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IT’S A LITTLE SCARY.Helpful Hints for Harvest and the Holiday Season by Erinn Shaw

If you like wine, ANY time is a great time to visit wine country. At present, we have 500 plus wineries in Oregon and there are over 700 in Washington. A few are located here in Central Oregon but the bulk of them are only a few hours’ drive away, so red or white, dry to sweet, you should definitely be able to find a few that you like.

Each season in wine country brings its own unique feel, but the annual harvest is hands down, the best time to plan a trip. Harvest time varies depending on the climate and region, but usually takes place in mid to late September through October. If you plan to visit during this time don’t forget that is also the busiest time of the year. Try to schedule around the crowds and be sure to book your lodging and restaurant reservations early. If at all possible have a designated driver. If you can’t find a family member or friend, there are many transportation services available online.

Avoid bringing young children to a winery and if you are visiting with a group, try not to be loud or noisy. Avoid wearing perfume or scented lotions as it influences the smell and flavor of the wine. Some wineries have a tasting fee but most will apply this fee to a purchase. If a fee is charged, it is usually okay for two people to share a glass. White wines are usually tasted first, followed by red wines, and then dessert wines. Taste each wine carefully and savor each sip. Most wineries will have tasting notes that will offer hints on the aromas or flavors present in the wines. Have an open mind and feel free to ask questions, but make room for others to learn something too. It’s okay to skip any of the wines offered but if you have a negative opinion –try to keep it to yourself. Just because they offer it does NOT mean that you have to drink it! The dump bucket is your friend and is provided for this purpose. Water is usually provided to clear your palate or to rinse your glass. Often, cheese and crackers are also offered to clear the palate after each wine, but please remember that these are not provided as a personal meal.

Some wineries will offer a wine club. It is up to you to decide whether you want to join. As a member you get access to winery events and limited releases and usually receive two to four shipments of two bottles of wine per year. Never feel pressured to purchase any wine---if you like it--buy it! Weather and time permitting, purchase a bottle and enjoy the view. Most tasting rooms will lend you glassware; just make sure the wine you are drinking is NOT from another winery.

Besides what wineries to visit this time of year, people always seem to have one question: “What wine goes with turkey?” Well, the problem isn’t pairing the wine with the turkey at all, because (no offense) even after all your hard work, the big bird is usually the least flavorful item on the table. Without the gravy and stuffing, you could match about anything with it and be probably be happy. What you want to find is a wine that goes well with the OTHER Thanksgiving must-haves too. Visit one of our many local wine “experts” and opt for a food friendly, well balanced wine, meaning not too tannic or too acidic, with a light to medium level of alcohol. A wine that can handle all the rich butter and cream, as well as to enhance the subtle seasonings and the host of other flavors. Wine should be fun—break out of your box and try something new. Wines like Gewurztraminer, Riesling, un-oaked Chardonnay, dry Rose, Pinot Noir, Zinfandel, and red blends from Southern France have all of these qualities and all of them are a perfect match for the turkey too.

What you drink is definitely up to you, but try to avoid the big, oaky chardonnays and heavy reds like Cabernet, Syrah, and Malbec that are high in tannins and alcohol and will overpower the food. Drink Merlot if you must, but save the big reds for the prime rib at Christmas dinner, and as always, don’t forget the bubbly! Spanish Cava, Italian Prosecco, French Cremant, and sparkling wines from South America are a great value and can spritz up any holiday occasion!

Once you come out of your food coma, Thanksgiving weekend can also be a great time to visit wine country, as picturesque photo

opportunities abound and there are many opportunities to visit wineries that are not always open to the public. Many also provide food, entertainment, souvenir glasses, tours, and barrel tasting as well. It is usually best to go on Friday or Sunday to avoid the crowds.

Things tend to quiet down in December and January and the wineries are much less crowded. The wines are just as fabulous in the winter but the vines are dormant and bare. Picnics and photo opportunities might be limited, but there are plenty of festivities to help you de-stress from holiday pressures. Wine is great for gift-giving, and if time and travel are prohibitive, our local wineries Faith Hope and Charity, Volcano Vineyards, and Maragas Winery offer a quick shopping escape and are a great place to take visiting family and friends or host a holiday party.

Have a wonderful and safe holiday season, wherever you travel…and don’t forget to invite ME!

For more winery information and a calendar of events visit http://washingtonwine.org and http://oregonwine.org For wine recommendations and recommended apps and websites for food and wine pairing, please feel free to e-mail me at [email protected].

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COMMUNITY EXPERTS SHARE THEIR KNOWLEDGE

CONTENTS

Page 4DetoxiflyingDr. Michelle K. Jackson

Page 7Upgrading One’s SelfJane Meyers

Page 8Getting HealthyDr. Terry Fong

Page 2Wine 101Erinn Shaw

our health ...............4-12

our events ........... 10-12

our pets ..................... 14

our libraries............... 18

Page 5Child ObesityLori S. Brizee, JRD, LD

Page 16Parenting & DivorceLillian Quinn

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The remarkable skill, stunning movement and spectacular imagery of classic Kung Fu comes to Bend’s Tower Theatre for one show only, Tuesday, October 9 at 7:30 pm. In a fully choreographed theatrical production, twenty Kung Fu masters perform feats once thought only possible in movies. These disciples of the Shaolin school, known worldwide for disciplined and deadly martial-arts prowess, have trained from a very young age in mental and physical disciplines. Their performance will showcase many forms of Shaolin Kung Fu, plus offer glimpses into the daily regimen of their Zen philosophy.

The Toronto Star called the monks’ performance “dazzling.” The Washington Post said “they combine the agility and grace of gymnasts with the showmanship of Cirque du Soleil performers.”

“The Warriors are the perfect group to kick-off the new season of Bend Surgery Center’s CenterStage Series,” said Ray Solley, executive director of the Tower Theatre Foundation. “We really are bringing the world to Bend this year.”

The Shaolin Warriors are the first of eight acts in Bend Surgery Center’s CenterStage Series. Mountain View Heating is the showcase sponsor. Central Oregon Radiology and Deschutes Brewery are supporting sponsors. Black Butte Porter will be the featured beer for the evening.

The Tower Theatre Foundation owns and operates the historic stage in downtown

Bend. The Foundation’s mission is to provide performing arts, civic, educational and social events that enliven and enrich the lives of all Central Oregonians.

Membership, program information and individual and group tickets are available at the Tower Theatre box office (835 NW Wall), by phone (541-317-0700) or online (www.towertheatre.org). Details on events are also at facebook.com/TheTowerTheatre.

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Detoxifying Your FamilyBy Dr. Michelle K. Jackson

T he Fall is an excellent time to cleanse. Our bodies are constantly asked to detoxify or break down harmful substances that we are exposed so these substances

do not build up and cause us harm and disease. Many health professionals will say that the body can detox just fine on it’s own. But I think that over the years, especially recently, our environment has become more toxic and we need to help our bodies’ detoxification processes work as efficiently as possible. Our diets and foods in general are more processed and we do eat more foods that are negative to our bodies- such as sugars fast foods- on a more regular basis as a society in general. For example, processed foods usually have the fiber removed from them and fiber is helpful to our body because fiber binds toxins and helps toxins get out of the body.A common environmental toxin to avoid is bis-phenol A (BPA). BPA is a petroleum derived compound that mimics estrogen in the body. BPA is found in a large variety of plastics. BPA is associated with increased risk for cardiovascular disease, miscarriages, breast and prostate cancer, reproductive and metabolic dysfunction, diabetes, neurological and behavioral disorders. Therefore with exposure to BPA, our children’s brains and hormonal systems are more vulnerable to toxins and they may not process or detoxify toxins the same as adults therefore they may cause a lot of damage. BPA can have a negative effect on the developing the brains’ and reproductive organs of fetuses or unborn children. Another toxin to try to avoid is phthalates. Phthalates are commonly found in toys, cleaning products, pharmaceuticals, and cosmetics. They have been linked to breast and liver cancers and to the disruption of the male and female reproductive systems.

Two other common sources of environmental toxins are pesticides on foods and flame retardants, which are found on furniture and even pajamas are also linked to similar health concerns as above. We may not be able to avoid toxins altogether but by eating organic foods and making conscious choices about what we eat and purchase can be helpful. Organic foods can be more expensive but one website to visit is foodnews.org, On this website it is easy to find out which foods have fewer toxins. As for the BPA avoidance, try to avoid hard plastics

marked with the number 7 or have a PC on the bottom of the bottles or containers. Many bottles are labeled BPA free now too.

Processed foods are not good for anyone but we all get busy now and again and do eat them. So try as much as you can to choose whole organic foods and model good eating habits yourself for your family to follow. You can customize your child’s eating plan based upon your child’s weight, height, activity level on another website choosemyplate.gov/supertracker.

We spend a lot of time in our cars but our cars also out gas chemicals from plastics and flame retardants that they are made with. Since on average American spend 1.5 hours per day in their car this can lead to a lot of toxin exposure. Some things that you can do is regularly vacuum your car to remove toxic dust. Open the doors of your car for 5 minutes before getting in. Keeping the car cool can help too. The heat and the UV light can heat break down the chemicals in our cars to even more hazardous chemicals. Try to parking in the shade to help avoid this.

Plastic containers are everywhere and hard to avoid but never microwave in plastic. The toxins in plastic are released in full force when heated. Not to mention the harm that microwaves does to your food, but that may be another article. Some strategies to avoid plastics are to bulk foods as much as possible and then store these foods in glass, ceramic, stoneware, aluminum, and stainless steel containers. At our house, we also cut the thin layer of food that has been in contact with prepacked foods to avoid where the plastics may have leached into the food.

