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The Islamic Network - www.islaam.netThursday, 2 Dhu 'l-Hijjah 1433 AH / 18th October 2012 CE

Joining the Ties of Kinshipby 'Al Abd-ur-Rahmn al-Hudhaif

All praise is due to Allh, Lord of all the worlds. Peace and blessings be upon the Messenger, his household andcompanions. Fellow Muslims! Fear Allh and be dutiful to Him. Return rights to their due owners, Allh will give you greatreward and will save you from painful torments.

Dear brethren! Know that your Lord, out of His mercy, explains everything to you in His Book. His Messenger Muhammad,blessings and peace be upon him, has also guided you to the right path that will lead you to Paradise, save you from Helland make you attain the happiness of this world. He explained to you the rights of Allh upon His slaves, for the rights ofAllh upon us are the greatest of those things that He has made obligatory for us. However, Allh requests us to performonly those things that we are able to. It is Allh's right upon us that He should be remembered and not be forgotten,obeyed and not disobeyed, and thanked for all His favours. This will make our life peaceful and blessed, under theshadow of His mercy, free from afflictions. Our life will be full of cooperation and love.

Allh also explains for us the rights of the parents, the rights of the kith and kin and the obligations of the relatives to oneanother. Each person will be held accountable on this in this world and the Hereafter. If one fulfils these rights one willattain great degrees with Allh. If one fails to fulfil these rights one will earn the wrath of Allh. Brethren in faith! Joiningthe tie of kinship is one of the greatest responsibilities of man. The kith and kin are the ones with whom one has blood ormarriage relationship. Allh emphasises the importance of the kith and kin in many places in His Book. He says,

"And give to the kindred his due and to the poor and to thewayfarer. But spend not wastefully (your wealth) in the manner of aspendthrift." (Al-Isr 17:26)

Allh mentions joining the tie of kinship after He mentions the fear of Him. He says,

"Fear Allh through Whom you demand (your mutual rights), and(do not cut the relations of) the wombs (kinship). Surely, Allh isEver an All-Watcher over you." (An-Nis 4:1)

It is the because of the importance of joining the tie of kinship and the fact that it is a fundamental element of morality andvirtue that Allh made it obligatory for nations that were before us. Allh says,

"And (remember) when We took a covenant from the Children ofIsrael, (saying): Worship none but Allh (Alone) and be dutiful andgood to parents, and to kindred, and to orphans and the poor, andspeak good to people (i.e. enjoin righteousness and forbid evil,and say the truth about Muhammad (peace be upon him)) andperform As-Salt (Iqmat-as-Salt), and give Zakt." (Al-Baqarah2:83)

In a hadth reported by Al-Bukhr on the authority of 'Abdullh Ibn Salm, the first statement that Allh's Messengermade when he entered Al-Madnah was,

"O you people! Spread salm, give food [to the hungry], be kind to the kith and kin and pray [in the middleof the night] while people are sleep, you are enter the Paradise of your Lord with peace."



Being kind to the kith and kin brings urgent reward in this world, in addition to the reward of the Hereafter. Ab Hurayrahsaid, "I heard the Messenger of Allh say: 'He who wants his wealth increased and his life prolonged should be kind to hiskith and kin." (Al-Bukhr) The Messenger of Allh also said,

"Let him who wants his life prolonged, his wealth increased and wants evil death kept away from him fearAllh and be kind to his kith and kin." (Al-Hkim and Al-Bazzr)

Ibn 'Abbs narrated that Allh's Messenger said, "Allh gives long life to some people in their abode and increasesthem in wealth, though He does not look at them once since He created because of His dislike for them." Thecompanions asked, "Messenger of Allh, how is that?" He answered, "It is because they join the ties of kinship." (Al-Hkim and At-Tabarn) Allh's Messenger also said,

"No sin deserves immediate punishment in this world in addition to the punishment of the Hereafter thansevering the ties of kinship." (Ibn Mjah and At-Tirmidh)

Dear brethren! Being kind to the kith and kin brings peace of mind, increases mutual love among relatives and makes lifeblessed. The Muslim is required to be kind to his kith and kin even if they are doing the opposite to him. Ab Dharr said,

"My friend [the Prophet] advised me to do certain things: He commanded me not to look at those who are above me [inworldly materials], that I should rather look at those who are below me; he commanded me to be kind to the kith and kineven if they do the opposite to me; and he commanded me not to fear the blame of any critic in [my worship of] Allh."(Ahmad and Ibn Hibbn)

Ab Hurayrah narrated that a man said,

"O Messenger of Allh, I have relatives with whom I try to have close relationship, but they sever (thisrelation). I treat them well, but they treat me ill. I am sweet to them but they are harsh towards me. Uponthis the Prophet said: If it is so as you say, then you in fact throw hot ashes (upon their faces) and therewould always remain with you from Allh (an Angel to support you) who would keep you dominant overthem so long as you adhere to this (path of righteousness)."

