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Announcements  [email protected]:Kanuga

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  JoinaCommunityofPracCce:

  IntergeneraConal  Family  ChildrenandYouth  Adult

FAMILYFAITHFORMATION

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TransformingOurNarrativeFromaprimaryfocuson…

1.  StarCngwithmessaging2.  Providingprograms3.  BuyingintonegaCve

stereotypes4.  Givingfamiliesexpertadvice

aboutwhattodo5.  FocusingonparenCngasa

setoftechniques6.  Pathologizingoridealizing

families7.  “Passingon”thefaith8.  Servingfamilies9.  CongregaCon-centered

ministries

Towardanemphasison...

1.  StarCngwithlistening2.  BuildingrelaConships3.  HighlighCngfamilies’

strengthsandresilience4.  ParenCngasarelaConship5.  Encouragingfamiliesto

experimentwithnewpracCces

6.  EmphasizingparenCngasarelaConship

7.  “Livinginto”thefaith8.  Empoweringfamilies9.  Community-centered

ministries

Certificate in Faith Formation for the 21st Century

What’s Your Congregation’s Approach to Families?

Identifyyourcongregation’sapproachwithfamiliesusingthefollowingquestions.(SeeChapters1and3inFamiliesattheCenterofFaithFormationforbackground.)Foreachquestion,identifyyourcongregation’scurrentpracticewithparentsand/orfamiliesusingtheratingscale:

1=notatall 3=often 5=alot. 1. Weexpresscarewiththefamiliesinourcongregationsandcommunities,

includinglisteningtothem,showinginterestintheirlives,andinvestinginthem.1 2 3 4 5

2. Wechallengegrowthinfamiliesbyexpectingthemtoliveuptotheirpotentialandhelpingthemlearnfromtheirmistakes.

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3. Weprovidesupportandadvocacywhenfamiliesreallyneedit. 1 2 3 4 5

4. Wesharepowerwithfamilies,treatingthemastruepartnersbygivingthemvoiceinthingsthatmattertothemandcollaboratingwiththemtosolveproblemsandreachgoals.

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5. Weencouragefamiliestoexpandpossibilitiesbyconnectingthemwithotherpeople,ideas,andopportunitiestohelpthemgrow.

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6. Weofferregulargatheringsofallourfamiliesforlearning,worship,service,relationship-building,andmorethroughouttheyear.

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7. Weengagefamiliestogetherwiththewholecommunityforlearning,worship,service,relationship-building,andmorethroughouttheyear.

1 2 3 4 5

8. Wefindwaystoreachfamiliesathomewithsupport,resources,andactivitiestodevelopfamilylifeandgrowinfaith.

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9. Westrengthenfamiliesbyhelpingthemdevelopthepracticesandskillsforhealthyfamilylife.

1 2 3 4 5

10. Weequipparentswiththeknowledgeandskillsforeffectiveparentingandformingfaithinyoungpeople.

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11. Weengageparentsasleadersandcontributorsinthecongregationandinthecommunity.

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12. Wedesignministries,projects,andactivitiesthatcomplementandreinforcetheroleoffamiliesinfaithformation.

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13. Werecognizethefamilyastheepicenteroffaithformationacrossthegenerations.

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14. Wecelebratetheevidenceofvibrantfaithatworkintheeverydaylivesoffamiliesandtheiryoungpeople.

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FamiliesattheCenterStrategies

1.  GodinEverydayLife2.  FaithPracCces@Home3.  Milestones4.  SeasonalEvents5.  IntergeneraConal

ConnecCon6.  StrongFamilyLife7.  Parents&Grandparents

asFaithFormers

Focus

•  OnestageoffamilylifeincorporaCngmulCplestrategies•  Acrossstagesoffamilylifewithastrategy(e.g.,milestones)

Plan

•  Read/researchstrategies•  Createaplanforusingthestrategies

Build•  BuildthefaithformaConnetworktointegrateyourplan

Design

•  Generateprogramming•  Usedigitalstrategies

Launch•  DesignaFallseasonofprogramming

Evaluate•  Surveys,embeddedfeedback,focusgroups

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ThinkStrategically  Determineprojectsthatneed“tesCng”withsmall

groupsandwhichprojectsarereadyforawideraudience.

