"How to Gain Confidence Through Speaking"

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Cant I simply read a book to gain confidence in Public Speaking? Well as long as you asked, I have to say, No, not really. Now I know Im offending many authors that hold other opinions, but thats my view. Public Speaking and Presentations are physical, active, interactive, and frequently, emotionally involved events. Does Reading about Speaking serve a purpose? Of course it does, but its not a suitable alternative to Learn by doing Speaking. Speakers Speak. Even if you don't read this article, know this: Speaking is a Learnable set of Skills.

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How to gain Condence through SpeakingCant I just read a book or watch a video to gain Condence in Public Speaking? Well as long as you asked, I have to say, No, not really. Now I know Im oending many Speakers that hold other opinions, but thats my view. Public Speaking and Presentations are physical, active, interactive, and frequently, emotionally involved events. Does Reading about Speaking serve a purpose? Of course it does, but its not a suitable alternative to Learn by doing that is, to Learn How to Speak Condently... by Speaking. Books, DVDs, Videos, NLP, Hypnotherapy, and even Drugs may oer a piece to solving the puzzle of How do I become a Condent Speaker. Nevertheless, I dont believe that any of the aforementioned are a suitable substitute for actually Speaking. So, what about Condence & Speaking? Well, Actually standing up and saying whats on your mind is Empowering. Its the repetition that builds your Condence. As you build your Condence, youll take more risks. And when you take more risks, youll try new techniques which will further build your Condence...and so it goes. And through Speaking, maybe youll change attitudes, inspire action, maybe You solve a problem. Now thats a Condence builder. Lets say, I write that gesturing, using your hands & arms when Speaking, is a good way to emphasize your important points, and too, it serves to keep the audience focused on You. Well that sounds good, but how does that work in actuality when you apply it? You might think, how often should I move my arms? How big should the movements be? How fast or slow should I move? How do I coordinate my gestures with my Speaking points, my Presentation, my script? Well, You wont know until you apply the hands & arms suggestion in a practice situation by physically Gesturing and Testing it. Maybe your body language now is constrained or sti, and if you successfully applied this technique, it might relax your demeanor. Normally, youre uncomfortable or embarrassed to be standing in front of a group of people. So you Test the suggestion by adding hand & arm movements. Do You feel more insecure, awkward, or fearful? Maybe you do, but those dont have to be your results.Visit tomjdolan.com for more ideas & information about building your future through Speaking

You see, the idea sounds good on paper and it seems reasonable. You think it might even give your Presentations more life, more energy. But after a few attempts, you feel uncomfortable. The gestures seem forced and unnatural, and so you discard the idea saying oh, its not for me. But, What if there is a level of gesturing that you would be comfortable using when you Speak? But because you never Visualize & Test dierent gesture variations, you never discover the Benets of gesturing. The unfortunate result is a lost opportunity for self-improvement and building Condence as a Speaker or Presenter. Yes, the technique is in the book right there in front of you, but for some reason you cant seem to make it work. That doesnt mean you couldnt successfully apply the technique in the right learning situation. And thats one of the Primary reasons to work with a Trainer or Coach: to move You from the negative to the plus side of Speaking. As I stated in video post #11 OJT*, an excellent way to learn Speaking is by Speaking. Working with a Teacher can shorten the learning curve by guiding you out of your Comfort Zone into more productive behavior. Of course you can always stay at your present level of performance, but if youre reading this article, I dont think you want to do that. So, break-free of your self imposed constraints. Youll be a more Condent, more eective Speaker, and youll produce better results because youll know how.

How do You become a Speaker? Speak! How do You become a Better Speaker? SpeaK More Often!*OJT: On the Job Training.

Tom j Dolan, the Author, is a Trainer/Coach and the producer of Performance of Speaking a video website devoted to Training & Coaching beginning & experienced Speakers who want to contribute to the public conversations shaping the future of our Communities, our Country, and our Planet.

Visit tomjdolan.com for more ideas & information about building your future through Speaking