Personal DevelopmentPersonal Development

Objective 1Objective 1

Understanding YourselfUnderstanding Yourself

Chapter 1Chapter 1

The Journey AheadThe Journey Ahead

Have you ever wondered what life will be Have you ever wondered what life will be like as an adult?like as an adult?

What attitudes, qualities, and skills will you What attitudes, qualities, and skills will you need for life?need for life?

How do you obtain the skills needed for How do you obtain the skills needed for adulthood?adulthood?

PersonalityPersonality

Characteristics that make you different Characteristics that make you different from someone elsefrom someone else

Can personalities change?Can personalities change?

Where do we get our personality from?Where do we get our personality from?

What might cause a personality to What might cause a personality to change?change?

Origins of PersonalitiesOrigins of Personalities

Heredity and EnvironmentHeredity and Environment

Heredity is a combination of traits inherited Heredity is a combination of traits inherited from our parents (genetic make-up)from our parents (genetic make-up)

Environment is the conditions that Environment is the conditions that surround a person (family, friends, surround a person (family, friends, circumstances)circumstances)

Self-ConceptSelf-Concept

How you define what you areHow you define what you are

Important in adolescence to develop a positive Important in adolescence to develop a positive self-conceptself-concept

How you see yourself is how others are going to How you see yourself is how others are going to perceive youperceive you

Your self-concept also helps to develop your Your self-concept also helps to develop your self-esteem or value you place on yourselfself-esteem or value you place on yourself– Self-esteem is important because it has a strong Self-esteem is important because it has a strong

influence on your behavior and your well-beinginfluence on your behavior and your well-being

Your PotentialYour Potential

Capability of becoming more than you are right Capability of becoming more than you are right nownow

Only you can determine your potentialOnly you can determine your potential

If you were to look back at your life from this If you were to look back at your life from this very moment, do you have any regrets? very moment, do you have any regrets? Mistakes?Mistakes?

Reaching your potential is a life long processReaching your potential is a life long process

What can side track teens from reaching their What can side track teens from reaching their potential?potential?

Personal DevelopmentPersonal Development

You work toward your potentialYou work toward your potential

The more you learn, the more you are able The more you learn, the more you are able to learn, the closer you are to reaching to learn, the closer you are to reaching your potentialyour potential

CharacterCharacter

People who possess moral strength and People who possess moral strength and integrityintegrity

People with character…People with character…– Understand differences between right and Understand differences between right and

wrongwrong– Do what is rightDo what is right– Accept universal valuesAccept universal values– Demonstrate responsible behaviorDemonstrate responsible behavior

ValuesValues

Beliefs, feelings, and ideas about what is Beliefs, feelings, and ideas about what is importantimportantYour values are reflected in your actions Your values are reflected in your actions and the decisions you makeand the decisions you makeUniversal values include: respect, Universal values include: respect, tolerance, compassion, fairness, trust, tolerance, compassion, fairness, trust, honesty, and responsibilityhonesty, and responsibilityLearned directly (being told) and indirectly Learned directly (being told) and indirectly (observation)(observation)

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Learn first values Learn first values from familyfrom family

Influences on values Influences on values come from religious come from religious backgrounds, cultural backgrounds, cultural backgrounds, media backgrounds, media (advertising), and (advertising), and society (laws)society (laws)

Choosing values:Choosing values:– Choose positive valuesChoose positive values– Listen to your conscienceListen to your conscience– Turn to your familyTurn to your family– Gain knowledgeGain knowledge– Evaluate the sourceEvaluate the source– Talking to othersTalking to others

Personal ResponsibilityPersonal Responsibility

Responsible means you are reliable and Responsible means you are reliable and accountableaccountable

Accountable means you are willing to Accountable means you are willing to accept the consequences of his or her accept the consequences of his or her actions and wordsactions and words

Maturity means you act with responsible, Maturity means you act with responsible, adult-like behavior and attitudesadult-like behavior and attitudes

Recognizing CharacterRecognizing Character

Values and Values and responsibility produce responsibility produce people with characterpeople with character

Growth and DevelopmentGrowth and Development

ChangesChanges

In order to make the transition from In order to make the transition from adolescence into adulthood, a person adolescence into adulthood, a person must go through changesmust go through changesEveryone changes during adolescenceEveryone changes during adolescence– PhysicallyPhysically– EmotionallyEmotionally– SociallySocially– IntellectuallyIntellectually– MorallyMorally

Physical GrowthPhysical Growth

Change in body statureChange in body stature

Influenced by heredity and health habitsInfluenced by heredity and health habits

The way you eat, exercise, and care for The way you eat, exercise, and care for your body will influence your physical your body will influence your physical growthgrowth