  Startwiththefamilieswhoaremostengagedorinterestedorinneed,andworkoutwardtootherfamilies.

  Providelaboratoryexperiences—immersions/hands-onexperiencestolearnnewpracCces.

  HelpfamiliesdevelophabitsoffaithpracCce:1.  FindCmeintheirday/week2.  Findaplace3.  IncorporatethepracCceintopaDernsofdailylife4.  ReinforcethepracCcewithrepeCCon

EmpathyMap

SAY What do you hear your target group saying?

DO What actions and

behaviors do you notice in your target group?

THINK What might your target group be thinking? What does this tell you about their beliefs/convictions?

FEEL What emotions might your target group be

feeling?

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MarketinginFourSteps–SethGodin1.  Thefirststepistoinventathingworthmaking,astoryworth

telling,acontribuConworthtalkingabout.2.  Thesecondstepistodesignandbuilditinawaythatpeople

willactuallybenefitfromandcareabout.3.  Thethirdoneistheoneeveryonegetsallexcitedabout.This

isthestepwhereyoutellthestorytotherightpeopleintherightway.

4.  Thelaststepissoojenoverlooked:Thepartwhereyoushowup,regularly,consistentlyandgenerously,foryearsandyears,toorganizeandleadandbuildconfidenceinthechangeyouseektomake.

(hDp://sethgodin.typepad.com/seths_blog/2016/08/markeCng-in-four-steps.html)

Feedback Capture Grid METHOD

Use a feedback capture grid to facilitate real-time capture, or post-mortem unpacking, of feedback on presentations and prototypes – times when presenter-critiquer interaction is anticipated. This can be used either to give feedback on progress within the design team or to capture a user’s feedback about a prototype. You use the grid because it helps you be systematic about feedback, and more intentional about capturing thoughts in the four different areas.

1. Section off a blank page or whiteboard into quadrants. 2. Draw a plus in the upper left quadrant, a delta in the upper right quadrant, a question mark in the lower left quadrant, and a light bulb in the lower right quadrant.

It's pretty simple, really. Fill the four quadrants with your or a user’s feedback. Things one likes or finds notable, place in the upper left; constructive criticism goes in the upper right; questions that the experience raised go in the lower left; ideas that the experience or presentation spurred go in the lower right. If you are giving feedback yourself, strive to give input in each quadrant (especially the upper two: both “likes” and “wishes”).

EvaluateProgramm

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FamilyFaithFormationNetwork

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#1.DiscoveringGodinEverydayLife•  EverydayexperiencesarethecoreresourcesofspiritualnarraCves,evenforthoseaffiliatedwithtradiConalreligiousinsCtuCons•  “The4Fs”ofcontemporaryspirituality:Family,Friends,Food,andFido.•  “PeoplefeelmostconnectedtowhatevertheyunderstandasGod,thedivine,aHigherPowerwhenthey’redeeplyengagedinthefabricofeverydaylife,spendingCmewithfamily,withfriends,preparingandsharingfood,enjoyingtheirpets.”

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#1.DiscoveringGodinEverydayLifeSpirituallymeaningfullypracCces:1.  enjoyingCmewithfamily2.  enjoyingCmewithfriends3.  enjoyingCmewithpetsorother

animals4.  preparingand/orsharingfood/meals5.  praying6.  enjoyingnature7.  lisCngto/playingmusic8.  enjoying/creaCngart9.  physicalacCvity/sports10.  yogaandmeditaCon

Onthelistof25items,thelastthreeitemswerereading/studyingscripture,attendingworship,andattendinganon-worshipactivity,eventormeetingatchurch.

#1.DiscoveringGodinEverydayLifeSpirituality“maybethenameforalongingformoremeaning,morefeeling,moreconnecCon,morelife.WhenIhearpeopletalkaboutspirituality,thatseemstobewhattheyaredescribing.Theyknowthereismoretolifethanwhatmeetstheeye.Theyhavedrawnclosetothis‘More’innature,inlove,inart,ingrief.TheywouldbehappyforsomeonetoteachthemhowtospendmoreCmeinthepresenceofthisdeeperreality....”“....thelastplacemostpeoplelookisrightundertheirfeet,intheeverydayacCviCesaccidents,andencountersintheirlives.....thereasonsomanyofuscannotseetheredXthatmarksthespotisbecausewearestandingonit”.

