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MONTH OF LOVE

then you can share it with others right? So ladies and gentlemen make sure to feel special and do things which make you happy as well.

Have you gifted yourself anything shortly? Have you ever bought those

beautiful flowers for yourself? Then why wait??? Its time now!!!! Many times people actually mistake infatuation as love. There is a very thin line of a difference between love & infatuation.

Love the right kind of people, with whom you feel safe, secured and not scared or unsecured. Love teaches us to stay strong and not cheat anyone connected directly or indirectly to us. The day you realize that you're being used or just not treated in a right manner that's the day for you to set free from a false relation.

This Valentines stay free; stay secured, stay honest, stay romantic, most of all stay loved!!!

ove is a strong feeling of Laffection. May it be between a

c oup l e , c h i l d / p a r e n t s ,

grandparents, teachers, friends or any

such relation, love is something which

has no boundaries, no restrictions and

is unconditional.

I call Love as inspiring because, the bound of love teaches us the value of a person in our life, a person like a mother, father, siblings, and your soul mate (partner).

It is not necessary to have this day only for others. For those single or even otherwise, it is a day firstly for oneself to feel loved and pampered as well. Only when you love yourself enough,

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Himani Singla, Patiala, PunjabDiamond Jewellery Dealer, Home-maker

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mruta karvande (23), who Agrew up in an orphanage in Goa and is currently pursuing

her masters in economics in Pune, is the face behind the state government’s h i s t o r i c d e c i s i o n t o g i v e 1% reservation in the open category for orphans. The state move is aimed at helping orphans get education and employment,especially in government services.

Amru t a , a n a sp i r i n g d i s t r i c t administrative officer, had cleared the M a h a r a s h t r a P u b l i c S e r v i c e Commission (MPSC) prelims with excellent marks in her first attempt. However, she was disqualified in MPSC mains, as she did not possess documents to back her identity. 

“Since chi ldhood I have been considered in the open category as I do not know which category I belong to. Therefore, I missed the chance

despite having a good score,” said Amruta.“My only query to the CM was that when there are reservations for specially-abled, backward classes, sports, etc., where do the orphans fall among these? Who and how will it be decided from which category we belong?,” asked Amruta.

Amruta, has all her life struggled as she she was held under the open category. “Due to this, I never received any grants or exemption fees as nobody knew in which category I fall,” said Amruta.

A m r u t a w a s b r o u g h t u p i n Matruchhaya orphanage in Goa. When she turned 18, she had to leave the orphanage and start all by herself. “ E v e r y o r p h an ag e t a ke s t h e responsibility of any orphan only until 18 years. Later, they are left to survive by themselves. I was given an option to either get married or leave the

orphanage,” she said.

Speaking about her passion to become a civil servant, Amruta said, “I have been asked several questions on my identity, mocked and teased because I am an orphan. I wanted to create my own identity and make a place in society. Also, the conditions I faced in my life, many others do, in order to help them, I want to be in the system and make changes in perception of people in the society.”

On January 10, 2018 the CM announced that the government is planning to enact a law where orphans appearing for competitive exams will be in a separate category. This change will be the first in history of India and would mark a revolutionary change in the lives of millions.

Sagar Datrange, MumbaiChartered Accountant

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SWACHH ENVIRONMENT: SWASTH DIMAG

Dr. Anita Gautam, Jaipur Director Clinical Operation and Consultant Psychiatrist

he environment around a child Taffects its physical and mental health. A study in November

2006 by University of Sussex on 100 English families with small children found a clear link between cleanliness and order and well behaved children. Mes s y homes and unh yg i en i c environment af fected behaviour patterns in a child.

In 2011, the Journal of Neuroscience published a study that showed that too many varied objects in view of toddler had a negative effect on its ability to focus. This maybe because a messy or cluttered environment in house overstimulated the mind which in turn lead to slowed learning.

Flowers, greenery or pleasant view release positive and pleasure hormones in the brain. Messy, cluttered or dirty surroundings evoke stress hormones and unpleasant feelings. Unhygienic e n v i ronmen t s c au s e i n f e c t i on compromising physical and mental development of the child.

