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change. We oftennote change in ourown lives and in the

lives of our children, from markingheights on door jams to sweetsixteens and college graduations.

As we enter this season of changefrom winter to spring, many markersof my own familys growth and

transformation come to mind. Mysiblings and I are no longer kids; infact, all three of us are out of highschool and beginning to form ourown lives. On a wider spectrum,many of my friends are marryingand starting their own families,much to my joy and amazement. Asa lifelong Dubuquer, I have watchedmy community grow into a richer,more complex environment sincemy childhood.

Of course, that is not to saythat change comes without itschallenges. As my siblings and Idipped our toes into the seas of adulthood throughout our teenyears, we had our fair share of verbaltangos with our parents, usually

enticing frustration on both fronts. Nonetheless, these confrontationshelped us better define who we werein our metamorphosing relationshipwith Mom and Dad.

In this issue we addresschanges that many parentsface throughout their journey

with their children. We explorethe often painful adjustmentsdemanded by divorce, alongwith the frightening prospects of financing higher education in acontinually uncertain economyand constructing healthydiscussion with your childrenabout curfews. Additionally,we feature editorial on CPRand spend some time with theSchwager family and theirexperiences with the AmericanHeart Association in honor of American Heart Month. Wealso take a more lightheartedlook at family activities to do inthe great outdoors as tri-staterswitness the wonders of seasonal

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CONTENTS

FEBRUARY/MARCH 2012

Family Fitness Served Chilled 3Riding the Divorce Roller Coaster 7 Welcome to Financial U 11Red Craft Green Craft 14

On the Go On the Clock: Setting andEnforcing Curfews 16Family Snapshot 18

Saving Hearts 19Wholesome Living 22Daytripping 24

Media Moment 25Family Func tions 27

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I ts official: Winter is at the height of itsglory in the tri-state area. Whether the furrymeteorologist from Punxsutawney, Pennsylvania,predicts an early spring or an extended bout of winters monotony, many families are bound to beseeing the warning signs of cabin fever. The best

cure for irritability, glumness and claustrophobia?Some outdoor fun.

Being Active in an InteractiveWorld

Michele Malone, steering committee chair of Live Healthy Dubuque and director of the KehlDiabetes and Babka Wellness Centers, cer-tainly knows a thing or two about the benefitsof a healthy, active lifestyle, especially duringthe long winter months. She pointed to FirstLady Michelle Obamas February 2010 initiativeLets Move as a great point of inspiration toget active as a family any time of the year. Theinitiative, fully illustrated at www.letsmove.gov ,points to the many factors that have contributedto childhood obesity as lifestyles have changed.These factors include rides to school, snacks andfast food encroaching on diets, dwindling fund-ing for physical education and ballooning por-tion sizes. Additionally, the site estimates thatchildren ages 818 years spend almost an entireworkday7.5 hoursinteracting with comput-ers, video games, MP3 players, cell phones andother gadgets daily.

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Malone echoed this statement, noting that gettingthe recommended 60 minutes of activity in per daywasnt an issue when I was growing up; there wereno computers. You can see the difference in the sizeof our kids. Things have changed with the advance-ment of technology, she asserted. While technologycontinues to make some things more convenient, itbecomes clear that some necessary daily activitiescant be made into a high-tech app.

Your Back Yard: The Last Frontier

Even when the weather outside is frightful, get-ting out and being active for 60 minutes a day canbenefit everyone in the family. Get outside everyday! encourages Malone. Given the relatively warmweather this winter, that should not be a problem.

Winter lethargy is easily prevented by being active,even when you feel tired. If [you] have daily physi-cal activity, youre not going to be tired, Maloneexplained. In addition, exercise helps you sleep betterthrough long winter nights, rather than taking inter-mittent catnaps throughout the day.

The benefits of daily physical exercise far outweighthe work of putting on all those extra winter weather-layers. Part of the very reason we feel like hibernat-ing, Malone said, is because the cold is sometimeshard to bear. Simple planning can help prepare for aday of winter fun. The ease of staying indoors oftenlooks more appealing; we dont want to battle theweather and wet hands and feet, said Malone. But,on the other hand, staying inside because of these

seasonal hazards means were likely not going to beactive either.

Taking to the backyard during one of the most inhos-pitable times of the year can mean everyonekidsand parents alikesafely gets their daily dose of activ-ity. When parents go out in the snow with their chil-dren, they are aware of outdoor temperatures, stayinghydrated, sun- and windburn risks and making surekids keep their outerwear on, Malone noted. Whilethese issues are often a focal point during the summermonths, they remain just as important in the winterwhen its easy to overlook hydration and sun dangers.

Additionally, when parents and kids take to thewintry great outdoors together, otherwise mundanechores can become great family activities. Shovelingsnow together rather than sending Dad out alone tofend for himself, Malone explained, can make for afamily activity. Do some of it, then take a break; havea snowball fight or another reward after the chore,such as hot cocoa or a family movie, suggests Malone.Taking on the great outdoors together also provides

parents and kids an opportunity to motivate eachother through the more strenuous parts of the activity,such as lifting heavy shovelfuls of snow or draggingthe toboggan to the top of the sledding hill.

Bringing Outside Activity Inside

Despite our best efforts to get out and about on a dailybasis, the reality remains that there are some sim-ply unbearable winter days. When the mercury dipsbelow zero, combined with a 20 mph wind, frostbite to

exposed skin can occur in 10 minutesor less. On such days, there are way

to work in daily activity. Malone sug-gested a dance contest as a great way towork out some pent-up energy as a fam-ily. Taking advantage of indoor dancestudios, tennis courts, pools, basket-ball courts and weight rooms can alsoprove to be great environments to getin a daily dose of activity while havinga blast as a family. Looking into someinteractive games created for populargaming consoles that offer dance andsporting competitions can also helpincrease heart rate and allow for multi-player action. Checking out some localfacilities can provide warmer, and safer,conditions to work in your broods 60minutes of activity.

It doesnt matter what you do as long asyou and your family get an opportunityto be active every day. You still want60 minutes of activity whether outsideor inside, Malone stressed.

