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Meet 113-year-old Goldie Michelson —the oldest person in the USl
After the death this month of116-year-old Susannah Mushatt-Jones, a
113-year-old Jewish lady named Goldie
Corash Michelson became the oldest
living person in the United States.
Goldie, as most people who know
her call her, is in great shape for her
age, but she’s a little hard of hearing
these days. So, Renee Minsky, 84, talked
about her mother’s extraordinary life
— which has involved Jewish volunteer
work, theater, and a lot of chocolate.
Here are some of the aspects that stand
out.
1. She’s lived in Worcester, Massachu-
setts, for more than a century
Born to Reform Jewish parents in
Russia in 1902, Goldie immigrated to
the United States when she was 2.
Apart from her time as an infant inRussia and a stint as an undergrad at
Pembroke College — a women’s col-
lege in Providence, Rhode Island, that
merged into Brown University in 1971 —
Michelson has lived her entire life in her
adopted hometown.
2. There’s a theater named after her
at Clark University
Goldie has a lifelong passion for
theater, which she taught to Hebrew
school students at Worcester’s Temple
Emanuel (now Temple Emanuel Sinai),
Jewish senior citizens, and others for
decades. She still has a small theater in
the basement of her home, complete
with a stage, footlights, and a dress-
ing room, which doubles as a laundry
room. When Clark University learned
that Goldie was leaving generous fund-
ing for future renovations to its theater
in her will, the school renamed it the
Michelson Theater.
3. She wrote a master’s thesis about
Worcester’s Jews
Michelson completed a master’s
degree at Clark University in sociology,
and her thesis focused on a community
that few probably know better than she
does — the Jews of Worcester. In “A
Citizenship Survey of Worcester Jewry,”
Goldie found that many of the cityJewish immigrants were intimidate
the task of learning English and di
pursue American citizenship.
4. She volunteered for Jewish gr
like Hadassah and helped resettle
viet Jewish refugees
After the borders of the Soviet U
opened up for Jews in 1989, a new
wave of Jewish immigrants came
Worcester. Michelson was among
volunteers to help them settle in a
integrate themselves into America
society. Minsky fondly recalled att
ing the first bar mitzvah of a Sovie
migrant — an experience she said
“incredible.”
5. She says the key to her longev
was walking
Goldie doesn’t leave home muc
anymore, but for much of her life,
walked 4 or 5 miles every morning
“One of the great joys of life wa
when I sold my car,” she told Clark
versity’s magazine in 2012.
However, her real secret could b
ing a Jewish lady named Goldie —
until last year, the presumed oldes
in the world was 114-year-old Gold
Steinberg of New York.
GABE FRIEDM
Israeli mom’s pita portraitsare too good to eatl Israeli chocolatier
Gilat Orkin of Tel Mond
has earned another
title: pita artist.
Trying to tempt her
first-grader to actuallyeat the lunches that
she packed for school
each day, Orkin began
fashioning the pita
bread — along with
bits of cheese, halva,
chickpeas, chocolate
and vegetables — into
edible portraits of poli-
ticians and pop stars.
The photos of her
creations proved so
popular that Orkin es-
tablished a brand, Year
of the Sandwich. She
and her daughter have
been appearing in Is-
raeli newspapers and TV talk shows.
A collection of Year of the Sand-wich photos, curated by Karen
Shpilsher and Guy Morag Tzepelewitz,
is on display along Dov Hoz Street
in Holon until August 31. 7 fun facts
about 113-year-old Goldie Michelson
— the oldest person in the US
“I realize that when an object looks
interesting to children, they will be
curious about it,” Orkin said. “I had
the idea to combine the desire to eat
with the desire to learn something
about the world at large.”
Orkin fashions the bread and fill-ings into recognizable, whimsical
portraits of celebs including Benja-
min Netanyahu, David Ben-Gurion,
Golda Meir, Ghandi, Elvis, George
Harrison, Bob Dylan, Lady Gaga, Fred
and Wilma Flintstone, Malcolm X, Al-
bert Einstein, Shoshana Damari, and
many other Israeli and world icons.
She posts a daily food portrait on
her Instagram account, year_of_the_
sandwich ISRAEL21C.ORG
Self portrait of the artist
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“I can’t wait to meet her!”
– TV star Pamela Anderson, about to be introduced to Elie Wiesel at the Wor
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house next door. Rogenenlists best friend Jimmy(IKE BARINHOLTZ, 38)to help him, and Jimmy,in turn, enlists former fratleader Teddy (Zac Efron)as their secret anti-soror-ity weapon.
ELISABETH “Beanie”
FELDSTEIN, 23, the sisterof JONAH HILL, 32, playsone of the three principalsorority enemies. Othertribe members: DAVE FRANCO, 30 (Teddy’sbest friend), LISA KUD-ROW, 52 (college dean),and CLARA MAMET, 21,(sorority member). Clarais the daughter of play-wright DAVID MAMET,68, and singer/actressREBECCA PIDGEON,50, a Jew-by-choice.Her half sister, ZOSIA,28, is a “Girls” star. Thisfilm opened last Friday,
but trust me — it’s still intheaters.
MAYA RUDOLPH,43, and Martin Short
are the co-hosts of “Mayaand Marty in Manhattan,”a live variety show, withmusic and sketches, thatpremieres on Tuesday,
May 31, at 10 p.m.Rudolph, a former “SNL”star, made a movingappearance earlier thisyear on the PBS series“Finding Your Roots.”Her father, DICK RU-DOLPH, 69, is Jewish,and her late mother,Minnie Riperton, wasAfrican-American.However, Rudolph knewalmost nothing about herfather’s family becauseher Jewish grandfathercut virtually all ties to hisparents.
–N.B.
Bette Midler
MORLEY AND MIKE:
“60 Minutes” duo
seemed timeless
Jerry Zaks
Ike Barinholtz Elisabeth Feldstein
Every tribute fromhis colleagues for
the late MORLEY SAFER emphasized his talent(both as a writer and asan on-air interviewer), hiskindness, and his humil-ity. Of course, they alsomentioned his remark-able longevity stats. Ifyou watched his 900
stories for “60 Minutes”for eight hours every day,it would take you amonth to see them all.Not oft noted was thefact that Safer and hisformer co-host MIKE WALLACE (1918-2012)worked together on “60Minutes” for almost 40years (1970-2008).LESLEY STAHL, 74, is theremaining Jewish “60Minutes” host. She’s heldthat job since 1991 and 25years is a great number.But she would have toremain a host until she is96 to surpass Safer’stenure. Well, as Wallaceand Safer proved, almostanything is possible.
