Parential Guide

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Collected & Compiled by Shashank A Sinha/GTS/CSC

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Parental Guide

Collected and Compiled by Shashank A Sinha/GTS/CSCExclusive of our News & Views Readers

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Manners & Values

Kids who have a general tendency to misbehave, lose temper, behave aggressively, have a habitto throw things need to be handled very carefully. Parents need to give it a serious thought andshould not react in the same way. They need to keep cool, really very cool!!!

Manners and Values can be taught to children like any other subject.

The earlier they are taught, more easily they are imbibed. But these subjects are entirelydependent on the teachers and the 1st set of teachers are the Parents. If "sorry" is a word thatdoes not come easily from one of the parents, it will also not percolate down to the child. This ispurely a matter of practice before you preach. Parents are the 1st role models children look upto.Young children are very sensitive. They are more in tune with the visual world. They can easilyidentify when their mother is really angry and when she is make believe angry by body languageof their mother.

Any learning process will get willing participationwhen it is fun for the participant.

Manners and values can start as a game, may becollecting stars or scoring points for good deeds,efforts and behavior. E.g. 'Thank you' is one of the simplest of early manners. It comes easily topeople who are vivacious, appreciative andhaving a sense pf gratitude.

Encourage and praise even though it may seemrepetitive, at every 'thank you' the child says atthe appropriate situation.

When he or she receive a present, make it fun to write or draw a 'Thank you' note to acknowledgethe gift together. This will create a bond and also teach basic people skills to the child.

"Manners not only maketh a man but that if one is nice to others, there is a good chance that theywill be nice back."

Educating Children Early

Educating has been emphasized over the years by many psychologists.By the time a child beginshis third year of life he or she has developed characteristic ways of dealing with the world. Duringa child's first two years, he or she begins to walk, talk and explore a great many things.Theybegin to examine things around them with great curiosity and conduct experiments like ( puttingtheir fingers in a plug point or keys into locks etc.) They even tend to get angry over their inability

to conduct those experiments. In the same way they learn to recognize things and people.Earlyrecognition of their near and dear ones is an important ability to be taught to them.



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These are some of the Do's and Don'ts which will allow your child tolearn and grow to his or her fullest capacity at an early age.

1. Spend a great deal of time interacting with your child.2. Provide a variety of toys and household items for your child

to play with.

3. Allow your child to roam freely though a large area of thehouse.4. Talk to your child and explain things even before he or she

actually learns to talk.5. Respond enthusiastically to any request made by your child.6. Do not restrict your child in a playpen or confine him or her.7. Do not restrict your child from making a mess while playing.

The above points help a child to learn about things through his or her own mistakes. Childrenbecome independent and learn to acknowledge the environment around them and becomeperceptive to the attitudes of those around them.

Any kind of education given to a child in his or her first five years of life is readily grasped and

retained and followed by them in the years to come.

Protect your Child from TV Violence

The children on an average, watch 3 to 4 hours of television every day. As we know televisionhas a powerful influence on every age group and this influence extends not only in the form of entertainment but also in shaping peoples behavior. But children are the most affected by it asthey can not distinguish between reality and drama. Unfortunately, much of television programsare violent. Studies conducted show the effect of TV violence onchildren and teenagers.

1. They become immune to the horror of violence.2. They accept violence as a means to solve problems.

3. They imitate the violence they observe of TV and identify withcertain characters they see.

Studies conducted prove that extensive viewing of television maycause greater aggressiveness in children. Constant viewing of shows where violence goesunpunished is a great initiator for children to imitate what they see.The impact of TV violence maybe evident in a child's behavior immediately or may surface after a few years.

Parents can protect their children from excessive TV violence in the following ways :

1. Pay attention to the programs that the children are watching. Watch some with them.2. Set limits on the amount of time they spend watching the TV.

3. Openly criticize the programs where violence is to much and point out that although thecharacters on the screen are play acting and have not been really hurt, such violence inreal life results in pain and or death.

4. Also emphasis the importance of an consequence of such violent action, punishment inreal life always exists while on TV there is no such "crime never pays" reaction.

5. Refuse to let children see shows known to be violent. Change the channel or turn off theTV or engage them in other activity during those programs

6. Disapprove of the violent episodes and stress to the children that such violent behavior isnot the best way to solve a problem



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7. Contact other parents of your children's friends and mutually agree to enforce similar rules about the length of time and type of programs the children may watch. Parentsshould use all available measures to protect their children from displays of violence onTV.

Keeping the children away from the TV is not always possible, hence parents must reason with

their children and ask them not to watch the particular programs or ask them to change to another channel of their choice. Remember talking and explaining to children whatever their age may bethe best way to get them to listen to you.