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Snow Days Are Made for Fun!Remember when snow days meant a whole day spent on the slopes and sledding hills rather thanbeing cooped up inside? Kehl Diabetes and Babka Wellness Centers director Michele Malonereminds us that having your own vintage snow day is as easy as donning hats, mittens and scarvesafter a fresh snowfall for some winter fun. Your family could try:

Sledding: A snow day favorite; update this activity with family-sized saucers and sleds built spe-cifically for your youngest snow bunnies.Skiing: Hit up one of the legendary area ski slopes. Whether youre bunny-hill-bound or taking onthe black diamond runs, skiing makes for a great group activity.Cross Country Skiing and Snowshoeing: Check out the local trails by ski or snowshoe to see thebeauty of the tri-states in a whole new wintry realm.Ice Skating: Whether youre a figure skater in training or just getting your ice legs, take on a localrink with a pair of skates and make great family memories.

Snow Day Freebies: Are you looking for some snow adventures without straining your budget? Check out these activitiesthat require few to no accessories or equipment:

Make snow angels.Construct a snow fort.Load up on snowballs and engage in snowball warfare.

Play a rousing game of fox and hen to get the blood pumping. For those of you not familiar withthis one, it is a version of tag confined to trails that you make in the snow. A basic trail would becircular with spokes leading to the center, which also serves as the hen house, or base.Break out the carrots, buttons and broom and create a snow family. If you are the more artistictype, consider a bunny, dragon or other creature that the kids might dream up.Snow paint is a simple way to let your little artist make a statement. Reuse a clean discardedspray or squirt bottle and fill it with colored water.Shovel the white stuff. If you have a budding entrepreneur, this could be a nice allowance-booster.Check your local schools for open gym times.

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Cabin Fever Cured!

Though you might have to exercise your creativity in order toexercise your bodies this winter, the most important part is tomake family fitness a priority and a routine. Search out physi-cal activity and include the entire family, said Malone. Thishelps them form healthy habits.

She also encourages families to enjoy Dubuque and the sur-rounding area. A lot of people dont realize the great environ-ment we have. I think we are fortunate to be able to enjoyall four seasons and experience snow in the winter. Add tothis the fact that the region has many places for activity, suchas hiking trails, ice rinks and sledding hills, and the tri-statescan easily become your familys winter playland and cabin fevercure-all.


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1/3 cup hot water 3 1/2 cups milk 3/4 teaspoon vanilla extract1/2 cup half-and-half cream

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situation is different, but ideally parents should talkto the kids together, said Jenaleigh Dague, youthprogram coordinator for New Beginnings DomesticViolence Program at the Dubuque Community Y.

It requires a civil conversation, said Dague. Themost important thing is that the kids know its nottheir fault. Its important to stress that Mom still lovesthem and Dad still loves them.

The style of this conversation depends on the chil-drens ages. Steve Heer, social worker and Childrenin the Middle class instructor, said if children areold enough to have this conversation, they are likelyaware that something is wrong.

Heer said the first step is recognizing that you, asparents, will have to talk. Circumstances may not

allow both parents to be part of this conversation.However, if possible both parents should be involved

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We have all heard statistics regarding mar-riage success rates. According to www.divorceguide.com, 50% of first marriages end in divorce, and a staggering 65% of second marriagesalso end in divorce. Given these numbers, it is safeto say that every American has been affected directlyor indirectly by divorce.

As a society we are still figuring out how to help chil-dren navigate this difficult ride that they may not fullyunderstand. With 37% of children not living withboth of their biological parents, according to DivorceGuide, it is up to the adults in their lives to help guidethem on this emotional roller coaster.

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and should be respectful to oneanother and their children.

Kids appreciate being told ratherthan not being told, said Heer.You are better off letting the kidsknow and deal with their sadnessor anger because it is based onhonesty. Heer stressed honesty

because your children will knowwhen you are being deceitful.Even if you fumble the delivery,you are at least being honest.

Dague suggested the parents talkfirst and present a united frontto the kids. Both parents shouldagree on the wording they aregoing to use. Even though theyrenot together, they are still parents together, saidDague, and children will see this. Share with the chil-dren what is happening.

Give children an opportunity to respond and askquestions. Answer honestly, but dont give all thegory details of the marriages demise. Childrenshould be informed, but they dont need to be part of the adult conversation, advised Dague.

If this conversation becomes emotional and you arenot able to answer your childrens questions at thatmoment, tell them you need time to think, but youwill answer their questions after dinner or when youare tucking them in for the night, advised Heer.

For Younger ChildrenIf you have younger children, it may be more difficultto explain what is happening to their family. Daguesuggested using storybooks to help explain the vocab-ulary that they may not be familiar with. She said thismight be the easiest way to start the conversation aswell. Children can see what happened in the storyand learn that their family is going to be like the fam-ily in the book with Mom and Dad living in two dif-ferent locations.

Another benefit to using a book as part of the dis-cussion is that it shows children they are not alone.Some children might worry about what other peoplewill say or they may feel they are different becausetheir parents dont live together. Seeing this in abook shows that other kids have similar situations,explained Dague.

Helpful books to discuss divorce

Dinosaurs Divorce: A Guide for Changing Families by MarcBrown and Laurie Krasny Brown

Two Homes by Claire Masurel

Its Not Your Fault, Koko Bear by Vicki Lansky

Was It the Chocolate Pudding? by Sandra Levins and BryanLangdo

What in the World Do You Do When Your Parents Divorce? A Survival Guide for Kids by Kent Winchester and RobertaBeyer

Fear of the UnknownI think it is very scary for children, said Dague. Itsscary because they are thrust into an adult world. Tobe given a voice is so important.

This is where open communication becomes key.Dague and Heer agree that children need to beinformed of what is going to happen. Be prepared toanswer questions:

Where is the other parent going to live?

Where will the children live?

Will the children attend the same school?

When will they see the other parent? When will they see other family members or

friends?

How will they celebrate holidays?

Who will attend school events?

Can they still talk to Mom or Dad when they arewith the other parent?

Give them honest reassurance about what is going tohappen, said Heer. If children ask questions that youdont know answers to yet, tell them so, but when youdo find out, make sure they are also told.

In many cases children may be introduced to new peo-ple and put into new situations. Dague stressed thatit is important to talk to the kids and explain whothe lawyers and judge are and how court works if theyhave to be present for custody hearings.



