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Intentionally Making Disciples Table of Contents Acknowledgements Section I (Introduction)………………………………………………………………………….... 2 Section II (The Concept)…………………………………………………………………………..3 Section III (The Pathway)………………………………………………………………………… 7 Section IV (Pathway Thoughts)……………………………………………………………….....11 Section V (Appendix)…………………………………………………………………………… 15 Appendix A (Pathway Map)……………………………………………………………………..16 Appendix B (Checklist for Pathway Guide)…………………………………………………….. 17 Pathway Guide Quarterly Report Form............................................................................. 18 Appendix C (Small Group Leader’s Manual)………………………………………………........ 19 Encouraging Men to Pray Daily and Share Openly …………………………………….. 26 A Small Group Leader’s Covenant……………………………………………………… 27 Training Session for Small Group Leaders……………………………………………… 28 A Participant’s Covenant……………………................................................................... 30 Suggested Resources about Small Groups........................................................................ 31 Appendix D (Pathway Resource List)……………………………………………………………32 Appendix E (Pathway Portfolio Form)………………………………………………….............. 39 Appendix F (Student Handouts)……………………………………………………………........ 43 Session 1……………………………………………………………………………........ 43 Session 2……………………………………………………………………………........ 45 Session 3……………………………………………………………………………........ 50 Appendix G (Breakout Questions)………………………………………………………….........52 Session 1……………………………………………………………………………….... 52 Session 2……………………………………………………………………………........ 53 Session 3……………………………………………………………………………........ 55 “By this My Father is glorified, that you bear much fruit; So you will be My disciples” (John 15:8). 1

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Intentionally Making Disciples

Table of Contents Acknowledgements Section I (Introduction)………………………………………………………………………….... 2 Section II (The Concept)………………………………………………………………………….. 3 Section III (The Pathway)………………………………………………………………………… 7 Section IV (Pathway Thoughts)……………………………………………………………….....11 Section V (Appendix)…………………………………………………………………………… 15 Appendix A (Pathway Map)……………………………………………………………………..16 Appendix B (Checklist for Pathway Guide)…………………………………………………….. 17 Pathway Guide Quarterly Report Form............................................................................. 18 Appendix C (Small Group Leader’s Manual)………………………………………………........ 19 Encouraging Men to Pray Daily and Share Openly …………………………………….. 26 A Small Group Leader’s Covenant……………………………………………………… 27 Training Session for Small Group Leaders……………………………………………… 28 A Participant’s Covenant……………………................................................................... 30 Suggested Resources about Small Groups........................................................................ 31 Appendix D (Pathway Resource List)……………………………………………………………32 Appendix E (Pathway Portfolio Form)………………………………………………….............. 39 Appendix F (Student Handouts)……………………………………………………………........ 43 Session 1……………………………………………………………………………........ 43 Session 2……………………………………………………………………………........ 45 Session 3……………………………………………………………………………........ 50 Appendix G (Breakout Questions)…………………………………………………………......... 52 Session 1……………………………………………………………………………….... 52 Session 2……………………………………………………………………………........ 53 Session 3……………………………………………………………………………........ 55

“By this My Father is glorified, that you bear much fruit; So you will be My disciples” (John 15:8).

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Section I. Introduction

Congratulations! You are now part of a movement of leaders who have committed to His commandment to “make disciples.” This begins with a process which should become a permanent part in your church’s ministry to men.

In view of the spiritual, moral and ethical decay of our society and its impact on men, marriages and families in our churches, its time to become more intentional!

Although most men’s ministry could continue as is, it’s time to broaden the vision for men beyond pancake breakfasts, softball teams and church workdays or mission trips. We must intentionally integrate a strategic process to provide a “Disciple-Making Ministry to Men” (Matthew 28:19). This material provides a pathway for men to follow on their journey to becoming disciples and includes selection and training of Pathway Small Group Leaders and Pathway Guides to insure the intentional aspect of the program.

If God’s desire is that men provide the spiritual leadership for their family, it is the church’s responsibility to train, equip and disciple their men for the sake of their families and for the future of the church. The average man and the average church do not have a process or pathway that intentionally guides men to become a fully devoted disciple of Christ.

The question has been asked, “How long would you have to live in a garage to become a car”? Any logical thinker would answer, “It could never happen.” We know that cars are built through a process called an assembly line. Chrysler Corporation is not in the business of just building cars, they are in the business of providing transportation. Building cars is just a means to an end of providing transportation. The church must provide an assembly line or intentional pathway that disciples men who will and can “Live and Lead God’s Way” in their families, church, workplace, community and world. Our definition of a disciple is:

“A person committed to loving, following, and serving Jesus Christ in every sphere of life.”

It is important to design this Intentional Discipleship Pathway as a comprehensive ministry to men that involves the entire church. The following are essential:

1. Must have the complete support of the Senior Pastor. 2. Must exclusively target men. 3. Must build a Men’s Ministry Leadership Team with a core group of men. 4. Must communicate clear strategies and goals. 5. Must focus on relationships not programs. 6. Must provide flexibility and variety. 7. Must avoid implementing to much too soon.

To start…let’s focus on the Leadership Team that will guide your ministry to men in Making Disciples.

“..If you continue in my word, then you are my disciples indeed; and you shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free” (John 8:31-32 NKJV)

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Section II. The Concept

As you read these materials, you will note that there are two items covered under “The Concept”. First, if you are to be successful in Intentionally Making Disciples, there has to be an organized and effective ongoing ministry to men…Men’s Ministries. Because of this belief the initial materials covered in this section will focus on the Men’s Leadership Team that will guide your ministry to men in making disciples. Second, there will be a review of the Making Disciples Overview, both by the denomination, using “Making Disciples 2004-2005” and then by Men’s Ministries in “Intentionally Making Disciples”.

A. The Men’s Ministries Leadership Team ………………………… How do you start…? Adopt a 12-18 Month Action Plan

Months 1-4

• Identify, train and equip a Men’s Ministries Leadership Team (Chapter Presidents, Chapter Officers and Task Force Leaders) and schedule an all day planning retreat.

• At the all day planning retreat the Senior Pastor and Men’s Ministries Leadership Team

must begin the process of identifying a clear Vision for Men within the context of the overall church vision to intentionally disciple men for spiritual maturity. Some of the questions that need to be answered are? 1. What are the unique needs of the men in our church and community? 2. What does a successful ministry to men look like? 3. How would we define a “disciple” in our church? 4. How will we measure success? 5. What are some of the obstacles? 6. What kind of leadership do we need? 7. What are some of the challenges or weaknesses of our ability to reach and disciple

men? 8. What resources do we have or need to get in order to reach and disciple men? 9. What kind of training does the leadership team need to have?

10. How can we implement systems that will disciple our men?

• The Pastor and the Men’s Leadership Team also begin to design a Men’s Ministries Master Plan to provide a “Disciple-making Ministry to Men” in the church. This Master Plan for Men should include: 1. A Statement of “Vision for Men.” Vision & Purpose drive ministry to men. (See the

Men’s Ministries Action Plan, Section VII of the Resource Information Manual.) 2. Definition of a Disciple (See Section I) 3. Establish clear strategies on how the church will build a ministry to men including

objectives and measurable goals. (See the Men’s Ministries Action Plan, Section V of the Resource Information Manual.)

4. A Men’s Ministries Master Calendar. Needs variety with different entry points. 5. The Intentionally Making Disciples Pathway. (See Section III) 6. Small Group Plan. A commitment for every man to be in an accountable and growing

relationship with other men in a small group. 7. A comprehensive Men’s Ministries Budget.

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• Men’s Ministries Kick-off Event. The content of the event would include the following: 1. Begin with worship, prayer and the building of relationships 2. The casting of the Vision for Men by the Senior Pastor and Men’s Leadership Team. 3. The introduction of the Men’s Leadership Team. 4. The presentation of the church’s Men’s Ministry Master Plan by the Men’s

Leadership Team. 5. The introduction of the Intentionally Making Disciples Pathway by the Senior Pastor. 6. Give the men opportunity to respond and sign up for their Intentionally Making

Disciples Pathway Portfolio and a Small Group. 7. The casting of vision and responsibility for the men to be actively supporting the

various ministries of the church by the Senior Pastor and the Men’s Leadership Team.

• The Senior Pastor and Men’s Leadership Team begin to meet regularly for prayer, assess

the needs of the men in the church and for building personal relationships. They must become to each other what they want the men of the church to become to each other.

• Select team members to oversee selected strategies for evangelizing and discipling men.

Some of these task forces may include small groups, evangelism, discipleship, prayer, fellowship, worship and special events. The more men involved the better. These Men’s Ministries Task Forces will be responsible to the church Men’s Leadership Team. Each member of the Men’s Leadership Team will lead and serve on a Ministry Task Force. They then in turn build the leadership for their Ministry Task Force that will serve a specific area of emphasis within the over all Men’s Ministries.

• Begin to recruit, train and resource Men’s Small Group leaders.

• Begin to recruit, train and resource Pathway Guides, support staff and teachers for the

Intentionally Making Disciples Pathway.

Months 5-8

• The Men’s Leadership Team meets at least monthly to evaluate, assess progress and direction while building their own relationships with each other.

• Finalize the Intentionally Making Disciples Pathway curriculum and leadership • Finalize Men’s Small Group Leaders Teams with a Captain. • Mobilize the men through the church-wide Men’s Ministries Kick-off event. • Advertise through every means possible throughout the church. It has to be a major

emphasis of the entire church while being heavily promoted by the Senior Pastor.

Months 9-18

• The Men’s Leadership Team will continue to meet at least monthly to evaluate, assess overall progress and direction while building their own relationships with each other.

• Begin the implementation of the Men’s Ministries Calendar. • Implement the Intentionally Making Disciples Pathway and Men’s Small Groups. • Continue to aggressively recruit, select, train and deploy new leadership throughout the

church.

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Leadership Structure • Church Administrative Board • Senior Pastor • Men’s Ministries Chapter President • Men’s Leadership Team • Men’s Task Forces • Pathway Guides, Teachers and Support Staff • Pathway Small Group Leaders

The Men’s Leadership Team is key to having an effective and intentional disciple making ministry in your church. Let’s turn now and go into Making Disciples.

B. Making Disciples Overview

In early 2004, the Mission 21 Committee of the IPHC Resource Development Center distributed to each pastor a set of materials...”Making Disciples 2004-2005.” The “Making Disciples 2004-2005” is strongly endorsed by Men’s Ministries and provides in-depth resources to enhance the IMD. This packet presented a plan to disciple our members and included a number of items to be used in this process. Included were: (1) a prayer guide, (2) a series of sermons to be used during the period 2004 and 2005, (3) materials on small groups and a small group course titled “Disciple 3 Study Guide,” (4) an appendix on Discipleship Models. Bishop Leggett summed up the need in this statement,

“As a church, we are called by Christ to ‘make disciples.’ It is the heart of our Lord’s commission for His church.

We can fulfill the Great Commission only as we develop men and women into followers of Jesus Christ.”

The main reason for this IMD ministry is to enable the local church to implement training that will intentionally lead their men along a pathway to becoming disciples. The bottom line of IMD is to provide the training necessary, the Pathway Small Group Leaders and Pathway Guides that will provide guidance and encouragement, as well as the constant motivation to lead our men through the discipling process. Men are goal oriented, process driven, and are likely to succeed when they are provided a pathway that guides them toward their goal…especially when there are benchmarks along the pathway to mark success and offer encouragement to the next step.

As you open the packet of materials for Intentionally Making Disciples, here is

What you will find.

There are two DVDs that cover three teaching sessions used to kick off the Intentionally Making Disciples ministry. After each session is shown, you will break up into small groups for thirty (30) minutes and discuss questions for that session. Once this is done, use the Administrative Guide (the enclosed CD), to explain the rest of the Intentionally Making Disciples ministry and how it will unfold e.g.

• The ball diamond overhead will be shown as well as the four steps on the Pathway to Making Disciples will be reviewed.

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• The Pathway Portfolio Form will be given to each man – with a copy being kept for the Men’s Leadership Team. Explain the concept of how each man and Pathway Guide are to proceed on the church’s IMD Pathway.

• The Pathway Resources List is for use by the MLT and Pastor to (a) Select resources to fill the one “elective course” in each step. (b) Add resources to replace those listed, if it is felt there is a better resource to be used • In Appendix B and C, you will find resource materials to train and

employ both Pathway Guides and Pathway Small Group Leaders. • The key is for the Men’s Leadership Team to go through the entire set of

resources and prepare to implement the ministry once they are prepared.

So, that’s the ministry as you look down on it… now let’s get on The Pathway to Intentionally Making Disciples.

“God blesses the people who patiently endure the testing. Afterward, they will receive

the crown of life that God has promised to those who love Him” (James 1:12NLT).

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Section III. The Pathway

A. The Materials For Intentionally Making Disciples

1. The DVD’s – in the packet you will find two DVD’s that contain an introduction to IMD, and three lessons by Dr. Dan Erickson: (a) “It All Starts With You” Nothing really ever happens in our lives, our

families, or our church, unless we get committed and engaged. In session one titled, “It Starts with You!” Dr. Erickson addresses principles and issues we must personally wrestle with, if we are going to be the disciples God wants us to be and to be effective in our ministry to men, in and outside our church.

(b) “Why Ministry to Men?” Session two asks a critical question that every church must address, “Why Ministry to Men?” Dr. Erickson describes in detail the condition of men in America and the issues they are facing and needs the church must meet, if we are going to have an effective ministry to men in our culture. He addresses why men are not going to church, what the keys are to reaching and discipling them and when you do, how men benefit your church.

(c) “Intentional Discipleship Process.” The average Christian man would say that they have never really ever been discipled. They may have spent years attending church, but have never been intentionally discipled. In session three, Dr. Erickson addresses the biblical view of intentional discipleship and the process it takes to develop a fully devoted follower of Jesus Christ in the church.

2. The CD in the packet includes the rest of the materials to implement this

ministry: (1) The handouts for the DVD sessions 1-2-3 (2) The small group questions handouts that are used after sessions 1, 2, & 3. (3) The Pathway Portfolio Form that is developed by the local church – and

given to each man – based on his individual step on the pathway (See Appendix A for the Pathway Map):

(a) The Member Step: A member is one who has come into a personal relationship with God through Jesus Christ; and is actively participating in and committed to a local church while earnestly pursuing a path to become a fully devoted follower/disciple of Jesus Christ.

(b) The Maturity Step: The step in which a member of the Body of Christ becomes a fully devoted follower of Christ by growing in their understanding of and walk with Jesus Christ to the point where they are mature enough to disciple others. A mature disciple is seeking their God-given purpose and potential.

(c) The Ministry Step: Ministry becomes the visible expression of a mature disciple who is committed and equipped to live out their God-given purpose and potential. Mature and equipped disciples are able to use their time, talents, resources and

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spiritual gifts in order to serve, evangelize and disciple others has become proficient in the development of their spiritual gift and ministry calling.

(d) The Mission Step: Mission provides opportunities for mature and equipped Disciples of Christ to do ministry. Mission always involves evangelizing the lost and discipling the converted with the goal of furthering the Kingdom of God.

(4) The Pathway Guide – used to train the Guides who will direct and encourage each man. (See Appendix B – Pathway Guide’s Checklist.)

(5) The Pathway Small Group Leader’s Manual (See Appendix C) – that will be used to train the small group leaders that are used in each of the resources that require small group participation.

(6) The Pathway Resources List (See Appendix D) – that is provided to enable the Pastor and his Men’s Leadership Team to develop which materials they want to used to tailor the pathway for their church.

B. The Pathway Timeline

1. Before the opening presentation…

• Secure the venue location, date, and time. Be sure that the location is available and adequate seating and walk-around space are available. The men will be in small discussion groups of 4 to 6 men after each of the three sessions, so insure you have arranged for space to accommodate each group. Remember, if it’s a man thing, there’s got to be food. Be sure the food and drinks can be consumed where you meet.

• Make it easy to attend – Plan your registration procedure in advance. When men call into the church, insure that information on the event can be provided and registration accomplished. Remember, total strangers might show up. PTL.

• Have incentives – appoint team captains, have some incentive for the captains that signed 5 – 10, etc.

• Promote Registration by developing a marketing plan that includes: - Advertising...using posters and brochures - Mail out personal invitation - Announce from the pulpit, in Sunday school, small group meetings,

men’s and women’s meetings, and use the web (church websites, etc.). • Develop a budget for the event to include attendee cost. • Remove all barriers from your men attending? • Coordinate with the Office of Men’s Ministries (405-787-7110 ext: 3224)

to go over any questions.

2. Six to Nine months in Advance • Invite nearby churches • Activate the pathway prayer team to meet on a weekly or bi-weekly basis

leading up to the event • Develop a marketing plan, as mentioned above to saturate the church • Order any resources needed • Finish the Pathway Portfolio Form (See Appendix E) for your church

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• Consider if the initial Pathway Resources to be used after the presentation might be the single event/resource that all men will go through, eg. Men’s Fraternity “The Quest for Authentic Manhood.”

3. Two to Four months in Advance

• Confirm location, date, and time. • Begin to campaign to register men through personal invitations,

announcements, posters brochures and registration forms. • Begin having the Men’s Leadership Team walk through the (1)

introduction to IMD, (2) the presentations, (3) small group break-outs and the explanation of

their church’s pathway and their participation. • Insure all materials are ready – Pathway Portfolio Form, Sessions 1, 2, and

3 handouts and small group discussion questions. • Finalize the Pathway Resource Office - A man/team to keep track of the

individual Pathway Portfolios, as well as other material used in IMD.

4. Four to Six weeks in Advance • Confirm selection and training of the necessary number of Pathway

Guides and Pathway Small Group Leaders. • Finalize arrangement of room set-up, necessary equipment, and

refreshments. • Use of resource table in the church to promote the event. • Determine what Pathway Step every man is on.

5. One to Two weeks in Advance

• One final blitz on invitations and registrations. • Plan the food. • Call each registered participant to confirm he will be attending and answer

any questions.

6. Day of the Event • Have fun and give God the glory! Attitude is everything! • Double check the room. • Have greeters at the outer doors of the facility, this removes a huge barrier

for men. • Have greeters at the registration table. • Make registration swift and easy. • Fill out name tags for the guys – some guys can’t write well. • Have refreshments for men as they come in. • Start and end on time. • Have discussion times and break times for the men to get to know each

other and apply the resources personally.

7. Following the Event • Follow-up with men who attended presentation to gain information for an

after action report.

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• Use this event to enlist and encourage men to be involved in the church men’s ministries and/or small group ministry for men.

• Meet with the Men’s Leadership Team to review the presentation and go over the next event(s).

• Assist the Pathway Guides in getting each man on their, Pathway and, submission of their quarterly report.

• Determine when Pathway resources or small groups …. will be scheduled. • Finalize the Pathway classes for the year. • Plan on doing the presentation at least twice a year to bring additional men

on the pathway. • Notify the office of Men’s Ministries (405) 787-7110 ext: 3224 you’ve

started.

“Watch, stand fast in the faith, be brave, be strong” (I Corinthians 16:13).

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IV. Pathway Thoughts A. The Pathway revisited.

With the Men’s Leadership Team in place and the IMD materials on hand, there are three keys for starting and sustaining this ministry in your church. 1. The Men’s Leadership Team has to commit to, and be familiar with the IMD

materials and be constantly on guard to insure that the men are being recruited, oriented, and placed on their pathway. Then, by use of the Pathway Guides and Small Group Leaders, insure the men are being encouraged and challenged to continue on their path. The quarterly review

of the Pathway Guide Reports by the Men’s Leadership Team is a must. 2. There is a critical need to periodically (perhaps annually) evaluate the Men’s

Leadership Team’s commitment and insure each team member is committed for the coming year. If vacancies occur they need to be filled.

3. The foundation of your Intentionally Making Disciples ministry is prayer. Prayer is the primary building block of your church’s pathway. Prayer will be the key to gaining God’s guidance…and in gaining His blessing as you go about Intentionally Making Disciples.

B. Options to consider in starting and sustaining the momentum of your Intentionally Making Disciples Ministry. 1. As you look at Step #1, you will see that there are three (3) types of resources you

have to start your men on their path: a. Books b. Curriculum & Small Group Resources c. Conferences You might consider any of the three for the start, but the goal is to include each

man on your church’s pathway. Consider a. Selecting one of the books listed (“First Things First” or “The Man in the Mirror) and using it in the small groups you establish (see Appendix C,

Small Group Leader Manual), or b. from the Curriculum & Small Group – select “The Quest for Authentic

Manhood” by Robert Lewis – Men’s Fraternity. You could start your entire group on this resource, and the materials will, step by step, lead you through the preparation, the course, and the fellowship, or

c. use a Promise Keepers event to kick start your group. The “lesson to be learned” on the Promise Keeper event is to have plans ready to sustain the momentum after your men return from the PK event.

