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The Health & Intimacy of Your Marriage is Directly Proportionate to your Personal Growth & Maturity as a Disciple of Jesus Christ. How Do You Navigate Through Emotional Discussions?. How Do You Navigate Through Emotional Discussions?. How Do You Navigate Through Emotional Discussions?. - PowerPoint PPT Presentation
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The Health & Intimacy of Your Marriage is
Directly Proportionate to your Personal
Growth & Maturity as a Disciple of Jesus Christ
How Do You Navigate Through Emotional Discussions?
How Do You Navigate Through Emotional Discussions?
How Do You Navigate Through Emotional Discussions?
How Do You Navigate Through Emotional Discussions?
How Do You Navigate Through Emotional Discussions?
1. What Can You Do To Improve Your Marriage?
Be The Safest Person In The World To Your Spouse
If your spouse is not vulnerable with you… you are not a safe
person to them
2. A Safe Person Is A Person Who… • Accepts me as I am ~ to be on the outside what I
am on the inside• Helps me love & be responsible ~ Increases love
within me• I can be myself around• Whose life touches mine & I am better for it• Helps me grow…into who I am created to be…
Helps me be like ChristHow Are You Doing At
Being Safe For Your Spouse?
3. What Is Empathy?
4. What Does Empathy Do?
What Is The Developmental Process?
Allows for connection & intimacy
How Do We Listen?10% words/30% sounds/60% body
language… 80-90% is NON-VERBAL!Levels of Listening:
• Ignoring• Pretending• Selective• Attentive• Empathic
• We evaluate• We probe• We advise… fix• We interpret
• Highest level of listening• Creates safety ~ the “safety net” that allows vulnerability & risk• Seeks to UNDERSTAND BEFORE BEING UNDERSTOOD• The language of sentiment & emotion ~ not logic• A transformation opportunity rather than a mere transaction• The only path to attachment & intimacy
4. What Empathic Listening?
#2#3
#1
What you intend to say
What the other person intends to say in response
What you hear
What you actually sayWhat you think you heard
What the other person hears
What the other person thinks they heardWhat the other person actually
says in response
Creating safety by:• Seeking to understand• Valuing & respecting the listener• Imagining my partner’s
vulnerability• Moving towards the negative • Playing by rules
Speaker Skills:• Issue• Facts• Feelings• Thoughts• Wants• Actions• Table• Soft• Ownership• Brief
Listener Skills:• Square• Open ~ Posture• Lean Forward• Eye Contact• Relax• Paraphrase• Validate• Empathize
6. EMPATHIC LISTENING
TIPS & RULES:• Make “I” statements• Don’t say “always” or “never”• Don’t Interrupt• Stick to the topic & the present• No labeling or name-calling• Don’t try to “fix”• Listen for sentiment & emotion• If all else fails…