Shelagh Loretta Mikulak (nee Neary)

March 6, 1953 – Dublin, Ireland July 14, 2013 – Calgary, Alberta

I could not stay another day,To love, to laugh, to work or play

Tasks left undone must stay that way.

At the Calgary home that she loved, surrounded by the family she loved, her heart embraced by the touch of the hand of Murray, the husband she loved, Shelagh Mikulak has passed away after a heroic struggle with the ravages of a terrible disease. She was only 60 years old and her departure was far too premature for her and all who loved her; nonetheless, she lived a full and fruitful personal and professional life. In 1957, Carmel and Gerald Neary left their home in Ireland to make a new life in Calgary with their daughters, Shelagh and Dara. Two more girls, Geraldine and Donna, were born in short succession. The family embodied the classic immigrant success story in that they prospered and all four girls grew up to embrace the opportunities on offer in their new homeland. In Shelagh, the principled rebelliousness of her Irish heritage fused with the Albertan spirit of pioneering enterprise to forge an ambitious, determined, tenacious character with a zest for life, a strong work ethic, a mighty heart and an enormous capacity to love.

And if my parting has left a voidThen fill it with remembered joy.

She loved books and reading and decided early in life

Funeral MassST. DAVID’S UNITED CHURCH

3303 Capitol Hill Crescent North West, Calgary, AlbertaTuesday, July 23, 2013 10:30 A.M.

PresiderThe Rev. Monica Kilburn-Smith

St. Brigid of Kildare Catholic Faith Community

Readers: Sinead O’Halloran & Tyler Faith

Prayer of the Faithful: Tina Lorenzo

Gift BearersNicole Stordy, Shanelle Fredrickson & Vanessa Romman

Urn Bearer: Murray Mikulak

CremationMcINNIS & HOLLOWAY’S “Crematorium”

Following the Funeral Mass, relatives and friends are invited to meet with the family in the “Church

Hall” at St. David’s United Church.

TributesFriends

Merle Young Laurie Jamieson Catherine Townley

Sisters Dara Neary Donna Neary

Geraldine Faith

Children Sean Mikulak Kevin Mikulak

Alexandra Mikulak

ALS Society of Alberta: Megan Blomfield

Husband: Murray Mikulak

Photo Memories: As provided by Shelagh’s Family

that she wanted to be a librarian. She earned a BA in English (with Distinction) from the University of Calgary, and a Masters Degree in Library Science from the University of British Columbia. She went to work at the University of Calgary library, where she was one of Alan MacDonald’s cadre of feisty, opinionated and clever young go-getters. While she was involved in many U of C initiatives, the legacy she was most proud was the Business Library in Scurfield Hall (Haskayne School of Business). After 18 years at the U of C she was ready to seek new challenges and she headed downtown to Bennett Jones, one of Canada’s premier business law firms, where she provided energetic leadership. Sometimes willful and always passionate, she was supportive of her staff, providing them with mentoring and opportunities. The last major project which benefited from her vision and hard work was the creation of BenNet, the firm’s intranet which was recognized with the Nielsen Norman Intranet Design Award in an international competition. In 2012, in acknowledgement of her formidable leadership abilities, the Calgary Law Library Group dedicated a Leadership Award in her name to be awarded annually.

A friendship shared, a laugh, a kissAh yes, these things I, too, shall miss.My life’s been full, I’ve savoured much

Good times, good friends, a loved-one’s touch.

She was married to Murray for 39 happy years. Like all couples they faced their trials together, not least of which was the ten long years they waited for their son Sean to enter their lives, bringing with him joy and love. More fulfillment came three years later with the arrival of Kevin. She loved her boys profoundly and was immensely proud of the fine men they have become, and her family was enhanced yet again when

Kevin married Alexandra. Shelagh loved Calgary and retained a strong affection for her Irish roots but her favourite location was the family retreat at Duck Lake, Montana, which became her sanctuary and the place to which she removed herself to read, to rest, to contemplate and to become reenergized. A devout feminist, she worked assiduously to promote the ordination of women to priesthood in the Catholic Church. She was a devoted member of the Saint Brigid of Kildare Catholic Faith Community and a supporter of Roman Catholic Womenpriests, an international group seeking to reform the Church. Implacably opposed to injustice and unfairness, she was a formidable campaigner and she encouraged others to question misguided allegiance to the status quo. Tragedy struck in November 2010 when she was diagnosed with ALS. This was the most daunting challenge of her life but she stepped up to the plate and confronted her fate with resilience, courage, grace and true grit. She was supported magnificently by her family, friends, colleagues, the Adult and Palliative Home Care teams from Alberta Health Services, and most notably, the ALS Society of Alberta (especially Jane Rivest and Megan Blomfield). Special mention must go to the wonderful Tina Lorenzo, Shelagh’s constant caregiver, for her professional skills, her unwavering devotion to duty and her unstinting kindness. Shelagh faced her final days and hours with her customary consideration for loved ones and with a fortitude that was inspirational. Such was her life and such was her death. She will be missed.

Perhaps my time seemed all too briefDon’t shorten yours with undue grief

Be not be burdened with tears of sorrowEnjoy the sunshine of the morrow.

Death is nothing at all. It does not count. I have only slipped away into the next room. Nothing has happened. Everything remains exactly as it was. I am I, and you are you, and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged.

Whatever we were to each other, that we are still. Call me by the old familiar name. Speak of me in the easy way which you always used. Put no difference into your tone. Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow. Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together. Play, smile, think of me, pray for me. Let my name be ever the household word that it always was. Let it be spoken without an effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it.

Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was. There is absolute and unbroken continuity. What is this death but a negligible accident? Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight? I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just round the corner. All is well

By Henry Scott Holland (1847-1918)Canon of St Paul’s Cathedral