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True or False?

The breadth of information you self disclose

is related to the person with whom you are

talking.

The depth of information you self disclose is

related to the reason you are disclosing and

the level of intimacy in the relationship.


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Relationships

STAGES

Initiating

Experimenting

Intensifying Integrating

Bonding

Differentiating

Circumscribing Stagnating

Avoiding

Terminating

Are always changing

Movement is always to

a new place


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REVIEWREVIEWREVIEWREVIEW

How do listening skills relate to healthyrelationships?

What can happen when there aredifferences in communication styles and

listening styles in relationships?


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Four Personal Listening Styles

CONTENT ORIENTED: Focus on issues and

arguments

PEOPLE ORIENTED: Focus on feelings and

emotions

ACTION ORIENTED: Impatient and often

finish speakers thoughts tend to second

guess TIME ORIENTED: Prefer bulleted talking

points quickly and briefly.


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FAULTY LISTENING

Yes you can go to the

concert, but I want you

to call me when you get

there, andI

want you totake out the trash

before you go, and you

need to be home before

11:00 p.m.

I dont think youunderstand what Im

saying.

I heard you.

I heard you say that you

want me home by 11:00

p.m. I heard what you said.

Here we go again with

the trash!

Uh huh.

I heard exactly what

you said.


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LISTENING

What do good listeners look like?

Verbally

Nonverbally

Listening is not a natural process. Listening requires effort (active not passive)

All listeners do not receive the samemessage.

We hear uniquely different messages

Physiological factors, social roles, culturalbackground, personal interests, and needs.


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Listening Stages

Attending Mindfulness.

Understanding/Interpreting

Responding

Remembering


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Male and female intimacy styles

Cultural influences on intimacy

INTIMACYINTIMACYIN INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPSIN INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

INTIMACYINTIMACYIN INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPSIN INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS


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Intimacy

Physical intimacy

Intellectual exchanges

Emotional disclosure

Shared activities


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Characteristics of Self-Disclosure

Influenced by Culture

Usually occurs in dyads

Usually symmetrical

Occurs incrementally

FEW transactions involve high levels of self-

disclosure


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Reasons for Self-Disclosure

Catharsis

Self-Clarification

Self-Validation

Reciprocity

Impression management

Relationship maintenance and enhancement

Control


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Alternatives to Self-Disclosure

Lies

White Lies

Equivocation

Hinting

Face Saving


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Perspectives & Tensions

Connection

Predictability

Openness

Autonomy

Novelty

Privacy


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Guidelines for Appropriate Self-

Disclosure Is the other person important to you?

Is the risk of disclosing reasonable?

Are the amount and type of disclosure

appropriate?

Is the disclosure relevant to the situation at

hand?

Is the disclosure reciprocated? Will the effect be constructive?

Is the the self-disclosure clear and

understandable?


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MetacommunicationMessages (usually relational) that refer to

other messages: communication about

communication.

CHARACTERISTICS OFCHARACTERISTICS OFINTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPSINTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

CHARACTERISTICS OFCHARACTERISTICS OFINTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPSINTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS


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SELFSELF--DISCLOSURE INDISCLOSURE ININTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPSINTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

SELFSELF--DISCLOSURE INDISCLOSURE ININTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPSINTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS


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A HelicalModel ofRelationalCycles(figure 6-3)


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CLASS ACTIVITIES:CLASS ACTIVITIES:

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