Lake of Lotus (38)-The Profound Abstruseness of Life and Death- The Meaning of Near-Death Experiences (38)-By Vajra Master Pema Lhadren-Dudjom Buddhist Association

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The Meaning of Near-Death Experiences (38)

The scenes at the moment of death can be

roughly classified in the following categories in

accordwith the varieties of the main causes and

auxiliaryconditions:

1.TheSeparationoftheFourElementsthemain

cause (the internal consciousnessandsub-

consciousness,includingallkindsofmemories)

conjoins with the auxiliary conditions (the

SeparationoftheFourElementsintheexternal

By Vajra Master Pema LhadrenTranslated by Simon S.H. Tang

How to Express Unspoken Consensus to Patients so to Eliminate Regrets on Both Parties

What are the Key Points on the Confession and Repentance of Wrongdoings?

Excerpt of Last Chapter: Various Reasons on the Formation of Different Scenes

at the "Moment of Death"

circumstances) in forming the scenes at the

moment of death (please refer to the articles

onTheMeaningofNear-deathExperiencesin

Issues8and20oftheLakeofLotus).

2. The Endorphins Inside the Brain the main

cause (the internal consciousnessandsub-

consciousness) conjoins with the auxiliary

conditions (the endorphins inside the brain

of the external circumstances) in forming the

The Profound Abstruseness of Life and Death

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scenes at themoment of death (please refer

to the article on The Meaning of Near-death

ExperiencesinIssue21oftheLakeofLotus).

3. The Karmic Forces the main cause

(the internal consciousness and sub-

consciousness) conjoins with the auxiliary

conditions (the karmic forces of the external

circumstances) in forming the scenes at the

momentofdeath.Thiscanbefurtherclassified

intothefollowingtwokinds:

i. WholesomeOnesarising from: (a)virtuous

retributions(pleaserefertothearticleonThe

MeaningofNear-deathExperiencesinIssue

21oftheLakeofLotus);and(b)theeffortsof

onesDharmapractice(themainthemeofthis

articleinthisissue).

ii. UnwholesomeOnesarisingfrom:(a)vicious

retributions; and (b) the forces of karmic

creditors inseekingcompensationsonones

karmicdebts.

According to the records of different surveys,

most of the dying people had seen the following

scenes:

1.Protectorsoravengers:

(i)goodonessawkithandkinwhohadpassed

away,unknownprotectors,deitiesorBuddhas

comingtofetchforoneself.

(ii)bad ones being besieged by a crowd of

ferociouspersonsorbeasts,andgoingalong

incompanywithgroupsofpeoplewholooked

confused.

2.Strangeplaces:

(i)goodonessawpavilions,balconies,buildings,

flowerfields,rivers,lightzones,townsorcities.

(ii)badonessawwilderness,forests,darkness,

caverns,hells.

3. MessyIssuesthatcannotberecalledclearly.

HowwouldtheBuddhistpointofviewcomment

on these phenomena? According to the Buddhist

teachings, itwassaid that rebirthwould takeplace

within forty-nine days after a person has passed

away,thenwhywouldadyingpersonseethekithand

kinwhohadpassedawaylongtimeagostillcoming

tofetchforhimorher?Whyhadnotthekithandkin

taken rebirths after so many years posthumously?

Are the appearances of these deceased persons

merely the illusions of the person who is going to

die? Or were they really true? Are there any other

reasons?Are thosestrangeplaces thedestinations

wheretheyaregoingtobereborninto?Underwhat

circumstances would the normal rebirth of a dying

personbenegativelyencumbered?Isthereanyway

to help a deceased person to avert sufferings and

elevatetoabetterplaceofrebirth?

Human beings have four kinds of conditions

of consciousness (please refer to the article The

WisdominDirectingOnesDharmaPracticeinIssue

26oftheLakeofLotus)asfollows:

1. Beta waves the conscious condition of

dailyliving;

2. Alpha waves the relaxed consciousness

condition,suchasinenteringintotheelementary

stage of visualization, or at the first stage of

mental concentration; or the condition when

thespiritualbodyisslowlyseparatingfromthe

physicalbody;

3. Theta wavesthepeacefulconscious

conditionofhavingenteredintohigherlevelsof

visualization,oratthedeeperlevelsofmental

concentration;

4. Delta waves slow conscious condition of

nothavinganydreams,andinastageofslow-

wavedeepsleep.

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In fact, how does the arising of the different

stagesinapproachingdeathanditstransformation

ofconsciousnessaffectthethoughtsandbehaviors

of dying patients?What are their relationships with

the scenes at themoment of death? How should

the family and kin and kith who take care of the

dying patients respond to the transformation of

consciousness and change of scenes at the

moment of death for guiding the emotions and

spiritual direction of the dying patients? Could the

transformationofconsciousnessandthechangeof

scenesatthemomentofdeathbecomplementary

to each other? Furthermore, the disintegration of

theFourElementsofthephysicalbodyalsoaffects

thetransformationofconsciousness,aswellason

thechangeofthescenesatthemomentofdeath.

Hence,howshouldonesupportandprovideguidance

toadyingpatient inorder to reduceor resolve the

predicamentfromtheseproblems?

The care-givers, kin and kith and professional

counselorsshouldperformthefollowingstepswhen

a dying person is approaching the first stage of

death:

1. AcceptingandUnderstanding

2. ListeningandObserving

3. AnalyzingandAdopting

4. LeadingOutandGuidingIn

5. AccompanyingwithUnspokenConsensus

Thekeypointsofapplicationandtheirimportance

on the issues of Accepting and Understanding

and Listening and Observing had been clearly

highlighted in the cases of the previous chapters

(pleaserefertothearticlesonTheMeaningofNear-

deathExperiences in Issues29-30of the Lakeof

Lotus), as well as on the issue of Analyzing and

Adoptingbythedyingpersons(pleaserefertothe

articleonTheMeaningofNear-deathExperiences

inIssue31oftheLakeofLotus)havebeenclearly

explained.

Tomost people, the issues of Accepting and

Understanding and Listening andObserving are

not difficult to do and it is relatively easy to carry

outunder thecall of loveandwithoneswisdom.

Not toomanyskillswillbe required.Even thougha

personhasneverlearnedoftherelevantknow-how,

norhave receivedanysuch relevant training,heor

she can still spontaneously provide proper care or

resolvevariousproblemsfortheseriously-illpersons,

ordyingpatients.

However,thequalityanddepthoftheresolution

to a problem would be inadequate or imperfect,

due to the lackof relevant know-howor trainingby

the participants. In order that both the care-giving

familymembersandthedyingpatientsdonothave

remorse which will be too late to repent later on,

but only ultimate offering in farewell with a heart-

to-heart connection and having no trace of regret,

the following three steps shouldbe included in the

issues that must be done when a dying patient is

approachingthefirststageofdeath.

There are at least two parts to the issue of

AnalyzingandAdopting in thethirdstep.Thefirst

partofAnalyzingandAdoptingistobedirectedby

adyingpatient,whilethesecondpartofAnalyzing

andAdopting,whichistobedirectedbythecare-

givers, kin and kith and professional counselors,

have already been discussed in the previous two

chapters(pleaserefertothearticlesonTheMeaning

ofNear-deathExperiences in Issues 32 and33 of

theLakeofLotus).ThefourthsteponLeadingOut

andGuiding Inhasalreadybeendiscussed in the

next before last chapter (please refer to the article

onTheMeaningofNear-deathExperiencesinIssue

34of the LakeofLotus).Now,wearediscussing

onthefifthsteponAccompanying with Unspoken

Consensus (please refer to the article on The

Meaning of Near-death Experiences in Issues 35

and36oftheLakeofLotusforsomepartsthatwe

havealreadydiscussed).

What is the Ultimate Assistance in the First Stage

of Approching Death?

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(2)Theheart-to-heartunspokenconsensuscanbe

classifiedinto:-

b) Express Unspoken Consensus - with the

attitude of more expressing feelings

concurringwiththepatients.

At the critical moment of death and thus with

permanent separation, it is also the most needed

moment forboth thepatientand/or the familiesand

friends to express their unspokenconsensus in a

mutual way. During the process of caring, families

and friends need proper expression of unspoken

consensus.Forinstance,oneshouldmoreexpress

feelings on the same stance as that of the patient.

Duringthefinalmomentoflife,expressionofunspoken

consensusisevenmorebadlyneeded.Thissortof

relentlessexpressionof feelings, regardlessof time

intervals,resemblesinjectingvitalboostershotsone

afteranother.Theysoothetheconstantlyanxiousand

depressedsentimentsofthepatientattheirneeded

moments.

How to Express Unspoken Consensus

to Patients so to Eliminate Regrets on

Both Parties

When a person comes across a major crisis,

some expectationswill certainly arise from oneself.

