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FOR EARLYGARDENING

15 BIRDSTO WATCH

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Pictures from the pastJim Aakhus has amassed a collection of hundreds of vintage Bemidji postcards.

GreenhousesTwo Bemidji greenhouses get an early jump on the springtime planting season.

GrillingLarisa Severson shares her favorite grilling recipes.

Tough circumstancesExperts offer tips on what to say and do when a friend is going through diffi cult times.

Features

In this issueBird-watching

Glazed and Amused

Chattin’ with Dennis

All about maple syruping

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AMERICAN ROBIN

OSPREYGRAY CATBIRD

RUBY-THROATED HUMMINGBIRD

BIRDWATCHING

RED-WINGED BLACKBIRDThe American robin is found almost everywhere in North America. A common misconception is that all robins migrate south for the winter. However, some spend winter as far north as Canada!

Every spring birds start to fl ock back to Minnesota for breeding season and some arrive sooner than others. We decided to share with you some of the more popular returning birds along with a fun fact, backyard tips and when to start looking for them. Information mostly found at www.allaboutbirds.org.

An osprey may log more than 160,000 migration miles during its 15- to 20-year lifetime. One osprey fl ew 2,700 miles in 13 days, from Martha’s Vineyard, Mass. to French Guianna, South America.

Consider putting up a nest platform to attract a breeding pair. However, make sure to put it up well before breeding season.

Plant tubular fl owers or set up a hummingbird feeder. Mix one-quarter cup of table sugar per cup of water. Food coloring is unnecessary. Change the liquid out often.

Plant shrubs in areas of your yard near young deciduous trees. You can also plant native fruit-bearing trees.

They enjoy mixed grains and seeds, especially on the ground as that’s where they prefer to feed.

They often come to bird feeders for seeds, but they also enjoy fruit.

When leaving and returning the ruby-throated hummingbird often fl ys over the vast Gulf of Mexio, a nonstop journey that takes about 18 hours.

The gray catbirds are relatives of mockingbirds and thrashers, and they share that group’s vocal abilities, allowing them to copy sounds to make their own.

Glossy-black males have scarlet-and-yellow shoulder patches they can puff up or hide depending on how confi dent they feel.

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Watch for these 5 other common birds:

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BALTIMORE ORIOLE

YELLOW-RUMPED WARBLER

COMMON LOON

EASTERN BLUEBIRD

GREAT BLUE HERON

Cut oranges in half and hang them from trees or purchase an oriole feeder. Can also plant bright fruit and nectar-bearing fl owers, like raspberries, crab apples and trumpet vines.

Try putting out sunfl ower seeds, raisins, suet, and peanut butter. They will sometimes come to a bird feeder.

If you live near a large pond or alake, you might get to enjoy these birds almost daily. Otherwise, they probably won’t be in your yard.

Consider putting up a nest box to attract a breeding pair. They may also come to bird feeders.

Although it’s unlikely you’ll spot them in your backyard, they may pay you an unwelcome visit if your yard has a fi sh pond.

Balimore orioles are often heard, with their rich, whistling song, more than they are seen as they feed in high trees.

The yellow-rumped warbler is the only warbler able to digest waxes found in bayberries and wax myrtles.

Loons only go ashore to mate and incubate eggs. Their legs are placed far back on their bodies, allowing effi cient swimming but only awkward movement on land.

The male attracts a female with his nest cavity. He brings material to the hole, goes in and out, and waves his wings while perched above it. That’s pretty much his contribution to nest building.

Despite their impressive size, great blue herons only weigh 5 to 6 pounds thanks in part to their hollow bones - a feature all birds share.

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PICTURESFROM THE PAST

by Maggi Stivers staff writerPhotography by Monte Draper

Jim Aakhus grew up in Bemidji but had to move away before his senior year of high school. While he went on to live in different places for 40 years, he found a way to stay connected to the place he considers his

hometown: vintage postcards. About a decade ago, Aakhus began

searching for vintage Bemidji postcards, those that featured pictures of the town the way he remembered it.

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Aakhus had heard rumors of “Bemidji stuff” being sold on eBay so that’s where he began.

Aakhus at fi rst was able to fi nd some postcards there, but he quickly realized the same versions were being sold by different sellers.

“I bought a few on eBay because I didn’t have them and then, from being an antique guy, I went to antique fl ea markets,” he said.

Vintage postcard dealers at these events would have for sale postcards from all over the United States and the world.

“I would go to the Minnesota section and then they usually have them (alphabetized) by the fi rst letter of the city, so I would go to ‘B,’” Aakhus explained.

Aakhus moved with his family to Bemidji in 1963, when he was in fi rst grade and attended J.W. Smith Elementary School.

His family stayed in Bemidji until the summer before his senior year when they moved to Fergus Falls. His mom agreed to let Aakhus stay in Bemidji for that school year as long as he found a place to stay, which he did.

“But two weeks before school started, my senior year, I started to miss my brothers so I moved to Fergus,” he said.

After retiring in June, Aakhus moved back to Bemidji, buying the family cabin in Lavinia that his grandparents had purchased in 1948.

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Most of the postcards he’s purchased over the years have cost between 50 cents and $5, but Aakhus once spent around $25 on a single postcard that alluded to a favorite memory.

“There was a little grocery store near Lavinia, where the cabin is, and as a little boy I used to go to that store; it’s gone now,” he said.

While Aakhus was hunting for postcards, after he’d collected around 20, he started to have a hard time remembering which postcards he had.

“I haven’t looked in probably three years because I think I have all the ones (that exist),” he said, “I have many doubles so I just gave those away to people.”

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Recently with the help of his sister, Aakhus started posting pictures of his postcards on the “You might be from Bemidji, MN….” Facebook page.

“Just by posting them on Facebook is how I did my research,” he said. “Some of these postcards have (posted online) brought about 150 responses.”

He now has hundreds of postcards.Most are from the 1950s, 1960s and 1970s and those

are the ones that he will show to people, but he also has several around the early 1900s.

His favorite part of collecting them was the hunt, but also “the memories that they inspire.”

“I’m a believer (in) staying connected with the past, not living in the past but staying connected to it because it is part of who we are,” he said.·

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Chattin’with Dennis

by Dennis Doeden publisher

Bob Montebello is retired. It just doesn’t seem like it. The 88-year-old former Bemidji State University professor and baseball coach leads a busy life, much of it outdoors. He enjoys fi shing, cross-country skiing, gardening and yard work at home and at his church, and just being outside.

Bob is one of the area’s most prolifi c harvesters of maple syrup. He started almost 30 years ago, working with the late Earle Dickinson in the forests around Buena Vista Ski Area. These days, Les Pederson is Bob’s main partner. They have had other helpers along the way, always sharing the jars of their labor.

And there’s plenty of labor, from tapping the trees to collecting sap to boiling it down in the sugar shack to fi nishing it back at the house. Then washing all the buckets so they’re ready for next year.

We wanted to know more about Bob’s springtime hobby.

in: What do you like most about syruping?BM: It’s just another way to get out in the woods, and when the spring is breaking and it’s really nice kind of weather, it’s beautiful to be out in the woods then, no bugs, and you’re kind of a farmer in the sense that you’re collecting something that is usable. I know our family really likes to have the pure maple syrup. It’s just an

adventure. I was always interested in doing something new. We use it as gifts for our friends and family, and church. We donate it to the church for their bake sales. I never have enough of it.

in: Any advice for someone who wants to get into it?BM: Maple syruping is very labor intensive. It involves a couple of months of very labor-intensive work. So it’s fun as well as work. You need to be someone who wants to get out and be dirty, get muddy at times. Walk in snow up to your hips, carry buckets of sap, which are not light once they get halfway full. But it’s so rewarding. I always get a kick out of the grandkids because they refuse to use any other kind of syrup. They want Grandpa’s syrup.

in: Just like fi shing, you’re not always successful, right?BM: It can be very frustrating when you only have maybe one week out of the whole season where the sap fl ows well and you gain some sap to boil down. The last few years have been kind of frustrating. You start out with great anticipation in the middle of March and hoping the tap will run. Then you get some cold weather and the trees just shut down. Then you might get a couple of nice days and they start running again and boy you’re really picking up sap and you’re working like heck to get what is available. Then it will shut down again. If it gets too warm and the trees start budding out, you’ve got to quit.

in: Most important question: Pancakes or waffl es?BM: Oh, both. It’s all about the syrup.

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MAPLE SYRUPINGALL ABOUT Sugar maples are generally believed to make the best maple

syrup because their sap is sweetest.

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Insert spile: Drill a hole in the trunk of a large maple tree at a slightly upward angle and pound a short, hollow tube — called a spile — into the hole.

Collect the sap: Hang a jug or bucket from the spile to collect the sap as it drips. A large tree can produce several gallons of sap per day when the weather is right. At first you might not get much sap and that’s OK. Collect the sap each day, pour it into another clean jug or bucket, and

store it in a cold place until you have at least three gallons.Boil the sap: After collecting the watery sap, put it over a fire (or outdoor propane burner) to boil. As the water boils away, the remaining liquid becomes sweeter as the sugar becomes more concentrated. Three to four gallons of sap should be boiled down to two quarts, which could take three to six hours.

Strain the sap: Strain the boiled sap through a strainer lined with clean, cotton fabric into a heavy one-gallon pot.

Store your syrup: Pour the hot syrup into a clean canning jar and cover it with a clean lid. When the jar is cool, store it in the refrigerator.

Test the boiled sap: Continue boiling your partially cooked sap on the kitchen stove. When the sap has cooked down to about two cups, it’s nearly ready. When small bubbles cover the surface and begin to foam, carefully dip a cool metal spatula or large spoon into the syrup and hold it over a plate and watch it drip. The syrup will drip off quickly at first, but the last bit should slide off in a small sheet — this is called aproning. If your syrup doesn’t apron, keep cooking and test it again in a few minutes.

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Signs of lifeGreenhouses preparing for springtime sales

“It’s kind of like Christmas. We’ll start real heavily in March and be done by June.”Chad Museus, Nature’sEdge Garden Center

by Jillian Gandsey staff writerPhotography by Jillian Gandsey

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The first day of spring is March 20, but most of us in northern Minnesota know not to expect anything spring-like for at least another month.

However, greenhouses and garden centers see greenery before the rest of us do as they begin their planting in early February. Flowers and plants of all shapes and sizes begin to sprout in about the middle of the month.

At Nature’s Edge Garden Center in Bemidji, Tyler Olsen and Chad Museus have built what they call a “makeshift seeding chamber” for their seedlings to begin their first chapter of life. Then, in the beginning of March, the two will heat their main greenhouse and move the plants under actual sunlight, rather than heat lamps, to grow.

The seedlings start in a chamber that’s inside where their retail selection of garden items is during the spring and summer months. Another chamber is also located in their greenhouse for another batch of seedlings to be planted in.

“I think it’s funny just seeing them in here and then you put them in there for a couple days -- they come to life,” Tyler said.

Tyler is in charge of the seeding at Nature’s Edge and

in the chamber he grows 400 to 500 plants, including wave petunias, pansies, dahlias, celosia flowers, coleus, different grasses and much more.

“We work so hard for literally six weeks of season,” Chad said. “I mean it’s kind of like Christmas. We’ll start real heavily in March and be done by June.”

The peak busy season for the garden center is usually from Mother’s Day, which is on May 10 this year, to Memorial Day, May 25, according to Chad and Tyler, who also said that the weather is a huge factor.

“We had a Saturday before Mother’s Day a few years ago, and it was sunny and beautiful and we were so busy and then it started to snow at about 3 o’clock and I think we had about two customers from 3 to 8 p.m.,” Chad said. “It’s all weather.”

Nature’s Edge Garden Center is located at 51676 U.S. Highway 71, just south of Bemidji and just six miles down the road is Country Greenhouse, at 49274 U.S. Highway 71.

The two businesses are close in location and cordial in relationship. Nature’s Edge has been open and growing since 2007 and Country Greenhouse has been operating for nearly 25 years on 22 acres of land.

In the middle of April, Country Greenhouse plants several thousand trees, including about 1,000 that are fruit trees.

“Mostly apples but it’s crab apples, plums, cherries, apricots, pears, but apples is the biggest,” said Dwayne Totzauer, owner. “Everybody loves apples.”

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“It’s fun to work with all of the other greenhouses,” said Dwayne Totzauer, owner of Country Greenhouse. “I like working with the guys up the road. I appreciate being able to have them to send people to and they send people to us.”

Dwayne said that a lot of the work his employees do happens in the middle of April when they plant several thousand trees, about 1,000 of those are fruit trees.

“Mostly apples but it’s crab apples, plums, cherries, apricots, pears, but apples is the biggest,” Dwayne said. “Everybody loves apples.”

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Plan gardens. Draw diagrams. Keep notes.

Look through seed catalogs and decide on varieties for our hardiness zone and season length. Order or purchase varieties and organize them for planting time.

Clean and disinfect seed starting equipment. Check lighting. Start seeds that need an early start (not tomatoes or squash!).

Sharpen tools. Sand and oil handles.

Prune apple trees.

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grillingspringtime

by Maggi Stivers staff writerPhotography by Jillian Gandsey and Maggi Stivers

With each snowfall, after clearing the driveway and vehicles, the Seversons also clean off their grill. No matter what the season is, the family

often uses the grill to prepare dinner, although as the snow starts to melt each spring, Larisa and Jon do fi nd themselves grilling dinner more often.

In these pages, Larisa shows us three main dishes that she and Jon prepared with their grill. While grilling is typically a quick method for cooking meat, it can involve a fair amount of preparation. Two recipes that follow here — the Grilled Teriyaki Beef Kabobs and the Marinated Chicken Breasts — require an overnight in the fridge to marinate properly.

Each main meat dish that Larisa prepared has a story to go along with it. Larisa’s father used to make teriya-ki beef kabobs and she follows similar steps. With each skewer, she always starts with a pepper and is sure to end with the same color. She also maintains a pattern of

alternating between the meat and vegetable. There’s nothing too fancy about the chicken breasts, a

staple in the grilling world, but it happens to be a favorite meal of Larisa’s son, Alex.

While the cheeseburger that Larisa made only has a few ingredients, they combine to make a delicious burger, and once she adds the bacon jam, the whole dish comes together. Bacon jam is something that Larisa was inspired to make at home after visiting a local restaurant. She looked up several different recipes at home but was not inspired. Knowing what she wanted it to taste like, she tried a few different recipes until achieving the taste she wanted.

Potatoes, along with pasta, make a great side for a grilled entree. Potatoes can even be made on the grill. Sometimes they can take longer than the meal, though, so it can be an easy step to prepare the potatoes fi rst and let them get a head start while you prepare the meat.

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Ingredients1 32-oz bag frozen southern style potatoes

2 10.5-oz cans cream of chicken soup

2 c. shredded Colby Jack cheese

1 12-oz tub of Top the Tater (or sour cream

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1 stick butter

3 c. cornflake crumbs

2 T. onion flakes

2 t. garlic salt

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2 red bell peppers

2 orange bell peppers

2 yellow bell peppers

2 large onions

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1 t. onion flakes

2 to 3 t. Worcestershire sauce

1 t. garlic salt

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1 medium

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2 T. maple syrup

2 t. Heinz 57 sauce

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1 medium

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1/2 t. garlic salt

1/2 t. seasoning salt

1 t. black pepper

4 T. butter

olive oil

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baking dish.

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bs and m

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375 degrees for one hour.

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Cut beef into 1-inch cubes and place into a large Z

iploc baggie or large bowl

with a lid. Pour the entire bottle of m

arinade over the beef, making sure all

pieces are coated, and refrigerate overnight.

The next day, you can begin putting the kabobs together. If you are planning

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heat for about 15 m

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onions to the pan on low heat, adding the m

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Layer the aluminum

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potatoes and onions in the center, sprinkling with the garlic salt, seasoning

salt, pepper, and dot with butter and a drizzle of olive oil. W

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Fat has fl avor and helps keep the burgers moist and juicy. Make sure the fat content is about 18 to 20 percent of the mix. This helps to guarantee fl avorful burgers.

Keep the meat cold. Chilled burger patties will fi rm up and hold their shape better during cooking.

Don’t overhandle the meat. Compressing the meat and handling it too much can lead to dry, dense burgers. Keep your hands wet while shaping the patties so they’ll come together easily.

Make sure the grill is super-hot. The goal is to cook burgers over high heat and fast. It may only take

three to fi ve minutes per side to cook the burgers, depending on the thickness of the patty.

Flip only once. Wait until the burgers have been grilling for a few minutes and release easily from the grill grate. Flip them over and allow them to cook a few minutes more. This helps keep the juices inside the meat and prevents your burgers from turning into burnt hockey pucks.

Resist the urge to squash the burgers. Pushing down on the burgers with the spatula will only force the juices out. If you want dry burgers, press them down. If you want nice, juicy burgers, step away from the spatula.

Allow the burgers to rest. Take the burgers off the grill and let them rest for 5 minutes so that all of their juice redistributes through the patty.