Safer and Stahlaren’t the only aged
Hebrews with greatcareer longevity. It was just announced thatBETTE MIDLER, 70, willstar in the title role of aBroadway revival of“Hello, Dolly.” It is set toopen on April 20, 2017.David Hyde Pierce(“Fraser”) will co-star.Set to direct is four-timeTony award winnerJERRY ZAKS, 69. His
Polish Jewish parentssurvived the Holocaust(his mother was inAuschwitz; his father hidhis identity). They cameto America in 1948 andhis father opened akosher butcher shop inEast Paterson, NewJersey. There wasnothing in his back-
ground that led him intothe theater. But he wasblown away by a musicalat college and found hiscareer. He’s proven to bea very adept dramaticand musical director(including “Little Shop ofHorrors” and “La CageAux Folles”).
The film version of“Hello, Dolly” (1969)starred BARBRA STREI-SAND, now 74, and thelate WALTER MATTHAU.While it’s been almosta half-century (!) sinceits release, Ms. Streisandis still wowing them. In
August, she’ll tour thecountry playing 10 majorcities (including Brooklynon August 13).
If you like “Neigh-bors,” which starred
SETH ROGEN, 34, andRose Byrne as newparents who go ballisticwhen a noisy frat takesover the house next door,you’ll probably love“Neighbors 2: SororityRising.” Rogen and Byrnehave moved, but theirbad luck holds when asorority worse than thefrat boys takes over the
Lani Hall and Herb Alpert
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Herb Alpert at 81still shows brass●Meanwhile, HERB ALPERT, 81, who also becam
famous in the early 1960s, is still touring because h
just enjoys performing (he is very wealthy and to h
credit, a big philanthropist). Alpert will play the Ca
Hotel in Manhattan from May 31 to June 8. His wife
years, singer LANI HALL, 70, the mother of his dau
ter ARIA, 40, will accompany him. (His irst wife, t
mother of his older two children, also is Jewish.)I just found out that Alpert had an uncredited pa
a drummer on Mount Sinai in the 1956 blockbuster
Ten Commandments.” I thought that all the credite
actors have died, although I knew that Robert “Man
U.N.C.L.E” Vaughn, now 83, appeared as an uncred
Hebrew slave. Well, I checked — there is a credited
still alive, and she’s Jewish. JOANNA MERLIN, 84
played one of Jethro’s daughters (not the one MOS
married). Born Joanne Ratner, she was in the origin
Broadway company of “Fiddler on the Roof”, but le
before the show opened to take care of her two you
children. Happily, she recovered, career-wise, and
appeared in more than 40 ilms and in scores of TV
shots. She guested (20002011) in 43 episodes of “L
and Order: SVU” as Judge Lena Petrovsky.
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Remembering the hidden childrenSusan Gold of Englewood tells her story, edits others, in new anthology
JOANNE PALMER
Imagine, if you can, being a hidden child,
surviving the Holocaust.
You probably can’t imagine it, and don’t
even want to try. How could you? The lucky
ones were taken away from their parents, possi-
bly when they were too young to know what was
going on, or to remember them, and brought up
in Christian families. The luckier ones were treated
with love. Their parents survived and came back to
reclaim the luckiest ones.
And then there are the children who hid with
their parents. Children like Susan Geller, who spent
almost two years of her childhood in a dark bunker
underneath a barn floor with her parents and twoother adults, in a space too small for them all to lie
down in at once, had they ever wanted to sleep.
Children like Susan were ininitely better off
than her little brother, Janek. Their mother was
afraid to bring the 2-year-old to the bunker — he
might have cried, and imperiled all of them. Her
grandmother took the toddler. Both soon were
murdered.
Susan Geller, now Susan Gold of Englewood,
edited “The Hidden Child Book Club Remembers:
An Antholoy of Holocaust Stories,” and her story
is included in the book. Three of the other 13 story-
tellers also are from Bergen County. The book was
launched oficially at the Skirball
Center at Congregation Emanu-El
of New York on Wednesday. (Ms.Gold also has written a full-length
memoir, “The Eyes Are The Same,”
published in 2007.
Ms. Gold was born in Zloczow,
a city in a region of Poland that is
now Ukraine, in 1934. “My father,
Gerson Geller, was an engineer,
and we had a regular central Euro-
pean upper-middle-class life,” she
said. “My mother, Yetta, was a law
student when my parents married.
One of my grandmothers was the
daughter of a rabbi, and of course
we observed the Jewish holidays,
but my family was very assimi-
lated. We spoke Polish at home,
not Yiddish.” In fact, she added,she did learn Yiddish — but not
until she got to the United States.
Ms. Gold does not remember
much about her childhood, just
little flashes, although, she said,
more memories came back when she wrote her memoir.
She was 9 when she went into the bunker, in a town called
Podhirce, “and all I knew was that I had to keep quiet,”
she said. “I lived in a world of my own. I slept a lot. I had
a vivid imagination, and I dreamed a lot, about all sorts
of things, about unreal things, having to do with what life
was like before.”
It was a grim and out-of-time experience, marked with
bursts of kindness. “There was very little light,” she said,
and very little contact with the out-
side world. “There was one bucket
of food a day that came down, and
one bucket of waste that went backup. But occasionally the farmer’s
wife would take me up to the barn,
and I would be able to see daylight
through the cracks in the wall.” She
also remembers the Nazis once com-
ing to the barn but missing the door to the bunker, and she
remembers the time a cow fell through it.
“They put a pillow over my head, so I shouldn’t scream,”
she said. They were almost done in “not by a Nazi, not by
an informer, but by a calf.”
“The farmer’s family saved us, and they were ‘righ-
teous Christians,’ in quotes,” she said. Her grandfather had
made a deal with them — “that they would hide us for ive
gold pieces” — and they did. At irst, there was a problem.
They lived in a small town, where eve
knew everyone, and they couldn’t spe
gold, whose provenance no doubt wo
traced back to Jews they were hiding.Soon, when the war dragged on pa
few months they thought it would las
farmer’s family’s found itself increasin
danger. The penalty for harboring Jew
death. “It was super dangerous for t
Ms. Gold said. “After the war, when we
out of the bunker, they had a party
in their house, with vodka, and he go
drunk and told us, ‘You know we were
to kill you. This was going on for too l
The farmer told Ms. Gold’s mother and
the plan he’d devised to dispose of e
them, but he told them no such plan fo
“Maybe I was going to be saved,” she said.
The Gellers were liberated by the Russians a
marched through the Ukraine and Poland on the
to Berlin in 1944. “They were very kind,” Ms. GolThose soldiers piqued her interest in Russia, which
a long career many years later. But still the family w
danger. “We still had all these anti-Semites around u
had to leave at night. We went back to Zloczow, to se
was around, if there was anybody left. Some people
nized my mother, and said, ‘Oh! You’re still alive!’” A
no one else was, and the statement was made no
admiration but as a warning. It also was during tha
that the Gellers learned that Janek and his grandm
had been slaughtered.
