NCNG FAMILY PROGRAMS, VOLUME 5, ISSUE 7, JULY 2014

Family Matters

6%Interest Rate Cap

05 RateCaponStudentLoansPresident Obama signed an Executive Order that will automatically apply

a 6% interest rate cap to eligible federal student loan borrowers under the

Servicemembers Civil Relief Act.

06 ActionPlan:TrackYourSpendingIt’s easy to track your spending if you focus on a short time frame. When you

see all of your expenses laid out, you may be able to identify some simple

changes that could make a big difference in your financial situation—helping

you stretch your paycheck or build your savings.

07 DoYouHaveAnAnxiousSummerCamperOnYour

Hands?If your child is registered for summer camp this year, he/she may be

experiencing a wide range of emotions, from excitement to nervousness to

severe anxiety, especially if this is their first camping experience.

08 IndependenceDayCelebrationsJust a few 4th of July events across the state.

10 TeenCouncilCongratulations to the 2014 graduates and Teen Council members!

12 BullyingBullying facts and information for kids as well as adults.

14 KidsonGuardImages and highlights from the Kids on Guard at the Greensboro Science

Center.

16 JointheMovementNow using Joint Service Support is more exciting than ever with “My JSS

Rewards.” Using the many resources available on JSS, qualifies volunteers to

be entered into a drawing. By simply logging on each month to enter volunteer

time, take training, create an event or utilize any of the great tools, volunteers

can win prizes such as a small gift bag/basket, token of appreciation. Sign up

for an account today and enjoy all of the great benefits of using JSS. It’s simply

the smart way to go!

20 VeteranStandDownJoin the Smoky Mountains Veterans Stand Down this August in Franklin, NC.

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Happy July Everyone,

We have a host of programs and services available for Families and invite you take this opportunity to learn about all the unique opportunities our staff and your communities have created.

This July, our Child and Youth Program will be hosting a week-long summer camp for North Carolina National Guard dependents. Over the course of a week, kids will be busy doing a host of

activities at Millstone 4-H Camp. Even though the kids will be excited, the anticipation of going to camp might be a little overwhelming. We have included some tidbits to help ease any anxious campers.

We want to make this summer a fun and safe memory for you and your Families. As part of the National Stop Bullying Campaign, we have highlighted ways to recognize bullying with some of the signs of being bullied, and ideas of how to stop it. I encourage you to talk with your loved ones and develop your own "Stop Bullying" campaign in your communities and homes. Children are not the only victims of bullying, adults can be bullied, as well. So, with that said, we have included the effects and perspectives of bully's at work. We hope to highlight the broad spectrum bullying effect on both, children and adults. The good news is, we can stop it, and we should, because our Families deserve the best!

Speaking of the best, across the nation NGB requested nominations on best volunteers. North Carolina submitted 10 or our very best and 3 of ours were selected as 2014 National Guard Family Programs award winners. Kathleen Hillicke is the Gold Award winner, Step up for Soldiers, Tom Russell is the Family Program Community Purple Award winner, and Daniel Galindo is the Extra Mile (Retiree) Award winner. If you get a chance, please congratulate our winners!

I want to thank you for all you do and hope you enjoy this edition of Family Matters, check it out for yourself.

Enjoy the 4th of July and be safe!

Sincerely,

DianeDiane CoffillState Family Program Director

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About Fami ly MattersFami ly Matters was created to prov ide

Ser v icemembers and Fami l ies the most up-to-date informat ion and ser v ices avai lable.

I f you would l ike to contr ibute to fu ture i s sues, or i f you have suggest ions and

comments, p lease contact the NCNG Fami ly Programs Market ing and Communicat ions

Depar tment personnel , Angelena Dockery or

Kathryn Jar v i s, at ncngfami lyprograms@gmai l . com.

E-Vers ions of Fami ly Matters can be downloaded at the

NCNG Fami ly Programs web page at www.nc .ngb.army.mi l/ss/fp.

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endorsement , recommendat ion , or favor ing by NCNG Fami ly Programs.

In October 2012, the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau published The Next Front, a report that identified troubling trends regarding student loan borrowers having trouble accessing their SCRA rights.

Complaints in the report was shared with the Department of Justice, which led to the recent settlement against Sallie Mae , the nation's largest student loan servicer. The settlement required Sallie Mae to proactively determine which of its borrowers were eligible for the 6% interest rate reduction, and apply the rate cap without the need for borrowers to submit a request or military orders.

President Obama signed an Executive Order that will automatically apply a 6% interest rate cap to eligible federal student loan borrowers under the Servicemembers Civil Relief Act without the need for additional paperwork. The Executive Order extends this relief to all federal student loan borrowers, not just those with loans serviced by Sallie Mae.

If you are a Servicemember and you have a federal student loan that you took out before you entered the military, you are no longer required to ask your student loan servicer and to send in your orders for an interest rate reduction. Your interest rate reduction will be applied automatically.

Borrowers with private student loans should still contact their student loan servicer to inquire how to obtain their SCRA benefits. In most cases, you will need to send a written request and include a copy of the orders calling you onto military service.

If you are or know any Servicemembers with student loans, you may wish to share these additional resources:

1) Submit a complaint about your student loan servicer. Consumers may wish to file a complaint if they are concerned their account was illegally handled. Visit www.consumerfinance.gov/complaint or call 855-411-CFPB (2372).

2) Share the action guide for Servicemembers with student loans. Sincethis new guidance has yet to take effect, we advise servicemembers interested in accessing their benefits and protections to check out our action guide http://1.usa.gov/1suD3Cm. We will continue to update the guide as this new guidance takes effect.

For more information, please visit consumerfinance.gov/servicememberswww.consumerfinance.gov/servicemembers and www.consumerfinance.gov/students http://1.usa.gov/17Zz6xM.

Related links:http://1.usa.gov/1g3vsbH

http://www.justice.gov/opa/pr/2014/May/14-ag-502.html

www.whitehouse.gov/the-press-office/2014/06/09/presidential-memorandum-federal-student-loan-repayments

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on Student Loans

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Action Plan: Track Your SpendingIt’s easy to track your spending if you focus on a short timeframe. When you see all of your expenses laid out, you may be able to identify some simple changes that could make a big difference in your financial situation—helping you stretch your paycheck or build your savings. The Track Your Spending Worksheet can help you get started. If you’re married, both you and your spouse should track your spending for a week, which can be an eye-opening experience.

This Action Plan requires five steps:

List your regular monthly bills, such as your mortgage or rent, car loan, utilities, phone, Internet service, cable TV, credit-card bills (and any interest you pay, too), insurance premiums and child-care expenses. See the worksheet for ideas.

Track your out-of-pocket spending for a week. Keep track of all the money you spend for a week on groceries, gas, meals, clothes,

entertainment, personal items, and even sodas and snacks, which can all add up. Keep a small notebook with you, use this expense chart or just collect the receipts during the day and add them to the list in the evening. Keep track of all expenses for the week, whether you pay for them in cash or use a debit card, credit card or check.

Review the numbers. Now that you can see how you’ve spent your money, look for ways to save. Some strategies may be simple, like cutting back on meals out or using in-network ATMs to avoid fees. You may also want to make bigger changes that can save more money, such as cutting back on your cell phone package or dropping cable TV.

