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Guy Fi: The Fictions that Rule Men’s Lives
Guy Fi: The Fictions that Rule Men’s Lives
Christopher Kilmartin, Ph.D.Christopher Kilmartin, Ph.D.
[email protected]@umw.edu
Christopher Kilmartin, Ph.D.Christopher Kilmartin, Ph.D.
[email protected]@umw.edu
Antifreeze.Antifreeze.Antifreeze.Antifreeze.
The Mars and Venus FictionThe Mars and Venus Fiction
All men are alike.All men are alike.All women are alike.All women are alike.All men are different from all All men are different from all
women.women.
All men are alike.All men are alike.All women are alike.All women are alike.All men are different from all All men are different from all
women.women.
The Gender Belongs Everywhere FictionThe Gender Belongs Everywhere Fiction
Drinks Drinks MannerismsMannerismsGoals in lifeGoals in lifePreferred activitiesPreferred activitiesColorsColorsWays of talkingWays of talking
Drinks Drinks MannerismsMannerismsGoals in lifeGoals in lifePreferred activitiesPreferred activitiesColorsColorsWays of talkingWays of talking
Violence FictionsViolence FictionsMen are naturally violent.Men are naturally violent.It’s natural for men to fight.It’s natural for men to fight.Men can’t help themselves Men can’t help themselves
when they get angry.when they get angry.Women like “bad boys.”Women like “bad boys.”Violence solves problems.Violence solves problems.
Men are naturally violent.Men are naturally violent.It’s natural for men to fight.It’s natural for men to fight.Men can’t help themselves Men can’t help themselves
when they get angry.when they get angry.Women like “bad boys.”Women like “bad boys.”Violence solves problems.Violence solves problems.
Emotional FictionsEmotional FictionsTear ducts on men are like nipples on Tear ducts on men are like nipples on
men.men.Men have to deal with their feelings in Men have to deal with their feelings in
places outside of themselves.places outside of themselves.Manly is as manly does.Manly is as manly does.
Tear ducts on men are like nipples on Tear ducts on men are like nipples on men.men.
Men have to deal with their feelings in Men have to deal with their feelings in places outside of themselves.places outside of themselves.
Manly is as manly does.Manly is as manly does.
Where do these fictions come from?
Where do these fictions come from?
The marketplace: What is being sold as a:The marketplace: What is being sold as a:Product?Product?Lifestyle?Lifestyle? Identity?Identity?Life script?Life script?How is the product made desirable, How is the product made desirable,
e.g., with visual strategies?e.g., with visual strategies?
The marketplace: What is being sold as a:The marketplace: What is being sold as a:Product?Product?Lifestyle?Lifestyle? Identity?Identity?Life script?Life script?How is the product made desirable, How is the product made desirable,
e.g., with visual strategies?e.g., with visual strategies?
Marketers want everything to be for sale
Marketers want everything to be for sale
IdentityIdentity SexualitySexuality Self-esteemSelf-esteem Relationship qualityRelationship quality HappinessHappiness CompetenceCompetence Self-confidenceSelf-confidence
IdentityIdentity SexualitySexuality Self-esteemSelf-esteem Relationship qualityRelationship quality HappinessHappiness CompetenceCompetence Self-confidenceSelf-confidence
Where do these fictions come from?
Where do these fictions come from?
Historical Hangover.Historical Hangover.Historical Hangover.Historical Hangover.
Masculinity, Athletics, and Drinking
Masculinity, Athletics, and Drinking
Confirmatory and Compensatory Confirmatory and Compensatory drinking.drinking.
““Putting up numbers.”Putting up numbers.”Goal setting.Goal setting.Competition.Competition.Social PressureSocial Pressure..
Confirmatory and Compensatory Confirmatory and Compensatory drinking.drinking.
““Putting up numbers.”Putting up numbers.”Goal setting.Goal setting.Competition.Competition.Social PressureSocial Pressure..
How does this relate to your work?
How does this relate to your work?
Men abuse alcohol twice as often as Men abuse alcohol twice as often as women and abuse other drugs four women and abuse other drugs four times as often. Male student athletes times as often. Male student athletes abuse substances at a higher rate than abuse substances at a higher rate than those in the general population.those in the general population.
Men are more likely than women Men are more likely than women underestimate risks to their health.underestimate risks to their health.
Men engage in much more violence and Men engage in much more violence and other risk behaviors than women.other risk behaviors than women.
Gender is a better predictor of negative Gender is a better predictor of negative health outcomes than sex.health outcomes than sex.
Men abuse alcohol twice as often as Men abuse alcohol twice as often as women and abuse other drugs four women and abuse other drugs four times as often. Male student athletes times as often. Male student athletes abuse substances at a higher rate than abuse substances at a higher rate than those in the general population.those in the general population.