2. Sustaining the Momentum. Pat Morley of Man in the Mirror said it best.. “Sustaining easily ranks as the #1 challenge to Men’s Ministry.” Likewise, it will be your #1 issue to continually focus on as you go about the goal to intentionally make disciples. Morley has used a number of ideas to help illustrate how to sustain momentum in ministry, and this section uses, with permission and some adjustment, seven items to assist you and your men’s leadership team as you prepare to overcome this challenge. This is the time to rethink, relook and

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remember what it is we are planning to begin and sustain... intentionally making disciples.1 IDEA #1. Change Leadership’s Perception About the Size of Your Men’s Ministry, and specifically about who needs to be included in on the pathway to making disciples. What is the ministry in your church that gets the most resources? Probably the one that leadership perceives to make the greatest impact. What is the size of your ministry to make disciples? Count all the men in your church! That’s the size of your ministry and that’s the number of men that should be in the making disciples program! Think big!! Talk up the category of an “all inclusive” ministry to men and the making of disciples. Don’t think of this ministry as a small group of your most committed men, but think of it as everything we do in church that affects men…ushers, choir, Sunday School teachers, elders, deacons and..pew warmers. The more that leadership sees the importance of discipling every willing man in the church, the more support and, therefore, sustainability, your efforts will produce. Remember. the vision is to intentionally make disciples, the focus is on every man, and it takes a long time to make a disciple.

IDEA #2. Challenge leadership to model what you’re trying to create: Sustain momentum by helping your men’s leadership team become to each other what you want your men to become. Tom Skinner said, “We must become the live demonstration of the kingdom of Christ so that anytime someone wants to know what is going on in heaven, all they have to do is check on us.” Don’t just be a committee, but pray, study, fellowship, and care for each other. In other words, your men’s leadership team needs to model what you want to build. If your men’s leadership team models authentic relationships, in due time, men will see that and want to be part of it. Also it is doubtful if you can ever sustain momentum among men if the leaders can’t sustain momentum among themselves. A good motto.. “Let’s become to each other what we are asking our men to become.”

IDEA #3. A System: Reach new men by repeating the cycle: Build a system in the making of a discipleship pathway that periodically “starts over”, to reach men who may not be ready now; especially if you plan to start everyone in Step 1 at the same time. In your church you might decide to use different options on the pathway with those that are truly mature to begin in Step 2. The key here is that once you start men on the pathway…there are others that will come into your church, or who have missed the start of your first pathway training. Perhaps we can look at the pathway as one of continuing circular motion where men can enter periodically at step one, or even into steps 2-3 and 4 based on their maturity and the men’s leadership team’s plan. Men will obliviously drop out due to work, vacation or health problems. The pathway is dynamic and we need to recognize and plan for that.

1 The materials for “Sustaining the Momentum” are taken from the Man In The Mirror “Weekly Briefing” Vol 73-77, by Pat Morley. There are times when the materials have been added or shifted and/or eliminated in order to tailor this for use in the “Intentionally Making Disciples.” Materials from Man In The Mirror are used throughout the “Intentionally Making Disciples” and are used with permission of the author. The Man In The Mirror website is “maninthemirror.org”

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IDEA #4. Service: Send your men who are ready to serve or you will lose them. Sustain what you have by sending your men out to serve in positions on the Men’s Leadership Team (Pathway Small Group Leaders, Pathway Guides, etc). Once a man has grown to a point that he has a grateful heart, he will want to serve his Lord. He is not a disciple if he never wants to serve Christ. On the other hand, until a man has enough Jesus for himself, don’t ask him to give away what he himself lacks. Challenge your disciples to reach out and encourage other men to begin their pathway to becoming a disciple. A disciple is called, equipped, and sent—called to walk with Christ (evangelism), equipped to live like Christ (teaching), and sent to work for Christ (service). “This is my Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.” (John 15:8) Unless we send them, we will stunt their growth, and they will become spiritual dwarfs. Besides, a men’s ministry or a pathway to making disciples that doesn’t send men, is a “closed system” that will fail.

IDEA #5. Interdisciplinary: Foster interdisciplinary cooperation: Sustain your men’s ministry and the Intentionally Making Disciples ministry by meeting periodically with all the other ministry programs and department heads---Women’s Ministry, Children’s Ministry, Youth Ministry, Church Education, Seniors, Royal Rangers, Missionettes, and so on. Suggest an “Interdisciplinary Discipleship Council”—an IDC—that meets bimonthly or quarterly. The more you know about each other’s plans the better the total church planning you can do together. Also the visibility will create respect for the need to disciple men and the impact discipled men can have on the rest of the ministry programs...and the church.

IDEA #6. Expectation: Manage the expectations of the men’s leadership team: Are you frustrated that you want men to succeed more than they do themselves? That’s a formula for leadership dropout. Don’t’ expect more than the Bible promises. Expect for some men to drop out. Expect some men to drop away every time you ask them for a deeper level of commitment or to advance to another step on the pathway. Why? In the parable of the sower...some seed is snatched away, some withers, and some gets choked by life’s riches and worries. Part of sustaining momentum is not expecting too much. Neither should we expect a man to hear “the 10 things every Godly man believes” and then to “completely get it.” On the other hand...don’t expect less than the Bible promises. John 3:16, 1 Timothy 1:15, Luke 19:10, Matthew 13:24, John 15:8, and John 14:12. The problem is not that our plans are too big, but too small. Raise expectations. Educate the Men’s Leadership Team (and yourself) about what’s really going on. At team meetings ask what’s working, what’s not, and if it’s broken…fix it. There is a spiritual battle raging for the souls of your men. The secular symptoms we see like neglect, divorce, financial entrapment, and working too much are spiritual causalities of war. God wants us to help change these trends and to build Christ’s kingdom. It’s a battle we can win...and it has to do with our getting our men on the pathway to becoming disciples.

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IDEA #7. A Shepherd Model: Recruit “shepherds” rather than “teachers” to lead small groups and be Pathway Guides. Men respond to the gospel when they feel you really care about them personally. This means that the men don’t need a teacher as much as they need a shepherd. At a church of 5,000 in California, the men’s minister, Wes Brown, (yes, full time) experienced a quantum leap in ministry effectiveness when he changed his leadership model from “teaching” to “shepherding”. In the beginning he recruited “teachers” to lead his small groups. Success was modest. After 11 years he had 137 men in small groups. The he realized that what the men really needed was someone who cared about them…personally. He changed to a “shepherd” model and exploded to 750 men in just 4 years- a 550% increase. Give that some thought as you consider and train Pathway Small Group Leaders and Pathway Guides.

3. Record Keeping – Insure that the Secretary of the MLT maintains a Pathway Portfolio Form on each man in the church. Periodically check to see that each of the Pathway Guides is submitting their report on each of his men. Additionally, maintain the necessary records on Pathway Guides and Small Group Leaders, and periodically update the Pathway Forms.

“I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him,

bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing” (John 15:5)

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V. Appendix

A. The Pathway Map B. The Pathway Guide’s Checklist C. The Small Group Leader’s Manual D. The Pathway Resource List E. The Pathway Portfolio Form F. The Student Handout for Sessions 1 – 3 G. The Small Group Questions Handout for Sessions 1 – 3 H. The two DVD disks for Sessions 1 – 3

“And you will also bear witness, because you have been with Me from the beginning” (John 15:27).

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Christ in every sphere of life.”

Appendix A

(Adapted from material created by Lee’s Summit Community Church, Lee’s Summit, MO) Used by permission.

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Appendix B

Checklist for the Pathway Guide

Pathway Guide – Is a member of the Men’s Leadership Team. His function is to help guide participants through the Intentional Making Disciples Pathway. Some general procedures are:

1. Each Pathway Guide will be assigned 5-10 participants. (Perhaps one small group.) 2. A Pathway Guide needs to attend training on how to guide a participant through the

Intentional Discipleship Pathway. This training will be offered by the Men’s Leadership Team.

3. Pathway Guides are there to be a means of assistance, support, encouragement, and prayer for participants and Small Group Leaders.

4. Each Pathway Guide needs to have an initial consultation with each participant to help them access their spiritual maturity and plug them into the discipleship pathway process.

5. Pathway Guides will be responsible to help their participants’ signup for the training they need to complete their Pathway in a timely manner. The Pathway Guide should be continually informed and up-to-date on what training is being offered throughout the year.

6. Pathway Guides should call, email, or otherwise correspond with each participant on a regular basis, as well as seek to interact with them face to face quarterly.

7. Pathway Guides will turn in follow-up reports quarterly to the Men’s Leadership Team on each of their participants. This form will report each participant’s involvement and progress.

8. Pathway Guides will keep the Men’s Leadership Team informed of any concerns or difficulties in regard to their participants.

9. When a participant has completed a step on their Pathway, the Pathway Guide will assist in the recognition of their participant’s completion.

10. Each Pathway Guide should be himself, an active participant in their Pathway. They will be held accountable by the Men’s Leadership Team.

“The most important thing is that I complete my mission, the work that the Lord Jesus Christ gave me” (Acts 20:24).

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Appendix B

Pathway Guide

Quarterly Report Date: _____________________

Participant Update: Name: ________________________________________________________________________ Address:______________________________________________________________________ Daytime Phone: _____________________________ Evening Phone: _____________________ Email: ___________________________________________________ Indicate where they are on the Intentionally Making Disciples Path: First Base: Membership __________________________________________________________ Second Base: Maturity___________________________________________________________ Third Base: Ministry_____________________________________________________________ Home Base: Mission_____________________________________________________________ The benefits of the Intentionally Making Disciples Path expressed by the participant:

1. _________________________________________________________________________ 2. _________________________________________________________________________ 3. _________________________________________________________________________

The challenges of the Intentionally Making Disciples Path expressed by the participant:

1. _________________________________________________________________________ 2. _________________________________________________________________________ 3. _________________________________________________________________________

What are the immediate prayer needs expressed by the participant:

1. _________________________________________________________________________ 2. _________________________________________________________________________ 3. _________________________________________________________________________

Recommendations and Comments: __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Pathway Guide: Name: ________________________________________________________________________ Address: ______________________________________________________________________

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Daytime Phone: _______________________________Evening Phone: ____________________ Email: _______________________________________

Appendix C

Intentionally Making Disciples Small Group Leader’s Manual

A. General The purpose of the Small Group Leader’s Manual is to share with the Small Group Leaders those tested and reliable steps on how to participate in this ministry as your church strives to intentionally make disciples. 2

1. Be encouraged that the ministry of leading a small group is not hard; whether during the three sessions of the Intentionally Making Disciples or later as your church implements various resources that use small groups to complete the materials. Small groups are a vital key in the development and implementation of your churches Pathway for Making Disciples.