“We knew we had to go west,” Ms. Gold said. “
thing was arranged, and someone led us to the bor
Czechoslovakia.” By then, in was 1945. The war had e
From there, the family went to a displaced pe
Susan Geller Gold as she is now, and as she
was as a little girl in Poland. The book she
edited is an anthology of hidden children’s
stories, including her own.
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camp in Germany, and stayed there for two years. That
was the irst time in a long time that Ms. Gold had gone to
school. “My father had taught me a little, and I was sort of
literate,” she said. “He taught me the alphabet and some
arithmetic. And I did have piano lessons in the camp — my
parents still wanted to be the people they had been.” She
also remembers learning Israeli songs and folk dances.
The family had no idea where they’d go next, but knewthat it might well be Israel.
“It was happenstance that we came here,” Ms. Gold
said. Her mother had a much older brother who had
gone to New York decades earlier. He had searched for
them. “He contacted us through HIAS because he found
our name on a list,” she said. So Susan, Yetta, and Gerson
Geller got on a ship and sailed across the Atlantic. “All I
remember was being seasick all the time,” Ms. Gold said.
“I was really so out of it. So many things had happened
in those few years.” Chief among them was the death of
her brother. “We never talked about it,” she said. “Central
Europeans believed strongly in denial as being not only a
river in Eypt. It was all a matter not necessarily of lies,
but of evasions. So I had no idea what to believe.
“The boat took 10 days. And then we landed, and my
uncle picked us up in his car — and there was New York.”
Yetta Geller’s brother, Isaac Imber, lived in WashingtonHeights, in upper Manhattan, with his wife and children;
for a while, the Gellers slept in his living room. Mr. Imber
made his money in real estate, his niece said, but he was
also a well-known Yiddish poet, and “a big Zionist.”
When the Gellers got to the United States, Ms. Geller,
the one with business acumen, somehow had $500. “My
father was the intellect,” Ms. Gold said. “Somehow or
other, we got a loan from HIAS, and from a relative here,
and we bought a grocery store in Williamsburg, in Brook-
lyn. My mother worked like a horse, lugging cartons, six
and a half days a week. We lived right next to the store.
My father was depressed. He would just sit at the cash
register, reading a dictionary and the English newspaper.”
Although none of them spoke English before they arrivedin New York, they all learned it quickly, and “by the time
they died, they were fluent,” Ms. Gold said. Her own Eng -
lish now is entirely unaccented, although she was 13 by the
time she began to speak it.
Ms. Gold went to junior high in Brooklyn, and then went
across the East River for high school. She and her parents
wanted her to go to college, but “none of us had any idea
of what an out-of-town college might be,” she said. And
then she met the dean of the brand-new Brandeis Univer-
sity, Clarence Berger, who was in town on a recruiting trip.
“It turned out that he had been an oficer liberating a con-
centration camp,” she said. “I had taken some SATs, and
I hadn’t done well on anything except French, but when I
told Dean Berger my story, it was like carte blanche,” she
said. “He didn’t look at my scores. He just admitted me,
and gave me a scholarship.
“This out-of-state thing was like heaven to me,” she said.“My parents had no car, but my roommate’s parents, who
lived in Washington Heights, picked me up, in the fall of
1952, through the burning colors of the fall, after war-torn
Europe, after Williamsburg. We drove right to heaven.”
Ms. Gold majored in intellectual history. “It was the
1950s, and you had to get engaged by your junior year and
married right after your senior year. And I did. And
illed my mother’s mandate that I marry a doctor.”
Gold was a radiologist; he and Susan were married
tually moving irst to Tenafly and then to Englewood
had three children; Peter, the youngest, died of an
rysm in 1979, when he was 13, a death that devastat
whole family and guided his siblings’ career choice
Gold, who lives in Vienna, Virginia, is a forensic pstrist, and Jonathan Gold of Randolph is a camp dir
“because his younger brother went to camp with
Ms. Gold said. Both of Ms. Gold’s surviving children
two children each.
Ms. Gold was a stay-at-home mother at irst, and
became a New York City permanent substitute te
(It’s a Byzantine system; best not to ask for detai
1975, when a money crunch made the city ire all it
tenured employees, Ms. Gold went to work at Chas
hattan as a market researcher, drawing on her know
of Russia and Russian to work on trade with that
country. Her next job often took her to Russia; she
ended her career by retiring from AIG as a vice pre
and chief representative of its trading ofice in Russ
All this equipped her for her writing career; she
a novel, “Norilsk: A Tale of Suspense in the Time
Oligarchs,” soon after she retired.But Ms. Gold’s heart is still with the children who
murdered, or who survived the Holocaust with pa
their hearts or their souls murdered. So are the he
the other one-time hidden children whose stories
the book she just published. Those stories must b
and they must be remembered.
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Out-of-the-classroom thinking Barnert Temple begins a journey to a new Jewish education
LARRY YUDELSON
Looking back, we have to wonder
how much market research was
conducted before the idea of
Hebrew school was invented.
Kids and school, after all, often go
together like felons and jails. Sure, kids
spend lots of time in school. But they’re
often counting the days and hours until they
escape. So who thought it was a wise idea to
turn Jewish religion, culture, and language
into a second shift of school?
No wonder that generations of Ameri-
can Jews don’t have warm nostalgia for
their Hebrew school experience — even if
they sent their children for a similar Jewish
education.
But why does Hebrew school have to beso much like, well, school?
That’s the question that Rabbi Lori For-
man-Jacobi, a former administrator at the
Bergen County High School of Jewish Stud-
ies, asked as she set about transforming
Hebrew school for the Jewish Community
Center of Manhattan and three Upper West
Side synagogues.
And the answer she came up with, as she
put together what became the Jewish Jour-
ney Project, is that it doesn’t have to be.Instead, the Jewish Journey Project envi-
sions afterschool Jewish education as akin
to other afterschool activities, such as
music, drama, and art.
After four years, the Jewish Journey Pro-
gram has 260 students and 40 different
afterschool courses.
“We don’t call it a school. We call it a pro-
gram,” Rabbi Forman-Jacobi said. “We try
to meld in the modalities the students love,
like cooking, arts, and drama.
“The word ‘journey’ conveys a sense of
its ongoing, changing nature,” she said.
“We want the kids to know they can con-
nect based on their passions. We involve
the parents and child in making a choice”
of which courses to take. “It’s very signii-cant. I have classes of children who want to
be there because they’ve chosen the class.”
Now, that model of Jewish education is
coming to Bergen County.
