Last month, George and Janna Kiser attended Karen Love’s

lecture on ‘Living with Dementia” and heard about her work with the Dementia Action Alliance. It was one of three offerings about dementia care; shifting from a focus on loss to one which embraces how much “Living” is ahead. This was especially meaningful to the Kisers because they are living with dementia. George has memory problems and Janna is his guide and coach.

Janna is well-suited for her role, “I am the one who needs to bring you a casserole when you are in distress. I’m called to a ministry of compassion.” George’s mother had dementia and

they were her caregivers. When they got George’s diagnosis in 2003 they battled back. Janna said, “You hear the information, go home, and get on with your life. We made adaptations: read everything we could, did everything the doctors told us to do, and tried everything we could.” Janna makes lists for George. He laughs at that, “She gets me to do a lot of things that way!” George has a daily routine he can depend upon. He gets the news on his computer every morning before they begin their activities for the day.

Janna explains, “People never lose the need for love and acceptance. It helps to live in this Christian community where people meet you where you are. We often dine in the Arbor Room and are grateful for the fellowship we have there. And we’re very active at Asbury (United Methodist Church).” George and Janna have reduced some of their volunteer activities, but still sing with the Asbury Chancel Choir and volunteer for the Aphasia Choir.

The couple have been married 23 years. George was an ATT

Communication Technician and Janna had a 32-year teaching career. Janna says, “George can still build anything. He has difficulty organizing his tools, but once he has them, he knows what to do.” At that point, George’s wit and spontaneous humor broke through, “I’ve got a ’39 Chevy in the garage that I’ve been working on. It’s a month older than me and it’s in better shape!”

BECOMING A DEMENTIA FRIENDLY COMMUNITY

BY CHARLENE FABIAN, VP DEVELOPMENT

MM

Pictured Above: George and Janna Kiser

November 2016 . Focus on Social Wellness

Reflecting Manor Life

Manor Mirror

INSIDE THIS ISSUE

CHAPLAIN 2BIRTHDAYS 2TRANSITIONS 2ACTIVE AGING WEEK 3GOOD READS 3OMM ROCKS 460TH ANNIVERSARY TEAM 5 OMM NEIGHBORS 6FEATURED EVENTS 7

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“Our need for love and acceptance never goes away.”

This was one of many profound statements that were shared in the recent Caring Conversation that was

held on campus at OMM in October. It was a gathering of those who care deeply about persons with dementia and who are exploring all the resources and ways those persons and their loved ones can live and thrive in spite of this disease. Not only were trained and professional leaders there. There were also a number of lay persons, including some with dementia and their care partners. All came to be a part of the conversation.

I was honored to be an observer and when I heard the above statement and as I listened to the conversation, I was reminded about the powerful gift that is given when someone is simply with, simply lovingly present to another person. In ministry training, the term “Ministry of Presence” is used to focus on the importance of this relational offering.

I thought of Emmanuel, God With Us, Whose coming we celebrate next month. “For God so loved that He gave,” and He gave us His Presence and salvation as His Present.

Our theme this month is Relational Wellness. Relational means being in relationship with, or, being with. Jesus told His disciples just before He ascended back into heaven, “I am with you always.” Is it possible He is inviting you, His follower, to offer His presence to those around you by being with them? I doubt there could be a much greater Present than that.

THE PRESENT OF PRESENCEBY DUB AMBROSE, CHAPLAIN

NOVEMBER BIRTHDAYS Billye Johnson ..........................1Maggie Morgan ........................1Wanda Stotts ............................2Barbara Bowen .........................3Nancy Pemberton ....................3Maryann Beene ........................4Jim White .................................4Lynette Danskin ........................5Brehman Herrin ........................5

Zagnona Cox ............................7Bill Heckenkemper ....................7Janet Purinton ..........................7Ruth Messler ...........................10Martha Beauchamp ................11Jim Kelly .................................11Marilyn Berry ..........................14Patricia “Pat” Graf ..................15Robert “Bob” Keener .............16