Finally, some here are a list of some simple OTC supplements to help the body get rid of toxins, because we can’t avoid them altogether. Calcium d-glucarate is in a variety of fruits and vegetables. It helps remove BPAs. You can also get it in a supplement form. Chlorophyll that gives plants their green hue is an excellent liver detoxifier. Much to my family’s amusement, I drink 4 oz of wheat grass per day which is very high in chlorophyll. Cruciferous vegetables such as kale, broccoli, cauliflower are rich in sulfur containing glucosinolates which help with liver detoxification. You can eat more of these foods or add to a smoothie. Fiber eliminates tons of toxins and can be increased via oatmeal, beans, citrus fruits, pears, plums and carrots. You can also add a supplement but I prefer to get as much of these as possible from food. Finally, let’s discuss probiotics. Probiotics are our good gut bugs. These gut bugs when in a good amount, will release an enzyme that breaks down toxins. When toxins are not broken down in the gut then they are reabsorbed in the bloodstream. So again we can not avoid toxins altogether but I firmly believe that we need to help our natural detox systems become as efficient as possible.

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Breast Cancerby Lizzi Katz

It’s October, and along with the beautiful colors of fall, a pink haze has settled in every store to remind us of breast cancer awareness. From pink toasters to NFL uniforms, pink is the color

of the season. It would be easy to think that awareness can be as easy as buying a cute pair of pink socks or a package of pink cookies.

Don’t let the abundance of pink products distract you from the facts. One in eight women will have breast cancer in her lifetime. Think about your friends, family, community - that’s a lot of the people you know and love, and it could be you.

As a cancer survivor and as Community Education Coordinator for the St. Charles Cancer Center, I’d like to offer some suggestions on awareness.

First, be sure that you are staying up-to-date with cancer screening. Getting screened for early detection is the best way to honor cancer survivors this and every month. Catching cancers early, before they have had a chance to spread, can greatly increase your odds of survival. With that in mind, here are some tips for breast cancer early detection (men- pay attention. You can get breast cancer too!):

1. Talk to your doctor about your cancer risk.

This will include family history and personal risk factors. Remember that 85% of women diagnosed with breast cancer have no family history, so every woman should move on to #2.

2. Know when to get screened, and stick to it!

Get a mammogram every year starting at age 40 (if you are at average risk)

Ask your doctor which screening tests are right for you if you

3. Be aware of any changes to your breasts. You should see your health care provider right away if you notice:

Lump, hard knot or thickeningSwelling, warmth, redness or darkeningChange in the size or shape of the breastDimpling or puckering of the skinItchy, scaly sore rash on the nipplePulling in of your nipple or other partsNipple discharge that starts suddenlyNew pain in one spot that does not go away

4. Make healthy lifestyle choices

Maintain a healthy weight, and eat your fruits and veggies!Add exercise into your routine and limit alcohol intake

Secondly, be generous in your support of people facing cancer. Donate to a charity which offers support to cancer patients, or which is directly funding cancer research.

We are fortunate in central Oregon to have great support available for people facing cancer. For those of you who prefer to know that your donations stay in our community, Sara’s Project helps local breast cancer patients with nurse navigation, The Support Sisters peer support, financial assistance for travel and other non medical expenses, lymphedema massage and reiki, comfort kits, education, survivorship support and access to the latest clinical research trials.

Enjoy the pinking of the season - by being sure that you are taking care of your health, and reminding your loved ones to do the same.

To learn more about Sara’s Project, please visit www.sarasproject.com Lizzi Katz is the Community Education and Survivorship Coordinator at the St. Charles Cancer Center. She is an eight year breast cancer survivor, wife, and proud mama of two teenagers.

Childhood ObesityA Preventable Problem

by Lori S. Brizee MS, RD, LD

Part I: Screen Time

“Television causes childhood obesity!” This headline that would not be far from the truth. Childhood obesity is a complex problem; but, research has shown us over and over again--reduce “screen time” and we reduce childhood obesity. Reduction

of “inactivity” has more of an effect on childhood weight gain than putting kids in sports or fitness programs (these are healthy for many reasons, but they do not solve childhood obesity). The need to get our kids off their behinds is no secret to any of us; but still, 26% of all kids in the US spend over four hours per day in front of a TV, video game or computer for entertainment. All this sitting time takes away from time to be active. ANY activity will work muscles and burn more energy than sitting in front of a TV or computer. Did you know that children burn more calories when they are sleeping or reading a book than when they are watching television?—That is because their brains are more active while sleeping or reading a book than when they passively watch TV.

Face it, electronic entertainment is not going away, and it is not all bad, it is just over-used. We as parents need to control our kid’s use of it--I recommend giving kids a weekly limit for screen entertainment—six to eight hours per week allows for an occasional TV show, plus a movie or two on the weekend or a couple hours of video games with a friend .In most cases, this would mean that on some days a child would have NO screen time entertainment. If your kids and their friends are building Lego or block structures, drawing, doing craft projects, playing cards or board games, they are moving and using their brains a whole lot more than if they are watching TV or even playing a computer game. Plus they are getting amazing social benefits!

We all “get” that TV and other screen time contributes to obesity due to inactivity—but what about the media messages our kids receive? Let’s look at some of the food advertising aimed at children:

Kids’ cereals contain more sugar than almost anything else—one popular kids brand contains 3 teaspoons sugar in a 30gm serving , that is 41% sugar mixed in with some flour, a synthetic vitamin mixture, artificial colors and flavors; the new “1/3 less sugar” version contains almost 2 ½ teaspoons sugar in a 32 gm serving, that is 31% sugar—some of these now have a little bit of whole grain flour and fiber added; they are far from 100% whole grain…. this is supposed to be breakfast?

100% fruit juice boxes tend to contain mostly apple or grape juice (basically sugar water). This is fruit sugar, so it is healthy, right? Think again. Sugar is sugar, whether it is from sugar cane, sugar beets, fruit or corn (as in high fructose corn syrup). If it is separated from the nutrient rich portions of fruit, or other plant, it has only empty calories and it promotes tooth decay.

A traditional toaster pastry is about 30% sugar with only ½ gm fiber, and very small amounts of any vitamins and minerals.

Boxed or frozen macaroni and cheese entrees, all are very high in sodium, anywhere from 600 mg to 1470 mg sodium per serving; that is from more than ¼ to almost 2/3 of the maximum daily recommended limit of 2300 mg/day.

I could go on and on, but suffice it to say, our kids are bombarded with ads for less than healthy foods and beverages by the media. When our kids watch general programming they get media messages promoting even more unhealthy foods, soda pop, beer, high trans-fat, salt, and sugar snack foods and fast foods……Unless you are sitting there with them, telling them why the ads are silly or bad, they will truly think all these foods are things they should want.

Recommendation for the month: Help your kids come up with a list of 10 things they can do that do not involve a TV or computer screen.

Next month we will explore ways to increase kids’ physical activity throughout the year.


Emergence…One Woman’s Story on how she is Upgrading herselfby Anna Van Gordon

When Olivia first came to me asking to share her journey to our readers of her mid-life transition and wanting positive change, I was skeptical at first but when I heard her story, I was intrigued because many women (and men) could relate to what she is going through and hopefully benefit from her experiences. But then, when I was given permission to share each aspect of her story by Olivia’s entourage of experts: Doug Bordan, PT; Dr. Terry Fong, ND; and Jane Meyers, I quickly realized that these phenomenal professionals need to be spotlighted along the way as our community’s finest in health and wellness care.

Olivia’s journey towards positive change may strike a chord with many of you who are tuning in. This is a journey that we will be documenting throughout the next 8 months of LoVE following Olivia’s progress as she transitions into the woman that she hopes to be. This series may take some twists and turns, but ultimately, we want to reach out to other women (and men) who may feel like they are alone with their feelings of wanting positive change. As I, the publisher of LoVE will tell you, you are NOT alone!

So we all know that change happens, right? But, regardless the level of change, it’s never easy to accept, nor does it happen overnight. In fact, positive change with one person can ripple unwanted negative change with others thus causing unimaginable pain and thus resulting in guilt and shame in the person wanting positive change to happen. Olivia expressed to me how she felt her life was just on a treadmill. She felt unappreciated, undervalued and she was mostly on the back burner while everyone else was a priority. Olivia just wanted to feel healthy and alive and happy.

Changing one’s behaviors like eating habits, fitness and even one’s response to those around her can be some of the hardest things to accomplish but in Olivia’s case, they were necessary. For over 5 years, Olivia felt a strong desire, an urge….to make change happen in her life. This desire grew to desperation only a few months ago, where she truly felt like she was falling into a bottomless hole never to climb out of if she didn’t make major changes to her daily habits.

Three components of Olivia’s life needed to be examined and tended to: her self-acceptance, her nutrition and her fitness level. All three needed simultaneous focus and she was ready to tackle them head on….or…she believed she was going to die.

Soul MakeoverFirst, Olivia found an excellent therapist. Jane Meyers has been helping her define and understand her choices in her life over the past year and was really making progress with Olivia. Thankfully, she was able to help Olivia lessen the guilt that she was feeling from the choices she had made in her personal and professional life by giving Olivia a new way to view her path and others around her. Jane helped her examine her choices in friends as well as her family background and the relationships that she once placed high value upon. Discovering the reasons behind Olivia’s past decision-making allows her to put more thought into her making choices going forward with relationships. Read more about Olivia’s journey in Jane’s article printed in this month’s edition of LoVE.

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Body MakeoverSecond, Olivia found an awesome personal trainer, Doug Bordan, PT. Olivia, being a middle aged woman who has just gone ‘soft’ with her body, is not overweight, but definitely not physically fit. She would have difficulties climbing stairs or even walking up Pilot Butte. So she avoided doing activities like hiking, biking, running….worried that she was going to strain herself or even keel over with a heart attack. Doug Bordan, PT started Olivia out slow by first measuring her baseline flexibility and core strength through a series of tests. He then outlined a plan that involves a circuit of core, balance and muscle building exercises that he takes her through for an entire hour; 3 days/week. Olivia is on the second month now and she explains that these circuits have become progressively more difficult, but since her body is getting stronger, she does not feel as tired or as sore as she was during the first month. In fact, Olivia further explains “I am beginning to see some of my muscles define in my upper arms and back area. Most importantly, I find that I have better energy to hike, bike and walk long distances without feeling winded. I really feel like I can do this and I am starting to look forward to showing up for my workouts….which is amazing in of itself. Plus, it is helping me keep positive during a very stressful part of my life.” Read more about Olivia’s fitness journey in Doug Bordan’s article printed in this month’s edition of LoVE.