Hormones also affect physical growthHormones also affect physical growth

Emotional GrowthEmotional Growth

Development of a range of feelingsDevelopment of a range of feelings

Hormones affect emotional growthHormones affect emotional growth

Mood swings are very commonMood swings are very common

Most teens are very sensitive about their Most teens are very sensitive about their emotionsemotions

Intellectual GrowthIntellectual Growth

Developing the ability to reason and form Developing the ability to reason and form complex thought patternscomplex thought patterns

Influenced by your heredity, environment, Influenced by your heredity, environment, and desire to learnand desire to learn

Social GrowthSocial Growth

Developing the ability to get along with Developing the ability to get along with other peopleother people

Learn skills in early childhoodLearn skills in early childhood

Relationships changeRelationships change

Learn to interact with adultsLearn to interact with adults

Needs and WantsNeeds and Wants

Needs are the basic items that are Needs are the basic items that are required for livingrequired for living

Wants are those things people desire, but Wants are those things people desire, but don’t needdon’t need

Sometimes you have to learn to live Sometimes you have to learn to live without the things you want and focus on without the things you want and focus on your needsyour needs

Goals and ResourcesGoals and Resources

GoalsGoals

Goals are a conscience aim that requires Goals are a conscience aim that requires planning and effort to achieveplanning and effort to achieve

Everyone sets goals, though different from Everyone sets goals, though different from each other, they all set them for the same each other, they all set them for the same reasonreason

Goals provide direction and give a person Goals provide direction and give a person focusfocus

Types of GoalsTypes of Goals

Short-term: something you want to accomplish Short-term: something you want to accomplish soonsoonLong-term: something you plan to accomplish Long-term: something you plan to accomplish sometime farther in the future or after you finish sometime farther in the future or after you finish high schoolhigh schoolFixed goals: one that can only be met at a Fixed goals: one that can only be met at a certain timecertain timeFlexible goals: one that has no definite time limitFlexible goals: one that has no definite time limit

Identifying GoalsIdentifying Goals

Goals can shape what you are as well as Goals can shape what you are as well as what you dowhat you do

Use your values to set goalsUse your values to set goals

Set prioritiesSet priorities

Be realisticBe realistic

Setting GoalsSetting Goals

Analyze the goalAnalyze the goal

Put goals in writingPut goals in writing

Be specificBe specific

Make a commitmentMake a commitment

Consider your resourcesConsider your resources

Question: How is learning to prioritize goals a Question: How is learning to prioritize goals a way to take responsibility for your life?way to take responsibility for your life?

Examining ResourcesExamining Resources

Human resources: your skills and other Human resources: your skills and other peoplepeopleMaterial resources: money, tools, Material resources: money, tools, equipmentequipmentCommunity resources: community facilities Community resources: community facilities like the YMCA or schoolslike the YMCA or schoolsQuestion: What kinds of resources are Question: What kinds of resources are available if you don’t have much money?available if you don’t have much money?

Showing DeterminationShowing Determination

Shows when people actively identify and Shows when people actively identify and seek resources that will help them meet seek resources that will help them meet their goalstheir goals

By wisely seeking and using resources, By wisely seeking and using resources, you can accomplish what you wantyou can accomplish what you want

Making Responsible Making Responsible DecisionsDecisions

DecisionsDecisions

Facing challengesFacing challenges– Decision making involves risksDecision making involves risks– Easier to let someone else make the decision Easier to let someone else make the decision

and get in trouble for that decision if it is and get in trouble for that decision if it is wrongwrong

– Confident people are admired for their Confident people are admired for their decision making abilities and looked at as decision making abilities and looked at as leadersleaders

Types of DecisionsTypes of Decisions

All types of decisionsAll types of decisions

Decisions are being Decisions are being made all day longmade all day long

Some are routine, Some are routine, other are major other are major decisionsdecisions

Impact of decisionsImpact of decisions

Effects on youEffects on you– Think broader, long rangeThink broader, long range– Some change your life instantly, others will Some change your life instantly, others will

affect you in the long termaffect you in the long term

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Effects on othersEffects on others– Your decisions have impact on othersYour decisions have impact on others– Thinking about the impact of your decisions Thinking about the impact of your decisions

will help you make better oneswill help you make better onesMay cause you to stop and reconsider before you May cause you to stop and reconsider before you actact

When you care for others, you will make decisions When you care for others, you will make decisions carefullycarefully

Seeking HelpSeeking Help

Ask opinions of othersAsk opinions of others

Make the decisions Make the decisions yourselfyourself

Decision-Making ProcessDecision-Making Process

Procedure you can follow when you have to Procedure you can follow when you have to choose among different optionschoose among different options

Steps:Steps:– 1. State the decision1. State the decision– 2. List the options2. List the options– 3. Weigh the pros and cons3. Weigh the pros and cons– 4. Consider your values4. Consider your values– 5. Make a decision and act on it5. Make a decision and act on it– 6. Evaluate the decision and take responsibility for it6. Evaluate the decision and take responsibility for it

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?? What do you think about this ?? What do you think about this statement??statement??