Becky Trimble .........................17Rollie Rhodes ..........................19Melba Rice ..............................19Donald Adams ........................21Robert “Bob” Hensley ............23Priscilla Hauxwell ....................26Dona Hamilton .......................26John Bundren .........................29Joan Campbell ...................... 30

ANNIVERSARIESJim & Dot Kelly .................................Nov. 21, 1964 Jerry & Carolyn Ehlers ......................Nov. 25, 1989

In Memory of: Billie Holeman .............. Sept. 26 Richard Thompson .......... Oct. 24 Pauline Ramey ................ Sept. 29 Bert Kennard ................... Oct. 26 Jack Sanders ....................Oct. 03 Kent Frizzell ..................... Oct. 26

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Active Aging Week this year hosted the first time ever OMM Senior Olympics. We had 56 people take part

in the games. Events ranged from walking & seated stepper competitions to tournaments including Wii bowling, ping pong and shuffle board. There were also basketball contests and a bean bag toss. The bean bag toss had the most entrants with 30 people taking part. Gold, silver and bronze medals were given out with 24 competitors being awarded gold, 8 silver and 7 bronze. Each participant received what is now the coveted OMM Senior Olympics T-shirt.

AAW also included the kick off of Life Bio 101 which is an 8 week course that guides the attendees through the process of writing their life story. The comfort Zone was a day of relaxation and pampering where those that attended had the opportunity to get a manicure, massage, reflexology, haircuts or a face massage.

The conclusion of AAW 2016 was Hands Around OMM which successfully brought the community together for prayer. We had members from every area of campus come together for a prayer led by Richard Hedger. Everyone received a red balloon and when the prayer ended we let the balloons go in one accord. This was followed by a simple but fun lunch of hotdogs, chips and drinks on the basketball court. One hundred and sixty people participated in the prayer and balloon release and 70 people attended the lunch.

The feedback I have received has been very complimentary of the whole week and members seemed to really enjoy the Olympics. This year’s Active Aging Week proved to be a very good example of social wellness. People came together to compete, cheer for and pray for each other. Oklahoma Methodist Manor is a great example to the greater Tulsa community of what it means to practice wellness and live a healthy vital life style.

ACTIVE AGING WEEK & SOCIAL WELLNESSBY KATIE COX, WELLNESS DIRECTOR

I just finished reading A Texas Ranger’s Family by Mae Nunn. This was very uplifting for me because it dealt

with putting one’s faith in God’s hands and trusting him to guide you through life. I especially like the manner in which the story line was developed, using many references to faith.

This book depicts the personal struggles of a notable photojournalist, Erin Gray, who left her family to pursue her career. She abandoned her husband Daniel, a Texas Ranger, and baby. Many years later she suffers debilitating injuries and returns home to heal… with every intention of leaving again. The baby is now a teenager and Daniel,

who never lost faith in Erin hopes they can come together as a family again. This book can be found in the Book Nook, 2nd floor of Felt House.

BY RENEA HUDSON

GOOD READS

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OMM ROCKS AT THE 60TH ANNIVERSARY CELEBRATION

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The 60th Anniversary would not have been possible without the countless hours and participation of the

following people. We wish to thank everyone for their enthusiastic help with planning and working on the anniversary details.

The 60th Anniversary Committee:

Those helping Phyllis Rhodes & Joyce Peace with the decorations:

Those Ambassadors helping Skip and Anne Johnson with the Open House: Those loaning items for the History Display in the Hobby Rooms:

Those contributing to the anniversary:Nita Boring sharing a 1950’s Watercolor entitled “Sentimental Journey” by Shirley Loveless Sutterfield (1999).

Elvis was played by Dr. Bill Crowell, Senior Pastor of St. Paul United Methodist Church, Tulsa.