2. Be encouraged that you and your Pathway Guide make it possible to fulfill the goals of discipleship for your small groups, to build one another up, to grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ, and to equip the body of Christ to be able to make a difference in our world for Jesus.

3. In short, the purpose of this Manual is to equip you and other small group leaders of your church to participate in forming, guiding and expanding this ministry, and to encourage you in believing that the small group experience is the optimal place for men to grow into biblical manhood.

B. Determine your Pathway Strategy and Philosophy

1. General-In order to facilitate small groups, it is important that leaders understand the objective of the small group as it fits into the vision

of the church. 2. Vision of Small Groups-When starting a small group for men in your

church, it is important to communicate closely with your senior pastor and the others on the Pathway to fully understand how small groups will be part of the mission of the church in the discipling process.

3. Objectives of Small Groups-It is imperative that your leadership group establishes clear objectives for your small groups from the

outset. Everything you do in the groups need to be determined by the objectives. In recruiting leaders and men to be in the groups, you will

2 The materials are a direct lift from the book “How to Start Small Groups For Men,” by Steve Sonderman of Top Gun Ministries. There are times when materials have been added, shifted, and eliminated in order to produce a guide for the small group leader that supports both “Making Disciples 2004-2005,” and “Intentionally Making Disciples.” The book “How to Start Small Groups For Men,” is an exceptional book and will be listed as “recommended” for all men to read during the “Ministry Phase” of the Pathway (Step 3). Materials are used with permission of the author.

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want to make the following objectives clear:

a. Introducing men to Jesus Christ. b. Helping men become more fully devoted followers of Jesus. c. Encouraging believers to develop a lifestyle that is consistent

with knowing Jesus. d. Identifying and encouraging potential leaders for service in the church. e. Providing support for men who are struggling with an area of sin. f. Providing a place where men can be held accountable for their actions and

attitudes g. Having men commit to the process of completing the Pathway that has been

outlined for them as they intentionally become disciples.

C. Why Small Groups?

1. Why? a. As you consider directing a small group, one of the following comments might come to mind.

(1) I already have enough meetings, so why do I need another one? (2) What possible benefit does a small group provide me? (3) I really don’t have anything to offer a group of men.

b. These are thoughtful and honest concerns. Unless we see a real benefit to committing our time to something, we will not do it.

2. Five Reasons for You & Your Men to Be in a Small Group. a. Encouragement b. Accountability c. An opportunity to grow in Christ likeness d. An opportunity to function as a Body. e. An opportunity to continue the momentum from large events.

D. Principles for Building Dynamic Men’s Small Group

1. Find a Small Group Coordinator. a. The first step in beginning small groups for your church is to find a coordinator.

In light of the reality that nothing gets done without a leader, we highly recommend that you do not start your small groups until you have this person in place. If you already have a leadership team of three to five men, one of these men should be asked to head up the small group area.

b. Below is a sample job description for the coordinator of your small group ministry. (1) Recruit and train small group leaders. (2) Conduct in-service training sessions. (3) Assist small group leaders in group formation. (4) Promote small groups through all available means.

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(5) Shepherd or establish a system of shepherding the small group leaders. (6) Help develop an overall plan and philosophy for small groups.

(7) Commit to coordinating small groups for a period of one year.

2. Develop a Prayer Team-One of the most important aspects of putting together a small group ministry is prayer. Prayer will give you God’s directions, bring the right people forward, and are the key ingredient in changing lives through small groups. Prayer gives us the privilege of calling out to God to hear His plan and purpose for our small groups.

We encourage you to ask three to five men to form a prayer team.

You will be asking them to commit to pray for the small groups ministry once a week. On a quarterly basis you can provide them with requests for the ministry and small group leaders. Be certain to inform them of the answers to their prayers. There is nothing more encouraging than to hear answers to your prayers. NOTE: (See Encourage Men to Pray Daily and Share Openly.)

3. Promoting Small Groups-Do whatever you can to ignite enthusiasm as you are initiating small group ministry. The men of your church need to know there is a new opportunity specifically for them, not only in Intentionally Making Disciples, but in other small group ministry opportunities that might be used in your church. The size of your small groups could range from four to eight men. Ideally, the smaller the group, four to six, the better. Use the following promotional opportunities and others you may develop.

a. Pastor promotes from the pulpit. b. Kick-off event or special event that is geared specifically toward the men of the church is great. See the Resources Informational Manual for ideas in this area. c. Mailing to all men of the church, perhaps a letter from the pastor, not only announcing the small groups, but encouraging participation (consider e-mail). Include a response card. Also, consider a recorded voice mail message. d. Bulletin Announcements- For several weeks before the small groups start, use bulletin announcements to encourage men to attend. e. Referrals-Each leader should be encouraged to ask someone to join him in the group. Personal invitation makes the most sense today. f. Informational Meetings-Perhaps between services or just after a service, ask men to meet for a few minutes to come and hear about the small groups.

E. Recruiting and Training the Small Group Leader

1. Recruiting the Leaders-We suggest an interviewing process to help you in the recruiting phase of building your small group ministry. The

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Coordinator of your Small Group Ministry should arrange to meet in person with each man who has volunteered or has been assigned as a potential leader. These men will want to understand what is expected of them, so you will want to have a formalized job description available.

2. Questions to Ask a Potential Small Group Leader. a. Describe your daily walk with Jesus Christ. b. What does your wife think about you leading a small group? c. Describe your beliefs on how a person receives eternal life. d. Give three adjectives that describe your personality. e. How and when did you become a Christian? f. Have you ever led a small group before? If yes, describe. g. Give two or three people as personal references that have seen you in leadership

roles. h. What is your biggest concern about leading a small group? i. What are two or three areas in your life that you feel need improvement? What

are you doing in those areas? j. When would you be able to begin leading a group? Think through any obligations

that you have that would cause you to miss any small group meetings. k. Is there someone that you would like to co-facilitate a group?

3. Expectations of Potential Small Group Leaders. It is right and fair to discuss the expectations you have of your leaders during the interview with them. Below are five characteristics to look for in identifying men to lead your small groups: a. Models (I Timothy 4:12)-No, we are not looking for glamour models. What we are looking for are men who model in speech,

in life, in love, in faith, and impurity that they are following Jesus Christ and want to become more like Him.

b. Motivates (I Thess 5:11)-A good leader is someone who creates a winning environment. In your evaluation of small group leaders, you want to identify men who have a gift of motivating and a strong desire to help men become winners in life, at home, at work, and in their community.

c. Multiples (II Tim 2:2)-An effective small group leader is someone who wants to advance the kingdom of God by building into the lives of men so that they will do the same with others.

d. Mentors (I Thess 2:8-9)-A mentor believes in the principle that ministry occurs best through friendship. An effective small group leader has a strong desire to really get to know men, and enjoys spending time with them. He knows the value of maintaining friendships with the men in a group, and can communicate commitment to his friends.

e. Ministers (I Peter 5:2-3)-Finally, seek a small group leader who has the heart of a shepherd. The compassion to accept men where they are and give care to them, just as Jesus would, is a characteristic to be sought.

The previous section on the qualities of a leader can be consolidated to describe to him what kind of man you are seeking to fulfill this key

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role in the making of disciples. Without expecting unrealistic perfection, you can be clear that leadership involves some maturity in the following areas:

• knowledge of the gospel • authentic commitment to a growing relationship with Jesus • Godly character that evidences itself in the man’s lifestyle • relationships and attitudes, competency in guiding group discussions • the willing heart of a shepherd, and • a schedule free enough that the demand of the group will not be felt as a burden.

4. Job Description/Expectations for Small Group Leaders a. Regular church attendance. We suggest that all leaders be

church members. b. A leader should be making his personal devotion time a

priority. To share with the group what God is teaching you in private is a precious gift to a small group.

c. A leader will continue to seek to become ever more transformed into the likeness of Jesus. d. If you are going to have any training sessions, they must be

willing to attend the meetings. e. Each small group leader must be willing to commit to the

predetermined number of weeks for which the group will meet. f. Before each group session, the leader must be fully prepared

for the lesson that will be discussed. g. The small group leader is expected to develop a prayer team of

three or five people who will pray for him and the small group on a regular basis.

NOTE: See the “Small Group Leader’s Covenant”. 5. Training the Small Group Leader.

Once you have established who your small group leaders are, it is time to have a training session. Never ask a man to do something unless you are willing to train him to do it…and to continue with update training at least on an annual basis. Most of us in new positions have a fear of failure, but training sessions help overcome this fear. It is best to have a training session fairly close to when the small groups are going to begin, to help keep the information fresh in their minds. There are several ways to accomplish formal training. You can elect to cover all your topics in one morning or afternoon length meeting, or you may elect to break up the training over three consecutive Monday evenings. Keep in mind this principle about training: the best training for a small group leader is his own experience of a healthy small group, If you have never had a small group for your men before, you may want to lead a group of potential leaders first to give them a good experience and train them for leading a group afterwards.

If you have existing groups, ask the leaders of those groups who they feel is ready to lead a group. In successful small groups, this cycle of leadership training is what you should expect.

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As preparation for small group training, we suggest having your leaders read How to Start Small Groups for Men by Steve Sonderman and Brothers by Geoff Gorsuch. NOTE: See the “Training Session for Small Group Leaders”.

F. How to Facilitate the Small Group Meeting. 1. Use Guiding Questions to Facilitate a Discussion. - A small group leader encourages discussion; he does not lecture. The goal is to develop an atmosphere of openness and freedom. Men are often

willing to speak at length only about non-threatening topics, such as sport, their jobs, and the weather. However, when the discussion turns to more personal issues, men often have a tendency to say nothing or to be very guarded in their answers, so the leader needs to encourage creative questions to expand participation.

2. One of the key roles of the small group leader is to use leading questions to draw men out and encourage discussion. Here are five types of guiding questions and an example of each.

a. Extending Questions- “What can you add to this? Are there any other examples of this you can find in the lesson or in the Bible?”

b. Clarifying Questions- “What do you mean by that? Can you explain that in a fuller way?”

c. Justifying Questions- “Why did you say that? What is the thinking behind that statement?”

d. Redirecting Questions- “Interesting point, Tom. John, how would you answer that? What do you think?”

e. Summary Questions- “How would you summarize the last ten minutes of our discussion? What is the main principle that you will take away today?”

3. Tips for a Good First Meeting and Suggested Time Breakdown... It is often the little things that set the tone of the meetings. Planning, being organized, and being prepared gives the group members a sense of confidence. Most of these items are for the first meeting, the others are for all meetings.

a. Several Practical Tips Include: (1) Call everyone the day before the meeting to welcome and

to remind them of the meeting (use e-mail). (2) Pray for each man. (3) Have a comfortable physical setup.

(4) Have nametags available-at least for the first several weeks. (5) Start and finish on time-very important.

(6) Go over the covenant of confidentially. (See A Participant’s Covenant) b. Explain the format of the group. (During the first session)

(1) Number of weeks that the group will meet and length of time for each meeting?

(2) Will the group accept new members after the first week or two?

(3) What type of group is this? (Introductory, developing, equipping)

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(4) Handling of prayer times, requests and answers. (5) Any other commitments of the group-homework, outings, what’s expected?

c. Ice Breaker Questions for the First Meeting. Ask each person to... (1) Give his name and where he lives.

(2) Describe his family. (3) Give where he works and what he does. (4) Describe himself in three sentences or less.

d. Develop an Information Sheet. It should contain personal facts, like phone numbers, addresses, and family facts, for each group member. It can be handed out to everyone.

e. Suggested Time Breakdown of Small Groups-(If group is one and a half hours)

(1) Fellowship and prayer-10 minutes. (2) Studying the lesson-45 minutes. (3) Personal sharing and prayer-35 minutes. G. Pathway Guides and Their Roles- with the Small Groups. Recall that every man who starts the Intentional Making Disciples Pathway will have a Pathway Guide. It is important that the Pathway Guides act as cheerleaders and provide assistance to small group leaders, and as prayer warriors of the small group leaders. Besides the important role that the Pathway Guide plays in the Intentionally Making of Disciples, there are several important roles in which he will provide ongoing support to each small group leader:

1. Praying for the small group leaders every week. 2. Periodically calling the small group leaders who have men in their group that he is the

guide for and getting updates on their progress, as well as prayer requests. 3. Being available for any questions or problems that the small group leader might

encounter. 4. Renewing the vision and passion of the ministry, that is to assist men on the pathway

to intentionally becoming a disciple. 5. Paying periodic visits to groups that have any men that he is a Guide for---and

reinforce the small group leaders in front of the group, and lend encouragement. 6. For more on Pathway Guides, see the Guidelines for Being a Pathway Guide.

H. Summary: Our prayer is that you would allow God to lead you and your men in the exciting process of beginning small groups, in the context of the local church and the call of “Intentionally Making Disciples.”

Encouraging Men to Pray Daily and Share Openly • A Small Group Leader’s Covenant • Training Session for Small Group Leaders • Role of a Participant’s Covenant • Suggested Resources About Small Groups

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Appendix C

Encouraging Men to Pray Daily and Share Openly

A large number of men being introduced to small groups may have background where they are not accustomed to praying and especially praying out loud in a group. Your group may have men who are not Christians, or who have recently accepted Jesus Christ as their Savior, and may not know how to pray. Consider the following suggestions for encouraging prayer in your group. 1. Teach by example by demonstrating how to pray. 2. Ask for prayer requests and lead by sharing what you would like them to pray for on your behalf. The leader’s vulnerability in sharing his personal life can lead the group into great freedom to pray for what is REALLY on their minds. 3. Emphasize that there is no right or wrong way to pray – talk to God just as you would to anyone sitting in the group. The men shouldn’t pray because they feel pressured, but pray as they feel comfort and desire to do so. 4. Pray short, simple prayers, not long flowery ones. Someone who has never prayed out loud will appreciate that prayer can be as simple as a sentence of praise, confession or petition. 5. Encourage the men to learn to listen to the direction of the Spirit in prayer and to pray as they sense His leading. Show them how to let Scripture guide their thoughts toward God’s thoughts as you “pray through” Scripture. 6. Promote the “popcorn” method of prayer, which is where men pray as they feel led, rather than in any particular order or sequence. 7. Encourage the ABC’s of group prayer. A is for Audible, B is for Brief, and C is for Christ centered.

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Appendix C

A Small Group Leader’s Covenant

The leader making a formal commitment, and openly sharing with his small group what the commitment looks like, is an important ingredient to small group life. The small group will get off to its best start when group members look with respect at the diligent effort their leader will be making out of love for them. Sample of Small Group Leader’s Covenant

I dedicate myself to God and to the following disciplines, to the best of my ability: • Acknowledge and follow Jesus Christ as Lord each day. • Attend all meetings unless prevented by illness or excusable circumstances. • Spend time in God’s Word and in prayer daily and complete assignments for one year. • Support our church in attendance, financial resources, and prayer. • Share Jesus Christ as the Spirit leads. • Pray regularly for the members of our group. • Commit to the Pathway process. Signature: ______________________________ Date: ______________

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Appendix C

Training Session for Small Group Leaders

Three to four hours 1. Greetings, introductions and prayer – 10 minutes 2. Overview of training session – 10 minutes 3. Training Session – 60 minutes 4. Break – 15 minutes 5. Training Session – 60 minutes 6. Covenants – 15 minutes 7. Role-playing of different situations in small groups – 30-45 minutes 8. Closing prayer (men in groups of two to four) – 15-30 minutes Greetings, Introductions and Prayer – 10 minutes Allow the first minutes of the meeting to be informal. It is important that a tone is set that expresses appreciation for each of the leaders attending. From the start to the end, make this robust and exciting. Open the meeting with each man introducing himself, if necessary, and then pray. Overview of the training session – 10 minutes Take ten minutes to summarize what the training day is going to cover. Handout material should be distributed now so the men can familiarize themselves with what they will be doing. Training Sessions – Two one-hour sessions

• Vision of your ministry • Objectives of the small groups • Expectations of small group leaders • The role of a covenant for the participants • Practical items to help the first meeting go well • Suggested time breakdown of small groups • Leading a prayer and share time • Pathway Guides and their roles • How to lead discussions

Breaks – 15 minutes The men will find it helpful to ask questions and share thoughts among themselves during a few well-placed breaks in the training. It is a good idea to provide beverages for the break times. Covenants – 15 minutes During the time in which you discuss covenanting, you will want to encourage the leaders to sign and hand in their Small Group Leader’s Covenant. Role Playing – 30-45 minutes

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One of the most meaningful and exciting times in a small group training is breaking the men into groups of three or four to have them work on different scenarios that occur during small group interactions. This is effective preparation for the reality of handling the sticky moment they will surely encounter at some time as a discussion leader. For example;

• Members of the group are drifting away from the topic • A question is asked by a member, but the group moves on without addressing it • A group member is always turning the discussion to his personal problems • A member says his wife is considering leaving him • A group member verbally attacks a comment from another member • It has been three meetings since an active member has been in attendance • Someone in the group brings up a controversial topic For about thirty minutes, let the men discuss three or four of the above situations. Come back together as a large group to have the men share their thoughts on handling these scenarios. Remind your leaders that their group members may be bringing to the group some problems that are extreme. It may be wise to refer some men to a pastor, elder, or spiritual counselor at some point.

Closing Prayer – groups of two to four – 15 minutes This time is critical to the training session. The temptation might be to cut this time short, which would be unwise. Allow the men to pray together for an extended amount of time so that they might encourage one another and unite as leaders in a powerful way. If you are going to do the training over a series of weekday evenings, we recommend you take time each session to discuss different aspects of the book Brothers.

“Prepare your minds for action; discipline yourselves…” (1 Peter 1:13, NRSV) Appendix C

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A Participant’s Covenant

This agreement sets the tone that you want to characterize the group. It is hoped that by actually signing his name to a covenant, each man will take seriously the purposes for which the group is established. Most importantly, confidentiality is a commitment that you want to encourage each member to take seriously. Small Group Participant Covenant Total and complete confidentiality:

What I hear here, see here, and say here stays here. I will say nothing that may be traced back or that could be injurious or embarrassing to my group members. My group leader will refer me to a pastor if I am contemplating harming myself or doing harm to others.

Be open as you can with your life: I will be as open with my life at this time as I can. I will show myself to you, letting you know who I am as a person.

Unconditional love: I will love you and affirm you no matter what you have said or done in the past. I will love you as you are and for what Christ wants to make of you.

Voluntary accountability: I will ask the group to hold me accountable for specific areas of my life. With my permission you can ask me about the goals I set with God, my family, personal life, and world. I expect you to lovingly not “let me off the hook.” “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” --Proverbs 27:17 On the basis of this verse, I ask you to please share with me areas in my life that do not reflect Jesus, because I want to grow in personal holiness and be accountable.

Pray for one another: I promise to pray for the men in my group on a regular basis, to lift up their needs to the Lord,

Come prepared each week: I will have my work completed each week. I will make every effort to be at class; it will have high priority in my schedule. Commit to being part of the small group ministry for one year. Signed: ______________________________________ Date: ___________________

Appendix C

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Suggested Resources for Small Groups Donahue, Bill, Leading Life-Changing Small Groups, Grand Rapids, Zondervan, 2002. Donahue, Bill and Russ Robinson, The Seven Deadly Sins of Small Group Ministry, Grand Rapids, Zondervan, 2002 Galloway, Dale, The Small Group Book, Grand Rapids, Fleming H. Revell, 1995. George, Carl F., Nine Keys to Effective Small Groups, Mansfield, PA, Kingdom Publishing, 1997. Gorsuch, Geoff and Schaffer, Dan, Brothers, Colorado Springs, NavPress, 1994. McBride, Neal F., How to Lead Small Groups, Colorado Springs, NavPress, 1990. Top Gun Ministries, How to Start Small Groups for Men, Brookfield, WI, 2002.