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Routine, Routine, RoutineIn addition to answering questions, some of the chil-drens anxiety may be subdued with an establishedroutine. Visitation can be a difficult concept for somechildren to understand. As adults we know that intwo days the children are going to see the other par-ent, but that may seem abstract to a child. Dague andHeer agree that a visual can be very helpful. Give the

children a color-coded calendar so they know on pinkdays they are with Mom and blue days with Dad. Thechildren can mark days so they know where they aregoing and when. Other options include using a beadedbracelet. Children can be in charge of removing a beadfor each day and know that when the beads are goneit is time to go see the other parent, or have numer-ous bracelets on and remove one bracelet each day tocount down to the move to the other parents house.

As the date approaches for a visitation, help kidsprepare what they will need. Do they need to packclothes and a toothbrush? Do they have their home-work? Be as helpful as you can.

If possible, parents should try to agree on a routine aswell. Try to keep the same bedtime routine at bothhomes, suggested Dague. Letting children know atboth homes they are going to bathe, read three storiesand go to bed at the same time every night makes thetransition a little easier.

It is also helpful if parents agree on similar rules andexpectations for childrens behavior in both locations.Both counselors agree this is unlikely, but any effort

parents make to have the same expectations will helpthe children transition to the new arrangements.

When parents have rules they simply cannot agree on,make sure it is clear to the children that the rules atMoms house and the rules at Dads houseare different. Kids can adjust to differ-ent rules in different places, said Heer.However, you are making it harder andyou are inviting problems when the rulesare really different.

Dealing with AngerDivorce is emotional for everyone inthe family and there will likely be a lotof anger, sadness and hurt feelings todeal with. Dagues first tip is to be sureparents have their own support system.

Dont use children as your sounding board to ventyour frustrations. Dont vilify the other parent,said Dague. Heer concurs, adding that your childrenare watching your behavior and learning how theyshould behave.

You should listen to your childrens frustrations andacknowledge their feelings in a respectful way, evenif you dont agree completely. Be understanding and

remember that even in healthy relationships childrenget angry at their parents, said Dague.

If you dont feel you are helping your children cope,let them know they have different options. If theydont want to talk to you, maybe a grandparent orfriend or relative can help. Counselors are always anoption too. If you are unsure, Heer suggests going to acounselor yourself to discuss the issues you are seeingwith your children. Try to get an objective opinion if professional help is needed.

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Families need to remember they are not alone, saidDague. The Dubuque area has many counselors, sup-port groups, mediators and therapy options that mightwork well for your situation.

EmpowermentAnger may surface because kids feel they have nochoices in their lives. As parents, you need to empowerthem. Dague said this can be as simple as letting themchoose what to have for breakfast or dinner or whatclothes to wear.

Dont Sit on the SidelinesAt various points in their lives children are going toneed both parents to get through difficult situations.If your kids are worth going through a lot of troublefor, commit yourself to them, even over the objectionof the other parent.

If your children say they dont want to see you, pushthe issue. If you are the custodial parent, dont letchildren stay home because they dont want to visitthe other parent. No matter how strong the divide isbetween the two of you, at some point you will wantthe other parent to help deal with a difficult situation,such as drinking or drug use, so it is not wise to pushthem out of the picture, advised Heer.

Accentuate the PositivesDivorce doesnt seem to have any obvious positives,but Heer and Dague have found a couple.

Dague suggested asking the children what good thingsthey think can come from this. The answers mightvary from no more fighting to having two rooms todecorate. If the kids dont have any ideas, offer some,such as, you will have two families to love you insteadof just one or you will get two Christmas celebrations.

For older children who are dating, divorced parents canuse their failed marriage as an example of a bad rela-tionship. It would be very valuable to point to thingsthey have seen when their Mom and Dad were togetherthat were signs of a bad relationship, said Heer. Yourteens might not confide in you about their own rela-tionship, but if you share some of your poor decisionsand explain what you could have done differently, theymight listen and be more likely to recognize problemsin their own relationships, explained Heer.

Be a Good Role ModelRemember that your children are watching how youhandle these difficult situations. Show them how youcan interact respectfully with a person you may notlike very much. Humans make mistakes, but be sureyou acknowledge to your children when you havedone something wrong and tell them how you shouldhave handled it, said Heer. It is important to show

your children a respectful way to handle a difficultsituation without being evasive or hurtful.

Also, divorced parents should consciously remindkids what good qualities the other parent has. Yourkids shouldnt have to feel they are ambassadors goingback and forth between enemy countries, said Heer.This may be difficult, but remember their relationshipwith the other parent is separate from your own, andyou need to respect that.

CommunicateBoth experts agree that open, honest communicationis the key to weathering this roller coaster.

So many times kids are pushed to the sidelines andparents say Oh, theyll get used to it, said DagueThe ride can be a lot smoother if everyone knows whatis happening and continues to talk to one another in arespectful way through this difficult journey.



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F i n a n c i a l

F inancial aidthese two little words seem to cause a large amount of stress andanxiety as families scramble to pay for a college education in todays rough eco-nomic climate. Individuals seeking a college degree have always had hurdles to over-come, but the challenges that face this generation include ever-rising tuition, a highunemployment rate and decreasing amounts of both federal and state aid. With thesechallenges, having a clear understanding of the financial aid process can be the catalystfor success and savings through college.

F INANCIAL A ID B ASICSThere are four types of financial aid: scholarships, grants, loans and work study. Schol-arships and grants are known as gift aidsstudents are not required to repay the moneywhen they complete school. Work study and loans are known as self-help aidsthestudent must work to earn or repay the money offered to them. Work study is a job astudent can hold on-campus, and their earnings are used to help offset the cost of col-lege expenses by paying on their tuition bill or by pocketing the money for educationalexpenses throughout the year.

T HE A PPLICATIONWhile its important to understand the types of aid available, the first true step for qual-

ifying for financial aid is the completion of the Free Application for Federal StudentAid (FAFSA). The FAFSA, a federal form developed by the Department of Education,is a single application that helps qualify students for federal and state aid. The FAFSAis also used by colleges and universities as a determining factor for institutional aid.

The FAFSA form is the first step in financial aid because it is the universal formused by every accredited institution in the country, and it is the required form forstudents wishing to borrow federal student loans. The FAFSA uses a familys cur-rent tax and income information, as well as personal asset information for both

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the student and their parents to determine a fam-ilys ability to contribute to the cost of the studentseducation.

