Human Relationships: Nature and Challenges

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Human Relationships: Nature and Challenges

Summary: In the entire biosphere mankind observes most diverse range of

relationships. Relationships are intrinsic to human needs. Relationships are

governed by specific rules underlying particular relationships. On one hand

relationships are a human need and on the other hand relationships are liable to

abuse. Therefore for our emotional and physical well-being we need to wisely

manage our relationships.

We humans live through a variety of relationships. Vast range of relationships we

live through is unique to mankind. No other species needs or observes so many

different relationships and in such diverse ways. Diversity of relationships is

intrinsic to human nature. There are many other species known to live in groupsbut do not have relationships differentiated into mother, father, daughter, sister,

brother, spouse, grandparents etc. For example lions are known to live in groups

but the only relationship lions recognize is male female relationship with the

dominant male lion having mating rights over females of the group irrespective of

historical considerations.

Diversity of relationships is intrinsic to human nature, as can be seen in the most

primitive tribal societies as well as the most advanced human societies.Relationships can be broadly divided into two groups i.e. congenital and acquired.

Congenital relationships may also be designated as inherited or historical

relationships being determined by birth. Acquired relationships can be further

divided into social relationships and friendships. Social relationships may be

determined by matrimonial relationship or place of residence, education and

work. Friendships are the relationships of our own choice generally determined

by companionship and mutual commitment. Friendship is more than meeting of

interest or acquaintance. It implies emotional bonding and mutual concern.

All relationships are dynamic in character. Dynamism is more in the case of social

relations and friendships. Scope and limits or nature and depth can profoundly

vary from time to time. Relationships may also be viewed as non-negotiated

unwritten contracts among people resting upon assurance of mutual help and

concern in case of some need. But relationships are neither a trade nor barter.


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However all relationships are governed by some rules of relationship some of

which may even be recognized by law. Relationships of the kind recognized by law

may be called as legally determined relationships. If there is a mandatory legal

procedure prescribed for constitution of a legally determined relationship, then

the procedure must be complied with to constitute a legal and valid relationship.

What is common to all relationships is the rule that in any relationship, rules of

relationship prevail over individual interest. One such rule is that in a partnership

mutual interest prevails over individual interest. Companionship, love, respect

etc. help sustain a relationship. But what really matters is compliance with rule of

relationship whether by the sheer force of commitment or love or respect etc.

All relationships are liable to turn sour due to various reasons. One reason being

that people tend to comply with relationships because of emotional reasons and

ones emotional compulsions vanish or better sentimental alternatives become

available, the existing relationship turns sour. Other important reasons are

vagueness of assurance, promise or rule underlying any relationship; relationship

being an undefined contract. So parties to any relationship are uncertain as to

what to expect and what to deliver. Generally people dont deal with their

relationships prudently and pragmatically.

Therefore, either people are exploited in the name of relationship or lose faith in

relationships. The end result is the psychological inability to establish appropriate

relationship or fear of relationships. Even this is not an acceptable situation

because need for relationships is an intrinsic need and one finds it difficult to lead

life all alone.

Solution to the situation lies in understanding role of our relations in our

emotional and physical existence, clearly understanding rules underlying different

relationships and honest compliance with the rules. We should live ourrelationships prudently and pragmatically. Let our egocentricity or selfishness not

spoil our relationships. At the same time if somebody is abusing a relationship, an

exhaustive attempt should be made to make the abuser mend his ways but if the

abuser is found to be incorrigible after exhaustive efforts, then a decision to end

the particular relationship should be considered. Relationships should not be


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victims of our temper tantrums or whims and fancies. We need our relations as

much as we need food, clothing and shelter, if not for material reasons, at least

for our emotional wellbeing.

Author: Dr Mahesh C. Jain is a practicing medical doctor has written the bookEncounter of Science with Philosophy A synthetic view. The book begins with

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