on a new meaning. The bright light of the candles reminds me of how faith canbrighten the darkness and somehow keeps me focused that the light will come back.By the end of February I can always tell the sun is on the way back.
Our first Booked to Cook event was a great success. And we look forward to our second one inFebruary. I hope you’ll join us. And please save the date for our Gift Auction – Saturday April
6th. We sell-out fast so don’t miss out!!
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Rejoice with Us as We Celebrate the B’nai Mitzvah of . . .
Erica Stolker
Daughter of Robert and Julie January 5, 2019
Bat Mitzvah Project: I volunteered at Seabrook Village visiting with the residents. I brought mydog with me
Favorite Jewish holiday: Chanukah
Favorite Jewish food: LatkesI am proud to be Jewish because...our heritage and history are so powerful. We have beenthrough so much and have never given up.
ToSTY Teen CouncilRabbi Laurence P. Malinger
WHY SHOULD THE TEENS AT TEMPLE SHALOM PARTICIPATE IN TOSTY?
Our Jewish tradition teaches us that our education does not end at age twelve. Informal youth programs should beconsidered part of the continuation of education for our children’s path of lifelong learning as Jews - not just an option!We know that our congregation is the gateway for so many wonderful educational opportunities and inspired some towork in the Jewish community as an adult. Our youth have the potential to be surrounded by wonderful friends, positiveadult role models and clergy that care about shaping their Jewish identity.
I believe that informal youth programs have the potential to be reachable to all youth in our congregations. Throughyouth groups and informal education, students are given incredible opportunities to make lifelong friendships and expe-riences for Jewish learning that is both interactive and personal. When they get older, many of these programs and syn-agogue opportunities allow for students to gain leadership experience and through NFTY, our students can network withyoung Reform Jews across the region and the country.
Getting involved or staying involved with youth group is joint-recruitment effort. Parent support is crucial to having stu-dents “choose” to be involved post-B’nai Mitzvah. In fact, this is a partnership with the synagogue education team andclergy. Together we can help create lasting Jewish memories and their foundation for building Jewish identity.Sometimes a “push” is all a student needs to try a first event (from either the parent or a peer).
Parents: I ask for your assistance and your encouragement in making Temple Youth Group an important part of yourstudent’s life experience to help continue his/her connection with your synagogue and Judaism throughout their lives. Ioften hear from parents that pushing involvement in synagogue life post-B’nai Mitzvah is just another “battle” and theydon’t have the strength to fight with their student. I ask you not to consider it a “battle” but rather your duty to helpshape their adulthood. Reach out to your synagogues youth leaders, educators, youth professionals, youth committee,or clergy - you are not alone on this journey! WE can help! This is a sacred partnership to create lasting Jewish memo-ries and connections for our students.
ToSTY is open to all Jewish teens, grades 8-12. They do not need to be enrolled in Hebrew High.
If you have questions about ToSTY, contact advisors Jean and Wayne Christie at [email protected] or [email protected]
Tyler Siek
Son of Joseph and Jennifer February 9, 2019
Bar Mitzvah Project: When I was a patient at Mt. Sinai’s Neuroscience department, I was givenmany activities to help me pass the time until I could be discharged so I collected new toys andactivities for patients there now. I presented all of them to my surgeon on November 19th. I alsoparticipate in the Backpack Buddies program.
Favorite Jewish holiday: Chanukah
Favorite Jewish food: matzo ball soup
I am proud to be Jewish because...Jewish people are peaceful and we work together as a community.
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TEMPLE SHALOM CALENDAR
CandlelightingBa-ruch a-ta AdonaiEh-lo-hei-nu meh-lech ha-o-lam, a-sher ki-d'sha-nu b'mitz-vo-tav v'tzi-va-nu l'had-lik ner shelShabbat.