The FAFSA must be completed each year a studentis enrolled in order to become eligible for federal andstate aid. While the FAFSA is not mandated for admis-sion to college, many forms of financial aid, includingfederal student loans, are only available if the form iscompleted. The 2012 application was made available

January 1 at www.FAFSA.gov.

T HE S CHOLARSHIP S EARCHScholarships are generally thought of as freemoney for a college student, but they can alsoreduce a students dependence on student loans. Itseems everyone has a scholarship opportunity forstudents, from foundations and businesses to com-munity clubs and organizations. Every scholarshiphas its own qualifications. For a student to trulymaximize their potential for earning scholarships

they need to work hard, focus on their future andresearch to find the right opportunities.

High school students typically wait until their senioryear before beginning scholarship searches and maydiscover they could have qualified for far more moneyif they had known the qualifications in advance.Research can be done as early as the sophomore orjunior year by creating a file on different opportuni-ties that the student will potentially qualify for whenhe/she is a senior. Starting the process early also givesstudents the chance to meet the qualifications byjoining an additional club or activity or improvingtheir grade point average.

Students should look to their high school counselingoffices, as well as the institution they plan to attend

for scholarship opportunities. Many institutions offerscholarships for the full two or four years a student isenrolled, providing long-term financial assistance.After filing admission applications in early fall of theirsenior year, its important for seniors to begin the schol-arship process at each institution they are interested in.

Just as with community scholarships, eachinstitution will have its own process aswell; some colleges have a single application that covers all available scholarshipswhile others may have a separate applica-tion for each scholarship. The admissionand financial aid offices will be able toguide prospective students through thescholarship process to ensure they haveapplied for every possible opportunity.

Just as with the FAFSA, it is importantto continue the scholarship search eachyear. Many students only apply for schol-arships their freshman year of collegeWith each year of college, students gainnew experiences and may enhance theirqualifications for new scholarships.

B ORROWING W ISELY While it would be wonderful for students tocover all college expenses with scholarshipsand grants, the reality is that most studentswill take out a student loan at some pointin their college career. While borrowingshould always be a last resort, borrowingwisely is the key to long-term success.

There are many student loan optionsavailable and many questions students

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should ask before selecting a loan. Two main consid-erations should be the terms of the loan, includinginterest rate and repayment requirements, as well asthe potential requirement of a cosigner.

For most college students, the first option for bor-rowing should be the Federal Stafford Loan Programthrough the U.S. Department of Education. Thefederal government guarantees every student whocompletes the FAFSA form a minimum of $5,500 foreach year of college. The Stafford Loan Program has afixed interest rate of 6.8% for the life of the loan andthere is no credit check or cosigner requirement. Nopayments are required while the student is in schooland the typical repayment term is 10 years beginningsix months after the student graduates or drops belowhalf-time enrollment status.

If a student chooses a private lender, it is importantto fully understand the loan terms. Unlike the federalprogram, many private loans have a variable inter-est rate and require the student to have a cosigner.A variable interest rate means the rate of the loan

changes with the market; some months it could be67% and others it could be 1215%. Students shouldinquire about a rate cap, meaning the highest the ratecould go on the variable scale, when researching loanoptions. An alternative to private loans is the federalParent PLUS loan, available through the FAFSA andthe institutions financial aid office.

F INALIZING S TUDENT L OANS No matter which loan program a student selects, thereare standard requirements in addition to the applica-tion that must be completed, including a promissory

note and entrance counseling. A promissory notereviews the fine print of the loan and, once signed,signifies that the student understands the money isa loan and promises to repay, with interest, the bor-rowed amount in the outlined time frame. Entrancecounseling is a quiz required of the student showingthey understand the terms of the loan. Both the prom-issory note and entrance counseling must be com-pleted before a loan can be finalized and the moneydistributed to the institution.

M AKING F INANCIAL A ID W ORK FOR Y OU

While the process can be overwhelming, the biggestlesson families can take away is to look at collegecosts with their own principles and priorities in mind.What can the family afford and what makes the mostsense for the student? Researching starting salaries forthe students career path and making sure the poten-tial loan amounts correlate with the estimated incomewill help reduce over borrowing. Also, rememberto look at the big picture: the full two or four yearsdepending on the degree program. While financial aidis done one year at a time, the grand total is the realimpact on a students future. Make sure every decisionkeeps the best interests of that future in mind.

Brittania Morey is the Director of Communications forthe Iowa College Access Network (ICAN), a nonprofitorganization that works with Iowans to increase access tohigher education and career opportunities through outreach

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Red craft R e d c r a f t by Natalie Deutmeyer

While your kids are busy pasting, painting and decorating their crafty creations, share these facts with themabout the reason we celebrate these two holidays in the first place.

VALENTINES DAYThere are various theories on the origin of Valentines Day, but the most popular theory goes back to the time

of the Roman Empire. The Emperor Claudius II didnt want men to marry during wartime because he believedsingle men made better soldiers. Bishop Valentine went against his wishes and performed secret wedding cer-emonies. For this, Valentine was put in jail and killed on February 14. While in jail, he wrote a love note to thejailors daughter signed From Your Valentine.

ST. PATRICKS DAYSt. Patricks Day is observed on March 17 because that is the feast day of St. Patrick, the patron saint of Ireland.It is believed that he died on March 17 in the year 461 AD. It is also a worldwide celebration of Irish culture andhistory. In Ireland on St. Patricks Day, people traditionally wear small shamrocks on their jackets or caps. Irishchildren wear orange, white and green badges, and women and girls wear green ribbons in their hair.

What are your little love bugs and leprechauns doingto celebrate Valentines Day and St. Patricks Day? If you have creative kids who like to celebrate the sea-sons of love and luck, consider helping them make

these fun crafts that require little more than somebasic items you might already have around the house.

LOLLIPOP MICE What You Need

Red and pink construction paper

Scissors

Glue

Black marker

Lollipops

INSTRUCTIONS1. Cut a heart shape from red construction paper.

It should measure about five inches at the widestpoint.

2. Fold the heart in half to create the mouses body.Then glue together the edges from the tip of thenose to the top of the back, but leave the tail endopen.

3. Cut out a pair of small pink paper hearts for theears. Fold them in half and then glue them ontothe body. Draw on eyes with a marker.

