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Beyond All Doubt (The Explanation of Human Behavior)

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12 Words Say It All


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12 Words Say It All

All human behavior is an attempt toremove doubt from our lives


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Doubt Is the Constant in Human Behavior

Doubt is the engine that drives behaviorDoubt removal is the equivalent of gravity

Trying to remove doubt from our lives is theequivalent of gravity trying to pull everythingto the center of the earth

Not only is this happening constantly in both casesIt is the predominant thing happening

Everything else is minor


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What about fear?

Doesnt fear, our need to survive, fear of death drive our behavior? NoFear is very powerful and emotionally charged but

its not running the showWhy do we fear anything? We fear it because weDOUBT we will be safe

Doubt is always present when fear is and it alwaysarrives firstFor fear to be the driving force behind humanbehavior it would always have to be present and itwould have to be present in the absence of doubt


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The Behavior Process


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The Behavior ProcessWe consider all of the possibilities thatwe can see available to us at any onemoment


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We choose the one we have the leastamount of doubt in and we act that out


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We choose the one we have the leastamount of doubt in and we act that out

This is all we do, we do this over andover and over again, constantly


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The Behavior ProcessWe consider all of the possibilities that we

can see available to us at any one momentWe choose the one we have the least amountof doubt in and we act that outThis is all we do, we do this over and overand over again, constantly

This is the only behavior transaction or instance of behavior that exists in the world


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The Behavior ProcessWe consider all of the possibilities that we

can see available to us at any one momentWe choose the one we have the least amountof doubt in and we act that out

This is all we do, we do this over and overand over again, constantlyThis is the only behavior transaction or

instance of behavior that exists in the world6.8 billion people on the planet are all doingthe exact same thing, for every second of their lives


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The Behavior Cycle


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The Behavior Cycle

Each behavior transaction or instanceof behavior goes through a behavior

cycleEvery instance of behavior goesthrough the same cycleThe cycle has four stages


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The Behavior Cycle

I Judge

I Act I Think

I Want


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The Behavior CycleWe start by wanting somethingWe think about it

Do I want it?

Should I want it?Can I do it/Can I get it?Whats the best plan to get what I want?

We evaluate our options, we make a judgment (decide which one we have theleast amount of doubt in)

We act


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The Behavior Cycle

Now people tell me, That cycles nottrue, there are a lot of times when Idont want anything

The times when we dont want anything are simply times when we cant see clearlyenough to see what we want, we alwayswant something

Heres my favorite example of people

insisting that they dont want anything


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The Behavior Cycle

I dont want anything; I just want


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The Behavior Cycle

I dont want anything; I just want

How many of us have heard that, or said that?

Here is a person insisting that they dont wantanything and yet they cant even make it out of the sentence, they cant even make it two secondswithout declaring something that they want

Lets look at some positive and negativeexamples


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The Behavior Cycle

Negative things heard during anargument or a fight

I dont want anything; I just want You to leave me alone You to shut up

You to drop dead Hmmm, thats not wanting much is it? I dont want

anything; I just want you to drop dead


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The Behavior Cycle

Here are some positive thingsI dont want anything, I just want

You to be happy My kids to have more opportunities than I did Peace on Earth

Just Peace on Earth, thats all?


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The Behavior Cycle

People also tell me Well yeah, I wantthings, but I dont always want to bedoing what Im doing, sometimes Iwant to be doing something else

This notion of doing something other than

what we want to be doing is perfectlysummed up with this commonly heardphrase


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The Behavior Cycle

I dont want to but I have to


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The Behavior Cycle

I dont want to but I have toHow many of us have heard that or saidthat?