This fall, Barnert Temple in Franklin
Lakes is launching its own Jewish Journey
program for its students — you should par-
don the term — in grades 3 to 6, in conjunc-
tion with the New York program
“They will be able to engage in Judaism in
away that will excite them,” said Sara Losch,
director of lifelong learning at Barnert
Temple.
The Barnert religious school’s new con-
iguration is designed around flexibility.
Students still will be required to take a
Hebrew class — but now they can choose
which night to take it. Other options include
a course with the synagogue’s Rabbi ElyseFrishman that combines photography and
theoloy, a cooking course focusing on hol-
iday rituals, and a yoga course that prom-
ises to “explore Jewish values and teaching
of the weekly Torah program as well as …
prayer and kavanah (internal intention).”
The model of a journey, rather than a
school, makes it easier to involve parents
in the process. Ms. Losch meets with small
groups of students and their parents to dis-
cuss their interests. During the year, there
will be three three-hour classes for parents
and children, focusing on Torah, avodah
(spirituality and ritual), and gemilut chasa-
dim (acts of kindness). “It’s the heart and
core of what we’re learning,” she said.
The renovation of Barnert’s religious
school comes in response to a cha
recent years in how families were re
to the synagogue’s educational prog
“In the past, when children didn’t co
school because they had sports or
thing else taking priority, parents
apologize,” Ms. Losch said. “All of a s
we weren’t getting the sorries.
“We were getting maybe 45 percen
dance on any given Sunday,” given other sports and family activities t
happen on Sunday. “On the weekd
were getting 95 percent.”
This led Barnert to begin evaluat
religious school program. It hired
sultant and set up a committee of re
school parents. It discovered that p
really did want to be part of a Jewish
munity. They wanted their children
Jewishly educated and to learn Hebre
But they also wanted flexibility.
This made the Jewish Journey pr
the perfect template for Barnert to ad
“A student who is now coming on S
and during the week can get course
in one day with the new program
Losch said. “On the other hand, stuSara Losch with students at Barnert Temple.
Barnert Temple students receive awards from the Kathie F. Williams TAG
Scholarship Challenge. Back row: John and Samantha Williams; middle, left
right: Gabe P., Jacob M., Ben G., Ella S., Mollie G.; front: Emma G., Rebecca P
Noah F., and Gabby and Thalia R.
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will be able to take as many courses as they want.”
The change is deeper than more flexible schedul-
ing, however. It’s not just about letting children choose
which hours they will come to religious school and
which classes they will take. It’s about changing the
focus from a speciic curriculum to a broad exploration
of Judaism.
And it’s about moving Judaism beyond the classroom.
Barnert began that shift this year with its TAG pro-
gram. TAG stands for Torah, avodah, and gemilut
chasadim.Students are given a booklet listing Jewish things they
can do, from taking part in their family seder to kissing
a mezuzah to feeding their pets. When they do them,
they write a short reflection — and they earn charms
(called TAGlettes) they can wear on their wrists or hang
on their walls.
“It’s an incentivization program,” Ms. Losch said.
“The students are getting into it.
“We said to the children, ‘Did you know that feeding
your dog in the evening is a Jewish commandment, a
Jewish mitzvah? You’re doing a mitzvah at home. Put-
ting up a mezuza or calling Grandma every week — we
labeled them as Jewish and called them a mitzvah.
“We did a vacation package,” giving a charm for being
Jewish on vacation.
“Families are surprised their children are really doing
it,” she said.Ms. Losch particularly liked a comment from one of
her students: “I didn’t realize how many things I do are
Jewish.”
The TAG program has an added bonus that encour-
ages kids to take it seriously: It’s backed by prizes,
offered by the family of Kathie Williams, a past presi-
dent of the synagogue and chair of its Lifelong Learning
Committee, who died of cancer in 2013. .
Students in third, fourth, and ifth grades can earn
$360 for a Jewish experiential program. Ten students
earned that this year. Sixth-graders can earn $3,600
toward a trip to Israel.
“The TAG program was the perfect transition into the
Jewish Journey Program,” Ms. Losch said.
Barnert students earn charms and scholarships
for being Jewish outside the classroom.
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Taking care of SolSophie Helcman of Fair Lawn, 94, dies; waited for little brother
ABIGAIL KLEIN LEICHMAN
Shlomo David (Sol) Adler was 13
and his sister Sophie was 17 when
they found themselves on their
own in the Polish city of Radom
in 1939.
Sophie had promised her well-to-do
parents, who later were murdered along
with another daughter, that she would
take good care of Sol. Their older brother
already had fled to Russia.
For the next six years, until the end of
World War II, the siblings and a 26-year-
old neighbor, Eliezer Helcman, kept each
other one step ahead of certain death.
After the war, Sophie and Eliezer wed.
Though the promise wasn’t necessarilyin force after the Nazi nightmare was over,
Sophie never stopped watching out for Sol
during the many years they lived in Amer-
ica — he in Manhattan and she in Fair Lawn
— and even after she moved to Israel, at 89,
to be near her daughter, Felicia Mizrachi.
“Sol would call her after 9 p.m. on his
rotary phone, because that’s when the
rates went down,” Sophie’s son, Andre
Helcman of Fair Lawn, said. Sometimes
Andre would conference-call his mother
and uncle and put his phone on speaker
so the siblings could talk to each other
across 7,000 miles without worrying
about rates.
On the week of April 10, 94-year-oldSophie valiantly fended off the Angel of
Death in Jerusalem, inally succumbing
on April 17, two days after Sol died of lung
cancer in New York. Nobody told Sophie
her brother was dying. No one had to.
“She knew a thousand percent,” Andresaid.
“All week, my sister kept texting me that
mom’s not doing well. At 7 that Friday
morning, I got a call that Sol had died.”
Four years earlier, at Sol’s request,
Andre and Felicia had arranged to buy
him a burial plot next to Eliezer’s grave at
Har Hamenuchot Cemetery in Jerusalem.
The Sunday after Sol died, Andre accom-
panied the cofin to Israel, hoping at the
same time to see his mother one last time.
“I was traveling with my uncle’s body
and praying for my mother to hold on,” he
recalled. But it was not to be. His mother
died just before he boarded the afternoon
flight, though he did not know it until he
landed and saw the looks on the faces ofhis sister and nephew at the airport.
“Basically she was waiting for her
kid brother to show up, so they could
be buried together on Monday,” Andre
said, explaining that in Israel the newly
deceased are interred as quickly as
possible.
“If she would have passed on Friday, she
would have been buried before Shabbos,
and if on Saturday she would have been
buried Sunday. She held out till Sunday
at 10 p.m., waiting for her brother. Thank
God she was able to do that for him.”