Simultaneously, Olivia found a very knowledgeable and compassionate Naturopathic doctor, Dr. Terry Fong, ND who is also a Nutritionalist. Dr. Terry started with asking all the right questions and even had Olivia answer some really personal soul-searching questions about her short and long term goals. Many of these questions involved how she sees herself in 5 years both with her health and her wellness. Dr. Terry then had Olivia take multiple blood tests to determine deficiencies in her blood. Sure enough, she found that Olivia was high in cholesterol and low in Vitamin D. Even though Olivia looks fine on the outside, she had a significant imbalance to her nutrition. Lacking in the basic fruits and vegetables, Olivia was finding that her energy was inconsistent. Some days being super high and other days feeling like she can’t get off the couch. Olivia is on a low cholesterol diet adding nuts, greens, and fruits to her daily intake. Plus, drinking more water is helping her with severe dehydration that caused her joints to ache. Read more about Olivia’s nutritional journey in Dr. Terry Fong’s article printed in this month’s edition of LoVE.

Next month, we will see how Olivia is progressing with these three areas of her life and how her family is adjusting to the new habits for which Olivia is portraying.

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One Woman’s JourneyStep Oneby Jane Meyers

My journey with Olivia began about a year ago. As we track the changes she is making now on a physical level, it’s important to understand the foundation of the emotional changes that readied her for what she’s doing now. This is Olivia’s story, yet I know she’s not the only one who has been through this process of emergence. Olivia is a pseudonym and this is basically one woman’s story, with certain changes to further protect her identity.

When Olivia first came to my office, she was unhappy about her relationship. She was also adamant that divorce was not an option. She had a son in high school and a daughter in elementary school. She believed her children’s well-being would be jeopardized if she left her husband and her parents would be disappointed. She could not bear those consequences. Raised in a judgmental religious environment, Olivia believed divorce was wrong. Her upbringing had led her to take the role of the responsible person that did not disappoint, to compensate for the siblings who had taken paths that vexed the parents. She had broken out of her good girl role for a period in her twenties when she did plenty of wild things, and she still judged herself for that. Perhaps in atonement, she had married a man that was her friend but not someone who set her heart on fire. He was someone her father approved of and, at the time, that seemed critical.

Olivia’s restlessness with her marriage came from the absence of sexual passion and spiritual connection. Although her husband made the money, she bore most of the responsibility. She took care of all the household chores or delegation of chores; all childcare responsibilities; and all financial decisions, budgeting and bill paying. He was unaware and unconcerned about the state of their finances and spent money freely when he felt the “need” for an expensive toy. She described him as a good dad and it was important that she avoid any actions that would impact his ability to be there for their kids. On the other hand, he didn’t think ahead to how his actions might affect others. One example was the time he put their son, a brand new driver, behind the wheel of a moving van and sent him off alone to drive across town. Olivia didn’t feel safe in the relationship. She over-worried and he under-worried. Because he wasn’t paying attention, she was tense all the time, hoping she could pick up all the slack before anyone got hurt. Her stomach hurt frequently

The couple spent very little time connecting—at least in Olivia’s eyes. He thought they were connected because they did things together. The problem for Olivia was that these weren’t the things she wanted to be doing. She wanted to play and have deep conversations and spend time doing that in nature. She longed to travel and have adventures. She is an educated woman with lots of interest in cultural activities, lifelong learning and social gatherings. He is interested in hunting, video games and television. He is also a serious drinker. But she didn’t tell me that at first. It was 2 months into our sessions before she acknowledged that part.

Many people find themselves at this point in Olivia’s story. Their children have grown enough that they don’t need constant supervision. Hormone levels are creating changes that we don’t understand, much as they did in puberty. We start to look more carefully at our lives and wonder how long we can keep doing this, if “this” isn’t working.

Olivia had been married 20 years. In a long marriage, there is a huge investment and nobody cashes that in without great soul searching and emotional challenges. We don’t know at the beginning if our discontent is because we are being nudged out of the cramped box of our current experience into a bigger life or if we are telling ourselves stories, like the woman I described in the article about the juniper tree. Can a marriage be transformed by changing our stories? Sometimes they can. But not always. The process is about discerning and often we don’t even want to ask those questions. We’re afraid of the change it might entail.

We tend to tell ourselves we’ve got so many years into the relationship that we should hang on. But as people live longer, a 20 year marriage could involve another 40 years. That’s a long time to stay in a situation that isn’t nourishing us, but rather is stifling us. It’s a cultural quandary for many. When do we put our needs first? Is it healthy to suppress our needs to keep a marriage alive? What is the impact on our children? People easily see the pain that kids go through with divorce. What they don’t as easily see is the pain kids go through living in a home where parents are modeling disconnection or hostility as the way to do relationship. Or what effect their parents’ way of coping with an unhappy marriage is having on their kids.

One of the biggest stumbling blocks I see in my practice is that people hold onto the shining essence they fell in love with. The dream of who that person could be if they chose to (but they aren’t choosing to) keeps the marriage running on hope. That wasn’t Olivia’s challenge, though, because she wasn’t ever really in love with the man she married. Sure she loved him, especially after 20 years, but it wasn’t that deep love that helps us weather the hard times. Still, as her story begins, Olivia was choosing to hold on tight. The trouble is she wanted change. It’s hard to open up to change while holding on tight and trying to control the outcome. Letting go of control is the first step. Next month we’ll examine where letting go took Olivia.


Getting Your Health Backby Dr. Terry A Fong

Olivia first came to my office at the end of August. She told me that she wanted to “get my health back.” For her, her goals were not to lose weight but to simply feel better, get more energy and to get toned. She had a number of health concerns including fatigue, joint pain, neck pain, gas and bloating, headaches and emotional imbalances. She is your average mom, works full time and takes care of her two teenage children. She had spent that last 20 years of her life devoted to her family. She had put her focus on everyone but herself.

She admitted that her eating habits were poor, that she did not exercise as much as she wanted to, and that she was under a lot of stress due to a change in family dynamics. She was going to start training with a personal trainer and wanted to check-in with a physician before starting the program. Her desire was to undergo a full transformation on a physical, mental, and emotional level. My job was to support her during the process.

We reviewed her personal medical history, family history, an environmental screen and completed a thorough head to toe physical exam. She did have a family history of heart disease and a history of anemia. Physical exams were normal and her vital signs were also within normaI limits. I obtained basic labs in order to determine her baseline. I also wanted to see how well her immune system was, how her liver and kidney function was and to rule out anemia and vitamin deficiencies. I sent her home with 7-day diet diary to see exactly what she was eating. I referred her to a chiropractor for her neck pain.

Olivia came back for her second visit one week later. Her labs showed hypercholesterolemia, dyslipidemia, increased iron, and low vitamin D. She brought in a basket full of supplements that were recommended by another physician but that she had quit taking months ago. I recommended specific nutraceuticals for her to take and we discussed at large a specific diet to decrease inflammation, balance out hormones, and to address her vitamin deficiencies. I also told her that we needed to run labs and imaging to rule out possible causes of her GI discomfort.

On her third visit, two weeks later, Olivia received a scenar treatment for her joint pain. I added other minerals to the regimen to help her balance her emotional swings and a phytogen to address her low energy. We discussed other specialty labs that would help determine what her extreme fatigue might be from.

Olivia made a commitment to finally put herself first. Read the next issue of LoVE to find out how she is doing.

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Don’t Put Yourself on the Back Burnerby Doug Bordan, PT

Too many times, I have heard the saying: “My life is so busy and crazy. I just don’t have time for myself.” I know life is hard and people are busy. Especially in today’s economy, people are struggling to get by and sometimes are working 2 or 3 jobs. Combine that with having a husband or wife and kids and there just doesn’t seem to be enough hours in the day to get everything done. I know family and work are important, but so are you. If you don’t put yourself first sometimes, then life is going to just get harder and more stressful. A better you will make for a better life.

This is a gradual commitment I am recommending you make to yourself. It doesn’t have to be hours a day, but maybe just starting with 5 minutes. I don’t care how busy you are, everyone has 5 minutes a day they can spend on themselves. You can start with some deep breathing/meditation, sitting outside, talking a walk, or my favorite, doing a little exercise. You can add 5 more minutes every week or every few days and if you feel it is too much drop it back a little. The choice is yours. All I am saying is start with those 5 minutes and see how much better you can feel even in just a short amount of time.

Currently, I am working with a client named Olivia. She has 2 kids and is going through a divorce. She is one of those women that have always taken a backseat to her family. She has just recently decided to spend sometime on herself. I train her 3 times a week for about 45 minutes to an hour and I can already see the difference. Not only does she look better, but she feels better too. Sometimes she comes in full of stress and after our session, she feels less stressed and is ready to get on with the rest of her day. She has even said that immediately into exercising, she already feels a bit better. She has made a big commitment for herself and she is seeing the results! Her friends and family have even commented on not only her physical change but her attitude towards life. Believe me, she would be the first to tell you..if she could do it so could you.

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BENDON GOINGCentral Oregon Pumpkin CompanyFun for the whole family. Pumpkin patch, Horse drawn wagon rides, pumpkin cannon, Zoo train, Market, Animal House, Hay Fort and the Maize. Open through Oct. 31st. Patch hours are Mon.-Sat., Noon-6pm and Sun., 10am-6pm. Maize hours are Fri., 3-7pm; Sat., 10am-7pm and Sun., 10am-6pm. 541-504-1414.