Appendix D

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Men’s Ministries Pathway Resource List

The purpose of this Pathway Resource List is to provide a catalog of resources which can be considered in selecting training aides for the Intentionally Making Disciples (IMD). The resources are divided into the four basic steps of the IMD

A. Step One: Member

Books Blackaby, Henry & Blackaby, Tom, The Man God Uses Board, Russel, First Things First, LifeSprings Resources (Franklin Springs) Dalbey, Gordon, Maximum Journey Eldredge, John, Wild At Heart, Thomas Nelson Publishing (Nashville 2001) Morley, Patrick, Man in the Mirror, The, Thomas Nelson (Nashville, 1992) Perkins, Bill, When Good Men Are Tempted, Zondervan Publishing House (Grand Rapids,

1997) Curriculum & Small Groups Comstock, Roy L., Mentoring His Way Disciple Twelve; Volume One Spiritual

Characteristics of a Godly Man, (Santa Fe Springs, 2003) Mentors Guide for Volumes 1, 2, and 3 is available.

God Views, LifeSprings Resources Griffin, Greg, TGIW Hilman, Os (Marketplace Leaders), Reaching Men in the Marketplace Hybels, Bill, Too Busy Not to Pray Lewis, Robert M., Men’s Fraternity: The Quest for Authentic Manhood (Little Rock, 2004) LifeSprings Resources, God’s Views Morley, Patrick, Getting to Know the Man in the Mirror – Patrick Morley Schuller, Clarence, Experiencing Discipleship: A Small Group Faith-building Adventure Slaughter, Carolyn & Douglas, Cherri, A Follower’s Life (small group study) Seminars and Conferences Promise Keepers – Dr. Tom Fortson – www.promisekeepers.org Standing Firm – Sid Woodruff – www.lifeway.com B. Step Two: Maturity

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Books Arterburn, Stephen, Every Man’s Battle Beacham, Doug Jr., Light for the Journey, LifeSprings Resources (Franklin Springs) Blackaby, Henry, Holiness, Thomas Nelson Publishing (Nashville 2003) Bly, Stephen A., How To Be A Good Dad, Mood Press (Chicago, 1986) Canfield, Ken R., 7 Secrets of Effective Father, The, Tyndale House Publishers (Wheaton 1992) Carder, Dave, Torn Asunder Cooper, Rodney L., Shoulder to Shoulder, Zondervan (Grand Rapids, 1997) Dayton, Howard, Your Money Counts, Crown Financial Ministries Earle, Ralph & Laaser, Mark, Pornography Trap, The Farrar, Steve, Point Man Farris, Michael, How A Man Prepares His Daughters For Life, Bethany House Publishers

(Minneapolis 1996) Foster, Richard, Celebration of the Disciplines Gorsuch, Goeff, Brothers! Calling Men into Vital Relationships, NavPress Publishing Group

(Colorado Springs, 1994) Hamrin, Robert, Straight From A Dad’s Heart, Self-Published (1993) Handley, Rod, Character Counts: Who’s Counting Yours?, Cross Training Publishing

(Green Island, 1999) Handley, Rod, Character Counts: Who’s Counting Yours? Bible Study Guide, Cross

Training Publishing (Green Island, 2000) McGee, Robert S., Search For Significance Maxwell, John, Partners in Prayer, Thomas Nelson (Nashville, 1996) Osterhaus, James, Bonds of Iron, Moody Press (Chicago, 1994) Pike, Garnet, Receiving the Promise of the Father, LifeSprings Resources (Franklin Springs

1997) Reiland, Dan, Shoulder to Shoulder, Thomas Nelson (Nashville, 1997) Sandford, John, Why Some Christians Commit Adultery Wagner, C. Peter, Prayer Shield, Regal (Ventura, 1992) Warren, Rick, Purpose Driven Life, Zondervan (Grand Rapids, 2002) Curriculum & Small Groups Aycock, Chuck & Veerman, Dave, Dad’s That Make a Difference, (The Gathering, 2004) Cole, Edwin Louis, Courage, Watercolor Books (Southlake, 2002) Comstock, Roy L., Mentoring His Way Disciple Twelve; Volume Two Personal

Characteristics of a Godly Man, (Santa Fe Springs, 2003) Mentors Guide for Volumes 1, 2, and 3 is available.

Foster, Dr. Richard, Celebration of Discipline Gallagher, Steve, Fork in the Road, Pure Life Ministries (Dry Ridge, 2000) Heald, Jack & Cynthia, Loving Your Wife, NavPress (Colorado Springs, 1993) Kreider, Larry, Bottom-Line Faith, Tyndale House (Wheaton, 1995) Lewis, Robert M., Men’s Fraternity: The Great Adventure (Little Rock, 2005) Live & Lead God’s Way Maxwell, John, One Hour With God, Injoy (San Diego, 1994) Men’s Life – Small Group Material Parents & Children, NavPress (Colorado, 1992)

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Morley, Patrick, Seven Seas of a Man’s Life from Man in the Mirror Six Pack, The, LifeSprings Resources Zacarias, Ravi, Jesus Among Other Gods Seminars and Conferences Building Brothers – Dan Schaffer – www.buildingbrothers.org Capturing a Man’s Heart, Life and Family – Dr. Dan Erickson – www.peoplemattersministries.com Character That Counts – Rod Handley – www.characterthatcounts.org Christian Men’s Network – Paul Cole – www.edcole.org Couples on Target – Vince D’Acchioli – www.otm.org Dad the Family Shepherd – Dr. Jim Neal – www.dtfs.org Dad’s Coaching Clinic – Honorbound – www.honorbound.com Encouraging Men to Prayer – Rick Lindsay – www.encouragementopray.org Family Life – Dr. Dennis Rainey Great Dads – Dr. Robert Hamrin – www.greatdads.org Heart of a Godly Man – Dr. Glenn Wagner Maximum Journey – Gordon Dalbey Men on Target – Vince D’Acchioli – www.otm.org Men’s Fraternity – Dr. Robert Lewis National Center for Fathering – Dr. Ken Canfield – www.fathers.com Pure Life – Justin Carabello Reaching Your God Given Potential – Dr. Dan Erickson – www.peoplematterministries.com Walk Through the Bible – Alan Phillips C. Step Three: Ministry Books Bearing Fruit in God’s Family: #3, NavPress (Colorado Springs, 1999) Bennett, Ron, Intentional Disciplemaking, NavPress (Colorado Springs, 2001) Birle, Don, Surprised by Faith, Emerald Books (Lynnwood, 1992) Blackaby, Henry T. and Claude V. King, Experiencing God, Broadman & Holman

Publishers (Nashville, 1994) Bright, Bill, Witnessing Without Fear, Here’s Life Publishers (San Bernardino, 1987) Briscoe, Stuart, Discipleship for Ordinary People, Harold Shaw Publishers (Wheaton, 1995) Burkett, Larry, More Than Finances Coleman, Robert E., Master Plan of Evangelism, The, Fleming H. Revell Co. (Old Tappan, 1976) Conn, Harvie M., Evangelism: Doing Justice and Preaching Grace, Zondervan (Grand Rapids, 1982) D’Acchioli, Vince, Wired To Work!, Huntington House Publishers (Lafayette, 2001) Deepening Your Roots in God’s Family: #2, NavPress (Colorado Springs, 1999) Donovan, Daryl G., Men Mentoring Men: A Men’s Disciple Course, CSS Publishing Co. (Lima, 1998) Donovan, Daryl G., Men Mentoring Men Again: A Men’s Discipleship Course, CSS

Publishing Co., Inc. (Lima 2000) Downer, Phil, Eternal Impact, Harvest House Publishers (Eugene, 1997) Elmore, Tim, Mentoring: How to Invest Your Life in Others, EQUIP (Atlanta, 1998)

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Equipping the Saints, LifeSprings Resources (Franklin Springs) Fryling, Alice, Disciple-Makers’ Handbook, InterVarsity Press (Downers Grove, 1989) Growing Strong in God’s Family: #1, NavPress (Colorado Springs, 1999) Henrichsen, Walter A., Disciples are Made Not Born, Chariot Victor Publishing (Colorado Springs, 1998) Hull, Bill, Jesus Christ Disciple-Maker, Free Church Publications (Minneapolis, 1984) Hybels, Bill and Mark Mittleberg, Becoming a Contagious Christian, Zondervan (Grand Rapids, 1994) Lessons On Assurance, NavPress (Colorado Springs, 1980) Lessons On Christian Living, NavPress (Colorado Springs, 1980) Lost in America: How You and Your Church Can Impact The World Next Door Lucado, Max, It’s Not About Me Mason, Dr. R. Peter, Mentoring Men Makes a Difference (1999) Mittleberg, Mark, Building a Contagious Church, Zondervan (Grand Rapids, 2000) Morley, Patrick, Discipleship for the Man in the Mirror, Zondervan (Grand Rapids, 1998) Sonderman, Steve, How To Start Small Groups For Men, Top Gun Ministries (Elmbrook Church, 2002) Weston, Owen, Spiritual Gifts, Your Job Description, LifeSprings Resources (Franklin Springs) Curriculum & Small Groups Biblical Financial Study – Crown Financial Ministries Blackaby, Henry T., & Claude V. King, Experiencing God, Broadman & Holman Publishers

(1992) Equipping the Saints, LifeSprings Resources (Franklin Springs, GA) Fry, Bill – How Can I Share My Faith Without An Argument, RBC Ministries (Grand Rapids,

1997) Kennedy, D. James, Evangelism Explosion, (Wheaton, 1970) MCP Program – Ministry Training Program – LifeSprings Resources Men’s Ministries Action Plan – Man in the Mirror (Available in the Men’s Ministries

Resource Information Manual) Reach 3 – Man In The Mirror (Casselberry, FL) Trent, John, Making of a Godly Man, The Focus on the Family (Colorado, 1997) Underwood, B. E., Spiritual Gifts Ministries and Manifestations, LifeSprings Resources (Franklin Springs) Seminars and Conferences A Chosen Generation – Chuck Stecker – www.achosengeneration.org How to Build a Life-changing Men’s Ministry – Steve Sonderman (Top Gun) – www.topgunministries.org Protection of Children and Families – Rick Schatz Revival and Awakening – Dale Schlafer Servant Leadership – Dr. Dan Erickson – www.peoplematterministries.com D. Step Four: Mission

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Books Clinton, Making of a Leader, The Corrigan, T., 101 Ways to Create A Caring Group Donahue, Bill, Leading Life-Changing Small Groups Downer, Phil Editor, Effective Men’s Ministry, Zondervan (Grand Rapids, 2001) Farrar, Steve, Finishing Strong Garlow, James, Partners In Ministry Gilbert, Larry, & Spear, Cindy, Big Book of Job Descriptions for Ministry, The Hall, Eddy, Lay Ministry Revolution, The Hybels, Bill, Courageous Leadership Johnson, Dwight L., Transparent Leader, The London, H.B. & Wiseman, Neil, Heart of a Great Pastor, The London, H.B. & Wiseman, Neil, Pastors at Risk London, H.B. & Wiseman, Neil, Your Pastor is an Endangered Species Maxwell & Dorman, Becoming a Person of Influence

Maxwell, John, Developing the Leader Within You Morley, Patrick and David Delk, Men’s Ministry Action Plan, Man In The Mirror, Inc. Cassellberry, 1998) Murray, Andrew, Reaching Your World For Christ Nelson, Alan, Leading Ideas, to-the-point-training for Christian Leaders Promise Keepers, Vibrant Men’s Ministry, Promise Keepers (Denver, 1998) Roberts, Wes, Support Your Local Pastor Sonderman, Steve, How to Build a Life-Changing Men’s Ministry, Bethany House Publishers

(Minneapolis, 1996) Thorp, Karen Lee, How to Ask Great Questions Towns, Elmer, What Every Sunday School Teacher Should Know Underwood, B.E., Ministry of Intercession, LifeSprings Resources (Franklin Springs) Wilkes, Gene C., Jesus on Leadership Curriculum & Small Groups Blanchard, Ken & Ross, Lee, Lead Like Jesus Colson, Charles, Counter-cultural Christians Comstock, Roy L., Mentoring His Way Disciple Twelve; Volume Three Lifestyle Characteristics of a Godly Man, Santa Fe Springs, 2003 Mentors Guide for Volumes 1,2, and 3 available Lewis, Robert M., Men’s Fraternity: The Great Adventure (Little Rock, 2005) Friendship Evangelism – LifeSprings Resources (Franklin Springs, GA) Reach Three – IPHC Men’s Ministries Resource Information Manual, LifeSprings Resources (Franklin Springs, 2001) The 7 Laws of the Learner Video Kit & Workbook Warrington, Don & Albert, Leonard, Ministering at the Altar (Cleveland, TN 2002) Seminars and Conferences Adventures in Missions - Bill Britton Men for Missions International – Kent Keller E. Websites

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The following websites cover those basic organizations involved in ministry to men. Recommend periodic review of materials that reflect your selected pathway resources, as these websites will contain current, cutting-edge materials.

A Chosen Generation – www.achosengeneration.org Billy Graham Evangelistic Association – www.billygraham.org Billy Graham Center Institute of Evangelism – www.wheaton.edu/bgc/ioe/ioehome.html BoldPath Life Strategies – www.boldpathlife.com Building Brothers – www.buildingbrothers.org Caleb Ministries – www.calebministries.net Center for World Revival and Awakening – www.revivalandawakening.org Character That Counts – www.characterthatcounts.org Christian Men’s Network – www.edcole.org Church of God Life Builders Men’s Ministries – www.lifebuilders.to Church of God of Prophecy – www.cogop.org Dad the Family Shepherd – www.dtfs.org Discipleship Network of America – www.DNAministries.org Discipleship Networks of America – www.dnaministries.org Encourage Men to Pray – www.encouragementopray.org Ethnic Ministries – email: [email protected] Evangelical Free Church of America – www.efca.org/menministries.html Focus on the Family Institute – www.focusinstitute.org Free Methodist Men’s Ministry Int. www.fmcna.org/mmi Great Dads – www.greatdads.org HonorBound: Men of Promise – www.honorbound.com LifeSprings Resources - www.lifespringschristianstore.com LifeWay Christian Resources – www.lifeway.com Man In The Mirror – www.maninthemirror.com Men in Ministry, Inc. – www.meninministry.org Men of Integrity – www.menofintegrity.org Men’s Ministries, IPHC – www.iphc.org/laity.html Mentoring Ministries – www.mentoringministries.hypermart.net/index.html Ministry Coaching International – www.ministrycoaching.org National Center for Fathering – www.fathers.com National Coalition of Men’s Ministry – www.ncmm.org National Fatherhood Initiative – www.fatherhood.org Navigators – www.home.navigators.org/us On Target Ministries – www.otm.org People Matter Ministries – www.peoplematterministires.com ProActive Resources – www.proactres.com Promise Keepers – www.promisekeepers.org Search Ministries – www.searchmin.org The Gathering USA, Inc. – www.TheGathering.org The Navigators – www.lifecoach.org Top Gun Ministries – www.topgunministries.org United Methodist Men – www.gcumm.org Vision New England Men’s Ministries – www.VisionNewEngland.com

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Washington Area Coalition of Men’s Ministries – www.wacmm.org Young Business Leaders – www.ybl.org

“For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do” (Eph 2:10 NIV).

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Appendix E

Pathway Portfolio Form Name: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _______________________________ Address: __________________________________ E-mail Address: _______________________________ City & Zip_________________________________ Wife’s Name: _________________________________ Joined the church: ___________DOB: _________ Children: _____________________________________ Pathway Coach: ____________________________ Spiritual Gift(s): _______________________________ This form is used to assist each member along the pathway in our Ministry of Intentionally Making Disciples. Each of the steps has one resource indicated with an asterisk (*) as being a priority resource in that step. There are other resources mentioned in the Men’s Ministries Making Disciples Pathway Resource List that may be selected based on the resource availability and content.

A. Step 1: Member

Date Completed ______________ 1. Book: *First Things First by Russel Board: A study to help you begin

the growing up process…you will learn thirteen basics of your new life in Christ.

______________ 2. Book: The Man in the Mirror by Patrick Morley: A guide that will help apply life-changing Biblical principles. Explores identity, relationships, time, temperament and the means to bring lasting change.

______________ 3. Curriculum & Small Groups: Men’s Fraternity: The Quest for Authentic Manhood: A 24 session journey from the life-hindering wounds of life to a new place of wholeness where life is experienced as God intended.

______________ 4. Curriculum & Small Groups: Reach 3 from the office of Men’s Ministries: This is a

train the trainer on a ministry opportunity to equip our men, women, and youth, on how to offer Christ. It is part of the IPHC ten year plan to Reach 3/Plant 3. Easy to administer, intentionally seeks commitment, training, accountability, and witnessing.

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______________ 5. Curriculum & Small Groups: God Views, LifeSprings Resources. A video resource (93 minutes) for groups. Explores six common misconceptions of the nature of God. Experience God’s true nature and enter a journey of authentic transformation. Twelve sessions.

______________ 6. Seminars and Conferences: Promise Keepers ______________7.______________________________________________________________ (elective) B. Step 2: Maturity

Date Completed ______________ 1. Book: * Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren: Focus is on why you are

alive and God’s amazing plan for you – both here and now, and for eternity. Warren guides you through a forty day spiritual journey.

______________ 2. Book: Your Money Counts by Howard Dayton from Crown Financial Ministries: The Biblical guide to earning, spending, saving, investing, giving and getting out of debt.

______________ 3. Curriculum & Small Groups: Celebration of Discipline is a thirteen session video resource for small groups based on Dr. Richard Foster’s best selling book “Celebration of Discipline.” Explore twelve spiritual disciplines and how weaving these disciplines into our lives can deeply enrich our relationship with God.

______________ 4. Curriculum & Small Groups: The Six Pack, Life Springs Resources. This is a turn- key presentation on the six critical areas facing men of the Pentecostal Holiness Church. (a) Sex Sins – Pornography/Adultery ______________, (b) Marriage/Family ___________, (c) Father Wounds _____________, (d) Addictions – Alcohol, Drugs, etc. ____________, (e) Financial Entrapment _____________, and (f) Cultural Christians. ________________.

______________ 5. Seminars and Conferences: Dad’s Coaching Clinic from Honorbound: Helps dads become great dads through a coaching clinic for Christian and non-Christian dads alike. Use for weekend retreat, one day clinic or weekly small group meetings. Five sessions – English and Spanish. Includes leader’s guide, student guide, CD with PowerPoint

presentation and overhead masters, 2 videos covering all 16 coaching tips, promotional poster and registration form.

______________6. _________________________________________________________ (elective) C. Step 3: Ministry

Date Completed ______________ 1. Book: How To Start Small Groups For Men by Steve Sonderman from

Top Gun Ministries: A step by step guide to establishing small groups for your ministry. Covers the ministry from establishing a prayer team,

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recruiting and training leaders, promoting small groups, coaches, and a “here’s how” along each step.

______________ 2. Curriculum & Small Groups: * Spiritual Gifts Ministries and Manifestations by B. E. Underwood: Twenty spiritual gifts are explored and evaluation exercises are provided to assist in identifying individual ministry gifts and guidelines for manifestation gifts, are established. Twelve sessions – comes with teacher’s guide, student guide and thirty-four overheads.

______________ 3. Curriculum & Small Groups: *Biblical Financial Study from Crown Financial Ministries: Group meets for two hours each week for ten weeks on God’s financial principles.

______________4. ______________________________________________________________ (Elective) D. Step 4: Mission

Date Completed ______________ 1. Book: Jesus on Leadership by C. Gene Wilkes: Focus is on the Biblical

servant leadership of Jesus with seven principles presented. They tend to follow Jesus’ teachings and examples of leadership chronologically and reflect the deepening relationship between Jesus and His followers. (Suitable for small groups)

______________ 2. Book: Brothers! Calling Men into Vital Relationships by Goeff Gorsuch: What does it mean to be a brother in Christ? As you work through the discussion guide with other men, you’ll grow deeper in your relationships as you learn to accept one another as acquaintances, to encourage one another as friends, and to exhort one another as brothers. Eight sessions plus additional small group resources.

______________ 3. Curriculum & Small Groups: *Friendship Evangelism from LifeSprings Resources: A six lesson study to motivate and train people to become actively involved in regular witnessing. Includes teacher and student manual, as well as overheads and PowerPoint presentation on CD.

______________ 4. Curriculum & Small Groups: Men’s Ministry Action Plan from Man in the Mirror: This is a four week planning tool, using time-tested, biblical principles, to help evaluate and design an effective ministry for your church (or re-start one). Designed for individual or group study. This is included in Section VII of the Men’s Ministries Resource Information Manual.

