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Keeping Your Love Alive
Session 1How Satisfying is your Marriage?
Emotion is important to the creation of attachment bonds. Through our emotions we discover what matters most to us and
what meaning we place on particular events and experiences.
The Role of Emotion in Marital Intimacy
Maintaining Our Love Relationship
• Reciprocity – working together• Intentionality – being deliberate• The importance of maintaining and repairing
marriage
What Does It Take To Keep Love Alive?
• Goodwill
• Mutual respect and trust
• Effective communication
• Mutual commitment
• Expressing appreciation and affection
• Adaptability
• Resolve conflicts
• Sexual satisfaction
• Spiritual values
• Social connectedness
Emotional Barriers in Troubled Marriages
• Fear of closeness • Unresolved anger • Need for power and control • Low self-esteem • Jealousy and mistrust • Idealisation of the relationship
Session 2Communication:
The Key to Emotional Closeness
Principles of Effective Communication
• The skills of communication are learned. • It is impossible NOT to communicate.• How you feel about yourself affects how you
communicate. • Empathic listening is a vital part of good
communication. • Playback before talkback. • Feelings are the essence of communication.
5 Levels of Communication
• Level five: Cliché conversation• Level four: Reporting the facts • Level three: My ideas and opinions • Level two: My feelings and emotions• Level one: Intimate communication
The Process of Communication
• Self-awareness • Self-disclosure • Listening • Interpretation• Play-back • Confirmation
The Bible writers also confirm the importance of listening. Solomon said “the wise man learns by listening” (Proverbs 21:11 LB) and “answering before listening is both stupid and rude” (Proverbs 18:13 TM). The apostle James admonished everyone in the early Christian church to “be quick to listen and slow to speak” (James 1:19 NIV).
Biblical Importance of Listening
Active Listening
• Listening to words and feelings • Empathising with the speaker • Suspending judgement
Session 3 Understanding and Dealing with
Marital Conflict
The Role of Emotion in Marital Conflict
• Fear of being misunderstood or rejected. • Heightened feelings of anxiety and
insecurity. • Deal constructively with the emotional
component first. • Attend to specific issues second.
Sources of Conflict in Marriage
• Money, sex, and communication • Poor communication • Relationship and family matters • Differences • Differences in family history and background
• Power• Feeling loved • Recognition • Commitment • Integrity • Acceptance
Six Hidden Issues
• Step One: Connect with the emotion • Step Two: Discuss the problem • Step Three: Solve problems
A Three-Step Model for Managing Conflict