Ibn 'Umar narrated that the Prophet said,

"The one who reciprocates the good done to him by a relative is not the one who joins the tie of kinship.He is rather the one, when his relatives treat him badly he treats them well." (Al-Bukhr)

Severing the ties of kinship is a curse in this world. It causes evil, depression, people's hatred especially the relatives,misery in this world and a painful torment in the Last Day. Ab Hurayrah narrated that Allh's Messenger said,

Allah created His creation, and when He had finished it, the womb, got up and caught hold of Allhwhereupon Allh said, "What is the matter?' On that, it said, 'I seek refuge with you from those who severthe ties of Kith and kin.' On that Allah said, 'Will you be satisfied if I bestow My favours on him who keepsyour ties, and withhold My favours from him who severs your ties?' On that it said, 'Yes, O my Lord!' ThenAllah said, 'That is for you." Abu Hurayrah added: If you wish, you can recite: "Would you then if you weregiven the authority. do mischief in the land and sever your ties of kinship." (Al-Bukhr and Muslim)

Ab Hurayrah also narrated that Allh's Messenger said,

"On every Thursday in the eve of Friday, deeds of human are presented to Allh. The deeds of any personwho severs the ties of kinship will not be accepted." (Ahmad)

Al-A'mash said,



"Ibn Mas'd was sitting down in company of a group after Fajr prayer one morning. He then said, "I implore every severerof the tie of kinship to leave this gathering of ours, for we want to supplicate to our Lord. The doors of the heaven areclosed against those who sever the tie of kinship." (At-Tabarn)

The Messenger of Allh said,

"Three people shall not enter Paradise. They are: "The alcoholic, the severer of the tie of kinship and thebeliever in sorcery." (Ahmad)

Fellow Muslims! Joining the tie of kinship means being generous to them, desisting from harming them, visiting their sick,supporting the poor among them, guiding the errant, teaching the ignorant and visiting them frequently. It also includessharing in their joy and sadness, protecting them in their absence, respecting the elderly among them, beingcompassionate with the young ones, bearing their mistreatment with patience, relating with them in the best manner andwishing them well.

Brethren in faith! Severing the ties of kinship has become commonplace these days and the hearts of many people hasbeen corrupted. This is caused by many people's avarice for the dishonourable materials of this world. Blessed istherefore, be the one who considers the consequences of things, fulfils the rights due upon him, looks up to Allh for hisrights that the people owe him and deals with others as he would like to be dealt with.

Severing the tie of kinship can become deep-rooted that the children inherit it from their parents, thereby causing a lot ofevil, destruction, aggression and enmity. Bad relation can also persist among members of the same family until deathseparates among them. It is then that they will regret and be saddened by what they have done while it will be too late.Their only place of meeting will be the Day of Resurrection when Allh will judge among them.

Dear brethren! Patience, tolerance and forgiveness are the best of all conducts. They are also the best remedy for thesorrow caused by relatives. 'Uqbah Ibn 'mir narrated, "I met the Allh's Messenger and I held his hand and said, "OMessenger of Allh, tell me about virtuous deeds." He said, "

'Uqbah, join the tie of kinship with your relative who seeks to sever it, give to him who denies to give toyou and turn away from [or forgive] him who wrongs you." (Ahmad and Al-Hkim)

Fellow Muslims! The woman may be a cause of severance of ties of kinship through tales that she carries about,shortcomings that she spreads, good things that she conceals and troubles she causes among men. In her folly, shemight think that doing so is in her interest and she might drive her children into mistreating their relatives. She shall bearthe sin of this.

On the other hand, she can be a cause for strengthening relationship and love among relatives through her patience, herwell wishing for her husband and children and her nurturing of her children upon righteousness. Allh will strengthen sucha woman, put her affairs aright and bless her with good ending. Dear Muslim women! Fear Allh and promote peaceamong the relatives. Do not let the tie of kinship be severed at your hands, for nothing you do is hidden from Allh. Allhsays,

"So give to the kindred his due, and to Al-Miskn (the poor) and tothe wayfarer. That is best for those who seek Allh's Countenance;and it is they who will be successful." (Ar-Rm 30:38)

Brethren in Islm! Fear Allh and respect the commandments of Allh by implementing them. Respect His prohibitions byabstaining from them.

"And be afraid of the Day when you shall be brought back to Allh.Then every person shall be paid what he earned, and they shall notbe dealt with unjustly." (Al-Baqarah 2:281)



Perform righteous deeds against the abode of the Hereafter whose bliss is everlasting and whose dwellers will never die.Be afraid of Hell whose fuel is men and rock and whose punishment is severe. Its depth is intense. The food of itsdwellers shall be from Zaqqom, their drink shall be of purulent water and their garments shall be of liquid pitch and steel.

Dear brethren! There are deeds that Allh ordained to be done in the night which He would not accept if done in the dayand there deeds that He ordained to be done in the day which He would not accept if done in the night. It is the deeds ofhuman that determine that reward or punishment. Allh says,

"Whosoever does a good deed, it is for his own self, andwhosoever does evil, it is against (his own self). Then to your Lordyou will be made to return." (Al-Jthiyah 45:15)

In a Quds hadth, the Prophet narrated that Allh says,

"O My slaves! These are your deeds which I accurately recorded for you. Let him who finds good [resultsthereof] thank Allh and praise Him, and let him who finds otherwise not blame but himself."

Fellow Muslims! Remember a Day when records of deeds will be distributed and in which some will receive their recordwith their right hand and some with their left. Allh is unjust with His slaves.

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