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#1.DiscoveringGodinEverydayLife....Tomakebreadorlove,todigintheearth,tofeedananimalorcookforastranger—theseactivitiesrequirenoextensivecommentary,nolucidtheology.Alltheyrequireissomeonewillingtobend,reach,chop,stir.Mostofthesetasksaresofullofpleasurethatthereisnoneedtocomplicatethingsbycallingthemholy.Andyetthesearethesameactivitiesthatchangelives,sometimesallatonceandsometimesmoreslowly,thewaydrippingwaterchangesstone.Inaworldwherefaithisoftenconstruedasawayofthinking,bodilypracticesremindthewillingthatfaithisawayoflife.”

DiscoveringGodinEverydayLife

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DiscoveringGodinEverydayLife

1.  EmbedandEquipWorship,learning,sacraments,retreats,andmore

2.  CreateandSponsorFamily/intergeneraConalprogramsSmallgroupexperiences

3.  EquipandResourcePrint,audio,andvideoresourcesfordiscoveringGodandforlivingpracCcesineverydaylife

4.  ConnectandEngageNewserngsforspiritualconversaCons

#2.FormingFaithatHomeAHouseholdCurriculum

Content:EightFaithFormingProcessesSeDngs:Home,IntergeneraConal,ChurchLife,Parents1.  Home:Whatarefamiliesdoingtogrowinfaithand

discipleshipineachoftheeightfaithformingprocesses?

2.  IntergeneraConal:HowarefamiliesconnectedtotheothergeneraConsatchurch?

3.  Church:HowarecongregaConsempowering,resourcing,andsupporCngfamiliestogrowasdisciples&pracCcetheirfaith?

4.  Parents:HowarecongregaConsempowering,resourcing,andsupporCngparentsasfaithformers?

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2.FaithFormingatHomeDevelopmentally-Appropriate:ContentaccommodatedtotheneedsandinterestsofeachstageandtothewayyoungpeoplethinkandassimilateinformaConandvaluesateachlifestage.

1.  youngchildren(0-5)2.  olderchildren(6-10)3.  youngadults(11-14)4.  olderadolescents(15-18)5.  emergingadults(19-29)

2.FaithFormingatHomeStage: Home IntergeneraJonal Church Parents

CaringRelaConships

CelebraCngSeasons

CelebraCngRituals&Milestones

LearningtheChrisCanTradiCon

Praying&SpiritualFormaCon

ReadingtheBible

Serving/WorkingforJusCce

WorshippingGodTogether

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#3.FormingFaiththroughMilestones

#3.CelebratingMilestones•  Birth/BapCsm•  StarCngSchoolYear•  FirstCommunion•  ReceivingafirstBible•  ConfirmaCon•  GraduaCon(HS,College)•  Engagement•  Wedding•  ReCrement•  Death/Funeral

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#3.CelebratingMilestones1.  aritualcelebraConorablessingmarkingthemilestone

withthewholechurchcommunity2.  ahomeritualcelebraConorblessingmarkingthe

milestone3.  alearningprogram,ojenforthewholefamilyor

intergeneraConal,thatpreparestheindividualandthewholefamilyforthemilestoneandforfaithpracCceathome

4.  atangible,visiblereminderorsymboloftheoccasionbeingmarked

5.  resourcestosupportconCnuingfaithgrowthandpracCceajerthemilestone

#3.CelebratingMilestones:Baptism

Church

•  Mentors/Coaches•  ParentpreparaCon•  Familygathering•  Ritual•  IntergeneraConal

connecCon•  CelebraConofBapCsm•  Reunion•  BapCsmalanniversaries

Home

•  CaringconversaConsandstorytelling

•  CelebraCngrituals•  Learning•  Praying•  ReadingtheBible•  Serving•  Worshippingtogether

