Life Coaching

Time managementTime management

To help you plan, remember the ‘Pareto To help you plan, remember the ‘Pareto Principle’:Principle’:

80% of your success will come from 20% of 80% of your success will come from 20% of what you do.what you do.

Time managementTime management

You must first realise:You must first realise:

• You cannot save time – you have all the time You cannot save time – you have all the time there is.there is.

• You will not have more time tomorrow, or in the You will not have more time tomorrow, or in the future.future.

Only then can you start to plan your time.Only then can you start to plan your time.

FocusFocus

• A goal set and never looked at will never be A goal set and never looked at will never be achieved.achieved.

• You move in the direction you are looking.You move in the direction you are looking.

• Look at your goals daily, to keep focused.Look at your goals daily, to keep focused.

• The reality is they were always there.The reality is they were always there.

• Review your goals daily to keep focused.Review your goals daily to keep focused.

FocusFocus

• A light can illuminate a room.A light can illuminate a room.

• When it becomes focused it becomes a When it becomes focused it becomes a laser.laser.

• Develop your ‘laser thinking’.Develop your ‘laser thinking’.

• Where is your focus?Where is your focus?

Limiting beliefsLimiting beliefs

How often do you think:How often do you think:

• I’m so stupidI’m so stupid• I’m useless at ….I’m useless at ….• Why does it always happen to me?Why does it always happen to me?• It’s easy for youIt’s easy for you• I’m so unluckyI’m so unlucky• I’ll never be able to do thatI’ll never be able to do that• People can’t be trustedPeople can’t be trusted• I was never any good at….I was never any good at….

All your power, energy and potential restrained by a All your power, energy and potential restrained by a belief you cannot escape.belief you cannot escape.

Example: Playing GolfExample: Playing Golf

• Limiting belief – “I never win”Limiting belief – “I never win”

• I don’t practise much “What’s the point”I don’t practise much “What’s the point”

• I imagine losing “They’ll play better than me”I imagine losing “They’ll play better than me”

• ““I lose motivation”I lose motivation”

• ““I play half heartedly”I play half heartedly”

• I focus on my bad shots – “I always do that”I focus on my bad shots – “I always do that”

• ““I play worse”I play worse”

• ““I lose”I lose”

Enabling beliefsEnabling beliefs

How often will you think:How often will you think:

• I’m cleverI’m clever• I’m good at…I’m good at…• I achieve my goalsI achieve my goals• It is easy, isn’t itIt is easy, isn’t it• I’m so luckyI’m so lucky• I can do thatI can do that• People are so reliablePeople are so reliable• I’m getting better at … every dayI’m getting better at … every day

All your power, energy and potential free to All your power, energy and potential free to stampede towards your goals.stampede towards your goals.

Example: Playing GolfExample: Playing Golf

• Enabling belief “I have the potential to win”Enabling belief “I have the potential to win”• I practise as much as possibleI practise as much as possible• I imagine winning “I’m as good as they are”I imagine winning “I’m as good as they are”• ““I gain motivation and confidence”I gain motivation and confidence”• ““I play to win”I play to win”• I focus on my good shots “Another Birdie”I focus on my good shots “Another Birdie”• ““I play better”I play better”• ““I win”I win”• ““I was right”I was right”

AffirmationsAffirmations

• Affirmations are short, positive declarations or self-Affirmations are short, positive declarations or self-instructions. instructions.

• Repeated often they will change limiting beliefs into Repeated often they will change limiting beliefs into enabling beliefs.enabling beliefs.

• You will need to write them down and repeat them You will need to write them down and repeat them to yourself out loud several times a day for 21 days. to yourself out loud several times a day for 21 days.

• By the end of the three weeks the behaviour will be By the end of the three weeks the behaviour will be natural.natural.

Affirmations - examplesAffirmations - examples

• I review my affirmations at least three times a day, I review my affirmations at least three times a day, and with each day I am becoming the person I want to and with each day I am becoming the person I want to be.be.

• I review my goals daily and take positive action to I review my goals daily and take positive action to achieve them.achieve them.

• I am lucky, good things are always happening to me.I am lucky, good things are always happening to me.

• I do the most productive thing possible at any given I do the most productive thing possible at any given moment.moment.

Affirmations - rulesAffirmations - rules

1.1. Don’t worry about how truthful your affirmations are.Don’t worry about how truthful your affirmations are.

2.2. State your affirmations in the present tense.State your affirmations in the present tense.

3.3. Pack them with positive emotionPack them with positive emotion

4.4. Use no more than 10 affirmations at any one time.Use no more than 10 affirmations at any one time.

5.5. Replace affirmations that are part of your behaviour Replace affirmations that are part of your behaviour with new ones that you want to achieve.with new ones that you want to achieve.

Affirmations rules Affirmations rules (continued)(continued)6.6. If you catch yourself contradicting your affirmations, If you catch yourself contradicting your affirmations,

say ‘stop’ and restate your affirmation.say ‘stop’ and restate your affirmation.

