Habitudes The Calcutta Paradox Presented by: Randy Olsson

HabitudesHabitudesThe Calcutta ParadoxThe Calcutta Paradox

Presented by: Randy OlssonPresented by: Randy Olsson

The Calcutta ParadoxThe Calcutta Paradox

Humility is magnetic in a leader. Humility is magnetic in a leader. When we “Under-Speak” with When we “Under-Speak” with regard to our value, others are regard to our value, others are drawn toward us and our influence drawn toward us and our influence increases. When we “Over-Speak,” increases. When we “Over-Speak,” others are repelled. When it come to others are repelled. When it come to self-description, leaders know self-description, leaders know people will fill what is lacking and people will fill what is lacking and empty what it too full.empty what it too full.


HumilityHumility ModestyModesty Others focusedOthers focused Not boastfulNot boastful TeachableTeachable LowlyLowly MeekMeek

Mother TeresaMother Teresa

Her order became the largest world Her order became the largest world widewide

Inspired seven other organizationsInspired seven other organizations Won the Nobel Peace Prize 1979Won the Nobel Peace Prize 1979 Harvard GraduationHarvard Graduation Before PresidentsBefore Presidents Most influential womenMost influential women


““I am just a pencil in the hand of a I am just a pencil in the hand of a writing God who is sending a love writing God who is sending a love letter to world to the world.”letter to world to the world.”

““I know God will not give me I know God will not give me anything I can't handle. I just wish anything I can't handle. I just wish that He didn't trust me so much.” that He didn't trust me so much.”


““Let us touch the dying, the poor, Let us touch the dying, the poor, the lonely and the unwanted the lonely and the unwanted according to the graces we have according to the graces we have received and let us not be ashamed received and let us not be ashamed or slow to do the humble work.” or slow to do the humble work.”

““We can do no great things, only We can do no great things, only small things with great love.” small things with great love.”

John The BaptistJohn The Baptist

John 1:23-26John 1:23-26 John replied in the words of Isaiah the John replied in the words of Isaiah the

prophet, "I am the voice of one calling in the prophet, "I am the voice of one calling in the desert, 'Make straight the way for the Lord.' desert, 'Make straight the way for the Lord.' "Now some Pharisees who had been sent "Now some Pharisees who had been sent questioned him, "Why then do you baptize if questioned him, "Why then do you baptize if you are not the Christ, nor Elijah, nor the you are not the Christ, nor Elijah, nor the Prophet?" "I baptize with water," John replied, Prophet?" "I baptize with water," John replied, "but among you stands one you do not know. "but among you stands one you do not know. He is the one who comes after me, the thongs He is the one who comes after me, the thongs of whose sandals I am not worthy to untie."of whose sandals I am not worthy to untie."

John The BaptistJohn The Baptist

John 3:26-30John 3:26-30 They came to John and said to him, "Rabbi, that They came to John and said to him, "Rabbi, that

man who was with you on the other side of the man who was with you on the other side of the Jordan—the one you testified about—well, he is Jordan—the one you testified about—well, he is baptizing, and everyone is going to him." To this baptizing, and everyone is going to him." To this John replied, "A man can receive only what is John replied, "A man can receive only what is given him from heaven. You yourselves can testify given him from heaven. You yourselves can testify that I said, 'I am not the Christ but am sent ahead that I said, 'I am not the Christ but am sent ahead of him.' The bride belongs to the bridegroom. The of him.' The bride belongs to the bridegroom. The friend who attends the bridegroom waits and friend who attends the bridegroom waits and listens for him, and is full of joy when he hears the listens for him, and is full of joy when he hears the bridegroom's voice. That joy is mine, and it is now bridegroom's voice. That joy is mine, and it is now complete. He must become greater; I must complete. He must become greater; I must become less.” become less.”

MosesMoses Numbers 12: 1-3, 13Numbers 12: 1-3, 13

Miriam and Aaron began to talk against Miriam and Aaron began to talk against Moses because of his Cushite wife, for Moses because of his Cushite wife, for he had married a Cushite. "Has the he had married a Cushite. "Has the LORD spoken only through Moses?" LORD spoken only through Moses?" they asked. "Hasn't he also spoken they asked. "Hasn't he also spoken through us?" And the LORD heard this. through us?" And the LORD heard this. 3 (Now Moses was a very humble man, 3 (Now Moses was a very humble man, more humble than anyone else on the more humble than anyone else on the face of the earth.)…(13) So Moses cried face of the earth.)…(13) So Moses cried out to the LORD, "O God, please heal out to the LORD, "O God, please heal her!" her!"