Besidessomevaguewishes, it iscrucial thatsome

pragmatic needs should be satisfied which would

be more significant to them. For instances, when

a person gets cancer, the most needed would be

someone who cares about him, understands him,

acceptshim,makescompanywithhimandassists

himtogothroughthepropertreatments.

Therefore, a care-takermust standby the side

of the patient and understandwhat is the patients

need and most wanted thing. At the same time of

understanding,thecare-takerwouldbestbeableto

developarelationshipontheissueofAccompanying

with Unspoken Consensus withthepatient.

Thereareafewkeypointsinthedevelopmentof

suchkindofarelationship:

(1)On the same camp of companionship

comprisingof

a) Listentothepatientempathically, ...(please

referbacktoIssue35ofLakeofLotus);

b) Express the empathic feelings as personal

experiencetothepatient,

...(pleasereferbacktoIssue35ofLakeof

Lotus);

c) Pass on the message of accepting,

understandingandtributewithgenuineness.

...(pleasereferbacktoIssue36ofLakeof

Lotus);

(2) Unspoken Consensus from Heart to Heart

comprisingof

a) Develop Unspoken Consensus under

reasonable circumstances, carry out more

The Key Points of Accompanying with

Unspoken Consensus

welcomebehaviorstothepatient...(please

referbacktoIssue37ofLakeofLotus),

b) Express Unspoken Consensus with the

attitude to express feelings that thepatient

recognizes and considers as of same

direction,

c) Coordinate Unspoken Consensus when

deviationappears,employproperapproach

tocoordinatemutualthoughtstoshortenthe

distance and seek for building of common

groundforunspokenconsensus.

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Expressioncouldbesaidtobeastateofarts,

especially in expressing unspoken consensus to

thosewhoarefacingdeath.Itisakindofintellectual

knowledge to properly master when and how to

expressunspokenconsensus,aswellasitsrelevant

rangeanddepth. Improperexpressionwouldeasily

leadtoregretsortragedies.Thefollowingcasecould

betakenasatypicalexample.

Case 44

Amother and her daughter had been living in

awayof mutuallydependentuponeachother for

thirteenyears.Theyhaddevelopedstrongaffections

between them with the unspoken consensus of

mutualcaring foreachother.Oneday, themother

was diagnosed of cancer of terminal stage. The

daughter took care of her mother strenuously in

all respects, which was in nature, an unspoken

consensus of linking heart-to-heart. However,

all of thesewere completely shatteredby the frank

expressionofthemother.

The mother unveiled to her daughter a secret

which hadbeen kept deep in hermind for thirteen

yearsbecauseshefeltthattheywerenottrulylinked

heart-to-heart. Greater the care tendered by the

daughter,themoreguiltyshehasfelt.Itmadeher

feltresistanttothissortofunspokenconsensus,so

muchso thatevenshehadprocrastinated ingoing

fortreatment.Shetendedtoachievetheutmostand

sincere unspoken consensus, and so she has

expressed her confession and repentance of her

wrongdoings toherdaughter,andhasbegged for

herforgivenessandacceptance.

Thirteenyearsago,shewasinlovewithamarried

man.Theyweresofeverishlyinlovewitheachother

that, inordertomaintainthisextra-maritalaffair, the

man deceived her relentlessly that hewould break

upthecurrentmarriageinordertomarryherat the

right time. Consequentially, the man dragged on

forseveralyears.Duringtheperiod, themanhada

daughterborn.Thesituationdraggedonbuttheman

didnotmarryhereventually.Untilthemansdaughter

wasovertwoyearsold, themanstillkept lyingand

givingexcusestoherinordertomaintaintheirextra-

maritalaffair.Themanindicatedthathedidntwant

todivorcehiswifeatthatmomentbecauseheloved

hisdaughtertoomuch,andhebeggedhertokeep

onwaiting forhim.Hisunfoldingmadeherbecame

hysterical as shewas in a rapid process of aging.

Without considering the consequence, shemadea

craftyplot.

Shetrailedbehindthemanswifeanddecoyed

tostealherdaughter,whileshewasnotattentiveto

thechild.Shedidit inthehopethatthemanwould

havenofurtherconcernafterthedaughterwaslost,

andwouldproceedtodivorcehiswifeandmarryher

instead. As expected, the man was deceived and

consideredthatitwashiswifesfaultofbeingabsent-

minded incaring for theirdaughter.Asa result, he

hadafiercequarrelwithhiswife.Hetoldhiswifethat

he had decided to divorce her and marry another

woman.

