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What is love? This six-week Bible study helps teen girls understand what true love looks like. By focusing on the life of Jesus, these girls will come to understand that Love is, first and foremost, a Someone. By examining the way Jesus interacted with others, they will see the perfect example of love. Through four repetitive phases—read, realize, respond, and retain—teen girls will learn a method of studying the Bible that they can apply to any Scripture passage and that will motivate them to read more frequently and independently in the future. By analyzing the Bible stories, each girl will in turn be able to analyze her own relationships to see if they are based on God’s idea of love, and will walk away with a deeper understanding of the love relationship God seeks to have with her.
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Love Is . . .s I x L e s s o n s o n W h a t
L o v e L o o k s L I k e
J e n n a l u c a d o B i s h o p
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© 2013 by Jenna Lucado Bishop
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Unless otherwise noted, Scripture quotations are taken from the Holy Bible, New International Version®, NIV®. Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984 by Biblica, Inc.TM Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved worldwide. www.zondervan.com
Scripture quotations marked msg are taken from The Message by Eugene H. Peterson. © 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000. Used by permission of NavPress Publishing Group. All rights reserved.
Scripture quotations marked nasb are taken from the NEW AMERICAN STANDARD BIBLE®, © The Lockman Foundation 1960, 1962, 1963, 1968, 1971, 1972, 1973, 1975, 1977, 1995. Used by permission.
Scripture quotations marked nlt are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation. © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.
ISBN: 978-1-4016-7856-2 ISBN: 978-1-4016-7857-9 (ebook)
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PPDay 1—Love Is: A SomeoneDay 1—Love Is: A Someone
Eric was my first love.
Yes, Eric. Just Eric.
Don’t ask me what his last name was. I didn’t know then, and I don’t
know now. But were last names important as a kindergartner? Abso-
lutely not! The only requirements I had to fall in love as a five year old
were the following:
He had to be cute.
He had to be nice.
Oh, and if he gave me presents, like a cherry Ring Pop, that meant
he was really “the one” for.ev.er. (Or at least until recess was over.)
Eric was cute. Check.
Eric was nice. Check.
Did he give me ring pops? No. Which leads me to the problems
with this first love of mine.
1WEEK WEEK
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You see, Eric was a prince. And though my plastic, pink, princess
crown my mom bought me at Toys-R-Us qualified me as royalty in my
little mind, Eric’s royal status was of a different level.
On top of the prince thing getting in the way, Eric was . . . well . . .
a cartoon. That was somewhat of a hurdle in our relationship. And the
icing on the cake? He was taken by my favorite Disney princess (and
best friend), Ariel.
So prince, plus cartoon, plus dating my BF, equaled unrequited love.
What about you?
Take a minute and write down whom your fi rst “love” was. What
qualities did he have that gave you the butterfl ies?
Definition of UnrequitedDefinition of Unrequited
According to Merriam Webster’s ccording to Merriam Webster’s
dictionary, dictionary, unrequitedunrequited means “not recipro- means “not recipro-
cated or returned in kind.”cated or returned in kind.”1
1 http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/unrequited
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Okay, maybe my love for Prince Eric wasn’t necessarily love as much
as it was a five-year-old crush. So what does real love look like? In order
to answer that question, we have to go to the book that defines true love.
It’s not one of Shakespeare’s plays or a Jane Austen novel. No, the great-
est book about love, the source on love, the definition of love is the Bible.
Read 1 John 4:16 and 1 John 4:8. What are the similarities between
these two verses?
Did you catch this: both verses contain the phrase “God is love”?
If that were a math problem what would it look like? (You didn’t
think math would ever be used in a Bible study, did ya?)
Did your answer look something like mine?
God = Love.
This equation means the more you know God, the more you will
know not only what Love is but who Love is. Because God IS love.
Okay, press pause on that thought, and now read John 14:9–10.
Write down what Jesus was telling His followers, the disciples.
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Jesus was telling His followers that He and the Father (aka God)
were one. So how can knowing this help our quest to find what real
love is?