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Numbers 11 26-29Numbers 11 26-29 However, two men, whose names were Eldad and However, two men, whose names were Eldad and

Medad, had remained in the camp. They were Medad, had remained in the camp. They were listed among the elders, but did not go out to the listed among the elders, but did not go out to the Tent. Yet the Spirit also rested on them, and they Tent. Yet the Spirit also rested on them, and they prophesied in the camp. A young man ran and told prophesied in the camp. A young man ran and told Moses, "Eldad and Medad are prophesying in the Moses, "Eldad and Medad are prophesying in the camp." Joshua son of Nun, who had been Moses' camp." Joshua son of Nun, who had been Moses' aide since youth, spoke up and said, "Moses, my aide since youth, spoke up and said, "Moses, my lord, stop them!" But Moses replied, "Are you lord, stop them!" But Moses replied, "Are you jealous for my sake? I wish that all the LORD's jealous for my sake? I wish that all the LORD's people were prophets and that the LORD would people were prophets and that the LORD would put his Spirit on them!"put his Spirit on them!"

George WhitfieldGeorge Whitfield ““Though long by following Though long by following

multitudes admired. No multitudes admired. No party for himself he e’er party for himself he e’er desired; His one desire to desired; His one desire to make the Savior known, to make the Savior known, to magnify the name of Christ magnify the name of Christ alone: If others strove who alone: If others strove who should the greatest be, no should the greatest be, no lover of preeminence was lover of preeminence was he, Nor envied those his he, Nor envied those his Lord vouchsafed to bless, Lord vouchsafed to bless, but joyed in theirs as in his but joyed in theirs as in his own success.” Charles own success.” Charles WesleyWesley

George WhitfieldGeorge Whitfield

““Let the name of Whitfield perish, but Let the name of Whitfield perish, but Christ be glorified. Let my name die Christ be glorified. Let my name die everywhere, let even my friends forget everywhere, let even my friends forget me, if by that means the cause of the me, if by that means the cause of the blessed Jesus be promoted. But what is blessed Jesus be promoted. But what is Calvin, or what is Luther? Let us look Calvin, or what is Luther? Let us look above names and parties; let Jesus be above names and parties; let Jesus be our all in all- So that He is preached… our all in all- So that He is preached… I care not who is uppermost.I care not who is uppermost.

George WhitfieldGeorge Whitfield

I know my place… even to be the I know my place… even to be the servant of all. I am content to wait servant of all. I am content to wait until the judgment day for the until the judgment day for the clearing up of my reputation; and clearing up of my reputation; and after I am dead I desire no other after I am dead I desire no other epitaph than this, “Here lies G.W. epitaph than this, “Here lies G.W. What sort of man he was the great What sort of man he was the great day will discover.”day will discover.”


Winning with humility is sweetWinning with humility is sweet Loose with pride is bitterLoose with pride is bitter

The Calcutta ParadoxThe Calcutta Paradox Proverbs 25:6-7 “Do not exalt yourself in the Proverbs 25:6-7 “Do not exalt yourself in the

king's presence, and do not claim a place king's presence, and do not claim a place among great men; it is better for him to say to among great men; it is better for him to say to you, "Come up here," than for him to you, "Come up here," than for him to humiliate you before a nobleman.”humiliate you before a nobleman.”

Proverbs 27:2 “Let another praise you, and Proverbs 27:2 “Let another praise you, and not your own mouth; someone else, and not not your own mouth; someone else, and not your own lips.” your own lips.” People will fill what is lacking and empty what it People will fill what is lacking and empty what it

too full…too full…

Humility is the keynote:Humility is the keynote:

HumilityHumility Do you wish to rise? Begin by Do you wish to rise? Begin by

descending. You plan a tower that will descending. You plan a tower that will pierce the clouds? Lay first the pierce the clouds? Lay first the foundation of humility. --Saint foundation of humility. --Saint AugustineAugustine

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Humility is freedom from your own Humility is freedom from your own driven ego. --Martha Kilpatrick driven ego. --Martha Kilpatrick

Humility is nothing but truth, and pride Humility is nothing but truth, and pride is nothing but lying. -- Vincent de Paulis nothing but lying. -- Vincent de Paul

Humility is nothing else but a right Humility is nothing else but a right judgment of ourselves. --William Lawjudgment of ourselves. --William Law

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There is no room for God in him There is no room for God in him who is full of himself. --Martin who is full of himself. --Martin BuberBuber

Humility is offering no resistance Humility is offering no resistance to the dealings of the Lord with us. to the dealings of the Lord with us. --Chip Brogden --Chip Brogden

Humility is to make a right Humility is to make a right estimate of one's self. – Charles H. estimate of one's self. – Charles H. SpergeonSpergeon

HumilityHumility Humility is the foundation of all the Humility is the foundation of all the

other virtues hence, in the soul in other virtues hence, in the soul in which this virtue does not exist there which this virtue does not exist there cannot be any other virtue except in cannot be any other virtue except in mere appearance. - Saint Augustinemere appearance. - Saint Augustine

What makes humility so desirable is What makes humility so desirable is the marvelous thing it does to us; it the marvelous thing it does to us; it creates in us a capacity for the closest creates in us a capacity for the closest possible intimacy with God – Monica possible intimacy with God – Monica BaldwinBaldwin

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The meek man is not a human mouse The meek man is not a human mouse afflicted with a sense of his own afflicted with a sense of his own inferiority. He has accepted God's inferiority. He has accepted God's estimate of his own life: In himself, estimate of his own life: In himself, nothing; In God, everything. He nothing; In God, everything. He knows well that the world will never knows well that the world will never see him as God sees him and he has see him as God sees him and he has stopped caring.-- A.W. Tozerstopped caring.-- A.W. Tozer

Results of PrideResults of Pride

God’s opposition - God’s opposition - James 4:6James 4:6, , Proverbs 15:25Proverbs 15:25

God will detest you - God will detest you - Proverbs 16:5Proverbs 16:5 Disgrace - Disgrace - Proverbs 11:2Proverbs 11:2 Destruction - Destruction - Proverbs 16:18Proverbs 16:18 Dissention- Dissention- Proverbs 13:10Proverbs 13:10 A ruined life -A ruined life -Proverbs 29:1Proverbs 29:1 Poverty and shame- Poverty and shame- Proverbs 13:18Proverbs 13:18

Results of HumilityResults of Humility

Grace- Grace- James 4:6James 4:6, , 1 Peter 5:51 Peter 5:5 Exaltation- Exaltation- 1 Peter 5:61 Peter 5:6, , James 4:10James 4:10, ,

Luke 18:14Luke 18:14 Wisdom- Wisdom- Proverbs 11:2Proverbs 11:2 Honor - Honor - Proverbs 15:33Proverbs 15:33 Deliverance from wrath- Deliverance from wrath- Zephaniah 2:3Zephaniah 2:3 Greatness - Greatness - Matthew 18:4Matthew 18:4 Wealth and life- Wealth and life- Proverbs 22:4Proverbs 22:4

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James 4:6James 4:6 But he gives us more grace. That is why But he gives us more grace. That is why

Scripture says: "God opposes the proud Scripture says: "God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble." but gives grace to the humble."

Luke 18:14Luke 18:14 "I tell you that this man, rather than the "I tell you that this man, rather than the

other, went home justified before God. other, went home justified before God. For everyone who exalts himself will be For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted." will be exalted."

Signs of Pride (VS) Signs of Pride (VS) HumilityHumility

Proud people focus on the failures of Proud people focus on the failures of others and can readily point out those others and can readily point out those faults. Humble people are more faults. Humble people are more conscious of their own spiritual need conscious of their own spiritual need than of anyone else's. than of anyone else's.

Proud people are self-righteous; they Proud people are self-righteous; they think highly of themselves and look think highly of themselves and look down on others. Humble people think down on others. Humble people think the best of others; they esteem others the best of others; they esteem others better than themselves. better than themselves.


Proud people have a critical, fault-Proud people have a critical, fault-finding spirit. They look at everyone finding spirit. They look at everyone else's faults with a microscope and else's faults with a microscope and their own with a telescope. Humble their own with a telescope. Humble people are compassionate-they have people are compassionate-they have the kind of love that overlooks a the kind of love that overlooks a multitude of sins; they can forgive multitude of sins; they can forgive much because they know how much much because they know how much they have been forgiven. they have been forgiven.


Proud people have an independent, self-Proud people have an independent, self-sufficient spirit. Humble people have a sufficient spirit. Humble people have a dependent spirit; they recognize their need for dependent spirit; they recognize their need for God and for others. God and for others.

Proud people have a feeling-conscious or Proud people have a feeling-conscious or subconscious that "this ministry or organization subconscious that "this ministry or organization is privileged to have me and my gifts." They is privileged to have me and my gifts." They focus on what they can do for God. Humble focus on what they can do for God. Humble people have a heart attitude that says. "I am people have a heart attitude that says. "I am blessed to have any part in this ministry" they blessed to have any part in this ministry" they know that they have nothing to offer God know that they have nothing to offer God except the life of Jesus flowing through them. except the life of Jesus flowing through them.


Proud people have a drive to be recognized Proud people have a drive to be recognized and appreciated for their efforts. Humble and appreciated for their efforts. Humble people have a sense of their own people have a sense of their own unworthiness; they are thrilled that God unworthiness; they are thrilled that God would use them at all. would use them at all.

Proud people feel confident in how much Proud people feel confident in how much they know. Humble people are aware of they know. Humble people are aware of how very much they have to learn. how very much they have to learn.

Proud people are self-conscious; they worry Proud people are self-conscious; they worry about what others think of them. Humble about what others think of them. Humble people are not preoccupied with what people are not preoccupied with what others think of them. others think of them.


Proud people can't bear to fail or for Proud people can't bear to fail or for anyone to think they are less than anyone to think they are less than perfect. This can drive them to perfect. This can drive them to extremes- workaholic tendencies; extremes- workaholic tendencies; perfectionism, the tendency to drive perfectionism, the tendency to drive others or to place unrealistic others or to place unrealistic expectations on themselves or expectations on themselves or others. Humble people recognize others. Humble people recognize and live within God-given limits. and live within God-given limits.


Proud people keep others at arm's Proud people keep others at arm's length. Humble people are willing length. Humble people are willing to take the risks of getting close to to take the risks of getting close to others and loving intimately. others and loving intimately.

Proud people are quick to blame Proud people are quick to blame others. Humble people accept others. Humble people accept personal responsibility and can personal responsibility and can acknowledge where they were acknowledge where they were wrong in a situation. wrong in a situation.


Proud people wait for others to come and Proud people wait for others to come and ask forgiveness when there is a ask forgiveness when there is a misunderstanding or a breach in a misunderstanding or a breach in a relationship. Humble people take the relationship. Humble people take the initiative to be reconciled, no matter how initiative to be reconciled, no matter how wrong the other party may have been. wrong the other party may have been.

Proud people are unapproachable or Proud people are unapproachable or defensive when corrected. Humble defensive when corrected. Humble people receive correction with a humble, people receive correction with a humble, open spirit. open spirit.


Proud people want to be sure that no one Proud people want to be sure that no one finds out about their sin- their instinct is to finds out about their sin- their instinct is to cover up. Humble people aren't overly cover up. Humble people aren't overly concerned with who knows or who finds out concerned with who knows or who finds out about their sin- they are willing to be about their sin- they are willing to be exposed if it is for the glory of God. exposed if it is for the glory of God.

Proud people have a hard time saying "I Proud people have a hard time saying "I was wrong; will you please forgive me?" was wrong; will you please forgive me?" Humble people are quick to admit their Humble people are quick to admit their failure and to seek forgiveness when failure and to seek forgiveness when necessary. necessary.


Proud people tend to deal in Proud people tend to deal in generalities when confessing their sin generalities when confessing their sin to God. ("Dear Lord, please forgive all to God. ("Dear Lord, please forgive all of my sins...") Humble people are able of my sins...") Humble people are able to acknowledge specifics when to acknowledge specifics when confessing their sin; "Lord I agree with confessing their sin; "Lord I agree with you that I have been ungrateful lately; you that I have been ungrateful lately; I confess that I am being selfish; I have I confess that I am being selfish; I have a critical spirit; I have resentment..."a critical spirit; I have resentment..."


Proud people compare themselves Proud people compare themselves with others and feel worthy of with others and feel worthy of respect. Humble people compare respect. Humble people compare themselves with the holiness of God themselves with the holiness of God and feel a desperate need for His and feel a desperate need for His mercy. mercy.

Proud people find their worth in who Proud people find their worth in who they are better than, rather than in they are better than, rather than in what God thinks of them.what God thinks of them.

Questions to ASK?Questions to ASK?

How do I handle confrontation and How do I handle confrontation and criticism?criticism?

Do I focus on peoples failures or their Do I focus on peoples failures or their potential?potential?

Do I look down on others? And feed Do I look down on others? And feed my ego on their failures?my ego on their failures?

Do I secretly think slanderous Do I secretly think slanderous thoughts of others?thoughts of others?

Do I criticize people?Do I criticize people?


Am I ready to be judged by God in the Am I ready to be judged by God in the same way I judge others?same way I judge others?

Do I want mercy for myself, but Do I want mercy for myself, but justice for everyone else?justice for everyone else?

Have I forgotten all that I have been Have I forgotten all that I have been forgiven for?forgiven for?