Review your big-ticket expenses. After you’ve reviewed your regular expenses, it can also help to review your big-ticket bills for the past year—the special expenses such as home improvements, car repairs, travel, education, furniture and electronics. These bills don’t crop up every month but can make a big difference in your finances—and can land you in debt if you aren’t prepared. Go through your credit card statements, bank records and receipts to list the cost of these items. If you don’t have good records of these expenses from the past year, start keeping a log of them from this point forward. Looking at these irregular costs will help you plan better for emergencies and other unexpected bills.

Create a plan. Review all of your expenses for ways to cut back, then decide what to do with the extra money. Set specific goals, such as building an emergency fund, paying off your credit-card bills, or increasing your retirement savings. See Start a Spending Plan for the next steps.

- Download your Track Your Spending Worksheet at : www.saveandinvest.org/MilitaryCenter/MilitaryFinancialToolkits/MakingEndsMeet/P124955#sthash.J9GcCnYi.dpuf

Source:www.saveandinvest.org

The first step to getting your finances

on track is to know where your money is

going. But that isn’t always obvious: you

may have a good handle on your monthly

bills, but what about your daily expenses?

You may be surprised by how much money

you spend on small items—like food and

transportation—when you add up your

out-of-pocket costs.

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By Lynn Allred, NCNG Child & Youth Program Specialist

If your child is registered for summer camp this year, he/she may be experiencing a wide range of emotions, from excitement to nervousness to severe anxiety, especially if this is their first camping experience. As the first day of camp approaches, you may notice emotional and/or physical changes in your child, such as clinginess, mood swings, headaches, or lack of sleep. Even veteran campers are not immune to these symptoms and may demonstrate any or all of the above when you least expect it

The cause for this anxiety is often the fear of the unknown. Your child may worry if other kids will accept them, wonder if they will be able to perform the planned activities well, or question what will happen if they get sick or get hurt while away from home.If your child is showing signs of anxiety or even panic before going to camp, a good thing to remember is that the purpose of summer camp is to help remedy the very things your child is anxious about. Camps are not only designed to give children something to do during the summer months, but to teach them to become more independent, help them learn new skills and give them an opportunity to meet other children who have the same interests.

Keeping this in mind, the key to helping your child overcome anxiety is to give him/her an opportunity to express how they feel, acknowledge their concerns and offer reassurance and support. You may want to share stories about your own first time away from home or refer to another new experience your child has recently gone through to validate their feelings and remind them that they have conquered these feelings before. You may also want to go through some short “rehearsals” ahead of time, like a sleepover with a grandparent, to build confidence. Whatever way you choose to address their concerns, it is important to show empathy and let them know that you understand and support them.

According to the NYU Child Study Center, another way to encourage a more confident camper is to fully engage your entire family in the process. Have all family members learn more about the camp and its activities so that you can have group discussions and demonstrate a larger show of support. Ask each member of the family to help the child prepare for camp in a

different way, such as collecting supplies or reviewing the activity schedule. A shopping trip for new clothes or camping gear, for example, can turn into a fun family outing, with your camper as the center of attention.

The Child Mind Institute also reminds parents of summer campers that giving children a feeling of ownership about the experience often eases their minds. If your child helped select the camp they will be attending, for example, discuss the reasons that particular camp was selected in the first place. Review the positive aspects of the camp, remind them about the fun activities they can enjoy once they get there and get them excited about the new friends they will meet. Make it a destination to look forward to, not to dread. Help them set goals that they can accomplish and talk about how rewarding it will be when they reach those goals. Getting them invested in the experience will better prepare them to enjoy camp once they get there.

To ease the idea of separation, you may want to outline a schedule of emails or phone calls, if the camp allows it, or pack writing paper, pre-addressed envelopes and stamps so they know they can communicate with you while they are gone. You may also want to set aside a “Camp Calendar” so you can have an official “countdown to summer camp.” That way, your child will know exactly when he/she is leaving and when the return date will be. If you know the camp schedule ahead of time, which you should, you can also record each day’s activities prior to the trip so your child will be mentally prepared for what is being planned. Remember, if you show enthusiasm and confidence about camp, they will be more willing to believe it, too.

Another good tip to remember when sending your child off to camp is that the counselors there are professionals who have the best interest of your child at heart. If you have any concerns at all about how your son or daughter will adjust to being away from home (and from you) communicate with the people who will be interacting with your child and let them know what’s going on. An anxious child should be nothing new to an experienced staff member. In most cases, a good counselor can break the ice right away and turn a tear-filled separation into an exciting adventure that your child will look forward to.

Once your child arrives at camp, remember to remain positive. Try not to communicate your own anxiety – your child can easily pick up on your feelings. Instead, send your camper off with a hug and a vote of confidence, ensuring them that they will have a great time. And keep in mind that the child you pick up on the last day of camp may not be the same child you dropped off on the first day. If you give your child room to grow and to accept new experiences with positivity and enthusiasm, the transformation from a nervous, anxious child into a confident, independent one will be worth the wait.

Information sources:~Child Mind Institute, New York, NY (www.childmind.org)

~NYU Child Study Center, New York, NY (www.aboutourkids.org)~Health Central, Arlington VA ( www.healthcentral.org)

Do You Have An Anxious Summer Camper On Your Hands?

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Apprecia

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July4

Celebrate

Fireworks Extravaganza at Tweetsiewww.tweetsie.com

Address: 300 Tweetsie Railroad Lane Blowing Rock, NC 28605Celebrate the 4th of July at Tweetsie Railroad. Special hours-Park open till 9pm, fireworks

will begin at 9:30. Admission: $5 for parking in Tweetsie lots.

4th of July Emergency Truck Parade and FireworksAddress: Main Street, North Wilkesboro, NC 28659

Parade begins at 6:00pm. After the parade sit back and enjoy the annual fireworks display from Memorial Park. Bring your lawn chairs or a blanket and spend the evening.

Ingles Independence Day Celebration www.ashevilledowntown.org

Address: 121 College St., Asheville, NC 28801The Asheville Downtown Association will host an Independence Day Celebration on Friday,

July 4 from 2-10pm at Pack Square Park in downtown Asheville. The free event features family activities (some at additional cost) throughout the day, with a fireworks

extravaganza capping off the event at 9:30pm

Groovin' on the Greenwww.visitcashiersvalley.com

Address: Frank Allen Rd., Cashiers, NC 287176:15 pm - 11:00 pm FIREWORKS EXTRAVAGANZA CONCERT – FRIDAY, JULY 4, 2014 –

In place of the regular Groovin’ on the Green. Think Groovin’, but bigger, with fireworks.

Skyshow Address: Mint Street, Charlotte, NC (in front of BB&T Ballpark starting at 3pm. Ball park Gates open at 6pm.)

www.skyshowcharlotte.comBaseball, fireworks and fun come together for SkyShow! Come early for the pre-game festivities at the SkyShow Street Party starting at

3pm including live music, food, drinks, inflatables, kid crafts, a rock wall, ferris wheel, games, prizes and more!