Wine/Grape JuiceBa-ruch a-ta Adonai Eh-lo-hei-nu meh-lech ha-o-lam, bo-rei p'ree ha-ga-fen.ChallahBa-ruch a-ta Adonai Eh-lo-hei-nu meh-lech ha-o-lam, ha-mo-tzi leh-chem minha-a-retz.
Shabbat Services areevery Friday at 7:45pm(except the first Friday ofthe month at 6:30pm); andSaturday at 10:30am withTorah Study at 9:15amunless otherwise noted.
SHABBAT BLESSINGS
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1 Tuesday7:30p PAC Meeting
2 Wednesday7:00pm Social Action Meeting
3 Thursday8:00pm WTS Meeting
4 Friday6:30pm Kabbalat Shabbat (No Dinner)
5 Saturday9:15am Torah Study10:30am Shabbat WorshipBat Mitzvah Erica Stolker
6 Sunday11:00am Renaissance Trip to Jewish Museum
7 Monday8:00pm Brotherhood Meeting
8 Tuesday7:00pm Security Meeting8:00pm Board Meeting
11 Friday6:30pm Kabbalat Shabbat4th & 5th Grade Shabbat
12 Saturday9:15am Torah Study10:30am Shabbat Worship
13 SundaySchmear & Schmooze4pm WTS Chick Flick
16 Wednesday7:45pm Education Meeting
17 Thursday1:00pm WTS High Tea7:30pm Caring Meeting
JANUARY 2019 24 Tevet – 25 Shevat18 Friday7:45pm Shabbat WorshipMLK Shabbat
19 Saturday9:15am Torah Study10:30am Shabbat Worship
20 Sunday10:00am MLK Church Service
21 Monday7:00pm WTS Tu B’shevat Seder
22 Tuesday8:00pm Worship Meeting
23 Wednesday7:30pm Ways & Means Meeting
25 Friday7:45pm Shabbat WorshipGuest Speaker from Faith in New Jersey
26 Saturday9:15am Torah Study10:30am Shabbat Worship
27 SundaySchmear & Schmooze
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TTORAH PPORTIONSJanuary 5 Va-eira Exodus 6:2-9:35 Haftarah Ezekiel 28:25-29:21January 12 Bo Exodus 10:1-13:16 Haftarah Jeremiah 46:13-28January 19 B’shalach Exodus 13:17-17:16 Haftarah Judges 4:4-5:31January 26 Yitro Exodus 18:1-20:23 Haftarah Isaiah 6:1-7:6; 9:5-6February 2 Mishpatim Exodus 21:1-24:18 Haftarah II Kings 12:5-16February 9 T’rumah Exodus 25:1-27:19 Haftarah I Kings 5:26-6:13February 16 T’tzaveh Exodus 27:20-30:10 Haftarah Esther 7:1-10; 8:15-17 or I Samuel 15:2-34February 23 Ki Tisa Exodus 30:11-34:35 Haftarah I Kings 18:1-39
1 Friday6:30pm Kabbalat ShabbatWinter Wonderland
2 Saturday9:15am Torah Study10:30am Shabbat Worship
3 SundaySchmear & Schmooze
4 Monday8:00pm Brotherhood Meeting
5 Tuesday7:30pm PAC Meeting7:30pm WTS Book Club
6 Wednesday7:00pm Social Action Meeting
8 Friday7:45pm Shabbat Worship
9 Saturday9:15am Torah Study10:30am Shabbat WorshipBar Mitzvah Tyler Siek
10 SundayBrotherhood/WTS Event
12 Tuesday7:00pm Security Meeting8:00pm Board Meeting
13 Wednesday7:30pm Membership Meeting
15 Friday7:45pm Shabbat Worship
16 Saturday9:15am Torah Study10:30am Shabbat Worship6:30pm Renaissance Dinner & Movie
19 Tuesday7:30pm Movie Night
20 WednesdayWTS Event
21 Thursday7:30pm Caring Meeting
22 Friday7:45pm Shabbat Worship
23 Saturday9:15am Torah Study10:30am Shabbat Worship
24 SundaySchmear & Schmooze9:30am Guest Speaker Rabbi Isaiah Rothstein
27 Tuesday8:00pm Worship Meeting