______________ 5. Curriculum & Small Groups: Ministering at the Altar by Don Warrington and Leonard Albert: Combines an overview of the real meaning and spiritual qualifications of the altar worker with practical, real life suggestions on how to carry out effective ministry at the altar. Six week training course outlined…Companion CD includes PowerPoint presentations for all lectures, skits to demonstrate how to minister at the altar (and how not to), and teacher/student notes.

______________ 6. Curriculum & Small Groups: Men’s Fraternity: The Great Adventure: This 20 week study is designed to help men understand their true identity

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and guide them to break free from the bondage of boredom to embark on the adventure of their lives.

______________ 7. Seminars and Conferences: How to Build a Life-changing Men’s Ministry, by Steve Sonderman: This ten session video series is for the ministry leader and his team, to walk through the process of starting a men’s ministry from scratch. Based on Biblical principles that are transferable no matter what size the church.

_____________ 8. ______________________________________________________ (Elective) * Recommended by IPHC Ministries

“As Men Go – So Goes the Church” Pastor Jack Hayford

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Appendix F

Intentionally Making Disciples Session #1

It Starts With You! “Live a life in such a way that it demands an explanation.”

A. Three Critical Principles

1. We can only teach what we know! Intentional Discipleship 2. We can only lead where we are willing to go! Servant Leadership 3. We only reproduce who we are! Reproduction _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

B. We must be able to answer the following life questions

1. Who we are? Speaks to Our Identity (Luke 3:21-22) 2. Whose we are? Speaks to Our Significance/Value (Luke 3:21-22) 3. Why we were created? Speaks to Our Purpose (Luke 4:16-21) 4. What we are destined to become? Speaks to Our Potential (Luke 4:16-21) _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

C. Consider these vision questions

1. If you had unlimited resources and complete freedom to fail what would you do? 2. What is God dreaming in you? 3. In a sentence what is God’s vision for your life? _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

D. Consider the following steps in seeing your potential realized

1. Vision 2. Process 3. Leadership 4. Resources 5. Obstacles 6. Budget 7. Evaluate

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E. There are issues that are challenging us and the men we lead Men are…

Spiritually lost. Not satisfied with themselves. Not satisfied with their marriages and family life. Experience stress on the job. Caught in cycles of pain, addiction and sin. Confused about masculinity. Possess a “Father Wound.” Have abandoned their families. Struggle with sexual matters and caught in pornography. Deluded by the pursuit of false success & promises of wealth and power. Need male friends with whom they can be open and honest. Think God is mad at them. In a state of grief and despair. _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

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Appendix F

Intentionally Making Disciples

Session #2 Why Ministry to Men?

“Live a life in such a way that it echoes through eternity.”

Alexander Mitserlisch stated: “Society has torn the soul of a male, and into this tear the demons have fled – the demons of insecurity, selfishness and despair. Consequently, men do not know who they are as men. Rather they define themselves by what they do, who they know, or by what they own.” A. The Condition of Men in America

1. +/- 108 million men over 18 years. 2. 26 million claim to be born-again. 3. 82 million claim no relationship with God. 4. 85% of these were once in a church. 5. Since 1990 the number of men attending church has decreased from 43 to 28%. 6. Since 1991 the number of men born again has not changed. 7. Only half of men who are born again attend church on a regular base. _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

B. The Issues Facing Men

1. Spiritually Lost. 2. Not satisfied with themselves. 3. Not satisfied with their marriages and family life. 4. Experience stress on the job. 5. Caught in cycles of pain, addiction and sin. 6. Confused about Masculinity. 7. Possess a “Father Wound.” 8. Have abandoned their families. 9. Struggle with sexual matters and caught in pornography. 10. Deluded by the pursuit of false success & promises of wealth and power. 11. Need male friendship with whom they can be open and honest. 12. Think God is mad at them. 13. In a state of grief and despair. ___________________________________________________________________________

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C. What are the needs of Men today?

1. Need to know their identity, significance, purpose and potential. 2. Need significant friends and mentors. 3. Need discipline in their priorities and values. 4. Need to learn how to know God and how to be a disciple of Christ.

5. Need to learn how to be leaders in their marriage, home and church. 6. Need to learn what it means to be intimate. _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

D. What are the Influencers of Men?

1. Major Pressures a. Career and Success b. Finances c. Relationships d. Sexual temptation

2. Major Challenges a. The search for significance b. The desire to be in charge or take control c. The tendency to withdraw or be passive d. A competitive spirit

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George Barna states: “The adult male in our society is more likely to spend his Sundays watching sports than attending church service. The majority of un-churched men believe that participating in church life cannot be justified because the return on their investment of time, attention and energy is to slim.” (George Barna, Battle for the Hearts of Men, 1996) E. Why men don’t attend Church?

1. The Church is not relevant. 2. The Church is boring. 3. The Church is answering questions that men are not asking. 4. The Church is not friendly. 5. The Church is not a safe place. 6. The Church is not a good investment. _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

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F. What are the opportunities?

1. Men are looking for meaning and purpose in life. 2. Men are seeking understanding. 3. Men want solutions. 4. Men want to know God. 5. Men want effective ministry. 6. Men want friends. 7. Men want help with family issues.

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G. There are six unique ways God made men…

1. Men view space as safety. 2. Men like to communicate through questions. 3. Men are goal or challenge oriented.

4. Men have tunnel vision. 5. Men place a high value on rules and principles over relationships. 6. Men express their emotions through anger. _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

H. Establishing Relationship within a Male Context?

1. Encouragement 2. Honesty and integrity 3. Affirmation 4. Love 5. Concern 6. Trust 7. Listening 8. Acceptance 9. Laughter 10. Loyalty _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

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I. Benefits of Men’s Ministry?

1. Bridges the “knowing and the doing.” 2. Support the vision of the Pastor for the church. 3. Strengthens marriages and families. 4. Creates a safe place for men to grow in Christ. 5. Turns the heart of the fathers to the children and children to the fathers. 6. Reaches lost men. 7. Moves men into significant relationships. 8. Develops men into servant leaders. 9. Restores traditional values.

10. Builds a godly family legacy. 11. Provides biblical relevancy to issues and needs in a man’s life. 12. Provides entry points for every man to be involved. 13. Provides training and understanding for men to feel prepared to serve their family and

church. 14. Frees the pastor to be a shepherd and focus the vision of the church. 15. Develops church leadership. 16. Mobilizes men to pray. 17. Strengthens the mission and ministry of the church. 18. Enhances church growth. ___________________________________________________________________________

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J. Keys to Effective Ministry to Men?

1. Prayer 2. Biblically Based 3. Context 4. Inclusion 5. Leadership 6. Planning 7. Managing 8. Variety 9. Relationship 10. Discipleship 11. Outreach 12. Training _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

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K. Warnings?

1. Don’t start without the Pastor. 2. Don’t start without a Men’s Leadership Team. 3. Don’t start without Prayer. 4. Don’t start without a clear Vision. 5. Don’t start without Preparation 6. Don’t start without a Discipleship Path. 7. Don’t start without a Strategic Plan. 8. Don’t try too much too fast too soon. 9. Don’t mix genders, Men Only! 10. Don’t neglect focus on Relationship. 11. Don’t give up! ___________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

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Appendix F

Intentionally Making Disciples Session #3

Intentional Discipleship Process “He didn’t call us to fit in. He called us to stand out.”

A. True discipleship is a revolution of love and obedience.

1. Great Commandment. 2. Great Commission. __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

B. The goal of a disciple is to learn how to walk and please God.

1Thess. 4:1 ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________

C. True discipleship is from the heart. John 15:4-7 1. Is obedient. John 15:14-15 2. Is servant-oriented not self-serving. John 15: 20-25 3. Is a witness of Christ. John 15: 26-27 ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________

D. Love is the reason and motivation for discipleship. John 15: 9-10

1. Accept His love. 2. Love Him. 3. Love others. 4. Share His love. __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

E. God is glorified by the fruit of true discipleship. John 15: 8 1. Transformed character. Gal 5:22 2. Making disciples. Phil 1:22 3. Praise from our lips. Heb 13:15 __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

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F. Joy is a result of being a true disciple. John 15: 11 1. God is interested in my joy. 2. Joy of the Lord is my strength.

a. Joy comes in relationship with Him. b. Joy comes in being used by Him –bearing fruit in character and influence. c. Joy comes in experiencing God’s answer to prayer.

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Appendix G

Intentionally Making Disciples Session #1

It Starts With You! Breakout Questions

1. In a sentence could you describe God’s vision for your life? ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

2. If you had unlimited resources and complete freedom to fail would you be doing what you are currently doing? Is it meeting God’s vision for your life? ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

3. If the answer to number two is no, what are you going to do with the rest of your life? ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

4. If the answer to number two is yes, are you maximizing your potential? If changes are needed, what might they be? ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

5. Put your vision through the steps of letter “D” in your handout. ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

6. What have I learned best from this session? ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

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Appendix G

Intentionally Making Disciples

Session #2 Why Ministry To Men?

Breakout Questions

1. Why do you think men are not attending churches in America? ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

2. Why do you think men are not attending our churches? ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

3. Why do you think pastors/churches have such a difficult time seeing men as a priority? ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

4. What are the strengths and non-strengths of your ministry to men? ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

5. Do you have the following:

o The complete support of our Senior pastor (s). ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

o A Men’s Leadership Team leading our Men’s Ministry. ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

o A goal to consecrate our men in prayer. ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

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o A clear vision for men. ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

o A safe environment for men. (male friendly) ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

o A clear path for discipling our men? ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

o A strategic plan in our Men’s Ministry? ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

o We seek to have every man in relationships with other men. ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

6. Do you personally have a clear calling to minister to men? ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

7. What stands out most about what I have learned from this session? ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

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Appendix G

Intentionally Making Disciples Session #3

The Intentional Discipleship Process Breakout Questions

1. What changes would you make to the definition of a discipled man?

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2. Do you agree with the four areas in which every man must be engaged in order to become a true disciple? What would you change?

o A branch that abides – Every man a member

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o A friend who obeys – Every man spiritually mature ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

o A servant who lives – Every mature member a minister ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

o A witness who speaks - Every minister on God’s mission ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

3. What would you require a man to have learned or experienced before moving on to each of the areas of the ID Process. What Resources would you include?

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o Home to First base – Member ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

o First to Second base– Maturity ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

o Second to Third base– Minister ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

o Third to Home – Mission ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________