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MAKING CHOICES
Choose what you WANT to do set priorities - self, family, work. Choose what you CAN do
You can do everything you want, just not at the same time
PHASES
The Five Balls
The Work Ball The Home and Family Ball The Relationships Ball The Friends Ball The Self Care Ball
SOLO TIME
Take time for yourself. Find a space where you do not have to be responsible for anyone or anything.
Ask for solitude; offer to partner “Investment”
Reasons why women do not set goals
Not convinced of the value of setting a goal for themselves
Too busy to think of one Setting a goal implies a firm commitment Fear of failure in reaching a goal Are in a relationship, and are too busy
helping partner with his goals Fear of success, fear jealousy
Why is it so hard to do nothing?
Empty time is associated with negative connotations – loss, need, desolation,
Being active and busy has Value, Virtue, Significance
Being busy is a defense – against grief, rage, anxiety, guilt, regret, sadness
-We don’t know what to do
How to Make Time
Prioritizing – set this as a goal for yourself
Protecting – don’t try to convince others you need to do it. Just say you are “unavailable, booked, have other plans…”
Promise Keeping – write it down like a patient appointment. Follow through
Ways To Find More Time
Delegate tasks and responsibilities Group similar tasks eg. phone calls Use technology, but limit it Minimize time watching TV Minimize interruptions; close your door Get up 15-30 minutes earlier Buy time – clean, cook, paint, gardening
With less than 30 minutes, I could…
Stop whatever I am doing. Breathe. Stretch Mindful meditation Read a magazine Listen to my favorite song Laugh out loud Call a friend Write in my journal Drink more water. Go for a pee
With a free half-day, I could…
Exercise Go to a spa Play hooky. Visit a museum Browse around a bookstore Fly a kite Skinny dip
With a whole day free, I could…
Ski Go for a hike Try out a new recipe Go for a drive in the country Go sailing Not be available, and not check my
email or voice mail