Generation Gap

Communication is what makes the world go round. This barrier has to be surpassed in all spheresof life, beginning with home. Parents and their Children, the two most important parts of a whole.

All children hope to have parents who they can call their "Friends". Whom they can talk to withoutany age, sex, respect, high/low barriers, in short they can talk to their parents about 'anything', asthey would to people or friends of their own age group.Those who cannot surpass this barrier arethe one who have fallen into the so called "GENERATION GAP".

The Lines of Communication often break as parents are disappointed intheir children's behavior towards them. They feel that their children are notgiving them any respect, that they do not see eye to eye with them, thatthey do not behave the way they use to behave with their parents and mostimportantly their children are not living upto their expectations.

Both sides have a lot to say, but don't for the fear of being misunderstood.In all ways parents are the one's who have to make the first move towards communication.Theyhave to forgo some of their old ideologies and give place to their children's thoughts and opinions.

This new generation children only want to do things differently, that does not mean that theydisrespect their elders or their ideas. Wise are those parents who talk to their children andencourage them to talk to them about "Anything" and "Everything". They treat their children asequals and friends. They encourage their children to have confidence in themselves and their opinions. These parents are the one's who reap the profits of their confidence in their children.They can see how much their children are willing to talk to them are take their advice for all thatthey do.

Let us remember that anger and disputes do not solve any problems. The best solution to allproblems is keeping the lines of communication between You and your children open.

Children of all generations be it now or before are and were love and attention starved. As theLines of Communication widen we see how love and respect for one another grows and the socalled Generation Gap narrows.

The meaning of love and communication is thus explained in the lines below:

Love isn't necessarily seeing things eye to eye, all the time,and it isn't automatically agreeing with one another.Love isn't holding your silence, or closing your mind entirely,Not letting the other know what is bothering you.Love isn't always fighting, holding your own stubbornly,preferring to be right rather than happy.



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Love is Communicating !!!

Get Set Grow

You can raise your child to be a happy, balanced human being who is able to respect other people's needs and rights as well as valuing his own. So,

• Allow your kids to explore, experiment and develop self-help skills

• Let love express itself freely in your home and the ability toshow and feel love will endure.

• Listen to your children. Tell them that they have a right tosay no if they feel uneasy in a situation or when somebodytouches them in a way they don't like.

• Mutual respect, understanding, faith, trust, responsibility willgive them the ability to accept people for what they are.

• Motivate and stimulate interests and aptitudes to give thema sense of individuality and self confidence.Invite their friendsover, so that you can get to know them better.

• Check TV programs, tapes and Internet connections for suitability.

• Be flexible. Don't impose your ideas on them all the time. Listen to them, let them express their point of view, have a reasonable debate, and work out a compromise.

• Spend time together. Mealtime around the table, without the distraction of the TV is perfect.

• Reinforce acts of kindness or bravery, instead of eternally focusing on their faults. Telling youchildren that you're proud of them won't make them swollen headed. It will give them self esteem,and the strength to stick to your standards.

Get Your Kids to Listen

In today's busy life style parents are often pushed into a role of a drill master just to get everyonethorough the day. This approach is not only ineffective but it also leaves the children and parentsin an unhappy and angry mood. This adds up to the stress and strain which is faced by both thechildren and parents. Well! one must find out a way to get your things done the way you want it tobe done.

These few tips will help finding a solution to motivate your child to be cooperative, responsibleand pleasant. This will definitely go a long way to help them later.



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Your child won't get up in the morningParent: Get up! This is the last time I'm calling you.Try this: Good morning. It's 7 am. What should you be doing now?

Your child's room is very messyParent: Clean up your room right now, or else!

Try this: Clean up your room now or in ten minutes, it's your choice

Your child has had a mishapParent: There you go again, you are so clumsy...Try this: What do you need to do now to solve this problem?

Your child wants help with homeworkParent: You are so lazy, try harder! .... What were you doing atschool?Try this: It's your work, I'm confident you can do it.

As parents we often take too much responsibility for our kids. No wonder they wait until theumpteenth time they're called to get out of bed. The kids know that you will continue to coax

them, and they won't be late for school.

Nagging doesn't teach your child to be responsible. Decide what you will do, instead of whatyou're going to make your children do. Also, involve your child in taking some decisions for themselves.You'll get better results by helping the kids help themselves.

Explain the outcome of their behavior, be firm but not strict. Threats and ultimatums will only havea temporary effect to solving these problems.

Too much assistance to kids with their work will also make them slack. Let the kid haveconfidence and believe in their abilities, set clear rules for them for their study and habits, don'tmake your child over-dependent on you.

Things may get worse before they can get better. But in the long run, the extra effort to getchildren involved in solutions will help them become creative and motivated kids.