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Gr een cr aft

G r e e n c r a f t

SHAMROCK MASK What You Need

Green construction paper or white paper andgreen paint

Paintbrush and water container (if you arepainting)

Pencil

Scissors Green yarn or wool

Glue

Stapler

INSTRUCTIONS1. Draw the shape of a shamrock on a piece of green

construction paper (or draw on white paper anduse green paint). Make sure the shamrock is bigenough to cover the childs face.

2. Cut the shamrock out.

3. Draw eye holes on the shamrock and cut those out.If you want, try cutting the eye holes in the shapeof shamrocks.

4. Glue green wool or yarn around the outside of theshamrock to add strength to the mask.

5. Using a stapler, attach yarn to the shamrock soyou can tie the mask to your childs head. Readyto wear!

**If you have older children that want to experimentwith different methods of making the masks, theycould try using paper mache. Use very thick paper orcardboard and cut the shamrock shape out of that.Then layer small pieces of newspaper dipped in paper

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On the Go...ON THECLOCK

Setting andenforcingcurfews

From a young age children are programmed tobe aware of time: Its time for supper. Its timefor bed. Its time for you to come in now. Asa child, I was free to roam our neighborhood until thestreetlights came on (we had the kind of streetlightsthat came on dimly and took awhile to be fully bright,so there was often an argument about how on theyhad to be, but well save the topics of procrastinationand begging for another issue). As I grew older andmy roaming took me farther from home, my curfewextended later but was not set in stone. My parentswere not strict, and usually telling them when I wouldbe home was sufficient. But many of my friends hadspecific curfews.

Unless a legal curfew is imposed, its up to you to decidewhen your child should be home. Much depends onthe child in question. If your child is a rule follower bynature, perhaps a curfew is not necessary. I didnt needa curfew, but some of my siblings did. Curfews can be alogical progression of the awareness of time with someboundaries and limits thrown in. Learning to followrules and be responsible are important tools teens willneed as adults.

Curfews are about safety and care, not control. Yourteenager might disagree. Supervision is a basic humanneed. It goes right along with food, shelter and safety.

Children need guidelines to follow to learn boundar-ies. Curfews may be best enforced and observed whenparents and teens can strike a balance between grow-ing independence and following rules.

There are several issues to consider when creating acurfew. Teenagers need sleep. Their bodies are still

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growing and developing, and they need their rest.Often teens are balancing school, after-school activi-ties and a part-time job. That puts a lot of demand ona body. Earlier curfews lessen the possibility of fallingasleep while driving home and allow adequate timefor rest before the next day. Earlier curfews also lessenthe possibility of your teen encountering tired or oth-erwise impaired drivers on the road.

Diane Frambach, counselor at Dubuques HempsteadHigh School, recommends that if you choose to set acurfew for your teen, it should be a shared decision-making process. This gives your teenager ownership inthe decision. You can discuss options with your teenand come to a mutually agreed upon time for them tobe home.

Curfews should be age appropriate. For exam-ple, a 9 P.M. curfew on a Saturday night is reallymore appropriate for an 11- or 12-year-old than a16-year-old. Listen to them, and have them explaintheir thought process. If you are not comfortablewith what they are suggesting, explain why it does

not work for you and try to find a common groundyou can both live with. Ultimately, you have thefinal say, but if your teen feels they have been heardand respected, youll both be closer to getting thedesired results.

But sometimes, legitimate things happen that cancause a teenager to miss their curfew. Frambach saysthat in this age of cell phones, communication isvital. If your child is going to miss curfew becausethe movie ran late or they need to drive someonehome because they dont have a ride, these thingscan be communicated. Your child can call you and

explain the situation and give you a reasonable ideaof when they will be home. Clear communicationcan help avoid the power struggle of whether or not acurfew has been broken. If they are going to be late,they need to call you and tell you why.You want them to be on time, but youdont want them speeding to get hometo make curfew. Be firm yet reasonable.

But what happens if a curfew is inten-tionally broken? Its best to discuss pen-alties before they occur and while thingsare calm. Frambach suggests that theteenager not be involved in making thisdecision. She recommends not backingyourself into a corner regarding penaltiesand offers a sample statement: Goingout is a privilege. Cell phones are a privi-lege. Any social activity you are involvedin is a privilege. Losing some of these

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Finally, having a curfew does not mean that they walkout the door and you dont hear from them again untilthey come home. You still need to know where theyare and who they are with.

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The family met with a dietician at Hy-Vee who walkedthe aisles with them and showed them healthy food

choices. Brian explained that they do think about thefood that they offer the kids; however, they are kids,so they let them have some treats. Kathy hopes thatshowing Cole healthier options now, will help himmake healthier choices later in life.

The couple has always told Cole he has a special heart.The reality is, the entire family has a special heart.

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LIFE for Kathy and Brian Schwager seems tobe pretty normal. They have three active children:Cole, 8, Adelyn, 5 and Alyvia, 4 months.Everyone agrees that Alyvia is their favorite

family member.Kathy is a nurse at Mercy Hospital and Brian isan ag loan officer at Fidelity Bank & Trust. Inhis spare time, Brian is the sole caretaker of hisfamily farm near Maquoketa, raising beef cattleand pigs. Cole and Adelyn both enjoy going tothe farm on weekends to help feed the hogs,but Coles favorite farm activity is jumping intohay bales.

The family also enjoys watching movies, play-ing board games, swimming, skating and playingoutside. Brian enjoys hunting and Cole got tojoin him for the first time in the fall for squirrelhunting. Cole and Adelyn agree the best hunt-ing is for morels in the spring with their dad.

The family is also involved with the AmericanHeart Association, taking part in fundraisersevery year. They stay involved because Colewas born with hypoplastic left heart syndrome(HLHS). Only the right chambers of his heart work.He had his first open heart surgery when he was oneweek old. A second surgery followed at six monthsand a third when he was 4 years old. Doctors reroutedhis blood so the right side of his heart does all of the

work. Cole still gets regular checkups and needs totake medications daily. At some point he will need aheart transplant, but doctors dont know when.

The Schwagers are hopeful it will be some time beforea transplant is necessary. Hope can be a good thingand a bad thing, said Brian. He explained that theadvances in technology offer a lot of hope. For instance,a 26-year-old woman with the same condition is livinga healthy life and still has not needed a transplant.

Cole just wants to be treated like any other kid. Hecan play sports, but is not supposed to play contactsports. So, of course, his favorite sport is football.He plays touch football with some other boys in theneighborhood, but he cant play on a team. Just thetouch football makes Kathy nervous.

