Incomparable Love

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UNCOMPARABLE LOVE

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In each language there is a very sweet word, a best word, an uncomparable word which

is the best word in the entire world and that word encompass, that word covers the

entire love, care, affection and sincerity mercy of this dunya. When we pronounce this

word our heart fills with mixed feelings which cannot be expressed in words. It gives uspleasure, joy and happiness. And the word is MOTHER. Wallaahi we find no words to

describe this personality. Who is a mother? What is her status?

Why she deserves a high status? Why her love is uncomparable? Even before she saw

our face, she started to love us. That is why her love is uncomparable. We have no

words to express the mothers love towards her children.She is the source of Jannah.

Our parents are our doors of Jannah. Serving our parents is a command from ALLAH. So

love her, thank her, and serve her. Be kind to her.

There are many verses in the Quraan and many ahadeeth that explains the status of

mother.

Oh my dear brothers and sisters, we think that we know about the rights and status of

parents in Islam. Many are the ayaat and ahaadith that summarize this very important

relationship. How often have we heardthem? But have we truly acted upon them? Have


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we truly understood the role of parents and the status that Allah 'azzawajel has given

them? Allah says in the Qur'an:

When Allah took a meethaaq from the children of Israeel from the most ancient

civilizations -

- Worship none but Allah, and show ihsaan to your parents (2:83) -

From the earliest civilizations, Allah 'azzawajel took a meethaaq do you know what a

meethaaq is? It's an agreement of the highest order! It's a treaty that should

never everbe gone against and disobey. It is a treaty between Allah and man. That is

what meethaaq is.

In one of our classical books of history and narrations, it is mentioned that once,

Abdullah ibn Umar was doing tawaaf around the ka'bah as an elderly person, many

years after the death of the Prophet sallaAllahualayhiwasallam. And he saw a man doing

tawaaf around the Ka'bah who had a very old lady on his back. He was doing

tawaaf carryingthis lady on his back. And when the man saw ibn Umar, he rushed up to

him, recognizing who he is, and he said, Oh ibn Umar, oh son of Umar ibn al -Khattaab,

Oh ibn Umar, this lady on my back is my mother. This lady is my mother. And she had

a desire to go do Hajj. And I live in such and such a province, and he mentioned a far

province in the Muslim lands, And I could not afford a mount. I could not afford an

animal, I could not afford do bring her in any other means except by carrying

her onmy back, walkingfrom such and such a village. Oh ibn Umar, have I done my duty

as a son? Is the scale now equivalent? Have all of the good deeds that the mother did,

have I now recompensed her the way that she deserves?

Ibn Umar responded: You have donenothingin return. You're proud and boastful

about this? You have done nothing, your deeds are not worth anything in the scale!

You're comparing a scale of what your mother has done to what you have done back to


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her?! He says, You have done nothing in return. But you have done well, and Allah

willREWARD you.

The man said, Oh ibn Umar, I have traveled from such and such a province, what do

you mean I've done nothing? I have traveled from the furthest lands, carryingmy

mother on my backand you say I have done nothing? Ibn Umar said and listen to

this psychologist, listen to the power of the response that he gave to this man, listen to it

and understand it and apply it in your daily lives he said: You have donenothing

because: when she sacrificed everythingfor you; when she did everything that she did

for you she gave up her time, her pleasures, her health she gave up everythingshe

had to raise you as you are she did it out of a pure love and joy wanting to see you

flourish, waiting so you grow up and you live a full healthy life she did it for your life

and now that you do it in return, you are waiting for her death doing it as a pity

doing as an equivalent, doing it in returnfor the favours you're not doing it to see her

flourish and live. You're doing it as a sense of guilt, trying to pay back what she's done,

and waiting for her death, so she is literally off your back.

The psychology of what she did versus what you are doing is completely separate! How

can you compare the two? And how true, howprofound is the statement of ibn Umar!When the child is raised by the parents, when the mother and father give everythingthat

they have: theirmoney,and their health, their wealth, their everything.

But when the child becomes old, and the child is entrusted to take care of his or her

parents, the same emotions are not felt. The same patience is not there, the same love

and tenderness are completely absent. And [for] this one reason, ibn Umar said: you

cannot compare the two. Allah says in the Qur'an:

- Your Lord has decreed such is the decree of Allah, such is the commandment of

Allah, pay attention and heed Your Lord hasdecreed: that no one shall be worshipped

except for Allah, and that you be good to your parents. (17:23)

This is the decree of Allah the eternaldecree of Allah: begoodgo your parents.
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What does it mean, what do you mean by being good? Allah mentions the word ihsaan.