Well, to know more about what love acts like, sounds like, lives like,
we look at the life of Jesus.
Going back to our mathematic equation, it would look something
like this:
God = Love
God = Jesus
Jesus = Love
Love isn’t just a verb, a feeling, a choice, a phase, a noun.
Love is a Someone.
And this Someone loves you. Yes, Love loves you!
In fact, He cannot help but love you because He IS love.
Write down some initial characteristics, images or adjectives that
come to mind when you hear the name Jesus (i.e., a man in sandals,
gentle, miracles).
Did you happen to include the word love in your answer?
I don’t know how you picture Jesus. I don’t know what your relation-
ship with Him looks like. Maybe the concept of a relationship with Him
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sounds kind of weird, or maybe it’s a relationship you have known all
your life.
But for today and over the next handful of weeks we are going to
spend together, I want you to learn to associate the word love immedi-
ately with Jesus.
That means when you are listening to a love song on the radio, think
of Jesus. That means when you are watching a romantic chick-flick,
think of Jesus. When you read the word love, hear the word love, sing the
word love, express love, receive love, think of Jesus.
Maybe you have heard that famous Sunday school song over and
over: “Jesus loves me. This I know. For the Bible tells me so.”
But do you know?
Really know?
No matter how old we become, we can never fully grasp the love
God has for us. But does that mean we shouldn’t try? No! I’d rather
spend my life discovering new treasures about God’s love than never
going on the adventure. Let’s dive into God’s love deeper than ever
before! The Bible is our map on this treasure hunt. We are going to get
more acquainted with God’s Word and His love for us.
So let’s continue looking closely at this “treasure map” by reading
these famous verses below. Circle all the characteristics of love in the
verses below.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is
not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered,
it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices
with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always
perseveres.
Love never fails. (1 Cor. 13:4–8)
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Okay, now reread those verses and anytime you read the word love,
or a pronoun representing love (the word it), cross it out and replace it
with Jesus.
The more we know Love as a Someone, the more we know about
what love really is, how to love others, and how to see ourselves as loved.
Let’s spend a moment talking to Love. Your prayer can look
like mine if you’d like, or you might want to come up with your own.
Regardless, just spend some time with Jesus asking Him to help you
know what love is.
$$Jesus, thank You that You came to earth so that we could esus, thank You that You came to earth so that we could
see what true love really looks like. Help us learn to associate see what true love really looks like. Help us learn to associate
love, first and foremost, with You, because You are Love. Thank love, first and foremost, with You, because You are Love. Thank
You for loving me. Would You hold my heart as I do this Bible You for loving me. Would You hold my heart as I do this Bible
study? Shape my heart, mold it to look more and more like You. study? Shape my heart, mold it to look more and more like You.
I want to know You, Jesus, so open my heart to what You want I want to know You, Jesus, so open my heart to what You want
to show me. And may I be forever changed through this journey to show me. And may I be forever changed through this journey
I’m about to go on to learn more about Your love.I’m about to go on to learn more about Your love.
PPDay 2—Love Is: Tie-DyeDay 2—Love Is: Tie-Dye
I’ve confused the meaning of the word love, a lot in life. Beginning with
that five-year-old little crush, bleeding into the way I treated my sisters,
leaking over into my dramatic “friendships” in middle school, and run-
ning into my high school dating life . . .
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I haven’t loved others well, and I’ve settled for relationships with
those who don’t love me in return.
I can remember my first boyfriend saying the three little-in-size, yet
profound-in-meaning words I had dreamed of hearing my entire life, “I
love you.”
We were sitting in the Sonic parking lot, sophomores in high school,
sipping on some slushies.
“Really?” I thought. “This is when you are going to tell me the
words I have dreamed of hearing my entire life?” To me, slushies and fast
food don’t make for the most romantic setting.
He was moving the very next day from my hometown of San Anto-
nio, Texas, all the way to New Jersey. New Jersey! So I thought, “Well,
maybe I should say the words back. After all, he’s moving. I’d be a jerk if
I didn’t say it in return. And I do really like him. Maybe it’s love.”