Felicia told a reporter from the Jerusa-
lem Post: “Her mission was to take her
brother up to heaven and watch over him.”According to Andre, that mission began
when the Nazi occupiers seized the Adler
house in Radom in 1939.
“My mother and my uncle came from a
Gerer chasidic family. When the war broke
out, my mother’s father told them that if,
God forbid, they were ever split up, they
should know that in the basement under a
certain brick there was a fake wall. Inside
was gold or money,” Andre said.“Unfortunately, that time came to pass.
The Nazis took over the house, and some-
how they got back and were able to open
the fake wall and take what was left. But
now what to do? They needed help because
they were only teenagers and the streets
were crawling with SS and Gestapo men.
My uncle said, ‘There’s an older man down
the block, and I think he can be trusted
because I see him go to shul every morning.’
“This was my father,” said Andre. “He
was going to shul every morning because
his mother had died in 1938 and he was
saying kaddish that year.”
Andre does not know all the details
about how the threesome managed to sur-
vive against seemingly impossible odds.“When we were growing up, they didn’t
relate very much,” he said. “But other sur-
vivors living in Paterson, Fair Lawn, and
Glen Rock used to come for Sunday dinner
at our house sometimes, and I’d sit at the
table and hear everyone’s stories.”
He and Felicia learned that Sophie, who
did not look typically Jewish and spoke
fluent German, obtained false papers
through an SS oficer who was in love
with a gentile friend of hers. The papers
allowed Sophie to leave the Radom ghetto
to buy necessities for Sol and Eliezer and
to pay for hiding them.
“It’s amazing that this very chasid
morphed into this other person,”
said. “My mother, despite being sm
stature, was not bashful. She stood
what she believed in and had great
That’s what got her through the Sho
Over the course of their six years
run in Radom, Danzig, and the co
side in between the two cities, theoften got separated but worked out
tem of secret signals and whistles t
one another. They took shelter wh
they could, including in ditches, t
and barns. One bitter winter, Elieze
in a cemetery and suffered frostbi
never again regained feeling in the
one leg.
Sophie spent some time in a labor
“Once every week or two, the Red
sent nurses to check on prisoners
camp, and this one Polish nurse w
over to my mother and said, ‘You s
Sophie Helcman, center is surrounded by her family; from left, her daughter
and son-in-law, Felicia and Rony Mizrachi, and her son and daughter-in-law,
Andre and Arlene Rubin Helcman. COURTESY ANDRE HELCMAN
The bodies of Sol Adler and Sophie
Adler Helcman lie together in Israel; they
were buried together, next to her hus-
band, Eliezer Helcman. Inset; Sol Adler.
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Elijah in VilnaClassic Yiddish film to be screened
in Franklin Lakes
JOANNE PALMER
The last thing you might
expect of a Yiddish ilm
made in Poland in 1924,
a ilm based on the same
story as the classic Yiddish melo-
drama “The Dybbuk,” probably is
a happy ending.
But somehow “A Vilna Legend”
has one.
“It’s a simple story,” Charles
Sokol of Wayne, the ilm buff who
collects such ilms and shows them
at his synagogue, Temple Emanuel
of North Jersey in Franklin Lakes,
said. He doesn’t want to give away
the entire plot, which, he said, isnot complicated — it’s a short ilm
— but it’s about two dear friends,
at irst married but childless, who
pledge their irstborns to each
other, should one be a girl and the
other a boy.
Needless to say, the friends
have a girl and a boy, and they
are pledged to each other — but it
doesn’t go well. “It’s a very deep
ilm,” Mr. Sokol said. “A very super-
natural ilm. But everything comes
together in the end, because of the
intervention of Eliyahu haNavi” —
the prophet Elijah — “who appears
in the ilm in human form, in sev-eral different guises, depending on
who he’s interacting with.”
“A Vilna Legend” stars the Yid-
dish movie star Ester Rokhl Kamin-
ska and her daughter, the Yid-
dish movie star Ida Kaminska, as
mother and daughter. As far as he
knows, Mr. Sokol said, it is the only
ilm in which they played together;“at a minimum, it surely is the only
surviving ilm.”
The ilm is unusual because of
its Jewish theme, Mr. Sokol said.
“Because of the anti-Semitism in
Poland, the major ilm companies
there — even the Jewish ones —
did not produce movies with Jew-
ish themes. They did not want to
upset the general population.” The
few eastern European ilms that did
have Jewish themes came from the
Ukraine, he added; the government
there tried to ight anti-Semitism,
and sponsored and encouraged
such ilms. But, Mr. Sokol said, that
didn’t work.Of course, ilms then were
silent. It was the intertitles (not
subtitles, which came later, and
were for translation) that were or
were not in Yiddish. When sound
came in, things changed. “In 1933,
a couple of people in the Yiddish
entertainment industry decided
to add Yiddish sound and then
English subtitles were added,” Mr.
Sokol said. “That’s the version of
the ilm we’ll be showing.” There
is no attempt at lip-syncing, he
added — as is clear when you see
the movie — and the voices were
not the actors’ own.“A Vilna Legend,” like many
other ilms in his collection, is avail-
able through the National Center
for Jewish Film at Brandeis Univer-
sity, which restored it. Mr. Sokol
has shown many of these ilms at
Temple Emanuel, and plans to
show more of them.
Information
Who: Film buff and collector Charles Sokol
What: Will screen “A Vilna Legend”; the hour-long film will be followed
by a sing-along.
Where: At Temple Emanuel of North Jersey at 558 High Mountain
Road in Franklin Lakes
When: On Sunday, June 5, at 2 o’clock
How much: It’s free and open to the public. (Of course, donations are
always welcome.)
What else: Ice cream and popcorn!
Stills from “A Vilna Legend.” The 1924 movie had Yiddish sound and
English subtitles added in 1933.
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Having the ‘money talk’Local financial planner Lori Sackler tries to destigmatize the taboo
LOIS GOLDRICH
Why does a young woman
planning to become a
pianist suddenly change
her major to business
and inance?
For Lori Sackler of Tenafly, who holds
a master’s degree in music, the decision
simply made sense.
“I lost my mother when I was in grad-
uate school,” Ms. Sackler said. “It was a
deining moment for me. I needed to be
inancially independent and create a new
path for myself.”
Ms. Sackler irst earned a master’s
degree in business, became a CPA and
a CFP, and then earned a CIMA designa-
tion at the Wharton School. (CIMA is theCertiied Investment Management Ana-
lyst certiication program.) She said that
in addition to her own need for inancial
security, she saw a bigger need for sound
inancial advice and guidance.
She decided to do something about it.
Now a inancial adviser and senior vice
president and senior investment man-
agement consultant at Morgan Stanley
Wealth Management, where she leads the
Sackler Group, Ms. Sackler — who is also
a longtime board member at the Kaplen
JCC on the Pa lisades in Tenafly — noted
that women comprise less than 20 per-
cent of the practitioners in her ield.
“It’s been that way for some time, but we’re trying to change it,” she said. “Mor-
gan Stanley understands that they’ll have
better success in transitioning wealth and
retaining assets after the death of the tra-
ditional male client if they can relate bet-
ter to women, who not only inherit the
assets but now already control 40 per-
cent of the U.S.’s wealth — and women
inancial advisers are well-suited to relate
to the female client.”
There are, she said, “fairly big gender
differences” in dealing with the issue of
money, which research links to differ-
ences in brain physioloy. “There are
differences in how women plan, in risk
tolerance, and in personal communica-
tion styles,” she said. Women “want totalk things through and be listened to.”
Ms. Sackler, author of “The M Word: The
Money Talk Every Family Needs to Have
About Wealth and Their Financial Future”
and now “The M Word Journal,” said thatstatistics show that people who engage
in inancial planning — especially those
working with a trained professional — “are
more optimistic and conident and have
less anxiety and fear.” Quoting John Len-
non, “Life is what happens while you’re
busy maki ng other plans ,” she stressed
that the planning process is not static.
Times have changed, and we must
change as well, she said. For example, as
responsibility for retirement falls increas-
ingly on individuals and employees rather
than on companies, “the onus is on the
individual to save more.” Some clients
have sought help in managing their sav-
ings right out of college or on getting their
irst job. “It’s the power of compounding,”she said. “The longer the interest is com-
pounded, the greater the nest egg.” But,
she added, for many it’s more common
to seek advice “when faced with big deci-
sions or life events.” These may include
changes in inancial circumstances, retire-
ment, marriage, remarriage and merging
families, caring for an older loved one, or
estate transfers.
Not all the news Ms. Sackler delivers to
her clients is good, and not all clients take
her advice. “I’ve seen people make emo-
tional rather than rational decisions,” she
said. “They make mistakes,” like the cli-
ents who used their savings to help buy
homes for their children and then, whenthey suffered a inancial reversal, were in
a bind. Still, she said, “for the most part,
I work with those looking for third-party
advice and for whom I and my team can
have a meaningful impact. Working with
good advisers can help avoid problems.”
Ms. Sackler — who with husband
Michael has two grown sons, Henry and
Eliot — is the creator and former host of
the radio show “The M Word” on WOR.
Her goal, she said, is to “destigmatize the
most taboo of topics, and provide guid-
ance for the discussions that will pre-
serve family inances and relationships
and serve as the basis for better commu-
nication and closer connection. “
In her new book, she provides fami-lies and their advisers with the tools they
need to conduct the money talk success-
fully. Using a step-by-step decision tree,
she presents a detailed road map based
on a ive-step plan.
“The ‘M Word Journal’ presents a road
map,” Ms. Sackler said. “It deconstructs
the process to guide the reader through
life’s transitions while focusing on three
takeaways: Identifying the informa-
tion they will need, deining the ‘how
to,’ including determining the obstacles
keeping their families from having pro-
ductive conversations and planning, and
providing guidelines to pick the right
third-party professionals to help while
creating a process that is repeatable.”Ms. Sackler said that having enough
money for retirement seems to be people’s
major concern, even when they have suf-
icient resources to carry them through.
“It’s based on consumption patterns,” she
said, calling it “a humbling experience”
to inform a family of limitations on future
spending. Factors such as inflation, partic-
ularly in health care, are also of concern,
“though this is a bigger issue for those on
a ixed unearned income. Inflation over
time can become a big obstacle.”
One problem in our society, she said,
“is that we don’t discuss the importance
of inancial literacy. Kids are pretty smart.
They see how we spend, how we use our
money, and how we save it, but we don’talways talk to them about the topic. If
there’s a disconnect, they see that too.”
“Millennials are more informed,” she
continued. “They’ve lived through 9/11
and two economic downturns; they’ve
seen their families struggle; they have
unprecedented debt. They’re more like
their grandparents than their parents.
They’re very cautious and they’re not
particularly trusting of institutions.”
In general, though, “there’s a prob-
lem talking about money,” which often is
rooted in issues of control and trust. But
the reasons are varied and can be hidden
below the surface. “First, it may b
tural — it’s impolite to talk about it
said, a taboo dating back to our f
ing fathers, reflected in our languag
national character, which is both ma
istic and democratic at the same tim
ond, there may be an evolutionary c
nent where it’s perceived as a threat
“Third, there are gender differe
cited above. And fourth, every fam
a money history with deined pers
ties that can be charted across ge
tions. They’re deeply embedded.”
While inancial planners must ha
requisite inancial skill set, it doesnif they’re also adept as “psycholo
and you need to understand your c
and their psycholoy,” Ms. Sackle
“It’s very personal. You have to dig
“In both my work as an advise
my personal life, I’ve seen family
around money decisions, tearing
both a fami ly’s inances and per
relationships because there wa
adequate planning and commu
tion. There’s a 70 percent failure r
transferring wealth across generat
With $59 trillion to be distributed
the next 50 years, that’s a large pro
And, she said, breakdown in comm
tion is the biggest reason.
Ms. Sackler’s books have beenten to provide guidelines for overco
obstacles in communication, wh
due to gender, generational differ
or other issues. On Wednesday, J
the JCC in Tenafly will host an in
tive dialogue featuring Ms. Sackle
WNBCTV reporter Jen Maxield. Th
will explore the issues involved i
ing successful family conversation
affect major life transitions.
Ms. Sackler said she wants thos
attend the June 1 meeting to “walk
with the initial tools they need to
forward.”
Lori Sackler
Who: Financial planner Lori Sackler and WNBC-TV reporter Jen Maxfield
What: Will lead an interactive dialogue
When: On June 1, from 7:30 to 9:30 p.m.
Where: At the Kaplen JCC on the Palisades, 411 East Clinton Ave. in Tenafly
Cost: $7 for members, $10 for everyone else
For more information, or to register: Call (201) 408-1457
Also: Light refreshments
In both my woas an adviser amy personal liI’ve seen fam
stress arou money decision
tearing apboth a family
finances a person
relationship
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‘Fiddler’ rings out at Five StarThe Senior Chorus at Five Star Pre-mier Residences of Teaneck per-
formed selections from “Fiddler
on the Roof” for community mem-
bers, friends, family, and residents.
Its executive director, Robin Granat,
conducts the chorus with Five Star
residents. Cecilia Brower, a for-
mer pianist with the Metropolitan
Opera Company, is a pianist with the
chorus. Area musician/keyboard-ist George Tuzzeo and violist Arlene
Locola of Oradell also accompanied
the group.
Encore performances will be held
at several skilled nursing facilities
and senior groups in Bergen County.
For information, call Ms. Granat at
(201) 8363634.
Celebrate Na’amat’s 90th anniversaryNa’amat USA will mark its 90th anniver-
sary and install its new national board on
July 2930 at the JW Marriot Resort andSpa in Las Vegas.
Danny Danon, Israel’s ambassador to
the United Nations, and Professor Shula
Reinharz of Brandeis University will be
the keynote speakers. Other speakers
include Judy Telman of Na’amat Israel,
Linda Meisel of Jewish Family and Chil-dren’s Service of Greater Mercer County,
and Dr. Nick Spirtos of the Women’s Can-
cer Center of Las Vegas. For more infor-
mation, go to www.naamat.org.
Migdal Ohr plans NYC dinnerMigdal Ohr, which works with under-
privileged, orphaned, and abused Israelichildren, as well as with the children of
new immigrants to Israel, will hold its
annual gala dinner on Monday, June 6,
at Tribeca 360 in Manhattan. This year’s
dinner will honor distinguished support-
ers who have contributed to the organi-
zation’s success over its 43-year history.
Honorees include Dr. Arthur Henry
and Adina Gerber of Lawrence, N.Y., and
Louis and Anat Menaged of New York
City. Rabbi Allen and Alisa Schwartz,
also of New York City, will receive theRabbinic Partnership award. The eve-
ning will include a program featuring
Migdal Ohr’s founder and dean, Rabbi
Yitzchak Dovid Grossman, who won the
Israel Prize in 2004. Prominent criminal
defense attorney Benjamin Brafman is
the master of ceremonies. For informa-
tion, call (212) 3973700 or go to www.
migdalohrusa.org.
Event bolsters One Israel Fund
Mindy and Mutty Stein of Teaneck
recently hosted an event with represen-
tatives of One Israel Fund. Marc Provi-
sor, its director of security projects, and
Natalie Sopinsky, its director of commu-
nity development, talked about what life
is like on the front lines of terror in the
West Bank.
Natalie Sopinsky lives in Susya, 12 kilo-
meters from Otniel, where Daphna Meir was recently murdered.
Marc Provisor is also a counterter-
rorism expert who works with the IDF,
which rec ent ly adopted his spe cia lly
designed anti-ballistic vest. To date,
more than 300 vests have been do
at a cost of $1,450 each. Mr. Proviso
ducts security assessments throu
the West Bank, recommends techn
cal security upgrades, and raises
to get needed equipment, includin
veillance and thermal cameras, bur
and emergency medical equipme
intensive-care ambulances.
The One Israel Fund also raises tions for playgrounds and comm
centers for the Jewish residents
West Bank. For information, ca
Sopinsky at (516) 2399202, ext.
email her at Natalie@oneisraelfund
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Paramus shul to honorRosmans and SturmsThe JCC of Paramus/Congregation Beth
Tikvah will hold its annual journal dinner
dance on Sunday, June 26, at 4:30 p.m.
Two couples will be recognized for theiryears of service to the congregation. The
dinner dance honors congregants and a
commemorative journal is published in
conjunction with it.
This year’s honorees are longtime
members Laurie and Larry Rosman and
Olinda and Larry Sturm. Both couples
and their families have contributed in
many ways to the growth of the JCCP/CBT.
Along with being a sisterhood co-
dent and former board member, L
Rosman has been involved with
committees, including Shabbat dihouse, and dinner dance. Larry Ro
has been a men’s club co-preside
a longtime board member. Olinda
helped run early childhood and rel
school fundraisers, and Larry Stur
the shul’s inancial secretary for
years. For information or to place
nal ad, call (201) 2627691 or go to
jccparamus.org.
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challenges. In the four years since Sinai
Schools established its art program, art
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signiicant breakthroughs with her stu-
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Sinai Schools encourages the com-
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to support Sinai by buying artwork or
commissioning a canvas. The show
provides visitors the unique opportu-
nity to gain insight into how children
with a wide range of special needs see
the world and express their feelings
through art. One hundred percent of
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‘A dream come true’
Daughter of Orangetown Jewish Center rabbitalks about making aliyah, working with lone soldiers
JOANNE PALMER
Sarah Drill knew she wanted to
make aliyah, and she knew that
she would be a lone soldier, but
she never thought that her IDF
career would include a stint as a sniper
instructor.
The IDF, though, tests both its recruits
and its draftees thoroughly. It igures out
new soldiers’ talents, asks them their inter-
ests, and does its best to match them. Ms.
Drill, it turns out, can combine intense
focus and extreme coordination with theability to pass that skill on to others.
Who could have known?
Ms. Drill was able to parlay that expe-
rience, along with the rest of her knowl-
edge, talents, and worldview, into a job
that uses her talents, in Israel, through a
program called Wings.
Last month, Ms. Drill, the daughter of
the Orangetown Jewish Center’s Rabbi
Paula Mack Drill, came to Rockland
County and talked to an audience of about
80 people about that 10-year-old but still
inadequately known program.
“Wings helps young people from before
they arrive in Israel through two years
after they are released from the IDF,” Ms.Drill said. “That’s what makes it unique.
“About three months before they are
released, we put them in a ive-day work-
shop — run, of course, in coordination with
the IDF — and the workshop starts prepar-
ing them for what it means to become a
civilian in Israel.”
Part of the workshop’s function is to talk
to the group about the beneits to whichthey are entitled as former soldiers, as new
immigrants, and as lone soldiers, including
scholarships, and the tax implications of
any decisions they make, Ms. Drill said.
Also, “each lone soldier is matched with a
professional career counselor, who is also
a psychologist. You, as the lone soldier,
meet with the career counselor as many
times as you want to, for up to two years.”The career counselors also help the lone
soldiers write resumes; even before that,
Sarah Drill and her youngest brother, Josh, stand together at Josh’s swearing-in
ceremony at the Kotel in Jerusalem. SARAH DRILL
they help sharpen their charges’
about what they’d like to do once t
out of the army. It’s entirely indiv
ized. “You can’t make one plan and e
it to work for everyone,” Ms. Drill saThe career counselors are not v
teers. “Wings pays for the professi
the lone soldiers get all these servic
free,” Ms. Drill said.
“Overall, in both the before and
programs, we have helped over 6,00
soldiers up to this point,” Ms. Drill sai
usually about 800 lone soldiers a yea
Wings is a program of the Jewish A
for Israel and the David and Laura M
Foundation, Ms. Drill said. The Me
both Iranian Jews, came to the U
States separately, when they were y
almost half a century ago. “They
understand and feel for lone sol
what it feels like to come to a new co
when it’s not your language and iyour culture,” she said. “He loves
and wants to be part of having these
people stay in Israel.