Id guess just about all of us have heard it and said it

Lets look at a couple of examples


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I Dont Want to But I Have to

Going to work is a big one of theseI dont want to go to work but I have to

Of course I want to go to work. I want to goto work more than I want to suffer theconsequences that I anticipate I will endure bynot going to work


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I Dont Want to But I Have to

Your money or your life! Heres a classic one with the notion being,I dont want to give the robber my moneybut I have to

Of course I want to give him my money. Iwant to give him my money more than I wantto suffer the consequences of not giving himmy money which may include being killed


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The Behavior Cycle

We are always doing what we want, giventhe options we see available to us, quitefrequently many of us would prefer to have

better options availableBut of the options that we see available we alwayspick the one that we think is in our best interest atthat particular moment, that will leave us feelingthe most secure right then, we are never in asituation where have to and want to aredifferent things, at least not when we are talking

about options that are actually available


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The Behavior Cycle

Lets go back and review what theBehavior Process is

We consider all of the possibilities that wecan see available to us at any one momentWe choose the one we have the least

amount of doubt in and we act that out The one with the least amount of doubt is the

one we want, it is what we want


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The Behavior Cycle

Maybe the possibilities that we can seeavailable to us are all badMaybe we can see 10 options and we dont like

any of themMaybe our want is to make the best of a horriblesituation

Having only options that we dont like does not invalidatethe Behavior Cycle

We are still going through this cycle and our behavior (act)is still fulfilling our want, based on our best judgment of

the options we think are available to us


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The Behavior Cycle

I Judge

I Act I Think

I Want


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The Behavior Cycle Summary

Every instance of behavior, everybehavior transaction has a behaviorcycle that it goes though

The cycle has four stages I want

I think I judge I act


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The Behavior Cycle SummaryWe start by wanting somethingWe think about it

Do I want it?Should I want it?Can I do it/Can I get it?Whats the best plan to get what I want?

We evaluate our options, we make a judgment (decide which one we have theleast amount of doubt in)

We act


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Four Elementsof Behavior


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Four Elements of Behavior

Every instance of behavior, every behaviortransaction also requires a group of behavior elements in order for that behavior to take

place.There are four elements

When these four elements are combined abehavior cycle will complete and a specificinstance of behavior will have manifested


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It takes four things to create an instance of behavior,to create a Behavior Transaction Belief SystemsEnergy

OpportunityTrigger

If any of these four are lacking, or are lacking

sufficient quantity or quality the specific behaviorcannot take placeThis will become more obvious when we look at theelements individually and look at a picture of how it all

comes together, so lets do that now


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Belief Systems

You need to believe that its humanly possible You need to believe that you can do it You need to believe that you should do it

If you dont believe all three of these things,

the instance of behavior cannot take place


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Energy

You need enough energy You need the right kind of energy (your

mood has to match)Some other person or thing will alsoneed to have enough of and the rightkind of energy, if the behavior involvesother people or things


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Opportunity

You have to have the opportunity toengage in the behavior

If you dont have the opportunity thebehavior cant take placeIf you dont believe you have theopportunity (even if you really do) thenthe behavior cant take place


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Trigger

There has to be a trigger to initiate theprocess

It could be a physical, mental oremotional triggerQuite often all three exist

Theres always a trigger


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Belief SystemsEnergyOpportunityTrigger

If any of these four are lacking, or arelacking sufficient quantity or quality, the

specific behavior cannot take place


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The four elements combine to create aspecific instance of behavior Any specific behavior only occurs when the fourelements combine in that precise way

Change any of the four elements and the behavior willnot occurIf the behavior is already taking place the fourelements need to remain stable for the behaviorto continue Change any of the four elements and that behavior will

stop and a new behavior based on the new configurationof the elements will begin

Lets look at it in picture form


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Opportunity

Energy

Beliefs

BehaviorTrigger


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Behavior in ActionThe Hunt


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What Are We Hunting For?

Ultimately we are always hunting for a feelingWe arent really hunting for things, even thebasics of food, clothing and shelter

We are hunting for the feeling we hope we will have bygetting those things Its not uncommon that we get the thing that we were

hunting for, remain unsatisfied and keep hunting

Thats because we werent hunting for a thing we werehunting for the feeling and the feeling didnt come with thething, or the feeling came with it but it didnt last long sowe begin the hunt again


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Behavior in Action

We are always on a huntWe are always on a hunt for a feelingThe feeling we are always hunting for is tofeel secure, we are always hunting toremove insecurity, to remove doubt

All of the other feelings that we may say we

are hunting for (happiness, love, peace, afeeling of power and control and many others)are all simply different flavors of safe andsecure and healthy (minimal doubt)


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Behavior in Action

We go on both internal and external huntsInternal hunts are an attempt (conscious orsubconscious) to directly gives us the feeling we

are looking forExternal hunts are an attempt to acquire control(possession of an object or control of a person or

situation) and we hope that control will functionas a trigger to lead us to the feeling we are after