So what do you think I did?
Yep. I said it. “I love you too” came out of my mouth, and his face
turned bright red.
“Wow, he’s blushing!” I thought.
Then I realized it. Nope.
Just the reflection from the neon, glowing, red Sonic Drive-In sign.
I didn’t know what those words meant when I said them. Maybe you
can relate. You don’t know exactly what love should look like in a friend-
ship, with family, or maybe even with a guy.
Does the word love ever confuse you? If so, why do you think that
word can be unclear? Write down your thoughts.
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I think love can be confusing because the world tosses out so many
different definitions, examples, and advice about what it is. It’s like a
tie-dye t-shirt. All of these opinions, pieces of advice, and beliefs swirl-
ing around, bleeding into each other, leaving us dizzy and wondering,
“What in the world is love?”
Too Many Definitions of LoveToo Many Definitions of Love
Merriam-Webster defines love as the following:2
1. Love is strong affection for another arising out of kinship or per-
sonal ties
2. attraction based on sexual desire: affection and tenderness felt by
lovers
3. affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests
The famous definition, “Love is blind,” originated from the most
historically renowned love author, William Shakespeare.
The Beatles said love is all you need.
Martin Luther King said, “Love is the only force capable of trans-
forming an enemy into a friend.”3
Now it’s your turn.
Write your defi nition of love in the space below.
2 http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/love
3 Martin Luther King, Jr., “Loving Your Enemies,” in A Gift of Love: Sermons from
Strength to Love and Other Preachings (Boston: Beacon, 2012), 50.
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Too Many Examples of LoveToo Many Examples of Love
Maybe it’s the influence of your parents or grandparents. Maybe it’s
watching your friend navigate through her first dating relationship or
seeing an older sibling struggle through a friendship. Maybe it’s all the
romantic comedies you have watched or seeing a friend you look up to
fight with her parents.
The relationships you watch influence your definition of love. No
matter how healthy or unhealthy they are, these relationships will leave a
thumbprint on your heart. They have set an example.
List some relationships you have watched (good and bad) that have
infl uenced the way you see love.
Too Much Advice about LoveToo Much Advice about Love
Our friends, our family, the television, magazines, books, doctors, Web
sites . . . no matter where we turn, different people or mediums hand us
“answers” to our questions about love. For me, growing up I typically
turned to my friends for love advice. But what about you?
Who or what has given you love advice, or who/what do you turn to
for answers about love? (Again, this can be love in friendship, with fam-
ily, a boy, whatever.)
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World Love Versus God LoveWorld Love Versus God Love
There are love languages, love bugs, love letters, love novels, love poems,
love spells, love handles.
You can want love, fall in love, be in love, hate love, lose love, love
love.
If every definition, example, and piece of advice were a different
color, we would have a tie-dye masterpiece. Thousands of colors swirling
around, running into the other. What a confusing mess!
Amidst the world’s messages about love, God’s message becomes
faint.
Compare and contrast the verses between the world and God.
Write down the differences you see between them based on the verse
provided.
ScriptureScripture CharacteristicCharacteristic
Proverbs 20:6 Man:
Psalm 130:7 God:
1 Peter 1:24–25 Man:
God:
1 Samuel 16:7 Man:
God:
Mark 7:21–23 Man:
1 Peter 2:22 God:
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Overall, what did you learn about the characteristics of man versus
the characteristics of God?
What does this teach you about listening to the world’s messages
about love versus listening to God’s message of love?
To know what real love is, we have to turn to Jesus.
Does this mean we should never listen to other people to receive
counsel on love? Well, you tell me. Read these verses and write down
your thoughts.
Listen to advice and accept discipline, and at the end you will be
counted among the wise. (Prov. 19:20 NIV 2011)
The naive believes everything, but the sensible man considers his steps.
(Prov. 14:15 NASB)
Words from the mouth of the wise are gracious, but fools are con-
sumed by their own lips. (Eccl. 10:12 NIV 2011)
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Listening to wise counsel is good, but remember that not all advice is
wise. So what do we do? We filter the words of others through the Word
of God. God’s words are always flawless (Prov. 30:5–6). So everything
you hear about love, read about love, see about love should be filtered
through what the Bible says about love.
