8/11/2019 Lauren Cooney SFS114M Week3. Doc1
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Lauren Cooney
3/11/13
My Decision Crossroads
1. What was an important decision that you made that had
significant effects on your life?When I decided to leave my
daughters father and move on with my life was a ma!or
andlife"changing decision# I had to leave him $ecause the
relationship was unhealthy and
unhappy# I had to do what was $est for me and potentially $est
for my new$orn child#
2. What have $een the main $enefits and disadvantages that have
derived from the decision?
%he only disadvantages of deciding to leave my daughters
father& was the violentepisodes of !ealousy on his $ehalf that
occurred shortly after the $rea'"up# (s my
daughter is older she re)uests to see him often& and as I
would never deny her seeing him
he does not respond as he should# My daughter does not
understand why she does nothave a relationship with him# %he rest
of the outcome of my decision to leave& are all
advantages# I left an unsta$le man and stopped devaluing myself
$y ena$ling him# I
opened the door for real love with a real man and married my
true love# My daughter hasa real and constant father"figure in her
life& which we $oth can count on#
3. What did your decision 'eep you from doing?
My decision 'ept me from ma'ing the $iggest mista'e of marrying
the wrong person on!ust the thought alone of not wanting to $e $y
myself# I reali*ed that I was raising two
children and I only gave $irth to one at that time# My decision
to leave 'ept me from
staying in a to+ic relationship that also 'ept me from
self"growth#4. Would you say that you made a good decision?
I feel li'e I made a ,-.(% decision# I made the only decision# I
thin' if I had not made
that decision& where would I $e? I would pro$a$ly $e either
on the streets or dead from
physical a$use# I ena$led his choices or schemes that $rought us
to failure# .ven when I
'new that they were not good ideas& I allowed it to
happen& in order to 'eep him happyand to $e 'ept# I even
allowed myself to $e ostraci*ed from my family# ltimately&
my
decision to get out of the relationship was the $est one for me
and my daughter#5. What alternative approaches might you have used
to ma'e it? Could these alternatives
have produced a different decision? 0ow?
efore the final $rea'"up& my mother too' me to lunch and
$ro'e down all the reasons
why the relationship was not right for me& using choice
words# %hat lunch resonated inmy spirit& and the very ne+t
day& I too' action# I decided to pic' a fight that would end
it
all# %he $rea'"up ended in altercation and ripple"effect that
$lew things totally out of
proportion# Loo'ing $ac' at& I would have pro$a$ly handled
the situation straight"forward and e+plain to him my feelings#
(lthough& if I had approached it in that manner&
he could have used words that would wea'en me and reel me $ac'
in# (ny wagers mydaughters father tried to ma'e to get me $ac'
failed& $ecauseI was determined to leave#