Thewifemissedherbeloveddaughtersomuch.

Shewentaloneinthestreetstolookforherdaughter.

Unfortunately, shewassodistractedandnotbeing

mindfulofthetraffic,andsoshewasknockeddown

and killed by a car accident. As such, thiswoman

alsofeltveryguiltyaboutit,anddecidedtoraisethe

daughterallbyherself,andleftthemanasagesture

toshowherapologytohiswife.Shesincerelyhoped

thatwhatshedidcouldcompensateforthedamage

thatwasdonetothewife,andwouldalsobeakindof

punishmenttothemanforhisharmtoherself.

She led a frugal life and worked very hard,

andshetookgoodcareof thechildmeticulouslyto

verydetails.Assuch,akindofmutually-dependent

unspoken consensus of heart-to-heart linkage

wasdeveloped.Timedidflyandinaninstant,thegirl

was almost sixteen years of age.Nevertheless, the

kindoffeelingregrethadneverbeenceasedforeven

amomenttothiswoman.Itisuncertainastowhether

shefeltsoregretfulthatshehadsufferedtoosevere

thetorments;orwhetheritwasthemansdeadwife

whowentafterher for revenge, thatshehad finally

gottentheterminalcancer.

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On the one hand, she worried that there was

nobodytotakecareofthedaughteraftershepassed

away; on the other hand, she had concerns that

shehadnogutsinfacingthemanswifewhohad

passedawayalongtimeago.Moreover,shebecame

more remorseful when her daughter endeavored

so strenuously to take care of her and became so

exhausted.Thedaughterlookedsosadandwasso

afraid of losing her. After thoughtful consideration,

shedecided todisregard thedignity and show the

realtruthtothedaughter.Shetoldthewholestoryof

whathadhappened indetails to thedaughter,and

alsogaveher the fathersphotosandaddress.She

hoped that the fathercouldbereunitedonceagain

with the daughter and can show the affection of

parenthoodincaringforher.

She piteously implored for the daughters

forgiveness. However, her daughter was really

unabletotakesuchatremendousimpactuponher,

and so she snarled at the woman with rage and

anger.Thegirlexclaimedtoherdecisivelybysaying:

Never,andjustleftherbehindinsearchingforher

fatheralone.Thewomancouldnthelpbecomingso

desperate,due toher lossofallhopes,andso the

idea of committing suicide gradually developed in

her.Shethoughtthatherdaughtermightforgiveher

onlyifshehadcommittedsuicide.

In thebeginning,by thegraceof nurturing the

daughterforthirteenyearswiththekindofunspoken

consensus of heart-to-heart linkage, she thought

thatsolongifshecouldfranklyexposeallthefacts

to the daughter, this kind of animosity could be

resolved. However, the daughter thought that she

was the murderer of her biological mother. Thus,

this concealment of thirteen years made all the

trustbetween them justwentdown thedrain.A life

withoutanyhopesissotraumatizedandunbearable

to a person, thusmaking her non-recoverable. The

cancercellsrapidlyspreadalloverherbodyandher

willforsurvivaltotallycollapsed.Theonlythingonher

mindwas todie inorder to remedy forhersinand

wrongdoings.

What are the Key Points on the Confession and Repentance of

Wrongdoings?

So, whether her frank expression was to be

considered right or wrong? For the sick patient, if

attachments could be let go, and to confess and

repentherwrongdoingsof thepast inorder tostop

anyfurtherwoundsandbiggertraumastohappenin

thefuture,evenatthetimeofherlastbreath,thiskind

ofbehaviouriscertainlyrightandcorrect!

Foronething,thebadkarmicforcescouldbe

stoppedfromfurtherstretchingoutthroughthepower

ofconfessionand repentance. (Karmic forcesare

tractional forces.Thewebofkarmic forces:due

tobothvirtuousandwickeddeedsamassedthrough

countless past lifetimes, the linkages of themental

strength of both ones inner self and of others are

crisscrossingandinter-influencingeachother,soas

toformthenetworkoftractionalforces.Thisisknown

asthekarmicnetwork.PleaserefertotheDVDon

TheInconceivableLawofKarma,publishedbythe

Dudjom Buddhist Association). For another thing,

the damaging power of wicked consequences

beingformedcouldbelessenedbygoodintentions.

In this connection, why had the woman developed

intoasituationthatherdaughterranawaytoforsake

her,andthusresultinginhercommittingsuicideto

repenthersin?Thekeyfactorisherattachmentof

lovetoherdaughter.