Men are more likely than women Men are more likely than women underestimate risks to their health.underestimate risks to their health.
Men engage in much more violence and Men engage in much more violence and other risk behaviors than women.other risk behaviors than women.
Gender is a better predictor of negative Gender is a better predictor of negative health outcomes than sex.health outcomes than sex.
What is gender?What is gender?The social pressure to behave and The social pressure to behave and
experience the self in ways that the experience the self in ways that the culture defines as appropriate for your culture defines as appropriate for your body.body.
It is very difficult to resist a pressure It is very difficult to resist a pressure that you cannot name.that you cannot name.
We are not doing a good job of naming We are not doing a good job of naming it for men.it for men.
The social pressure to behave and The social pressure to behave and experience the self in ways that the experience the self in ways that the culture defines as appropriate for your culture defines as appropriate for your body.body.
It is very difficult to resist a pressure It is very difficult to resist a pressure that you cannot name.that you cannot name.
We are not doing a good job of naming We are not doing a good job of naming it for men.it for men.
Gender is a significant factor, yet:
Gender is a significant factor, yet:
It is rarely addressed in discussions It is rarely addressed in discussions of health behavior.of health behavior.
Resetting “default options” requires:Resetting “default options” requires:Knowledge.Knowledge.Motivation.Motivation.Skill.Skill.
It is rarely addressed in discussions It is rarely addressed in discussions of health behavior.of health behavior.
Resetting “default options” requires:Resetting “default options” requires:Knowledge.Knowledge.Motivation.Motivation.Skill.Skill.
We need to teach men to resist gender pressure when:We need to teach men to resist gender pressure when:
It conflicts with an important life goal.It conflicts with an important life goal. It hurts another person.It hurts another person.
When do we invest time and energy in When do we invest time and energy in learning a skill?learning a skill?
When we value the outcome.When we value the outcome.
It conflicts with an important life goal.It conflicts with an important life goal. It hurts another person.It hurts another person.
When do we invest time and energy in When do we invest time and energy in learning a skill?learning a skill?
When we value the outcome.When we value the outcome.
Preparing for the futurePreparing for the future NCAA goal is to focus on the whole person, NCAA goal is to focus on the whole person,
not just the athlete.not just the athlete. Which men will be able to use their fathers’ Which men will be able to use their fathers’
and grandfathers’ formulas to deal with work and grandfathers’ formulas to deal with work and family pressures? Few, other than those and family pressures? Few, other than those who become professional athletes.who become professional athletes.
Sending college students out into the world Sending college students out into the world without gender awareness is like sending without gender awareness is like sending them out without computer skills.them out without computer skills.
Men who cling to archaic versions of Men who cling to archaic versions of masculinity run the risk of being left behind.masculinity run the risk of being left behind.
NCAA goal is to focus on the whole person, NCAA goal is to focus on the whole person, not just the athlete.not just the athlete.
Which men will be able to use their fathers’ Which men will be able to use their fathers’ and grandfathers’ formulas to deal with work and grandfathers’ formulas to deal with work and family pressures? Few, other than those and family pressures? Few, other than those who become professional athletes.who become professional athletes.
Sending college students out into the world Sending college students out into the world without gender awareness is like sending without gender awareness is like sending them out without computer skills.them out without computer skills.
Men who cling to archaic versions of Men who cling to archaic versions of masculinity run the risk of being left behind.masculinity run the risk of being left behind.
Remember the Antifreeze: New Questions
Remember the Antifreeze: New Questions
How can we educate athletes generally about How can we educate athletes generally about cultural pressure and specifically about cultural pressure and specifically about gender pressure?gender pressure?
How can we incorporate masculine gender How can we incorporate masculine gender awareness into our current efforts?awareness into our current efforts?
How can we bring this information to athletes How can we bring this information to athletes with compassion and empathy?with compassion and empathy?
How can we educate coaches and support How can we educate coaches and support staff about the importance of gender?staff about the importance of gender?
How can we redefine positive aspects of the How can we redefine positive aspects of the masculine role: courage, independence, masculine role: courage, independence, loyalty?loyalty?
How can we educate athletes generally about How can we educate athletes generally about cultural pressure and specifically about cultural pressure and specifically about gender pressure?gender pressure?
How can we incorporate masculine gender How can we incorporate masculine gender awareness into our current efforts?awareness into our current efforts?
How can we bring this information to athletes How can we bring this information to athletes with compassion and empathy?with compassion and empathy?
How can we educate coaches and support How can we educate coaches and support staff about the importance of gender?staff about the importance of gender?
How can we redefine positive aspects of the How can we redefine positive aspects of the masculine role: courage, independence, masculine role: courage, independence, loyalty?loyalty?
