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Love Marriage and Family Ties:Intergenerational Patterns
in Genograms
Presented by Rita DeMaria, Ph.D.
Council for Relationships
July 9, 2009
Smart Marriages Happy FamiliesOrlando, Florida
Love, Marriage and Family Ties
• All family members are connected
• How to identify needed personal and relationship changes
• Begin a process of discovery and growth
Love, Marriage and Family Ties
• Increase awareness of how relationship patterns are transmitted through time as family legacies
• Increase empathy for self and partner’s needs, issues, and vulnerabilities
• Depersonalize current relationship struggles, facilitate problem solving and resolution, and promote loving care
The Purpose of Marriage
• “To enrich and enliven the life of the other”
• “a crucible to transform the two”
• These require knowledge of self/other and capacity and willingness to be a loving partner committed to responding to unmet needs and cultivating growth and responsiveness
5 Types of Focused Genograms
• Connections and Cutoff• My Mother, My Father, Myself• Legacy of Love• His/Her Story• Traumas and Tragedies
Connections and Cutoffs
• Exploring patterns of closeness• Handling life challenges
through connection or disconnection
• Family secrets are often covered by disconnections and cut-offs
My Mother, My Father, Myself
• Exploring the importance of our Mothers and Fathers
• Relationships with the same sex parent
• Gender Roles: Husband, Father, Man; Wife, Mother, Woman
Legacies of Love
• Exploring patterns of love and marriage
• Time Lines are helpful
His/Her Story
• Exploring family legacies from the past
• Understanding our heritage• Historical events help you gain
awareness• Repetition of patterns across
generations
Traumas and Tragedies
• Exploring the impact of losses and challenges
• Big “T” traumas• Little “t” traumas
Workshop Format
• Introduction of the genogram construction
• Sample genogram
• Exercise for each genogram1. Genogram Format
2. Time Line
3. Reflection Questions
4. Action Plan
The Workshop Process
• The Focused Genogram• The Reflection• The Time Line• The Action Plan
My Mother My FatherMy Self
• Presentation• Exercise
•Love Marriage and Family Ties
• is available as a TOOB
• Thank you for your attendance• For more information contact Rita
DeMaria, Ph.D. www.marriagedoctor.com• [email protected]
• 215-628-2450