Coca-Cola 4th of July FestivalAddress: U.S. National Whitewater Center, 5000 Whitewater Center Parkway.

www.usnwc.org.Celebrate America’s birthday with us during our annual 4th of July Festival, a two-day celebration taking place on July 3rd and July 4th. Both days will feature live music, as well as fireworks over our man-made

whitewater river. Cory Chisel at 4 p.m., cornhole tournament at 6 p.m., Mountain Heart at 6 p.m., The Apache Relay at 8 p.m., fireworks show begins at dark. Free.

Carowinds' Nights of FireAddress: 14523 Carowinds Blvd.

www.carowinds.com.Carowinds kicks off its annual summer celebration with entertainment. Watch the sky light up during the fire-

works display. July 4, fireworks at 10 p.m. 4th of July. For more information call Carowinds, 704-588-2600.

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Popsicles and ParadesWednesday, July 2, 1pmSouth Park, Fuquay-Varina We will celebrate the 4th of July in style! Bring your bike, scooter, skateboard, wagon, stroller, even your dog and we will decorate them with American flags, ribbons, etc...

July 4th CelebrationFriday, July 4, 7pmKenan Memorial Stadium, Chapel Hill The Chapel Hill Parks and Recreation Department is sponsoring its annual Independence Day Celebration, an outdoor fireworks display with live entertainment and fun for the whole family!

Kickoff Block PartyThursday, July 3rd 7-11pm @ Hamburger Square ParkCome join the party to benefit Fun Fourth with great food, cold beer and dancing in the street!

Entertainment6:30pm -- Gates Open7-11pm -- Black & Blue ExperienceAll performance times are approximate!

Admission$5 -- Admission tickets, food and beverage are CASH sales only.

ParkingFREE parking is available in the Greene Street Deck and area surface lots.

Parade & Street FestivalJuly 4, 2014 9:30am-6:30pmPops Concert & FireworksJuly 4, 2014, 7:30pm-10pm

Wilmington 4th of July Celebrationhttp://www.wilmingtonnc.gov/community_services/events_permits/special_events/4th_of_july

~Friday July 4, 2014 - along Water St.~Food and Entertainment: 5pm to 9pm~Fireworks: 9:05pm ~Music provided by the 440th Army Band in Riverfront Park~Live television coverage of the fireworks begins at 9pm on WECT

Music provided by the 440th Army Band!

July 4th Picnic in the Park106 E. Margaret Lane, River ParkHillsborough NC 27278www.visithillsboroughnc.comThe festivities begin at 9am with a parade along West Tryon Street; prizes will be awarded for Most Patriotic, Most Patriotic Pet, and Most Hillsborough. Then, at 10 am, a public reading of the Declaration of Independence at the Old Orange County Courthouse will celebrate 238 years of American Independence.

From there the festivities will continue at the Farmers Market Pavilion and River Park until 3pm, where three bands will perform throughout the day, and pony rides and lawn games will add to the day’s activities. Pack a picnic lunch or enjoy food from one of the food trucks at the park. But make room for dessert, as there will be a pie bake-off during the afternoon.

4th of July Celbration-LillingtonFri., July 4 Starting at 6pm - Ending at 9pmdowntown Lillington, Lillington NC 27546This event includes activities by the Cape Fear River in the afternoon, including a canoe race, duck derby race, live music, food & fireworks at dusk.

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NCNG Teen Council Grows in 2014

By Alice Dean, Lead Child & Youth Coordinator

Hard to believe another school year is over and summer is here. Until this past year, the Triangle Teen Council (started Fall 2013) was the only active chapter within the NC National Guard. Last fall, additional chapters were started one in Wilmington and one in Charlotte to serve those teens living in other regions of the state. Our NCNG Teen Council is for teens ages 13-18.

From September 2013 to May 2014, we have had a very busy year. Each chapter participated in a workshop on “Job Search Skills: Where Do I Start?” facilitated by Lynn Allred, NCNG Child & Youth Program Specialist, that introduced the teens on where to find job leads, what employers are looking, information needed for completing job applications and how to make their application stand out from the rest.

Our training continued with completing the “7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens” by Sean Covey. The 7 habits: Be Proactive, Begin with the End in Mind, Put First Things First, Think Win-Win, Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood, Synergize and Sharpen the Saw provided tools that can help deal with real life. We all need that!!!!

One of the aspects of our NCNG Teen Council is Community Service. Teens volunteered at Family Days, NC Governor’s Mansion Month of the Military Child Celebration, JFHQ Easter Egg Extravaganza and Minute Man Muster Race. Many do not know, but one of the wonderful things that make our NCNG Teen Council stand out is the priority they have in giving back to the NC National Guard.

We also had some fun!!! The Triangle Teen Council went “Midnight Bowling”. Yes, 11:00 – 1:00pm and what fun we all had. Council members think this should be an annual outing. As you read this newsletter, we will have completed our 2014 NCNG Teen Retreat at Fort Fisher Training Center. Be checking August Family Matters for a story and pictures.

Our council meetings will start back in September so be checking your emails from Joint Services Support, www.jointservicessupport.org , Family Matters and our Social Media for location date and times. Our goal for 2015 is to see additional chapters started in the state. Anyone interested in starting one in your area, please call a member of your Child & Youth Team.

2014 NCNG Teen Council Graduates!!!This year four of our North Carolina National Guard (NCNG) Teen Council members will be graduating and we would like to highlight their accomplishments…

In our Charlotte NCNG Teen Council, Marissa Cottle, daughter Staff Sgt. Robert Metcalf, Head-quarters and Headquarters Detachment, 113th Sustainment Brigade, graduated from Northwest Cabarrus High School. Marissa has been actively involved with her high school FFA programs and desires to seek out a career in agricultural sciences. She has graduated with Beta Club hon-ors and received the Service Achievement Award from FFA at their yearly banquet. Marissa will be attending Rowan Community College (RCCC) at the South Campus for her general studies and plans to transfer to either North Carolina State University or Appalachian. Marissa wanted to share this about being a member of the NCNG Teen Council,“Although I have not been a member of the NCNG Teen Council for an entirely large amount of time, I have gotten to know the program and those who run it well. This program serves a wonderful purpose in both building useful and long-lasting personal skills as well as learning to communicate and work as a team. I am happy to have been a part of t his outstanding group, and would recommend it to anyone who may be on the fence about joining. So take the step, get involved in something great, and don’t be afraid to be yourself!”

Secretary of Triangle Chapter, Julian Brodie is the son of Staff Sgt. Burnie Brodie Joint Force Headquarters, Headquarters and Headquarters Detachment, Logistics. He graduated from Raleigh Charter High School and is looking forward to the new challenge at North Carolina State University where he will be majoring in Mechanical Engineering. Julian received the NCNG Soldiers' and Airmen Assistance Fund (SAAF) Scholarship, the Youth of the Year Scholarship

from the Boys and Girls Club, a scholarship from North Carolina State University as well as using his father’s Montgomery G.I. Bill. Julian wanted to share this about being a member of the NCNG Teen Council, “It has been a joy serving on the Triangle Chapter of the North Carolina National Guard Teen Council as well as figuring out ways to give back to the teens of the NCNG com-munity. Without the whole council working together, we would not be able to accomplish events such as the 2013 Teen Challenge Retreat or our upcoming 2014 NCNG Teen Retreat at Fort. Fisher. I will miss the Teen Council and all the times we had. However, I am looking forward to the future times I will have at NC State. I will continue to be an active alumni member of the Teen Council and try to help out in as many ways as I can.”