DD RanchBecome a part of the fall season with pumpkins, fruits, vegetables and homemade gifts and wreaths. This year we have u-dig potatoes, u-pick corn, and an awesome variety of pumpkins, gourds, dried flowers and local produce. Hayrides, Hay Maze, Kids Corral, Super Slide, Petting Zoo and pumpkin hunting are all a part of the fun for children of all ages. Our Cafe BBQ Grill is fired up to cook you a wonderful Hamburger or Pork Sausage Dog meal made from our own beef and pork raised here naturally on the Ranch. Be sure to visit us during the week and every weekend in October. Our pony rides and hayrides are only available Fri., Sat., and Sun. We’ll be looking for you. Open every day 9am-5pm Labor Day through October 31st. 541-548-1432, www.ddranch.net

Bend Endurance AcademyPrograms for kids and adults in cycling, climbing or nordic. Academy Climbing Competition Team: Ages 10-18. Focuses on bouldering with opportunities to compete in USA Climbing’s Bouldering Series. M/W/Th, 4-6pm through June 27th. Academy Climbing Development Team: Ages 10-18. For the climber looking to develop solid foundations of movement and technical climbing skills. M/W, 4-6pm through Jan. 30th. Nordic Fall Conditioning: Ages 11-14. This 5 week program improves strength, coordination and flexibility for the upcoming Nordic season. Wed, 1-4:15pm, Oct. 10-Nov. 11th. Nordic Fall Ladies: Ages 18+. Designed

fo women who sish to improve their overal ski fitness this winter. Tues., 9:15-11:45am through Nov. 6th. Nordic Competition Program: Ages 14-23. Athletes are instructed in varying activities to improve their strength, technique, coordination, agility, aerobic and anaerobic capacities with the end goal being to successfully apply these skills to ski racing environments. Tues-Sun. through May 1st. Cyclocross Team: Ages 10-18. Designed for beginners to advanced riders. Teaches bike handling skills, fitness workouts, and race strategy in a fun and safe environment. Through Nov. 25th with an option to Jan. 6th. Tues/Thurs 4-6pm.500 SW Bond St., Suite 142, Bend. Contact [email protected] or enroll online www.BendEnduranceAcademy.org.

Bend Family Support GroupMeets every 3rd Tues of every month, 5:30pm at the St. Charles Medical Center in-Bend, 2nd floor- Physicians’ Dining Rm. Contact: [email protected].

Bend: ConnectionsMeets every Monday evening, 7-9pm. Support group for folks living with mental illness. Meets at the Methodist Church, 680 NW Bond., in community room off Kansas St,, Marcia Miller 541-480-8269

Wrong Window!7:30pm Wed-Sat, 2pm on Sun. Through October 7th. Van Zandt and Milmore pay tribute to Master of Horror, Alfred Hitchcock, with this comedy whodunit. Location: the Greenwood Playhouse. www.cascadestheatrical.org

Evil Dead the MusicalOctober 10-27th. It’s back and bloodier than ever! Evil Dead the Musical features death, dismemberment and dance numbers! Even if you’re not into musicals, you’ll love Evil Dead! Based on Sam Raimi’s 80s cult classic films, EVIL DEAD tells the tale of 5 college kids who travel to a cabin in the woods and accidentally

unleash an evil force. And although it may sound like a horror, it’s not! The songs are hilariously campy and the show is bursting with more farce than a Monty Python skit. ALL FRONT ROW SEATS ARE IN THE SPLATTER ZONE! Directed by Sandy Klein. www.2ndstreettheatre.com

October 2nd Garden Fence Work Day9-4pm. Join us in the garden every Tuesday in early October as we complete our reclaimed garden fence. We will be trimming wood to size, scrubbing down metal panels, and getting everything attached to the fence rails in place. We have the tools, we just need a couple of extra hands. Stop by for half a day or just an hour or two. At The Environmental Center. www.envirocenter.org

October 4-5th Spirit StoriesReadings from the poetic drama of William Butler Yeats: 7pm. A Readers’ Theatre presentation featuring two short plays: Purgatory & At The Hawk’s Well. Plus, an adaptation of a traditional Irish folk tale King O’Toole and the Goose Join us for this extraordinary evening of classic poetic drama from one of history’s greatest writers. At Innovation Theatre Works. www.visitbend.com

October 5th We: A Collection of Individuals7:30pm. Red Bull Media House In Association With Poor Boyz Productions Presents WE: A Collection Of Individuals with Special Guests Toy Soldier Productions “Act Natural”. 2 Movies, After-party, and Pro Athletes all packed into one night! Mark your calender, get your tickets early as this is always a show to not be missed! At the Tower Theatre, downtown Bend. www.towertheatre.org

Fall Art Hop5pm. View sensational local and national art at dozens of businesses downtown on the first Friday of every month. Shops are matched with artists and stay open late. Many businesses will serve food and wine as they welcome you in to enjoy their space and this wonderful evening. www.visitbend.com

Birdie for the Land Golf Outing7:30-12pm. Join fellow Land Trust friends at Black Butte Ranch to golf the newly renovated Glaze Meadow Course. Enjoy fall colors, amazing views, and friendly competition. Time: Range opens at 7:30am, tee off at 9am. Location: Glaze Meadow Golf Course at Black Butte Ranch Cost: $99 per player. Includes range balls, cart, greens fees, and boxed lunch. The format will be a “shamble” where foursomes use best drive of the group, then each golfer plays their own ball. Lowest score for the hole is posted. Proceeds directly benefit the Land Trust! To reserve a spot for an individual or foursome, please contact Zak Boone: [email protected] or 541-330-0017. www.envirocenter.org

Owl Prowl6:30pm. Join us on an evening walk through the Museum’s forest in search for some of our 12 species of owls, from great horned owls and barn owls to great grey owls and screech owls. Learn what their calls mean, and how to call owls and get them to come close. And meet close-up some of the owls that are part of the Museum’s educational programs. Space is limited. $10 for non-members. At the High Desert Museum. www.visitbend.com

October 6th Bend Takes Steps for Crohn’s and Colitis2pm. Take Steps is the nation’s only walk dedicated to fund cures for Crohn’s disease and ulcerative colitis. Take Steps is FREE to join and participants are asked to raise critical funds that will help find a cure. -Participants enjoy a casual 2 mile walk through scenic Riverbend Park along the Deschutes River in Bend. -In addition to the walk, Take Steps is a fun event filled with entertainment, food and excitement for the entire family to enjoy! www.visitbend.com

“For the Love of Singing!”7:30pm. To mark the release of our new CD, Harvest, we want to invite our friends and patrons to a special free concert and reception - an hour of music “for the love of singing,” followed by desserts. Harvest has been a project three years in the making, and this CD is truly a harvest of our efforts over that three-year period. It will be available for purchase at the concert. Location: The First Presbyterian Church. Free admission. www.co-mastersingers.com

October 6-7th Bend Fall Festival11am. As fall gracefully eases its way onto the scene and provides a time to harvest and give thanks, it’s the perfect time to enjoy a community gathering. The Bank of the Cascades Bend Fall Festival, presented by The Source Weekly brings a celebration of all things fall to downtown Bend. Fall-themed activities including contests, music, art, and food that will thrill attendees of all ages. www.c3events.com

October 7th Ignite Change 5k/10k Run/Walk and Kids Challenge11am. The event is a fundraiser for Camp Fire USA Central Oregon. Races start and finish in Riverbend Park in Bend. 5K and 10K races start at 11AM. This is an all-weather event and will include food vendors, raffle prizes, and fun for the whole family! The Kids Fun Run will start at 12:30 and will include a short running course, as well as ‘challenge’ stations with activities that foster team building and leadership skills. The kids will earn stamps for accomplishments and there will be prizes and giveaways. www.visitbend.com

October 8th Chip in For Kids!12pm. Enjoy a round of golf at Bend

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October 9th Shaolin Warriors7:30pm. The legendary Shaolin monks combine remarkable skill and stunning discipline for a spectacular evening of strength, endurance and martial arts prowess. Reserved Seating. Tickets $35, $43, $50. At the Tower Theatre in downtown Bend. www.towertheatre.org

October 11-14th Bend Film Festival5pm. The 9th annual Bend Film Festival! Thursday is opening night film. 5pm is Ethel with Raise My Hands and 8pm is Dead Man’s Burden with Home Turf. At the tower theatre. www.towertheatre.org

October 13th The Met: Live in HD9:55am. Anna Netrebko and Matthew Polenzani star in Bartlett Sher’s new production of one of the greatest comic gems in opera, as the fickle Adina and her besotted Nemorino. Mariusz Kwiecien is the blustery sergeant Belcore and Ambrogio Maestri is Dulcamara, the loveable quack and dispenser of the elixir. Maurizio Benini conducts. Encore: Wednesday, November 7, at 6:30 pm. www.theoldmill.com

Bend Fire Department Open House12pm. Meet our firefighters. Tour the fire station and climb aboard a fire engine! Watch a vehicle extrication with the Jaws of Life Ladder Truck 351 Demonstration. A Live Burn Demonstration will show the benefits of residential fire sprinklers. Bend Police K9 Demonstration. Learn about Fire Safety with our Hazard House! Take your picture at the Children’s Firefighter Photo booth and craft activities Plus, enjoy a creamy scoop of Eberhards Ice Cream and refreshments for free! At the Bend Fire Station #305. www.visitbend.com

October 14th The Foodie Crawl4pm. Sample Central Oregon chefs’ most delicious recipes in over 10 different Central Bend locations. You’ll enjoy small plates and beverage pairings at each stop, created just for you! It’s a mobile feast, unlike nothing else in Central Oregon. Cost: $60 per person. Various downtown locations. www.bendchamber.org

October 17th Ignite Bend 97pm. What if you only got 20 PowerPoint slides and they rotated automatically every 15 seconds? Around the world people have been putting together “Ignite” nights to share their answers. We hope that you will participate in this outstanding community event as a speaker, voter and attendee! At the Tower Theatre. www.towertheatre.org

October 18th U.S. National Fly Fishing Championships8am. Bend, Oregon is hosting the 2012 National Fly Fishing Championships. Central Oregon is known for its year round world-class fly fishing opportunities. www.visitbend.com

Keeping Hormones Balanced5:30-6:30pm. A talk given by Dr. Terry Fong of Natura Healthcare. At the Bend Senior Center 1600 SE Reed Market Rd. Register at 541-389-7275.

SMART Sale and Social Art Show5pm at Aspen Hall. Join friends of SMART, Start Making A Reader Today, for an Art Show featuring book related art pieces created by kids in preschool through 12th grades, raffle and live auction. Live Auction features works by Stuart Gordon, Kevin Kubota and Irene Hardwicke. Live Music provided by Deco Moon Jazz. For more info: 541-355-5600 or www.getSMARToregon.org.