Jesus is our definition of love, our example of love, and our primary
advice-giver on love. Will we still struggle with love and make wrong
decisions in the name of love? Absolutely. And that’s okay. We will
never have it all figured out. But thankfully we have a God who does. So
let’s keep looking to Him. The Author of love. The Source of love. The
Love above all loves.
Jesus = Love.
No confusing tie-dye about that.
PrayPray
Let’s close by thanking Jesus for being our guide on this love journey.
Pray along with me, and then feel free to make your chat with Jesus
more personal with a prayer of your own.
$$Jesus, love can be so confusing. Forgive me for listening to the esus, love can be so confusing. Forgive me for listening to the
world’s idea of love more than Your idea of love. I want to look world’s idea of love more than Your idea of love. I want to look
to You for guidance, so that I can love others better, love myself to You for guidance, so that I can love others better, love myself
better and love You more. Will you help me? Will You show better and love You more. Will you help me? Will You show
me the way to love like You? Please make my heart more sensi-me the way to love like You? Please make my heart more sensi-
tive to what You want to teach me about love. Amen.tive to what You want to teach me about love. Amen.
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PPDay 3—Love Is: A Bull’s-EyeDay 3—Love Is: A Bull’s-Eye
I’ve misused it, misunderstood it, misrepresented it.
Insert any word you can think of that starts with mis, and I’ve done it
to love.
How do I know I’ve messed up love? Because I’ve compared my
heart to Jesus’ heart. Yesterday we said that we always use Jesus and His
Word as our definer of love, example of love, and advice-giver on love.
But we also need to look at Jesus as our standard of love. If I compare
myself to His standard of love, this is what I find:
I’ve missed the love target. (There’s another mis word.)
But I don’t think I’m the only one. In fact, I know I’m not the only
one.
We’ve all messed up love, all missed the love mark.
Why?
Well, sure, one of our answers could be what we learned yesterday.
We mess up love because the world has confused its definition. But
there’s a deeper answer. A three-little-letter answer that has caused a
whole lot of problems. It is the problem.
Sin.
Our reaction to the word love is a little different from our reaction
to the word sin, isn’t it?
Love draws a smile. Sin draws a frown. Love is a common conver-
sation topic, but I doubt you ever sit around with your friends and say,
“Let’s talk about sin!” Love makes your stomach flutter. Sin makes your
stomach sick.
So why am I bringing up sin if this is a study on love? Because . . .
To understand how beautiful the love of Jesus is, we have to understand
how ugly our sin is.
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To begin our chat about sin, I’m going to give you a simple defi ni-
tion. But before I give you a defi nition, write down your own. What is
sin?
Everyone typically has his or her own way of defining sin. So let’s
look at a simple definition that will put us on the same page.
Definition of SinDefinition of Sin
Sin means “to miss the mark.”in means “to miss the mark.”
Let’s say we’re looking at a target, and the bull’s-
eye represents acting rightly, then sinning is making
any decision outside of that red, round bull’s-eye. It’s a
choice to do anything outside of what God wants for us.
To give you some extra education, the New Testa-
ment of the Bible was originally written in Greek. The
writers of the New Testament used multiple Greek
words for sin, but the one they most frequently used
was hamartia, which means “missing the mark.”4
4 Lehman Strauss, “The Doctrine of Sin,” http://bible.org/article/doctrine-sin.
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Let’s travel back in time. Farther back than your grandparents’
“good ’ole days,” farther back than Abraham Lincoln’s tall hat or
Cleopatra’s gold bangles. Open up your Bible to the first page. That’s
how far back we are going—to the very beginning. The creation of the
world.
In the first couple of pages of your Bible, we see the life God origi-
nally made us for. We see Adam and Eve living in the Bull’s Eye—a
perfect place, and an up-close-and-personal relationship with Perfect
Love, with their Creator. Could you imagine? A place with no drama,
no insecurity, no jealousy. Wow.