Sharing is not instinctive The fact is that children are not born with an innatesharing instinct. Very young children have notdeveloped the ability to view the world and the things init from anyone else's point of view other than their own.There is no specific age when children magicallybecome unselfish and willing to share. Sharing issomething that develops with maturity and every childmatures at his or her own pace. However, the right

environmental influences can give them a nudge in theright direction. Children learn to share more quickly in ahousehold where adults give and take and exhibit cooperative behavior Some children takelonger to share than others because they have the kind of temperament that is resistant tochange.



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Tips on teaching your child to share.

Do not make your child feel like she has a character flaw by labeling her as selfish and warningher that her behavior will result in her having no friends. Accept the fact that there are somethings that your child will just not be willing to share. In such a case, when you invite other children over to play, help her identify those toys that fall into the 'hands off' category and put

them away before the other children arrive. In this way, you can prevent skirmishes over toys.

Your child must be aware that just as she is possessive about her things, she must learn torespect other's possessions too.

Lay down some ground rules at the start. For instance, tell her that she will only be allowed toinvite other children over if she shares her toys. Or, you can tell her that she will have to share thenew video game with her brother or forfeit playing with it at all.

Create situations at home where your child will have no alternative but to share. For instance, if another child has come over give them one set of crayons between the two of them. Show your child that you can share too. If your child is having a hard time sharing, you may need tosupervise her playtime and encourage her to share. Praise your child every time she shares or

makes an unselfish gesture.

Discipline your kids...

Kids who have a general tendency to misbehave, lose temper, behave aggressively, have a habitto throw things need to be handled very carefully. Parents need to give it a serious thought andshould not react in the same way. They need to keep cool, really verycool!!!

Some useful tips:

1. Take a day off and spend some time with your kids, talk it out with

them. 2. Suggest a positive attitude towards life.

3. Teach them the art of self-control and self-discipline, but this maytake some time.

4. Use an unemotional approach in handling such situations.

5. Try withholding some privileges and negotiate them with better behaviour in return. 6. Just go for a walk with your child, give them some attention, it can do wonders. 7. Encourage good behaviour.

8. Be firm and don't accept untrue statements from your child



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Homoeopathic Remedies for kids

Note: Please consult your physician before using these remedies.

Cough

• Add little turmeric and sugar in hot milk & drink at night.

• Take 1 tablespoon of honey 4 times a day.

• Mix in 2 tablespoons of ginger juice a little honey and drink. • Mix in equal parts of 3gms tulsi leaves juice and ginger juice and add to it 1

spoon of honey and drink.

Cold

• Mix 1 teaspoon of ginger juice in 1 teaspoon of honey and have it 2 times a day.

• Mix mustard paste in honey and eat.

• Add sugar & black pepper to a cup of hot milk and drink to relieve cold.

• Boil a piece of ginger in milk and drink to relieve cold.

Sore Throat

• Gargle with vinegar to cure sore throat.

• Mix honey in water and gargle for relief.

• Gargle with salt water for relief.

Fever

• Boil Pudina (Mint) and Ginger in water and drink the extract to cure fever.

• Cold water fermentation helps bring down very high fever.

• Mix turmeric and pepper powder in a cup of hot milk and drink. • To cure malarial fever - Boil Tulsi leaves, black pepper and jaggery and add to it juice of

½ lemon and drink hot.

Ear Ache

• To reduce ear ache put a piece of garlic in hot oil, then let it cool and put a few drops of that oil in the ear.

• Put a few drops of warm ginger juice in the aching ear. • Put a few drops of honey into the aching ear.

• Put a few drops of Tulsi juice into the aching ear.

• A few drops of onion juice mixed with honey relieves ear pain.



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Cuts Wounds To stop blood oozing out of the wound

• Apply vinegar on the wound.

• Dip a bandage (cloth) in salt water and tie round the wound. • Mix turmeric in hot oil, cool it and apply on the wound. • Make paste of Tulsi leaves and apply on the wound.

Loose Motions

• To stop loose motions drink carrot juice. • Mix a pinch of salt and juice of fresh lime in warm water and drink. • Make tea with very little milk and add to it plain water and drink.

• Make a paste of crushed cardimon skin and honey.

Constipation

• Drink a glass of warm water first thing in the morning.

• Drink fresh lime juice in hot or cold water first thing in the morning and at last thing atnight every day.

• Mix 1 spoon of lime juice, 2 spoons of honey and 1 spoon of ginger juice in hot water anddrink.

• Eat 1-2 oranges before going to bed at night.

Asthama

• Heat a ripe banana on a (diva) flame, peel it, apply pepper on it and eat to relieveasthama.

• Make a paste of turmeric powder and a little ghee, eat it and drink hot milk on it.

• Two spoons of ginger juice mixed with honey will relieve asthama.

• Drink carrot juice everyday to cure asthama.

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