October 18-19th Bend Venture Conference8am. BVC Revs Up for its 9th Consecutive Year! Hear Keynote Speaker Daymond John--shark on ABC’s Shark Tank. Held at Bend’s historic Tower Theatre, BVC connects startup companies with investment opportunities, attracting over 300 of the Northwest’s top entrepreneurs, investors, and business leaders. www.towertheatre.org

October 20th SP 4449 Historic Train Arrival8:30am. Ride behind the historic Southern Pacific 4449 Steam Locomotive. Two-day trip through the beautiful Columbia and Deschutes River Gorges and return to Portland. Vista Dome, Club and Coach seating available in vintage rail cars. Complimentary box lunches with beverages provided. Overnight premier hotel accommodations with transportation to and from train in Bend included. Cost: $495 and up. www.visitbend.com

October 20-22nd Central Oregon Symphony Fall Concert7:30pm. The Central Oregon Symphony season begins with guest artist Dan Franklin Smith from New York, who has been described as “an incredibly sensitive player” and “a master pianist.” He will be performing Johannes Brahms Piano Concerto No. 1. Symphony No. 3 by Jean Sibelius will also be included in the program. Location: Bend Senior High School. www.bendchamber.org

October 26-28th Halloween Cross Crusades1-5pm. Witness the fun and mayhem of over 1,000cyclocross racers donning costumes and competing for Cross Crusade points. In addition to the three days of racing,attendees will enjoy the Deschutes Brewery beer garden, live music, food and festivities. www.theoldmill.com

October 27th The Met: Live in HD

9:55am. Verdi’s Shakespearean masterpiece returns to the Met with Johan Botha in the title role opposite the acclaimed Desdemona of star soprano Renée Fleming. Semyon Bychkov conducts. Encore: Wednesday, November 14, at 6:30 pm. www.theoldmill.com

Jazz at Joe’s6-9:30pm. Greenwood Playhouse. www.cascadestheatrical.org

October 30th The Capitol Steps7:30pm. These equal opportunity offenders make fun of both sides of the aisle with political parodies of well-known songs. Reserved Seating. Tickets: $40, $45, $55. Location: At the Tower Theatre in downtown Bend. www.towertheatre.org

October 31st Halloween Party4-7pm. Bring your little ones in costume to the Old Mill District for crafts and treat-or-treating in each of the Old Mill District stores and restaurants. Activities include: Art Station Creative Crafts, Stiltwalkers and Circus Performers by Spinsterz, FLASH Photo Booth, Rippin Reptile 4-H Club, and Wagon Rides. www.theoldmill.com

LAPINEOctober 19thLa Pine Chamber of Commerce Breakfast7:30-9:15am. Come and join the Chamber for Breakfast at the La Pine High School. Open to Chamber Members and their guest. Speaker, Sponsor, and lots of networking. Cost for the Breakfast is $8. Call the Chamber for more information and to reserve a seat, (541) 536-9771. www.lapine.org

October 20thSt. Vincent’s LuncheonNoon-2pm. At the Lapine Senior Center. www.lapine.org

October 22ndFlu Shot Clinic9am-Noon at the Lapine Senior Center. www.lapine.org

October 28thHalloween Dinner and Dance6-9pm at the Lapine Senior Center. www.lapine.org.

MADRASON GOINGMadras Support GroupsConnections: Peer Support Group –meets 10 AM, 2nd Wednesdays of each month, at Best Club, 241 6th St. Family Support Group – meets 6:30 PM 1st & 3rd Thursday of each month, 200 NE 8th Madras. All meetings are free and everyone is welcome. Contact- Linda McCoy 541-475-1873, [email protected]. See our website www.namicentraloregon.org for other programs

PRINEVILLEOctober 5-6thFall Harvest Local Vendors Fair8am-5pm. Street Roders. 1535 NE 3rd St. www.visitprineville.com

October 14th Crooked River Roundup Queens Tryouts8-5pm. At the Crook County Fairgrounds. www.visitprineville.org

October 20th Antique and Collectibles Auction9:30-5pm. At the Crook County Fairgrounds. www.visitprinevill.org

October 27th COBRA Barrel Race9-5pm. Indoor Arena. At the Crook County Fairgrounds. www.visitprineville.org

October 31st Harvest Party6-11pm. Indoor Arena. At the Crook County Fairgrounds. www.visitprineville.org

REDMONDON GOINGRedmond Family Support GroupSeeking volunteers to train and become facilitators (See website for updates). Meeting at 6pm, 1st


Thursday of every month in the meeting room of the Redmond Library, 827 West Deschutes Rd. Contact Roger Olson ([email protected]).

October 13th 5th Annual Redmond Kiwanis Oktoberfest5:30pm. Beer, Brats and Bids, a fundraiser for youth projects. Cost: $25. www.bendchamber.org

October 21st Marie-Josee Lord2-6:30pm. Marie-Josee will enchant you with her voice. Her show Jambalaya delivers a gourmet recital where classical and popular music are gently entwined. The result is spectacular. She will be accompanied by violin and piano. www.redmondcca.org

October 27th Grange Fundraising Breakfasts7-10:30am. Grange Fundraising breakfasts include: Sour Dough Pancakes, Scrambled Eggs with Ham, Juice, Coffee, Hot Chocolate and great fellowship. Adults $6.00, children $3.00 (12 and under). www.visitredmondoregon.com

SISTERSOctober 5-7th Patriot Challenge Golf Tournament9am. The annual Patriot Challenge is a 54 hole, two-person team golf tournament hosted by Aspen Lakes Golf Club, Bend Golf and Country

Club, and Widgi Creek Golf Club on the first full weekend of October. The tournament raises funds for the Folds of Honor Foundation which provides educational scholarships to children and spouses of United States service members killed or severely disabled in the War on Terror. Please join Aspen Lakes in honoring our military families by participating in the 2012 Patriot Challenge. www.sisterscountry.com

October 13-14th Sisters Harvest Faire10-4pm. Quality handcrafted arts and crafts. Unique and one-of-a-kind. Live entertainment and food court. Free to the public. Location: Hood Avenue. www.sisterscountry.com

SUNRIVEROctober 3rd South County Community Health Expo11-4pm. More than 20 local health-related agencies and organizations will be on hand 11 am to 4 pm to provide information, screening, demonstrations and other assistance. Areas represented will include assisted living facilities, home health services, hospice, foot care, insurance and financial resources, chiropractic, natural foods, and several medical departments from St. Charles Health System. Partners in Care will offer flu shots for $30 each (some insurances can be billed). Location: SHARC. www.sunriverchamber.com

What’s in a tree? by Jane Meyers

“Everybody hates juniper trees!” My client was exasperated that her husband didn’t see this self-evident “truth”. A juniper tree was squatting in the middle of her garden interfering with the beauty that she wanted

to cultivate. The solution was obvious: chop it down! But her husband was obstinately refusing. “The tree is 100 years old,” he stated, as if that explained everything. They were at an angry standstill. She was apologetic for even sharing this “stupid” argument with me. But, as I told her, all the arguments couples bring into therapy are stupid—and they acknowledge that. It’s the little things in life that irritate us the most, despite the gurus who advise us not to sweat the small stuff. They bug us because we tell ourselves stories about them, stories rooted in our personal histories.

My client was tired of being controlled. It was an old story in her life and her husband had stepped right up to fill the shoes of the others who had controlled her as a child. She had no intention of letting him do that. This was a battle they’d been fighting in one form or another for 20 years. She fully intended to have that tree chopped down the next time he was gone.

I invited her to consider what story her husband might have been telling himself about the tree. Could it represent something he had valued that was taken away from him and so he would not let that happen again? What if it represented their marriage? Could her husband unconsciously sense that you don’t just cut something away because it’s old or ugly? What if it represented her and he didn’t want to cut her out of his life even though he might not be liking the way she was behaving?

Of course we had no way of knowing why he cared about that tree…there are many possible conscious and subconscious reasons. But as my client considered the possibility that he had reasons that had nothing to do with controlling her, she softened. Her mind opened with curiosity. Her heart opened with tenderness. Tears welled up in her eyes. Suddenly the tree didn’t look so ugly. Her husband didn’t seem so stubborn and controlling.

I taught her about an old Hawaiian reconciliation practice called Ho’oponopono. It involves saying “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.” These phrases have tremendous power. She closed her eyes and mentally said them to her husband. More tears.

By the time she left, that juniper tree seemed very different to her. Now it was a symbol of something precious that she and her husband shared. Even though they had not been nourishing their love lately, like the juniper tree that grows in areas with very little water, there was hope for their love to thrive again. Maybe it was worth protecting after all.

What are the juniper trees in the garden of your life? If you changed the story you tell about them, I wonder what treasure you might find right under your nose?

Jane Meyers is a counseling hypnotherapist and the owner of Positive Life Connections. She is the author of Magic Child, all about love and power from the inside out, and the minister at Unity Community of Central Oregon.

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Number 13 Proves Therapeutic for Alpaca Ownerby Jodi Schneider McNamee

Alpacas have appeal in Central Oregon, certainly for Marlene Baldock, Owner of Desert Song Alpacas in Sisters. Baldock utilizes her Huacaya herd of 13 in a special way.

Baldock had been considering the Alpaca as a pet not too long after they made their first appearance in the U.S. in 1984. “I started with six Alpacas just over two years ago, two males and four females.” said Baldock. “I wanted a small herd with the intention of them having Crias.”(Alpaca name for babies) Word got around and soon friends and local residents came by to visit Desert Song Alpaca farm. “One of my biggest joys of having Alpacas is being able to watch people interact with them, they especially enjoy children.” said Baldock. “They will go right up to the kids out of curiosity, they are extremely curious animals.” The Alpaca is an amazingly peaceful animal with a tranquil temperament. “I talk to them and they will come right up to me and touch noses, they hum.” said Baldock “That’s how they communicate.”

Many find the content humming sound to be a soothing therapy after a long day at the office or just plain therapeutic to relieve everyday stress. Alpacas are colorful, soft and gentle creatures

“Back when my children were young and with the 4H, I always enjoyed being around the therapy animals.” Said Baldock “I am looking forward to be able to bring one of my Alpacas as a therapy pet to visit handicapped children and adults; it will bring a sense of wonder and peace to them.” Alpacas can be a prescription for a healthy less stressful life! “I now have 13 Alpacas and a trailer for them to travel in.” said Baldock. Marlene Baldock has an incredible love for and closeness to animals, Could she be the next Alpaca whisperer?