27 Wednesday7:30pm Ways & Means Meeting7:45pm Education Meeting
FEBRUARY 2019 26 Shevat – 23 Adar I
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January Birthdays
2 Donald Levy3 Sharon Steinhorn4 Arlene Weiss4 Ilene Weitsen5 Jay Weiss6 Jennifer Katz6 Judy Shapanka. 6 Lana Wattenberg7 Steven Azarchi7 Andrew Fryefield9 Joe Peters
10 Beverly Azarchi11 Patricia Brakman11 Warren Hare11 Jack Szafran12 Myles Brakman12 David Kaston12 Fran Moskowitz14 Sherry Danzig14 Zelda Diner15 Seth Loonan16 Penny Gold16 Kim Sharpe19 Hy Rosenberg21 Terry Brown24 Michael Alterman
24 Ronald Shapiro25 Roslyn Eichenbaum25 Amy Kerner26 Vicki Broder26 Larry Silverstein27 Linda Holowitz27 Jeffrey Silbert28 Susan Kaplan28 Robin Slobotsky30 Albert Stein30 Lawrence Stein31 Gaya Brodnitz
January Anniversaries
6 Todd & Stacey Shiner16 Sidney & Shirley Berger17 Bryan & Danielle Rukin25 Frank & Minna Ramson27 Allen & Faye Brod
February Birthdays
1 Sam Shapanka2 Randy Rubinstein2 Steven Surowitz4 Lucille Goldman5 Todd Goldstein
6 Tom Ferrigno6 Ruth Katz6 Dorothy Lake6 Steve Ostrovsky7 Betsy Kimmish8 Steven Goldman8 Peter Weitsen
10 Melissa Acquaviva10 Jill Asch11 Judie Edlin11 Joel Feldschneider12 Ellen Crupi13 Louis Schoen14 Raquel D’Antonio14 Mitchell Faer16 Leonard Rubinstein19 Lisa Ferrigno19 Danielle Rukin20 Gail Frieman21 Ivan Alenier21 Michael Kaplan21 Saul Levy22 Susan Miller24 Erica TuFaro23 Susan Waters24 Phyllis Malinger24 Felicia Stoler
25 James Lafargue25 Helene Monat25 Jackie Pinkowitz27 Steven Feiss27 Cynthia Henn29 Jack Lach29 Allan Rubinstein
February Anniversaries
1 Blaine & Cynthia Henn2 Burton & Arline Trinkoff8 Michael & Gaya Brodnitz8 Eugene & Paulette
Eichenholtz12 John & Paula Morgan14 Charles & Rise Goodwin14 Steven & Miriam Slome14 Gregg & Sandra
Sonnenfeld16 Seth & Gail Loonan17 Ivan & Jill Alenier17 Fred & Roslyn
Eichenbaum17 Saul & Arlene Schwartz19 Andrew & Renee
Sackerman
LIFE CYCLES
Blessings
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You're invited to receive a blessing for your birthday or anniversary. On the third Friday evening of each month, wehonor those whose Birthday or Anniversary falls during that month with the She’hecheyanu blessing.
CondolencesHeather Kalish on the passing of her father Solomon Kalish, grandfather of AaronBruce Gordon on the passing of his sister Diane AllenMarlene & John Maciaszek on the passing of their nephew Elliot ChaikinKendal Karten on the passing of her aunt Eileen BoardmanDouglas MacAulay on the passing of his step-mother Jan MacAulayJoan & Robert Altman on the loss of their mother Frances AltmanCookie Stamm on the loss of her cousin Allan Koplitz
New MembersRuth Rittenband, Port Monmouth
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Renaissance CommitteeRoslyn Eichenbaum and Sherry Danzig, Co-Chairpersons
January 2019, a start of a new year for all of us has begun. Here’s to a healthy and happyyear ahead!
