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FASHION & BEAUTY • Salon Owner Lorna Stewart • The Scoop on Scarves • If Your Feet Could Talk PLUS • Author Ron Rosewood • Travel Australia

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FEATURES 6 A Good JourneyLorna Stewart isn’t just a pretty face with an eye for balance and style, she also believes in giving back.

8 Aging GracefullyAchieve a soft, natural look with these suggestionsfor make-up application and colour selections.

10 What Your Feet Say to Your ShoesMaintaining healthy feet, as we age, is an important component in physical well-being and independence.

12 Ageless FashionFormer fashion model shares what she learned about creating illusions to achieve an effective look.

14 Hair Tips for SeniorsRegular trimming and quality hair care products allow mature women to choose their style.

16 The Scoop on ScarvesScarves are a cost-effective way to add flair to any outfit – and the choices are endless.

18 Dedicated to the ArtsGallery Associates volunteer their time raisingfunds and promoting cultural interest.

Cover Photo: Hair stylist, fashion designer, fundraiser and entrepreneur Lorna Stewart in her salon in Vancouver. Story page 6. Photo: Philippe Martin-Morice

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20 Leaving Something BehindAuthor Ron Rosewood weaves his own real-life experiences into his fictional stories.

22 AustraliaDespite being home to more lethal creatures than anywhere else, Oz’s population and tourism continues to grow.

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The Family Caregiver column is brought to you by the generous sponsorship of Saint Elizabeth

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As parents’ health declines, we can find ourselves providing them with increasingly more care and support. Sometimes, it can feel as though the roles

have reversed and we are now parenting our parents. We may catch ourselves telling them what to do, what

we think is best for them and forgetting they are still adults with a lifetime of experience capable of making choices for themselves. If your parent has dementia, Alzheimer’s or is in any other way cognitively impaired, the degree to which they can make decisions for themselves will vary based on their unique situation.

Although we may be tempted to parent our parent, it isn’t helpful for many reasons. They are still your parents and you are still their child, regardless of your age. The dynam-ics of that relationship have been established over a life-time. Also, with aging parents, remember you are not in the role of having to teach them how to go out and function in the world. They’ve already been there and have their own wisdom and experience.

In addition, your parent may be experiencing feelings of loss and frustration around changes in their health, indepen-dence and mobility. This will impact how receptive they are to suggestions from you. The more you try to do for them, without checking with them first, the stronger these feelings of loss and frustration can be.

Avoid nagging them about their habits or telling them how they should behave. Boundaries and respect are still impor-

tant. Rather than telling them what they should need, do or feel; ask how you can help them or what they need from you?

Ask rather than assume. As-sumptions are based on what would work best or make a situation easier for us. Clini-cal Counsellor Allison Reeves says the role of family caregiver is to support the person needing care in living their life as they want to, based on the current circumstances.

Are you meeting resistance? Step back and examine your own behaviour. Resistance often happens when we are try-ing to tell someone what to do or to control their behaviour based on our own agenda.

Put yourself in your parents’ shoes. Remember, you will likely one day find yourself in a similar situation. Think about how you may want to be treated, regardless of your physical or mental limitations.

Next Month: How Home Adaptations Can Ease the Demands of Caregiving

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Fashion & Beauty

Lorna Stewart was 24 when she arrived in Canada in 1973 from her native Jamaica. While many newcom-ers would take some time to settle in and figure out

how things work in their new surroundings, Lorna took a dif-ferent approach – jumping in with both feet.

“When I look back now, I wonder, what I was thinking,” she says with a smile. “I had attitude and got myself a job five days after landing. I started in a small salon in New Westmin-ster and stayed with them for three months. I was good, I was fast and I was reliable. My employers noticed that and gave me more and more work, until I complained. They told me that was the way it was, so I packed my stuff into a garbage bag, and walked up the street to Raymond’s Salon, where I was hired a couple of days later.”

Lorna grew up in a large family, the seventh child in a family of four boys and four girls. Her parents were married for nearly 60 years and emphasized the importance of family. They were incredibly important to Lorna, especially her mother.

“My mother was the most stabilizing force you could imagine,” she says. “She was the one who made the wheel turn. She was the boss, and there was no doubt about that, but you could go to her and ask anything and get an answer. She always told us that she lived for her kids, not herself, which I did not really understand until much later. She always told us that we had to give back.”

This was a lesson Lorna took to heart.She worked at Raymond’s for several years, launching black

hair care for the studio and building up a large and loyal client base. One of her clients told Lorna she would provide the finan-cial backing, if Lorna ever decided to open her own studio.

In the early 1980s, Lorna took her up on the offer, borrowing $8,000 on a handshake, opening a small studio with a partner and paying back the loan within the first year. Not long after, Lorna relocated to the Westminster Quay, and borrowed another $14,000 from the same investor.

“I paid her back again, but still she told me she was my mother in Canada, and sent me cards and muffins and [treated] me like I was her own child. Later, when she needed to move into a home, I took care of her and her husband. I set them up, visited them every day and communicated with their children in Ontario. After she passed away, I continued looking after him until his children moved out to the coast. I am so happy I did that. This was the start of my giving back.”

When she was 10 years old, Lorna started doing hair for the

children in her neighbourhood and even started some clothing design. She decided, at that young age, she wanted a career making people look good through fashion and hair design. This lifelong passion inspired her to organize fashion shows as fundraising events. Her first ventures were at a New West-minster restaurant and all of them did well – one show raised more than $20,000 for the CKNW Orphan’s Fund.

From that modest start, she took things one step further by staging a fashion show featuring all her own designs at the Four Seasons Hotel in Vancouver.

“I sold all 250 tickets myself because people will make ex-cuses,” she says. “I was a bit tough, sometimes, but I got things done. It was so much work but my ideas all paid off. I have a network of really good people behind me, but I realized to succeed I had to be a force. I even found and recruited all the models myself. These were my dreams and I acted on them.”

While she enjoyed designing and running fashion show

A Good JourneyBY KEVIN MCKAY

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fundraisers, Lorna still had to pay the rent. Her hairdressing business was thriving and required more and more of her time. So, in the boutique beside her salon, she started selling clothes from other design-ers. She travelled to New York, Toronto and Hong Kong to buy clothes, but, in the end, she feels perhaps she was ahead of her time. Now, her interest has turned to jewelry, and her clients seem to love it.

Lorna treats each of her clients as an in-dividual. She focuses on the hairstyle that works best for them, not worrying about what styles are currently popular if they do not suit that client.

“If there’s one gift I have it’s an eye for balance,” she says. “At a glance, I can tell if the hair goes with the clothing and makeup. I love a complete package. Sometimes, [clients] have an idea in their head, but it’s hard for them to describe what they want. Lots of time, they just want something that looks pretty. That’s really what it’s all about. One reason people come back is that they know they can trust us to make them look good. Trust is a huge thing.”

The friendships Lorna made and the re-lationships she established led to many of the causes she supported over the years.

“I did a fashion show for cancer after one of my customers passed away from bone cancer when she was only 35. An-other customer had a child who suffered from Crohn’s disease, so I put a couple of shows on in her honour.”

Two causes close to Lorna’s heart are Monarch Place, a shelter for abused women and their children, and the Kidney Foundation. She has done various shows for Monarch Place, using people from the shelter as models for the hairstyles.

Lorna got involved with the Kidney Foundation after a long-time employee came to her one day, “She had helped me in the store for over 20 years, and she told me her kidneys were failing and that not even her children realized how sick she was. I told her I would be her voice, and checked right away to see if I was a match, but I was not.

I mentioned this to the woman in the coffee shop next door, and she offered to see if she was a match. Not only was she,

but she was the closest match the doc-tor had ever seen. She donated one of her kidneys nine years ago and both of them are doing fine now. We did two shows for the Foundation, and raised over $35,000. That was one of the big-gest things I have ever done.”

From humble beginnings, Lorna has done great things, raising well over $200,000 for charities she has cham-pioned. Along the way, she has joined the Rotarians and is a Paul Harris Fel-

low, the highest achievement for charity work in Rotary International. The New Westminster Chamber of Commerce has given her the Celebration of Busi-ness Excellence Award.

To this day, she remains determined but humble.

“It has been a good journey, so far, and I hope the journey continues to be a good one. I have done a tremendous amount of good, but I always feel I could have done a little bit more.”

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Aging doesn’t mean losing pride in one’s appear-ance. Seniors want to look their best and grow older gracefully. Many wear very little makeup,

perhaps a little powder, blush and lipstick. A no-fuss ap-proach to their makeup routine seems to be a pri-ority. So, with this in mind, below are some basic suggestions for the application of cosmetics, and the appropriate colours and choices for mature women.

Start with your skin. Cleanse, tone and moisturize before ap-plying cosmetics, and before bed. Apply a day moisturizer on clean skin. Moisturizer allows makeup to be ap-plied more easily. If you don’t like using a foun-dation, you can purchase tinted moisturizers. Some moisturizers contain an SPF, which is recom-mended year-round.

Use a lighter hand when making up your face. A green colour cor-rector can neutralize red-ness caused by broken capillaries or sensitivity. A mauve colour corrector can be used for sallowness or dark spots. It’s applied before your foundation.

Choose a water-based foundation to even out skin tone. It helps to protect the skin from the elements and smooths the appearance of the skin. Lightly blend it on your face with your finger tips or a dampened makeup sponge on the spots you need it. I prefer not to use latex sponges as they absorb too much product and don’t seem to blend well. (However, I do use latex sponges to clean up any residue left over from powered eye shadow that may fall on to the face).

For foundation colour selection, avoid pale beige and choose a shade that has been tinted with peach or pink. Skin tone and pigment fades as we age, so a little colour enhances the complexion. Some people suggest a dewy,

youthful look, but that can make your face look shiny making imperfections more notice-

able. Don’t use a shade that’s too dark; a lighter shade is better.

Concealer can be used to camou-flage darkness under the eyes or

pigmentation marks. It should be a shade or two lighter than foundation, otherwise it en-hances puffiness. Choose one that’s not too dry; a creamy opaque formula or a liquid formula will blend easily. Apply con-cealer after you’ve ap-plied foundation as it blends better. Dab it with your pinky or ring finger as the skin under the eye is the thinnest on your body and requires a deli-

cate touch.Loose powder can be

translucent or slightly tinted to match foundation. Apply

lightly with a big fluffy brush to minimize shine to the centre

of the face in downward strokes and downwards to the neck as the

fine hairs on your face will lay flat when you apply powder that way. Keep

all your brushes clean by periodically washing them in a gentle shampoo (e.g. baby shampoo), lay

flat and let them air dry.On cheeks, smile and apply a matte powder blush with

a fluffy brush to the apple of the cheeks, blending up to the hairline. Don’t apply too close to the nose. Use a light hand.

AGING GRACEFULLYwith a soft natural look

BY ROSEMARIE HURST

Fashion & Beauty

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Shades should be soft and gentle, like peach and soft pink for light skin, and cranberry and plums for darker skin.

On the eyes, avoid bright colours or frosted shadows. They emphasize crepiness and can look harsh. Eye shad-ows are used to highlight the eyes and to add a glow to the face, so matte powdered shadow is best. Avoid strong, dark colours as they are aging. Colours should be a few shades lighter than your eye colour. For example, try melon, fern green, periwinkle, beige, pink, copper, soft charcoal or light mauve; while avoiding black, navy, purple, emerald green, fuchsia, burgundy or khaki.

If you choose to use eyeliner it should be soft in colour and/or application, no hard lines. You can use a wedge shaped brush to apply a powdered shadow along the eye-lash line for a smudgy look. Circling the eyes with liner will make them look smaller. An eyeliner pencil is better than a liquid liner as it’s softer.

If you use eyebrow colour, choose something soft and light. Brush on in short, feathery strokes. Use soft gray or taupe, not dark brown or black. Make sure your brows are not too thin or too short. Do not shave your eyebrows. Tweeze them regularly to keep their shape.

Apply brown/black or brown mascara. Jet black can look harsh.

Lips: Once again, don’t wear anything that’s frosted or glossy as it emphasizes the lines around the mouth. A lip fixative helps to stop colour from feathering. Define lips with rose or coral liner. Fill in with a lipstick in soft colours, like coral, rose, soft red; or for darker skin types, plum. Use a creamy lipstick or an all-day lipstick. Wear a lip balm in the winter or if you’re out in the sun a lot.

Remember to apply makeup with a light hand and blend well for a soft, natural look. And don’t forget to cleanse your skin at night and apply a night moisturizer.

If you’re trying to recapture your “natural” colour in your hair, you may be in for a surprise. As your skin lightens with age, your hair will tend to look darker. So, if you choose to colour your hair, pick a colour that’s a little lighter than your former natural colour or ask your hairdresser to put in highlights for a more natural look. Stay away from frosting or brassy tones.

The colour of the clothing you wear close to your face should improve your skin tone. Black can be harsh as it’s the tone of the colour that’s reflected on to your skin. Turtle-necks may be great to hide neck imperfections, but try add-ing your favourite scarf to soften the look and help comple-ment skin tone.

Finally, the key to aging gracefully is to enhance the at-tributes that you’ve already got; to take pride in yourself and appearance; and to take care of your health and well-being. And seniors have the inner strength and wisdom to do just that!

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Healthy feet are an important component of physi-cal well-being and independence. They ground us, keep us balanced and allow us to stay active

– all of which reduce risk of injury and circulation prob-lems, and keep our bones and muscles strong.

Keeping tender toes healthy requires dressing them in proper footwear. From walking shoes to high heels, find-ing footwear that is practical, stylish and comfortable can be a challenge.

Feet, along with the rest of us, change as we get older. The shoes that fit perfectly in youth are now painful reminders of age. In addition to increased swelling, physical changes in the struc-ture of your feet can cause changes in shoe size.

Vancouver podiatrist Dr. Joseph Stern, B.Sc, D.P.M says, “The fat pad on the bottom of the foot can diminish or slide for-ward over time, resulting in discomfort on the bot-tom of the foot.” Thin-ning skin also causes feet to be more fragile. “The more fragile the skin, the easier to get cut and the longer it takes to heal,” he says.

Arthritis or former injuries such as torn or strained tendons result in changes in the shape of the foot and typi-cally require a change in shoe size. Weakened foot muscles cause trips and falls to be more frequent necessitat-ing a steady, wide, low-heeled shoe, replacing fashionable, high stilettos.

You may have heard the aches and pains of your joints and muscles talking to you, telling your body to slow down. It’s time to listen to what your feet have to say – to your shoes!

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“Ouch! Squished toes!”It should come as no surprise that the most common

cause of feet injuries is a result of choosing the wrong shoe size. “Most patients fit their shoes too small, too narrow or too short,” says Dr. Stern.

To avoid making fitting mistakes, Dr. Stern suggests making a tracing of your foot and place the tracing beside the shoe to see if they match. “You should have about a thumb’s width from the longest toe to the end of your shoe.

Otherwise, the toe will hit the end [of the shoe] and you’ll smash your toe nail so you’ll get black

toe nails or toe nails will rub into your skin,” says Dr. Stern.

As the size and shape of your foot changes, so should your

shoe size. “You want the shoe to be fitting your foot. So, if you have hammer-toes, you want the toe box to be deeper. If you have a bunion, you want the toe area to be wider,” sug-gests Dr. Stern.

Leather and canvas are the best materials for

letting feet breathe and have greater flexibility, allowing

the shoe to bend with the foot. Dr. Stern suggests shopping

for a shoe with flexible material such as Xsensible. Made from stretch-

able leather that acts like a second skin, these shoes adapt to the unique shape of the foot and stretch

with its natural movements. If your shoes still require ad-justment, a specialty shop can stretch them for you.

“Ouch! Swelling feet!”Slip-on shoes may seem convenient, but foot swelling

can cause a great deal of discomfort. “With a slip-on, it has to be tight over the front of the shoe, and if you have

What Your Feet Say to Your Shoes

BY LISA EVANS

Fashion & Beauty

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a problem with swelling, your foot will swell over the top of the shoe and it will be too tight,” says Dr. Stern, who suggests wearing a lace-up or Velcro closure shoe that can adjust for swelling.

Elasticized laces are another great option for swelling feet. Even the time of day you shop for shoes can affect their fit. “You should buy your shoes at four o’clock in the afternoon because your foot is pretty much swollen by then,” suggests Dr. Stern.

“Ouch! Corns, Calluses and Blisters!” Shoes that are too narrow cause rubbing, which can lead

to corns and calluses – a buildup of thick, hardened or dead skin that typically forms on the bottom or sides of feet that, if left untreated, can become painful or infected.

To avoid corns, calluses and blisters, Dr. Stern recom-mends looking for brands such as New Balance or Saucony that offer a wide size. When purchasing a jogging or walk-ing shoe, make sure there are no prominent seams on the inside of the shoe that can cause rubbing.

“Ouch! Can’t these be broken in?”Despite what retailers say, shoes don’t really break in.

“By the time they break in, it’s going to be time to throw them away,” says Dr. Stern. Shoes should feel comfortable when you purchase them. The bottom line? If they don’t feel good in the store, don’t buy them.

“Ouch! Wobbly Heels!”Dressing up your feet can be fun, but also painful and

dangerous. Ideally, heels should be no higher than an inch and a half (3 cm) and should be as wide as your foot to keep ankles from twisting and your back from arching. Soles with a grip provide more stability and less risk of slips and falls. A wider heel ensures more surface contact with the ground, making your foot more stable than a stiletto. Wedges are also a safe option – and trendy too!

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Fashion has always been fasci-nating to me. The first object of my affection was a white

and black polka dotted creation worn by child star Shirley Temple.

With its ruffled ballerina skirt and bright red-ribboned waist, her petite frame and curvy legs were showcased to perfection. How I loved that look! But from curly hair to twinkly toes, we were totally dissimilar – she cute and chubby – me tall and gangly. Obvious-ly, a few fashion lessons concerning the rules of proportion were in order.

Then, my stylish aunt gave me my first perfect outfit – cream linen full-legged overalls – very Katharine Hepburn – which lasted me for many seasons mixed and matched with dif-ferent shirts.

This classic styling continues to re-invent itself over the years under dif-ferent names – pyjama, lounge or pa-tio pants – the only requirement being a clever tweak to create a fresh and timeless look once again.

Fashion was a simple progression in my youth. One left the school uni-form and graduated to a plaid tartan skirt from Straith’s (still one of Vic-toria’s fashion destinations!) teamed with a twin sweater set and topped with a beautifully carved and painted brooch – a sporty little pheasant in my case!

Then it was on to the Dior Look – narrow-waisted, full-skirted and ladylike, or following that the break-through Mary Quant mini-skirt.

At that time, a handful of top de-signers ruled the fashion world, and their word was law. But now women are confidently taking control of their image by adopting an eclectic mix-and-match philosophy. Anything goes

in fashion, which can be a good thing, but also a trifle confusing, so here are a few guidelines to help in the quest for your most flattering look.

Start with a good undergarment. Topping the list is Spanx, which is one of the hottest brands on the market to-day. Comfortable slimming garments that minimize figure flaws; Spanx manufactures a line of bras, bodysuits, tummy slimmers and hosiery – an in-vestment guaranteed to reward you many times over.

As a model and, later, as fashion co-ordinator for Eaton’s, I learned that creating illusions is an important key to effective dressing. It’s a trick the French term “trompe l’oeil,” which means leading the eye where you want it to go. If your neck is short don’t re-duce it even more by wearing turtle necks. Opt instead for a low cut V-neck style, drawing the eye down for the ap-pearance of length.

To project the illusion of a smaller bust, try combining a pale sleeveless shell under a darker V-neck top. The contrasting shades effectively establish a lighter look. Even the simple act of buttoning your sweater halfway down and wearing it over a white blouse will have a slimming effect.

The mature figure does best in pants with a relaxed fit. Search for a brand that caters to your size and shape. In-formation as to cut and proportion can be found on many labels. Wide leg, re-laxed fit, pleated front and high waist are all good options, together with ca-pris for casual wear.

Be careful of appearing in stretch pants and high boots after age 60. Un-less you’re in perfect shape, even your Spanx will find it difficult to compen-sate for the forces of gravity. You also

run the risk of being labelled a “cou-gar” – a slightly sardonic term for an older woman with an eye for younger men! On the other hand, if you’re up for a challenge – go for it! Forewarned is forearmed!

Another wardrobe staple is a good jacket. Classic man tailoring designed for your figure type will see you through many seasons, but be sure it fits well at the hip for a smooth line necessary for a polished look. If you’re

AGELESS FASHIONBY ALIXE WALLIS

Fashion & Beauty

The author – more Katharine Hepburn, less Shirley Temple.

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on the petite side, check out the short cropped styles featur-ing a more contoured waist.

Unless your waist is small and slim, steer clear of co-lourful belts that are too wide – a narrower version matching the colour of your outfit will be much more flattering. Inter-esting dramatic buckles are also a plus – drawing the eye in-ward for the illusion of slimness. Belts fastened too tightly are sure to add an inch to your hips. So, a notch lower, if you please, to give that svelte look. Develop a flair for mak-ing an outfit your own by adding one important accessory – whether it’s a belt, jewelry, a dramatic scarf, pashmina or handbag. Highlighting is the key with “less is more” being the golden rule here.

A technique known as colour blocking gives punch to your wardrobe. Try combining two complementary colours for a dramatic effect. Rich chocolate brown mixed with the vibrancy of purple; black teamed with electric blue; or grey

with Tangerine Tango, the colour of a bright Seville orange. Leave the patterned prints for another time and let pure co-lour do the talking!

Choosing colours with global appeal is one of the most important components of the fashion agenda. Pantone, a worldwide authority on colour has been surveying a myriad of sources for almost 50 years working with designers, the entertainment industry and travelling art collections all over the world. They spot the trends, the moods and influences affecting us – even psychology comes into play.

The decision is in for 2012: People are feeling hopeful and on the optimistic side, so we’re seeing sunshine-y yel-lows, pale greens and mauves together with lots of orange, like Tangerine Tango, to maintain our cheery mood.

It’s clear we’ve come a long way since those days of being told how to dress. We’ve become mature enough to laugh at our insecurities and that’s a good thing. Because that old adage still applies – the most important fashion ac-cessory is your smile! SL

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which is nice to see, or not doing full colours and maybe just lo-lighting their hair instead.”

Those who do colour are using ash-based colour to add depth, or just adding a playful splash of colour.

“Women who are colouring should always have a high-light added in as well. This will create the softness they need around the face, because solid, dark colours accentuate fine lines and wrinkles. It also helps minimize that ‘skunky’ look as the grey starts to grow in again,” Barcelos advises.

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Stylish seniors need stylish hairstyles, but it can be tough to find a look that suits.

Lucy Barcelos, Master Stylist at Carreiro the Studio in Victoria has many senior clients, and she believes they can carry off any cut, short or long.

“I’m definitely encouraging women not to cut their hair off simply because they feel like their age is telling them to cut it off.”

“I think an older woman with a smart-looking long lay-ered cut looks fabulous,” she adds. “Gone are the days where women chop their hair when they reach a certain age. A short, smart haircut is very attractive when it’s done right, but not on everyone, notes Barcelos.

“Medium to longer lengths are beautiful on grey haired women, as long as the hair is regularly trimmed and taken care of with good products.”

Senior-friendly shampoo and styling products are key. “If clients are choosing to stay grey, using a shampoo with

a purple tint will ensure their hair stays true to the silver with-out going yellow. Also using an anti-aging or anti-thinning shampoo is a good thing,” she says.

Seniors should not use shampoo that will over-strip their hair of natural oils, and using shampoo and conditioner that helps with hair loss is beneficial for women going through menopause. Anti-oxidant shampoos work well for hair that is losing its lustre. When styling, volumizing products work best for blow-drying. Mousse or root-lifting gels are also good choices.

Barcelos also says some of her clients are embracing their foxy silver locks, and not bothering to cover them up.

“Some women are deciding not to colour their grey hair,

Hair Tips for SeniorsBY KELLY HENDERSON

Fashion & Beauty

Gone are the days where women chop their

hair when they reach a certain age.

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What do Queen Nefertiti of Egypt, Beethoven, and Snoopy have in common? Answer: scarves. We’ll never know if Queen Nefertiti, in 1350 B.C., was

having a bad hair day when she chose to be pictured wearing a finely woven scarf under her conical headdress. But we can guess why Beethoven, in 1810, adopted fashionable suits, shirts and neck scarves to pursue his new love, Therese Malfatti; and why cartoonist Charles Shultz pictured his beagle character, Snoopy, wearing the aviator scarf, along with helmet and gog-gles in his role as WWI flying ace.

For millennia, from the time of the early Romans and through the ages, for both women and men, scarves have played an im-portant role as a versatile clothing accessory. Historians believe that as early as 230 B.C., Chinese Emperor Cheng’s warriors donned cloth scarves to mark military rank. Officers’ scarves were made of fine silk or linen; lesser ranks of cotton.

Cloth kerchiefs, popular with Emperor Nero and the an-cient Romans, were worn for practical purposes, not fashion, and were called sudariums, or “sweat cloths.” Made of absor-bent linen or cotton, knotted around the neck or waist by men, they were used for wiping sweat from the face and neck in hot weather.

In many countries around the world, and particularly in Eu-rope from the 17th century to WWI, much of men’s fashion was of military origin. From the “kravata,” a scarf used in the 1600s by Croatian mer-cenaries, evolved many versions of the cravat, including an elaborate silk or lace trimmed necktie, favoured by French King Louis XIII

and worn with formal morning dress.

King Charles II, on returning to England from exile in 1660, brought with him the latest new word in fashion: “A cravatte is another kind of adorn-ment for the neck being nothing else but a long towel put about the Col-lar, and so tyed before with a Bow Knott; this is the original of all such Wearings; but now by the Art and Inventions of the seamsters, there is so many new ways of making them, that it would be a task to name, much more to describe them.” [sic] (Randle Holme, Academy of Armory and Blazon, 1688.) The cravat was the forerunner of the mod-ern tailored necktie and bow tie.

Scarf colour has long been used to demonstrate political affiliations; sports fans wear and wave them to support their

team of choice. Some cultures and religions with traditions of modesty use scarves as cover-ups; in the early 1900s, Swedish actress Greta Garbo and later Grace Kelly popu-larized them as glamorous Hollywood accessories.

But for fun and sheer versatility, scarves have never been more popular than they are today. With minimal financial outlay, they can add flair to any outfit; make a statement and add chic to an otherwise plain or unflattering garment. They can work as a summer or evening cover-up; provide warmth

and colour to keep out winter chills. Made of silk, cotton, wool or blended fabrics, long or short, rectangular, square or round, scarves can add year-round pizazz to any wardrobe.

I became a scarf-o-holic years ago when, as a single mom, my outgo was way larger than my income. Needing to dress well for my job, I discovered that adding a bright scarf to a tired old dress, sweater or coat, would not only give it a fresher, newer, smarter look, but lift my mood as well. Black is not my colour, but with a white/black patterned or coloured scarf knot-ted at the neck, I could wear it well.

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Scarves were practical and fun. I began my collection. I looped them, knotted them, wrapped and tied them. For a styl-ish look, I’d twist two together, one patterned one plain; an animal print produced a dramatic effect; soft pastels compli-mented my skin colouring.

Sold in a huge variety of colours and patterns, priced to fit any budget, scarves run the gamut of choice. You’ll find them in thrift shops, gift shops, consignment stores, department stores and designer collections. And far from being “but a long towel put about the Collar,” manufacturers of scarves and wraps are always striving to develop fresh new innovative designs.

The round or infinity scarf, which can be wrapped once or twice around the neck (cosy fabrics for winter, light for spring and summer), take top marks for popularity at a store that spe-cializes in high-fashion accessories and carries a huge selection of scarves year round.

Another favoured design is a pretty lace-edged long or square scarf. When folded into a triangle with the point at the front and ends wrapped round the neck, adds a soft feminine touch to the classic cardigan and T-shirt.

“The Medallion, a jewelled scarf by Ar-tizan, has been far and away our best seller for the winter and spring seasons,” says Linda McKinley, owner/man-ager of a gift shop in North Delta. Made of 100 per cent wrinkle-resistant polyester, in a wide range of colours, the beaded scarves re-

place the need for jewelry and can be worn any number of ways – as a scarf, a wrap-around shawl, a bow or belt. Priced around $20, they make interesting and unusual gifts.

Joni Light, a Ladner gift shop owner, says fine hand-knit and crochet summer scarves are popular in her store. For win-ter wear, unique from England, incorporating micro-encapsu-lation fabric technology, Aromatherapy and Ayurveda scarves are made of finest lambswool, and are scented with a sophis-ticated blend of pure essential oils that are released with each wear. Reversible, in strong, vibrant colours, the Ayurveda line – relaxing Vata, calming Pitta, and stimulating Kapha, are also infused with a blend of natural aromatherapy oils.

Metallic scarves were hot for fall and winter; light weave and inexpensive (as low as $5), silver threaded viscose make an excellent choice for summer. Cut in 6x3 foot lengths, they can be looped once or twice around the neck for day wear, or opened up to make an ideal evening cover-up or wrap for trav-elling. The choice is endless.

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The Art Gallery of Greater Victoria, a historical 1889 mansion donated by Sarah Spencer in 1951, is strate-gically situated near Craigdarroch Castle and within

walking distance of Government House or downtown Victoria.The gallery showcases a permanent collection of 14,000

objets d’art including Canada’s best Japanese collection, a range of modern Canadian art, including that of Emily Carr, and regular travel exhibits.

A year after donating her mansion to art, Miss Spencer invit-ed a group of women to her home, and a volunteer group, “The Women’s Society,” now called the “Gallery Associates,” held its first meeting with elections. Today, the volunteer organization includes both men and women.

Past President Joan Shimizu, First Vice-President Joan Huzar and Art Tours Committee Chair June Sohuus are three of the groups’ enthusiastic supporters.

Joan Shimizu grew up in Camrose, Alberta. She moved to Edmonton to get her RN at the University of Alberta and later to the United States, where she lived for two years while her husband did post-graduate work.

The lifelong volunteer and mother of four began volunteer-ing with her children’s preschool and figure skating. Addition-ally, she says, “When the children were young, I needed adult conversation and cultural stimulation,” so she joined the docent program at the Edmonton Art Gallery. Soon, she began fund-raising for the Gallery and served two terms as Member of the Board of Directors.

Joan’s other volunteer work includes six years with the Unit-ed Way of Greater Edmonton and volunteering as Area Board and Director on the Edmonton Opera Society Board.

Joan’s family appreciates the arts. “My husband and I have enjoyed attending opera in various cities around the world, as well as visiting major galleries in Canada, Europe and the US.”

Having moved to Victoria, Joan was invited to a meeting of the Gallery Associates. “I thoroughly enjoyed the guest speaker and meeting other members. I joined that day,” says Joan.

“I believe the arts, music and opera are the soul of a commu-nity,” says the five year Associate. “It just seemed natural that I would volunteer in this area when I moved to Victoria, and it turned out to be The Art Gallery.”

Joan Huzar came to Victoria from Ontario in 2003, bringing with her a long history of volunteering. She was introduced to the Gallery Associates when “a friend who I had known from Ontario suggested I might like this group and invited me to a meeting. I liked what I saw and joined,” says Joan.

Although her main contribution to the gallery has been with

the fundraising house tour events, where she has been con-tributing for several years, she has also supported the Asso-ciates with her computer and organizational skills in work-ing with the Art Attire Chair to develop application forms and other work.

Volunteer work has been Joan’s chosen career path. Her particular interest has been in consumer protection. Joan was a founding member of the Consumer Council of Canada, a new consumer organization started in Canada in 1994. There, she served as president and board member. In addition, she co-chaired an IODE committee that put a $1.5 million dollar addition on to the Goderich Town Library in Ontario in 2000 and volunteered as a secretary and committee member with

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the Canadian Standards Association. The fundraising events help create a

strong organization and an appreciation for the volunteers within the Art Gallery, says Joan, who hopes to help the Gallery financially, as well as raise an awareness and general appreciation of art in the community.

Joan’s other hobby is gardening. “I’ve died and gone to heaven living in Victo-ria,” she says.

June Sohuus says, “Galleries, muse-ums and libraries are important because they reflect in their different ways who we are. Such institutions couldn’t survive without volunteer help.”

June has lived in London, England, Brisbane and Sydney, Australia and Co-penhagen. She has volunteered for a va-riety of organizations. Two of the most memorable: running a summer music school for young string players aspiring to join orchestras; and serving as presi-dent of a community organization that acquired, renovated and opened a house for a community centre.

Born and raised in England, June worked in administrative positions in communications, mostly in universities, helping to set up projects and liaising with students. She has fundraised for a new university in Queensland, Australia. “Perhaps the most demanding and re-warding [volunteer experience] was as a junior member of a team setting up two new university colleges at the University of Toronto.”

Four years after joining the Gallery As-sociates and spending time on the road tour-ing and meeting interesting people, June is now chairing the Art Tours Committee.

Recently, June led a tour to The Trea-sures of the Hermitage in St. Petersburg, Russia. With art housed in nine build-ings, “we’d had 10 days, and we’d only had a glimpse of it,” says June. “It was a trip of a lifetime.”

Previous tours have taken the Gallery Associates to New York, Montreal, Cuba, Portland, Seattle, San Francisco and “the architecturally stunning newly-opened gallery in Edmonton.” The group routine-ly visits artists and galleries around Van-couver Island and the Mainland.

Dedicated to the Arts

Dedicated to the arts, the Gallery As-sociates support the gallery financially with their fundraising ventures, pro-mote cultural interest in the community through gallery activities and provide members with educational and social programs.

Membership ($20 annual dues) to the gallery provides a unique opportunity to learn about the Gallery from behind the scenes and to develop a real connection with and appreciation of the Gallery

staff and the arts in the community. Fundraising events include:• Annual House Tour• Art Tours• Bi-annual Lecture Series on Design• Bi-annual fashion show Art Attire “celebrating wearable art”• Government House coat check

For more information, contact Sheila Southworth at [email protected], or Joan Shimizu at [email protected]

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Author Profile

A young Ron Meszaros was raised on a farm outside Sas-katoon and always described

himself as “outdoorsy,” with a personal credo of “you’ll never get me behind a desk.” A year later, he was an accoun-tant, and continued in a successful prac-tice for 25 years. Now, the Duncan au-thor uses the pen name Ron Rosewood, and sits behind another desk crafting tales of horror, or romance, or mystery and suspense.

From two short horror stories pub-lished in New York-based Blood Moon Rising Magazine and Werewolf Maga-zine, which he later merged into a book, Werewolves Amongst Us, Ron moved on to tackle a romance novel.

It started when he decided to join the Cowichan Writers’ Group, which meets at the local library twice a month. Assignments were set or choices made for various pieces of writing, and Ron set to with enthusiasm and drive.

It wasn’t long before he’d spun a short romance story into the recently pub-lished Melissa’s Wish List – a book that focuses on a newly retired civil servant (Melissa) as she determinedly sets out to accomplish as many of the personal goals she has on her list as possible.

“It started out as a short story of about 4,000 words,” says Ron, “but I thought about it some more, and it was easy to expand – it surprises me!”

Ron says his mind is fluid, so wheth-er he writes about werewolves, romance or poetry, he feels it is essential not to get sidetracked.

To ensure his female protagonist was as realistic as possible, Ron secured the services of Editor Shirley Skidmore. He calls upon many of his own life experi-ences, which are woven into the story, along with scenarios Ron made up spe-

Leaving Something BehindBY ENISE OLDING

cifically for the novel. So, Melissa will take the reader on

a few cruises, through a couple of ro-mances, a quest to find ancestors in Russia and on some daring adventures towards a surprise ending. And, she’ll do it against a familiar backdrop of names and places on Vancouver Island

when she’s on home ground.Ron says some of the characters in

the book are based on him and others on people he knows. An avid fisher-man, canoeist and hunter, Ron even reveals the location of one of his fa-vourite quiet Vancouver Island fishing and canoeing spots.

Sometimes he’ll write 3,000 words in a sitting, and it took Ron only about six months to write the book. “It’s because I have time,” he says, “and I am always thinking about the book even when not at the computer.”

Not being one to wait around, Ron forged ahead to publish his book seek-

ing the help of professionals with regard to editing, design, publishing and eB-ooks in the process. He found there is a lot to be learned about the technical side of producing a book, but emphasizes that “you can’t scare yourself into not doing anything,” because the publishing aspect requires a lot of learning.

With Melissa’s Wish List on and off the shelves of the Vancouver Island Regional Library and with it having re-ceived a thumbs-up, he says, from guys at his local Legion and other readers, Ron has wasted no time in getting back to the computer. His next novel, Post-dated Romance, is one in which a ro-mantic dilemma tests the boundaries of time, life and death, while posing pos-sibilities by way of reincarnation. Close on its heels and a work-in-progress is a murder mystery with the working title Murder has its Way.

He never thought he’d be writing books but, on reflection, Ron recalls

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with pleasure how his grandfather would gather everyone around and tell stories. An avid reader and a good student, Ron speculates that perhaps, subconsciously, he was destined to be a writer after all. Now, at 70, he’s a published author and a member of the Romance Writers of America. He says he doesn’t think he’s going to be famous, “it’s more a situation of maybe leaving something behind.”

Ron will keep doing the things he loves, saying “I feel that by working at writing, it as-sists in keeping us more alert. I know my mind is slowly los-ing ground as far as memory is concerned so by writing, dancing, fishing and canoe-ing I will delay problems.” In the meantime, his mind might be dwelling on romances or werewolves or be in some other realm yet to be cap-tured and set in type.

Melissa’s Wish List is available at local bookstores, Van-couver Island Regional Library, Amazon.com, CreateSpace.com and Smashwords.com

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Australia is arguably the most dangerous place on earth. According to Bill Bryson’s, In A Sunburned Country, there are more lethal creatures “Down

Under” than anywhere else, whether on land with the world’s 10 most poisonous snakes, or in the ocean with great white sharks, estuarine crocodiles and box jelly fish, the most ven-omous marine animal known to mankind. “It has more things that will kill you than anywhere else.”

However, Australia’s population and tourism keeps grow-ing – over 21 million people and almost six million visitors in 2010. Obviously Oz’s dangerous critters are not deterring demographic growth. In fact, Australians can be a bit smug about their survival odds. Tourists can too with some discre-tion and care.

Plan Your Trip CarefullyAustralia is a huge continent with several factors to con-

sider. Summer is roughly from November to February, and Australians holiday in January. In New South Wales and Vic-toria where Sydney and Melbourne are situated, summer tem-peratures are regularly in the 30s.

A decade-long drought saw fire outbreaks like Black Sat-urday in 2009 when 200 people were killed in Victoria. How-ever, in the Northern Territory and Queensland, where Dar-win, Cairns and Brisbane are located, the summer is known as “the Wet” with rains and sometimes flooding.

If you want to include other gems like Uluru or Perth then Frommer’s Australia realistically warns the traveller that transportation must be considered wisely for time constraints. Like Canada, Australia is a vast country. To go from Sydney north to Cairns is 2,500 km and takes 4-5 days to drive, while Sydney west to Perth is over 4,000 km and takes 6-7 days.

Australia by train, the Indian Pacific, is another option. It’s a four-day journey from Sydney to Perth; or the Ghan, a three-day trip from Melbourne to Darwin. Travel, alone, can gobble up a large chunk of a three-week holiday. Australia’s domestic discount air travel is an inexpensive way to hop to destinations, albeit without land-based scenery.

Let Good Research Be Your GuideTouring Australia will require some choices. It will be dif-

ficult to see it all, unless time and cost are not issues. Most people have limited travel times and must gird themselves

within constraints, starting with the rigors of a 17-hour direct flight just to get there.

You can see the Great Barrier Reef, the Great Dividing Range, the Great Victoria Desert and the Great Ocean High-way, but you will need to make decisions, if you want your trip to be great too.

The Urban Sidewalk & Beach HolidayWe opted for our own tailor-made, three-week itinerary

from the northeast to the southeast – the Great Barrier Reef, Sydney and Melbourne. We figured there has to be a reason why 90 per cent of the population lives on less than three per cent of the continent. That would enable us to see three of the eight states – Queensland, New South Wales and Victoria.

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We chose to sample Sydney, the 2000 Olympic city, with famous beaches and urban icons like the Opera House; Mel-bourne and environs since it was touted as the most livable city in the world in 2011, and Port Douglas, north of Cairns, to go snorkeling on the Great Barrier Reef.

One factor we considered was getting to Queensland be-fore the box jelly-fish season, which typically begins in No-vember. In fact, the netted ocean “pools” and vinegar sup-plies to administer to stings are re-introduced the first week of November, before the first full moon and before the ocean water temperature exceeds 28 C. The Port Douglas reef tour

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operator explained that was when the “stingers” begin to migrate.

Sydney is a great entry to Australia. We arrived on November 4, having lost a day of existence on the way down. But it is easy to make up for lost time. The city is lovely to explore. The downtown Circular Quay with its famous ferries is flanked by Sydney Bridge, nicknamed the Coat Hanger at Dawes Point with the original settlement called the Rocks and the iconic Opera House.

There are other inlets and points but best seen from the hop on-hop off bus. It takes you to famous Bondi Beach in the Eastern Suburbs or pedestrian-friendly Darling Harbour and places in between. But walking is the best way to appreci-ate what 160,000 convicts wrought.

The First Fleet brought convicts in 1788 and the irons-clad construction crews built the roads and bridges out of Sydney. The most common cause of death was heat stroke, followed by snake bite. Convict/architect Francis

Greenway designed many buildings in Sydney, like Macquarrie Street’s St. James Church (1819 and oldest build-ing) and Hyde Park Barracks (convict quarters 1819-1848).

Our favourite walkabouts were across the Sydney Bridge to explore Kirribilli under the ubiquitous jacaranda blooms and Cockle Bay & the Fish Market. Fer-ry rides to Manly and Woolwich provide beach and suburban hiking too.

Port Douglas is an old mining town an hour’s drive from Cairns, which is a three-hour flight from Sydney. De-serted Robinson Crusoe-like beaches include Four Mile Beach, replete with ocean pool netting and warning signs. In velvety warmth, we strolled well up on the beach and away from the river bank – crocs, you know!

Sailing to the Low Isles’ reef is idyl-lic. We wore Lycra suits to safeguard from sunburn not jelly fish, although, by mid-November Lycra would be man-datory. The coral was amazing but after “harmless” black-tipped reef sharks came to the stern at lunch looking for leftover shrimp, I opted out of the op-tional swim.

Melbourne is a wonderful sports and culture-loving city, easy to walk and with a free tram loop for tourists. Its en-virons from Apollo Bay to Mornington Peninsula are chock full of sights like Torquay surfers and koalas.

We demurred on bush walks, though – too many stories of meeting brown snakes across pathways. But there is plenty of walking along the city’s Yarra River paths, garden walks, Fed-eration Square and arcade strolls with café breaks.

We embraced much of Australia and avoided what could kill us. Let’s say we chose discretion over valour and it made us stronger.

When you can experience the feat of arriving back in Canada before you left Oz, you realize you have been some-where unique.

For IF YOU GO information, visit Senior Living magazine’s website at www.seniorlivingmag.com/australia

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In more entrepreneurial locales, clothing designs get repackaged and sold as something new. Moms in the ’50s and ’60s wore yellow- or lime-coloured tight pants cut off below the knee, called “peddle-pushers.” Now, they’re sold as “capris” and cost 30 times as much. Perhaps if we keep all our old clothes, the fashion wheel will come round, and our neighbours will wonder where we got the cash to keep up with current trends.

Are old clothes saleable? Those shocking rayon Hawai-ian shirts that followed you home from Maui can sell for up to $1,000. A shirt from the Disneyland “jungle cruise” with head-hunter shields on it will bring $350, and an old pair of Levis 501 jeans with a red tab rings up at $50.

Your old ties? Not so much in the cash sense, but try them on again, make sure the tip hits the belt buckle and an-ticipate admiring glances at the supermarket. Don’t get me started on belt buckles. I’ve worn the same belt since 1980 ‘cause it looks cool with my Grateful Dead t-shirt.

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I wouldn’t put myself at the cutting edge of sartorial splendour, but I pride myself at maintaining a ward-robe that anticipates a return to the great look of de-

cades past. Or, as my family would put it, I have a lot of old clothes.

I had a tie around my neck from age 13 ‘til I packed in my government job a decade ago. Before you feel sad for me, no, it wasn’t always the same tie. I have lots. Some could double as bootlaces, and some are so wide I could cut armholes in one, add buttons and have a splendid vest.

In pre-puberty days, I sang in a boys’ school glee club where, on one occasion each of us was required to wear a red tie. My folks bought me one that had a champagne glass and the word “Bubbles” printed on the front and, un-beknownst to them, on the inside had a silk photograph of “Bubbles” climbing out of her shower.

I enjoyed an unprecedented brief upsurge in popularity among my peers. The tie’s in the closet, keeping company with my Irish green school sweater and my de rigueur white sports coat. I seem to have given away my turquoise poly-ester leisure suit and my woollen checked pants with the three-inch cuffs.

The fashion clock has stopped in some places. I could name communities where middle class is defined as owning a second pair of bib overalls.

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FOREVER

Dots and Dots of MoneyBY WILLIAM THOMAS

Times are tough. By now, you’ve sold off all your good jewelry, made meat a once-a-week treat and now you’re thinking of raiding your neighbour’s

blue box for the wine bottles he’s too lazy to take back to the beer store. Don’t do that.

I have the answer to your cash crunch. One word: dots. Okay, five words: dots, dots, dots, dots, dots. Small ones, big ones, coloured ones – dots, dots, dots. The formula is simple – paint these dots onto a large canvas, better yet pay someone to paint these dots for you, call yourself an “artist modern” and wait for collectors of the art world to knock your door down with large bags full of money.

It works! At least it works for Damien Hirst, Britain’s rich-est living artist, estimated to be worth $330 million.

Damien does dots. Lots and lots of bright round dots on a big piece of stiff cloth bordered by an undotted frame. Dots.

I know what you’re thinking – “Gee, Bill, when I took art class in high school the instructor begged me to take my drawings home and leave them on the floor where it was easier for the dog to get at them.” Personally, I was so bad at art; my parents sold the refrigerator so I couldn’t tape my drawings to it.

But talent is not the issue here. Remember this is 2012. Freewheeling, double-dealing, hokey, flashy, rinky and dinky

– these are the tenets that will lead you to fame and fortune in today’s world.

Will Ferrell is an undertaker disguised in comedian’s clothes. He’s not that funny. Land Of The Lost cost $100 mil-lion to make, lost $31 million and Will got paid $15 million. Quick, what does Paris Hilton do? I dunno either, but all her dogs wear diamonds. Mark Zuckerberg has admitted to steal-ing a social networking idea from two college buddies and last month, Facebook went public on Wall Street. Zucker-berg’s share was approximately $25 billion.

Dot Dot Damien Hirst recently arranged to have 331 of his 1,400 “spot paintings” displayed in 11 prestigious art galler-ies around the world. Then he issued a challenge to his fans that the first one to visit each of the 11 galleries to view them would win a signed spot print. Valentine Uhovski of New York completed the global challenge across three continents in eight days.

“Incredible,” he said. “It felt like Amazing Grace.”More like The Amazing Race, after which the guy who

wins goes to the prize table and picks the show’s T-shirt over the painting.

One art critic described it as “the contemplation of circles on a polka-dot canvas, a window onto a bigger, Platonic picture.”

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William Thomas is the author of nine books of humour including Never Hitchhike on the Road Less Travelled. For comments or ideas or to purchase books, visit www.williamthomas.ca

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To me it looked like the easiest Rorschach test in the world.Psychiatrist: “Now putting aside your mother issues, what do you see when you look at this page of ink spots?”Patient: “Dots.”Psychiatrist: “Yes, but surely an image comes to mind.”Patient: “Rows of dots?”Psychiatrist: “If these dots formed a painting would you pay $50,000 for it?”Patient: “No.”Psychiatrist: “Well, at least we know you’re not crazy.”

Now Damien Hirst’s dot painting earns him a lot of money – $50,000 for an original and $3,500 and up for a print. You can tell the print from the original because the word “print” appears beside the lower price tag.

I know what you’re thinking – “Gee Bill, what if I did get into dot painting? Would my dots be as good and, therefore, as valuable as Damien Hirst’s dots?”

Well, art as you know is very personal and every person is unique, so, yes, your dots will bring a distinct dottish personal-ity to the palette and establish a singular idiosyncratic imprint on the painting like snowflakes only they’re… dots. Also, I suggest you make your dots messy instead of all in a row.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I am not dismissing spot paint-ing as an entirely useless art endeavour. In fact, I much pre-fer Hirst’s colourful dots to his earlier works that portrayed two dead and rotting cows positioned to simulate copula-tion, a shark and sheep preserved in formaldehyde and mag-gots attacking a cow’s head.

The People for the Ethereal Treatment of Animals pro-tested in front of a London gallery showing Hirst’s “Piggy,” a pig sliced and diced from nose to tail. So, from that per-spective, yes, I think dot art is really, really good. And if we can keep Damien Hirst’s focus on the world of coloured decimal points, then all of us, including farm animals, will sleep a lot better at night.

Call me a philistine when it comes to art, but I look for honesty and originality in painting and if I don’t see it I ask a simple question: “What’s it supposed to be and … okay, then why isn’t it what you just said?” If I asked Damien Hirst what his spot art represented and instead of “the infin-ity of an inhuman universe blah, blah, blah,” he said: dots! I would buy one of his paintings … for $9.95 and hang in on the side of my fridge.

I’d also put my own title at the bottom: “Dot, Dot, Dot … Morse Code Gone Mad.”

Money does not grow on trees, my friend, today it bursts forth from dots.

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Beware of eBook Scams

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Electronic book (ebook) sales sky-rocketed in 2011 resulting in more ebooks being sold than paperback

books. As usual, the growing popularity of ebooks for devices like the Amazon Kindle, the Barnes & Noble Nook and other devices has inspired scams by unrelated firms that target readers, authors and authorized ebook publishers.

Some scams target consumers, offer-ing worthless material at a low price that inspires impulse purchasing. Others target authors or authorized publishers by pirating books published legitimately elsewhere. Common scams include:

• eBooks filled with useless and often poorly written information sold for a couple of dollars. Malware is sometimes attached to obtain your credit card information.

• A single book is given different edito-rial spins and then sold under different titles or authors’ names.

• Material is plagiarized from websites and blogs, then packaged into an ebook and sold.

• Writing competitions that offer to pub-lish winners’ work digitally. Although the contests include entry fees, the cost to pub-lish digitally is minimal.

• eReaders spammed with ad-laden works and hotlinks to both commercial and malware sites that load viruses onto your machine.

• eBook purchases and sales used to build up credentials for bogus sellers and buyers on auction sites.To avoid ebook scams:

• Take a good look at the website that of-fers the item. Does it have a BBB logo? If it does, click on it to see if it’s legitimate.

A BBB dynamic seal will take you to the company’s BBB Business Review.

• Make sure the site is secure when you place the order: Look for https:// at the beginning of the site’s URL (website address) on the page where you enter pay-ment information.

• Stick with authors you already know or those who have an established reputation.

• If you decide to buy from an unfamil-iar author, see if you can download a free sample first to test the quality. Some sites allow you to preview an ebook before you buy it.

• Don’t be taken in by great reviews that accompany cheap ebooks. They may be genuine or the writers may have been paid to produce them.

• Do a search on the ebook name or au-thor to see what other people say or how many other ebooks the author claims to have written.

• Don’t click on links inside an e-book unless it’s by an established, repu-table author and sold through a legitimate website. Even then, it’s advisable to visit the author’s website using your Internet browser rather than using the link.

If you believe you’ve been scammed, seek a refund. You should also register your complaint with the seller’s customer service department. And, if all else fails, do other readers a favour by writing an honest review of the ebook.

Check a company’s BBB Business Review before you make a purchase by going to vi.bbb.org (Vancouver Island) or mbc.bbb.org (Mainland).

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Dear Goldie:My wife has been away on a month’s holiday visiting fam-

ily. During this time, a new neighbour moved in and we have become friends. She is a pleasant person, but my wife is in-clined to be jealous. Can you suggest a way to save the friend-ship? –L.C.

Dear L.C.:If the situation is open and honest, there should not be a

serious problem. As soon as it is convenient, introduce your wife to the new neighbour. You cannot predict the outcome, but give them a little time to become acquainted and see if a friendship develops. Of course, it is your wife’s decision in developing new friendships.

Dear Goldie:I have just moved here from the Prairies and feel anxious

about making new friends. Other than two cousins, I really do not know anyone. What do you suggest? –D.W.

Dear D.W.:Humans are social and do require friends for happiness.

You will likely meet some new acquaintances when you visit your cousins. Ask them about groups you can join to find new friends. Even if you do not plan to attend regularly, churches offer a coffee hour after services where you can meet new people. Social groups that meet regularly also advertise in the daily paper. Friendships develop quickly as you meet people with common interests, so start seeking opportunities to fol-low your interests – or pursue new ones.

Goldie Carlow is a retired registered nurse, clinical counsellor and senior peer counselling trainer. Send letters to Senior Living, Box 153, 1581-H Hillside Ave., Victoria, BC V8T 2C1.

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3. Big One – I will not take responsibility for the irresponsible behaviour of others.

4. I will not allow toxic emotional treatment that damages me. This is either in person, by phone or by mail.

5. Guard your time – it is very precious. We tend to allow those close to us to take advantage. Sometimes, it is necessary to just say NO.

A few years ago, I realized I was stressed and unhappy with whom I was. I took courses in trying to change the world, so I would be happier. One of those courses showed me that the only person who had to change in order to be happier was me. It took some work, but I did it. I set boundaries for myself and, yes, my life changed. I lost some of the emotional vampires easily; others were stronger and stuck around longer, but when they realized I didn’t want to play that way anymore, they drifted away.

Life is too short to allow others to control it. Set your bound-aries and watch your happiness factor rise incrementally.

Pat Nichol is a speaker and published author. Reach her at [email protected] or visit www.patnichol.com

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One of the things I do is teach customer service to a group of young people getting ready to enter the workforce. During that class, we talk about physical

boundaries. Some people have them and some don’t. Each of us must decide where our boundaries lie.

If you have been raised in a British or Northern European family, then an intimate distance is about four feet. In Korea and Japan, you can get a job shoving people on the subway. When those two cultures meet, there is a definite boundary clash.

Recently, I read The Law of Happiness by Dr. Henry Cloud. In the chapter “Happy People Have Boundaries,” he talks about naming your boundaries. This is an exercise each of us needs to do often. Boundaries – physical and emotional – become more important as we mature.

The following are some examples:1. I will not allow myself to be yelled at or verbally abused.

Easy to say, but if it happens to you, talk to someone. Don’t try to solve it yourself.

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be bathed by lasers.In 1870, a bishop was quoted as say-

ing, “The millennium is almost at hand and man has invented everything that can be invented. He has done all he can do.”

However, someone stood to challenge the bishop’s statement by suggesting that a wonderful invention would make itself known in the next 50 years. “I believe man will learn to fly,” he said.

The bishop accused the man of blas-phemy, proclaiming that flight was re-served for angels. That bishop’s name was Rev. Milton Wright. Yes, father of Orville and Wilbur Wright. It seems the further I look ahead, the further back I fall.

The house we live in is pretty small, and the bathroom with the tub is pretty tiny. Its longest wall measures about 7’4” – the same size as the first bathtub. Besides the tub, it has a sink and toilet as well. I guess that rules out me going in search for one of the first bathtubs to luxuriate in. Where would I put it? (Be nice!)

Oh well, I guess I’ll just have to get used to the streamlined and its shrinkage. Much the pity!

Oh, I know we have the tubs with the jets and the big hot tubs that accommo-date six. But that’s not the same. The jets somehow nearly blow you out of the tub, and there’s so much splashing in the hot tub, it gets the pages of my book wet. “Grin and bear it!” my wife says.

Well, I’ll bear it because I don’t have a choice. But I’m not going to grin, you can be sure of that.

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I like bathtubs. I’ve always liked bathtubs. But I’m upset!

Every year it seems everything becomes more streamlined. Buy some-thing this year and next year it’s obsolete. It’s kind of like people. One time, you’re young or not too far past young… then, suddenly, you’re old – obsolete, so to speak. Find a quiet spot or get overrun by young stampeding feet – streamlined feet trying to get ahead of tomorrow.

What’s that got to do with bathtubs?Progress is hindering the bathtub

growth. They become smaller and smaller. I don’t find them as comfortable as they used to be. I could luxuriate for an hour or two in sudsy water reading my book and adding hot water by turning the tap on with my toes.

But now when I get in, the water bursts over the side and a flood warning is broadcast. Smaller bathtubs! That has to be the reason.

I learned from a little bit of research that the first bathtub was introduced in Cincinnati in 1842, and first exhibited at a Christmas party; it brought strong objec-tions from doctors and politicians.

The next day, local newspapers de-nounced it as “luxurious vanity.” Doctors warned it would be a menace to health. Politicians, in turn, drew up an ordinance

prohibiting bathing between No-vember 1st and March 15th each year. Boston made bathing un-lawful except when prescribed by a doctor. One state leveled a $30 annual tax on every bathtub (big money in 1842!).

The first bathtubs were en-cased in mahogany and lined with sheet metal. They were seven feet long, four feet wide and weighed 1,750 pounds. Wa-ter had to be pumped into them.

Now, that’s my kind of bathtub! Seven feet long; four feet wide. I guess it would have been pretty tough to work the pump with your toes though. Unless, of course, you had really big toes. I take showers more than baths, now, ever since Donna, my wife, let out the shower curtain.

But, at the rate things are going, it won’t be long until they start to shrink the shower stalls too. I’d hate to get stuck and spend the rest of my life in a shower stall.

If you ask me (and you haven’t and probably never will) man’s ingenuity is racing at such an incredible pace that it’s beginning to trip over itself without even apologizing. Have we invented all we can invent and created all we can create? “Not by a long shot,” shouts tomorrow! In fact, I wonder if tomorrow will even have a place for bathtubs… maybe we’ll

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