Marlene Baldock lives in the Cloverdale area of Sisters with her husband Jerry, a freelance photographer, their Rescue Border Collie mix dog, Jasper and of course her lucky 13 Huacaya Alpacas. If you would like a therapeutic visit to her Desert Song Alpaca farm you can email Marlene Baldock at 541-29 7-5041 to make arrangements.

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As we move into fall, as the days get shorter and the nights cooler, spiders begin to look for a suitable place to overwinter. So you may notice an increase in the number of spiders in your garage, storage buildings and home. Spiders are arguably the most feared and least liked group of animals in the world. The media coverage of spiders and spider bites has helped fuel that fear.

There are hundreds of species of spiders in the western desert regions of the US. And it’s been estimated that there are as many as 4000 spiders per acre. But, even with all these spiders around, only three: the brown recluse, the black widow and the hobo spider have been known to bite humans. The Brown Recluse isn’t found in this area. It’s not even found on the West Coast. The black widow is common here in Central Oregon, but few bites are documented from this species. The hobo spider, also known as the aggressive house spider, is found here and the one species blamed for most of the spider bites in Central Oregon.

The hobo spider is an introduced species from Europe was first identified in the US in the Seattle area in the 1930s. The scientific name for the hobo spider is Tegenaria agrestis. The agrestis species name is probably why it has been referred to as the aggressive house spider. But, that name – agrestis – is derived from the Latin word for “of the land, rural or wild” which probably refers to its habitat, and doesn’t have anything to do with aggression. Most researchers feel that this species isn’t any more aggressive than other hunting spiders. The spider’s more accepted common name, the hobo spider comes from its initial U.S. discovery along railroad tracks and its presumed movement via commercial shipping (trains in those days) – like a hobo – to surrounding areas. Its range is now throughout the Pacific Northwest from the west coast through Idaho and into Montana (from Spiders Around the Home and Yard by Edward Bechinski et al, Univ. of Idaho).

Spiders are an important part of our ecosystem. All spiders are predators. Most feed on insects, other arthropods and some feed on other spiders. They help control the insect pests that feed on our plants and also do a good job controlling flies, moths and others flying insects.

The majority of spiders never come in contact with humans. But the Black widow and some of the hunting spiders like wolf spiders, hobo spiders and its relatives: domestic house spider, giant house spider and the barn spider do enter houses while hunting, searching for mates or looking for a place to overwinter.

A little bit of fall clean-up and simple maintenance can go a long way to preventing spiders from entering your home. First, clean up

debris piles, clutter and other materials stacked near your house which provided web sites for spiders throughout the summer. Also, now is a great time to clean out and rearrange all the stuff that has accumulated in the garage during the summer. Spiders prefer to hang out in cool areas—garages-- during the hot summer days. Spiders like the black widow are often found in garages.

Also, since spiders usually enter houses through man made openings, check your screens and the door seals for damage. Poorly aligned screens and damaged door sweeps provide entry points for spiders. A little bit of fall clean-up and maintenance can go a long way to preventing spiders from bothering you and your family during the cooler months. If these things don’t stop spiders from coming inside, it may be time to call a professional. Fall is a good time to get an exterior perimeter treatment which helps prevent spiders from coming in.

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Parents often are in conflict and thus they decide to divorce. How do parents move from the hostility and conflict into a cooperative parenting mode? It is not easy but it can be done. Parents who are separating and have children must attend the mandatory Divorcing Parents Seminar that is put on by Lamont and Nancy Boileau. It costs $60 per parent and if the parent can qualify, there may be a fee waiver. Their suggestion is to look at parenting in stages.

At first, there may be frequent arguing and blaming, lack of trust, rigid schedules with children being stuck in the middle. They suggest that when this is the type of situation that parents may benefit from moving to the next stage which is Independent Parenting. This is where each parent has total responsibility for their children during their parenting time. It is understood that each parent will follow the parenting time schedule exactly as it is laid out and there are no expectations of flexibility. There is also no direct communication during this stage. Instead, perhaps parents could communicate by e-mail if necessary issues arise concerning the children. This stage gives a needed cooling off period for all the parties including the children. This provides an opportunity for a parent to bond with their child with quality time with no interference from the other parent.

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Professor Child Debuts New Film

“Children and Divorce”

Bend business, Professor Child, has just released its first film, “Children and Divorce”. In the documentary-style film, eight children share their personal divorce stories. They describe what divorce means to them, how it’s changed their lives, what’s helped, what they love most about their families, and much more. The film is unscripted and has no adult voices or clinical advice. “We didn’t know what to expect as we prepared to film these children and their stories, but we knew we wanted to provide a venue for them to share,” said Sharon Richards, co-founder. As you listen to the children’s stories, you realize that divorce is a part of their lives, but does not define them. These children are honest, brave and courageous in their storytelling and will leave you with a feeling of hope.

Professor Child offers a unique education tool, one in which children teach children by sharing their personal stories. “We want children to know they are not alone in their experiences. We believe they can feel empowered and learn valuable lessons by simply listening and learning from each other,” said Rory Kidder, Professor Child co-founder.

“It is one thing when an adult gives advice and says everything will be OK; it is another message altogether when a ‘peer’ says it,” said Kim Kelley, a licensed professional counselor about the Professor Child education model.

Professor Child is the creation of three moms coming together with a fundamental belief that children have a powerful voice that is relatable, healing and hopeful. Professor Child focuses on challenging events that may arise in a child’s life. The inspiration for Professor Child came from co-founder Jenni O’Keefe’s personal search to find healing and hopeful tools for her niece. “I was dismayed at the lack of tools available for children dealing with grief and divorce. I knew there had to be a way to instill a sense of hope and healing to children going through a very tough time.” Ultimately after partnering with co-founders and fellow moms, Sharon Richards, a mental health counselor and Rory Kidder, a former public school teacher, Professor Child was launched. “This truly was a collaboration of working moms with diverse backgrounds in therapy, education, and personal experience. Once we started discussing the problem we wanted to solve, the solution of ‘children teaching children’ was a shared vision,” said O’Keefe.

All of Professor Child’s tools from films to workbooks focus on providing a message that is relatable, non-clinical, and purely child focused. Professor Child is currently in production on three additional films focused on children experiencing the death of a close family member, children who have a sibling with Autism Spectrum Disorder, and children from military families. Learn more about Professor Child’s projects and watch a trailer of the film “Children and Divorce” at www.professorchild.com.

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“Children & Divorce”… a movie review by Kyle Van Gordon/17 years old

When parents go through a divorce, I get frustrated when they (and everyone around them) only see the parents going through the divorce. Kids go through any traumatic event just like an adult, and no amount of assertion that they shouldn’t be involved will change that. Adults can get so high on their pedestals supporting one side that they forget the kids suffering in between- and that’s not right.

That is why I liked Children & Divorce because it stepped back from the often overplayed drama divorcing parents, and instead focused on how the children of such parents fought through their short-term tragedies and long-term adversities.

As a 17 year old dealing with the hardship of divorced parents, I can relate to the feelings of the children in “Children & Divorce”, and even find similarities in their experiences compared to mine. I did feel that the intended audience of Children & Divorce was too young for me, perhaps divorce when the kids are older is atypical. Either way, Children & Divorce was designed for the younger set, what with its upbeat music, chalkboard graphics, and easy-to-understand, elementary advice. But what Children & Divorce does for younger kids, it does very well. The advice offered from kids to kids going through divorce is innocent, honest, and encouraging. It’s also quite informative- teaching kids that there are others in the same situation elsewhere in the world, and teaching parents that it’s the kids who matter, not their own selfish desires. Watch this video, then show it to your children when they’re ready- no use pounding and compounding emotional topics on them in the early stages of the divorce.

My final message, this time to kids: there will come a day when you need your parents. Even if you hate them now, keep them close, and protect your siblings. And keep optimism: Life has its ups and downs, but if you focus on the ups, there’s less downs.


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BEND 601 Northwest Wall Street, BendFor additional Library Events visit: http://www.deschuteslibrary.org/

TuesdaysToddlin’ Tales: 10:15 & 11am.Preschool Parade: 1:30pm.

WednesdaysToddlin’ Tales: 10:15am.Baby Steps Story Time: 11:30pm.Know Coffee Know eBooks1:30-2:30pm.

ThursdaysOpen Computer Lab: 2-3:30pm. Baby Steps Storytime: 1:30pm.

FridaysPreschool Parade: 10:30am.

October 2nd Know PoliticsLeague of Women Voters: 5pm

October 3rd Teen Book Swap: 2pm.

October 6th Block PartyLEGO Universe at your library: 2pm.

October 7th Second Sunday (on the First Sunday)Marjorie Sandor: 2pm.

October 9th Know PoliticsLeague of Women Voters: 5pm.

October 11thThe Library Book Club:12pm.


October 17th Pajama Party Storytime: 6:45pm.

October 20th Story Star Jan Brett: 10am.The Voters Have SpokenOregon’s Controversial Ballot Initiatives: 2pm.

October 23rd Know Classics: 6-8pm.

October 25th M&M’s (Music, Movement and Stories): 10:30-11am.

October 28th The “U” Word: A Historical and Political Look at Reproductive Rights in the U.S.: 2pm.

EAST BEND62080 Dean Swift Rd., BendFor additional Library Events visit: http://www.deschuteslibrary.org/

WednesdaysToddlin’ Tales: 9:30-10am.

ThursdaysPreschool Parade9:30-10am.

SaturdaysSaturday Stories9:30-10am.

October 2nd Animal Adventures with the High Desert Museum: 9:30am.

October 4th Know Politics: Ed Kennedy’s War: V-E Day, Censorship and the Associated Press: 6:30pm.

October 5thM&M’s: 9:30am.

October 9th Open Computer Lab: 2pm.


October 16th The Library Book Club: 12pm.

October 20th Story Star Jan Brett: 10am.

October 23rdOpen Computer Lab: 2pm.

LA PINE16425 1st St., La PineFor additional Library Events visit:http://www.deschuteslibrary.org/lapine/

MondaysTeen Tech Time: 3pm.

ThursdaysFamily Fun Story Time: 10:30am.

October 3rdTeen Game Day: 1pm.

October 17th Teen Spy Craft and Secrets: 1pm.

October 18th The Library Book Club: 12pm. Block PartyLEGO Universe: 10:30am.


October 22nd Open Computer Lab: 10:30am.

CROOK COUNTY175 Northwest Meadowlakes Drive PrinevilleFor additional Library Events visit:http://www-wsl.state.wy.us/crook/

MondaysWee Read: 10-11am.

TuesdaysGrowing Tales: 6:30-7:30pm.

WednesdaysWee Read: 10-11am.

ThursdaysGrowing Tales: 11-12pm.

October 4th Teen Late Night: 6-8pm.

October 20th Friends Book Sale: 10:30-2pm.

REDMOND827 Deschutes Ave., RedmondFor additional Library Events visit:http://www.deschuteslibrary.org/redmond/

TuesdaysOpen Computer Lab: 3pm.

WednesdaysPreschool Parade: 10:15 and 1:30.

ThursdaysToddlin’ Tales: 10:15am. Baby Steps Story Time: 11am.

October 2nd Pajama Party Storytime: 6:45pm.

October 6th Genealogy 101: 1pm.

October 10th Teen Territory: 2:30pm.

October 11th The Library Book Club: 12pm.

October 13th Block PartyLEGO Universe: 10:30am.

October 15th Tech Petting Zoo: 12pm.

October 16th Pajama Party Story Time: 6:45pm.

October 17th Teen Book Swap: 2:30pm.


October 27th The “U” Word: A Historical and Political Look at Reproductive Rights in the U.S.: 3pm.

SISTERS110 N Cedar Street, SistersFor additional Library Events visit:http://www.deschuteslibrary.org/sisters/

ThursdayFamily Fun Story Time: 10:30am.

October 17th Book Ends: Big Nate! 2:30pm.


October 21st Know PoliticsBroccoli, Marijuana and Commerce: FDR or Ayn Rand? 2pm.

October 24th The Library Book Club: 6:30pm.

SUNRIVER56855 Venture Lane, SunriverFor additional Library Events visit:http://www.deschuteslibrary.org/sunriver/

TuesdaysFamily Fun Story Time: 10:30am.

October 6thChapter One Book Club: 10-Noon.

October 10th Teen Game Day: 1:30pm.

October 13th Write Now! 3pm.

October 16th Block PartyLEGO Universe at Your Library: 3pm.


October 23rdKnow Digital Books: 1:30pm.

October 24th Spy Craft and Secrets: 1:30pm.

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Book Reviewby Heather McNeilYouth Services Manager, Deschutes Public Library

Jan Brett. Those words often bring sighs of contentment from teachers, children and parents. Her books are lush with illustrations of animals, trolls, and children, and her website is chock full of activities based on her books. (www.janbrett.com) Every one of her books has countless opportunities for discovery, as you search for clues on each page as to what will happen on the next page. She has written stories that range from her own version of The Gingerbread Baby to tales of her mascot, Hedgie, an adorable hedgehog. Perhaps her best known book is The Mitten, a Ukranian folktale of animals sleeping inside a lost mitten.

So why am I writing about Jan Brett? Because she is coming to central Oregon! All of you Brett lovers will have a chance to meet this New York Times bestselling, and award winning, author. You can watch her draw an illustration from her latest book, Mossy, and you can have her autograph a book. You can photograph your child with Hedgie (a person in costume), and you can see the amazing tour bus, wrapped with Mossy illustrations.

Brett is traveling from coast to coast, visiting 23 cities to promote Mossy, the story of a turtle who is taken by a biologist to a museum. It is a young girl who realizes that wild animals belong in their natural habitat, so, with the help of two artist friends, Flora and Fauna, she sets out to rescue Mossy. The story was inspired when the author encountered a turtle in a lake with water plants growing on its shell. She was motivated to create a home for turtles in her back yard,

complete with pond for swimming, rocks for sunning, caves for hiding in, deep water for hibernation, and

lingonberries and strawberries for munching.

Jan Brett’s incredible body of work has largely been inspired by her love of the natural world. She has taken research trips to North, Central, and South America, the Arctic, Asia, India, and Central and Southern Africa to study animals, flora, and fauna. She is a member of the National Audubon Society, the Chicago Zoological Society, The Wildlands Trust, and the Manomet Center for Conservation Sciences. She has written and illustrated over 30 books, including Beauty and the Beast, Annie and the Wild Animals, On Noah’s Ark, and Hedgie’s Surprise.

Deschutes Public Library is honored to present Jan Brett at the Tower Theatre on Saturday, October 20. The bus will arrive at 9:00 a.m., and Hedgie will be around to greet children. Brett will speak and draw at 10:00, followed by book sales and autographing. The library thanks The Bulletin for helping to sponsor this presentation, and Barnes and Noble for helping with book sales.

If you would like to hear Jan Brett, free tickets will be available at all Deschutes Public Libraries on Friday, October 12, with a limit of 5 per family. Contact me if you need more information at 541-617-7099, or [email protected].

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Revitalization and Transportation by Annissa Anderson for Commute Options

Wondering how we can add to our built environment in a sustainable way? The nonprofit Building a Better Bend, which seeks to positively impact the development and growth of Bend, presents a free lecture on October 23rd discussing ways that educational institutions can physically integrate campus buildings into surrounding neighborhoods while minimizing traffic and other impacts.

Building a Better Bend (BBB), active since 2003, secures expert speakers who present innovative ideas for sustainable growth and create a discussion on how to apply these ideas to the local community. For the October 23rd lecture, David C. Bagnoli from McGraw Bagnoli Architects will speak on small city college campuses. The lecture will be held at 7 p.m. in the Riverbend Room at the Bend Parks and Recreation Building at 799 SW Columbia Street in Bend.

Bagnoli will address the physical, economic, and transportation challenges and opportunities created by colleges in small cities and describe how such institutions have engaged their surroundings to various degrees. “Bend has struggled for many years to find ways to minimize single-occupant vehicle travel to and from our educational institutions,” said Jeff Monson, executive director of Commute Options and BBB board member. “The introduction of public transportation a few years ago has helped, but learning how to build new infrastructure that better encourages bus ridership, bicycling and walking is essential to healthy growth.”

Commute Options works closely with businesses and organizations throughout Central Oregon to reduce existing commuter challenges, but Monson believes the best way to solve future traffic and congestion problems is with good planning. “How our community grows is something that should interest all of us,” said Monson. “You don’t need to be a planner or builder to get involved. By finding out more about planned developments, you may find a way to affect your local built environment in a positive way.”

Building a Better Bend was created because of issues surrounding land use policies, said Monson. “The idea is to share new ideas for building from experts in the field with city officials, as well as the public, to literally, build a better Bend.” If the public is aware of building issues such as sewer, water, transportation options, health, architecture, and land use, they may influence outcomes, through voting or conversations with committee members, planners, developers or city officials.

Admission to the October 23rd event is free and open to the public. Lecture sponsors include the City of Bend, Miller Lumber, NorthWest Crossing, Pacific Crest Affordable Housing and Tozer Design.

For more information on Building a Better Bend, please visit www.buildingabetterbend.org.

Commute Options promotes choices that reduce the impacts of driving alone. For more information about Commute Options, contact Jeff Monson, Executive Director of Commute Options at 541/330-2647 or visit www.commuteoptions.org.

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All Elementary SchoolsOctober 11-12th: Parent/Teacher ConferencesAmity Creek ElementaryOctober 27th, 4:30-7pm: Harvest Festival FundraiserBuckingham ElementaryOctober 2nd: Picture DayHigh LakesOctober 26th: PTA Fall FestivalJuniper ElementaryOctober 1st: Picture DayLa Pine ElementaryOctober 18th: Picture DayOctober 19th 9:30am: Tears of Joy – The Ugliest DucklingLava Ridge ElementaryOctober 2nd: Picture DayPine Ridge ElementaryOctober 19th: Pine Ridge Fun RunR.E. Jewell ElementaryOctober 10-12th: Scholastic Book FairRosland ElementaryOctober 8th: Picture DayThree Rivers ElementaryOctober 10-12th: Scholastic Book FairOctober 11-12th: Parent/Teacher ConferencesWilliam E. MillerOctober 9th: Picture DayPilot Butte Middle SchoolOctober 26th: Spirit Day – Mountain View vs. Bend HighOctober 31st: Fall Costume DayBend High SchoolOctober 1-5th: Homecoming Spirit WeekOctober 17th, 9:30-12:30pm: Deschutes County College FairOctober 18th, 8-3pm: Red Cross Blood DriveOctober 19th: Battle of the BandsOctober 26th, 5pm: Lava Bear TailgaterOctober 30th, 7pm: Choir ConcertMt. View High SchoolOctober 11th: Fall Blood Drive, West GymOctober 17th: Student Picture RetakesOctober 17th, 9:30-12:30pm: Deschutes County College FairOctober 20th, 8-11:30pm: Homecoming DanceOctober 23rd, 7pm: Band/Orchestra/Choir ConcertOctober 24th, 5pm and 7pm: Buff & Tuff and Powder Puff Football GamesOctober 30-31st: Challenge Day 2012Summit High SchoolOctober 17th, 9:30-12:30pm: Deschutes County College FairOctober 19-21st, 7pm on Fri. and Sat. and 2pm on Sun. and Oct. 25-27th at 7pm: Fiddler on the Roof. Tickets $10/Adults, $8/Students and Seniors

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Commute Options received the Oregon Transportation Options Program of the Year, awarded at the Oregon Public Transportation Conference this week in Seaside. The stylish trophy was presented by Nathan Broom, President of the Transportation Options Group of Oregon.

Mr. Broom recognized Commute Options for our exemplary work in employee outreach, Safe Routes to School, Drive Less Connect and the Region wide program expansion.