Kathy admits she is the worrier in the family. I prob-ably try to hold him back more than I should.

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W hen I volunteered to researchand write this article, I thoughtit would be a quick assignment. Very seri-ous material, but I just took a CPR classat the American Red Cross this past sum-mer, so how hard could it be to just put itall down on paper? Piece of cake!

As it turns out, it was anything but apiece of cake. There is so much informa-tion out theresome of it is clear, but

A Pare n t s Gu i de

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a lot of it is confusing. Ive put togethersome of the highlights here for you.

According to the American Red CrossWeb site, about 92 percent of suddencardiac arrest victims die before they getto the hospital. Thats really startling.Fewer deaths would occur if more peopleknew CPR, but statistics show that theaverage person is hesitant to engage inmouth-to-mouth resuscitation with a

S a v i n gHearts

stranger and will stand and watch ratherthan get involved. The American Heart

Association (AHA) has come up withsome changes to make giving CPR lessintimidating.

For the past 40 years, the order of ABC(Airway, Breathing, Circulation) hasbeen the recommended method of CPR.In October 2010, the AHA changed theorder of importance from ABC to CAB

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(Circulation, Airway, Breathing). Starting with chestcompressions in this method will help oxygen-richblood circulate throughout the body, keeping thebrain and heart oxygenated until emergency helparrives. This is critical for people in cardiac arrest.

Another AHA change is the suggestion of hands-onlyCPR. In this method, the rescuer would use chest

compressions only and no mouth-to-mouth resuscita-tion. Mouth-to-mouth can still be given if the persongiving it is trained and comfortable with the proce-dure, but the hands-only method is offered as an alter-native to get people to act in an emergency. Doingsomething and doing it immediately are essential topossibly saving that persons life.

Ann Kappeler, American Red Cross Territorial Ser-vice Delivery Manager for multiple counties in Iowaand Illinois recommended, If a person is unable orunwilling for any reason to perform full CPR withbreaths they should give continuous chest compres-sions after calling 911 or the local emergency number.Chest compressions should be continued until EMSpersonnel take over or obvious signs of life appear such

as breathing. Kappeler also noted that all AmericanRed Cross CPR course materials are available fromredcross.org /trainingmaterials.

W hat causes a persons heart to stop beat-ing? In infants and children, two commoncauses are drowning or choking. In adults, heartattack, shock and cardiac arrhythmias can causethe heart to stop beating. If you come across a per-son who is unconscious, you need to quickly deter-mine if the person has a heartbeat, and if not, beginchest compressions. A quick response can save apersons life.

One recommendation is the use of an AED, or auto-mated external defibrillator. This is a device that youmight see hanging on a wall in a gym, at the mall ormaybe even at a restaurant. It is a machine that willgive the heart a shock to get it pumping again. Pretty

intimidating, right? What I learned this summer isthat the directions are clearly printed on the insideof the AED box in nice big print. Clear and simpleillustrations show you where to place the two pads onthe victim and exactly what to do. Some research onthis and studying a picture of an open AED box willhelp you get familiar with an AED before you mightneed to use it.

Here in the tri-state area, there are several placesyou can take a CPR class. One is the AmericanRed Cross (ph. 563-583-6451, www.arcdbq.org).

Another is the NICC Continuing Education Cen-ter (ph. 563-557-8271, [email protected]). Also, ourlocal YMCA (ph. 563-556-3371) offers a babysittingclass where they teach CPR. Make taking a class agroup effort by taking your babysitter, your parents oryour neighbors along with you! A Pocket First Aid &

CPR Smartphone App for Apple iPhoneand Google Android (updated with the2010 AHA Guidelines) is also availablefor download at www.heart.org; click onthe CPR & ECC tab.

Consider this: If something happens toyou and you need CPR, you hope thatsomeone will step up and help. Be thatperson for someone else!

Parenting: Today & Tomorrow magazine rec-ommends that readers seek accredited CPRtraining. The methods listed here do notreplace CPR certification or completion of anaccredited CPR course.

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H ow to S ave a H eart

Use only one hand to perform heartcompressions and breathe more gently.

After five cycles (about two minutes)of CPR, if there is no response and anAED is available, apply it and follow theprompts. If pediatric pads arent avail-able, use adult pads.

Continue until the child moves or helparrives.

To Perform CPR on an InfantExamine the situation. Stroke the babyand watch for a response, such as move-ment, but dont shake the baby. If theresno response, follow the CAB proceduresbelow and time the call for help asfollows: If youre the only rescuer and CPR is

needed, do CPR for two minutesaboutfive cyclesbefore calling 911.

If another person is available, have thatperson call for help immediately whileyou help the baby.

Place the baby on his or her back on afirm, flat surface, such as a table or theground.

Imagine a horizontal line drawn be-tween the babys nipples. Place twofingers of one hand just below this line,in the center of the chest.

Gently compress the chest about1.5 inches.

Count aloud as you pump in a fairly

rapid rhythm. You should pump at arate of 100 compressions a minute. After 30 compressions, gently tip the

head back by lifting the chin with onehand and pushing down on the fore-head with the other hand.

In no more than 10 seconds, put your ear near the babys mouth and checkfor breathing: look for chest motion,listen for breath sounds, and feel for breath on your cheek and ear.

The following are some American HeartAssociation guidelines for CPR providedby www.mayoclinic.com. Please note thatParenting: Today & Tomorrow magazinerecommends readers seek accredited CPRtraining. The methods listed here do notreplace CPR certification or completion of an accredited CPR course.

It is important to check the person first tosee if they are breathing and/or have aheartbeat. You do not want to begin chestcompressions on a person who has aheartbeat.

To Perform CPR on an Adult Put the person on his or her back on

a firm surface and kneel next to thepersons neck and shoulders.

Place the heel of one hand over thecenter of the persons chest, betweenthe nipples. Place your other hand on

top of the first hand. Keep your elbowsstraight and position your shouldersdirectly above your hands.

Use your upper body weight (not justyour arms) as you push straight downon (compress) the chest at least 2inches. Push hard at a rate of about 100compressions a minute.

If you havent been trained in CPR, con-tinue chest compressions until there aresigns of movement or until emergencymedical personnel take over. If you havebeen trained in CPR, go on to check theairway and rescue breathing.