Have I let success go to my head?Have I let success go to my head? Do I like exercising authority over Do I like exercising authority over

others?others?


Do I feel superior to others?Do I feel superior to others? Do I advertise my successes? Do I advertise my successes?

Accomplishments?Accomplishments? Do I try to make others walk away feeling Do I try to make others walk away feeling

like champions or inflate their opinion of like champions or inflate their opinion of me?me?

Do advertise all your knowledge and Do advertise all your knowledge and experience?experience?

Do you try to win every argument?Do you try to win every argument? Do you always try to get the last word?Do you always try to get the last word?

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Matthew 21:44Matthew 21:44 ““He who falls on this stone will be He who falls on this stone will be

broken to pieces, but he on whom it broken to pieces, but he on whom it falls will be crushed." falls will be crushed."

Examples of the ParadoxExamples of the Paradox

Billy Graham in KohimaBilly Graham in Kohima Nihuli to handle baggage, tea, and Nihuli to handle baggage, tea, and

whatever else…whatever else… Booker T. WashingtonBooker T. Washington

Head of Tuskegee InstituteHead of Tuskegee Institute


After being stalled in PetersburgAfter being stalled in Petersburg Sherman had captured AtlantaSherman had captured Atlanta ““I have written to John toI have written to John tostop it. I would rather have youstop it. I would rather have youin command than anyone else. in command than anyone else. I should emphatically decline any I should emphatically decline any commission calculated to bring us commission calculated to bring us into rivalry.”into rivalry.”


““No one would be more pleased with No one would be more pleased with your advancement than I; and if you your advancement than I; and if you should be placed in my position, and should be placed in my position, and I be put your subordinate, it would I be put your subordinate, it would not change our relations in the least. not change our relations in the least. I would make the same exertions to I would make the same exertions to support you that you have done to support you that you have done to support me, and I would do all in my support me, and I would do all in my power to make our cause win.”power to make our cause win.”


I am not, but I know I AMI am not, but I know I AM Windows and MirrorsWindows and Mirrors

Humility: How to get it?Humility: How to get it? I am sure that there are many Christians I am sure that there are many Christians

who will confess that their experience who will confess that their experience has been very much like my own—that has been very much like my own—that we had long known the Lord without we had long known the Lord without realizing that meekness and lowliness of realizing that meekness and lowliness of heart should be the distinguishing heart should be the distinguishing feature of the disciple, as they were of feature of the disciple, as they were of the Master. Such humility is not a thing the Master. Such humility is not a thing that will come on its own. It must be that will come on its own. It must be made the object of special desire, prayer, made the object of special desire, prayer, faith and practice. -Andrew Murrayfaith and practice. -Andrew Murray

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1) Pray for love1) Pray for love 1 Corinthians 13:41 Corinthians 13:4

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

1 John 4:71 John 4:7Dear friends, let us love one another, Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and who loves has been born of God and knows God. knows God.

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2) Focus on Christ2) Focus on Christ While we are looking at God, we do While we are looking at God, we do

not see ourselves -- blessed riddance. not see ourselves -- blessed riddance. The man who has struggled to purify The man who has struggled to purify himself and has had nothing but himself and has had nothing but repeated failures will experience real repeated failures will experience real relief when he stops tinkering with relief when he stops tinkering with his soul and looks away to the his soul and looks away to the perfect One.... A. W. Tozerperfect One.... A. W. Tozer

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The meek man will attain a place of The meek man will attain a place of soul rest. As he walks on in soul rest. As he walks on in meekness he will be happy to let meekness he will be happy to let God defend him. The old struggle to God defend him. The old struggle to defend himself is over. He has found defend himself is over. He has found the peace which meekness brings.-- the peace which meekness brings.-- A.W. TozerA.W. Tozer

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3) Pray for a deep inner change3) Pray for a deep inner change There is many a wounded heart There is many a wounded heart

without a contrite spirit. – The without a contrite spirit. – The ice may be broken into a ice may be broken into a thousand pieces but it is ice thousand pieces but it is ice still.- But expose it to the beams still.- But expose it to the beams of the Sun of righteousness, and of the Sun of righteousness, and then it will melt. - Middletonthen it will melt. - Middleton

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Micah 6:8Micah 6:8“He has showed you, O man, what is “He has showed you, O man, what is good. And what does the LORD good. And what does the LORD require of you? To act justly and to require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.” your God.”


Luke 14:11Luke 14:11For everyone who exalts himself will For everyone who exalts himself will

be humbled, and he who humbles be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted."himself will be exalted."

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