Joshua Cook, son of Lt. Col. Kenneth Cook, Joint Force Headquarters, Headquarters and Head-quarters Detachment, has been an original member of the Triangle Teen Council and served as President of Triangle Chapter this year. Joshua was home schooled and graduated from Cook Christian Academy. Joshua says “My last two years in the council have been invaluable as I have been able to participate in camps, training opportunities, meetings, and other activities.” Joshua will be attending the University of North Carolina at Charlotte and will be majoring in Kinesiology so he can pursue a career in physical therapy. Joshua said, “I have been incredibly blessed to receive two scholarships through the military. I received the North Carolina Veterans Scholarship and the NCNG SAAF Scholarship from the NCNG Association Educational Foundation. Between these two scholarships, the majority of my undergraduate educational expenses will be covered. I fully believe my involvement in the Teen Council had an influence on me being awarded these two scholarships.”

Blake Stoddard, son of Chief Warrant Officer 2 Seth Taylor, 1/130th Aviation, graduated from Southern Nash High School. Blake has served as Secretary of the Triangle Chapter in 2013, Triangle Chapter Vice-President in 2014, and on the National Guard Bureau (NGB) Guard Teen Panel as the Region 4 representative for the last year. Blake will be majoring in Computer Science at North Carolina State University.

Congratulations!

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NCNG Teen Council Grows in 2014

By Alice Dean, Lead Child & Youth Coordinator

Hard to believe another school year is over and summer is here. Until this past year, the Triangle Teen Council (started Fall 2013) was the only active chapter within the NC National Guard. Last fall, additional chapters were started one in Wilmington and one in Charlotte to serve those teens living in other regions of the state. Our NCNG Teen Council is for teens ages 13-18.

From September 2013 to May 2014, we have had a very busy year. Each chapter participated in a workshop on “Job Search Skills: Where Do I Start?” facilitated by Lynn Allred, NCNG Child & Youth Program Specialist, that introduced the teens on where to find job leads, what employers are looking, information needed for completing job applications and how to make their application stand out from the rest.

Our training continued with completing the “7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens” by Sean Covey. The 7 habits: Be Proactive, Begin with the End in Mind, Put First Things First, Think Win-Win, Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood, Synergize and Sharpen the Saw provided tools that can help deal with real life. We all need that!!!!

One of the aspects of our NCNG Teen Council is Community Service. Teens volunteered at Family Days, NC Governor’s Mansion Month of the Military Child Celebration, JFHQ Easter Egg Extravaganza and Minute Man Muster Race. Many do not know, but one of the wonderful things that make our NCNG Teen Council stand out is the priority they have in giving back to the NC National Guard.

We also had some fun!!! The Triangle Teen Council went “Midnight Bowling”. Yes, 11:00 – 1:00pm and what fun we all had. Council members think this should be an annual outing. As you read this newsletter, we will have completed our 2014 NCNG Teen Retreat at Fort Fisher Training Center. Be checking August Family Matters for a story and pictures.

Our council meetings will start back in September so be checking your emails from Joint Services Support, www.jointservicessupport.org , Family Matters and our Social Media for location date and times. Our goal for 2015 is to see additional chapters started in the state. Anyone interested in starting one in your area, please call a member of your Child & Youth Team.

By Blake Stoddard, NCNG Teen Council

As a Guard Teen Panel (GTP) representative, my job is to represent the National Guard teens in Region 4, which is the largest FEMA region in the United States. This region encompasses eight states, including North Carolina, which includes nearly one-tenth of the entire nation’s military. The GTP Members play a key role in ensuring the National Program is successful and effective. In accordance with the GTP mission, Members ‘Connect, Support and Inspire’ youth at the local, state, regional and national level.

Visiting Washington DC as a teenager can be a daunting task in itself, especially when you are flying into an extremely active airport like Reagan National. The staff members and sponsors from Family Programs at the National Guard Bureau help every teen representative know their schedule and make sure they arrive safely. This trip was no exception. It was well organized and we had a strict agenda to follow.

On Friday, all the representatives were scheduled for a tour of the White House. The tour took us through the first and second floors, allowing us to see the Red Room, the Green Room and other areas of the White House. The tour route is filled with paintings, Presidential items and historical information that reflect the unique heritage of our country.The most important task of the Teen Panel Meeting was writing the by-Laws. The by-laws address the requirements, both social and scholastic to become a representative on the Guard Teen Panel; as well as other topics such as the dress code, internal positions (parliamentarian, archivist, etc). In addition the by-laws address the process for selecting the people to fill those positions, and finally the code of conduct. After two

days of work, we completed our mission, examining every detail. Every line was inspected with a fine-toothed comb to make sure the new by-laws suited our purpose. Since eight members of the Teen Panel were rotating off, including me, this was a monumental task and enabled us to leave our mark for future representatives to follow.

After the meeting, we were scheduled for a tour of the Capitol Building. We had made it through the security checkpoint and were waiting for our tickets when we were suddenly ordered to leave the building for an emergency evacuation. The military puts a huge emphasis on the “buddy system,” which I fully appreciate after this experience. Eleven representatives of the Teen Panel were scheduled for the Capitol Building tour, and when the order to evacuate was made, we were quickly separated through numerous tunnels to get to the grounds outside. After we were out of the building, we were able to link up again in a matter of seconds. Without the strong enforcement of the military “buddy system,” this would not have been possible.

Overall, the June Guard Teen Panel meeting was very productive and educational and I am proud of what we were able to accomplish. As a now former representative who has completed my term, I strongly encourage anyone who has the opportunity to apply for the Panel to do so. Guard Teen Panel representatives serve two terms and a new position will be open in the fall. I look forward to finding out who will represent our state next year.

Image contributed by the NCNG Teen Council

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BULLYING IS A SERIOUS PROBLEM that affects kids nationwide, and ALL ADULTS HAVE A ROLE IN HELPING TO STOP IT. Here are some of the most revealing statistics

behind bullying – and how to detect it and take action.

OF STUDENTS AGES 12–18 WERE BULLIED AT SCHOOL DURING THE 2008/2009 SCHOOL YEAR Data from Robers et al. (2012) unless otherwise noted

20% 25%

WHY DO KIDS KEEP SILENT?

Girls & boys who said they had been either bullied, bullied others, or both 2–3 times a month or more.

MADE FUN OF, called names, or insulted

Subject of

RUMORS

PUSHED, shoved, tripped, spit on

THREATENED with harm

EXCLUDED from activities

FORCED to do things they didn’t want to do

Had property

DESTROYED Had been

CYBERBULLIED

EXPERIENCE SIMILAR RATES OF:

Verbal bullying Threats Damage to property

MORE LIKELY TO EXPERIENCE:

Physical bullying

MORE LIKELY TO EXPERIENCE:

Bullying through rumor-spreading Exclusion

MOST STUDIES FIND THAT BOYS ARE MORE LIKELY THAN GIRLS TO BULLY THEIR PEERS. ON AVERAGE, BOYS ARE:

Boys are typically bullied by boys, while girls are bullied by both boys & girls. – Olweus & Limber (2010)

MIDDLE SCHOOLERS are more likely to report being made fun of; pushed, shoved, tripped, or spit on; threatened with harm; ex-cluded; have property damaged or destroyed; and forced to do things they don’t want to do.

HIGH SCHOOLERS are more likely to report being cyberbullied.

BULLYING IS A COMPLEX ISSUE

WITH MULTIPLE RISK FACTORS,

WHICH MAY INCLUDE:

KIDS WHO ARE BULLIED ARE MORE LIKELY TO HAVE:

Depressive symptoms Harmed themselves High levels of suicidal thoughts Attempted suicide

KIDS WHO ARE BULLIED ARE MORE LIKELY TO:

Want to avoid school Have lower academic achievement

Remember to always be aware of the warning signs and if someone you know is in suicidal crisis or emotional distress,

CALL 1-800-273-TALK (8255)

MANY CHILDREN DO NOT REPORT BULLYING TO ADULTS, A TREND THAT BECOMES MORE PRONOUNCED WITH AGE:

KIDS INVOLVED IN BULLYING ARE MORE LIKELY TO:

Experience headaches, backaches, stomachpain, sleep problems, poor appetite, as well as bed-wetting

KIDS WHO BULLY OTHERS ARE MORE LIKELY TO:

Exhibit delinquent behaviors Dislike school, drop out of school Bring weapons to school Think of suicide and attempt suicide Drink alcohol and smoke Hold beliefs supportive of violence

in adults’ actions

OF 3RD–5TH GRADE STUDENTS SAID THEY FELT SORRY FOR STUDENTS WHO ARE BULLIED, BUT SYMPATHY OFTEN DOES NOT TRANSLATE INTO ACTION.

BE MORE THAN A BYSTANDER!Many times, when kids see bullying, they may not know what to do to stop it.

Youth who witness bullying or are being bullied should always tell a trusted adult.

Adults: When you learn that bullying is happening, take action to stop it.

VISIT STOPBULLYING.GOV TO LEARN HOW TO BE MORE

THAN A BYSTANDER AND WHAT YOU CAN DO TO

ADDRESS BULLYING IN YOUR COMMUNITY.

SOURCES: Cook, C. R., Williams, K. R., Guerra, N. G., Kim, T. E., & Sadek, S. (2010). Predictors of bullying and victimization in childhood and ado-lescence: A meta-analytic investigation. School Psychology Quarterly, 25(2), 65-83.

Gini, G., & Pozzoli, T. (2009). Association between bullying and psycho-somatic problems: A meta-analysis. Pediatrics, 123(3), 1059-1065.

Klomek, A. B., Marrocco, F., Kleinman, M., Schonfeld, I. S., & Gould, M. (2008). Peer victimization, depression, and suicidiality in adolescents. Suicide and Life-Threatening Behavior, 38(2), 166-180.

Kowalski, R. M., Limber, S. P., & Agatston, P. W. (2012). Cyberbullying: Bullying in the digital age. Malden, MA: Wiley-Blackwell.

Nakamoto, J., & Schwartz, D. (2010). Is peer victimization associated with academic achievement? A meta-analytic review. Social Develop-ment, 19(2) 221-242.

Nansel, T. R., Overpeck, M. D., Pilla, R. S., Ruan, W. J., Simons-Morton, B., & Scheidt, P. (2001). Bullying behavior among U.S. youth: Preva-lence and association with psychosocial adjustment. Journal of the American Medical Association, 285, 2094-2100.

negative messages about “tattling” and “snitching”

gender stereotypes

concern about retaliation

Swearer, et al. (2012)

Cook, et al. (2010), Gini, et al. (2009), Klomek, et al. (2008), Nakamoto, et al. (2010), Nansel, et al. (2001), Reijntjes, et al. (2010)

Olweus & Limber (2010), Kowalski, et al. (2012)

Olweus & Limber (2010)

Olweus, D. & Limber, S. P. (November, 2010). What we are learning about bullying. Paper presented at the meeting of the International Bullying Prevention Association. Seattle, WA.

Reijntjes, A., Kamphuis, J. H., Prinzie, P., & Telch, M. J. (2010). Peer victimization and internalizing problems in children: A meta-analysis of longitudinal studies. Child Abuse & Neglect, 34, 244-252.

Robers, Zhang, Truman, & Snyder (2012). Indicators of School Crime and Safety: 2011. Available at” http://bjs.ojp.usdoj.gov/content/pub/ pdf/iscs11.pdf

Swearer, S. M., Espelage, D. L., Koenig, B., Berry, B., Collins, A., & Lembeck, P. (2012). A social-ecological model for bullying preven-tion and intervention in early adolescence. In S. R. Jimerson, A. b. Nickerson, M. J. Mayer, & M. J. Furlong (Eds.), Handbook of school violence and school safety: International research and practice (2nd ed., pp. 333-355). New York: Routledge.

U.S. Department of Education (2011). Student reports of bullying and cyber-bullying: Results from the 2009 school crime supplement to the National Crime Victimization Survey. Available at: http://nces.ed.gov/ pubs2011/2011336.pdf

as likely to bully

as likely to bully as well as be bullied

BULLYING WHAT YOU NEED

TO KNOW

THE MANY FORMS OF BULLYING

BOYS, GIRLS & BULLYING

AGE AS A FACTOR

WHY DO KIDS BULLY?

THE IMPACT

KEEPING SILENT

Olweus & Limber (2010)

Olweus & Limber (2010)

Cook, et al. (2010)

U.S. Department of Education (2011)

k Whatto

Know About

a Bully at workWorkplace bullying refers to repeated, unreasonable actions of individuals (or a group) directed towards an employee (or a group of employees), which are intended to intimidate, degrade, humiliate, or undermine; or which create a risk to the health or safety of the employee(s).

Workplace bullying often involves an abuse or misuse of power. Bullying behavior creates feelings of defenselessness and injustice in the target and undermines an individual’s right to dignity at work.

Bullying is different from aggression. Whereas aggression may involve a single act, bullying involves repeated attacks against the target, creating an on-going pattern of behavior. “Tough” or “demanding” bosses are not necessarily bullies as long as they are respectful and fairand their primary motivation is to obtain the best performance by setting high yet reasonable expectations for working safely. Workplace bullying can be instigated by coworkers, supervisors, contract workers, or labor representatives.

Some bullying situations involve employees bullying their peers, rather than a supervisor bullying an employee. The term mobbing refersto a group of coworkers targeting another worker. Supervisors should intervene immediately to address and stop mobbing behaviors.

In a prevalence study of U.S. workers, 41.4% of respondents reported experiencing psychological aggression at work in the past year representing 47 million U.S. workers (Schat, Frone & Kelloway, 2006). The research found that 13%, or nearly15 million workers, reported experiencing psychological aggression on a weekly basis.

