I’m the 21st century learner

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Agenda:Agenda:• Why 21Why 21stst century parenting is important century parenting is important

and different?and different?

• The world is rapidly changingThe world is rapidly changing

• meeting the 21meeting the 21stst century learning century learning challenges challenges

• A code for parents to bring up happier A code for parents to bring up happier children.children.

• So what next?So what next?

Why 21st century parenting is important and different.

Why parenting in 21Why parenting in 21stst century is a challenge? century is a challenge?

The images of a motherThe images of a mother • 4yrs : my mommy can do

anything • 8 yrs : my mom knows a lot! A

whole lot• 12 yrs: my mother doesn’t

really know quiet everything • 14 yrs: naturally, mother

doesn’t know that, either.• 16yrs: Mother? She’s

hopelessly old fashioned.• 18yrs: That old woman? She’s

way out of date.• 25 yrs: Well, She might know a

little bit about it.• 35yrs:Before we decide let’s

get Mom’s opinion.• 45yrs: wonder what mom

would have thought about it?• 65 yrs: if mom was still alive; I

could have talked it over with her!

Technological revolution

What do

Thomas EdisonAn inventor, scientist and

businessman, he invented the light bulb

Muhammad AliThree-time

World Heavyweight Champion

Alexander Graham Bell

scientist, inventor, engineer and innovator who is credited with inventing the first practical telephone.

Henry Ford The American founder of the

Ford Motor Company

Leonardo da vinci An Italian polymath: painter,

sculptor, architect, musician, scientist, mathematician, engineer, inventor, anatomist, geologist, cartographer, botanist and writer.

Painter of the world famous Mona Lisa

Walt Disney An American

film producer, director, screenwriter, voice actor, animator, entrepreneur, entertainer, international icon and philanthropist. co-founderof Walt Disney Productions

Cher• An American pop

singer-songwriter, actress, director and record producer. She has won an Academy Award, a Grammy Award, an Emmy Award, three Golden Globe Awards

have in common?

Dyslexia

though one may think that they achieved success in spite of their

disability, this book says that

IT IS BECAUSE OF IT…..

Developing your child’s Developing your child’s TalentTalent

seeds may grow but buried talents never- seeds may grow but buried talents never- Roger BabsonRoger Babson

John Powell says that every child sent into John Powell says that every child sent into this world comes with a special message this world comes with a special message to deliver, with a special song to sing to to deliver, with a special song to sing to

others , with a special act of love to others , with a special act of love to bestow. No one can speak his message or bestow. No one can speak his message or

sing his song or offer his act of love. sing his song or offer his act of love.

It is this responsibility of every parent to It is this responsibility of every parent to identify and nurture the talent of their identify and nurture the talent of their

childrenchildren.

Usually when people hear about Dyslexia they think only of reading, writing, spelling and math problem a child is having in school. In simpler words the letter reversal and slow learners.

But the learning disability is only one face of the Dyslexia. It is important for them It is important for them to know that having reading and to know that having reading and writing problem, doesn’t make them writing problem, doesn’t make them dumb or stupid.dumb or stupid. The mental function that causes dyslexia is a gift gift in the true sense of the word, a natural ability, a talenta natural ability, a talent. It is something special that enhances the individual.

A bar of iron is worth $5. the same bar made into A bar of iron is worth $5. the same bar made into the horseshoes would cost around $50. and if the horseshoes would cost around $50. and if

made into balanced spring for Swiss watches it made into balanced spring for Swiss watches it will cost will cost

$500,000.$500,000.

Raw material must be developed. God has blessed Raw material must be developed. God has blessed each of us with gifts and talents. It all depend on each of us with gifts and talents. It all depend on

how we develop the raw materialhow we develop the raw material.

Now its time for you to Now its time for you to find out YOUR child’s find out YOUR child’s

talent??talent??

Few tips to recognize your Few tips to recognize your child’s talents:-child’s talents:-

• Do they exhibit an knack for something?Do they exhibit an knack for something?• What are they always recognized for?What are they always recognized for?• What do they amaze others by doing?What do they amaze others by doing?• What can they do that most people What can they do that most people

struggle with?struggle with?• What do others tell them they are great at?What do others tell them they are great at?

When you get few answers, take them When you get few answers, take them through the following questions:-through the following questions:-

• Do they get into a ‘flow’ when Do they get into a ‘flow’ when engaging in that particular engaging in that particular activity?activity?

• Do they have a deep desire to Do they have a deep desire to become better at it?become better at it?

• Do they admire people who Do they admire people who engage in that activity and do it engage in that activity and do it well?well?

Motivating your Motivating your childrenchildren

What is motivation?What is motivation?

Motivation is what makes your child Motivation is what makes your child do things. In another sense, it is do things. In another sense, it is something that makes them put something that makes them put real effort and energy into what real effort and energy into what

they do. In short “getting children they do. In short “getting children to do willingly and well those to do willingly and well those

things which have to be done.”things which have to be done.”

StoryStoryHere is a story about a young boy who Here is a story about a young boy who

attended regular soccer practices but attended regular soccer practices but always sat in reserve and never made it to always sat in reserve and never made it to playing eleven. Every day, during practice, playing eleven. Every day, during practice, his father would sit at the far end of the his father would sit at the far end of the field, waiting for him to finish. field, waiting for him to finish.

The matches had started and for four days, The matches had started and for four days, he didn’t show up for practice or quarter he didn’t show up for practice or quarter or semi-finals. All of the sudden he showed or semi-finals. All of the sudden he showed up for the finals, went to the coach and up for the finals, went to the coach and said, “coach, you’ve always kept me as a said, “coach, you’ve always kept me as a reserve and never let me play in reserve and never let me play in finals….today, please let me play.”finals….today, please let me play.”

The coach said: “son, I'm sorry, I can’t let The coach said: “son, I'm sorry, I can’t let you. There are better players than you and you. There are better players than you and besides, it IS the final, the reputation of besides, it IS the final, the reputation of the school is at stake and I cannot take the school is at stake and I cannot take such a big chance. such a big chance.

The boy pleaded, “coach, I promise I will not The boy pleaded, “coach, I promise I will not let you down. I beg you, please; let me let you down. I beg you, please; let me play.” the coach had never seen the boy play.” the coach had never seen the boy plead like this before. He said “ok, son. Go, plead like this before. He said “ok, son. Go, play. But remember I’m going against my play. But remember I’m going against my better judgment and reputation of the better judgment and reputation of the school is at stake. Don’t let me down.”school is at stake. Don’t let me down.”

The game started and the boy played like a The game started and the boy played like a spirit possessed. Every time he got spirit possessed. Every time he got possession of the ball, he scored a goal. possession of the ball, he scored a goal. Needless to say he was the best player and Needless to say he was the best player and the star of the game. His team secured a the star of the game. His team secured a spectacular win!spectacular win!

When the game finished, the coach went up to When the game finished, the coach went up to him and said, “ how could I have been him and said, “ how could I have been wrong about you? I’ve never seen you play wrong about you? I’ve never seen you play like that before! What happened?” the boy like that before! What happened?” the boy replied, “coach, my father is watching me replied, “coach, my father is watching me today.”today.”

The coach turned around The coach turned around and looked at the place and looked at the place the boy’s father used to the boy’s father used to sit. There was no one sit. There was no one there. He said, “son, there. He said, “son, your father used to sit your father used to sit there when you came for there when you came for practice, but I didn’t see practice, but I didn’t see anyone today?” the boy anyone today?” the boy replied. “coach there is replied. “coach there is something I never told something I never told you. My father was blind. you. My father was blind. Just four days ago he Just four days ago he died. Today is the first died. Today is the first day he is watching me day he is watching me from above!from above!

Using praise and Using praise and appreciation effectivelyappreciation effectively

If you want your children to If you want your children to improve let them over hear improve let them over hear

the nice things you are the nice things you are saying about them to others. saying about them to others.

The first vital behavior shaper, of The first vital behavior shaper, of the child is praise and the child is praise and

appreciation. Any behavior that appreciation. Any behavior that is rewarded will invariably will is rewarded will invariably will

be repeated while behavior be repeated while behavior that is frowned up or goes that is frowned up or goes unrewarded is bound to unrewarded is bound to

decline.decline.

““What children seek the most is What children seek the most is recognition credit for their recognition credit for their

efforts.”efforts.”

According to sir William James According to sir William James the deepest principle of human the deepest principle of human

nature is the graving to be nature is the graving to be appreciated. appreciated.

Sam Walton goes on to say Sam Walton goes on to say nothing else can quiet nothing else can quiet

substitute for a few well –substitute for a few well –chosen, well-timed, sincere chosen, well-timed, sincere words of praise. There are words of praise. There are

absolutely free – and worth a absolutely free – and worth a fortune.fortune.

Praise your child Praise your child openly and reprehend openly and reprehend

them secretly.them secretly.

Factors that demand effective parenting

Do you often ask Do you often ask yourself:yourself:

• What kind of adult will What kind of adult will S/he be?S/he be?

• Will s/he be kind?Will s/he be kind?• Will s/he build or Will s/he build or

destroy?destroy?• Am I on the right track?Am I on the right track?• Will s/he bring smile on Will s/he bring smile on

some one’s face?some one’s face?• When s/he is gone how When s/he is gone how

will she be remembered?will she be remembered?• etcetc

Hold on!!Hold on!!Parents hold the answer to some

of these question; for they are the sculptures who knead and mould the personalities of their children during their formative years, giving them shade and definition to curve a position for themselves in the community.

Life affords no greater responsibility, no greater privilege, than raising up the next generation

C. Evertt Koop

We have not inherited this world We have not inherited this world from our parents, we have been from our parents, we have been

loaned it by our childrenloaned it by our children As parents and educator, we need to help in

preparation of our young children for changing employment opportunities they

will face; which means the FUTURE. And for that what we need are:-

• Extension of OUR knowledgeExtension of OUR knowledge• Emotional Intelligence Emotional Intelligence • Motivation and thinking skillsMotivation and thinking skills

This world is Loaned by our children is clearly one of the exponential change, whereby new technology is reshaping the global economy, the previous way of teaching and learning, it’s reshaping THE WORLD.

Our children are growing up in an educational world, in which the key concepts/skills to be successful and a lifelong learners would be:-

• Effective communication Effective communication • Problem solving Problem solving • Team-building Team-building • And collaborative working And collaborative working

And of course In this advanced century the real

values of:- • CareCare• Concern Concern • Self-respectSelf-respect• Compassion Compassion

Remain the key to human and social development

Self-awareness and self-esteem can only help us to make a more valuable contribution LOCALLY, NATIONALLY AND INTERNATIONALLY as we all develop our learning skills.

Therefore, the 21st century learners self-awareness and lifelong learning skills can be developed through few strategies such as:-

• Relevance-Relevance- which mean setting real life goals and missions and having goal oriented tasks

• Enquiry-Enquiry- exploring and experimenting. Developing the natural curiousity.

• Reinforcement-Reinforcement- learning is reinforced through practicing of the skills, continues assessments followed by feedback.

• Reflection-Reflection- take time out to reflect upon your/your child’s learning ( don’t say its too early or too late)

• Articulation-Articulation- talking about learning, sharing it with others, showing your understanding and self-awareness

• CREATIVITYCREATIVITY- explore, explore and explore.Explore the new concepts and skills from different

angles.

You can lead your child lead the You can lead your child lead the world world

But how??!!But how??!!

Words taken from the tomb of a Words taken from the tomb of a Bishop buried in 1100 ADBishop buried in 1100 AD

When I was young and free and imagination had no limits

I dreamed of changing the worldAs I grew older and wiser

I discovered the world would not change So I shortened my sight somewhat and decided

To change only my country But it seemed too immovable

As I grew into my twilight years In one last desperate attempt

I settled for changing my family Those closest to me, but alas

They would have none of it And now as lie on my death bed

I suddenly realize If only had changed myself

Then by example I might have changed my family From their inspiration and encouragement

I would have been better to my country, and who knows

I may have changed the world

In nutshellIn nutshell Few moments of personal Few moments of personal

reflection?reflection?• How many different career paths

have you followed?• At what age did you start working?• When you were around 12, how

many TV channels did you have to choose from?

• When did you use your first e-mail?• What was the predominant teaching

method when you were in school?

Today’s Today’s students students think and think and process process

information information fundamentalfundamentally differently ly differently from how we from how we used to do itused to do it

If we teach today as we thought yesterday,

We rob the children’s tomorrow

Don’t forget that, Don’t forget that,

What God is to the world What God is to the world

Parent are to their children Parent are to their children

PhiloPhilo

Just for laughs!!!Just for laughs!!!

Son to father: Dad, we are going to be rich very soon!

Dad: wow! That’s great but how?

Son: today in school our Maths teacher thoughts us how to convert paisa into Rupees.

Just for laughs!!!!Just for laughs!!!!

A Child to LoveYou can have your wealth and riches

All the things so many seek,Position, power, and success,The fame you long to keep.

You can earn as much as you wish,Reach a status high above,But none of these can equal

Having one sweet child to love.'This the greatest gift from heaven,

Little arms that hold you tight,And a kiss so soft and gentle

When you tuck them in at night.A million precious questionsAnd each story often read,

Two eyes so bright and smiling,And a darling tousled head.

God has never matched the goodnessOf a trusting little face,

Or a heart so full of laughterSpreading sunshine every place.

A child to hold and cuddle,'This a gift from God above,

And the world is so much brighterWhen you have a child to love.

-- Unknown Kid Motivational Poem Author

Parenting in the 21st century

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A code for parents to bring up A code for parents to bring up happier children.happier children.

Some parents make it all look easy. They always seem to know the right things to do and say, however tricky the situation. They have seemingly instinctive ability to raise happy, confident, well-balanced children.

Is there something they know that we don’t? Is it something that we could learn? The answer is YES.

The code of parenting are the golden principles and behaviors that will guide you

Smoothly through the challenges of raising happier children. They will help your children to handle themselves well, enjoy life, respect others, be thoughtful, and to stand up for what they believe in. you will get more out of being a parent and they will become all they can be.

Good Parenting puts everything in perspective, you in control and your children on the path to becoming successful, dependent adults.

There is no job more important than being a parent. How good could you be??

Parenting Parenting RulesRules

Relax-Relax- All parents have one key All parents have one key thing in common. N to They’re thing in common. N to They’re relaxed about it. And all the worst relaxed about it. And all the worst ones are hung up on something. ones are hung up on something. Really good parents expect their Really good parents expect their children to be noisy, messy, bouncy, children to be noisy, messy, bouncy, squably, whingy and covered in mud. squably, whingy and covered in mud. They take it all in their stride They take it all in their stride because they know that they have because they know that they have the next 18 years. No rush to get the next 18 years. No rush to get them acting like adults.them acting like adults.

Rule 3Rule 3It’s important to know what you’re good at and to have confidence in

your strengths

Rule 4Rule 4 As you and I know, the only sensible

rules choices is to let it go.

Rule 5Rule 5You know all those ids whose life is one long

round of lessons, practice and tuitions? Have you ever seen them what happens when you as them to fend for themselves

for a few days. They’ve no idea how to enjoy themselves –they’ve never had time

to learn.

Rule 6Rule 6 There’s only really one person you

absolutely listen to: yourselfJust because a particular approach works for

someone else, it doesn’t mean it will work for you.

Rule 9Rule 9

Parents need to know when to switch Parents need to know when to switch off. If your kids are your entire life, off. If your kids are your entire life,

that puts a huge amount of pressure that puts a huge amount of pressure on them. Your children need you to on them. Your children need you to

have a life apart from them, have a life apart from them, otherwise it’s extremely hard for otherwise it’s extremely hard for

them to have their own lives as they them to have their own lives as they grow older.grow older.

Attitude rulesAttitude rules

A big part of being rules parent is A big part of being rules parent is getting the attitude right.getting the attitude right.

You need to see your children in the You need to see your children in the best light in order to enjoy them as best light in order to enjoy them as much as possible and give them the much as possible and give them the

upbringing they need.upbringing they need.

Rule 12Rule 12If you didn’t think about the shopping

before you started you’d come back from the supermarket with an

unhelpful assortment of things.Rule 13Rule 13

If your child’s shoes are really muddy and filthy and you’ve just cleaned the kitchen floor, you can still use humour to stop them in their tracks and then

give them hugs and kisses for co-operating. How hard can it be to give

them a smile and maybe a hug?

• Rule 14- If you love your children more than anyone else, then they deserve your respect more than anyone else.

• Rule 19- Children get understandably stroppy when they think we’re ignoring them.

Everyday rules

• Teach them to think for themselves• Use praise wisely • Bribery doesn’t have to be bad • Moods are catchy • You are setting their eating patterns for life• Communicate• Set clear targets• Don’t be nag

Discipline rules • Present a united front • Carrots beats sticks • Be consistent • Focus on the problem not the person • Don’t paint yourself into a corner • If you loose your temper, you are the loose • Apologize if you get it wrong • The right of expression

• Thoughts to Consider As You Raise Your Child • Remember that a child is a gift from God, the richest of all blessings. Do not attempt to mold him in the image of

yourself, your father, your brother or neighbor. Each child is an individual and should be permitted to be himself. • Don't crush a child's spirit when he fails. Never compare him with others who have outshone him. • Remember that anger and hostility are natural emotions. Help your child to find socially acceptable outlets for

these normal feelings or they may turn inward and erupt in the form of physical or mental illness. • Discipline your child with firmness and reason. Don't let your anger throw you off balance. If he knows you are fair

you will not lose his respect or love. Always make sure the punishment fits the crime. Even the youngest child has a keen sense of justice.

