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Notebook: Love Factually for

Single Parents [& Those Dating Them]

T hanks for diving deep with this book. The effort you put into preparing yourself for the best relationship is an important part of reaping a lifetime of love for you and your family. What follows is a page for each Exercise

from the book, chapter-by-chapter. These Exercises include only one blank page per, but the format of this document allows you to expand or collapse each section so it’s the right length for you. I recommend filling this in by computer rather than printing it out, to save trees and to protect your privacy. Enjoy!

 –Duana Welch

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 PA R T I :

Getting Ready For Love

C H A P T E R 1 : Put The Past—And Your Ex—Behind You 

Exercise 1: The no-drama deal:

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  Exercise 2: The camping tent:  

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Exercise 3: The go-to argument:  

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Exercise 4: The respectful request:

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Exercise 5: The kids as messengers:  

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Exercise 6: Your ex’s new partner:  

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Exercise 7: The late pick-up:  

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Exercise 8: Bogus call to Child Protective Services:  

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C H A P T E R 2 : Forgive Your Ex And Yourself 

Exercise 1: Barriers to forgiveness:  

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Exercise 2: Feelings about your ex:

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Exercise 3: Your ex’s vantage point:

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Exercise 4: A portrait of your pain:

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Exercise 5: Your ex’s perspective:

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Exercise 6: Your fences:   

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Exercise 7: Your forgiveness list:  

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Exercise 8: Self-forgiveness fill-in-the-blank:  

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Exercise 9: Your feelings inventory:  

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  Exercise 10: Your boundaries:  

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  Exercise 11: Your empathy list:  

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Exercise 12: Catch and challenge your self-talk:  

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Exercise 13: Single-parent self-care:  

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C H A P T E R 3 : Face Your Fears And Fix Your Picker

  Exercise 1: The monster mash:   

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Exercise 2: The attachment match:  

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Exercise 3: The mind police:  

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  Exercise 4: Build-a-mate:  

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Exercise 5: The cross-out stage:  

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Exercise 6: The life you seek:  

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   Exercise 7: More Must-Haves:  

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  Exercise 8: My “but” list:  

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C H A P T E R 4 : Protect Your Kids And Yourself

Exercise 1: P.A.I.N.s you have known:  

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  Exercise 2: P.A.I.N. list 2.0:   

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   Exercise 3: Your escape plan:  

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   PA R T I I :

Mastering The Mechanics Of Dating

C H A P T E R 5 : Balance Your Life And Your Dating

   Exercise 1: The childcare brainstorm:  

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    Exercise 2: Pockets of time:  

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    Exercise 3: Places to mix and mingle:  

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  Exercise 4: People to approach:  

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   Exercise 5: Moves to use:  

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    Exercise 6: Your dating sites:  

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   Exercise 7: Your photo shoot:  

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   Exercise 8: The advertising executive:  

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C H A P T E R 6 : Watch Out, It’s A Trap! Men, women, and games people play

   Exercise 1: The beauty list:  

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   Exercise 2: The patience primer:  

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   Exercise 3: A better letter:  

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   Exercise 4: The Yes and No notes:  

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   Exercise 5: The no-text script:  

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    Exercise 6: The no-text policy:  

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   Exercise 7: The dinner bill:  

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C H A P T E R 7 : The Parent Traps: Men, women, and timing your relationship 

   Exercise 1: The voting booth:  

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   Exercise 2: The dating-around speech:  

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   Exercise 3: The confession:  

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   Exercise 4: The theme park:  

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   Exercise 5: The wait-till-later speech for Seekers of Men:  

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   Exercise 6: The wait-till-later speech for Seekers of Women:  

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PA R T I I I :

Making The Choice: Getting Closer, Breaking Up, Moving Forward

C H A P T E R 8 : There’s No Such Thing As A Blended Family 

   Exercise 1: Competing agendas:  

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   Exercise 2: Stepparent self-care:  

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  Exercise 3: The daily-praise plan:  

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  Exercise 4: The cold front:  

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  Exercise 5: The micromanager:  

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  Exercise 6: The respect routine:  

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   Exercise 7: The responsibility roundup:  

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  Exercise 8: The intercession:  

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  Exercise 9: The report card:  

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C H A P T E R 9 : Happily Ever After 

  Exercise 1: The excuse ruse:  

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Exercise 2: The breakup script:  

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Exercise 3: The breakup script (for your kids):  

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Exercise 4: The no-cohabitation policy:  

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Exercise 5: The leaving speech:  

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Exercise 6: The complaint compendium:  

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Exercise 7: The positive portfolio:  

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Exercise 8: The hearing test:  

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Exercise 9: The role model: