How to Heal Your Love Life

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By Trevor Emdon

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Introduction ...............................................3Tip 1: Magic Moments ..............................4

Tip 2: Responsibility isn't blame...............6Tip 3: Endings are also beginnings.........10Tip 4:.......................................................12Go where you are significant - not whereyou feel insignificant. ..............................12Tip 5:.......................................................14

Only date yourself until you have love forlife in your heart again. ...........................14Tip 6: Smile!............................................16Tip 7: Contribute. ....................................18Tip 8: Grow .............................................19................................................................19

Tip 9: Enjoy uncertainty. .........................21Tip 10: Restore Your Trust InRelationships. .........................................23


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Tip 1: Magic Moments

Remember, or realise if you've never thought of it before, that you have the

power to choose what to focus your thoughts on.

After a great shock or big pain such as the loss of a relationship, it's natural to

spend all your time ruminating on what's happened and what you've lost. In the

early days you won't feel as though you have too much control over this, but

there is something you can do.

Buy a nice notebook and keep it, together with a pen, by your bed. (Bedtime is

the worst time for all the sad, bad thoughts to come rushing in anyway).

When you climb into bed, before you turn out the light, grab your notebook and

pen. Now tiptoe back in your mind through your day and come up with three

"magic moments." When each one pops into your head, jot it down.


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Magic moments can be anything: a sunset, a checkout cashier who smiled at

you, finding a parking space easily, a (good) surprise phone call or email, finding

a penny in the street, the taste of a cappuccino, a flower that bloomed today

you get the idea. Anything, no matter how small, that lifted your spirits even one

tenth of one degree.

Soon you'll begin to realise that not every moment of every day is as dark as

you'd thought it was.

If you're disciplined about this, you'll discover that the process has a great side

effect: it helps you sleep better.

The mental action of deliberately focussing your thoughts on good and positive

things soothes your troubled mind and relieves the pressure of the pain.


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Tip 2: Responsibility isn't blame.

One major problem when a relationship breaks up is the tendency to beat

yourself up. The notion that it must "all be my fault" is often reinforced by the

other party too, so self esteem can take a real bashing at this time.

Let's get this out of the way right now. Whose "fault" it is, is irrelevant!

Even if you could prove it one way or the other, (and you never will because so

much is subjective and very biased opinion), what difference would it make?

"One of us is a bad person, (and that's you), so I must be the good one"?

I don't think it's ever going to come out like that, is it? Adolf Hitler had a love life,

and Mother Teresa no doubt had people who disliked her, so I don't think we're

going to establish any criteria for what makes a person good, bad, right or wrong

that the whole world would agree upon!

Blaming yourself for what has happened is useless and makes you feel bad.

Blaming the other person for what has happened is also useless and makes both

of you feel bad.


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The outcome you want is to feel better, right? You might think that that would be

achieved if the person came back. If they won't then your brain will look for other

ways to feel better. And that's when the tendency to "blame" one party or the

other begins.

Are you willing to try another tack with me?

Great!

Let's look at responsibility then. "Responsibility" literally means "the ability to

respond." It doesn't mean something is your "fault."

(In fact, I'd like to do away with the notion that people have "faults." To

ourselves, each of us is perfect. It's only the judgement of others that makes us

decide that some aspects of character should be defined as "faults". Imagine a

wild rose growing next to a bluebell in a forest. Is one wrong because it's red or

blue? Is one bad because it has thorns? They're both perfect as what they are!)

Now if you "have the ability to respond", this implies that you have resources.

Some of those resources you may not have thought about.

You have the ability, (as I pointed out in the "magic moments" tip) to focus on

what you think about. You can think about what you've lost, or you can look for

positives. You have more time for yourself now, for example.

In the early days, much of your thinking and feeling time will be about the other

person. So take this on board: you can be right or you can be kind.

In the long run, which will make you feel better?


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I will offer you a "lens" to look through about this: All human beings have the

same basic needs.

We all want to feel significant.

We all want to be loved.

We all need certainty, variety and to feel that we're growing.

If someone leaves a relationship, or makes any other major change in life, it's

because somewhere inside them, they felt one or more of those needs was not

being adequately met.

That doesn't mean it was your fault, or theirs.

It just means it wasn't being adequately met - for them.

To accommodate that feeling some people change or take up a new religion;

others choose atheism.

Others become vegetarian or vegan, but some people love meat.

Some people choose celibacy, whilst others go for promiscuity.

There are no faults or blames here. There are simply people searching for their

own inner, personal version of peace.

Now, if you are willing to accept that that was - and is - what your ex is doing at

some level, does that make it easier to let go?

Does that ease the burden of guilt and blame for you?


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Does that enable you, above all, to find the ability to respond to what has

happened by being kind to yourself?

A great tip by the way: use visualisation to create rapid happiness and increase

your ability to find magic moments. If you do this for 15 minutes a day, you'll find

magic moments happening to you for real!

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Tip 3: Endings are also beginnings

Can you get in touch with that strange mix of feelings we sometimes get atmidnight on New Years' Eve? The old year has gone, and the blank canvas of

the new one stretches 365 unwritten, untarnished days before us.

It can be both nostalgic and exciting. But right then, at the stroke of midnight, it's

where you're at. It's absolutely your moment of now.

Let yourself, post relationship, look at what's opening up for you. What's new?

What opportunities are now available that weren't there before?

Time to visit places you'd always wanted to go, perhaps. Freedom to watch your

favourite TV shows. It can be trivial, and sure you might miss the arguments

over the remote control for a while, but allow yourself to wallow in your freedom,

rather than railing against your loss.

Life, it's often pointed out, is not fair. But it's yourlife.

What do you want to do with it before it's gone? Now's the time to make those

starts.


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Giving yourself a compelling future, (fun, challenges, things that excite you), and

a reason to get out of bed each day will massively strengthen you and speed

your emotional healing.

Now, what are you going to start today?


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Tip 4:

Go where you are significant - not where you feel insignificant.

Feelings of isolation will only get worse if you reinforce them by putting yourself

in places and situations where you don't feel loved and cherished.

If you have a hobby or talent, pursue it now, even if you've let it languish for

years. (I play guitar, for example, and took myself to lots of acoustic music clubs

in the first couple of years after my divorce).

Of course, not all hobbies lend themselves to socialising, but most activities,

unless they're really obscure, have meetings, talks, exhibitions, evenings and

these days, of course, online forums you can join - almost all of them free. (Just

go to Google and enter "your hobby +forum").

You'll soon find yourself absorbed in adding comments, exchanging ideas and

before you know it, that feeling of being useful and significant, even if it's to a

stranger on the other side of the world, will return.


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If you really are one of those people without any outside interests, consider how

you choose to spend whatever leisure time you have. Do you read, watch TV,

listen to plays on the radio, bake cakes?

Someone, somewhere wants to know about that. Find them - the internet now

makes that incredibly easy, and if you have children or some other reason that

makes it hard for you to go out a lot, as long as you have an internet connection,

you can do much of this from your own home.

So get significant, and re-establish that you are still valued and valuable.

It's a feeling we all need, and it's vital to your recovery.


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Tip 5:

Only date yourself until you have love for life in your heart again.

Date yourself?! Well, yes!

Once or twice a month make the effort to take yourself out somewhere special.

Go through the same motions as if you were really going on a special date.

Dress up, even get yourself some new gear if you can afford to, make yourself

smell and look a million dollars and go out on the town.

A nice restaurant, (take a taxi so you can treat yourself to a nice glass of wine if

you want one), or theatre perhaps. Maybe both - but some form of entertainment


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is advisable otherwise there's a chance you'll sit alone in the restaurant feeling

sorry for yourself!

If you're really bold, you could try dancing. These days, jive and salsa classes

are very popular, usually very cheap, don't require previous experience, and

above all, don't require you to have a partner.

It may take a little nerve to walk in alone, (find a same sex friend if you can to go

with you, but don't make it a pre-requisite), but the effort will be greatly rewarded.

You'll laugh - including at yourself if you're a novice, but not in a humiliating way,

and you'll feel fabulous for the exercise and the music. Dance is great therapy!

The principle here is to learn to enjoy your own company. You'll also discover

that we do now live in a society where being single is not such a terrible thing,

and there's plenty to do and many friends to make.

The big "don't" is to start dating again - not until you can enjoy time in your own

company and fill the empty hours without that being painful. Dating for the sake

of ending the empty feeling will lead to uncomfortable endings for you and your

date almost inevitably, since love is not the motivator, and both of you will end up

with another rejection experience chalked up. Something you could both do

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Smiling makes you, and everyone around you feel good. Period. So do it.

Major tip: If you find it too difficult to summon up a smile, you are still to focussed

on what doesn't work. One technique I strongly recommend you try is "the

Power Pause."

It is a very simple yet powerful way of dissolving any problem in about three

minutes!

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Tip 7: Contribute.

One of the major ways to feel alive and special is to give something back. This

complements the "feeling significant" tip.

You could work for a charity, but you could also cut the neighbours' lawn, or

babysit for a friend. You could wash someone's car, make a cake for colleagues

at the office, or write a best selling novel!

It doesn't matter how you do it, but if you don't feel you're making a difference, no

matter how small or large in the world, you won't feel fully alive.

Come up with one of those "random acts of kindness" that was such a popular

concept a few years ago, and perform it. Not just one time - but over and over

again as the weeks go by!

Making yourself focus on this by asking yourself the question, "What good thing

can I do today?" will be another contributory factor to your recovery and well-

being.

Major tip: If you want to make the kind of difference that will never be forgotten,

help yourself and others to find and live their true purpose in life.

This program - The Roar Within - is designed to make that happen!
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Tip 8: Grow.

This might be tough, especially at the beginning, but boy, it's powerful! What this

means is: learn more about who you are, what you want, and how to be through

what has happened. It doesn't mean taking the blame.

You'll find it's almost inevitable that this process will occur to some extent

naturally during the early days after a major break up especially. Well meaning

friends will try to help you answer the question you'll ask a million times both

aloud and in your head: "Why?"

The temptation in attempting to answer it is to point the finger at the other person

- the one who's seen as the cause of all your present pain - and point out all their

faults.


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This has only a very temporary effect on making you feel better, and is really

tantamount to trying to have the tallest house in town by knocking everyone

else's down! You'll end up with the only house in town that way!

Well meaning friends are both well meaning and friends, but you should take

some time out to sort out the well meaning parts from the friendships. It isn't

always helpful to hear that you're the "goody" and the other person is the "baddy"

in this drama.

In thoughtful moments alone, ask yourself, "What do I really want, expect and

need from love and relationships?" Don't force the answers, but gently wait for

them to pop into your head. It may prove useful to jot some of them down

because they may surprise you to such an extent that you'll dismiss or deny them

as simply "not you."

They came from somewhere, so allow them house room even if it's only privately

in your own mind for a while. You're not obliged to act on them, but letting them

be consciously there can truly give you insight into who you really are and what,

ultimately, is going to contribute to your happiness.

We're all different, so don't judge yourself. If we were all the same it would be a

very dull world indeed!


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Tip 9: Enjoy uncertainty.

Imagine a world where the future is utterly predictable. You know what you're

going to wear, eat and say from the moment you wake until you go to bed every

day. You'd know exactly what time things will happen, even what the weather

will be like and so on.

No variation, nothing different ever.

Anyone living in such a way would surely die of boredom!

(Some sufferers of severe forms of OCD - obsessive compulsive disorder - have

the "need" to try to control their world almost to this extent, and it is totally

debilitating for them of course).


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Of course, I'm exaggerating for the purpose of illustration here. However, after a

great life-changing shock such as the ending of a relationship or a divorce, it's

very comforting to hold onto everything that remains that was familiar. Routines,

diets, tv schedules, what time you eat and so on might all be up for

reconsideration now.

The trick is to enjoy the newness of it all. You don't haveto change it, but you

could!

Allowing change gives you a feeling of personal power and authority over your

life again, rather than that awful sense of being at the mercy of circumstances.


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Tip 10: Restore Your Trust In Relationships.

I've left this one till last because it isn't something you'll do on day one. Love,

however, is a beautiful thing, and to deny it entirely in your life because you've

been hurt - maybe more than once - would be like a great sportsperson saying

they'll never play again because they broke a leg.

The divorce rate may be high, but the staying in love rate is still higher!

Look for news and gossip about happy relationships. (At the time of writing, for

example, David and Victoria Beckham - "Posh and Becks" - seem to have

survived well despite being always in the public eye).


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There are plenty. When you're single, you'll naturally be in the company of other

single people, many wounded like you, who will contribute to a world view that

relationships and love hurt, and are to be avoided at all costs.

You will miss out on one of the most delicious, gorgeous and enriching aspects

of life if you allow this to become your permanent mind set.

You've been wounded - perhaps badly - but just like a physical injury, you can

and will heal.

I have put together an entire recovery program for the moment when you are at

least ready to consider this process called

"How To Trust Love Again When Your Heart's Been Broken" .

I hope I've shown you - even convinced you - that the power to heal your love

life, and your love oflife - is not only already within you, it's easily within your

capability.

Enjoy your journey.

Trevor Emdon.

Contact me here

P.S. If you're a woman who has previously been in a very abusive or even

dangerous relationship, you might want to read this book entitled, "Women Who

Love Psychopaths: Inside The Relationship Of Inevitable Harm". I realise it's not

everyone's bedtime reading, but there are some relationships you'd want a belt-

and-braces guarantee you'd never repeat the same mistakes - I understand that,

so I've included the link for you.
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