Ihsaan is the highest level of good. There is no level, there is no word in the Arabic

language that gives the meaning of ihsaan. Ihsaan is a state. It is a state of mind. It is not

an action it is not a deed, it is a stateof mind, it is aframeof relationship, in which yougive the mostthat you can, and you expect the least in return. You give

your utmost being, this is what Ihsaan is. You do everything you possibly, physically,

spiritually, emotionally, can. That is what ihsaan is. And if there been a word higherthat

ihsaan, Allah would have used it.

And ALLAH continues this verse as Your Lord has decreed that you shall worship none

but Him and that you have ihsaan to your parents (17:23 ). Allah says, If either of

them or both of them reach old age, and you are in charge of them it is a blessing that

they are old and you are alive, it is a blessing many have been deprived of this blessing

if either or both of them have reached this age where you'rein charge of them what

does Allah say? How can we take care of them? how we should treat them? You all

know: trrat them with Ihsaan. And also ALLAH says that:

- Don't say uf (17:23) -

What is the meaning of uf? Uf two letter word; smallest letter, smallest word in the

Arabic language that as a meaning: uf. Uf means: you are irritated. It's the equivalent of

tsking in English, or saying ouch when you're hurt. Thesmallestindication, the

slightest indication, that you are irritated is said by uf. The scholars of tafseer say: had

there been a word that was lesser than that, Allah would have used it here.

So the first verse uses ihsaan, the second versus uses uf. Ihsaan, the peak; uf, the

lowest, but of what? Of what? Brothers and sisters, think about this: Allah 'azzawajel

said: Don't say uf to them meaning, don't even express your irritation and anger.

If Allah 'azzawajel had said to us, don't become irritated, don't beangry,

don't befrustrated, Allah 'azzawajel would have commanded us with something we

could not bear. It is human nature to get frustrated, especially at elderly parents. It is

human nature to get angry, it is human nature to get irritated. Allah knows this. So Allah


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did not force us that we don't get angry, we don't get frustrated, we don't get irritated

no. He obliged us with something that is well within our capabilities. Don't say, don't

express, don't show, and dontoutwardly give the impression that you're irritated. Feel

what you like in your heart, control it, be a man control it:

- and don't speak to them in a harsh manner (17:23) -

Notice, Allah 'azzawajel has created us, He knowshow difficult it is, not just to take care

of children, especially to take care of parents. He knowshow difficult it is. So Alah

'azzawajel put upon us a condition and a rule that is well within our limits: feel what

you like; don't express it, don't make it outward, don't show it to them.

- say to them beautiful, generous speech (17:23) -

Say to them sweet things. Kareem: be generous in your speech to them. And if they ask

you, anything, then speak to them kindly and say In sha' Allah, I'll try, in sha' Allah,

we'll do that, give them hope, give them encouragement. Allah 'azzawajel says,

- speak unto them a soft kind word (17:28)

Allah 'azzawajel is saying, evenif they want more that you can give don't get irritated,

don't get angry give them good speech, give them confidence, fill them and their hearts

with joy, just like they had done for you when you were a child. And make du'a for them,

Oh Allah, have mercy on them as they raised me(17:24) -

What a beautiful dua, Allah 'azzawajel is giving so many deep meanings: because they

have raised me, just as they have raised me, due to the fact that they have raised me, oh

Allah have mercy on them, because of what they have done for me.


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Oh my dear brothers and sisters in Islam, much can be said about the verses in the

Qur'an and the ahaadith of the Prophet sallaAllahualayhiwasallam about treating the

parents.

You will never understand the love of a parent? The love of a mother? The love of a

father? Thisis magnanimous love, unrestricted.

Your parents gave up everything to bring a smile in your face. They go to work, to bring

home some food for you; they will give up their life's savings for your education. What

type of love is this? We can never understand. Never!

No human being feels that type of love for another, except a parent for the child. And

when you think about it, and when you experience it, you understand the POWER of

Allah's creation, for verily; I swear by Allah, if the parents did not have this love for his

child, no child could live on the face of this earth.

We take up most of their time, most of their energy, most of theirwealth;their entire life.

Their life will change because of us. The amount of sacrifice they do cannotbe measure

in words, cannot be measured in figures, and cannot be measured in quantities.

Our parents have done that for us. Our parents have done that for us a lot, and we don't

even realize it, because when we become an adult, we think that we know better than

our parents, and if they say anything we just neglect them by saying you dont know

anything. We are not ready to look at them to answer them. We are very busy with our

mobile and computers playing games and giving importance to the games over our

parents. And if ask us anything how do we reply to them? We dont look at their face to

answer them instead we look at the screen playing games and talk to them. This is how

we behave with our parents. And Allah 'azzawajel says,

- speak unto them a soft kind word (17:28)

And Allah says in the Qur'an: If one or both of them are alive, take care of them

[17:23], because they are the real comfort of our life.


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See how the companions of Prophet [pbuh] treat their parents.

One of the companions, his mother passed away, and he was crying greatly. So some of

the other sahabah tried to console him, and they said: it's alright, she is in jannah in sha'

Allah, she's forgiven. They tried to console him. And he said, Do you think I'm crying

because she died? Of course I'm sad because she died, that's not why I'm crying.

Notice how the sahabah view things and how we view them. He said: I am crying

because my door to jannah has been shut! And I don't know if I got in or not. S he was

my door to jannah!That's why I'm crying. My door to jannah has been shut. I don't know

was I a good son or not?! I don't know. There's no other way for me to Jannah except

through her.

Because Prophet sallaAllahualayhiwasallam said that the parents are the doors to

paradise; So the sahaba understood this. The death of a parent was not just

apersonalloss. It was a religious and spiritual loss as well:

A man came to the Prophet sallaAllahualayhiwasallam, and he said, Yarasool Allah

this hadith is in Bukhari Yarasool Allah, I have come from Yemen the furthest

corners of Arabia, nothing further than Yemen I have come from Yemen, in order to

be withyou! He has now become a sahabi he has elevated his rank in history by

visiting the Prophet sallaAllahualayhiwasallam! in order to be withyou, and do jihad

behind you. And in order to do so, I had to leave my parents crying at my loss and

departure.

He's trying to show off, he's trying to talk big, and hestrying to show his status: I want

to do this, and I even left my parents crying, in order to come here.

The Prophet sallaAllahualayhiwasallam asked him: Do you want jannah? Meaning: is

that your goal? You want the pleasure of Allah? He said: Yes. The Prophet

sallaAllahualayhiwasallam said: In that case, go back to them now, GO BACK TO THEM

and make them laugh, just like you left them cry.

Meaning: you want jannah and you have done this? You want jannah and your own

parents are not happy with you? You will not be able to earn jannah in any other way!

Brothers and sisters, this man left everythingto come to the Prophet of Allah


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sallaAllahualayhiwasallam, he left everything to do jihad behind the Prophet

sallaAllahualayhiwasallam, and the Prophet sallaAllahualayhiwasallam is saying, you

want jannah? Go back to your parents, and be with them! Make them laugh like you

have made them cry!

Do you understandthe rightsof the parents? Do you understand the Prophet of Allah is

saying: do you really want jannah and you're coming to me? You're coming to me to do

jihad with me, and your own parents need you? He told that man to go back to his

parents, and make them laugh like he had made them cry.

Oh Muslims, the status of parents is something that goes above that cannot be expressed

in words. .

And Allah 'azzawajel says, in Surah Luqman(31): 14

And WE have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents.

And ALLAH completes this verse by saying

Give thanks to ME and to your parents and unto me is the final destination.

So what do you think about this verse. ALLAH is saying that thank me and your parents.

So parents take their right place, and how we honour them. Are we giving their rights?

No. We are treating our parents like servants. We order them to do this and that? Are

we obeying our parents? Is that our parents are happy with our behaviour? How to

make our parents happier? If they want to be happy we have study well. We have score

good marks. Above all we must have good character. Good Aqlaaq. They must only hear

good about you. They should never ever hear any bad comments about you. This is what

they expect from you at this age. And it is within your capability. Fear ALLAH and give

them their rights.

If you want Jannah, love her, thank her, and serve her. She is the source of Jannah.Serving mother is the best Ibaadah.


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Listen to what Prophet [pbuh] has said,

Narrated Abdullah bin Masud:

I asked Allah's Apostle, "O Messenger of Allah! What is the best deed?" He replied, "To

offer the prayers at their early stated fixed times." I asked, "What is next in goodness?"

He replied, "To be good and dutiful to your parents." I further asked, what is next in

goodness?" He replied, "To participate in Jihad in Allah's Cause." I did not ask Allah's

Apostle anymore and if I had asked him more, he would have told me more.

Oh brothers especially the younger amongst you Oh brothers, listen to me, and listen

well:

The love that your mother and father have for you is a love you will never understand.

Don't fool yourselves. You don't understand the meaningof your parents' love for

you. Everyrule and regulation they put upon you is because of their love for you they

want what is best for you. Everysing rule and regulation that they have upon you

every requirement, every desire it is a desireforyou, and not against you.

Realize this, and pay attention to it. They understand emotionsbetter than you. So dontdelay. Obey your parents. Dontunderestimate their advice. You may think that, your

parents don't know anything. Pay attention to them.

Narrated Abu Huraira:

Allah's Messenger (

) said, "A woman called her son while he was in his hermitage

and said, 'O Juraij' He said, 'O Allah, my mother (is calling me) and (I am offering) my

prayer (what shall I do)?' She again said, 'O Juraij!' He said again, 'O Allah ! My mother

(is calling me) and (I am offering) my prayer (what shall I do)?' She again said, 'O Juraij'

He again said, 'O Allah! My mother (is calling me) and (I am offering) my prayer. (What

shall I do?)' She said, 'O Allah! Do not let Juraij die till he sees the faces of prostitutes.' A

shepherdess used to come by his hermitage for grazing her sheep and she gave birth to

a child. She was asked whose child that was, and she replied that it was from Juraij and

that he had come out from his hermitage. Juraij said, 'Where is that woman who claims

that her child is from me?' (When she was brought to him along with the child), Juraij

asked the child, 'O Babus, who is your father?' The child replied, 'The shepherd.' " (See


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Hadith No 662. Vol 3). Since he didnt pay attention to his mother, she cursed him, and

because of her curse he underwent some difficulty in his life. Then he realized that it is

because of his mothers curse, and then he repented for his mistake, then he came out of

that difficult condition. Thus, it is our duty to understand the status of mother.

So if we are offering nafeel salah, and you mother is calling you, you can cancel your

salah and response to her immediately. This is not for Fard Salah. This is the status of

Mother in Islam. Try to understand and try to please her.

We ask Allah to give allof us a long life, we should try and strive to make them feel that

they are pleased with us, satisfied with us, happy with us, knowing that we have

done everythingwe can for them.

[istighfaar... a Quloo qauli adha vasthagfirullaha li valakum vali saahiril Muslimeena,

fasthagfiruhu innahu huval gafoorur Rahim.

... followed by second khutbah:]

What can we do, to our parents? What canwe doforthem? What can we do to make

them happy? If your parents are alive, first and foremost thank Allah 'azzawajel for this

opportunity. Thank Him; rejoice that there is still chance and hope! THANK Allah that

Allah has blessed us to be an adult while our parents are still alive. Do for them

everything that is humanly possible.

A man came to the Prophet sallaAllahualayhiwasallam complaining, Oh yarasool Allah,

my father takes this, my father takes that, complaining that his father would take some

things of his possession. After ALL that the father has done for this son, after ALL the

money and time and effort and sweat, this man came and complained that he took bitsand pieces he used to take from his wealth? And he's complaining, My father takes

money without asking me?

Do you know the response of the RasoolsallaAllahualayhiwasallam? Anta wamaaluka li

abeek. You and your wealth all of it belongs to your father. He is not taking our

money, instead we take his money and we dont obey him. How can we justify this? So

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Rabbana la tuzighquloobanaa, badaithhadaytanaa, wahablanaamilladunkaRahma.

InnakaantalWah-haab.

YA ALLAH, give strength and imaan to serve our parents with Ihsaan.

O Allah, we ask You to help us with what gets us closer to Paradise and far away from

hell. O Allah we seek Your grace to admit us, our parents, our relatives and whoever has

done a favour to us and all Muslims to Your Paradise.

Our Lord, give us in this world that which is good and in the Hereafter that which is

good, and save us from the torment of the Fire.

May Allah grant peace and tranquility and success to the people of Palestine. Grant them

a secured life.

Ya Allah, preserve the Muslim Nation from all temptations, both apparent and hidden,

and continue blessing all Muslim countries with safety and security.

IBADA ALLAH: IN NAL LAAHA YAA MURU BIL ADLI / WAL IHSAAN / WA EE TAEE ZIL

QURBAA WA YANHAA ANIL FAHSHAAEE WAL MUNKAREE WAL BAGHYI/ YA EE

ZUKUM LA ALLAKUM TAZAKKAROON/

29:45

O servants of Allah, remember Allah and He will remember you. Be grateful for His

benevolence He will increase His blessings to you. Allah, the Most High, says, "and

establish prayer. Indeed, prayer prohibits immorality and wrongdoing, and the

remembrance of Allah is greater. And Allah knows that which you do." (Al Ankaboot:

45).

Ameen. Aqeemussalaah!

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