Chicken BreastsIngredients4 boneless skinless chicken breasts

1 16-oz. bottle Zesty Italian salad dressing

DirectionsPlace the chicken breasts into a large Ziploc baggie and pour the salad dressing into the baggie. Remove as much air as possible, seal the baggie and massage the bag making sure all the chicken is coated. Place baggie in a bowl and refrigerate overnight. Grill on medium to high heat for 8 minutes per side or until juices run clear. Discard the marinade and do not reuse.

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What:Taste of Home Cooking School & Vendor Show

When:Tuesday, April 21

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IngredientsFilling:

1 8-oz pkg. cream cheese, at room temp

1 unbeaten egg

1/2 c. sugar

1/8 t. salt

1 12-oz bag miniature semi sweet chocolate chips

Cupcake batter:

1 1/2 c. fl our, sifted

1 c. sugar

1/4 c. cocoa powder

1 t. baking soda

1/2 t. salt

1 c. water

1 t. vinegar, white

1 t. vanilla

Cool Whip Cream Cheese Frosting:

12 oz Cool Whip, thawed

8 oz cream cheese, softened

3 T. powdered sugar

1 t. vanilla

DirectionsFilling: In a small bowl, mix all ingredients together and set aside.

Line cupcake tins with paper cups and fi ll half full with cupcake batter and top with approximately 1 t. of the cream cheese fi lling. Bake at 350 degrees for 20 minutes.

***COOK’S NOTES***

If you don’t want to make the cake mixture from scratch, a Devil’s Food cake mix works great. Just follow the directions for preparation on the back of the box, just adding 1 t. of vanilla.

To ensure your cupcakes are the same size and have the same amount of fi lling, use a medium-sized ice cream scoop for the cake batter and a smaller melon ball-sized one for the fi lling.

Frosting the cupcakes is optional. You could also opt to dust them with powdered sugar or enjoy them plain.

Chocolate Cream CheeseCupcakes

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PREP: 10 minutes, plus overnight in fridge (or 30 minutes in the freezer)FINISHING: 30-45 minutes

WHAT YOU NEED IN THE KITCHENmixing bowlfood processor*spatuladouble broiler**wax paper

INGREDIENTS 1 pkg Oreos (regular)***1 pkg cream cheese1 pkg of chocolate almond bark

1. Open the cream cheese and put it in your mixing bowl. It should be very soft and easy to stir. If you just took it out of the fridge, microwave it for about 30 seconds.

2. Grind up the entire package of Oreos in the food processor. When done, you should have finely ground Oreo crumbles.

3. Set aside 1/8 of a cup of crumbles for later use.

4. Dump remaining crumbs into your mixing bowl on top of the cream cheese.

5. Slowly stir the Oreo crumbles and cream cheese together until it looks like it has a thick brownie or fudge consistency.

6. Place the mixture in the fridge overnight. If you don’t have time to let it sit overnight, you can put it in the freezer for 30 minutes. (Putting it in

a cold space to set is the key to making the perfect truffles. The cold temperature makes the process of dipping the truffles into the chocolate a lot smoother.)

7. Once you’re ready to finish the truffles, pull out your double broiler and fill the bottom with water about an inch and a half up from the bottom.

8. Turn heat to medium.9. Put half of the package of

almond bark into the broiler pan and let it melt.

10. While the almond bark is melting, lay a piece of wax paper down on a nearby counter.

11. Remove truffles from the fridge (or freezer).

12. Spoon out small chunks of the truffle mixture and roll it into balls about a quarter-size in

diameter.13. Once the almond bark is

melted completely and all of your truffles are rolled, drop a truffle into the melted chocolate.

14. Using a spoon, pick up the truffle and shake off any excess almond bark. Gently lay the truffle onto the wax paper.Repeat Step 14 until you are finished coating all the truffles in the almond bark. Tip: If you are getting low on almond bark, feel free to use more from your original package.

15. Once done, use a tiny bit of almond bark and plop one dab onto each of the truffles.

16. Sprinkle some of the Oreo crumbles that you saved in Step 3 atop each truffle.

NOTES:*If you have one. The first few times I made this, I put the cookies in Ziploc baggies and smashed them with a hammer. If you don’t have a food processor, get creative.

**If you do not have a double broiler, find two pots similar in size that can stack on top of each other nicely.***A fun alternative to the traditional Oreo Truffle is the Mint

Oreo Truffle. The entire process is the same aside from two key things: You will want to buy mint Oreos instead of regular and rather than a cookie crumble topping I opt for crushed-up Andes Mints.

DIRECTIONS

OREO TRUFFLESby Orianah Fast inMagazine committee member

Photography by Orianah Fast

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A cost-saving take on the traditional basket. Including the basket, we spent about $10 on the contents by selecting lower-cost items.

Skip all of the activities and toys and just give the kids a basket full of sweet treats.

What is your Easter basket style?

Fill your basket with necessities, such as hair care items and personal items. For some fun, pick out socks featuring a favorite character or a bright color pattern. You can always throw in a DVD or gift card, for some added enjoyment.

Skip all of the activities and toys and just give the kids a basket full of sweet treats. sweet treats.

A chocolate bunny, a few springtime toys and activities, and some Easter-themed candy.

Here, we offer four ideas for an Easter basket theme, if you’re looking to do something different this year.

The “practical” basket

The “traditional” basket

The “candy” basket

The “budget” basket

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To fi nish:1. Fill your basket up! If you are using Easter grass, shove a bunch in there so that your fl owers will stand up. If you are using jelly beans, fi ll the cup until it is an inch from the top.2. Plant your fl owers and you are done!

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basket gameMay Day

To fi nish:1. Fill your basket up! If you are using Easter grass, shove a bunch in there so that your fl owers will stand up. If you are using jelly beans, fi ll the cup until it is an

To fi nish:1. Fill your basket up! If you are using Easter grass, shove a bunch in there so that

May Day baskets are an old tradition and very fun to make. The game is simple: You bring the baskets to your neighbors’ homes and you place a basket in front of the door. Ring the doorbell (or knock) and when you hear them coming, run away as fast as you can. If they catch you, they have to give you a kiss on the cheek.

Extra fun: Older kids can make Origami Flowers instead!

What you’ll need:• plastic cup• 3 to 4 Tootsie Pops • colorful paper• pipe cleaners• jelly beans (or leftover Easter grass)• markers

Baskets: 1. Take your cups and your markers and color like crazy!2. With help from mom or dad, poke a hole on each side of your cup. 3. Take a pipe cleaner and attach one end to each hole, to make a handle. If you have three pipe cleaners, you can braid them together.

Flowers:1. Using the colorful paper; draw and cut out fl ower shapes. Be creative!2. Punch a hole in the middle of each fl ower and slide them onto the Tootsie Pops. Voila! Tootsie Flowers!

by Amanda ReedinMagazine committee member

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in shapeThere are shortcuts

to happiness and dancing is one of them.

-- Vicki Baum

by Beth VanEngelenhovenspecial to inMagazine

In the winter of 2008, I certainly did not feel like dancing. I was pregnant with our third child and my husband and I were at Mayo Clinic’s Dana Center for Learning Disorders. After an extensive four-day evaluation, we received confi rmation from the “experts” that all of our suspicions were correct: Our two beautiful sons, then ages 6 and 3 1/2, had autism (now referred to as Autism Spectrum Disorder or ASD).

The months that followed are nothing but a blur fi lled with early intervention, speech and occupational therapy appointments, at-home intensive behavioral therapy as well as the summer birth of our daughter. Anyone with children knows, that although they are wonderful, kids can be exhausting, mentally, physically and emotionally. That being said, any parents who have children with special needs know that toll is multiplied exponentially. (continued on page 30)

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(continued from page 28)Fast-forward to New

Year’s 2009, I was completely overwhelmed (and overweight). I knew I had to make a change.

I needed not only more energy than the average bear to keep up with the demands of raising our children, but I also had a sense that I need to be alive as long as humanly possible, already fearing what will happen to our two boys once we are not here to take care of them.

I was close to 200 pounds and longing for the sports and metabolism that got me through my teens and 20s.

I hated to exercise and every moment spent on the exercise equipment that rotated through our house seemed like an eternity. I had been hearing about Zumba on Facebook and

seeing Zumba infomercials pretty much every time I turned on the TV. Then, one day in February, a friend asked if I would try a Zumba class with her. From that day on I have been in love with all things Zumba and its notion of “ditch the workout and join the party!”