Examples of bullying:‣ Unwarranted or invalid criticism‣ Blame without factual justification‣ Being treated differently than the rest of your work group‣ Being sworn at‣ Exclusion or social isolation‣ Being shouted at or being humiliated‣ Excessive monitoring or micro-managing‣ Being given work unrealistic deadlines

Factors that Increase the Risk for BullyingBehavior:‣ Significant organizational change (i.e., major internal restructuring, technological change).‣ Worker characteristics (e.g., age, gender, parentalstatus, apprentice or trainee).‣ Workplace relationships (e.g., inadequate information flow between organizational levels,lack of employee participation in decisions.‣Work systems (e.g., lack of policies about behavior, high rate and intensity of work, staff shortages, interpersonal conflict, organizational constraints, role ambiguity, and role conflict.

How bullying affects people:Targets of bullying experience significant physical and mental health problems:‣ Reduced self-esteem‣ Musculoskeletal problems‣ Work withdrawal and sickness absence‣ Sleep and digestive disturbances‣ Increased depression/self-blame‣ Family tension and stress‣ High stress, post-traumatic stressdisorder (PTSD)‣ Financial problems due to absence

How bullying affects organizations:Each of the individual consequences listed above can be very costly for the organization. Costs ofbullying generally fall into three categories:1. Replacing staff members that leave as a result of being bullied, cost of training new employees.2. Work effort being displaced as staff cope with bullying incidents (i.e., effort being directed away from work productivity and towards coping).3. Costs associated with investigations of ill treatment, potential legal action and loss of company reputation.

Read the original article at www.lni.wa.gov/Safety/Research/Workplacebullying/

Kids are not the only ones being bullied. Below is an excerpt from the Washington State Department of Labor and Industries article, "Stop Workplace Bullying, It's not normal - It's unreasonable."

NC National Guard and Families’

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Kings Dominion And CarowindsJuly 4-5 as we pay tribute to our brave military service men and women by offering FREE park admission to any active, inactive or retired United States Service men and women with a valid military I.D. Enjoy activities planned each day along International Street.

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Through the Kids on Guard program, children toured the Greensboro Science Center on May 17 and participated in many fun and educational activities. In the Sci-Quarium, participants were able to learn about the habitat and feeding of penguins and other marine creatures and see what stingrays felt like in the touch pool. They visited exhibits on snakes, spiders, lizards and other bugs, and even got to pet a snake! There were many outdoor animals in the petting zoo, including tigers, turtles, anteaters, gibbons and birds. Inside the museum were exhibits to learn more about the human body, weather, transportation, technology, rocks and dinosaurs.

Parents who registered their children had many positive comments about the experience. April McCorvey, mother of Christopher, age 6, said, “Christopher really enjoyed himself on Saturday at the KOG event in Greensboro. We have visited the Science Center many times, but this time it seemed that he was more excited about going. He talked all the way home about it and his new friend, Ms. Kristi. Thank you!” And according to SSG Benson, parent of Troy, 6, Griffen , 7 and Carter, 8 “My boys truly enjoyed their trip to the Greensboro Science Center and could not stop talking about it all the way home. Thank you again for adding them at the last minute.”

For information about other upcoming Kids on Guard events or to register your child, contact Kristi Wagner, kristilwagner4.ctr@mail.mil, or 1-800-621-4136, ext. 14761.

Griffen Bensen, Troy Cisneros, Christopher McCorvey at the Greensboro Science Center for the special Kids on Guard event. Image contributed by the NCNG Child and Youth Program.

Sam Martinsen, Mariska Karfit, Kailyn Davis, Cameron McCarson at the Greensboro Science Center for the special Kids on Guard event. Image contributed by the NCNG Child and Youth Program.

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Join the

for a week of Summer Youth Camp!

27 July – 1 August 2014

Open to NC National Guard Youth Ages 8-13

Millstone 4H Camp 1296 Mallard Drive, Ellerbe, NC 28338

Pre-registration is required! Deadline for accepting applications: 18 July 2014

Canoeing Marksmanship (archery and riflery) Team challenge activities High/low ropes Hiking/environmental education Arts & crafts Campfire (skits, singing) Make new friends and more…

For more information or to register, contact:

Lynn Allred, Child & Youth Program Specialist

lynn.h.allred2.ctr@mail.mil or 800-621-4136 ext 12547

THANK YOU FOR COMPLETING THE INDIVIDUAL & COMMUNITY READINESS INVENTORY (ICRI)

Dear NC National Guard Service Members & Civilian Spouses,

We'd like to inform all respondents that the pilot test of DoD's ICRI ended earlier than the projected date of July 14th.

We are pleased at the amount of participation North Carolina National Guard Servicemembers and Spouses put into this effort.

We appreciate your help with this important initiative. A summary of the finding from this pilot test in the form of a summary profile will be made available to all respondents later in the summer. We will send out this information as soon as it becomes available.

Sincerely,Diane CoffillNCNG State Family Program Director

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JOIN THE JSS MOVEMENT!

Get on board and discover all of the great resources and tools available on Joint Services Support (JSS). JSS is the gateway for National Guard service members, family members and volunteers to find resources for support and assistance for daily living. You can find informa-tion on events in your local area or search a state you might be visiting. Employer Support of the Guard and Reserve, transition support, behavioral health and finances are just a few of the services found on JSS.

JSS is also the place where Family Readiness volunteers can access a wealth of information and tools to aid in assisting military families. Logging monthly volunteer hours, participating in interactive trainings, creating and promoting FRG events is simple with the amazing tech-nology available on the JSS website.

Now using Joint Service Support is more exciting than ever with “My JSS Rewards.” Using the many resources available on JSS, qualifies volunteers to be entered into a drawing. By simply logging on each month to enter volunteer time, take training, create an event or utilize any of the great tools, volunteers can win prizes such as a small gift bag/basket, token of appreciation. Sign up for an account today and enjoy all of the great benefits of using JSS. It’s simply the smart way to go!

The Rewards program will begins on 1 Jul 14; so get started register for your account today at https://www.jointservicessupport.org The first drawing will be held in October! The winner will be announced on the Family Program’s Face book page and in the November Edition of the Family Matter’s Newsletter. Rewards Entry Form on Page 22

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10 am -11 am Veterans Only 11 am - 1 pm: OPEN TO THE PUBLIC

VETERANS JOB FAIR

Wednesday July 23rd, 2014

10:00 AM TO 1:00 PM National Guard Armory

100 Minuteman Drive, Asheville, NC (If using GPS: 276 Richmond Hill Drive)

NC Works Asheville Career Center

Website: www.NCWorks.gov

Dress for Success and bring current copies of your resume.

For more information contact:

Brenda H. Ploss, Veterans Employment Consultant: brenda.ploss@nccommerce.com

Ken Ray, Veterans Employment Consultant:

ken.ray@nccommerce.com

Registration Information:

Employers: Email Registration Form to Veteran Contacts above. Job Seekers: Will Register at the Job Fair Entrance the day of the Job Fair

July 2014JSS Webinar Sessions

Register using the links below.

July 2014 JSS Webinar Sessions

Register using the links below.

Creating and Uploading Event Evaluations in JSS This webinar will show event coordinators how to produce standard and custom break-out class evaluations; how to

scan and upload evaluation forms; and tips for ensuring the successful processing of uploaded evaluation forms. Please register online. Instructions for connecting to the webinar

will be sent via email. Please note all our webinar times are in Eastern Standard Time.