The genuine meaning of confession and

repentanceisforthelettinggoofallattachments.

However, if attachments are still firmly grasped

afteronesconfessionandrepentance,thewicked

consequences would become even worse.

According to the true meaning of Buddhism, the

causewouldalreadybeplanteduponthecompletion

of a deed or an action. The tractional forces of

such a cause would ceaselessly link up with the

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mental forces of affected individuals accordingly.

Thissortofceaseless linkageswouldeventuallybe

agglomerated for the outcomes of consequential

effects.Sinceittakestimeforagglomerationofthis

sortofceaselesslinkages,Buddhismteachesthatfor

thoseindividualswhohavecommittedwickeddeeds,

theyare tobe reminded tomake their confessions

and repentances within a certain time frame. The

sooner the confession and repentance is being

made, thebetterwillbetheresult indiminishing,or

eveneliminating,theagglomerationofconsequential

effects. When the period of agglomeration of

consequential effects has reached over three

years,thecompletelinkagewouldbemoreorless

completed.Thus,accordingtothetruemeaningof

Buddhism,theconfessionandrepentanceofdeeds

overthreeyearswouldmerelyresultinhavingsevere

karmasforlightretributions,butinnowaytobeable

to totallyeliminate the retributionsof consequential

effects.

The confession and repentance of this lady

after13yearsresultsinthenegativeretributionsinher

suffering fromcancer,which hasbeen formed and

isnowverydifficult tobeeradicated. Itwasmerely

expected to have the relaxation of ones mind

through this confession and repentance, and that

hopefullythemetastasisofcancerwouldbeslowed

downinordertohelpprolongherlife.Unfortunately,

the woman could not let go of her attachment of

love to her daughter, and still grasped firmly onto

the outcome of her daughters forgiveness. This

kind of attachment had made her confession and

repentance ineffective in termsof therelaxationon

her mind, but conversely had made her mind

to become more unsettled. As a result, her illness

rapidlyfurtherdeteriorated,andshehaddeveloped

the thought of entering into a dead end by

committingsuicide to repenthersin.Assuch,we

cansee that thekeypointson the confessionand

repentanceofwrongdoingsinclude:

1.Beintime,thesoonerthebetter;

2.Shouldlearnhowtoletgoonesattachments;

3. Should realize the purpose of confession and

repentance is to let go, and not to further

grasp upon the attachments. Therefore, one

should not bemindful about the retributions of

consequentialeffectsarestillpersistentand

could not be eradicated, simply because the

purposeofconfessionandrepentanceistolet

go,andnotfortheeradicationoftheretributions

of consequential effects. One should accept

the retributions of consequential effects quite

readily, and try to work out the most sincere

compensationforthepastwrongdoings,soasto

achievethepurityandpeaceofmind.

This lady had set her goals and purposes

of confession and repentance as to let the

daughter to have someone to depend upon, and

to receive forgiveness from her daughter. When

these goals became attachments and were not

able to be accomplished, the negative retributions

of consequential effects would merely become

worseandnotbeingreduced.Thepurposeofones

confession and repentance is to have the purity

andpeace ofmind, but not to add onburdens to

ones mind.Therefore, thepurposeofanykindof

confessionandrepentanceshouldonlybetargeted

at the lettinggoofattachments,butnot to further

enhance the persistence of attachments. Even

though after ones utmost sincere confession and

repentancehasbeendone,andyetifforgivenessis

stillnottobeobtained,oneshouldjustletgoofthe

attachments,withonesmindsettobeorientedtobe

readily accepting the retributions of consequential

effects. These are, indeed, the key points and

genuinemeaningsof confession and repentance,

andthatofretributionsofconsequentialeffects.

When the purpose of confession and

repentance is wrongly set, ones mind would

become more unrest, and would soon be lost in

a state of disorientation. The consequences could

evolve intomoreandmoreserioussituations.Thus,

this woman had chosen the path of no return by

committing suicide. What was the ending of this

tragedy,whichwasarealstorywithtruefigures?

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Eventually, the daughter did meet up with her

fatherand recognizedhimassuch,andsobothof

them enjoyed the reunited family happiness. She

hadgottenashelterforbothhermindandliving.The

fatherfinallyrealizedthatheshouldnothavepinned

uponhiswife,but insteadshouldblamehimself for

his selfish lust of love, so that all the three females

involved and himself were badly hurt. In order to

remedy for his own wrongdoings, he implored his

daughter to bring him over to see thiswoman and

asked for her forgiveness. At first, his daughter

refused his request firmly. However, during this

renewedperiodofhappinessthatshehasregained,

shecouldnthelprecollectingthenumeroussnatches

ofwarmmomentsfromthisladyduringtheperiodof

13years.Herheartstartedtosoftensomewhat.