Read Genesis 2:25. What does this verse mean to you?
When we know no shame, we know no sin. Shame is the result of
sin. Adam and Eve knew a life without sin. They experienced the free-
ing life God called us to live. So what happened?
Well, if you know the story, Adam and Eve were enticed by the
serpent—otherwise known as the enemy of God, the devil—to disobey
God. Instead of living within God’s perfect love and perfect way of liv-
ing, they chose to go outside of it. They chose to live for themselves over
their Creator.
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$$The moment you have a self at all, there is a possibility of putting your-
self first—wanting to be the centre—wanting to be God, in fact. That
was the sin of Satan: and that was the sin he taught the human race.
—C. S. Lewis5
You are welcome to read the story for yourself in Genesis 3. But for
now, we will focus on the fact that Adam and Eve decided to dishonor
God by doing what they wanted to do instead of what God asked them
to do. They decided to go outside the bull’s-eye, to miss the mark.
This sin separated them from being in a perfect relationship with a
perfect God.
Read Isaiah 59:2. What does this verse say sin does to God and His
people?
We have all missed the mark, stepping outside God’s plan for us.
This means we all have a gap between us and God, a separation between
us and Perfect Love.
Read Romans 3:23. Based on this verse, who has sinned? Who has
fallen short?
5 C. S. Lewis, Mere Christianity (New York: HarperCollins, 2000), 64-65.
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So because we have sinned, we have tainted love.
The heart is deceitful above all things. (Jer. 17:9)
As humans, we don’t have the capability to love purely, because love
comes from the heart, and what are our hearts like? Well, as we see in
Jeremiah, our hearts have sin in them. They are messy. Full of junk.
And because of that, the way we love can be pretty messy too.
That’s why we have misused love, misinterpreted love, misunderstood
love, missed the mark on love. That’s why our idea of love is so messed
up. He said he “loved” you, but then he abused you. They said they
“loved” you, but then they excluded you. Dad said he “loved” you, but
then he left you. Mom said she “loved” you, but then she hurt you.
I know this isn’t fun, but write down a time when you were hurt by
someone you thought loved you:
Okay, to continue with the “not fun” activity, write down times
when you have hurt others that you loved:
Remember: we have all sinned. I know it’s unfair that he hurt you,
or she betrayed you. But our hearts are all messy. It’s in our nature.
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We have all fallen from God and are separated from God. We are all
outside of the bull’s-eye.
If God is love, and we have separated ourselves from Him, then that
means we have separated ourselves from true love.
So what do we do?
If sin separates us from God, how can we step back into a relation-
ship with Him, like Adam and Eve had in the garden? How can we step
back inside the bull’s-eye, where we live inside perfect love? Is it even
possible? We will answer those questions tomorrow.
But for now, let’s talk to God and tell Him how sorry we are about
the sin in our lives and the way we have missed the mark on His idea of
love. I will start the prayer, and then spend some time getting personal
with God about the sin in your heart. Remember, He loves you. He
already sees your heart. So don’t be afraid to share it with Him.
PrayPray
Jesus, I am a sinner. So many times I have put myself before esus, I am a sinner. So many times I have put myself before
You, chosen what I wanted to do instead of what You desired me You, chosen what I wanted to do instead of what You desired me
to do. I have made poor choices, hurting others instead of loving to do. I have made poor choices, hurting others instead of loving
them. I have even been unkind to myself. Lord, though this is a them. I have even been unkind to myself. Lord, though this is a
little uncomfortable for me, will You show me some sin issues that little uncomfortable for me, will You show me some sin issues that
I have in my heart that are keeping me from loving others, myself I have in my heart that are keeping me from loving others, myself
or You more?or You more?
(Ask God to reveal the sin in your heart. It may be lack of (Ask God to reveal the sin in your heart. It may be lack of
forgiveness, a patience problem, a gossiping tongue or disrespect forgiveness, a patience problem, a gossiping tongue or disrespect
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towards authority . . . Let God show You some dark areas that towards authority . . . Let God show You some dark areas that
He wants to work on in your heart.)He wants to work on in your heart.)
