PRESENTS EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE OR AS WE PREFER EQ (EMOTIONAL QUOTIENT) yTg SELF UNDERSTANDING CREATES SELF BELIEF: IT IS NOW A KNOWN EMPIRICAL FACT THAT IN TODAYS WORLD IF YOU HAVE A HIGH LEVEL OF EQ YOU WILL HAVE A GREATER CHANCE OF : FEELINGS COME AND FEELINGS GO. FEELINGS ARE NOT FACTS. YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR FEELINGS BY CHANGING YOUR THINKING. EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE IS NOT ABOUT BEING NICE OR EVEN EXPRESSING OUR FEELINGS IT IS LEARNING HOW TO EXPRESS THOSE FEELINGS IN AN APPROPRIATE WAY AND AT APPROPRIATE TIMES, AND BEING ABLE TO EMPATHIZE WITH OTHERS AND WORK WELL WITH THEM. STUDIES NOW REVEAL THAT A HIGH EQ IN THE WORKPLACE IS MORE IMPORTANT TO SUCCESS THAN A HIGH IQ. IQ EXPLAINS 25% OF JOB PERFORMANCE WHICH LEAVES A FULL 75% FOR OTHER FACTORS. ALSO PEOPLE WITH A BETTER EQ ARE HEALTHIER, LESS DEPRESSED, MORE PRODUCTIVE AT WORK, HAVE BETTER RELATIONSHIPS AND ARE BETTER PILOTS OF THEIR LIVES. MEMORIES REACTIONSREACTIONS EMOTIONS FEELINGS We are not our emotions; they are reactions to old memories. We are our feelings at that point in time THE 5 COMPETENCIES OF EQ 1:SELF-AWARENESS: BASICALLY WHAT WE HAVE DONE IN THE WORKSHOP. RECOGNISING A FEELING WHEN IT HAPPENS. IN OTHER WORDS A SENSE OF SELF AND BASIC AWARENESS OF OUR FEELINGS. AN INABILITY TO NOTICE OUR TRUE FEELINGS LEAVES US AT THEIR MERCY. 2:SELF-REGULATION: THE ABILITY TO RECOVER FROM EMOTIONALLY DISTRESS AND MANAGE OUR EMOTIONS MORE EASILY SO YOU CAN MOVE ON. IT IS ALSO LOOKING AT THE BIG PICTURE BEING CONSCIENTIOUS AND AVOIDING INSTANT GRATIFICATION. BASICALLY BEING ABLE TO BOUNCE BACK FROM SET-BACKS. 3:MOTIVATION: SELF MOTIVATION AND THE ABILITY TO MOTIVATE OTHERS. NOT RELYING ON OTHERS TO INSPIRE YOU. USING YOUR SELF-DETERMINATION AND LOCOMOTION TO THE FULLEST. 4:EMPATHY: THE FUNDAMENTAL PEOPLE SKILLS. UNDERSTANDING (NOT FEELING) SOMEONE ELSES FEELINGS, PAIN OR DISTRESS WITHOUT GETTING IN ON IT. SYMPATHY IS GETTING IN ON IT AND APATHY IS NOT CARING ONE WAY OR THE OTHER. 