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Please come in, get

your packet and

QUIETLY take a seat. • THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NO TALKING

ALLOWED UNTIL YOU ARE TOLD TO DO SO! If you talk, your grade will be docked points!

Learning Objective

• Today our learning objective is #4: I will compare different type of communication and which has the best affect on my personal relationship and discuss how to appropriately express my emotions

Gratitude Journal

• Write down 5 things you are grateful for today.

• Remember-they cannot be the same as ones you have done previous days!

Silent Ball!

• In a minute, everyone will sit on their tables/desks.

• We are going to throw a ball around to different people.

• You are out if you fail to catch the ball OR if you throw a pass that is uncatchable. When you are out, sit in your chair.

• For hard calls, we will have a class vote. • The last three people up gets candy!

Rules

• You must throw to someone that isn’t at your table or in the desks around you.

• You cannot throw it back to someone who just threw it to you.

• If you argue about a call, you will be out too.

• Remember-you are not allowed to talk!!

• EVERYBODY UP!

Communication

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Communication

• In your packets, answer the question:

• Why is communication important to have in a good relationship? Types of Communication

Non Verbal

• This is our facial expressions, gestures, eye contact, posture, and tone of voice.

• Examples: – Hugging

– Pushing

– Shaking hands

Verbal

• Any form of spoken communication.

• Both Formal and Informal

• Examples: – Face to face conversation

– Phone Conversations

Written

• Any form of communication sent by written means (handwritten, text, email.

Most important type?

• 55% Non Verbal Cues

• 38% Tone of Voice (Non Verbal)

• 7% Words (Verbal)

• 93% of our communication is NON-VERBAL!!! Which means it is the MOST IMPORTANT!!

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Using Communication To

resolve conflicts

Think Win-Win

• Thinking about how everyone can win • The opposite of thinking win-win is only

thinking of yourself • Bad Example: Your mom asks you to clean

your room, but instead you just watch TV. (You get what you want, but Mom is mad)

• Good Example: You help clean up quickly and then ask if you can go back to watching TV

Active Listening

• Learn HOW to listen!! – Listen to the reasons for being upset

– Make sure you understand from THEIR point of view.

– Repeat and ask if you understood correctly

– Ask if anything remains unspoken

– Resist the temptation to interrupt or interject.

Use “I” Messages

• This is expressing how you REALLY feel.

• Four Steps to an “I” Message: –  1. I feel…”

– 2. “When you…”

– 3. “What I need you to do…”

– 4. “Because…”

Be Assertive

• Instead of fighting back, remain calm and express how you’re feeling.

• Bad Example: You get in trouble at home, so you yell at your parents and then slam the door to your room.

• Good Example: Take a quick break, then ask your parents if you can discuss the problem calmly. You both listen to each other.

Tips

• Make the relationship the priority • Focus on the present (don’t use past

arguments, disagreements etc.)

• Pick your battles • Be willing to forgive (EVERYBODY makes mistakes,

especially when communicating)

• Know when to let go (or agree to disagree. You are not going to change their opinion so let it go!)

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Inside OUt

• Now-we are going to move onto emotions.

• The best (and more fun!) way to teach this is to watch the movie “Inside Out”

• In your packet, during the movie, answer the questions. We will watch this today and finish next time!

• Don’t forget-NO TALKING! (And no you cannot move by your friends!)

You can talk

from now on!

HAVE A GREAT DAY! • Hot potato now-you cannot hold it

longer than 3 seconds