PPDay 4—Love Is: The CrossDay 4—Love Is: The Cross
I’ve stared at a blank page for an hour now, asking God how in the
world I’m supposed to open up the lesson for today. How do I begin to
express my thoughts about the story that split our calendar, the story that
redeemed humanity, the story that bridged the eternal separation that
sin caused, the story that brought man into the presence of Perfect Love
again, back into the bull’s-eye—the story of Christ’s death on the cross?
And so I’ve decided that no illustration, no gimmick, no story, no
joke is necessary. Anything I add will only take away. The cross stands
alone.
Let’s just read it.
John 19. Go for it.
What you just read? Yeah, that’s love. The greatest love story ever
told.
It far outweighs the famous love of Queen Victoria for her husband
Albert. Do you know that love story? For twenty-one years, Queen
Victoria of England was married to the love of her life, Prince Albert.
They had nine children. He died tragically of typhoid fever, and Queen
Victoria never stopped mourning. The rest of her forty-year life she
wore black signifying her devotion to him. She traveled with his portrait
wherever she went so that she could wake up to his face.6
6 “Berkshire’s Greatest Royal Love Story,” http://www.bbc.co.uk/berkshire/content/articles/2009/02/09/queen_victoria_albert_windsor_feature.shtml.
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Wow. That is faithfulness. But when comparing it to the love of
Jesus for us, it is like a lightening bug to the sun. Nothing can outshine
His love for you.
The greatest demonstration of love was not Juliette drinking the vile
of poison to die beside Romeo. The greatest demonstration of love is not
a Disney fairytale, a Nicolas Sparks romance, or even the day you say “I
do.”
No, the greatest demonstration of love happened on a Friday
afternoon two thousand years ago on a hill outside of Jerusalem called
Golgatha.
But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still
sinners, Christ died for us. (Rom. 5:8)
Why did it have to happen? Why did Jesus have to die? Write down
your initial thoughts, and I’ll chime in below.
In our last lesson, we talked about how our sin separates us from
a holy, good God. And not only does our sin separate us from God, it
deserves a penalty.
Read Romans 6:23. What does this verse say is our penalty for sin?
Write your answer in the blank: ___________________________
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Does this death penalty seem harsh to you? Be honest in your
answer below.
There was a time when I thought God was a mean God. Why
would He give such a steep punishment for sin? Death? Really? But the
more I learned about the heart of God—the more I learned about His
love for me—the more I understood the penalty of sin. Let’s look at
three discoveries that shed light on why God has to punish sin.
1. A just and fair God must be just and fair.
a. If a murderer stood before a judge, and the judge released him on
account of “love.” Is that real love? I don’t believe it is. True love
is fair. If a parent allows a child’s disobedience to go unpunished,
is that true “love”?
b. “He is the Rock, his works are perfect, and all his ways are
just. A faithful God who does no wrong, upright and just is he”
(Deut. 32:4).
2. He desires that all men be saved.
a. God is just in nature, but that doesn’t mean He desires punish-
ment to fall on us.
b. “The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand
slowness. He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish,
but everyone to come to repentance” (2 Peter 3:9, emphasis mine).
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3. He, in His merciful sovereignty, has made a way out.
a. From the beginning of time God has been fair to judge evil. And
from the beginning of time He has offered mercy to those who
seek Him. There has always been and will always be a way out
from our death sentence.
b. What is that way out? Let’s talk about it more.
Instead of penalizing us for the sin in our hearts, God, out of His
love for us, sent Jesus, His one and only Son, to take on the punishment
for us. The famous words of John 3:16 are famous for a reason:
“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son.”
(emphasis mine)
Put a heart around that word love. The cross shows us the perfect
example of love. So why did Jesus have to die? Because on the cross,
Jesus took on the punishment of every sin ever committed, so that we
would not have to. That means that through Jesus there is a way out
of being eternally separated from God and a way into His presence.