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#4.CelebratingSeasons

CalendarYear

•  NewYear’sEveandDay•  MarCnLutherKingJr.Day•  ValenCne’sDay•  St.Patrick’sDay•  EarthDay•  Mother’sDay•  MemorialDay•  Father’sDay•  July4–IndependenceDay•  LaborDay•  StartofSchool•  Halloween•  Thanksgiving

ChurchYear

•  Advent•  Christmas•  Epiphany•  AshWednesday•  Lent•  HolyWeek•  Easter•  Pentecost•  St.FrancisDay–BlessingtheAnimals(October4)

•  AllSaintsandSouls(Nov1-2)

Example:40-DayLentCurriculum

ChurchLifeèè Daily&HomeLife ççOnlineLife

•  AshWednesday•  LentenSundayliturgies

•  StaConsoftheCross•  Lentenprayer•  Lentenretreat•  Lentenservice•  Lentensoupsuppers

•  FasCng•  Praying•  Service/Almsgiving

•  LecConaryreflecCon

•  FamilyacCviCes

•  Lentenlearningresources

•  Lentencalendar•  DailyLentenprayer•  Weeklytableprayer•  Videoresources•  Onlineretreatexperience

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Example:EarthDay

Community Church Home•  Communitycleanup

•  PlanCngacommunitygarden

•  AllagesworkshoponcaringforcreaCon

•  StoryCmeatthelibraryonenvironmentalawareness

•  Ecumenicalprayerservice

•  IntergeneraConalprogramontheologyofcaringforcreaCon

•  Churchaudit•  Globalprojectforwholecommunity

•  RecyclingacCviCes•  PlanCngafamilygarden

•  MealCmecreaConprayer

•  DailyBibleversesforApril

•  Children’sacCviCes•  Storybooksandvideos

•  Homeaudit

#5.EncounteringGodintheBible1.  ScriptureinSundayWorship•  LecConary•  SermonSeries2.  ExploringtheBible—FamilyorIntergeneraConal

Programs•  ATouroftheOldTestament•  ATouroftheGospels•  WalkingwithJesus•  JourneysofPaul

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#5.EncounteringGodintheBibleScriptureinSundayWorship

IntergeneraJonal&HomeFaithFormaJon

September:24thSundayinOrdinaryTimeOctober: 28thSundayinOrdinaryTimeNovember: 32ndSundayinOrdinaryTimeDecember: 2ndSundayofAdventJanuary: BapCsmoftheLordSundayFebruary: 1stSundayofLentMarch: PalmSundayApril: 4thSundayofEasterMay: HolyTrinitySunday

#5.EncounteringGodintheBible

BIBLE

GoingDeeper

FamilyConvers-aCon

Children’sBible

AcCviCes

TableRitual

Prayer/DevoCon

DailyBibleVerses

Serving/AcConIdeas

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#6.ConnectingFamiliesIntergenerationally1.  BecomingIntenConallyIntergeneraConal

Ø  IdenCfywaysfamiliesarecurrentconnectedandengagedintergeneraConallyinthefaithcommunity

Ø  DevelopwaystostrengthenIGconnecConandengagement

Ø  Createnewwaystoconnectandengagefamilies

2.  IntergeneraConalandFamilyLearning3.  IntergeneraConalFamilyService

#6.ConnectingFamiliesIntergenerationally:Learning

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1.  BibleStudy2.  FamilyTime3.  WorshipSkills4.  RecreaConGenOnMinistries


•  Aflexible,relaxedarrivalCmewithdrinksandsnacks

•  CreaCveexploraConofaBiblestory/themethroughcreaCveexperiencesforpeopleofdifferentlearningstylesandofallages.Childrenandadultsarenotseparatedandareencouragedtoexplorethestory/themetogether

•  AshortbutexplicitCmeofworshipwithstory,musicandprayersthatbuildsonthecreaCveexploraCon.