Tom Douglass of Edmond Oklahoma showcased a 1950s automobile. He is the son of Frank & Opal Douglass.

We are grateful for all those who participated in the making of the Oral History of OMM. Their names are acknowledged in the video.

We are thankful for all of the OMM staff for endless hours planning and participating in all of the 60th Anniversary activities.

THANKS TO MANY VOLUNTEERS OF THE 60TH ANNIVERSARY CELEBRATIONBY STAN & GAYLE TETER, JERRY & CAROLYN EHLERS; CO-CHAIRMEN OF THE 60TH ANNIVERSARY

Jerry & Carolyn Ehlers Jess & Carolyn Evans Skip & Anne Johnson Philelle McBrayer Emma Ragsdale

Bud LangdonJune CleverdonBetty Sue McNabbJoyce PeacePhyllis Rhodes

Carolyn EvansJoanna TuersMarg Vilven-GrantHazel SpauldingJune CleverdonBetty Sue McNabbSharon GeisJeannette FosterTommie WatzkeCarol ToblerWanda StottsMary Ann KirkEmma RagsdaleOpal DouglassPearl Rhoads

Meredith GentryAnne JohnsonFrona WallaceMary PaullFrances BaberEmily WoodHoward RhodesDorothy VanFossenStella SchwartzLouise ZeliffPeggy ZiglarJan SteffensenHelen PummillGinny Crook

Lou FeltsRichard & Dolores HedgerStella SchwartzRoberta Hairston

Ken & Carol ToblerGuy & Vicky LangstonPhyllis Rhodes

Emma Ragsdale Carolyn EvansPhilelle McBrayerJulia Greenlee

Jill HoilienBetty Sue McNabbMae TimmonsNita Boring

60th Anniversary CommitteeFront: Carolyn Evans, Bud Langdon, Emma Ragsdale, Anne Johnson, Betty Sue McNabb, June CleverdonBack: Jess Evans, Joyce Peace, Stan & Gayle Teter, Phyllis Rhodes, Steve Dickie, Skip Johnson, Philelle McBrayer, Jerry & Carolyn Ehlers

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OMM NEIGHBORS

Renea Hudson (Felt House)

Renea moved to her new home in Felt House in July. She heard about OMM from Earl and Joanna Tuers who are related… sort of. Earl’s daughter is married to Renea’s brother. When Renea toured OMM, she said it just felt right for her. “It seemed like home.” And, now that she is living here, she feels she has been embraced into a caring family. Renea is a native Tulsan. She met her husband right out of high school and they married when she was very young. She and her husband have one daughter and two grandchildren. Her husband died of cancer in 2010. Renea worked for 32 years in marketing, financial aid and advertising

for Spartan School of Aeronautics. She says her favorite part of her career was visiting with people from 42 countries who came to the school to learn to fly and maintain aircraft. Renea is currently in physical therapy twice a week to strengthen her legs and knees. She is looking forward to transitioning to Spann and joining the classes and programs. She has joined the Mexican Train domino group and is a frequent visitor to the Book Nook in Felt house. Lite fiction is her favorite genre. Be sure to see her review in this issue’s Good Reads.

Bill and Lucy Spear (Crestwood)

Both Bill and Lucy Spear were born and raised in the Fort Smith, Arkansas area. Lucy laughs when she tells you that it was eight years and three children later before she completed degree in Home Economics and went on to get a Masters in Community Service at TU. Lucy retired from teaching in 1986. After high school, Bill joined the Air Force and was a gunner in a B26. His plane was shot down on the very first mission in 1945. For the next three months he was in the hands of the Germans as a Prisoner of War. After returning from the war Bill completed his degree and went to work for PSO, followed by working for the Southwest Power Administration in Arkansas, where he retired in 1987. When Bill met Lucy at a USO dance in 1946 he wasn’t thinking about the war or the struggles he had endured as a POW. He was intrigued by her beauty both inwardly and outwardly, and to this day he describes her as a “beautiful soul.” They married eight months later. Bill and Lucy have enjoyed traveling to numerous countries over the years. Some of their favorites include Italy, France, Australia and New Zealand. The Spear’s moved to their Crestwood apartment at OMM in July of 2016. They love going to the Spann Wellness Center, participating in the OMM Choir, attending the Book Club as well as the movies. But one of the most appreciated things that Lucy noted is that with the dining options available on campus she no longer needs (or wants) to cook. The couple celebrated their 70th wedding anniversary this year and say the secret to a happy marriage is “patience, good health, and common goals.”

