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Interdependency
How are relationships like economies? What is exchanged? What determines if we’ll stay in our current relationships? Why do some relationships fall apart quickly? How can we remain satisfied in our relationships?
Social Exchange Maximum reward at minimum cost
Rewards – anything that brings enjoyment or fulfillment to the recipient
Costs – financial expenditures, injuries, frustrations, restrictions, etc.
Outcome = Rewards – Costs
We want the BEST possible outcomes
Outcomes are measured against our expectations
Comparison level (CL) – the value of the outcomes that we believe we deserve in our dealings with others
Basic Math:
Outcomes > CL = Satisfied relationship Outcomes < CL = Dissatisfied relationship
Caveat: Even if you are making a profit, you may not think that profit is big enough
Comparison level for alternatives (CLalt) – outcomes that we can receive by leaving our current relationships and moving on to the best alternative partner
But when do people actually leave?
Must consider the availability and desirability of potential alternatives
Prospect of loneliness
Investment in the current relationship (Rusbult, Drigotas, & Verette, 1994). Tangible items (furniture, money, etc.) Psychological benefits (love and respect
from in-laws, for example)
CLalt is whatever you think it is May be influenced by self-esteem and
access to information
Outcomes – CLalt = dependence or independence
Types of relationships in interdependency theory
outcome
CLalt
CL
A happy, stable relationship
outcome
CLalt
CL
A happy, stable relationship
outcome
CL
CLalt
An unhappy, but stable relationship
outcomeCL
CLalt
A happy, but unstable relationship
outcome
CLalt
CL
An unhappy, unstable relationship
outcome
CLalt
CL
An unhappy, unstable relationship
How might people’s CLalt’s influence their interactions with one another?
Betty’s and Barney’s outcomes
Betty’s CLalt
Barney’s CLalt
Principle of lesser (least) interest – the partner who is less dependent on a relationship has more power in it
CL and CLalt over time We may become used to wonderful
treatment from our partners, raising our CL
But if outcomes remain the same, satisfaction will decrease
As for CLalt, we may have entered the age of “permanent availability”
Rewards and Costs over time
Beginning
Developing Established Beginning
Developing Established
Rewards
Costs
Successful Relationships
Unsuccessful RelationshipsGraphs adapted from Eidelson, 1981
Other good vs. bad exchanges Gottman and Levenson (1992) observed
that well-regulated couples maintained a ratio of positive to negative exchanges of 5:1 or better
Well-regulated couples were more satisfied
Four years later, 56% of poorly regulated couples were divorced vs. 24% of well-regulated couples
We’ve seen that satisfaction can decrease as CL’s rise over time
But outcomes tend to decrease over time, too
Relationship satisfaction declines in the first few months after marriage
How come? Remember social cognition? Impression
management takes work Trivial annoyances may build up through
repetition Partners may reveal secret information
(intentionally or accidentally) “Fatal attractions” Birth of children (unrealistic expectations)
These may also be the very things that keep people from marrying in the first place, as they are discovered over time
Are we really this greedy? Providing good outcomes for one’s
partner can ultimately be self-serving It may influence them to stay It may influence them to do nice things for
you, too
Nevertheless, there is plenty of compassionate thoughtfulness in interdependent relationships
Exchange vs. Communal Relationships (Clark & Mills, 1979)
Exchange relationships – carry the expectation of immediate repayment for benefits given
Communal relationships – carry the expectation of mutual responsiveness to one another’s needs
Equitable Relationships Proportional justice – each partner gains
benefits that are proportional to his or her contributions (Hatfield, 1983)
A relationship is equitable when the ratio of your outcomes to your contributions is similar to that of your partner
Your outcomes
Your contributions
Your partner’s outcomes
Your partner’s contributions
=
Partner A
Partner B80
508050
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20
2010
0100
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5025
10050
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a)
b)
c)
Partner A
Partner B
8050
6050
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8050
8030
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d)
e)
A is overbenefitted
A is underbenefitted
What are some ways to restore equity?
If both partners are prospering, does it even matter?
Equity theory suggests that people are happiest when the relationship is fair
Overbenefitted people should feel guilty and somewhat less content
Underbenefitted people should simply dislike the unfairness of the situation
Studies show that no one likes being underbenefitted
But research is inconsistent regarding overbenefitted people and equity in general
When might equity matter? Division of household tasks Childcare
Commitment Commitment can be either a happy
dependence or a burdensome entrapment
It can result from both positive and negative influences
Investment Model (Rusbult Drigotas, &
Verette, 1994)
Satisfaction Level
Quality of Alternatives
Investment Size
Commitment Level
Decision to remain
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-
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Very good generalizability
Useful for predicting relationship duration, faithfulness, and even if battered wives will try to escape their abusive husbands
Other types of commitment? Personal Constraint Moral (e.g. long-distance relationships)