It is unfair for society to deny teens certain It is unfair for society to deny teens certain actions such as driving a car and voting.actions such as driving a car and voting.

Avoiding TroublemakersAvoiding Troublemakers

Procrastination – thinking too long and Procrastination – thinking too long and losing opportunitieslosing opportunitiesImpulsiveness – deciding too quickly, with Impulsiveness – deciding too quickly, with out thinking things throughout thinking things throughAvoidance – fear of making wrong decision, Avoidance – fear of making wrong decision, no decision at allno decision at allDeferring – letting others make the decisionDeferring – letting others make the decisionBlaming – when negative results occur, Blaming – when negative results occur, blame othersblame others

Your approach to decisionsYour approach to decisions

How you handle decisions is up to you!!How you handle decisions is up to you!!

Making Changes and Making Changes and Meeting ChallengesMeeting Challenges

Taking ActionTaking Action

Not happy with your Not happy with your life, take actionlife, take action

Do something about Do something about it, don’t complainit, don’t complain

Barriers to changeBarriers to change

Not easy to changeNot easy to change

People fear changePeople fear change

Tools for changeTools for change

CompetenceCompetence– Having qualities and skills needed to perform Having qualities and skills needed to perform

a task or participate fully in an activitya task or participate fully in an activity– Who and what can help develop your Who and what can help develop your

conscienceconscience

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ConfidenceConfidence– Believing in yourself and your abilitiesBelieving in yourself and your abilities– Signs of confidence: willingness to try new Signs of confidence: willingness to try new

things, optimism, assertivenessthings, optimism, assertiveness– Build confidence through skills and knowledgeBuild confidence through skills and knowledge– Success builds confidenceSuccess builds confidence

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– Qualities of confidence:Qualities of confidence:Self-assurance : stand up for yourself and what Self-assurance : stand up for yourself and what you believe inyou believe in

Self-control: use reason to tell people what to do Self-control: use reason to tell people what to do and when to do itand when to do it

Willingness to take reasonable risks to achieve Willingness to take reasonable risks to achieve goals: don’t take risks that don’t make sensegoals: don’t take risks that don’t make sense

Healthy self-concept and high self-esteem: are not Healthy self-concept and high self-esteem: are not perfect people, don’t dwell on weaknessesperfect people, don’t dwell on weaknesses

?? Which comes first, ?? Which comes first, competence or competence or confidence??confidence??

Making ChangesMaking Changes

Set goalsSet goals– Attaining goals in Attaining goals in

confidence boostingconfidence boosting– Make sure goals are Make sure goals are

obtainableobtainable

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Make an action planMake an action plan– A program of behavior for achieving a A program of behavior for achieving a

particular goalparticular goal

Put plan to workPut plan to work– Monitor your progressMonitor your progress– Provide positive reinforcementProvide positive reinforcement– Evaluate results and decide how to revise for Evaluate results and decide how to revise for

the futurethe future

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Right perspectiveRight perspective– Some things can be changed and some cannotSome things can be changed and some cannot

Overlooking obstaclesOverlooking obstacles– Obstacles are a part of lifeObstacles are a part of life– Person’s attitude toward barriers can mean the Person’s attitude toward barriers can mean the

difference between giving up and achieving successdifference between giving up and achieving success

Mutual supportMutual support– Others want to see you succeedOthers want to see you succeed

Interpersonal SkillsInterpersonal Skills: Effective : Effective Communication & Conflict Communication & Conflict

ResolutionResolution

Chapter 3Chapter 3

What are interpersonal skills?What are interpersonal skills?

Skills needed to get Skills needed to get along with othersalong with others

Communication Communication skills, conflict skills, conflict resolution skills, and resolution skills, and planning skillsplanning skills

Communication SkillsCommunication Skills

Terms to know: active listening, body language, Terms to know: active listening, body language, communication, eye contact, feedback, “I” communication, eye contact, feedback, “I” statements, nonverbal, verbalstatements, nonverbal, verbalCommunication: sending and receiving of Communication: sending and receiving of messages between peoplemessages between peopleWays of communicating:Ways of communicating:– 1. “I” messages1. “I” messages– 2. Verbal2. Verbal– 3. Nonverbal3. Nonverbal

