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Interpersonal Conversations
Class 1
Administrative
Give quiz Return previous quiz at the end of
class Any questions about assignments,
where we are, etc.? Making up quizzes? Critiques?
Review
The Ugli Orange Negotiation The Disgruntled Airline Passenger The Good News Sources of Conflict Memorize these
Today
I. Illustrations of Sources of Conflict
II. Sources of Conflict in 12 Angry Men
III. The Super Bowl Dispute
I. Illustrations of Sources of Conflict
Roles Perceptions Knowledge/Information Tastes/Style Values/Beliefs Interests
II. Sources of Conflict in 12 Angry Men?
How many of our six sources of conflict can you find?
Provide examples
III. The Super Bowl Dispute Read the material What is the source of conflict here? What do you think of this example of
conflict resolution? Why is it a problem if she got what she
wanted? How else might this have been handled?
Next Time
Continue our discussion of interpersonal conversations
Interpersonal Conversations
Class 2
Administrative
Have Quizzes to return at end of class
Collect Critiques
Submit them electronically as well
Review
Illustrations of sources of conflict
Sources of Conflict in 12 Angry Men
The Super Bowl Dispute
Today
I. Arguments
II. Intent and Impact
III. Blame and Contributions
IV. Emotions and Being Emotional
I. Arguments
Why do we argue?
Is there anything wrong with arguing?
An alternative approach
II. Intent and Impact
What do SPH tell us about intentions and what we know about the intentions of the other person?
What to SPH tell us about explaining that our intentions are good?
Impact does not imply intent!
III. Blame and Contributions
Blame versus Contributions Problems with blame?
Prevents understanding Hinders problem solving
Contribution
III. Blame and Contributions Misconceptions
I should focus only on my own contributions Focusing on contribution means ignoring my
feelings Hard to spot contributions
Avoiding until now Being unapproachable Intersections Problematic role assumptions
How can you identify your own contributions?
IV. Emotions and Being Emotional
Why are people emotional in difficult conversations?
Confusion of expressing emotions and being emotional
Next Time
Continue our discussion of interpersonal conversations
Interpersonal Conversations
Class 3
Administrative
Give Quiz
Return critiques at the end of class
Remember to check announcements regularly
Review
Why we argue (and how we can discuss instead)
Intent and Impact Blame and Contribution Expressing Emotions and Being
Emotional
Today
I. Being Wrong
II. Being Right
III. Getting Angry
IV. Gemstones’ Family Vacation
I. Being Wrong
Why are we so reluctant to be wrong?
What are the consequences when we can’t be wrong?
Is there another way?
II. Being Right
Why do we like to be right so much?
What are the consequences when we believe we are right?
Is there another way?
III. Getting Angry
Why do we get angry in our conversations?
What are the consequences of getting angry?
IV. The Gemstones Family Vacation
Distribute Materials Read the Materials Break up into pairs Solve the problem (15 minutes) Write down the solution
Next Time
Continue with Interpersonal Conversations
Interpersonal Conversations
Class 4
Administrative
Return Quiz
Present journals and collect them at end of class
Review
Being Wrong
Being Right
Getting Angry
The Gemstone’s Family Vacation
Today
I. Not having the conversationII. What can the conversation
accomplish?III. How can you engage the other
person?
I. Not Having the Conversation When does it make more sense not
to have the conversation? When it is really your problem When you can change the situation
on your own When you can’t accomplish anything
by talking When you don’t have the time When your mood won’t allow you to
listen
II. What Can the Conversation Accomplish? You can learn how they see things
(and they can learn how you see them)
You can express the impact the situation has on you (and so can they)
You can engage their help in solving the problem
III. How Can You Engage the Other Person
Listen Acknowledge your contribution Genuinely seek to understand how
this looks to them Understand your limits
Next Time
Continue our discussion of interpersonal conversations
Interpersonal Conversations
Class 5
Administrative
Give quiz
Return journals at end of class
Mid-term examination – Feb. 26, 7:30 pm, G402
Review
Should I have the conversation?
What is the purpose of the conversation?
How can I engage the other person is a productive learning conversation?
Today
I. Speaking Clearly
II. Problem Solving
III. Listening
I. Speaking Clearly
Don’t make them guess
Especially common in personal and particularly romantic relationships Using subtext Easing in
I. Speaking Clearly
Don’t present your conclusions as truth
Overstatement
II. Problem-Solving
Reframing Statements asserting truth Accusations Blame Judgements
III. Listening
Persistence about listening
How does this sound?
Why is this important?
Next Time
We’ll finish the topic of interpersonal conversations
Interpersonal Conversations
Class 6
Administrative
Return quizzes at the end of class
Collect critiques now
Any questions about where we are or what we are doing?
Review
Speaking Clearly
Problem Solving
Listening
Today
I. If They Won’t Play
II. Problem Solving (Again)
III. Pat’s Curfew
I. If They Won’t Play
Nothing will always work
Discuss the dynamic Advantages Risks
When to use this approach
II. Problem Solving (Again)
You don’t have to agree Gather information Invent options Ask what standards should apply What are your alternatives if no
agreement is reached?
III. Pat’s Curfew
Divide up the class
Distribute the materials
See if you can come to a solution
Next Time
Begin Unit on Negotiation and Problem Solving