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Protecting the child in normal family
Bowlby: Human beings of all ages are happiest and
resourceful when they are confident that standing
behind them, there are one or more trusted persons
who will come to their aid should difficulties arise.
This attachment figure provide a secure base “
Quality of motheringQuality of mothering Trauma before 18 ( family illness, abuse, etc..)Trauma before 18 ( family illness, abuse, etc..)
Long term emotional development
More impact on the adult overt mental health
Experience of childhood
Understanding Childhood Trauma..
Family of Origin…
Adult Child of Alcoholics ( ACOA)
Adult Child of Family dysfunction
Adult Child of Neurotic Parents
Understanding Childhood Trauma
What you see you learned
What you learn you practice
What you practice you become.
Protecting the child in normal family
Anxieties is normal in children…
Disturbed behavior manifest as regression
Significance of TRAUMA in children
“Madness has begun…”
Symptoms and Primitive defences1. Splitting ….. a)latent Schizophrenia to Schizoid or b) True versus false self……. Different from Regression……….
Significance of Trauma in Children
Trust is the foundation on which the self is built.
Basic trust eroded when parents are not available…due to mental illness, untrustworthy, …etc
RESULT: primitive anxiety arose and yet no place to retreat to.
Worsened by Shame and Secrecy……
SIGNIFICANCE OF TRAUMA IN CHILDREN
Home no more a safe place…
Life becomes perverse and unpredictable
People do not outgrow early childhood experiences
Early anxieties repressed later to re-emerge
SIGNIFICANCE OF TRAUMA IN CHILDREN
The developing child incorporates the distortion caused by trauma
The experience is repeated Unable to communicate their distress except
through variety of symptoms
The helplessness and emotional dependence render them more vulnerable to parents’ behavior
SIGNIFICANCE OF TRAUMA IN CHILDREN
Child’s Defenses are more primitive- “splitting”
Cut off from reality and hard to involve in real relationship…. “latent Schizophrenia”
OR schizoid..superficially normal but break down, Withdrawn and psychotic under stress.
SIGNIFICANCE OF TRAUMA IN CHILDREN
Splitting also seen as creation of “false self”…appear as functioning well but lack spontaneity and initiative………..
Inwardly beset by feelings of futility…
How children cope
Distortions of normal development
Create ( primitive ) defenses… pain, fear, uncertainty, mistrust, anger, shame, loneliness..
Change their character..” “armor” Yet anxiety, depression and drug abuse break
thru.
Consequences of trauma
More psychiatric illness ( Depression and Anxiety)
Less mature psychological defence mechanisms
Prevailing moods joyless These primitive defense keep the person in a
state of struggle and chaotic level of functioning
Consequences of trauma
“ life is a longing”
Distortions of normal development
Defenses created to manage pain, fear, uncertainty. Mistrust, anger, shame and loneliness
“armor” themselves..yet anxiety, depression and substance abuse often break through
Consequences of trauma
Sell themselves short…in choosing their work or partners…
Own self-esteem
The ability to trust
Emotional stability
Consequences of trauma
Anxiety, depression, substance abuse
Physical problems and prone to illness, insomnia, obesity, headaches, GIT
Personality problems..narcissistic, schizoid, impaired self-esteem
Adult outcome of trauma
Anxiety, Depression, Substance abuse
Personality disorders----borderline, narcissistic, schizoid etc..