5:SOCIAL SKILLS: THE ABILITY TO BE ABLE READ TO READ PEOPLE AND SITUATIONS. HANDLING CLOSE PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP WELL. EXCERPT: DANIEL GOLEMAN EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE EQ AND THE ENNEAGRAM DIRECTION FOR GROWTH: SECONDARY PRIMARY TYPE ONE: THE PERFECTIONIST EQ STRENGTHS:EQ DERAILERS: ORDERLY AND ACCURATETOO RIGID SETS CLEAR GOALSNIT PICKY PURSUES EXCELLENCECRITICAL THE KEY: SIMPLY TO LIGHTEN UP AND NOT TAKE LIFE SO SERIOUSLY. ACCEPT OTHERS SHORT COMINGS WITH THE KNOWLEDGE THAT THEY THEMSELVES ARE ALLOWED TO HAVE SHORT COMINGS. ADDRESS THEIR FEAR OF CRITICISM AND THE FEAR OF BEING WRONG. GET IN TOUCH WITH NATURE (THEIR GARDENS ETC) AS THIS ENABLES THE ONE TO RELAX AND ENJOY THE MOMENT. REMEMBER THAT IT IS OK TO BE WRONG AND THAT A MISTAKE IS MERELY A LESSON YOU NEED NOT EVER REPEAT. TYPE TWO: THE GIVER EQ STRENGTHS:EQ DERAILERS: HELPFULACCOMMODATING SUPPORTIVEFEELS UNAPPRECIATED WARMINDIRECT THE KEY: TO ENSURE THAT THE TWOS OWN BASIC NEEDS ARE MET BY THEMSELVES AND NOT EXPECT THAT OTHERS MUST FULFIL THIS DUTY. ACCEPT THAT THEIR GOOD NATURE MAY, AT TIMES, BE ABUSED BY OTHERS. REALISE THAT REWARDS ARE AN INTERNAL JOB AND THAT THEY DONT NECESSARILY NEED PUBLIC RECOGNITION. STRUCTURE TIME OUT FOR SELF AND ALLOW TIME TO RELAX WITHOUT GOING OVER RESPONSIBLE FOR WORK COLLEAGUES AND FAMILY. APPRECIATE THAT THEIR SELF APPRECIATION IS THE ONLY APPRECIATION REQUIRED. TYPE THREE: THE ACHIEVER EQ STRENGTHS:EQ DERAILERS: ENERGETICCOMPETITIVE ENTREPRENEURIALABRUPT CONFIDENTOVER FOCUSSED THE KEY: THE THREE PERSONALITYS ADDICTION TO WORK CAN OFTEN BE THEIR DOWNFALL. LIFE IS ABOUT BALANCE AND HARMONY AND WITH THE THREE THEIR OVER EXTENSION IN THE WORK PLACE CAN HAVE THEM BURNING OUT PREMATURELY. THIS CREATES UNREST IN THEIR ENVIRONMENT AND CAN HAVE THEM FOCUSSED ON THE NEGATIVITY WHICH REINFORCES THE FEAR OF FAILING. TAKE STRUCTURED TIME OUT ALLOWING FOR RE-EVALUATION OF PRIORITIES. TYPE FOUR: THE ROMANTIC EQ STRENGTHS:EQ DERAILERS: INSPIRING NTENSE CREATIVE SELF-CONSCIOUS EXPRESSIVE MOODY THE KEY: THE FOUR PERSONALITY FINDS THEIR INSPIRATION THROUGH THEIR IMAGINATION. AT TIMES, HOWEVER, THEIR IMAGINATION CAN SEE THEM DIVERTED FROM THE REALITY OF THE SITUATION. IT IS IMPERATIVE FOR THESE PEOPLE TO FOCUS ON ONE THING AT A TIME AND FOLLOW IT THROUGH TO COMPLETION. THIS FOCUS SEES THEM PUTTING IN ACTION AHEAD OF THOUGHTS AND ALLOWS THE FOUR TO FIND A BALANCE AWAY FROM THEIR INTENSIVE FEELINGS. THE WORK PLACE IS A VERY IMPORTANT PLACE FOR THESE PEOPLE AS IT FORCES THEM TO FOCUS AND AIDS IN THEIR HEIGHTENED SELF WORTH. TYPE FIVE: THE OBSERVER EQ STRENGTHS:EQ DERAILERS: ANALYTIC HIGHLY PRIVATE SYSTEMATIC DETACHED EXPERT OVERLY AUTONOMOUS THE KEY: LITERALLY TO VENTURE OUT AND TAKE EMOTIONAL