To Perform CPR on a Child If you are alone, perform five cycles of

compressions and breaths on the childthis should take about two minutesbefore calling 911 or using an AED.

Do 30 compressions followed by twobreaths. This is one cycle. Immediatelybegin the next cycle of compressionsand breaths.

Cover the babys mouth and nose withyour mouth.

Prepare to give two rescue breaths.Use the strength of your cheeks todeliver gentle puffs of air (instead of deep breaths from your lungs) to slowlybreathe into the babys mouth onetime, taking one second for the breath.Watch to see if the babys chest rises.If it does, give a second rescue breath.If the chest does not rise, repeat thehead-tilt, chin-lift maneuver and thengive the second breath.

If the babys chest still doesnt rise,examine the mouth to make sure noforeign material is inside. If the object

is seen, sweep it out with your finger. Ithe airway seems blocked, perform firsaid for a choking baby.

Give two breaths after every 30 chestcompressions.

Perform CPR for about two minutesbefore calling for help unless someoneelse can make the call while you helpthe baby.

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Weve all learned, sometimes through a stern

talking-to from our dentist, that brushing andflossing are important routines to follow every day.Threatened with the possibility of bad breath, cavitiesand the dreaded root canal, taking care of our teethshould fit daily into our schedules.

But retaining dental health stretches beyond brush-ing and flossing those pearly whites; what we eat alsoaffects our oral health. Consuming the proper nutri-ents, such as calcium and fluoride, that improve oralhealth is essential. As February is National ChildrensDental Health Month, we are reminded that parents

have a large role to play in ensuring their kids receivenutrients that promote good oral health. They can evenbegin before their childs birth.

Prenatal PreparationAs many expecting mothers know, what they eatdirectly affects the growth and development of their infant. This extends to their teeth as well. Sharon Kut-tler, registered dental hygienist (RDH) with the Kut-tler Dental team in Dubuque, pointed out that toothbud development for primary or baby teeth beginsbetween the third and sixth week of pregnancy withenamel starting to take form between weeks five andsix. Being aware of protein and calcium intake duringthese first weeks is important, because without anadequate amount present, calcium may be leachedfrom the mothers bones to supplement her fetussteeth, explained Kuttler. However, she noted that ininstances where calcium is borrowed from a mother,it does not come from her teeth. She also encour-aged mothers to collaborate with their doctors aboutprenatal supplements and other nutritional intakeinformation.

Given the importance of careful nutrition so early inpregnancy, Kuttler recommended that the best timefor an expecting mother to start modifying her dietis before conception. Preparing your body for thatspecial journey is something you can be intentionalabout, Kuttler said. This includes taking a long look ateating habits and nutritional content. Kuttler advisedthat expectingor expecting to be expectingmoth-ers stick to foods that are high in nutritional value, low

in complexity and havent been processed a lot. Thecloser to the way it grew, the better, Kuttler said. Sheadded that snacking during pregnancy can be a pitfallfor some mothers. Many popular snacks and beveragesare composed of sugars and empty calories, which canpromote dental disease, Kuttler contended, includ-ing one popular nausea nixer: soda crackers. Sodacrackers are very retentive, Kuttler said, meaning theyarent easily cleaned away from our teeth and providebacteria plenty of time to do what they do bestcreateacids that attack dental enamel and cause cavities.

Ultimately, it is hard to separate nutrition for aninfants health from a mothers health, Kuttler said.Making sure we have healthy moms with healthymouths is critical in ensuring that infants get the beststart possible for their dental health.

Baby TeethPracticing good oral hygiene habits and introducing apositive dental diet to your new baby can begin early.While many of us tend not to lend as much importanceon primary teeth as our adult chompers, the AmericanDental Association (ADA) reminds us that our adultset is in many ways dependent on the success of our baby teeth. Kuttler noted that baby teeth are critical for holding space for adult teeth, speaking, chewing, faceshape and social acceptance. She pointed out thatparents often ignore baby teeth, but being careful withbaby teeth can help prevent other problems and costlycorrections (such as braces and cavity fillings) later on. The ADA recommends that parents start cleaning

the babys mouth a few days after birth, as develop-ing teeth are already vulnerable to plaque and bacte-ria that live in the mouth. Kuttler also recommendedthat a first visit to the dentist coincides with a childsfirst birthday not only to check dental developmentbut also to learn about their responsibility and role inestablishing healthy habits from the very start.

On the nutritional front, Kuttler advised a diet richin nutrients such as protein, calcium and vitamins

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become a staple for little ones and their new teeth. We tell parents thatdental disease is a behavioral optionthere are behavioral choices par-ents make every day about brushing, flossing, food and beverage choicesthat create dental benefits or consequences, said Kuttler. Noting thatdietary choices as simple as feeding your child vegetables instead of fruitfor their lower sugar contentafter they start on solid food can help preventcavities and decay along with shapingtheir culinary palate.

Of course, positive dental diets for kids extend to parents as well. Lead-ing by example is one of the best waysto ensure that your children will retainpositive oral hygiene habits. Along withreinforcing brushing habitsthe ADArecommends at least assisting childrenwith tooth brushing until they reach theage of six to ensure that kids are usingproper technique and spitting out all

toothpasteincorporating foods with higher nutri-tional values into the family diet makes it clear thathealthful, considerate eating is a family affair.

Additionally, being aware that some dental diseases,such as tooth decay, can be transferred from parentto child can help reduce risk as well. Dental diseaseis inoculated, Kuttler stated. The bacteria that cre-ate cavities can be transferred to little ones through

sharing baby spoons, pacifiers and other utensils. Shenoted that many mints and chewing gums contain xyli-tol, a sugar substitute that can help reduce the amountof decay-causing bacteria. The Iowa Department of Public Health recommends that mothers chew xyli-tol-sweetened gum or mints 35 times daily in order to effectively reduce the amount of bacteria in their mouthsand the chances of passing this bacteria onto their children.

Healthy Body, Healthy MouthAs many health professionals will note, a balance indiet is important; this extends to dental diets as well.Some nutrient metabolization is dependent on thepresence of other nutrients in the diet, such as cal-ciums dependence on vitamin D, Kuttler noted.

Maintaining this dietary balance throughout infancyinto childhood, adolescence and adulthood can helpcreate lifelong healthful habits that benefit not onlyyoung bodies but young teeth as well. A healthymouth relates to a healthy body; you cant separatethe two, said Kuttler. She added that the behavioralchoices we make for and with our children can preventdental disease; good oral health is a part of good totalhealth. Parenting: Today & Tomorrow recommends consulting yourfamily physician before making any medical decisions.

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Preventing Baby Tooth Decay Unfortunately early childhood tooth decay is a prevalent problem amonginfants, toddlers and young school aged children. The American Dental Associa-tion offers the following tips for prevention:

Be mindful of bacteria sharing;mothers pass on bacteria to their children by licking spoons andpacifiers.

Swab gums with a clean washclothor damp gauze pad after feedings.This helps to remove decay-causing bacteria that feed on thesugars in formula, milk, juice andsoft drinks.

When teeth begin to erupt (breakthrough gum tissue), brush themwith a child-size toothbrush andwater after meals.

Introduce toothpaste to your childs brushing routine when theyunderstand not to swallow it (usu-ally around two years old). Use

a pea-size amount of toothpastewith a child-size brush.

Assist your child in brushing their teeth until they reach at least sixyears of age. This lets you demon-strate good brushing techniquesand provides opportunity to moni-tor your childs habits.

Confine baby bottle use to for-mula, milk and breast milk only.Filling bottles with sugary liquids,like sugar water, juice and softdrinks, promotes bacterial growth

and increases the likelihood of decay.

Avoid sending your child to bedwith a bottle; instead, have themfinish the bottle before naps and

sleeping for the night.Give children clean pacifiers; avoidplacing it in your mouth or dippingit in sugar or honey before offeringit to your child.

Motivate your child to use a cup bytheir first birthday; shortening theuse of a sippy cup helps to reducethe likelihood of decay.

Keep a space on your childs platefor plenty of fruits, vegetables andgrains. These foods are relativelylow in sugar and provide essen-

tial nutrients for your childsdevelopment.

Limit sugary snacks and other sweets to mealtimes; instead,serve healthy snacks to munch on.

Bear in mind your childs exposureto fluoride; this nutrient is es-sential for protecting tooth enamel(the hard outer layer of a tooth).

For more information, contact your family dentist or visit the ADA websiteat www.ada.org.

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Chestnut Mountain Resort8700 West Chestnut Road, GalenaNestled on the banks of the Mighty Mississippi,Chestnut Mountain Resort offers one of the mostbreathtaking views of the river in the region. Butdont let that distract you from the great outdoor funChestnut has to offer! With two lodges, 19 trails anda nearly 500 foot skiable vertical, Chestnut prom-ises a variety of slopes for all skiers and riders. Theyalso feature their Childrens Center, with PowderPlaycare, which allows Mom and Dad some time tohit the slopes while their little ones are well takencare of. Lessons are also available for both kids andadults new at taking on the slopes.

Feeling tuckered out after a full day of braving thebunny hill and beyond? Chestnut offers standardrooms and suites in their lodge to give you and your family a good nights rest to ensure youll be tack-ling the slopes the next day. With a variety of begin-ner, intermediate and black-diamond runs and their Farside Terrain Parkthe largest of its kind in theregionthere will be plenty for you and your favoriteskiing and riding pals to explore. Call 800-397-1320

for more information or visit chestnutmtn.com .No matter where you choose to ski and ride thiswinter, adding these classic and modern outdoor sports to your familys winter plans is sure to creatememories that will last for many seasons to come.

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Looking for a way to escape mid-winter mal-aise? Desperate for a little adventure? Searchno further than our area ski resorts! In the tri-statearea, we are fortunate enough to have two sets of slopes that allow snow surfers of all skill levelsto take to the hills of the scenic Mississippi River valley. These resorts are typically open from lateNovember to late February, weather permitting. Lifttickets and other costs vary by location.

Sundown Mountain Resort16991 Asbury Road, DubuqueLocated just outside of Dubuque, Sundown Moun-tain Resort has been a skiing and snowboardingdestination for snow-sport junkies for decades.Sundown features two lodges, 24 runs and boaststhe highest skiable vertical in the region. Their KidsPark helps your youngest skiers or riders safelylearn the ropes of the mountain while enjoying thegreat outdoors.

Lessons are also available for parents who aretempted by Sundowns slopes, whether this is thefirst time youve donned skis or you just need aquick brush up on technique. Working through their beginner and intermediate runs is a breeze with their ski instructors. Feeling up to a bigger challenge? Inaddition to three black-diamond runs, Sundownsseven acres of Terrain Park also dares fearless rid-ers and skiers to break out their most impressivemaneuvers. Sundowns two lodges feature 100yards of windows to allow visitors of all ages to takein the sweeping valley, ensuring plenty of loungespace is offered for those who would rather take amore observatory approach. Call 563-556-6676 for more information or visit sundownmtn.com .

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Movies Coming to Tri-States Silver ScreensCourtesy of www.movieinsider.com

TITLE RATINGRELEASE

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The Innkeepers R 2/3W.E. R 2/3 Journey 2: The MysteriousIsland

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Perfect Sense Not YetRated

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Safe House Not YetRated

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The Vow PG-13 2/10Act of Valor R 2/17Ghost Rider: Spirit of Vengeance PG-13 2/17The Secret World of Arrietty G 2/17

This Means War Not YetRated 2/17

Good Deeds PG-13 2/24Footnote PG 2/24Gone PG-13 2/24Wanderlust R 2/24Dr. Seuss The Lorax Not Yet

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Hansel and Gretel:Witch Hunters

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Jeff, Who Lives at Home Not YetRated

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Project X R 3/2Salmon Fishing in the Yemen Not Yet

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John Carter PG-13 3/9Think Like a Man Not Yet

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Jiro Dreams of Sushi PG 3/9Playing the Field Not Yet

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Silent House R 3/9The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel PG-13 3/9The Bully Project R 3/9The Raven R 3/921 Jump Street Not Yet

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Mirror Mirror Not YetRated

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Casa de mi Padre R 3/16A Thousand Words PG-13 3/23The Hunger Games Not Yet

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Wrath of the Titans Not YetRated

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Music 21 Adele Columbia RecordsBe warned R&B enthusiasts: there has been a wholenew British Invasion. With her sophomore release,London-born Adele has swept American airwaveswith her soulful ballads featured on quadruple-platinum 21. Filled with all the stuff that makes for great musicthoughtful lyrics, careful instrumenta-

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