Unhappy, lack of engagement in life, little confidence
? Obesity, ? Headaches
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Cluster A: Schizoid Personality Disorder
Overview and Clinical Features
Pervasive pattern of detachment from social relationships
Very limited range of emotions in interpersonal situations
LonersPreference for social isolation in
schizoid personality resembles autism
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Borderline Personality Disorder Pattern of instability in mood,
interpersonal relationships, self-image Marked impulsivity, fear of abandonment Self-injurious behaviors, suicidal gestures
(but 3-9% commit suicide) Black/White thinking Common Dx in Psychiatric Settings Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction
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Borderline Personality Disorder
Pattern of instability in mood, interpersonal relationships, self-image
Marked impulsivity, fear of abandonment
Self-injurious behaviors, suicidal gestures (but 3-9% commit suicide)
Black/White thinking
Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction
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Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, arrogance
lack of empathy, sensitivity to others
Very sensitive to perceived criticism
Exaggerated sense of own importance
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Avoidant Personality Disorder
Pattern of social inhibition
Feelings of inadequacy
Hypersensitivity to negative evaluation
Very similar to social phobia (degree of overlap is unclear)
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Dependent Personality Disorder
Pattern of submissiveness and clinging behavior
Excessive need to be taken care of;
Requires others to make all decisions;
Often stay in abusive relationships
True SelfTrue Self False selfFalse self
GenuineAccepting of self &
others
Loves unconditionallyFeels feelings,
spontaneous, including current anger
Assertive
Un-genuineCritical, envious,
perfectionistConditional loveDenies or hide feelings
including long-held anger
Aggressive/ passiveOverdeveloped
parent/adult scripts; may be childish
The False self
True SelfTrue Self False selfFalse self
Needs to play and have fun
Vulnerable
Trusting Enjoys being nurturedSurrenders..Self-indulgent…simplifies
Avoids play and funPretends always to be
strong DistrustingAvoids being
nurtured…Controlling..Self-righteous…Complicates ; is
“rational”.
The False Self
True SelfTrue Self False SelfFalse Self
Wants to be real, connected, create and love..
Non-defensive, though may use ego-defensive..
Open to the unconscious
Free to grow
Accepting a loving God
Wants to be right, control and win
Defensive
Blocks unconscious material
Tends to act out unconscious often painful patterns repeatedly
Struggle to accept
The False Self
Clues to family of origin issues
1. fear of being rejected 2. Hard to forgive3. Tend to withdraw4. Secret addictions5. Try hard to suppress feelings6. Afraid to confide to other people7. Nervous around certain people
Clues to family of origin
a. You can’t explain your hurtb. Hard to show emotion , c. You have memory blockd. Can’t allow other people to feel ( controlling
)e. Childhood memories cannot rememberf. Lose control when angryg. People don’t understand how you feel
Clues to family of origin
I. You get easily offendedII. Miserable for no reasonIII. Easily offended /irritatedIV. Can’t accept other’s imperfectionsV. Frequent nightmares
Victim to “perpetrator”
Aspects of parents failing can creep into own childcare… without their knowledge……
Lacking spontaneity, inappropriate anger outburst, depression, anxiety, joylessness, unfulfilled aspirations, prone to personality problems, low self-esteem….
Their children suffer from diminished confidence, unhappy, taunting by peers, etc……
Adult struggle
Depression..fear of breakdown
Breakdown of the defenses
But The defense is the false self.
Exhausted from looking after herself----Ambivalence---Grieving process
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Stages of Healing
reaffirmationlossSTAGE 1
shockSTAGE 2
pain
STAGE 3 stuck
STAGE 4 strengths
“I can’t get going”
“I am stronger”
“I’m hurt!”
“I can’t believe it!”
Sexual Abuse in the family
Suicide, depression, substance abuse, hysterical symptoms, borderline….
Denial & silence of survivors
Sexual abuse in family
Perpetrator a trusted adult….
Ambiguity +++
Defined as loving by the abuser
Secret +++ and threats of reprisal if exposed
RESULT: CONFUSION
Beating the Odds
Begin with Love
Accentuate the positive
Encourage a favorite pastime
Nurture Friendships
Strengthen the non-abused parent
Beating the Odds
Share responsibility
Instill persistence
Inoculate against stress
Provide information
Impart hope
Sexual abuse in family
INTERNAL CONFUSION…don’t want to lose the attachment figure yet feels betrayed…
Shame and guilt…isolated and helpless
Disguised as neurosis, psychosomatic disorders and delinquency..
Sexual abuse in family
COPING by Dissociation……..
When Prolonged greater psychological damage…
plus helplessness, worthlessness and self-blame…
“He brought me out into a
spacious place.
He rescued
me because
he
delight in me.”
Psalm 18:19