The concept of Zumba was created by fitness and dance instructor Beto Perez in the late 1990s, when he went to teach an aerobics class but had forgotten to bring his workout music. He had to use the cassette tapes that were in his car which consisted of the salsa and meringue music that he grew up listening to in his native home of Cali, Columbia. He then improvised the first-ever Zumba class.

Beto moved to Florida

and was soon approached by an entrepreneur whose mother attended his Latin-inspired fitness classes. Zumba was formally founded in 2001 and there now are more than 15 million people taking Zumba Fitness classes in 180 countries around the world.

Driven by Latin and world rhythms, as well as hip-hop and pop music, Zumba classes mix intervals of low- and high-intensity moves and incorporates elements of fitness such as cardio, muscle conditioning, balance and flexibility to create an ultra calorie-

burning workout.But once the music is

turned on and the lights are turned down you will not notice all of this “exercise in disguise.” I certainly did not as it helped me lose pound after pound and inspired me to become a Zumba instructor in September 2010. It was a present from my husband three days shy of my 39th birthday. The gift, however, was not just the 75 pounds that it helped me to lose. It has provided me with so much more than just a fun way to work out and take a break from the stresses in my life. I do believe that at the heart of any great Zumba Fitness program is the community that is created among students and instructors. Zumba classes provide a circle of support and friendship that benefits everyone and encourages students to show up, sweat and laugh week after week, month after month, year after year. We all look different, we all move differently, we all have our own challenges to face, but we all just want to be the best versions of ourselves.

And to shake what our mommas gave us.

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·Beto and Beth

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style

Contouring, a technique previously reserved for special occasions such as prom and weddings, is now becoming part of many women’s daily

routines. So what is it, exactly? “It’s like painting camouflage on the face,” Katie

Guthrie, owner of Salon Sashay, explained. It is working with makeup to contour or darken and

highlight specific features of the face to look the best under any light.

KayLynne Lyons, a Bemidji High School senior, agreed to let us see her transformation as Guthrie and Heidi Walberg, a stylist at Salon Sashay, contoured her face, creating both a daytime and nighttime look.

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• Learn how to contour, and highlight your cheekbones. Make sure your application doesn’t look obvious, and remember to blend. Don’t be afraid to use your usual blush on your cheeks. • Having a set of makeup brushes is essential. Rather than using your fi ngertips, the brush will produce a more polished look. The use of a brush allows for the process to be more sanitary, helping to prevent breakouts on the face. Remember to wash your brushes. • Pay attention to the quality of the makeup that you are using. Pay attention to the ingredients. Better makeups are free of irritants such as alcohol, menthol and oils. • Use a makeup primer before applying foundation because it seals your pores. Liquid foundation, no matter how small your pores are, can make them more visible. Using an eye primer makes eye shadow stay on, until you wash it off. • Maintain a skin care regimen. A consistent skin care routine will leave your skin in better condition.

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Do-it-yourself toddler play makeup

kids corner

My youngest daughter, who is 18 months old, recently became obsessed with makeup.

I am constantly fi nding her covered with smudges and smears from makeup she has managed to sneak away from either me or my oldest daughter.

I found this great do-it-yourself play makeup idea online, and my daughter is now convinced that her makeup is exactly like mine.

I simply took old, empty, clean makeup containers and fi lled them with nail polish, then let them dry.

I now have a happy little girl, and the best part is I didn’t have to spend a dime to do it.

Abby Randall, inMagazine’s creative director, followed the directions provided by Chicz in crafting play makeup

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A co-worker’s husband is publicly fi red from his job.A neighbor’s home is devastated in a fi re.A friend learns her child will face lifelong medical

challenges.A family member’s cancer battle leads to hospice care. What do you say in these situations? What should you

do?There is no one easy answer. Local professionals advise

your response should depend on a number of factors, such as the closeness of your relationship, whether the news is public knowledge and how much the individual is comfortable sharing.

“The best thing you can do is to listen and ... offer support to that person,” said Dr. Jean Christensen with Great River Psychological Services. “Listen carefully to what they want, to what they are going through.”

What do you say in tough

circumstances?

Jessie Marianiello is unfortunately living through this from the other side. In November, Carl Bratlien — the man she planned to marry — tragically died in a car accident.

Theirs was a longtime friendship that grew into a romantic relationship, one from which they had discussed future goals and set plans.

“Life had hammered us into a perfect fi t for each other,” she said.

In the wake of Carl’s death, Jessie received countless messages of condolences.

“I have a lot of people in my life and Carl had a lot of people in his life,” she said, “so not only did I have my friends and family but also his people, people I didn’t even know, that were connected to Carl. In some ways, it was overwhelming but it was such a blessing.”

Each of those messages was a comfort, she said. Facebook, particularly, was a great conduit for those connections, as people from all walks of Carl’s life reached

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out to Jessie, to share their memories and thoughts with his future wife, even if they themselves had never met her.

“Carl (had) this insane ability to keep up with friendships and stay in contact with people,” she said. “He was constantly calling and texting, staying in touch with (everyone). That was one of his gifts.”

As a result, her own circle has grown considerably.

“Everything has changed,” she said. “My faith deepened, my circle of friends widened. … I’ve surrounded myself with an environment where I can be emotional and open.”

“It really isn’t about what we say and do as much as it is about being present,” said the Rev. Mark Papke-Larson, who for more than 20 years served as the chaplain at Sanford Bemidji Medical Center and is now working with in advanced care planning, helping families discuss and decide end-of-life treatments. “When someone is experiencing grief, when someone is experiencing a loss, what that person needs most is support.”

Christensen, who has been practicing in Bemidji for more than 30 years, said the most appropriate responses will fi rst consider several factors.

“It really does depend on the nature

of the relationship,” she said. “It depends on the setting, if it’s public knowledge, if you’re colleagues or close friends, and it also depends a great deal on what part of the process they’re in.”

If a co-worker is going through a diffi cult time and you have habitually discussed personal matters before, she suggested that he may feel hurt if you don’t acknowledge his pain. But if it is a co-worker with whom you are

not close, simply saying that you are sorry she is having a tough time is appropriate.

Yet, it’s hard to give any one piece of advice because each person mourns differently.

“When I am coming to see you, the fi rst thing I am doing is to observe you, not saying much but overserving how you are reacting and then I respond to you based on how you are expressing those emotions,” said the Rev. Alain Ndagijimana, the new hospital chaplain. “If you are crying, I support you to continue to cry so you get that opportunity to really be you. I’m not coming to take you from where you are, I’m coming to help you accept where you are so that, from there, we can explore ways you can connect with the real you.”

Papke-Larson said grief is an ongoing process. For example, a woman who suffered a pregnancy loss could still be grieving that loss years later.

He cautioned against telling someone that you know how they are feeling (because you don’t), offering advice (because they don’t need to

The best thing you can do is to listen and ... offer support to that person. Listen carefully to what they want, to what they are going through.

A long friendship blossomed into a romantic relationship as Jessie

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fixed, just supported) and against putting people into boxes or categories (such as assuming someone is in denial).

Rather, he said, the best thing is to simply speak from the heart. He said the words themselves are frequently forgotten, but what is remembered is how someone made you feel.

“What I’ve found to be true is that people respond to genuine concern,” he said.

Jessie met Carl 15 years ago, when she was building her Becida home with the help of family and friends. They needed one more person to finish the roof and a friend suggested they call Carl.

Jessie’s porch became a gathering place for playing music and Carl joined in that. Life took them in different directions, but years later, she and Carl reconnected over a common love of travel and adventure.

“I’ve encountered more beauty than I have difficulties,” Jessie said, speaking to her experience in grief since Carl died in November.

She now has more friends, deeper relationships, a stronger faith.

“When people have a story they remember about somebody, like for me (about) Carl, if somebody has a story that they can share, I just drink it up,” she said.

She loves talking about him, hearing about him.While, overwhelmingly, she said she felt supported

and loved throughout the last few months, she said it

was difficult when she’d run into people who did not acknowledge Carl’s death.

“The thing is, there is nothing anyone can say to make it better,” she said. “The worst feeling is to pretend like nothing’s changed.”

Most helpful have been those who offered specific avenues of help without being pushy about it. Jessie herself admitted it could be a difficult balance to find, but encouraged people to offer help in a sensitive manner. She also suggested you be prepared to just listen and perhaps commiserate, but to do so without offering advice.

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1. Cookie jar in the window of Raphael’s Bakery and Cafe; 2. Window of Paul’s Print Shop; 3. Fence behind the Cabin Coffee House and Cafe; 4. In front of Beltrami County History Center; 5. Drive-through of Cantabria Coffee Company; 6. Back side of building located at 205 Beltrami Ave NW; 7. Mural on side of Northern Cycle building.

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