GRIEF AND LOSS
THE GRIEVING PROCESS5 stages of grieving processDenial: gives you a chance to thinkAnger: normal (anger management)Bargaining: promise to changeDepression: short term is normalAcceptance: learn how to live with the lossGrief express deep sadness because of loss
FUNERALS, WAKES, AND MEMORIAL SERVICESPurpose: Help the family get through the grieving process.Wake view or watch over deceased person before funeral.Funeral ceremony in which deceased person is buried.Memorial Service ceremony to remember the deceased.
WHAT ARE SOME DIFFERENT THINGS YOUVE SEEN AT FUNERALS OR MEMORIALS?
COPING WITH LOSSHeadaches, stomachaches, increased blood pressure, irritability, interrupted sleep, confusion, inability concentrating, stress related illness.What are some physical and emotional effects of stress?
HELP FOR DEALING WITH LOSSHelping yourselfGet plenty of rest/relaxation and stick to any normal routineShare memoriesExpress your feelingsDont blame yourselfConnect with supportive, understanding peopleHelping othersShow your support through simple actions Let the person know you are there for him/herTell the person they are strong and will learn to live with the lossListen attentively without judgmentEncourage professional help if needed
SUICIDE AND NON-SUICIDAL SELF-INJURY (NSSI)
A PERMANENT SOLUTION TO A TEMPORARY PROBLEM.Definition: the act of intentionally taking ones lifeWhy is suicide an uncomfortable topic?What are some myths or facts about suicide?Words that warn:I wish I were dead.I just want to go to sleep & never wake up.I wont be a problem for you much longer.I cant take it anymore.This pain will be over soon.Nothing matters.SUICIDE:
FACTS ABOUT SUICIDEMany people who consider suicide only do so for a brief period in their lifeMost people who have attempted and failed are usually grateful to be aliveSuicide could have many warning signs however, sometimes there are few signsUse of drugs/alcohol can put people at risk because of impaired judgment
FACTS ABOUT SUICIDE CONT.3rd leading cause of death for ages 15 24Depression and bipolar disorder are major risk factors.
Stressful life events and low levels of communication with parents are also significant risk factors.
More women attempt suicide and more men complete suicide. In 2010, males aged 15-19 were 4X more likely to complete suicide than females.
KEEP IN MIND!It should be noted that some people who die by suicide do not show any suicide warning signs. But, about 75 percent of those who die by suicide do exhibit some warning signs, so being aware of these warning signs means we will be more able to assist a loved one in need. If you do see someone exhibiting warning signs of suicide, you need to do everything you can to help them, which often includes connecting them with professional help.
WARNING SIGNS FOR SUICIDEFeeling hopelessWithdrawing from family and friends; isolatingNeglecting basic needsExperiencing loss of energyTaking more risksUsing alcohol and drugsGiving away personal things
GIVING AND GETTING HELPTake all talk of suicide seriouslyTell your friend you are concerned about themHelp your friend identify 1-2 adults to talk to (i.e. parent, counselor), and offer to go with them if theyre nervousDont keep concern for a friends safety a secret dont promise to keep secrets when ones safety is involved
DIFFERENTIATING NSSI AND SUICIDE ATTEMPTS
CharacteristicNon-Suicidal Self-InjurySuicide AttemptIntent/Purpose for BehaviorTo temporarily escape from psychological distress.To create change in self or environment.To permanently terminate consciousness/end of life. To escape unbearable psychological pain. Severity/Lethality of Method UseLowHighBehavior FrequencyHigh, sometimes more than 100 episodes. Often chronic and repetitive.Low typically 1 to 3 episodes.Number of Methods UsedMultiple methods used across episodes.Single method used across episodes. Cognitive State During Self-harmDistressed yet hopeful. Difficulty implementing adaptive problem-solving.Hopeless/Helpless.Inability to problem solve.
Consequences/Aftermath Intrapersonally Sense of relief, calm. Temporarily reduced distress. Frustration, disappointment. Increased distress. InterpersonallyRejection, criticism from others. Other express care and concern.