Living Loving Learning

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Living

LovingLearning

&Leaving a legacy

Dr.V. Veera Balaji KumarBHMS., M Sc., M Phil (Psychology)


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Inspiration Professor of

education atuniversity ofsouthernCalifornia

Counsellingpsychologist

Author ofLove,Loving, living

and learning,Personhood,

Bus 9 to paradise


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Or deepest fear is not that we are

inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful

beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness, that mostfrightens us.

- Marianne williamson,A return to love

Quoted in 1994 inaugural speech ofNelson mandela


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The word journey has been in use as a

metaphor for describing life in all itsaspects , including the quest for finding

purpose and meaning.

All the events in our life, whether we judgethem as positive or negative, have a

purpose, and exist in harmony with lifes

unfolding.


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You are unique

As in any journey it is up to each one of us

to find our own direction.

You are very special and unique and have

your own way of experiencing the world

We each have preferences and priorities

that take precedence in determining ourway.


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Inspiration

Stephen R. covey

Author of The 7 habits

of highly effective

people,

Living the 7 habits,

Principle centered

leadership

First things first

The 8

th

habit


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First things first

FOUR HUMAN NEEDS ( & capacities)

to live PHYSICAL

to love SOCIAL

to learn MENTAL

to leave a legacy SPIRITUAL


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Need to live

The need to live is our

PHYSICAL need for

food, clothing, shelter,economic well-being,

health etc.


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Men in their pursuit of earning a livelihood

forget to live their life


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Need to love

the need to love is our SOCIAL need torelate to other people, to belong, toappreciate and to be appreciated


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What is Love ?

Love is not a feeling or state of mind

Love is romantic relationship

Love is NOT sex

Love is not a one way process


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Love defined?!

Love is .

the will to extend ones self for the

purpose of nurturing ones own oranother's spiritual growth


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YagnavalkyaBrihadaranyaka upanishad

Truly, it is not for the sake of the

husband that the husband is dear, but

for the sake of the self, And it is not for the sake of the wife that

the wife is dear, but for the sake of the

self,

And it is not for the sake of the sons that

the sons are dear, but for the sake of the

self


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Need to learn

the need to learn

is our MENTAL

need to developand grow


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Need to leave a legacy

the need to leave a legacy is our SPIRITUAL needto have a sense ofmeaning, purpose, personalcongruence between our values and behaviour;and finally our contribution


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What if the needs are satisfied ?

These needs are also capacities -potentially

If any one of these needs are unmet, itreduces the quality of life

There is a sense of emptiness or vacuum

A black-hole that devours your energy

Urgency addiction or Endogenousdepression


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Synergy

Fulfilling the four needs in an integrated

way will spark a chemistry

When we reach a critical mass ofintegration we experience a spontaneous

combustionan explosion of inner energy

that gives passion, vision and a spirit ofadventure to life.


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Spiritual

PhysicalSocial

Mental

Fire

within


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Psychosocial Crisis Stage Life Stageage range, otherdescriptions

1. Trust v Mistrust Infancy 0-1 yrs, baby, birth to walking

2. Autonomy v Shame andDoubt

EarlyChildhood

1-3 yrs, toddler, toilet training

3. Initiative v Guilt Play Age 3-6 yrs, pre-school, nursery

4. Industry v Inferiority School Age 5-12 yrs, early school

5. Identity v Role Confusion Adolescence 9-18 yrs, puberty, teens*

6. Intimacy v Isolation Young Adult18-40, courting, earlyparenthood

7. Generativity v Stagnation Adulthood 30-65, middle age, parenting

8. Integrity v Despair Mature Age 50+, old age, grandparents

Erik Eriksons psychosocial stages


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Erwin schrodinger

Inconceivable as it seems to ordinary

reason, youand all other conscious

beings as suchare all in all. Hence this life of your which you are

living is not merely a piece of the entire

universe, but is, in a certain sense, thewhole.


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William Wordsworth (1770-1850)

Our birth is but a sleep and a forgetting;

The soul that rises with us, our life's star,

Hath had elsewhere its setting,

And cometh from afar;

Not in entire forgetfulness,

And not in utter nakedness, But trailing clouds of glory do we come From

God,

who is our home.

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