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Being Aware of the Process


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For any instance of behavior any mentalsnapshot that you make, you can map outtwo things and prove to yourself over and

over and over again, that this really is theway human behavior works

You can do it for your own behavior or thebehavior of anyone elseLets look at the two things


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One the Behavior CycleI wantI think I judgeI act

You can look at any behavior, anything that youvedone and see how proceeding through the first threesteps (want/think/judge) led to the fourth, the

behavior (act)


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The Behavior Cycle

I Judge

I Act I Think

I Want


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Being Aware of the ProcessTwo the Four Elements of Behavior

Belief systemsEnergyOpportunityTrigger

You can look at any behavior, anything that youvedone and look at each of the four elements and seehow they came together to create the behavior

You can also envision how changing any of the fourwould have changed the behavior


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Opportunity

Energy

Beliefs

BehaviorTrigger


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Social Interaction The Basics


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Social InteractionWhy Do We Do It?

Two reasons for Social InteractionTo get someone else to hunt with us

To get someone else to hunt for us


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Social InteractionWhy Do We Do It?

Two reasons for Social InteractionTo get someone else to hunt with us

To get someone else to hunt for usThese are the only two reasons to

purposefully interact with anotherhuman being


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Social InteractionWhen we are socially interacting one of five things isgoing to happen

One we are going to get the other person to do what wewant (hunt with us/for us)Two we are going to change our objective and do whatthe other person wants (hunt with them/for them)Three we are both going to change our objectives to amutually acceptable one and hunt togetherFour we are going to leave or stop interacting

Five we are going to become hostile and lash out, argue orfightThis is how simple social interaction is, one of thesefive things is always going to happen


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Social Interaction Manipulation

The whole point of social interaction is tomanipulate (maneuver, coax, entice) otherpeople, to get them to do what we want

We are always on a hunt We are always on a hunt for a feeling We are always selfishly in pursuit of the feeling we are

hunting for When we encounter other people, either purposefully or

accidentally, we immediately either want them to huntwith us, for us, or to get out of the way


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Manipulation has a strong negativeconnotation and if I could think of a less negative word that equally or better

describes the essence of socialinteraction I would use itThe problem is that manipulation (wantingto control others and get them to do whatwe want them to do) is the essence of social interaction


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Manipulation and being niceJust because we are trying to control otherpeople and get them to do what we want

doesnt mean we are not being nice, wecan be controlling and manipulative whilestill being nice

We can be nice, loving, caring, supportive,affectionate, encouraging, cooperative and anyother thing that could be considered good while still being controlling and manipulative


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Social Interaction Compatibility

What is compatibility?Compatibility is having the same objectiveson a consistent basis

Since we are always trying tomanipulate the other person into

hunting for us or with us, its veryhandy if we want to go on the samehunts


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Social Interaction CompatibilityWhen both people want to go on the samehunt, it doesnt come across as manipulationit comes across as cooperation

Helpful, kind, giving, loving

This is why compatibility is so importantWe are always being selfish and manipulative, it

just doesnt matter when we have the sameobjective, because when we are on the same

hunt our selfishness isnt causing a conflict Our selfishness is matched with their selfishness (we

have mutually compatible selfish objectives) andtherefore there is no conflict


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Social Interaction Compatibility

Our level of getting along with othersis directly tied to our compatibility And our compatibility is directly tied to our

objectives, our hunts And there are two compatibility issues with our

hunts Do we have the same ultimate objective Do we have the same plan to get there

The more we have the same objectives andplans to achieve them the more we get along


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Social Interaction SummaryWhen we are socially interacting one of five things isgoing to happen

One we are going to get the other person to do what wewant (hunt with us/for us)Two we are going to change our objective and do whatthe other person wants (hunt with them/for them)Three we are both going to change our objectives to amutually acceptable one and hunt togetherFour we are going to leave or stop interacting

Five we are going to become hostile and lash out, argue orfightThis is how simple social interaction is, one of thesefive things is always going to happen


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Social Interaction SummaryThere are two reasons for Social Interaction

To get someone else to hunt with usTo get someone else to hunt for us

The point of social interaction is to manipulateother people, to get them to do what we want

Manipulation isnt bad its just the way it isWhen both people want to consistently go onthe same hunts, it doesnt come across asmanipulation it comes across as cooperation

That is what compatibility is


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Controlling and Modifying Behavior


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Attempts to control and modify behavior, likehuman behavior itself and social interaction,are not complicated at all

We judge a persons actions and pending actions,we decide like or dont like This determines encourage or discourageWe pick an element of behavior to focus onWe pull them up or drag them down

Thats all there is to it and we go through the sameprocess whether the attempt to control or modifybehavior pertains to us, or to someone else


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Attempts to control or modify behaviorare principally attached to one elementBeliefs, Energy, Opportunity, Trigger

Beliefs we try to increase faith or doubt Energy we try to change the energy state so

the desired belief system will be active, or anundesired belief system will be inactive

Opportunity we try to enhance or diminish Trigger we encourage or discourage


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To produce consistent behavior all fourelements (beliefs, energy, opportunity, trigger)must remain the same

To change behavior you only need to changeone of themChanging any of the four will result in different

behavior, even if all of the other three remaincompletely unchangedThis is very obvious when we look at it in pictureform, so lets look at that slide again


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Elements of Behavior

Opportunity

Energy

Beliefs

BehaviorTrigger


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Human Behavior ConclusionThere is nothing complicated about humanbehavior. Individual behavior; socialinteraction; large or small group behavior;

attempts to control or modify behavior, noneof them are complicatedIt might be very difficult or impossible to control a

person or a groups behavior, but none of thebehavior is complicated, human behavior simply isnot complicated at all


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Human Behavior Conclusion

When examining behavior the eventseverity or magnitude doesnt matterThe process is exactly the same and notcomplicated whatsoever, whether thebehavior involves picking up a water bottleand taking a drink, or ordering an army toinvade a country


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Human Behavior ConclusionLikewise, scale doesnt matter either

An individual, 10 friends in a bar, a group of 100,000 people or the entire human race. Thebehavior process is identical, everywhere, all of the timeIt doesnt matter who is engaged in the behavior,how many people are engaged in the behavior, orwhat the behavior is, the process is always thesame and its not in the least bit complicated


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There really is only one thing, one behavior transaction or instance of behavior that is ever going on in theworld6.8 billion people on the planet are all

doing the exact same thing for everysecond of their lives


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And what is that one thing?We are going through the Behavior Process We are considering all of the possibilities that we

can see available to us at that precise moment We are choosing the one we have the least

amount of doubt in and we are acting that out

We are choosing and acting out the behaviorthat will make us feel the most emotionally(not physically) secure at that exact moment


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Human Behavior ConclusionPeople are physically doing different things,because different things make differentpeople and even the same people at different

times, feel the most emotionally secure atany particular momentBut despite the fact that people are doing a wide

variety of different things (some of which we loveand some of which we hate) people are not fundamentally behaving any differently


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Human Behavior ConclusionThe fundamentals are identical for everyoneall of the time

Everyone is constantly going through the sameBehavior Process

All behavior is going through the same BehaviorCycle (I want, I think, I judge, I act)

All behavior is made up of the same BehaviorElements (Beliefs, Energy, Opportunity, Trigger)


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Human Behavior ConclusionIt is this universally (species wide) identicalfundamental nature of human behavior thatoffers so much promise and cause for

optimism for the human raceThe more we accept and embrace how simplehuman behavior actually is and that all human

beings are engaged in the same fundamentalbehavior all of the time, the better it will be for usas individuals, the people we come in contact withand the human race as a whole


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We will be better off as individuals becauseWe will have a much better understanding of our own behavior and the behavior of others

And that increased understanding will lead to a reduction of stress in our lives an increase of feeling safe and secure a greater capacity to accept and to work with

others, which will lead to better relationships And all of these will increase our quality of life


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The people around us will be better off Because the more individuals feel secure, theless threatened they feel

And the less threatened they feel the lessthreatening they are to the people aroundthem

And this leads to the people around them feelingmore secure and the people around those peoplefeeling more secure


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And lastly, the human race as a wholewill be better off Because as each person embraces thismodel of human behavior and integratesit into their daily life, the human race willbe one small step closer to achieving

Peace on Earth

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