Thursday July 10, 2014 1:00 – 1:30 PM, EST

Register here (or copy the entire link below into your browser)

https://www.jointservicessupport.org/Events/EventDetails.aspx?Id=bfb92370-45d1-4146-9d71-6acee2421a3a

Using the Contacts and Resources Tool in JSS During this session, you will learn how JSS enables you

to search for a resource, add a new resource and manage resources. Please register online. Instructions for connecting

to the webinar will be sent via email. Please note all our webinar times are in Eastern Standard Time.

Tuesday July 15, 2014 10:00 – 10:30 AM, EST

Register here (or cut and paste entire link below into browser)

https://www.jointservicessupport.org/Events/EventDetails.aspx?Id

After registering, you will receive a confirmation email containing information about joining the webinar.

The State Family Programs office is announcing new Regional Volunteer Training roles to assist the State Family Programs office and Family Readiness Support Assistants (FRSAs) in the area of training Volunteers and Family members.

Looking for energetic and enthusiastic individuals to become Trainers in all Regions of the State.

Duties and Responsibilities: • Primaryduties:AssistwiththetrainingofFamilyReadiness Group volunteers and Family members • HelpscommunicateFRGfunctionstoServicemembers and their Families through FRG and Family member training• PromotesFRGandencouragesFamilymembers,businesses, and community members to become FRG Volunteers• WorkwithSRFRSA/FRSAtodevelopregionaltraining schedules and programs around the StateAdditional Position Requirements: • Ifproblems/issuesarise,informtheSFRSA/FRSAor SFPD’s Staff referring FRG/Families to the FAC, as necessary. • TheRegionalTrainingVolunteercommunicatesregularly with the SFRSA for administrative and training guidance. Refer FRG/Families to the FACs with their concerns and requests for assistance.

Interested parties please reply to Judy Richardson, Senior Family Readiness Support Assistant (SRFRSA) by e-mail or phone: Judith.r.richardson.ctr@mail.mil or 910.347.4352 ext 5 or 1800.621.4136, ext 11346

National Training will be provided in Norman, OK 12-15 August 2014. Must be willing to travel to this training opportunity and be prepared to be utilized in these Regional Volunteer Training roles.

Announcement: Regional Family

Readiness Volunteer Positions – Regional Trainers

We are excited to announce the 2014 National Guard Family Program

Volunteer Award Recipeints!

Thank you, for your commitment, hard work and selfless service.

2014 Extra Mile Award Reciptient, Army National Guard – Mr. Daniel Galindo (North Carolina: 694th Support Maintenance Company)Extra Mile Award (Retiree) is presented to one Air Guard and one Army Guard retiree who distinguishes themselves with outstanding and exceptional service to the family program by continuing to serve the Guard through volunteering.

2014 Family Program Community Purple Award - Step Up for Soldiers – Mr. Tom Russell (Founder/President) – (Wilmington, North Carolina)The Family Program Community Purple Award is presented to a community group or organization that best exemplifies the true meaning of the purple concept within the Joint Family Program by working with both Air and/or Army Guard activities.

2014 Gold Award - Ms. Kathleen Marie Hillicke (North Carolina: HHC 1-120th CAB)The Gold Award is presented to a person showing long-term, consistent, and dedicated support to volunteering with the Family Program and volunteering within their community.

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Summer CampThe Buncombe County Extension Office is hosting a camp:

Ag Awareness DAY CAMP July 28-31 M-Th Only $50/week per school age child

EMAIL holly_jordan@ncscu.eduHolly Jordan 828-255-5522

4-H Extension Agent

Get To Know You Event Sponsored by Asheville Army Recruiting Station

DATE: Saturday JULY 12, 2014 TIME: 10:30 AM- 12:00 Noon

Pack Library (Downtown) LORD Auditorium67 Haywood Rd

Asheville, NC 28801

Asheville Army Recruiting Company Commander, CPT Joshua Edwards and all WNC Recruiting Companies under his command have collaborated on an event with Army Strong Community Center (US Army Reserve Family Programs) to establish a brief for new Army enlisted (Future Soldiers—FS) and Families called “Get To Know You” with the following presenters: Tricare, Military One Source, Red Cross Services to Armed Forces, Army Strong Community Center, and the NC National Guard Family Assistance Center.

Introductions by CPT Edwards, then Presenters brief for 10-15 minutes/field questions on Military benefits and support. Exhibitor tables will also be set up around the perimeter of the auditorium for before and after networking.

The FS and Family members will receive support through the Boot Camp and subsequent Training by the Family Support agencies, and also will receive new knowledge of insurance and other benefits from Military Vendors, during the gap before the FSs training and future assignment to an installation or Unit.

Utilizing Military Training for future career and life success is a key theme, along with assurance of Military benefits and support. Family Programs is also able to provides support to Families who are referred by the Recruiters. Readiness and Well-being for Future Soldier and Families will result from this event.

Summer reading LiSt for ChiLdren

Avoid the “summer slide” in your child’s learning by encouraging reading (even when school is not is ses-sion). Research shows that children who participate in summer reading pro-grams often score higher on reading achievement tests than those who did not participate. Your com-munity library has many of the books listed below, which are on the Ameri-can Library Association’s

“Summer Reading List” and come highly recommended from readers all over the country. These books may also be available in ebook, audio book, Braille and large print formats.

This summer, encourage your child to participate in the summer reading program at your local public library.

gradeS K-2‣Ling and Ting: Not Exactly the Sameby Grace LinTwo identical twins share many traits but in the end are quite unique.‣Pirates Love Underpantsby Claire FreedmanLaugh along to rhyming text about pirates on the hunt for the “Pants of Gold.”‣Journeyby Aaron BeckerGet caught up in an adventure with a girl whose imagination takes her to amazing places.‣Rain!by Linda AshmanWhen a rainstorm arrives, a young boy and an old man have two very different reactions.‣Unicorn Thinks He’s Pretty Greatby Bob SheaGoat’s life was A-OK until that perfect unicorn came along – but do these two horned creatures have more in common than they think?

gradeS 3-5‣Escape from Mr. Lemoncello’s Libraryby Chris GrabensteinKyle, who likes to play games, gets to spend the night in Mr. Lem-oncello’s amazing new library and joins in the biggest game of all.‣Serafina’s Promiseby Ann E. BurgSerafina, who lives in Haiti, wants to become a doctor – but how will she find the money and the time when earthquakes and floods keep setting her back?‣The Strange Case of the Origami Yodaby Tom AnglebergerTommy and his friends describe their interactions with a paper finger puppet of Yoda as they try to figure out whether or not the puppet can predict the future.