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AdultArt Paired with Wine SeriesAges 21 and OlderIt’s a little bit of art, a little bit of wine, and a whole lot of inspiration! Each session will introduce artists to a different art medium, working in a relaxed atmosphere of fun and creativity. All supplies, two glasses of wine, and light appetizers included. $40Sess: 2 “Watercolor Zen” | TH | Oct 25 | 6pm-9 | Holtzman

Doodling as ArtAges 14 and OlderBring your art journal and we will have a fun time exploring different ways to create a beautiful journal page. Explore the different ways to add color and depth with water-soluble pens, markers, opaque markers, blending, textured backgrounds, layering and much more. Designed for all experience levels, bring a journal with heavy paper. $66TH | Oct 4 & 11 | 6pm-9 | Newbold

Drawing on HistoryAges 18 and Older, or 14-17 with AdultMeeting at the Deschutes County Historical Society, we will reflect on local history as inspiration for an observational drawing. Students will take an exclusive, behind-the-scenes tour with the museum’s Exective Director, Kelly Cannon-Miller, exploring the interesting and unique objects that spark our imagination. Students will then practice drawing skills as they put their chosen objects on paper with demonstration and hands-on instruction. Fee includes museum admission following class; bring a 9x12 or larger sketchbook. $28SA | Oct 13 | 10:30am-2 | Shuck | Deschutes County Historical Musuem, 129 NW Idaho Ave.

A Painting a Day in Acrylics SeriesAges 14 and OlderStudents will complete a painting using a variety of exercises in acrylic media. Choose any or all workshop sessions, each focusing on a specific subject, technique, or medium, encouraging continuing artists to explore new skills and expand their repertoire. Supplies List. $30Sess: 1 “Fall Foliage” | F | Oct 19 | Noon-3 | Berry

New! Acrylics Inkjet Transfer WorkshopAges 14 and OlderCreate an acrylic painting using gel transfers and a photocopier as an under painting. Practice using acrylic gel mediums to transfer images into your art and go home with a finished painting. Use the techniques of transferring an image to canvas, wood or panel, of using acrylic “skins” in your work and of making a digital fresco panel for an image transfer. See for yourself the “freedom” this technique offers and how well it works for a base for your painting. Supplies List. $45SA | Oct 27 | 10am-4 | Berry

Day ClayAges 14 and OlderThis friendly day group provides a supportive and engaging clay experience. Open to all experience levels; practice new skills in this project orientedclass. Work in clay as you experience the basics of hand-building, explore 3-D design, and practice at the wheel. First bag of clay, firings, and tools included. $180Sess: 2 | M | Oct 29- Dec 17 (no class Nov. 12 & 19) | Noon-3 | Bommarito

Artful SketchbookAges 14 and OlderPractice visual journaling by using simple and fun techniques to create your own personal sketchbook. Students will sketch what they see intuitively without fear or inhibition. Open to all skill levels. Supplies List. $81M | Oct 29-Nov 12 | 6pm-9 | Holtzman

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YouthSchool’s Out, Art’s In: Creepy CreationsAges 6-8 / Ages 8-12Light up your Halloween with creations inspired by cultures throughout America! From unique jack-o-lanterns to calaveras (colorful skulls), there’s spine-tingling fun in store when school is out. Working both in both studios, students will create multi-media pieces as well as glazed and fired artwork to pick up in time for Halloween and Dia des los Muertas. Bring a sack lunch each day. $95Sess: 1 | Ages 6-8 | TH-F | Oct 11-12 | 9am-3:30 | Bommarito & WilliamsSess: 2 | Ages8-12 | TH-F | Oct 11-12 | 9am-3:30 | Bommarito & Williams

Drawing on FashionAges: 13-17For young designers who enjoy fashion and sketching, this class will introduce skills for portraying your style! From sketching the human form in proportion, to exploring color theory, to practicing design and composition, students will build drawing skills that can be used to interpret their artistic vision. $68M | Oct 29-Dec 10 (no class Nov 12 & 19) | 4pm-5:30 | Rathbun

A Call to Artists

Broadsides 2012: A Juried Exhibition

Broadsides throughout history have been one of the most popular printed formats. Printed on one side of a single sheet of paper, Broadsides were ephemera used to inform the public about current news and events and celebrate literary efforts.

Today broadside printing has become a fine art variant, combining the art of letterpress, calligraphy and hand drawn text with hand created images.

This exhibition, in collaboration with The Nature of Words, will open November 2, 2012 in conjunction with the annual literary festival held by the Nature of Words.

To learn more about this exhibition please review our website, atelier6000.org.

To review the prospectus and enter the exhibition please submit entries to A6.submittable.com

About the Jurors

Ellen Waterston – Waterston is the founder and former director of The Nature of Words. An award-winning author and poet, her most recent book is a collection of personal essays Where the Crooked River Rises, OSU Press, 2010. She has published two collections of poetry (I Am Madagascar and Between Desert Seasons), a memoir (Then There Was No Mountain).

Clare Carpenter – Carpenter is the proprietor of Tiger Food Press in the neighborhood of St. Johns, located smack-dab between the Willamette and Columbia Rivers in Portland, Oregon, which produces a variety of letterpress works. She teaches letterpress and printmaking around the Pacific Northwest and at Oregon College of Art and Craft, where she is also the Studio Manager in Book Arts.

Ron Schultz – BFA from California State University, Northridge and has done post graduate work in Fine Arts at Chico State University. A consummate artist and craftsman his passion for words, illustrations, books, and printmaking is profoundly reflected in his work.

Cash Awards for first, second and third place entries. Winning broadsides will be published in the spring 2013 issue of High Desert Journal.

Calendar

October 5, 2012 Deadline for entry

October 12, 2012 Notification of accepted artworks via e-mail

October 25, 2012 Accepted broadsides due at Atelier 6000

November 2, 2012 Opening reception 5:30-8:30pm

About Atelier 6000

Open to the public, Atelier 6000 provides a well- equipped studio, community classes, college instruction, workshops, artist residencies and studio rental space for art groups, classes, critique space and specialty interest groups, i.e. book clubs and technology groups. Atelier 6000 brings together students from all lifestyles, from absolute beginners to professional artists, to create and develop works of art exclusively by hand.

Our Mission is to advance printmaking and book arts as vital contemporary art forms. Atelier 6000 inspires and engages diverse artist learners and audiences in educational and creative experiences.

Atelier 6000, 389 SW Scalehouse Ct. Suite 120, Bend, OR 97702


Faith, Hope and CharityVineyards

by Cindy Grossmann

As you drive through the gates of Faith, Hope and Charity Vineyard and Winery you feel a sense of beauty, excitement, and being a part of something new and exciting. The fifteen acre vineyard with it’s backdrop of it’s namesake, the Three Sisters, Broken Top and Mt Bachelor, is in it’s 3rd year and progressing very well. Continuing down the drive past the Lavender Gardens, will bring you to the German Style Barn which houses Deschutes County’s first Winery. The tasting room is warm and inviting and you will be greeted by the smiling faces of Tasting Room Manager Becky Sullivan, and Owners Cindy and Roger Grossmann.

Our goal is to make everyone that enters our doors feel like part of the family and welcome to come often and stay as long as they like to enjoy the wine, the conversation, and the beauty of the surroundings. The Vineyard and Winery industry is new to Central Oregon and our goal is to share our experience with growing cold hardy, short season hybrid grapes that will thrive in this part of Central Oregon. The proof is in the wine which has been produced as single variety wines from the hybrid grapes grown right here in Terrebonne, at Monkey Face Vineyard where the Grossmann’s contract for their grapes until their vineyard is producing. The 2010 Marechal Foch, St. Croix,and LaCrescent, and the 2011 La Crescent and Vignole are sold out. We are looking forward to our 2011 reds being bottled in a few months and our 2012 harvest at Monkey Face which find us harvesting our first grapes of the year in the next couple of weeks.

The Tasting Room doors open to a large patio, pond, waterfalls, wide expanses of grass surrounded by acres of gardens and wild flowers. Our tasting room is open seven days a week from 12-5PM

Thirsty Thursdays 5-8pm Live Music Sept 20, 27 Oct 5,12,19 & 26

10/ 5, 6, 7 Oktoberfest Amateur Wine Making Contest Judging at 2 p.m. Saturday Potato Salad Cook-off Judging at 2 p.m. Sunday Brats, beer, wine Music

10/27 Masquerade Party Music, food, wine, beer, dancing

11/23 Harvest Party Football The Apple Cup Washington State vs University of Washington

11/24 Harvest Party Football The Civil War Ducks vs. Beavers Happy Hour on drinks and food 5-10

Faith, Hope and Charity Vineyards Event Center “The Epitome of Beauty and Romance”

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follow us on facebook at www.facebook.com/faithhopeandcharityvineyardfor more information call 541-526-5075 or email [email protected]

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and we have a Thirsty Thursday Happy Hour from 5-8PM with a live band, food, and happy hour prices that has gained huge popularity! We feature many of Central Oregon’s talented bands and tasty Food Carts. What we see on Thursdays is family›s and friend enjoying some of the best of Central Oregon. Our goal is to showcase this talent and share our Vineyard and Winery with the community. We host weddings, corporate events, dinner parties, holiday parties, car shows and music events. All events showcase our wine and vineyard and promote the vineyard industry in Central Oregon.

The vineyard and winery is the centerpiece of a much larger vision. The 312 acre farm will be home to a Guest Ranch that will focus on health and wellness, agri tourism and agri education. Guests will be welcomed to internships with the viticulturist, the winemaker, the chefs, the landscapers and more. Future triathlon events will be planned to benefit local charity›s. There are also 6 five acre home sites that surround the farm and their owners will have access to the entire development and a 116 acre farm that will hopefully become home to another vineyard and winery .

If you ask the Grossmann’s what the passion is that drives them.....a love of the beauty of the outdoors, gardens, ponds and rolling farm land, a love of hospitality, good food, music and of course wine, the love of architecture, development and design, creating an industry and development that will provide employment and attract tourism to Northern Deschutes County. This project feed all our passions. For more information on the projects,our events and investment opportunities visit their website at www.faithhopeandcharityevents.com, call 541-350-5384, and Like us on Face book.