On January 6, we are planning a tour of The Jewish Museum in Freehold, at 10:00am. We willbe greeted by a docent for a 90-minute informative tour. It should be interesting to learn aboutJewish History in our neck of the woods
February 16th is an oldie but always enjoyable Renaissance Activity, Movie Night. We promisea good meal before the movie. So join us for an evening sure to brighten the winter dull drums.We hope our Renaissance Activities help all of us keep busy, as winter comes to an end andtree buds can be seen. By the time our next Shalom is printed we’ll be anticipating the returnof our snowbirds. To all of our snowbirds, your missed and we hope you’re all enjoying yourtime in the sun. Those of us that are in NJ for the winter, please stay busy, warm, and healthy.We are looking forward to seeing all of you at Temple.
Upcoming Renaissance Activities:Sunday, January 6th Docent-Led Tour of The Jewish Museum in Freehold.
Saturday, February 16th Movie Night and Dinner
Shalom Chaverim:
Renaissance is a group of empty nesters who enjoy coming together monthly to enjoy goodfood, comradery, visit places of interest, and learn new information. We hope you’ll join us thisyear.
For more information about Renaissance, please contactRoslyn Eichenbaum 732.276.7148 [email protected] Danzig 732.946.1215 [email protected]
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Temple Shalom depends on your generosity to keep it financially healthy. There are many vehicles through which you can express your generosity.
Contact the Temple office at 732.566.2621 to make a donation to the following funds:
Stained Glass Window A special gift to honor a Simcha orremember loved ones. Donation: $5,000Tree of Life Honor special family occasions with anengraved leaf on the tree bearing the name of the personhonored. Donation: $175Pews Recognize a Simcha or memorial with a plate affixedto a pew. Donation: $300 for a double seat; $450 for a tripleseatFriday Night Oneg Sponsorship Celebrate a birthday,anniversary, engagement, marriage, Bar/Bat Mitzvah.Minimum donation: $75Memorial (Yahrzeit) Plaque The traditional way to memori-alize those who have passed away. Names read from thepulpit on their yahrzeit each year. Donation: $225 members; $325 non-membersTree for Israel Certificates A gift with special significance;helps the restoration of Israel’s forests. Donation: $18 per treeThere is a minimum $10 donation for the following funds:
Rabbi’s Discretionary Fund - Rabbi’s discretion.Cantor’s Discretionary Fund - Cantor’s discretion.Israeli Scholarship Fund helps Confirmation class mem-bers pay for URJ-sponsored trip to Israel.Library Fund for new books and support for the library.Mitzvah Fund to support various areas of need in Temple.Prayer Book Fund maintains prayer books. Book platesmay be purchased for $25. Religious School Enhancement Fund for special pro-grams to enhance religious school education.The Golden Book Fund (WTS) for community projects,nursing home visits, gifts, etc. Contact Samantha Malinger [email protected] Growing Fund (WTS) to celebrate and honor occasionsand accomplishments of children and support Tot Shabbatand Temple Tots programs. Contact Samantha Malinger [email protected].
Ronald Arnold Youth Fund supports the Temple Youthprograms. Mitzvah Corps Fund to assist the children participating inthe NFTY Urban Mitzvah Corps.Burton J. Jacowitz Social Justice Fund provides onemerit-based award annually to a Confirmation student whoattends the L’Taken Social Justice Seminar of the ReligiousAction Center of Reform Judaism.Lear-Winograd College Connection Fund helps to keep incontact with higher education students living away fromhome.Lee Gura Music and Choir Fund for support needed byCantor and Choir.Natalie Rubin Family Caring Fund helps fund activities and support groups needed by Temple families through theCaring Community.Michael Henry Memorial Children’s Fund assists financial-ly needy children in pursuit of Jewish experiences.Alfred Sackerman Memorial Garden Fund supports main-tenance and beautification of the garden at the Temple’smain entrance.Saul Sahner Library/Education Endowment to providefinancial support for the library as well as to encourage andsupport research and scholarship.Larry Sadja Memorial Fund to provide funds for the beauti-fication of the sanctuary and the building.Scholar-in-Residence Fund to assist in securing appropri-ate scholars to participate in the annual Scholar-in-Residence program.Shalom Cares to provide Shabbat meals and/or other itemsto bereaved families and to those who are coping with seri-ous illness. Sponsored by the Kimmish family.Shalom Rocks Concert Fund provides inspiring and ener-gizing Jewish music that brings our community together insong.The Technology Fund to assist in maintaining a viable com-puter network and training for efficient Temple operations.The William and Harriet Kossin Memorial BackpackBuddies Fund to support local school children to endhunger, one backpack at a time.Wallace H. Steinberg Family Education Fund to providefunds for Family Education programs.