•  Agenerouswelcomeandhospitalityisexpressedthroughadelicioushome-cooked,sit-downmealwithothers

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#6.ConnectingFamiliesIntergenerationally:@Home

THEME

Learning-GoingDeeper

FamilyConvers-aCon

Rituals

Prayer/DevoCon

ReadingtheBible

Serving/AcConIdeas

#7.DevelopingaStrongFamilyLifeFamilyfaithformaConstrengthensfamilylifebydevelopingtheassets/strengthsandskillsforhealthyfamilylifeandprovidingasupporCvecontextforformingfaith,livingtheChrisCanfaith,andpromoCngposiCvedevelopmentinchildrenandyouth.•  Developingfamilyassetsorstrengths•  PromoCngcharacterstrengthsinyoungpeople

throughdevelopmentalrelaConships.

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Nurturing RELATIONSHIPS• Positive communication• Affection

Establishing ROUTINES• Family meals• Shared activities

Maintaining EXPECTATIONS• Openness about tough

topics

Adapting to CHALLENGES• Management of daily

commitments

Connecting to COMMUNITY• Neighborhood

cohesion

ec o• Emotional openness• Support for sparks

S a ed ac v es• Meaningful traditions• Dependability

p• Fair rules• Defined boundaries• Clear expectations• Contributions to family

• Adaptability• Problem solving• Democratic decision

making

• Relationships with others

• Enriching activities• Supportive resources

#7.DevelopingaStrongFamilyLife

FamilyAssets–SearchInsCtute

#7.DevelopingaStrongFamilyLifeDevelopmentalRelationships–SearchInstitute

ExpandPossibiliJesSharePower

ProvideSupport

ChallengeGrowthExpressCare

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CreateaFamilyLifePlanforEachLifeCycleStageUsingtheFamilyAssetsandDevelopmentalRelaConships,curateandcreatedevelopmentally-appropriateprograms,acCviCes,andresourcesforfamiliesateachstage.1.  Familywebsite2.  Parentprograms3.  Familyprograms4.  Familymentors5.  Lifecyclesupportgroupsforparents

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#7.DevelopingaStrongFamilyLife•  ParentProgram(KeepConnected)•  FamilyProgramming

1.  CommunicaCngeffecCvely2.  EstablishingfamilyrouCnes:familymeals,shared

acCviCes,dailycommitments3.  CelebraCngmeaningfultradiConsandrituals4.  Discussingtoughtopics5.  Makingdecisionsandsolvingproblemsasafamily6.  LearninghowtobuildstrongrelaConshipsandexpress

careforeachother7.  Developingthestrengths&potenCalofchildren&

youth8.  SupporCngeachother:encouragingandpraising,

givingfeedback,standingupforeachother9.  TreaCngeachwithrespectanddignity

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#8.EmpoweringParents&Grandparents

TwinTasks1.  PromoCngthefaithgrowthofparents2.  Developingthefaithformingskillsofparents

Content•  TheologicalandspiritualformaConofparents•  SkillsforparenCngforfaithgrowth•  KnowledgeandskillsforparenCng


GuidesforDevelopingParentProgramming1.  Addressdiversespiritual-religiousidenCCesof

parents.2.  HaveparentspracCcenewskillswiththeir

ownchildrenduringprogramsessions.3.  GiveparentsaplanforparenCng.

• GivethemaplanforparenCngproacCvely.•  Showthemhowitworks.•  Tellthemwhattodotoday.

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GuidesforDevelopingParentProgramming4.  Addressthelevelsofpartnershipwithparents.

•  Aware•  Involved•  Engaged•  Invested

5.  Designprogramsthatengageparentsinthelearningexperience.

6.  Useavarietyofenvironments&methodstoengageallparents.

7.  Useonlineplaxormsanddigitallyenabledstrategies.


IdeasforParentProgramming1.  Parentwebsite2.  Parentprograms—aprogressionofworkshops,

webinars,and/orcoursesforeachstageofthelifecycle3.  Laboratoryexperiences—immersion/hands-on

experiencesthroughchurcheventsorfamily/intergeneraConalprograms

4.  Parentmentors5.  Lifecyclesupportgroupsforparents6.  Aparentcatechumenate—aroundkeymilestone

experiencesand“momentsofreturn”

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John Roberto LifelongFaith Associates [email protected] Roberto LifelongFaith Associates [email protected] SeasonsofAdultFaith.com FamiliesattheCenter.com 6/14/17