Featured Life Enrichment Events

VOICES OF UNITY CONCERTMonday, November 7, 7:00 p.m. in Fleming Center

Back at OMM by popular demand, Voices of Unity was formed in 2009 by Janice Bayouth, former vocal music director at Tulsa’s Booker T. Washington High School. The mission of this multi-ethnic a cappella choir is to help preserve the history of the American Negro Spiritual and to promote unity within the community through music. In addition to their own concerts, they have also performed at Tulsa’s Martin Luther King and Juneteenth celebrations, and other important civic events. As the choir’s reputation has grown, their repertoire has expanded to include pop, classical, and gospel. This concert will be an opportunity for inspiration, assurance, and unity as we prepare for Election Day. No event reservations necessary. RSVP for campus shuttle by 4:00 p.m. on Friday, November 4.

OMM VETERANS DAY SERVICEFriday, November 11, 2:00 p.m. in Fleming Center

Led by OMM Chaplain Rev. Dub Ambrose, this service is a meaningful tribute to those who have so selflessly served

our country in the United States Armed Forces. No event reservations necessary. RSVP for campus shuttle by 4:00 p.m. on November 10.

ART ADVENTURESTuesday, November 29, 1:00-2:30 in Hobby Room 2RSVP by November 15.

Alton Carter, Director of Youth Ministries at First United Methodist Church in

Stillwater, whom you will remember from his book The Boy Who Carried Bricks, and Janelda Lane, illustrator of the book and Assistant Director of Youth Ministries at First Stillwater, will be here to guide beginning painters in learning to paint with acrylics. Explore your creative side with these two dynamic and talented folks who are sure to make it fun! If you’ve never painted before, you’ll be delighted with what you can do with some brief instructions and guidance. Alton and Janelda will provide everything you need; you just need to bring an open mind and a willingness to discover your artistic potential.

In addition, Volunteer Assistants are needed for Art Adventures in the Households, 10:30-11:30 a.m., on November 29. Alton and Janelda will also be sharing their artistic inspiration with our members in the Health Center. Independent living members are needed to assist with this session, rinsing brushes, helping with supplies, and assisting painters. If you are willing to be a volunteer assistant with this session, RSVP by November 11.

OMM CHORUS & UKULELE GROUP WELCOME CHRISTMASThursday, December 1, 7:00 p.m. in Fleming Center

Making beautiful music together, the OMM Chorus and the OMM Ukulele Group, both made up of your fellow members, will welcome the holiday season with rousing music and singalongs. They will be joined by the University United Methodist Chancel Choir for a grand night of music to kick off the Christmas season. No event reservations necessary. RSVP for campus shuttle by 4:00 p.m. on November 30.

SAVE THE DATE FOR CHRISTMAS AT THE MANOR:Thursday, December 15, 6:00-8:00 p.m.

Bring the family for this campus-wide celebration. Tickets will

be available at the Concierge and Receptionist desks beginning at noon on November 28.

BY IRENE BROWN, LIFE ENRICHMENT COORDINATOR

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OMM 60TH ANNIVERSARY OPEN HOUSE.

Irene Brown, Life Enrichment Coordinator and Steve Dickie, CEO welcome guests to the 60th Anniversary Birthday Bash. (See pages 4-5 for more photos.)