When a ch i ld i s r ea red in an environment where things are in order and clean, they learn to be disciplined and organized. Such an attitude would help them learn and retain more. Setting clear guidelines is not only healthier but would enable them to behave better and in a disciplined manner.

When there are too many books or things on study table, it distracts attention and decreases concentration of a child leading to anxiety and inability to learn in a relaxed atmosphere. What a child learns in its early days become a habit, being organized is a habit which could lead to success in later life.

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WHEAT THE “CULPRIT”

also the digestive wall. Gluten is the main protein found in wheat and a few other grains like rye, spelt and barley. Its name is derived from its glue-like property. This protein gives dough its elasticity and makes it pliable. If you’ve ever handled wet dough then you will know what I’m talking about.

Celiac disease is a serious disease which may affect up to 1% of the population. However, there is evidence that a much larger percentage of people may be “sensitive” to wheat. They don’t have full-blown celiac disease, but they do have symptoms when they ingest gluten. Of course, it’s important to point out that not all people are sensitive to wheat. Some people appear to tolerate it just fine.

Now who should think of eliminating

arbohydrates are the major Csource of energy in the body. We eat a variety of carbs like

whole wheat, bread, pasta, potatoes, rice etc. There are countless numbers of benefits of wheat and it’s indeed a staple diet for millions of people all across the world. There are some who do not tolerate wheat during their weight loss program.

When consumed it gives them a runny tummy, a sense of bloating and also prevents them from losing weight. It’s not that they are allergic to it, but wheat doesn’t suit their system. The problem with modern wheat is that many people are unable to properly digest the gluten in it. The immune system sees the gluten proteins in the digestive tract and thinksthey’re foreign invaders and mounts an attack not just against the gluten but

wheat from their diet or how would you know if wheat is the culprit in your daily diet? Watch for symptoms like stomach ache, bloating, constipation or loose motions, lethargy & skin allergies in some cases. Stop it for a week and see if you feel better.Replace it with millets like jowar, bajra or nachani in your diet and see if the digestion improves.

The key to good health is paying attention to your body. Be conscious of what you put on your plate even if it is generally healthy.he future relationships of your child.

Here are some suggest ions on promoting healthy development in toddlers: 1. Physical Development: Nutritional food in optimum amounts and exercise is the key. Food should be homemade. Eating out or packaged food is often processed with lot of preservatives with any nutritional value. Also, playtime for these toddlers in a safe and supervised environment is essential.

2. Intellectual Development: Teaching through play is the best way. Children can’t differentiate between studies and fun games. So, if utilized properly by their caregivers and teachers, toddlers could have a constant curiosity and the urge to learn more.

3. Emotional Development: Loving and responding to other’s love defines this development. A child's primary relationship is with its parents and it views every other relationship in that eye. The amount of trust and love that you share mutually, affects the future relationships of your child.

t is very common to use the word I‘critical’ when we are talking about child development. Naturally, every

year is critical because that is a formative phase, where the child gains trust, confidence and a sense of self-worth to deal with the challenges in later years.The most crucial reason of all is that of the brain’s growth. Seventy-five percent of the human brain develops in the first three years, and the last fifteen percent develops till the age of 6 years.

It is very important for parents of the toddlers to understand that brain development doesn’t limit to enriching nutrients alone. Research studies show that a major chunk catalyzing the development of the brain is the environment where child spends its maximum time. The environment has to be intellectually stimulating and emotionally nourishing. The richer this nurturance, stronger the neural networks in the brain, and the child will be more capable and understanding.

The three developments, physical, inte l lectual and emotional , are important on their own and are alsointerlinked.

CHILD’S DEVELOPMENT - A Critical Milestone Gayatri Bapat, Bangalore / Delhi Counselling Psychologist

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his is the first time I have taken space in TREPORTher for something personal. I feel it’s required to bring out the crux of REPORTher

because if I myself don’t recognise and acknowledge people around me, then how can I expect someone else to feel the same and come up with stories for this space. Can only business women or an iconic figure be a woman of inspiration? No, not necessarily. Beauty and inspiration lies in small things around us which leave a big impact on our upbringing and that which we tend to ignore a lot of times.

Today for the first time, I take this opportunity to introduce my first lady, the one who has been the source of my inspiration and existence - my mother,

Yogini. Mrs. Yogini, wife of Dr. Ketan V Shah, mother Priyesh and Harshita , extended mother of Rohini and Sagar and now grandmother of Naksh and Saachi; well, that’s how she addresses herself. With such a long identity, she has happily walked past the identity of her own self, of Yogini.

She was once an amazing artist; a famous dancer, who in the 1970’s was in the media for her shows; an entrepreneur who tried her hands at various ventures; an accountant who served the service industry for 10 years; a philanthropist who contributed to the needy; a social worker with the old age homes and schools with special needs children and a wonderful teacher.

Years ago, she fought for the existence of girl child. She strived hard to support her husband in community service which he was passionate about. She played a dual role of a father and a mother for more than half her life, and today she is happy being the hidden support system who doesn’t claim or doesn't wish for its credit. As years passed by, all the identities she had went under wraps and today she lives for her family. In her 60’s now, she enjoys her space of cooking, reading and being a helping hand to one and all.

INVESTMENT IS A KEY TO HAPPINESSSrashti Suneriya Mittal, Haryana

Equity Research Analyst, Home-maker

Investment is not just for men but is equally important for women and more so in today’s life.

Let’s understand it why. 1. Makes you independent: If you are a house wife, you totally depends on your husband and even if you are working, you don’t feel the need to invest. But investing makes you secure and independent.

2. Maintain an organized life: Times change, people change, life changes and with this plans change. To maintain an organized life, it is important to save. Planning your money and investing it will help with family planning, changes in lifestyle, health insurance and especially during emergencies for any kind. Organising your money will help organize and secure your life.

3. Facing uncertainty: Future is uncertain and unpredictable. To attend to unprecedented situations like an accident, disease, death or the effects of natural calamities, it helps best if you’ve

secured yourself financially to deal with these situations.

There are many investment plans, you can go opt an SIP if want to invest in small amounts each month instead of a large sum. There are insurance plans that for your life, business assets, emergencies and soon. If you have knowledge of the share market you can choose to invest there or can invest in commodities like be gold or silver.

Buy a property is another investment or renting a property can be a means of an additional rental income. So, ladies start investing and you will feel more secure, independent and happy.

She has worked hard to maintain peace and harmony in the family and the community around. In her journey, she happily sacrificed her own desires, her passion for entrepreneurship to bring up her children and support her husband in his career, health or life, and thus that’s the biggest support and inspiration she could teach us for life. Love you ma!

ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE Neha Vasdev, Delhi

Senior Analyst

about. Take the last moments of your day to reflect on the good things about your day, seeing the negative as learning and evaluate from the perspective of what you can learn, not how you failed. While it can be great to have goals, don’t let y you get too caught up in how things “should” be.

Be prepared to let go of your attachments to any outcome so that you can be open to something bigger than you have ever imagined. It may be bigger and better than what you expected. Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional!

aintaining an emotional Mbalance in every walk of life can make you go miles and

also make you a better person. One should keep a check on one's actions, thoughts and beliefs. It’s very easy to get carried away by emotions especially when your mind is clouded by negative thoughts. It's easier said than done. We know it’s easier preaching all this than actually practicing it in real.

It all about perceives an idea, making it your code and acting and believing upon the same. No matter in how much difficult situation you are, time heals almost everything. Give time some time! Being humble and patient is the best thing you can do to yourself, at least for the sake of your own peace of mind. Mental health should be the prime concern given the world we are living in today. Practice a bit of gratitude, do not act or pretend. In stressful situation, search for one thing that you can say honest thanks

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INGREDIENTS:Ÿ 2tbsp melted butter Ÿ 3tbsp condensed milk Ÿ 3tbsp powdered sugar Ÿ 4tbsp coffee milk warm Ÿ 4tbsp flour (maida) Ÿ 1/8tsp baking powder Ÿ Pinch of baking soda Ÿ 2tbsp walnut

Procedure: Ÿ To start, add all the above

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Ÿ Mix all the ingredients well and check for lumps. Beat well.

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t e r m a c q u a i n t a n c e s o r l o v e connections. As a counsellor, I have often witnessed my clients fighting an uphill battle to break free the shackles of negative energy thrown upon them by their assumed close ones, which incessantly block their personal and professional progress.

My recent experience with a well-educated, financially independent lady who was struggling hard to cut off ties with her emotionally draining relations made me wonder, is playing victim easier than standing up for oneself? Eventually when she burnt the bridges, her texts with beaming ecstasy read, “I feel empowered now”. Words can lie, so can actions, but energy can’t. Let go of anything that your intuition doesn’t affirm. It’s not about feeding your ego or getting on your high horse, it’s about living an authentic life with deserved respect.

People who bring others down, shatter

their confidence, disrespect their choices, manipulate them, demean their calibre, envy them, try to exercise control over others are undoubtedly toxic for our mental and emotional well-being. Without an ounce of guilt, dump the ones who bring out the worst in you or put spoke in your wheel of cherished dreams.

We are meant to be around people who tap our highest potential and empower us to be a better person. Choose people you reverberate with to experience the pleasure of compatible relationships.

eing an ardent admirer of Buniversal laws and having manifested almost everything I

ever wanted in life, by raising my vibrations to match up with my object of desire, I now have a strong belief, in this subtle personal energy generated around us. It is basically the best detector of human emotion that shows the real person no matter the veil.

Our personal energy resonates with certain individuals, thus their presence in our vicinity elevates our mood and vitality. Similarly, with certain others an undefined, inexplicable repulsion instinctively indicates their energy isn’t attuned to ours. Energetic compatibility, being prime requisite for a healthy r e l a t i on sh i p , w i t hou t wh i ch a connec t i on f ee l s f o rce f i t t ed , accentuating its toxicity.

Defenestrate the ones who make your soul uncomfortable, no matter the blood bonds, communal tie-ups, long-

things every Indian should know 4about The Special Marriage Act, 1954.

India is a diverse country and thus has people from a number of religions and cultures, residing here. We are aware of the extent of influence that caste and religion have in our country. Inter-caste/rel ig ious marr iage is st i l l considered a taboo in many places in our country. Parliament enacted the Special Marriage Act, 1954 which provides for a special form of marriage for the people of India and all Indian nat iona ls in fore ign countr ies , irrespective of the caste and religion they follow.

1. Scope of the Act: The Special Marriage Act deals with inter caste and inter-religion marriages. The act is a special legislation that was enacted to provide for a special form of marriage, by registration where the parties to the marriage are not required to renounce his/her religion.

2. Application of the Act: This Act covers marriages among Hindus, Muslims, Christians, Sikhs, Jains and Buddhists. This act applies to every state of India, except the state of Jammu & Kashmir. This Act extends not only to the Indian citizens belonging to different castes and religions but also to the Indian nationals living abroad.

3. Requirements: The basic requirement for a valid marriage under this Act is the consent of both the parties to the marriage. If both the parties are ready to marry each other, here caste, religion, race, etc cannot act as a hindrance to their union.

4. Conditions: The conditions required for this marriage are similar to normal marriages, which happen within the caste. These are the conditions to be eligible for a marriage under this Act: –

Ÿ The bridegroom must be at least 21 and the bride must be at least 18 years of age at the time of marriage.

Ÿ B o t h t h e p a r t i e s m u s t b e monogamous at the time of their mar r iage; i .e . they must be unmarried.

Ÿ and should not have any living spouse at that time.

Ÿ The parties should be mentally fit/sane in order to be able to decide for themselves.

Ÿ They should not be related to t h e m s e l v e s t h ro u g h b l o o d relationships; i.e. they should not c o m e u n d e r p r o h i b i t e d relationships, which will otherwise act as a ground to dissolve their marriage.

Special Marriage Act, holds high importance not only for the people who have registered their marriage under the act but also to all the citizens of the country in order to have a better understanding of the law and treat the marriages between different castes and religions to be equally sacred and auspicious like the marriages between one’s own caste.

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n l i fe, happiness is as more Iimportant as we take breath. Women can search happiness in small and

little things. If you want to be happy then find the little things in daily routine life and see, you feel that life is very beautiful.

In this stressful life, mother is always tensed about her children that they ,"eat properly or not "and they are sleeping well or not and many more things which make life very stressful but when husband asks his wife, “you have your dinner or your fine", than the feeling of wife is top of the world. The small thing that asked by husband, it makes the life of the wife more beautiful.

If women has a job, pays her bills, and manages to live comfortable before she met her life partner and understand that she wants loyalty not money because money can't buy happiness. "Enjoy the little things in life for one day you will look back and realize they were the big things". The smile on women's face

MONEY CAN'T BUY HAPPINESS Amisha Khiyani, Thane Student

doesn't mean her life is perfect. It means she appreciate what she have and what God has blessed with her.

There are many things in daily life where women can search their happiness. One reason is that people tend to expect their happiness to come from big things like a promotion at work place or buying some gold. If we think that a rich man buy a diamond ring for his wife to feel her special and happy but a middle class man doesn't afford that much money to buy some expensive gift for his wife then too his wife is very happy that God has gifted her a peaceful and happy life because she search her happiness in little things.

Once a lady has pain in her legs than her husband come and made a cup of tea for her and gave her and told her not to worry about dinner we'll go in the restaurant, than that lady feels like she get all the happiness throughout this world. For instance, if your dream is to have a lot of money, what would that

Ÿ Feeling angry and irritated Ÿ Feeling life is worthless

How can we manage PPD Untreated depression can be lonely, confusing, and even scary if your condition gets worse. The good news is that it's very treatable, so you don't have to feel this way. Depression is a medical condition that requires treatment. It's not a sign of weakness.

Be honest with yourself and those who care about you. Tell them about your struggle. You, your doctor, and your friends and family can team up to treat your postpartum depression symptoms.

Some of the options for treating PPD are: Ÿ Counselling Ÿ Anti-depressents Ÿ Get as much sunlight as you canŸ Keep your shades and curtains openŸ And get outside as much as you can.Ÿ Exercise helps improve mood.

PD? What exactly is a PPD..? It Pactually stands for Post-Partum Depress ion. But how can

someone have a depression soon after such a big bundle of happiness in their lives.

If you are a new mommy with your bundle of joy in your arms but you somewhat feel sad and hopelessness, then this is nothing but PPD. Sometimes it is difficult to know whether it is stress o r ex h au s t i o n o r d ep r e s s i on . Altogether, childbirth and motherhood is a stressful and tiring job. With postpartum depression, feelings of sadness and anxiety can be extreme and might interfere with a woman’s ability to care for herself or her family.

What are the symptoms of PPD Ÿ Loss of interest or enjoyment Ÿ Crying and cribbing all the time Ÿ Sadness and emptiness Ÿ Difficulty in decision making Ÿ Avoiding family and friends

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money do for u? Having a luxurious life or some food, etc. But what about your happiness, careness and love?

Make a list of things that make u happy and Make a list of things you do everyday, then compare it you get to know what things make you happy. So, I think it's important to find the little things in everyday life that make you happy.

“Happiness is a lot of small things done well everyday".

ailure to Freedom is a real-life Fstory of man who, at the peak of his career, was bogged by his

need to play safe in his life. Unable to understand what is missing from his perfect life and lacking the courage to explore made him feel trapped in a cage. One of the biggest hidden traumas an adult could be living with is of a conditional love.

Your experience tells you that people have loved and taken pride in you only when you have achieved success and are being nice and helpful to others and not for who you are or when you do things that would benefit only you. You then start believing that as yourself, that you have no value. Then no abilities or uniqueness are worth exploring and enjoying, just like a bird whose wings are clipped.

He lives that beautiful golden cage for others to see, never flying up high where his heart desires. To start believing that you are only as good as others think, maims you of the ability to see your talents and unique essence that makes you - you. An easy way to identify self-deprecating attitude in you is to observe your response to being complimented.

The most common signs of self-depreciation are to: 1. Crack a joke: When you receive a compliment your usual response is witty one liner about you or the situation or the quality you are being complimented for.2. Use Sarcasm: A compliment is received with a quick sarcastic quip. 3. Deny the value of your contribution: You are quick to add that it wasn’t much that you did, just little bit here and there. 4.Reject the compliment: You point out that what other is complimenting is actually full of faults and therefore does not deserve compliments.

On ly by cut t ing the cha ins o f conditioned love, overcoming fear of failure and by believing in his instinctive ability to fly did the man in the golden cage experience freedom and live a thriving life.

Praneeta Mittal, Bangalore Home maker, HR Manager, Freelancer

HOW TO FIGHT PPD? THE GOLDEN CAGE

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Ÿ Eat a balanced diet. Ÿ Avoid a lcoho l and ca f fe ine .

Nutritional supplement shakes are also useful for keeping up your energy.

Ÿ Schedule outings and visits with friends and family.

Ÿ Meet your Girlies and have some fun time.

Ÿ Don't demand too much from yourself.

Ÿ Instead be good to yourself. Ÿ Go on a shopping trip just for

yourself and buy something new for your post-baby wardrobe.

Without a suitable treatment, PPD can last for months or years. In addition to affecting the mother’s health, it can also interfere with her ability to bond with and care for her baby and may cause the baby to have problems with sleeping, eating, and behavior as he or she grows up. So let’s talk it out and ask for help, Mommies!

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his is not a negative topic, infact one Tof the most positive topics ever. So relationships fail and people

experience misery.

My question is do we always have to experience misery if relationships do not work out? Look at it this way. The word relationship itself is about two different people coming together on a belief that perhaps they can be good together. Now focus on the perhaps. There is no way of knowing right in the beginning whether both of you would be good for each other. So you believe, rather you want to believe that it would be a great partnership. Interestingly most of us concretize this belief much before knowing the other person well. Infact and most often we are not even sure of who we are.

So we like something about someone. Mind you it is‘something’ and not ‘everything’. But we want to believe that this ‘something’ is enough for the happily ever after. That’s when we start building our dreams and aspirations around this belief almost totally oblivious about the dreams and aspirations of the other. Then at some point it comes to fore that what we both wanted was not the same. So what is the big deal? Why the condition that all the people who meeting this world should have 100% compatibility? Then comes the break up and our melt down begins.

Here is when I say, a relationship is not just about you, it is about two different people trying to come together. Isn’t it possible that it won’t work? Do give it a fair try. Talk, discuss, know your partner and tell them about what you want. Request them to change in certain ways and show your willingness to change in some. But if it still does not work, move on.

Relationships can break. Do not put the conditions that your relationship has to work. Move on. It is okay.

Dear best friend,

It's been an amazing journey with you till date where I learnt not only how to deal with your madness but also mine.

We were and will always be one soul in two bodies. The bond we share did go through rough times, only to become much stronger.

You've been a rock solid support and you would continue to be so, you promised.

It's been a while and you've chosen to spend the rest of your life with the man of your dreams.

The ceremonies were such a treat to my eyes as I could see you smiling till your ears! Yes, I understand it's time we hold up for ourselves. When I saw you leaving, I wasn't really sure if I should be happy or sad. It was probably because I had mentally not accepted the thought of you getting married so soon.

It was like a fairy tale come true to see you two get along and take it to the stage where your lives are now intertwined.

When I woke up the next morning, I had a strange feeling. I realised you would no longer be addressed by the same name, you won't be staying around the corner, you will have a new family, a new surrounding and new responsibilities.

As you step into this new life, I just want to let you know that I'll always be there when you look around. Even if not in person, in thoughts definitely or probably just a call away!

You need not worry about anything or anyone left behind. It's a new start! I hope you enjoy this phase and create moments to cherish!

And when time comes, do look back, smile and remember all the good times we've had together! We will miss you heaps and bound! Love you to infinity because to moon and back is too cliche.

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1. A GREAT WOMAN The first two letters of this English word refer to a male, the first three refer to a female, the first four to a great man and the whole word is a great woman.What is the word?

2. TALL IN THE MORNING, SHORT AT NOONTall in the morning, short at noon, gone at night but I’ll be back soon. What am I?

3. HAVING & SHARINGIf you have it, you want to share it.If you share it, you don’t have it.What is it?

4. TOUCH ME AND I’M GONETouch me and I’m gone,But to you I belong.I stay with you for life,But I am not seen by your wife.What am I?

Answers:1. Heroine (He, Her, Hero)2. Shadow3. Secret4. Your reflection in water

A LETTER STRAIGHT FROM THE HEART

RELATIONSHIPS CAN FAILDr. Sapna Sharma, Nagpur

Spiritual Counselor, Life Coach, Author, Speaker

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