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Funds SpotlightLeo Stamm, Chairperson
The Anna Katz and Goldfeder Family Scholar-in-Residence Fund supports the Temple Shalom annual Scholar inResidence weekend program. Please be generous with your donations this and other fundsThe Burton J. JacowitzSocial Justice Fund was initiated by Bobbie Jacowitz and her family to honor the memory of Burt Jacowitz.
The purpose of this fund is to annually provide a merit-based $300 award to a Confirmation student who attended theL'Taken Social Justice Seminar of the Religious Action Center of Reform Judaism. Candidates are required to submit anessay based on their understanding of the connection between Judaism and social justice, based on their experience atthe Religious Action Center. A committee evaluates the essays and announces the award winner at the Confirmationservice.
Please be generous with your contributions this and all other Temple funds
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Long-term Funding InitiativeSteven Slome, Executive Vice Pesident
I want to update you on the areas of progress in helping to stimulate our longevity and financialstrength. We continue to address our current financial status, as we are all working very hard on tomake our Temple a viable entity for many more years to come.
Topics at hand:• Using your existing or new specialized life insurance to protect your estate and to benefit our templecommunity.
• Usage of your RMD’s in your IRA accounts to fund your financial obligations and donations. Wehave already been able to guide other temple members incorporate our Temple into their estate plans.
• Sale of our adjacent lot. The land survey was completed and redone, to show the adjacent lot splitoff from the remainder of the property. We are now exploring the process to apply for a variance to thezoning board, and then upon congregational approval, we can put the lot up for sale to help replenish alarge amount of funds (@$85-100K) that will help greatly to restore our reserve fund to a much healthi-er status. This will also enable us to offset the needs of our aging facility. Many thanks to Warren Harewho is generously donating his time and expertise to help move this ahead.
• Rental of the ELC wing. As you know, the ELC was closed to prevent further financial indebtedness.I am now happy to say that I am close to securing a long-term tenant that could bring up to $50,000per year in additional revenue while complimenting what we do and how we operate. Further details willcome once a binding agreement has been reached.
Thank you as always for your support, care and consideration. Without you and your family this wouldnot be possible. Your input and participation in Long Term Funding is always welcome. Please reachout at any time.