After repeated petitions from the father, the

daughterfinallyagreedtoletgoofheranimosity.She

has abandoned the impure hatred, and replaced

itwiththeimpeccablereciprocationfor thegrace.

Thus, all the negative energies were released and

vented out, while positive energies were being

absorbed.Boththefatheranddaughter justhurried

back in time to save thiswoman,whowas already

attempting to commit suicide by incision into the

veinsofthewrist.Thewomanatherimminentdeath

wasbeinghospitalized.

Althoughthewomanrelentlesslyconfessedand

repented to thedaughteroverandoveragain, the

daughterwasonlywillingtocallherasauntie,and

thewordof motherwasneverheardofever.This

sort of regret deeply hurt this womans heart. The

affairwhichwasreallypitifulnowbecomesmemories,

itisregretfultohaveitstartedinthefirstplacebutit

isnowineffectual!

Uponreunionwithheroldlove,herhatredseemed

persisting yet mixed with yearning. While meeting

with her beloved daughter, her happiness seemed

minglingwithsadness.Thewomanwas lingeringat

herdeathbedundersuchkindofcomplicatedmixed

feelings,merelyleavingherlasttraceoffaintbreath

andgrievouseyesight,longingforthemostprecious

total forgiveness. At thismost criticalmoment, her

daughter cried out loudly, Mom,mom, I love you.

I amwilling to forgive you. Idont hate you.Please

dontgoaway!

The love engraved in the hearts andminds of

these people for 13 years have finally erupted and

burstoutatthismostpreciousmoment.Amosttimely

expression of unspokenconsensus indicated that

their mutually-dependent hearts of loving care still

continued to exist. Just a simple word of mom

stoodforthousandsofwordsandsentences.Italso

represented the most precious total forgiveness.

This sort of timely expression resulted in no more

remorse forbothparties. Thisalsoascertained that

the confession and repentance before her death

with the exposureofeverythingwasnotwrongat

all. It is absolutely right and correct! According to

theBuddhistteachings,onehastofacethecauses

andeffectsafteronesdeath.Itisevenmoresevere

than facing the situations when one is still alive.

If an individual can finish with and eradicate those

negative unresolved issues in ones mind before

death,itwouldbegreatlybeneficialtothedeceased

person,aswellastohis/herfamiliesandfriends.

....(TobeContinued)

Love and affection being entangled for half-of-ones life, with sadness and happiness eroding into ones mind life after life.

Dont retain any sense of remorse, and you are urged to conduct utter confession and repentance for the purification of ones mind.

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Remarks:

1.Thenewly-releasedbookonTheMeaningsofNear-DeathExperiences(1)hasbeenpublished.

ItscontentsincludethearticlesonTheMeaningsoftheNear-DeathExperiencesfromIssues1

to10oftheLakeofLotus.

2. Thenewly-releasedbookonTheMeaningsofNear-DeathExperiences(2)TheKeyPointsat

theMomentofDeathandtheEssentialRevelationsof theTibetanBookof theDeadhasbeen

published.ItscontentsincludethearticlesonTheMeaningoftheNear-DeathExperiencesfrom

Issues11to20oftheLakeofLotus.

3. Thenewly-releasedbookonTheMeaningofNear-DeathExperiences(3)TheVariousWaysof

RealizationandRescueofDyingKithandKinhasbeenpublished.Itscontentsincludethearticles

onTheMeaningofNear-DeathExperiencesfromIssues21to30oftheLakeofLotus.

Listen to the patient empathically

Express the empathic feelings

as personal experi-ence to the patient

Pass on the mes-sage of accepting,

understanding and tribute with genuineness

On the same camp of Companionship

Develop Unspoken Consensus

under reasonable circumstances, carry out more

likeable Behaviors to the patient

Express Unspoken Consensus with

the attitude to express feelings that the patient recognizes and considers as of same direction

Coordinate Unspo-ken Consensus

when deviation appears, employ

proper approach to coordinate mutual

thoughts to shorten the distance and seek for building

of common ground of unspoken con-

sensus

Unspoken Consensus from Heart to Heart

Accompanying with Unspoken Consensus

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