Healthy Relationships

Ms. Smith

Ms. Furman

Ms. Ruiz

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=it7ewj7cpQ4

What Makes a Healthy

Relationship? Mutual Respect

Trust

Honesty

Support

Fairness/Equality

Separate Identities

Good Communication

What makes a Relationship Unhealthy?

Meanness

Disrespect

Controlling

Abusive Behavior

Pressuring you to do things you don’t want to do

Pressure

What do you do if somebody pressures you to do something that you don’t want to do?

Cyber dating

Pros

Meet new people/start relationships

Easier to find people with the same interests and personality traits

Get to know each other before meeting face to face

Convenient and Economical (stay at home)

Choose who to date

Emotionally Safe (rejection/physical issues)

Cons

Lack of emotional commitment

Dangerous Who is on the other end of the computer?

Digital abuse and harassment

Used as a tool to spread rumors /gossip

“Social networking sites, texts, cell phones and emails—have given abusers another way to control, degrade and frighten their partners”

-Urban Institute

www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2gIEqW-lL8

How Teens Get Abused and Harassed through Technology

• Used my social networking account without permission:reported by 8.7% of teens in relationships

• Sent me texts/e-mails/etc. to engage in sexual acts I did not want: 7.4%

• Pressured me to send a sexual or naked photo of myself: 6.8%

• Sent threatening messages to me: 6.1%

• Sent me so many messages it made me feel unsafe: 5.5%

• Posted embarrassing photos of me online: 5.5%

• Wrote nasty things about me on his or her profile page: 5.1%

• Spread rumors about me using a cell phone/e-mail/a networking site, etc.: 5.0%

• Made me afraid when I did not respond to my cell phone/texts/etc.: 4.2%

• Sent sexual or naked photos I did not want: 3.8%

• Used information from my social networking site to harass me: 3.7%

• Sent me instant messages or chats that made me feel scared: 3.4%

• Used a cell phone/text/etc. to threaten to harm me physically: 2.7%

• Took video of me and sent it to his or her friends without my permission: 2.6%

• Threatened me if I did not send a sexual or naked photo of myself: 2.6%

• Created a profile page about me knowing it would upset me: 1.3%

-Urban Institute 2013

It can happen to anyone!

Manti Te’o “Girlfriend Hoax”

It can happen to anyone!

www.youtube.com/watch?v=dT1GvPQG904