For more information and an individualized, confidential, one-on-one consultation, please contact me:
Steve Slome732.583.3674 Office 908.208.5806 Cell [email protected]
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RABBI’S DISCRETIONARY FUND:Phyllis Garr In memory of Frances Scheer
In memory of Diane AllenSharon & Dan Steinhorn In memory of Diane Allen
Sheila & Jeffrey Phillips, in honor of Jared’s Bar Mitzvah
Meyer & Robyn Slobotsky In honor of Samantha Malinger’s birthday
Shelli & Steve Altman Margo Wolfson & family, in memory of your beloved step fatherIn honor of Lottie Hirsch
Judi & Howard Bernstein In memory of Blanche FriedmanCookie & Leo Stamm In memory of Solly Gordon, Cookie’s
fatherHilda Mesnick In memory of my beloved husband,
Herbert MesnickBruce Rubinstein & Barbara Kluger In memory of William
RubinsteinStephanie & Marty Pinck In memory of Louise PinckDiane Szafran In memory of Ruth Redo
In memory of Thomas RedoArlene & Leon Jankowski In memory of Abe Winick,fatherHoward & Sandi Edelstein In memory of Charlotte BaumanHelen Selinger In memory of Charlotte BaumanJudy & Sandy Gold In memory of beloved dad Norman RaffRoslyn Blau In memory of Moses Platt
In memory of Judith PlattLarry Radzely In memory of Phillip RadzelyRita Gottlieb In memory of my brother Irving SuperAnn Goldman In memory of Diane AllenHoward Scheines Yasnowski family, in honor of Jared’s
Bar MitzvahShari & Ira Weissman In memory of Anita WeissmanBernice & Ben Gotz In memory of Clara KrainetzBeverly Groffman In memory of Joseph Groffman
In memory of Herman WodinHarold Lautman In memory of Mildred LautmanWILLIAM & HARRIET KOSSIN BACKPACK BUDDIES FUND:Ellen Crupi In memory of my father Leo SchweberBarry & Rita Carol In memory of Bessie AlbertGary Enoch & Deborah Worthington & family To our Backpack
Buddies!!!!Paula & John Morgan Yahrzeit for Lena Daniels,grandmother
Yahrzeit for great nephew, Jack Ryan WellsYahrzeit for Benjamin Sloan, grandfatherYahrzeit for Frank Morgan, father & grandfather
Ron Shapiro In memory of my father Benjamin Shapiro
NATALIE RUBIN CARING FUND:Roslyn Eichenbaum In memory of Isidore FrankelEvelyn Lipetz In memory of Ella Friedlander
In memory of Marvin SpeiserEvelyn & Morton Lipetz In memory of Jan MacAulay, stepmother
of Doug MacAulaySheila & Phil Rubin In memory of Ted Feit, stepfather of
Margo WolfsonIn memory of Diane Allen
Shelli & Steve Altman Yahrzeit of Harry AltmanJulia & Alberto Barugel In memory of Dorothy KrutzelFAMILY CONCERT FUND:Bruce Rubinstein & Barbara Kluger In memory of Ted Feit,
stepfather of Margo WolfsonLEAR/WINOGRAD COLLEGE CONNECTION FUND:Bruce Rubinstein & Barbara Kluger Bob Lear & Karen Winograd, in
honor of the birth of Henry Alexander Lear
LEE GURA MUSIC & CHOIR FUNDDavid Wasserman & Ilana Feitlowitz In memory of Josephine
Wasserman
MITZVAH FUND:Bev & David Kristol In memory of Florence NewmanPeggy & Lou Schoen In memory of Michael FogelTamara & Edward Rubinstein In memory of Kmaya RubinsteinHelen Mesnick In memory of Samuel MesnickGary Enoch & Deborah Worthington The Crupi Family, in memory of
Marilyn BlochSharon & Dan Steinhorn In honor of Mitzi Steinhorn, Dan’s motherCindy & Larry Stein Leslie Wiesner & family, in memory of
Barry WiesnerMichael Littman In memory of Samuel KaganMarion Levine Kessler In memory of Farrell LevineElissa Lande In memory of Lily LandePeggy & Lou Schoen In memory of Katalin FogelJudy Blaire In memory of Betty ExterBonnie & Steve Goldman In memory of Renee Lawrence
In memory of Ellen VaderJonathan, Belle & Joshua Liss In memory of Elias Pretter
In memory of Harold LissFrances Altman In memory of Irving Fox
In memory of Charles AltmanDavid Wasserman & Ilana Feitlowitz In memory of Moe WassermanLarry Radzely In memory of Lillian RadzelyAndy & Lauren Fryefeld In memory of Robert Fryefeld
In memory of Cecile FryefeldEvelyn Intrater In memory of Eugene A. Intrater’s