7.7. You cannot stop the little voice inside your head so You cannot stop the little voice inside your head so you might as well teach it to tell you to succeed.you might as well teach it to tell you to succeed.

8.8. Affirmations will not work if you decide they will not Affirmations will not work if you decide they will not work, as that is what your little voice will tell you.work, as that is what your little voice will tell you.

9.9. Make affirmations work for you by repeating them Make affirmations work for you by repeating them out loud to yourself several times a day for 21 days.out loud to yourself several times a day for 21 days.

VisualisationVisualisation

• Visualisation can be used to rehearse mentally for Visualisation can be used to rehearse mentally for any situation.any situation.

• The subconscious mind cannot differentiate The subconscious mind cannot differentiate between what is real and what it believes is real.between what is real and what it believes is real.

• By mentally rehearsing or visualising every By mentally rehearsing or visualising every possibility, you can increase your chance of possibility, you can increase your chance of success.success.

Use your sensesUse your senses

• What you seeWhat you see

• What you hearWhat you hear

• What you feelWhat you feel

• Use the other sensesUse the other senses

LuckLuck

• When they say “You make your own luck”, it’s When they say “You make your own luck”, it’s true.true.

• There are millions of people who believe they are There are millions of people who believe they are doomed because of ‘bad luck’.doomed because of ‘bad luck’.

• A confirmed pessimist is twice as likely to A confirmed pessimist is twice as likely to experience illness as an optimist.experience illness as an optimist.

• Good luck can be created …. Good luck can be created ….

Preparation, opportunity, Preparation, opportunity, luckluck

• If you were not prepared you would not spot the If you were not prepared you would not spot the opportunityopportunity

• You make your own luck!You make your own luck!

Modelling - IntroductionModelling - Introduction

• ‘‘If they can do it, so can I!’If they can do it, so can I!’

• Modelling is the method by which you can Modelling is the method by which you can do it.do it.

• As a baby you were an expert at modelling.As a baby you were an expert at modelling.

• As you grew up you lost the skill.As you grew up you lost the skill.

Modelling – How to:Modelling – How to:

1.1. Identify the specific skill/behaviour that you want to reproduceIdentify the specific skill/behaviour that you want to reproduce

2.2. Find a person who is successful at this specific skill/behaviourFind a person who is successful at this specific skill/behaviour

3.3. Observe them and notice what they do and how they do itObserve them and notice what they do and how they do it

4.4. Question them about their skill/behaviour in detailQuestion them about their skill/behaviour in detail

5.5. Reproduce the skill/behaviour by modelling the processReproduce the skill/behaviour by modelling the process

6.6. Check the process worksCheck the process works

Key motivatorsKey motivators

• You can use your key motivators to help you You can use your key motivators to help you achieve success.achieve success.

• Use affirmations, visualisation, focus, enabling Use affirmations, visualisation, focus, enabling beliefs, etc, but use what will motivate you.beliefs, etc, but use what will motivate you.

• Look at the following motivators for losing weight.Look at the following motivators for losing weight.

Motivators for losing weightMotivators for losing weight

1.1. Status – The admiration and respect of family, Status – The admiration and respect of family, friends and colleagues.friends and colleagues.

2.2. Power – Having others seek your advice and Power – Having others seek your advice and copy your technique.copy your technique.

3.3. Material reward – Buying a new wardrobe.Material reward – Buying a new wardrobe.

4.4. Autonomy – Making your own decisions about Autonomy – Making your own decisions about what you eat and how you exercise.what you eat and how you exercise.

Motivators for losing weight Motivators for losing weight (continued)(continued)

5.5. Expertise – Acquiring specialist knowledge of foodExpertise – Acquiring specialist knowledge of food

6.6. Creativity – The unique way you will achieve your goal.Creativity – The unique way you will achieve your goal.

7.7. Affiliation – The new friends and relationships you will Affiliation – The new friends and relationships you will establish through a slimming club or a sports club.establish through a slimming club or a sports club.

8.8. Search for meaning – Why you want to be a particular Search for meaning – Why you want to be a particular weight and the meaning behind this.weight and the meaning behind this.

9.9. Security – Making incremental changes which can be Security – Making incremental changes which can be maintained.maintained.

Input/OutputInput/Output

There is an old computer saying:There is an old computer saying:

• Rubbish inRubbish in

• Rubbish outRubbish out

Be aware of what you put into your brain.Be aware of what you put into your brain.

What you give out will come back to you What you give out will come back to you tenfold.tenfold.

InputInput

• Listen to motivational tapesListen to motivational tapes

• Read motivational booksRead motivational books

• Find and use a role modelFind and use a role model

• Find and use a mentorFind and use a mentor

• Listen to good ‘upbeat’ musicListen to good ‘upbeat’ music

OutputOutput

• SmileSmile

• Learn to laughLearn to laugh

• Treat others how they want to be treatedTreat others how they want to be treated

• Praise othersPraise others

• Share your successesShare your successes