Men’s Information Sheet to Every Region: December 2019.

Mostly Men’s Matters. Monthly Networking Men’s Groups and Communities in Australia (and beyond).

MISTER for men to enhance lives using personal awareness and support. Direction, not perfection!

“Men need to have conversa-tions amongst themselves where they can be vulnerable with each other” David Leser.

The Centre Within. Rural towns Queensland: “Helen Everingham presents practical courses in ef-fective living on this creative web-site. CDs and USB sticks are available to buy to use in any lo-cation, ideal for farmers.” See: heleneveringham.com Click: “Latest news” for all news-letters. Worth checking out.

Useful Links: bit.ly/2VVrcT2

COME JOIN US IN 2020. Tasmanian Men’s Gathering MARCH 2020 Far South Wilder-

ness Camp for: "Clear Vision. Authentic Path", our 23rd annual men’s gathering theme on Friday 6th to Monday 9th March 2020. We help men get out of their heads and into their hearts; ; live and speak from their hearts. Why have we been crafting our three day gatherings for over 20 years? It benefits you, your family, friends and workmates. See lot more:: tasmen.org.au/home Click all links across the top. Last year 13 men shared their sto-ries in the Men With Heart Exhi-bition held in Waterside Pavilion, Hobart, 8-14 October 2018. See: bit.ly/36TI1TG

Men, don’t feel left-out, see these websites for details of Australian Men’s Gatherings for you: bit.ly/2MsRaau

See Paul Hoelen's video of Men with Heart exhibition as an exam-ple of changing of understanding of men by Tasmanian Men’s Gath-erings and those around Australia. See it on this website and it will take more time than you think to get through it all, just like people found at the original display in Hobart: bit.ly/2p7v73p

“Spanner in the Works?” pro-vides you with a maintenance schedule for your body, and some key health messages in a way that’s understandable and achiev-able. It’s not about telling you what to do but sets out some things that you can do (or not do) to improve your health and your chances of a longer, and happier life. Often, minor adjustments can have a major impact on your health, your relationships with loved ones, your friends and your work. Get a full health check through your GP.” More: malehealth.org.au Select your age ranges to get information: 20 - 29 30 - 39 40 - 49 50 - 59 60 - 69 70 and over.

Preventing male suicide: The basic mistake holding us back. See: bit.ly/2KDxSAR Play the video: “How men deal with their problems.” “One of the biggest mistakes is to treat male suicide and female suicide as though they’re the same. Suicide prevention efforts often focus on people who have been diagnosed with a mental illness, or have attempted sui-cide before. A huge proportion of at-risk men fit in neither catego-ry, often invisible to the mental health system. The vast majority of people who report attempting suicide are women. Men are far more likely to die at the first re-ported attempt. Around 80 per cent of male suicides are not linked to any mental health diag-nosis. Which begs the question — what are they linked to? “Different types of life crises,” Mr Poole says. “Relationship breakdown, work issues — whether that’s stress at work or the stress of not having work — financial stress, for older men physical health issues, and other things such as bereavement, al-cohol abuse, trouble with the law.” The key is to focus on help-ing men overcome those issues. Lot more: bit.ly/2KDxSAR (Note: Glen Poole, Development Officer, Australian Men’s Health Forum provided a lot of above dia-logue in a broader context. Ed.)

MISTER is a monthly edition, time to absorb this great top-ic: Men making friends: bit.ly/2Z8uwv1

Individual sites of importance: ** “If men won’t really talk to one another about the problems in their lives, then companionship isn’t much better for you than loneliness.” Why do men have such a difficult time maintaining friendships? tgam.ca/35mMLja **Men Have No Friends, Women Bear the Burden: bit.ly/2OvR9W5 **Guys Need Bros/Five Ways to Find Male Friendships: bit.ly/2QCdLa1 **How to Make Friends as a Mid-dle-Aged Man: bit.ly/2XvsQMb **The biggest threat facing middle-age men isn’t smoking or obesity. It’s loneliness: bit.ly/35fLE4y (Great overall topic for discussions among men. Ed.)

Wise Words. “Often people attempt to live their lives backwards, they try to have more things or more money in order to do more of what they want so that they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are then do what you need to do in order to have what you want. ” Mar-garet Young: bit.ly/2D7mjxO

Editor: Ron Parnell. baronpar@hotmail.com

NB: Content from all websites is provided for education and in-formation purposes only. (Ed.)

Phone Lifeline: 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636. Informed awareness and intervention can save lives.

Book: Listen to Me, by Jerry and (son) Lee Jampolski. “We believe what kept us moving so fast was our old fears that had been hidden inside of us since we were little children. Like us, many men have lost all soul awareness. It has been replaced with the need to achieve, succeed, compete, and conquer. Eventually we abandoned our-selves and our soul in an attempt to be accepted. As men we need to return to our soul.” (P.111.) Book:

bit.ly/2hnw8fI (scroll down.)

Great national/ international referral site for Men’s Health is-sues and check out all of the in-formative links on the website for selection of organisations working to improve men and boys’ health: www.amhf.org.au/links/ AND: www.amhf.org.au/

“We are not in a position in which we have nothing to work with. We already have a start: we already have capacities, tal-ents, direction, missions, call-ings.” A. Maslow.

www.misternewsletter. com.au Newsletters. Links.

Men’s Health - an extensive list of sites check : bit.ly/2nlPMN8

“Maturity is reached by communi-cating and interacting with others”. John Powell.

Personal Attachment Styles. Four main styles have been identi-fied. Gain a clearer concept of self for personal understanding. 1 A secure attachment style is those possessing a positive view of self and a positive view of others; 2. An anxious-preoccupied at-tachment style is those possessing a negative view of self and a posi-tive view of others; 3. A dismissive-avoidant attach-ment style by those possessing a positive view of self and a negative view of others; 4. A fearful-avoidant attachment style is those possessing an unsta-ble fluctuating/confused view of self and others. Full detail: bit.ly/2q6w6Rp

We need to think about how to help our sons and other young men grow into good men. Anon.

Fear of abandonment and compul-sive behaviours. “A fear of abandonment is thought to stem from childhood loss or trauma. It is arguably one of the most common and most damaging fears of all. People with fear of abandonment tend to dis-play compulsive behaviors and thought patterns that affect their relationships, ultimately resulting in the abandonment they dread becoming a reality. This fear can be devastating and result in stay-ing in a bad situation far too long. Understanding it is the first step toward resolving the issue.” More: bit.ly/2KbW4tM

Statement about our boys. “I think society and the Education System would do well to provide some focus and training for young people - especially boys becoming men, in how to connect with socie-ty and community, how to volun-teer in their local community and for the community to provide practical skills in helping others, rescue, first aid. It should be a whole mandatory subject in Year 11 and 12”. (Alan Raby, Tasmania Men.)

Very special interview: Video about “Family” Court? Bettina Arndt talks to Ezequiel Trumper about how false allega-tions are the weapon of choice for women aiming to destroy their ex-partners and achieve parental alienation. "Its pretty disturbing how many men are are loosing out, having reputa-tions damaged by a systematic failure in the family law sys-tem. Its time for men to stand up on this" Play the video: bit.ly/35arrNK

How effective is marriage coun-selling? A topic that would be of interest to many. Check websites: bit.ly/33vK7Hn “Poorly trained counsellors doing more harm than good”: ab.co/2JVDrdL “Relationship counselling fails more than one in four couples, with those experiencing the greatest distress the least likely to benefit from professional help, says Australian Institute of Fami-ly Studies.” To sum-up: “It is often hard to relate to someone you have never met and don’t know very well.” (Anon.)

Book: Fire in the Belly (On being a man), by Sam Keen. “Woman, as the mother, continues to have enormous power over our adult lives because her most important les-sons are taught wordlessly. She shapes us before we understand language, and therefore her influence is hidden from our adult consciousness. Her instruc-tions remain within us like posthyp-notic suggestion. In the degree that Mother remains a shadow presence in the life of a man, he will see himself and all women as if reflected in Moth-er’s eyes. He will perform for them as he performed for her, fearing displeas-ure, courting approval. Almost inevita-bly, men marry Mother unless they have undertaken the long struggle to recognise and exorcise WOMAN from their psyches.” (Page 19.) (I recommend this honest book about being a man. Ed.)

“Websites: bit.ly/2OtYKqf

for early pages 0f the book on: amzn.to/2nLRJ5c

Australian drought and bushfires 2019. “Bushfire risk was exacer-bated by record break-ing drought, very dry fuels and soils, and record breaking heat. Bushfire conditions are now more dangerous than in the past. The risks to people and property have increased and fire seasons have lengthened. It is becoming more dangerous to fight fires in Australia.” Lot more: bit.ly/2CPa351