„„Married Love Can Be Married Love Can Be Beautiful”Beautiful”

A Recipe for Happiness in A Recipe for Happiness in MarriageMarriage

„„Marriage honourable in all, Marriage honourable in all, and the bed undefiled. For and the bed undefiled. For fornicators and adulterers fornicators and adulterers

God will judge.God will judge.” ”

(Hebrews 13,4).(Hebrews 13,4).

1. Priorities1. Priorities What is the most important value What is the most important value in your life?in your life? FamilyFamily WorkWork Hobby Hobby Making MoneyMaking Money CareerCareer Continuing Education Continuing Education Volunteer workVolunteer work Being active in your parishBeing active in your parish Business travelBusiness travel

All these things are important , but…All these things are important , but…Because of God and because of the faith, Because of God and because of the faith,

MARRIAGE becomes the most important MARRIAGE becomes the most important value from the wedding day through the value from the wedding day through the rest of your life !!!rest of your life !!!

„„Our marriage is a work of art.”Our marriage is a work of art.” „„Creation of a work of art from our marriage is our Creation of a work of art from our marriage is our

greatest task.”greatest task.” „„Our marriage is the greatest pursuit of our lives ”Our marriage is the greatest pursuit of our lives ” „„The most important goal of our lives is the The most important goal of our lives is the

holiness of our marriage.”holiness of our marriage.” „„Our marriage is our greatest investment.”Our marriage is our greatest investment.” „„Happy marriage- What we want most.”Happy marriage- What we want most.” ““The road to happiness in marriage is always The road to happiness in marriage is always

under construction.”under construction.”

2. People Priorities2. People Priorities Who is the most Who is the most

important person in your important person in your life?life?

Your child (children)Your child (children) Your parentsYour parents Your siblingsYour siblings Your friends at workYour friends at work Your parish priestYour parish priest Your friends from prayer Your friends from prayer

groupgroup

All these people are important, but…All these people are important, but…Because of God and because of the Faith, Because of God and because of the Faith,

YOUR SPOUSE becomes the most YOUR SPOUSE becomes the most important person from the wedding day important person from the wedding day through the rest of your life !!!through the rest of your life !!!

3. Nurturing Married Love 3. Nurturing Married Love

Love and infatuation are two separate things:Love and infatuation are two separate things: Infatuation does not depend on us. Love Infatuation does not depend on us. Love

only depends on us.only depends on us. Infatuation is takings. Love is giving.Infatuation is takings. Love is giving. Infatuation is without God. Love is only with Infatuation is without God. Love is only with

God.God.

3. Nurturing Married Love 3. Nurturing Married Love

Love and infatuation are two separate things:Love and infatuation are two separate things: Infatuation does not depend on us. Love Infatuation does not depend on us. Love

only depends on us.only depends on us. Infatuation is takings. Love is giving.Infatuation is takings. Love is giving. Infatuation is without God. Love is only with Infatuation is without God. Love is only with

God.God.

3. Nourishment of Married Love3. Nourishment of Married LoveA.A.

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B. ActionsB. Actions- Patience, kindness, gentlenessPatience, kindness, gentleness- HugsHugs- Listening with empathyListening with empathy- HelpfulnessHelpfulness- Help in workHelp in work- Working togetherWorking together- TimeTime- Long WalksLong Walks- Watching TV togetherWatching TV together- PresentsPresents- Going out to the movies, Going out to the movies, dancing or dinnerdancing or dinner

C. Marriage RitualsC. Marriage Rituals ( repeated, important to both ( repeated, important to both

spouses)spouses)- Tender goodbyes Tender goodbyes - Loving welcomesLoving welcomes- Talk and coffeeTalk and coffee- Texting each other every Texting each other every

dayday- Shopping togetherShopping together- Praying togetherPraying together- Going to mass togetherGoing to mass together

4. Holiness of the marriage bed4. Holiness of the marriage bed(operating instructions)(operating instructions)

1.1. Owning a bed. Its the Owning a bed. Its the most important piece of most important piece of furniture in marriage.furniture in marriage.

2.2. Sleeping togetherSleeping together3.3. Going to bed at the same Going to bed at the same

timetime4.4. Couple’s prayerCouple’s prayer5.5. Chemical and pollutant Chemical and pollutant

free.free.

5. Spiritual Foundation5. Spiritual Foundation

Who answering, said to them: Who answering, said to them: Have ye not read, that he who Have ye not read, that he who made man from the made man from the beginning, Made them male beginning, Made them male and female? And he said:and female? And he said:

For this cause shall a man For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife, and shall cleave to his wife, and they two shall be in one flesh.they two shall be in one flesh.

Therefore now they are not Therefore now they are not two, but one flesh. What two, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined therefore God hath joined together, let no man put together, let no man put asunder. (Mt 19, 4-6asunder. (Mt 19, 4-6).).

Couple’s Relationship with God Couple’s Relationship with God

Praying together – just you and your spousePraying together – just you and your spouse

Assisting at mass togetherAssisting at mass together

Wearing your wedding band Wearing your wedding band

Celebrating each wedding anniversary – renewal of Celebrating each wedding anniversary – renewal of marriage vows.marriage vows.

Unceasing prayer for the spouseUnceasing prayer for the spouse

Taking retreats togetherTaking retreats together

Stability of Marriages Living the Faith

American sociologist Mercedes Arzu Wilson researched various American sociologist Mercedes Arzu Wilson researched various unions and their permanence . unions and their permanence .

Civil union- one in two couples devorces -50%, Civil union- one in two couples devorces -50%,

After a church wedding, without religious practices –one in three After a church wedding, without religious practices –one in three couples - 33%,couples - 33%,

After a church wedding, with weekly Sunday mass attened together. – After a church wedding, with weekly Sunday mass attened together. – one in fifty- 2%,one in fifty- 2%,

After a church wedding, with weekly Sunday mass attened together After a church wedding, with weekly Sunday mass attened together and daily couple’s prayer –one in 1429 couples, only 0,07%..and daily couple’s prayer –one in 1429 couples, only 0,07%..

(Das Gebet, Schlüssel der Heilig(Das Gebet, Schlüssel der Heiligkkeit w: DER FELS (Katholisches Wort in deit w: DER FELS (Katholisches Wort in derer Zeit) 11/2002, Zeit) 11/2002, s.325, Rycerz Niepokalanej, no 556, September 2002, pg. 289s.325, Rycerz Niepokalanej, no 556, September 2002, pg. 289, Published in, Published in SPRAWACH RODZINYSPRAWACH RODZINY, no 63-64/2003, pg. 164 ), no 63-64/2003, pg. 164 )

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