RISKS. EXPRESS THEIR THOUGHTS TO OTHERS IN AN AMICABLE AND PLEASANT MANNER WITHOUT FEARING EMBARRASSMENT. THE FIVE NEEDS TO COMPLETE THEIR INNOVATIVE AND INVENTIVE PROJECTS PRIOR TO COMMENCING NEW ONES IN ORDER TO GAIN THE REWARDS FOR WHAT THEY HAVE TO OFFER SOCIETY AS A WHOLE. BE OPEN WITH THEIR SENSE OF HUMOUR TO ENABLE EMOTIONAL CONTACT WITH OTHERS. TYPE SIX: THE DOUBTER EQ STRENGTHS:EQ DERAILERS: LOYAL WORRYING PERSEVERING ANALYSIS PARALYSIS COLLABORATIVE MARTYRING THE KEY: TO LITERALLY PUT THOUGHT INTO ACTION. THESE PEOPLE DO HAVE PEOPLE SKILLS AS THEY ARE VERY AMICABLE AND WHEN THEY OVERCOME THEIR CONSTANT NEGATIVE SELF-TALK THEY FIND A SELF-MOTIVATING FORCE. THE SIX PERSONALITY NEEDS TO INTERNALISE THAT THEY ARE BIGGER THAN ALL THEIR FEARS AND ON REALISATION THAT IT IS THEIR FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN THAT HOLDS THEM BACK THEY WILL IGNITE THEIR INNATE, SOMETIMES DORMANT, COURAGE. TYPE SEVEN: THE DREAMER EQ STRENGTHS:EQ DERAILERS: IMAGINATIVE IMPULSIVE ENTHUSIASTIC UNFOCUSSED ENGAGING REBELLIOUS THE KEY: TO STAY FOCUSED ON THE JOB AT HAND AND TO CONSTANTLY RE-COMMIT. BE AWARE THAT ALL THE BLUE SKY PLANS MAY NEVER COME TO FRUITION AND PERSONAL GAIN DOESNT ALWAYS HAPPEN IN ONE DAY. LEARN THE ART OF LEADERSHIP WHILE BEING PREPARED TO DO THE HARD TASKS AS THEY ARISE. TYPE EIGHT: THE LEADER EQ STRENGTHS:EQ DERAILERS: DIRECT CONTROLLING PROTECTIVE DISDAIN WEAKNESS ACTION ORIENTED INTIMIDATING THE KEY: TO BE AWARE THAT OTHERS MAY FEEL THREATENED BY WHAT MAY BE SEEN AS AN AGGRESSIVE PERSONA. THIS CAN BE ELIMINATED SIMPLY BY A MORE GENTLE APPROACH WITH COLLEAGUES/EMPLOYERS AND ALLOWING OTHERS TO BE HEARD WITHOUT CONFRONTATION. IT IS IMPERATIVE TO KEEP IN MIND THAT ALL TYPES OF PEOPLE HAVE A ROLE TO PLAY AND THE EIGHT MUST BE AWARE OF THEIR ABILITY TO CUT PEOPLE DOWN TO SIZE AND WIPE THEM. FINALLY TO EXPRESS COMPLIMENTS TO OTHERS WHEN REQUIRED AS THIS WILL AID IN OTHERS BEING AT EASE TO EXPRESS THEMSELVES. TYPE NINE: THE DIPLOMAT EQ STRENGTHS:EQ DERAILERS: DIPLOMATIC CONFLICT AVOIDANT EASY GOING UNASSERTIVE ACCEPTING PROCRASTINATING THE KEY: TO APPRECIATE THE VALUE OF THEIR OWN OPINION AND LEARN THE ART OF EXPRESSION WITHOUT FEAR OF CONDEMNATION. REALISE THAT BLENDING WITH OTHERS OR THE ENVIRONMENT WILL SABOTAGE A SENSE OF SELF AND BUILD RESENTMENT. ACT ON THEIR INTUITION AND AVOID PROCRASTINATION. e: m: In conjunction with : MFA Moving Forward Australia