“The Jewish Agency recognized th
potential in the young people com
Israel and serving as lone soldiers
continued. “They looked at statistic
saw that about 95 percent of them
potential for higher academic stud
you compare them to the regular
population, that is a very high perce
“But the Jewish Agency — and pa
larly Mira Kedar, who worked th
noticed a pattern, with people goin
to where they had come from, be
they weren’t able to ind their wpotential in Israel. They wanted help
Kedar recognized the issue, and sh
ated the Wings pilot program, alon
the Merage Foundation.”
Lone soldiers come from all ov
world; most right out of high schoo
or 19, Ms. Drill said. When they irst
in Israel, most do not speak fluent He
so the services Wings offers them
their native tongues. The most freq
offered languages are English, Sp
French, and Russian. By the time th
ready to write their resumes, though
are ready to undertake that task in H
Her own story is somewhat anom
she added, because she joined th
after she graduated from Muhlenber versity. “I majored in English, with m
in Jewish studies and photography
said. “I had a really great experie
Muhlenberg. I knew even before I s
college that I wanted to make aliyah
was something that came to me afte
accepted there, so I decided to con
on my path. I said that if after four
I still wanted to make aliyah, I woul
then.” She still wanted it. She made
right after college, in 2012.
Once she and the IDF agreed that
become a sniper instructor, she had
more months of sniper training.On International Women’s Day, Wings had a program for female lone soldiers. Sarah Drill is in the front row. SARAH DRILL
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have to be certiied as a sniper before
you can be certiied as a sniper instruc-tor,” she said. “It is intense. It takes a
lot of focus. A lot of patience.” And, of
course, a good eye and a steady hand.
It was a shock. She’d come from a gun-
free environment. “My mother joked
that she’d always coniscated water guns
after birthday parties,” Ms. Drill said. “I
loved it. I found it to be really meaning-
ful service.”
Ms. Drill was in the IDF in the summer
of 2014, when Operation Protective Edge
took soldiers into Gaza. She worked on
Tze’elim, the Israeli training base in
the Negev that is the country’s largest.
“Essentially, every soldier who went
into Gaza came through there,” she said.“We were able to give them that last les-
son before they went into Gaza. We gave
them everything we had.”
Her IDF service ended just as Protec-
tive Edge did. “I had about a month left,
and I panicked,” she said. “I wondered,
what am I going to do? I realized that
there were people who wanted to make
sure that I would stay in Israel, so I went
to the Wings workshop, and I came out
with a resume.
“I had a resume from college, a good
one, in English, so I thought I could
just translate it into Hebrew, but it’s not
entirely the same thing. My Hebrew one
is deinitely shorter, and a very impor-
tant piece of the workshop was havingthem show me how to use my army ser-
vice on the resume.”
Ms. Drill moved to Budapest with her
iancé, an Israeli whom she met while
they were both in the army. “He’s a stu-
dent, studying electrical engineering in
Tel Aviv,” she said. When they returned,
she applied for jobs, using the resume
she’d worked on with Wings. She knew
she wanted to “have a job that made me
feel good at the end of the day,” she said.
Coincidentally, that job ended up being
with Wings. “What’s really kind of cool is
that I am about to look out for the future
of lone soldiers — and my youngest
brother, Josh, is a lone soldier right now.“That’s a big motivation for me.”
Ms. Drill came home in April, and there-
fore was able to talk about Wings at the
Orangetown Jewish Center, because she
was celebrating the irst of two wedding
ceremonies. She and her now-husband,
Sagi Fainshtain, got married last month,
and will remarry in Israel next week.
Her parents, Richard and Rabbi Paula
Mack Drill, are in Israel for the wedding
— and also to celebrate their own 31st
anniversary.
“Two things were very clear to us
from the time Sarah was in high school,”
Rabbi Drill said. “Her Zionism was so
powerful that she was likely to end upliving in Israel, and her sense of purpose
and drive was so strong that she would
one day be doing something important
for Israel. All of that has come true in her
work for Wings for Lone Soldiers.
“We have been proud of Sarah
throughout her many trips to Israel:
her high school trip, three different JNF
alternative spring breaks, her semester
abroad at Haifa University, and her ulti-
mate aliyah. Throughout it all, the com-
mon thread has been that she wanted
to become part of Israeli society in a
meaningful way. This goal was clear in
her choice of army service as a sniper
instructor. And now it is clear in her cho-
sen work for Wings.“During her most recent trip back to
the States — so that Rabbi Scheff could
oficiate at her marriage to Sagi Fain-
shtain — Sarah spent a morning speak-
ing at our synagogue, Orangetown Jew-
ish Center.” (That’s Rabbi Craig Scheff,
Orangetown’s senior rabbi.)
“In that amazing hour, I saw my daugh-
ter as a professional woman, speaking
with passion and clarity about her work
on behalf of lone soldiers, including her
brother Joshua.
“For me, it was pretty much a dream
come true!”
The Orangetown Jewish Center’s senior rabbi, Craig Scheff, performed the
wedding ceremony for Sarah Drill and Sagi Fainshtain, shown here. This
week, they will have another wedding ceremony in Israel. SARAH DRILL
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stared through the window of the Skyview Mo
Fort Lee, Police Captain Patrick Kissane said. was charged with invasion of privacy; his peepi
caught on a security camera.
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Holocaust museumis renovating The Holocaust Museum & Center for Toleranc
Education Museum in Suffern is under renovatio
June 1, more demolition of the old building an
struction of the new museum and educational ex
will begin. The new museum is designed to be a
dable educational institution for students of al
at all levels of Holocaust and human rights educ
Fall programs include “How Trauma and Res
Cross Generations” on Tuesday, September 20, West Clarkstown Jewish Center in New City, at
The museum’s annual beneit brunch is plann
Sunday, November 6, at 10 a.m., at the Cultura
Center at Rockland Community College in Suff
community-wide Kristallnacht commemoration
held on Wednesday, November 9, at Temple Bet
lom in New City at 7 p.m.
RJS plans annual galaRockland Jewish Family Service will hold its annual
gala, this year honoring Lyn and Hank Meyers, Dr. Joan
Black, and Lauren Lipoff, at Congregation Shaarey
Israel in Montebello on Sunday, June 5, at 6 p.m
evening will include a glatt kosher buffet dinner
silent auction. For information, call (845) 354212
177, or email [email protected].
Celebrate Israel paradeBuses will leave from the Rockland Jewish CommunityCampus on Sunday, June 5, for this year’s Celebrate
Israel parade. Meet at the campus at 8 a.m.; the p
step-off time is 11:15. For information, call commshaliach Liraz Levi at (845) 3624200, ext. 115.
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