““I” MESSAGINGI” MESSAGING

““I” statementsI” statements

Three parts to an “I” statementThree parts to an “I” statement– ““I feel…”I feel…”– ““when you…”when you…”– ““because…”because…”

Using “I” statements in an argument helps Using “I” statements in an argument helps to avoid raising negative feelingsto avoid raising negative feelings– Not attacking the other personNot attacking the other person

VerbalVerbal

Words are usedWords are usedTone of voice, how you say wordsTone of voice, how you say wordsKnowing how you sound ensures you are Knowing how you sound ensures you are sending the right messages you intend to sendsending the right messages you intend to sendKnowing when and where to communicate can Knowing when and where to communicate can make communicating more positivemake communicating more positive– Make sure the person is willing and able to listenMake sure the person is willing and able to listen– Avoid times when emotions can interfereAvoid times when emotions can interfere– Make sure other person is not distractedMake sure other person is not distracted

NonverbalNonverbal

Without words or body languageWithout words or body language

Affects not only how others see you, but Affects not only how others see you, but also how they react to your verbal also how they react to your verbal messagemessage

Eye contact is very important with Eye contact is very important with nonverbal communicationnonverbal communication

Active ListeningActive Listening

Concentrating on what is said so that you Concentrating on what is said so that you understand and remember the messageunderstand and remember the messageHelps:Helps:– Relationships growRelationships grow– Grow as a personGrow as a person– Know more about the worldKnow more about the world– Boosts self-esteemBoosts self-esteem

How to listen betterHow to listen better

ConcentrateConcentrate

Listen with a purposeListen with a purpose

Keep an open mindKeep an open mind

Be positiveBe positive

Make eye contactMake eye contact

Control your emotionsControl your emotions

Don’t interruptDon’t interrupt

FeedbackFeedback

Listener lets the speaker know that he or she is Listener lets the speaker know that he or she is trying to understand the message being trying to understand the message being delivereddeliveredWays to give feedback:Ways to give feedback:– Interject a comment when the speaker pausesInterject a comment when the speaker pauses– Summarize what the other is sayingSummarize what the other is saying– Express interest by asking questionsExpress interest by asking questions– Show empathy when others are upsetShow empathy when others are upset

Example: “that’s so unfair” or “you must have been hurt”Example: “that’s so unfair” or “you must have been hurt”

Body Language ActivityBody Language Activity

Body Language Body Language Activity Activity http://www.cccoe.net/http://www.cccoe.net/social/bodylang.htmsocial/bodylang.htm

Conflict ResolutionConflict Resolution

Chapter 3-3Chapter 3-3

Conflict ResolutionConflict Resolution

Terms to know: conflict, mediation, Terms to know: conflict, mediation, negotiation, peer mediation, negotiation, peer mediation, scapegoating, compromisescapegoating, compromise

Conflict is a struggle between people who Conflict is a struggle between people who disagreedisagree

Not unusual to have conflictsNot unusual to have conflicts

Why conflicts occurWhy conflicts occur

Situational causesSituational causes

Personality Personality differencesdifferences

Power strugglesPower struggles

Negative ResultsNegative Results

Negative emotions ariseNegative emotions arise

People can become illPeople can become ill

People say things they don’t meanPeople say things they don’t mean

Relationships sufferRelationships suffer

Violence can occurViolence can occur

Resolving conflictsResolving conflicts

Conflict resolution process:Conflict resolution process:– 1. Identify the problem1. Identify the problem– 2. Identify possible outcomes2. Identify possible outcomes– 3. Evaluate each suggested solution3. Evaluate each suggested solution– 4. Pick the best solution4. Pick the best solution– 5. See if the solution is working5. See if the solution is working– 6. If necessary, agree to disagree6. If necessary, agree to disagree

Skillful resolutionSkillful resolution

Use words, not fistsUse words, not fistsTake charge of the situationTake charge of the situationTake turns talkingTake turns talkingControl your voiceControl your voiceShow respectShow respectSpeak the truthSpeak the truthControl your languageControl your languageUse effective body languageUse effective body languageValue your safetyValue your safety

Avoiding conflictsAvoiding conflicts

See the positive side in situationsSee the positive side in situations

Change the subjectChange the subject

Defuse the situation with confidenceDefuse the situation with confidence

Don’t be easily irritatedDon’t be easily irritated

??When should you ignore a conflict????When should you ignore a conflict??

MediationMediation

Unbiased third party that helps in settling Unbiased third party that helps in settling conflictsconflictsUsed when two people can not settle a Used when two people can not settle a conflict on their ownconflict on their ownPeer mediation (process in which Peer mediation (process in which specially trained students help other specially trained students help other students resolve conflicts peacefully) are students resolve conflicts peacefully) are used in schoolsused in schools