ParenthoodParenthoodWhat are some responsibilities of a What are some responsibilities of a parent?parent?

Teaching Self-Discipline Teaching Self-Discipline and Self-Controland Self-Control

The parents who are most effective in The parents who are most effective in helping their children learn self-discipline helping their children learn self-discipline and self-control are those who:and self-control are those who:

Set limits for their childrenSet limits for their children Are consistent in their actionsAre consistent in their actions Are neither too strict nor too permissiveAre neither too strict nor too permissive Discuss acceptable behaviors with their Discuss acceptable behaviors with their

childrenchildren Listen to their children and pay attention Listen to their children and pay attention

to their feelingsto their feelings

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Why are there such strict laws for Why are there such strict laws for those who want to drive a car, but those who want to drive a car, but there are not strict standards for there are not strict standards for more important roles of becoming more important roles of becoming a parent?a parent?

Before Becoming a Before Becoming a ParentParent

Parent – someone who guides a child to Parent – someone who guides a child to responsible adulthood. responsible adulthood. – One of the most important tasks in society.One of the most important tasks in society.

There are no rules for being a parent, no There are no rules for being a parent, no test to take, unless you are planning to test to take, unless you are planning to adopt.adopt.– Adoption is a long process, people who want Adoption is a long process, people who want

children can often be denied.children can often be denied.– Whereas people who may not want children Whereas people who may not want children

can have unintended/unwanted pregnancies.can have unintended/unwanted pregnancies.

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The three “Rs” of parentingThe three “Rs” of parenting– The reasons you want to have the childThe reasons you want to have the child– The responsibilities you will have as a The responsibilities you will have as a

parentparent– The resources you will need to raise a child.The resources you will need to raise a child.

Children are a big responsibility, they are needy Children are a big responsibility, they are needy and expensive. Raising a child from birth to 18 and expensive. Raising a child from birth to 18 can cost upwards of $200,000 or more! That can cost upwards of $200,000 or more! That doesn’t even include the cost of college…doesn’t even include the cost of college…

Reasons People Want to Reasons People Want to Become ParentsBecome Parents

Many times, the reasons people Many times, the reasons people give for wanting to become give for wanting to become parents center around themselves, parents center around themselves, not the best interest of a child.not the best interest of a child.

– What are some reasons people want What are some reasons people want to become parents?to become parents?

Reasons People Want to Reasons People Want to Become ParentsBecome Parents

Build up one’s egoBuild up one’s ego– To have a child who looks like meTo have a child who looks like me– To carry on the family nameTo carry on the family name– To have a child who will inherit the family To have a child who will inherit the family

business, money, or propertybusiness, money, or property To compensate for something that is To compensate for something that is

missingmissing– To improve one’s marriageTo improve one’s marriage– To make up for one’s unhappy childhoodTo make up for one’s unhappy childhood

To live vicariously through your child…To live vicariously through your child…

– To feel more secure as a male or femaleTo feel more secure as a male or female

Reasons People Want to Reasons People Want to Become ParentsBecome Parents

To conform to what peers are doing or To conform to what peers are doing or what others expectwhat others expect– To please one’s parentsTo please one’s parents

““You’ve been married for 3 years now when are You’ve been married for 3 years now when are you going to have my grandbabies?”you going to have my grandbabies?”

– To do what one’s peers are doingTo do what one’s peers are doing ““You don’t want to be the only couple without You don’t want to be the only couple without

children!”children!”– To avoid criticism for being childlessTo avoid criticism for being childless

To love and guide someoneTo love and guide someone– To have the satisfaction of loving a childTo have the satisfaction of loving a child– To help a child grow and developTo help a child grow and develop– To teach a child how to be responsibleTo teach a child how to be responsible

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Learn age appropriate development to Learn age appropriate development to have realistic expectations for the childhave realistic expectations for the child

Teach rules to ensure health and safetyTeach rules to ensure health and safety Teach with a positive attitudeTeach with a positive attitude Care for a child as the child grows and Care for a child as the child grows and

developsdevelops– Help the child develop emotional, social, Help the child develop emotional, social,

verbal, intellectual and motor skillsverbal, intellectual and motor skills

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Teach Self-discipline and self control Teach Self-discipline and self control with effective discipline, not abusewith effective discipline, not abuse

Discipline – the training that Discipline – the training that develops self discipline and self develops self discipline and self controlcontrol– Preventative Discipline – training in Preventative Discipline – training in

which a parent explains correct which a parent explains correct behavior and the consequences of behavior and the consequences of wrong behavior. (ex: Don’t put your wrong behavior. (ex: Don’t put your toys away you can’t use them)toys away you can’t use them)

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Behavior Modification – a disciplinary Behavior Modification – a disciplinary technique in which positive rewards are technique in which positive rewards are used to encourage desirable behavior and used to encourage desirable behavior and negative consequences to stop negative consequences to stop undesirable behavior.undesirable behavior.

Logical consequences of discipline – a Logical consequences of discipline – a disciplinary technique in which the child is disciplinary technique in which the child is allowed the opportunity to experience the allowed the opportunity to experience the results of undesirable behavior so that he results of undesirable behavior so that he or she will want to change the undesirable or she will want to change the undesirable behavior. (Ex: student constantly forgets behavior. (Ex: student constantly forgets homework, kid calls mom, mom doesn’t homework, kid calls mom, mom doesn’t bring the homework, kid gets a zero.)bring the homework, kid gets a zero.)

Resources needed for Resources needed for parenthoodparenthood

Having a child is an additional costHaving a child is an additional cost For many families there is an For many families there is an

additional loss of income during additional loss of income during maternity leavematernity leave

Financial consideration is Financial consideration is important when deciding to have important when deciding to have childrenchildren

Extended family supportExtended family support

Resources needed for Resources needed for parenthoodparenthood

What types of things are needed What types of things are needed for babies?for babies?– There are a lot of expenses that add There are a lot of expenses that add

up in the first year of a baby’s life! up in the first year of a baby’s life!

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What are the three “Rs” to consider What are the three “Rs” to consider before becoming a parent?before becoming a parent?

How does behavior modification How does behavior modification differ from logical consequence differ from logical consequence discipline?discipline?

What are 3 important responsibilities What are 3 important responsibilities of parents?of parents?

In your opinion, does a mother or In your opinion, does a mother or father have more responsibility for father have more responsibility for the baby? Explain your answer! the baby? Explain your answer!