Through Jesus there is a way out of receiving the wrath of God and a
Definition of RepentanceDefinition of Repentance
Repentance is when someone feels epentance is when someone feels
remorse for sin and therefore decides to remorse for sin and therefore decides to
change his or her lifestyle to follow God.change his or her lifestyle to follow God.
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way into His forgiveness. Through Jesus, there is a way out of death and
into eternal life. Jesus made a way. This is love.
Tomorrow we will chat more about the gift of the cross. But for now,
let’s pause and thank Jesus for taking our place. Spend some time with
Love, expressing your gratitude.
PrayPray
For your prayer time, use the words of 1 John 4:10 (below), and say them
out loud. I’ve replaced any of the second person pronouns to first person
pronouns in order to personalize the verse. (Remember that from Eng-
lish class?) Focus on it. Sit on it. God loves you so much.
$$This is love: not that I loved God, but that he loved ME and his is love: not that I loved God, but that he loved ME and
sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for MY sins.sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for MY sins.
PPDay 5—Love Is: AliveDay 5—Love Is: Alive
Mary Magdalene.
We don’t know much about her.
The Bible doesn’t give many details.
But we know a few things.
She was demon-possessed.
Jesus healed her of her demons.
She was a follower of Jesus.
She financially contributed to Jesus’ ministry.
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And she was the first person to see the empty tomb and the risen
Savior.
Read what she saw in Matthew 28:1–10.
List some major events that take place in these ten verses.
Mary knew sin. I don’t know what her life looked like before Jesus,
but we know it was dark. She was a prisoner to her own body taken over
by demonic powers. We get a glimpse of her life after meeting Jesus. It’s
a life healed and transformed by Jesus. It’s a life so committed to Him
that she was the first to His gravesite that early Sunday morning. And
it’s a life that physically witnessed the hope that Love is not dead. He’s
alive. We will look at our girl Mary Magdalene a little more in depth
later on in our Bible study, but for now I want us to focus on what she saw
that early Sunday morning—a Love no longer dead, but alive.
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Promises of the ResurrectionPromises of the Resurrection
Because Jesus rose from the dead, you and I have two primary promises
we can count on.
Promise #1—A forever relationship with God in heavenPromise #1—A forever relationship with God in heaven
Read Philippians 3:20–21 and write down what this verse says our prom-
ise is because of the resurrection.
Through Jesus’ victory over death, we also receive victory over
death! Through Love’s sacrifice and resurrection, when someone asks
you what your address is, you can say, “Heaven, baby! I’m a citizen of
heaven!” (Okay. That’s cheesy. You don’t have to say that.)
How can you be assured of this gift?
Well, let’s read the rest of John 3:16, which we started yesterday.
“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that
whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”
Underline the word believes.
Belief, or faith, is the answer. Faith in Jesus and what He did on the
cross. Faith in His resurrection. It is by faith and through God’s grace
that we receive the promise of eternal life, an eternal relationship with
Perfect Love.
And it is through this faith that we also receive the second primary
promise of the resurrection
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Promise #2—A relationship with Perfect Love right NOW, here on earth.Promise #2—A relationship with Perfect Love right NOW, here on earth.
Check out this verse below and write down its promise in your own
words.
I’ll give you a new heart, put a new spirit in you. I’ll remove the stone
heart from your body and replace it with a heart that’s God-willed,
not self-willed. I’ll put my Spirit in you and make it possible for you to
do what I tell you and live by my commands. (Ezekiel 36:26–27 MSG)
When we put our faith in Jesus, we hand him our nasty, sinful heart,
and He gives us a new heart—a clean heart, forgiven by the cross. And
this new heart desires to live like Jesus, make decisions like Jesus, love
like Jesus. And it is in this new heart that Jesus, Himself, dwells. Like
we just read in Ezekiel 36, Jesus, by His Spirit (otherwise known as the
Holy Spirit), moves inside of us, helping us live and love like He does.
This means we have an up-close-and-personal God living in us, talking
to us, listening to us.
