Interpersonal Relationship

Understanding Interpersonal Relationships BY PERASA

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INTERPERSONAL INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPSRELATIONSHIPS

““AN ASSOCIATION IN WHICH AN ASSOCIATION IN WHICH THE PARTIES MEET EACHTHE PARTIES MEET EACH

OTHER’S SOCIAL NEEDS TO A OTHER’S SOCIAL NEEDS TO A GREATER OR LESSER GREATER OR LESSER

DEGREE”. DEGREE”.

INTERPERSONAL INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPSRELATIONSHIPS

““AN ASSOCIATION IN WHICH AN ASSOCIATION IN WHICH THE PARTIES MEET EACHTHE PARTIES MEET EACH

OTHER’S SOCIAL NEEDS TO A OTHER’S SOCIAL NEEDS TO A GREATER OR LESSER GREATER OR LESSER

DEGREE”. DEGREE”.


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SOCIAL NEEDS SOCIAL NEEDS SOCIAL NEEDS SOCIAL NEEDS


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1.Inclusion1.InclusionThe need to feel a sense of The need to feel a sense of belonging to some belonging to some personal relationship.personal relationship.


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2.Control2.ControlThe desire to influence others, The desire to influence others, to to feel some sense of power feel some sense of power over over one’s own life.one’s own life.


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3.3. AffectionAffectionWhich can be defined broadly Which can be defined broadly

as as respectrespect. . We all need to know We all need to know that that we matter to others, for our self we matter to others, for our self

esteem is created and esteem is created and nourished nourished by the regard others by the regard others hold for us.hold for us.


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DIMENSIONS DIMENSIONS OF OF

INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPSINTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS


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1.1. CONTEXTCONTEXT

Dimana berlaku perhubunganDimana berlaku perhubungankeluarga, sekolah,pejabat, jiran, keluarga, sekolah,pejabat, jiran, awam, sukan, hobi, mesjid.awam, sukan, hobi, mesjid.


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2.2.TIMETIME

Jangka masa, lama.Jangka masa, lama.


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3.3.INTIMACYINTIMACY

““Closely personal, characterized byClosely personal, characterized byclose union, contact, association,close union, contact, association,acquaintance, or the like.”acquaintance, or the like.”

• IntellectualIntellectual• EmotionalEmotional• PhysicalPhysical


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4.4. AFFINITYAFFINITY

The degree to which the The degree to which the partners like or partners like or

appreciate one appreciate one another.another.


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5.5. CONTROLCONTROLThe degree to which the parties in a The degree to which the parties in a

relationship have the power to influence relationship have the power to influence one one another.another.i.i. Decision control.Decision control.

ii.ii. Conversational control.Conversational control.

5.5. CONTROLCONTROLThe degree to which the parties in a The degree to which the parties in a

relationship have the power to influence relationship have the power to influence one one another.another.i.i. Decision control.Decision control.

ii.ii. Conversational control.Conversational control.


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DISTRIBUTION OF CONTROLDISTRIBUTION OF CONTROL

i.i. A Complementary A Complementary relationship.relationship.

Tak Seimbang/ Sebelah Tak Seimbang/ Sebelah pihak.pihak.

ii.ii. Symmetrical relationships.Symmetrical relationships.Seimbang kepada kedua Seimbang kepada kedua

pihak.pihak.

iii.iii. Parallel relationshipParallel relationshipBerubah ikut kesesuaianBerubah ikut kesesuaian


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UNDERSTANDING UNDERSTANDING YOUR RELATIONSHIPYOUR RELATIONSHIP

UNDERSTANDING UNDERSTANDING YOUR RELATIONSHIPYOUR RELATIONSHIP


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1.1. How long has each one lasted?How long has each one lasted?1.1. How long has each one lasted?How long has each one lasted?


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2.2.How much time do you How much time do you choose to spend with the choose to spend with the

other person?other person?

2.2.How much time do you How much time do you choose to spend with the choose to spend with the

other person?other person?


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►3.3. What kinds of intimacy characterizeWhat kinds of intimacy characterize►each relationship: Intellectual, each relationship: Intellectual,

emotional,physical?. How deep is the emotional,physical?. How deep is the intimacy in each relationship?intimacy in each relationship?

►3.3. What kinds of intimacy characterizeWhat kinds of intimacy characterize►each relationship: Intellectual, each relationship: Intellectual,

emotional,physical?. How deep is the emotional,physical?. How deep is the intimacy in each relationship?intimacy in each relationship?


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4.4.How much affinity exists in each How much affinity exists in each relationship? relationship?

In other words, In other words, how much do you how much do you

like the other person?like the other person?

4.4.How much affinity exists in each How much affinity exists in each relationship? relationship?

In other words, In other words, how much do you how much do you

like the other person?like the other person?


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5.5.How is control distributed in each How is control distributed in each relationship? Is the structurerelationship? Is the structure

complementary, symmetrical, or complementary, symmetrical, or parallel? How does this control parallel? How does this control

occur:occur:in terms of decision making or in terms of decision making or

conversational influence?conversational influence?

5.5.How is control distributed in each How is control distributed in each relationship? Is the structurerelationship? Is the structure

complementary, symmetrical, or complementary, symmetrical, or parallel? How does this control parallel? How does this control

occur:occur:in terms of decision making or in terms of decision making or

conversational influence?conversational influence?


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Content and Relational MessagesContent and Relational Messages

““Can you help me for a minute”?Can you help me for a minute”?

1.1. SuperioritySuperiority2.2. FriendlinessFriendliness3.3. Sexual desireSexual desire4.4. HelplessnessHelplessness5.5. AloofnessAloofness6.6. IrritationIrritation

Content and Relational MessagesContent and Relational Messages

““Can you help me for a minute”?Can you help me for a minute”?

1.1. SuperioritySuperiority2.2. FriendlinessFriendliness3.3. Sexual desireSexual desire4.4. HelplessnessHelplessness5.5. AloofnessAloofness6.6. IrritationIrritation


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MetacommunicationMetacommunication

Whenever we discuss a relationship with others, Whenever we discuss a relationship with others, we are Metacommunicationwe are Metacommunication

Communication about communication.Communication about communication.Describe messages that refer to other messages.Describe messages that refer to other messages.

““I really appreciate it when you compliment me about my workI really appreciate it when you compliment me about my workin front of the boss”.in front of the boss”.

•Rasa dihargaiRasa dihargai•MenggalakkanMenggalakkan

MetacommunicationMetacommunication

Whenever we discuss a relationship with others, Whenever we discuss a relationship with others, we are Metacommunicationwe are Metacommunication

Communication about communication.Communication about communication.Describe messages that refer to other messages.Describe messages that refer to other messages.

““I really appreciate it when you compliment me about my workI really appreciate it when you compliment me about my workin front of the boss”.in front of the boss”.

•Rasa dihargaiRasa dihargai•MenggalakkanMenggalakkan


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Cliches

Tahap Pendedahan KendiriTahap Pendedahan KendiriTahap Pendedahan KendiriTahap Pendedahan Kendiri

FactsFacts

OpinionsOpinions

FeelingsFeelings


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Interpersonal Attraction: Why We Form Relationships

1.We like people who are similar to us-usually.2.We like people who are different from us-in certain ways.3.We like people who like us-usually.4.We are attracted to people who can help us.5.We like competent people-particularly when they’re “human”.

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