• Remember that each child needs two parents. Present a united front. Never join with your child against your mate. This can create in your child emotional conflicts. It can also create feelings of guilt, confusion and insecurity.

• Do not hand your child everything his little heart desires. Permit him to know the trill of earning and the joy of achieving. Grant him the greatest of all satisfactions - the pleasure that comes with personal accomplishment.

• Do not set yourself up as the epitome of perfection. This is a difficult role to play 24 hours a day. You will find it easier to communicate with your child if you let him know that mom and dad err, too.

• Don't make threats in anger, or impossible promises when you are in a generous mood. Threaten or promise only that which you can live up to. To a child, a parent's word means everything. The child who has lost faith in his parents has difficulty believing in anything.

• Do not smother your child with superficial manifestation of "love". The purest and healthiest love expresses itself in day-in, day-out training which breeds self confidence and independence.

• Teach your child there is dignity in hard work, whether it is performed with callused hands that shovel coal or skilled fingers that manipulate surgical instruments. Let him know a useful life is a blessed one and a life of ease and pleasure-seeking is empty and meaningless.

• Do not try to protect your child against every small blow and disappointment. Adversity strengthens character and makes us compassionate. Trouble is the great equalizer. Let him learn it.

• Teach your child to love the Creator and to love all his fellow man. Don't send your child to a place of worship - take him there. Children learn from example. Telling him something is not teaching him. If you give your child a deep and abiding faith in God, it can be his strength and his light when all else fails.

• If you are a single parent, surround yourself by loving and supportive friends, role models for your child. It takes a whole community to raise a child.

• -- Unknown Kid Motivational Poem 2 Arthor

Overconfidence!!! 

It was the end of the school year, and a kindergarten teacher was receiving gifts from her pupils.

 The florist's son handed her a gift. She shook it, held it

overhead, and said, "I bet I know what it is. Flowers." "That's right!" the boy said,

 "But, how did you know?" "Oh, just a wild guess," she

said. 

The next pupil was the sweet shop owner's daughter. The teacher held her gift overhead, shook it, and

said, "I bet I can guess what it is. A box of sweets." 

"That's right, but how did you know?" asked the girl. "Oh, just a wild guess," said the teacher.

 

The next gift was from the son of the liquor storeowner. The teacher held the package overhead, but it was leaking. She touched a drop off the leakage with her finger and

put it to her tongue. "Is it wine?" she asked.

 "No," the boy replied, with some excitement.

The teacher repeated the process, tasting a larger drop of the leakage. "Is it

champagne?" she asked. 

"No," the boy replied, with more excitement. The teacher took one more big taste before

declaring, "I give up, what is it?" 

 With great glee, the boy replied, "It's a puppy!"

H+ Religion strategy by Edward de Bono

appinesselpopeealthumourH

HappinessHappiness being at peace with oneself and being at peace with oneself and

the world. It happens when the world. It happens when your mind (intent), body your mind (intent), body

(action) and spirit (conscience) (action) and spirit (conscience) vibrate in unison. A rare vibrate in unison. A rare

occurrence when you leave it to occurrence when you leave it to chance but can happen all the chance but can happen all the time if you consciously seek it.time if you consciously seek it.

HelpHelp

Ralph Waldo EmersonRalph Waldo Emerson : :

It is one of the most beautiful It is one of the most beautiful compensations of this life that no compensations of this life that no

man can sincerely try to help another man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself without helping himself

HopeHope

To look forward to with To look forward to with confidence or expectation: confidence or expectation:

HealthHealth

Health is the state of complete Health is the state of complete physical, mental and social physical, mental and social

well-being, and not only well-being, and not only merely the absence of merely the absence of

disease.disease.

HumourHumour

Humor is just another defense Humor is just another defense against the universe. against the universe.

Mel Brooks Mel Brooks

Humor is mankind's greatest Humor is mankind's greatest blessing. blessing.

Mark Twain Mark Twain

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