It’s the sweetest love relationship you will ever know. And as you
get to know this roommate of your heart, living inside of you, you slowly
start to look more and more like Him.
Have you ever had a close friend rub off on you? You start to dress
like her, say things at the same time, even laugh alike. Similarly, the
more you spend time with Jesus, the more you allow Him to influence
you. You begin to talk like Him, think like Him, act like Him, even love
like Him.
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This is important, so read these words carefully: if you have never
put your faith in Jesus, then you do not have the capability of loving as
you were created to love. And, more importantly, you are not living in
the big promises we are talking about today—the promise of the best
relationship you will ever know, now and forever.
So, this is the time to tell Jesus you trust in Him.
If you have already done this, let’s do it again to remember its impor-
tance. The proclamation never gets old. It’s a reminder of who we are
and who we live for. I’m going to do it with you. It’s a good reminder for
me as well. Let’s talk to God together.
$$Jesus, I’m sorry. I’m sorry for my sin. And I thank You for esus, I’m sorry. I’m sorry for my sin. And I thank You for
the promise of forgiveness because of the cross.the promise of forgiveness because of the cross.
Right now I want to proclaim that I believe in You.Right now I want to proclaim that I believe in You.
I believe that You are the Son of God, that You died on the I believe that You are the Son of God, that You died on the
cross to take on all my sin, and that You defeated the grave so cross to take on all my sin, and that You defeated the grave so
that those sins could be forgiven. So that I could have the promise that those sins could be forgiven. So that I could have the promise
of an eternal relationship with You in heaven and a relationship of an eternal relationship with You in heaven and a relationship
in which You live inside me here on earth.in which You live inside me here on earth.
Please give me a new heart. Live in me. I want to follow Please give me a new heart. Live in me. I want to follow
You, but I realize I can’t do that alone. It’s only through Your You, but I realize I can’t do that alone. It’s only through Your
Spirit inside of me that I can love the way I was designed to love.Spirit inside of me that I can love the way I was designed to love.
Thank You for loving me. Help me grow in this relation-Thank You for loving me. Help me grow in this relation-
ship with You. I want to know You more and Your love more. ship with You. I want to know You more and Your love more.
Amen.Amen.
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Once you have told God you believe in Him, you can know without
a doubt that you have the promise of heaven and a relationship with true
Love.
If Jesus is love . . .
And Jesus is alive in you . . .
Then you have perfect love alive inside of you!
Wait . . . I think you need to read that again. This is a big deal.
Don’t glaze over it.
The Creator of Love lives in you!
This means you can, by Him who lives in you, love anyone! Even
that really annoying creeper friend who won’t ever leave you alone. You
can even learn (and this may sound impossible to you) to love yourself.
Why? Because you have supernatural love power inside of you. It’s not
you loving; it’s Christ in you, the hope of glory (Col. 1:27).
What good news!
What a promise!
So let’s learn more about this Love alive inside of us by looking at
Jesus. The next five weeks are all about discovering how Jesus loved
others by looking at the interactions and relationships He had while on
earth. By the end of this book, my prayer is that we will get to know this
indwelling Jesus more and more, know that we are loved by Jesus, and
know how to love like Jesus.
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PrayPray
So let’s thank God for His promises and ask Him to prepare our hearts
for the lessons to come.
$$Jesus, thank You for defeating the grave! Because of Your esus, thank You for defeating the grave! Because of Your
victory, my sin is conquered, I am forgiven, I have a new heart victory, my sin is conquered, I am forgiven, I have a new heart
and I can be in relationship with You here on earth and forever and I can be in relationship with You here on earth and forever
in heaven. Jesus, I want to know You more. Draw me closer to in heaven. Jesus, I want to know You more. Draw me closer to
You. Deepen my relationship with You. I ask that you would You. Deepen my relationship with You. I ask that you would
prepare my heart for the lessons about love to come. And I ask prepare my heart for the lessons about love to come. And I ask
that these lessons would help me know You and Your love in a that these lessons would help me know You and Your love in a
way that changes me. Amen.way that changes me. Amen.
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