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Perfection{ism}:the occupational
hazard of giftedness
Adapted from Lisa Van GemertPerfectionism: A Practical Guide to Managing“Never Good Enough”
Perfectionism is not a quest for the best. It is a pursuit of the worst of ourselves, the part that tells us that nothing we do will ever be good enough- that we should try again.~Julia Cameron
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What are some of the different faces of perfectionism?
~According to Adleson and Wilson
Academic Overachiever
I must get a 100% on every assignment,
OR THE WORLD WILL END!!!
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Aggravated Accuracy Assessor
Excessive focus on exactness and fixation on redos
In adults this can turn into Pinterest Perfectionism
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Risk Evaders
If I can’t do it perfectly, I won’t even TRY!
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Controlling Image Manager
If I don’t do everything perfectly, someone might realize I’m NOT gifted.
AKA as the Imposter Syndrome
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Procrastinating Perfectionist
It is better not to turn in the assignment at all, then chance not getting the grade I want.
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The Dramatic Downside of Perfectionism
Perfectionism isn’t always a problem.Sometimes it can be healthy...Ask These Questions to find out
● Does the child receive pleasure from working hard?
● Are the child’s standards based on personal desire as opposed to outside pressure?
● Is the child capable of relaxing?
● Is the child’s work mastery (rather than grade) oriented?
The correct answer to all these questions is….
YES!!!
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It can also be unhealthy… Here’s how to tell...
✗ Are the child’s feelings about his/her effort based on external evaluations?
✗ Is the child incapable of relaxing or letting go?
✗ Is the child motivated by low self-esteem?
✗ Is the child unsatisfied with even a high level of effort?
The desirable answer to these questions is…
NO!!!
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O.K. great … so now what?
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To D :● Wri E c e s l● Wri I C n at t● As i n, g a , te , g a● Fin r o t d me s● Ema J n ’s a n● Me t h a t m i t● Fix a d A h ’s
pe c o s
The Big Ideas
● Excellent is good enough (stress excellence and mastery as opposed to perfection
● It’s the journey that matters
● Don’t be your own worst enemy
● Just Do It
● Sometimes failure is a perfectly acceptable option.
Excellent is good enough.
Key Ideas:
Teachers should avoid developing climates and habits of perfection.
Reflection time after a task is complete is essential.
Action Steps:
Discuss the idea of leveling tasks. Help students level tasks in their lives.
Model reflective behavior for your students.
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Lev 1- ju m ur ’s o
It’s the journey that matters.Key Ideas: The purpose of goals is to provide a journey experience.
Adults should help youth set appropriate goals.
Share biographies of people who had interesting goal journeys.
Action Steps:Teach Students to use the
Tiny Habit strategy1st- simplify the behavior
2nd- find a way to place the new habit into existing habits
3rd- make the new small habit equally part of your routine as the big habit you anchored it to
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Re d se s!
Don’t be your own worst enemy.Key Ideas-Poor self image, even at young ages, can feed perfectionism
Awareness of one’s strengths and accomplishments build self concept more effectively than awareness of appearance.
Actions:Incorporate service learning in your classroom
Create a class Pride Line
Help facilitate friendships for your students
Design a “game day” for schoolwork
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Just Do It!
Key Ideas-Trying to motivate your students with far-off promises or threats is ineffective.
It is important to help students understand the rationale of the work they are doing.
Action Steps:Model the Don’t Postpone Joy mindset.
Practice Mindfulness exercises.
Help influence attitudes towards tasks by changing the way we label and treat them.
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Sometimes failure is a perfectly acceptable option.
Key Ideas:Telling student how they should feel is far less effective than asking them with appropriate, open-ended questions.
Provide support to students in how to deal with failure (real or perceived)
Action Steps:Create “A favorite mistake” board in your classroom.
Implement Barbara Clark’s questioning model when communicating with students.
Create a classroom experience binder to share with students from one year to the next.
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“The perfect is the enemy of the good.”
~Voltaire