Identify, Cope, Prevent

What is Bullying?

Deliberately and repeatedly hurting others with words or actions.

Physical bullying increases in elementary school, peaks in middle school and declines in high school. Verbal abuse, on the other hand, remains constant.

Forms of Bullying

Physical Hitting, kicking, pinching,

poking, pushing, tripping, hair pulling, etc.

Emotional Rejecting, terrorizing,

extorting, humiliating, rating/ranking, intimidation, manipulating, ostracizing, peer pressure.

Social Spreading rumors, graffiti and

defacing property. Verbal

Name calling, teasing, mocking, insults, offensive and threatening language.

Cyber-bullying Occurs via the Internet,

mobile phones or other cyber technology. (1) sending malicious text, e-mail, or instant messages (2) posting defamatory pictures or messages about others in blogs or on websites (3) using someone else’s user name to spread rumors or lies about someone.

Sexual Exhibitionism, voyeurism,

sexual propositioning, sexual harassment, sexual abuse, etc.

3 Components of Bullying: Behavior

Aggressive behavior with the intent of doing harm to another or a group.

Frequency Occurs repeatedly over

a long period of time. Targets

Victim(s) is/are less powerful (physically and/or psychologically weaker).

Both, bullies and chronic victims of

bullying have problems throughout their lives developing friendships, and are

often loners.

The Journal of the American Medical Association

Intent of Bullying

Mental/Emotional Undermine

Political Intimidate

Physical Terrorize

Why Do Bullies Bully?

BULLIES OFTEN…

Seek social recognition

Supported by friends or peer group

Lose moral compass Desire power and/or

dominance Fascinated by

violence Experience academic

failure Have high self-esteem

BULLIES MAY EVEN…

Lack consistent discipline or monitoring in home environment,

Live in punitive atmosphere,

Witness aggression within home,

Lack attentive or loving home environment.

Live in single-parent families.

Cause and Effect

“Whats been up with u”“U’ll see soon!”

“every1 will be happy if u died”“drink bleach”“go die”

Harassment and bullying have been linked to 75% of school shooting incidents.

Approximately 160,000 teens skip school every day because of bullying.

Consequences

After the suicide of 12 year old Rebecca Sedwick, two suspects, ages 12 and 14, were charged with felony aggravated stalking.

“In the [Phoebe] Prince case, two boys and four girls, ages 16 to 18, face a different mix of felony charges that include statutory rape, violation of civil rights with bodily injury, harassment, stalking and disturbing a school assembly.”

Identify Form of Bullying

STORY A

Anna arrives at a new school. She doesn’t know anybody. Her teacher asks two girls in her class to play with her at recess. But when Anna tries to talk to them, they pretend they can’t hear her. Anna spends the rest of the recess hiding in the bathroom.

STORY B

Every Monday Kristy comes to school, she is met by a group of older boys who push her and take her lunch money. The only time the boys don’t do this is when Kristy manages to walk in the school gate with a group of friends. She is too afraid of the boys to tell an adult.

STORY A

Anna is experiencing emotional bullying.

How do you think Anna feels? Ostracized, rejected,

alone, low self-esteem?

STORY B

Kristy is experiencing physical and emotional bullying.

The boys repeatedly bully Kristy. Kristy feels intimidated and fears speaking out about the abuse.

How do you think Kristy feels? Terrorized, humiliated,

intimidated, powerless?

What Can You Do?

VICTIM

Walk away. Tell an adult. Speak loudly and

firmly. Stay calm and look

confident.

Remember: Bullies target weaker individuals.

BYSTANDER

Speak up. Tell someone.

Guide victim away from bully.

Avoid becoming an audience.

Do not laugh at or instigate bullying.

BYSTANDER EFFECT

Bystander Effect

Bystander Effect - People watch girl being abducted

Who Can Help You?

TeachersCounselorsParentsFriendsChild Help

Lines

“Kid’s Help Phone”

1-800-668-6868

About 17% of all calls to child help lines are made by children who are

being bullied.

How Can We Prevent Bullying?Support from Community, Schools, Youth and Parents

Prevent Educate

Inform youth and adults of severity of bullying

Build healthy relationships “The reality is we’re not

talking to kids early enough and long enough about bullying and healthy relationships.” Bullying expert, Dorothy Espelage

Develop high self-esteem Encourage confidence,

tolerance, and respect.

Become aware Identify bullies and

victims Hold regular

meetings Teachers, parents,

studentsUp to 40% of children think teachers have no clue that bullying is happening within the school.

Prevent Create open and

safe environment Assign student

groups Do not allow

students to choose work groups. This creates exclusion.

Assigned seating Be approachable

Do not dismiss student’s concerns.

Validate youth complaints and confessions

Involve parents Be consistent

Expect consequences.

By the average age of 23 children who had been

bullied in school were found to still suffer from

depression and stress related illnesses.

Shane Koyczan

"To This Day"

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