YahrzeitArthur & Ronnie Chapman In memory of Jack ChapmanFrank & Minna Ramson In memory of Milton RamsonMarilyn & Gerry Lubin In memory of Morris LubinIvan Aleiner In memory of Doris AleinerHoward Spitzer In memory of Tillie LinerCarole Silvergold In memory of my loving father, Manny
BerlowitzIn memory of my loving brother, Alan Berlowitz
Hilda Mesnick In memory of my father Louis KokoshkenPRAYERBOOK INSCRIPTION FUND:Lon & Jackie Pinkowitz In memory of Brad Pinkowitz
In memory of Al GoldbergIn memory of Mel Spungin
Helene Monat In honor of Mike SilvermanIn honor of Samantha Malinger, first lady of Temple ShalomIn honor of the Women of Temple ShalomIn memory of Diane Allen
RELIGIOUS SCHOOL ENHANCEMENT FUND: Gary Enoch & Deborah Worthington & family On his Yahrzeit Lorne
Worthington is lovingly rememberedIlana Feitlowitz In memory of Pearl FeitlowitzLori B. & Barry Solomon In memory of Eugene A. IntraterBeverly & David Kristol In memory of Yetta KristolRONALD ARNOLD YOUTH FUND:Barbara Arnold In memory of my parents Margaret & Pat
RoselliMartin Schlank In memory of Zelda SchlankFred & Roslyn Eichenbaum In memory of Joseph Eichenbaum
In memory of Miriam EichenbaumIn memory of Lillian Frank
Helene & Martin Schlank In memory of Moe BertcherEthel Weckstein In memory of Ron Arnold
The following donations were made in honor of Barbara Arnold’s 80th Birthday:
Wendy Costello Phyllis Billch Karen StollarShelly Udasin Sandra GreenbergZena & Joel Silber Ava & Alan MorgensternBonnie & Stanley Hahn Mary & Bob Salkoroshi
SCHOLAR –IN-RESIDENCE FUND:Norman Katz In memory of Anna Katz, beloved wife &
mother
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SHALOM CARES FUND:Monica & David Gorin In memory of Herbert GoodmanSusan & Jay Weiss In memory of Samuel Weiss
In memory of Morton FriederTREES FOR ISRAEL:Gayle Weisz Barbara Kosstrin and Family, in memory of Toby
GaterbaumLarry & Robyn Novick Norman Schwartz, in memory of Susan
GubernickBonnie & Steve Goldman Ronnie Falkowitz & family, in memory of
Sheldon DurstGary Enoch & Deborah Worthington & family May & Hermann family, In
memory of Nicole HermannHolowitz family, in memory of Howard Holowitz
Shelli & Steve Altman Carol Tabin, In memory of your
Do You Know. . . Gayl Goldner?By Lori Solomon
What is your history with Temple ShalomMy husband, Andrew, was already a member when we were married.
Family: I am married to Andrew for three years. We live in Morganville, New Jersey. I have a bonus daughter (I prefer that to stepdaughter). Her name is Sophia. She is 15 years old. I have two brothers, Neal and David.
Occupation: Currently I work as an Independent Consultant focusing on meeting / program/ association management. I do a variety of tasks including research, coordination and registration for events. I also manage the budget, put together action items for conference calls and keep track of them. Additionally, I am the administrator for the New York chapter of the Professional Convention Management Association (PCMA). In February 2019, I will be involved with starting a business network company where I will be the business development director.
What temple committees or projects have you been involved with?I am the marketing director for the Women of Temple Shalom.
Tell us something others might not know about you.As a former meeting planner, I traveled all over the world. I have been on safari in Africa, climbed the Great Wall in China and saw the ballet in St. Petersburg, Russia.
What is your favorite holiday?My favorite holiday is Sukkot.
What is your favorite temple memory?My favorite temple memory is when Andrew and I celebrated our aufruf [editor’s note: Aufruf, which in Yiddish means "calling up", is the Jewish custom of being called up in the synagogue for an aliyah, the recitation of a blessing over the Torah].
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