‣Out of My Mindby Sharon DraperWith the help of technology, a brilliant fifth grader with cerebral palsy is given a voice, opening the door to a new life.‣Wings of Fire: The Dragonnet Prophecyby Tui SutherlandFive young dragons from different tribes must work together to fulfill a prophecy and bring an end to the dragon wars.

gradeS 6-8‣Middle School, the Worst Years of My Lifeby James Patterson and Chris TebbettsRafe’s plan to break every rule in the school handbook is soon out of con-trol.‣Counting by 7’sby Holly Goldberg SloanTragedy changes a young girl’s life - but as she adapts, she changes the lives of those around her.‣Tesla’s Atticby Neal Shusterman and Eric ElfmanWhen Nick holds a yard sale to get rid of the junk in his new home, he realizes that all the objects have mysterious powers.‣The Lions of Little Rockby Kristin LevineIn 1958, in Little Rock, Arkansas, a shy student sees her city and her family divided over school integration.‣Ever After High: The Storybook of Legendsby Shannon HaleIn this fairy tale world, Raven Queen does not want to be evil like her mother and Apple White, daughter of Snow White, is bored with being good.

(Book list created by the Association for Library Service to Children, funded by a grant through the American Library Association Publishing Committee. For a more complete list of books by age group and grade level, visit www.ala.org/alsc/booklists.)

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Thursday, August 21st

9 AM – 3 PM

HAIRCUTS ■ MILITARY SURPLUS GEAR ■ DWS NCWORKS

CAREER CENTERS ■ VETERAN’S BENEFIT ADMINISTRATION ■ LOCAL EDUCATION SERVICES ■

LEGAL SERVICES ■ HOUSING SUPPORT ■ MEDICAL AND MENTAL HEALTH SERVICES ■ VETERAN’S SERVICE OFFICERS ■ SUPPORTIVE SERVICES FOR VETERAN

FAMILIES ■ FOOD ■ FELLOWSHIP

Please bring a VA ID card or your DD-214 if able.

Macon County Community Facility Building 1288 Georgia Road Franklin, NC 28734

Serving Veterans in Cherokee

Clay Graham Haywood Jackson Macon Swain

and Surrounding Areas

For More Information and/or transportation to event: Mark Schuler Mike Casey Haywood, Jackson, Macon, Swain Cherokee, Clay, Graham (828) 456-6061 (828) 837-7407 mark.schuler@nccommerce.com michael.p.casey@nccommerce.com mark.schuler@nccommerce.com If You Want to Volunteer

Contact Daylon Plemens (828) 349-2151 or dplemens@maconnc.org

Personal Financial CounselorOur Personal Financial Counselor can provide FREE

one-on-one financial counseling services to you and your Family.

Mr. Chip Jurgensen, CFP, NCJFSAP(919) 334-8313

cjurgensen@mflc.zeiders.com

FAMILY ASSISTANCE CENTERS

Family Assistance Centers are located across the State to provide assistance to ALL Military Service Members and their Families. If you know of a Service Member or Military Family

that has a question or concern, please share our contact numbers, web site, newsletter, and Facebook link.

We're here to help.

Asheville Military Family Resource Center7 Yorkshire St. Suite 101, 28803/Fax: (828) 274-7209Rebekah Torres, rebekah.s.torres.ctr@mail.mil, (828) 274-8571

Charlotte Unit Family Contact Center4240 West Blvd., 28208/(800) 621-4136Carry Bandy, FAC Specialist, carry.s.bandy.ctr@mail.mil, Ext. 14573Gabrielle H. O'Flanagan, gabrielle.h.oflanagan.ctr@mail.mil, Ext. 14547

Greensboro State Family Assistance Center (SFAC)110 Franklin Blvd, Greensboro, 27401 (800) 621-4136Sandy Harrison, sandra.b.harrison2.ctr@mail.mil, Ext. 15651

Greenville State Family Assistance Center1401 N. Memorial Dr., 27834/(800) 621-4136Dawn White, dawn.m.white2.ctr@mail.mil, Ext. 11150

Lenoir State Family Assistance Center1535 Beecher Anderson Rd., 28645/(800) 621-4136Frances Johnson, frances.r.johnson28.ctr@mail.mil, Ext. 11242

Raleigh Unit Family Contact Center 4105 Reedy Creek Rd., 27607/(800) 621-4136Lisa Faison, lisa.m.faison.ctr@mail.mil, Ext. 47100Mark Woolbright, mark.l.woolbright.ctr@mail.mil, Ext. 47102

Raleigh JFHQ Unit Family Contact Center1636 Gold Star Dr., 27607/800-621-4136 Wendi Bell, wendi.h.bell.ctr@mail.mil, Ext. 46078

Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center406 Hospital Rd., 27577/(800) 621-4136Abby Millsap, abigail.e.millsap.ctr@mail.mil, Ext. 12784

Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center510 W. Morganton Rd., 28387/(800) 621-4136 Earlene Capps, earlene.b.capps.ctr@mail.mil, Ext. 12863

Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center2412 Infantry Rd., 28405/(800) 621-4136Jim Marley, james.e.marley.ctr@mail.mil, Ext. 16918

Winston-Salem Unit Family Contact Center 2000 Silas Creek Pkwy., 27103/(800) 621-4136Sandy Harrison, sandra.b.harrison2.ctr@mail.mil, Ext. 17131

STATEWIDE SUPPoRT

MFLC PRoGRAM

~Provides short-term, situational, problem-solving counseling services to Servicemembers and their Families

~Provides psycho-education to help military Servicemembers and their Families understand the impact of stress, deployments,

family reunions following deployments and the stresses of military life~MFLC services augment existing military support services

~Flexible service delivery (Outreach/Rotational and On-Demand); Services can be provided on or off military installations

~Services provided to individuals, couples, families, and groups~Children’s Support Program addresses military impact on children~MFLCs are mandated reporters of child abuse, domestic abuse

and duty-to-warn situations~Services are otherwise confidential and private

Staff:John Alleman

Adult and Family Specialist(919) 745-9635

Betty Steelman

Youth and Family Specialist(919) 665-9178

Charlotte: Nikkie Newsomegenesia.k.newsome.ctr@mail.milExt.14548

Morrisville: Darlette McCormickdarlette.s.mccormick.ctr@mail.mil Ext. 16313

Raleigh: Norman Dean norman.g.dean2.ctr@mail.milExt. 46537

Raleigh: George Lanegeorge.w.lane2.ctr@mail.mil Ext. 46714

Clinton: Sarah Stricklandsarah.r.strickland.ctr@mail.milExt. 14735

Goldsboro: Nicole Danielsnicole.d.daniels5.ctr@mail.mil Ext. 15423

Greensboro: Gloria Fieldsgloria.d.fields.ctr@mail.milExt.15620

Jacksonville: Judy Richardson judith.r.richardson.ctr@mail.milExt. 11346

FAMILY READINESS SUPPoRT ASSISTANTS(800) 621-4136 PLUS EXTENSION

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My JSS Rewards Entry Form

Contest Instructions: Prize drawings will be held quarterly. Entry forms are to be completed for each month that you utilize JSS. List all JSS activities and the dates completed. For each activity listed, volunteers will have their names entered into the drawing once per activity. Forms must be submitted to Family Readiness Support Assistants not later than one week after the close of each month.

Month ___________________

(FIRST NAME, LAST NAME)

POSITION TITLE

Unit/Battalion/Brigade

Please list the JSS activities that you participated in this entry period1. Trainings:

2. Entering Volunteer time:

3. Adding an Event:

4. Other: