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“Handling What You
Can’t Control:
Managing Stress in
Today’s Libraries”
Hayward LibraryHayward Library
Presenter: Enid Presenter: Enid
BermanBerman
ExternalExternal
PeopleWorkFinancesThe UnknownThe Unknown
InternalInternal
Negative Self TalkPessimistic AttitudesOld Belief SystemsUnrealistic Expectations
Life’s PressuresLife’s Pressures
Library PressuresLibrary Pressures
How to handoff a patron when you have stopped being effective with that person
Self-forgiveness when unable to meet prior level of service
Handling doing the same with fewer resources Expectations of customers and managers under
stress EXAMPLESEXAMPLES
Steps to Greater Steps to Greater ResiliencyResiliency
1.1. Improve your Humor Improve your Humor (attitude(attitude))
2.2. Positive Positive self-talkself-talk
3.3. Spend time on your prioritiesSpend time on your priorities
4.4.Self NurtureSelf Nurture
AttitudeAttitude Is Is EverythingEverything
Humor and positive attitude go hand in hand to help us cope with life’s upsets and setbacks. Each when used, frees up the other.
Use the questionnaire to see how positive (or not) your attitude is.
Any surprises?
Fill out questionnaire
StatisticsStatistics Adult:Adult:
Has about 38,000 negative thoughts out of 50,000 daily
ChildChild::
Laughs about 500 times a day, adults only an average of 15 times a day
Psychological Psychological BenefitsBenefits
Releases tension
Gives You Perspective
Promotes Creativity
Improves Communication
Decreases Conflict
Chronic Chronic PessimismPessimism…….…….
Doesn’t allow for humor Promotes depression Feels bad Is contagious Is self-fulfilling Is associated with poor
physical health
PlayPlay – – Then and NowThen and Now
When you were a kid, what were your favorite ways to play?
What were your favorite ways to play?
All grown All grown upup::Do you give yourself permission to play?How often and how do you play?
Negative Self TalkUnrealistic Internal Unrealistic Internal DemandsDemands
I need to be PerfectPerfect I need to be StrongStrong I need to PleasePlease
Energy PieEnergy Pie
WORKWORK
PersonalRelationships
PersonalRelationships Life
MaintenanceLife
Maintenance
SelfNurturing
SelfNurturing
Self-NurturingSelf-Nurturing -- not to be confused with self-indulgence & selfishness
Your new Your new PiePie What would you have to do differently to create a new pie? What things would you have time for, that would seem
ridiculous in today’s pie? How would it effect your stress level?
Different styles are Different styles are VValuedalued
~ ~ Golden Rule:Golden Rule:
Treat others as youyou want to be treated
~ Platinum Rule:Platinum Rule:Treat others as theythey want to be treated
AnimalAnimal TypesTypes
Pick only one statement Add up each column
Discuss in your own group #7#7 Preferred Communication Style #20#20 Feedback –best way to give us
positive/constructive feedback