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Kentucky School of Alcohol and Drug Studies Presents Good Grief: Helping Clients Cope with Loss Presenter Mark Sanders, LCSW, CADC

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Page 1: Good Grief: Helping Clients Cope with Loss · 2019. 7. 9. · Good Grief: Helping Clients Cope with Loss Presenter Mark Sanders, LCSW, CADC. Definition of Key Terms. Grief—a natural

Kentucky School of Alcohol and Drug Studies

Presents

Good Grief: Helping Clients Cope with Loss

PresenterMark Sanders, LCSW, CADC

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Definition of Key Terms

Grief—a natural emotional reaction to a significant loss or expected loss. It is an essential component of the eventual process of recovery from loss

Mourning—the outward expression of grief. Mourning is very individualized. It can be manifest in crying, sadness, clothes, talking about the deceased, celebrating etc.

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Losses Clients Grieve

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Losses in Infancy and Childhood• Birth process

• When mom leaves the room

• The end of nursing

• Pre-school

• Being left with a babysitter

• Deaths

• A new sibling

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Losses in Infancy and Childhood Continued

• No Santa

• No Halloween

• The nanny leaves

• Switch schools

• New grade

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Losses in Adolescence

• Divorce

• Father hunger

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Impact of Fatherlessness on Adolescent Males

• Depression

• Destructive peer group affiliation

• Heavy substance use

• Desertion of the next generation

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Impact of Fatherlessness on Adolescent Girls

• The search

• Promiscuity

• Dating older people

• Increased risk of teen pregnancy

• Substance use

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Losses in Adolescence Continued

• Break-ups

• “Not making the cut.”

• Re-locations

• Divorce

• Death

• Bullying

• Loss of innocence/childhood

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Stages of Development

• Consumer years 0 - 18

• Apprenticeship years 19 - 29

• Productive years 30 - 70

• Elder years 70 (+)

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Losses in Adolescence Continued

Giving up coping mechanisms

• Drugs

• Tribes

• Eating Disorders

• Self-harming behavior

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Stages of Grief

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Elizabeth Kubler Ross

Denial

Anger

Bargaining

Depression

Acceptance

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The Messed Up Stage

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JoAnne Jozefowski’s Model1. Impact—the initial stage in which we process

the reality of the death while working to maintain our physiological needs(food, water, rest)

2. Chaos

3. Adaptation—we learn to adopt to life without the loved one and seek connections to others through support systems, other grievers, work, school, church and we develop new roles for ourselves

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Jozefowski Continued

4. Equilibrium—we attain stability and balance in life and are able to consider self-potential without our loved one

5. Post-traumatic growth—a metamorphosis occurs and you emerge reshaped from the loss, developing more potential, greater spirituality, altruism, self-awareness and appreciation of life

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TEAR Model

T=To accept the reality of the loss

E=Experience the pain of the loss

A=Adjust to the new environment without what you have lost

R=Reinvent a new reality for yourself

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Backer, Hannon and Russell Model

1. Shock and numbness

2. Intense grief (yearning, anger, guilt and disorganization)

3. Reintegration

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Factors That Complicate Grief

1. A personal style of using avoidance as a major mechanism

2. Adaptation of a cultural norm which encourages us to grieve as quickly as possible and not remember

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What Happened to Rituals?

A. Wars

B. Loss of connection to the ancestors

C. Disintegration of the family

D. Technology

E. The world of work

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3. The grieving person already has a psychiatric condition which makes them vulnerable

A. Depression

B. Substance Use Disorders

C. Attachment Disorder

D. Psychotic Disorders

E. Borderline Personality Disorder

F. Traumatic Stress Disorders

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Types of Traumatic Stress Disorders

• PTSD

• Complex trauma – years of (neglect, abandonment, multiple placements, multiple losses)

• Historical trauma

• 24 – 7 – 365 terror

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4. Unspeakable losses

5. Ambivalent losses

6. Extreme guilt and layers of guilt

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7. Multiple losses

8. Unsure if your loved one is actually dead

9. Sudden death

10. Unacknowledged losses

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11.First degree grief secrets

A. Trauma, torture

B. You feel you caused someone to die

C. First hand death experiences

12. No time to grieve

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Characteristics of Effective Grief Counselors

• Good listening and basic counseling skills

• Boundaries

• Views grief as natural

• Slow to label as pathological

• Ability to discuss their own losses

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Characteristics of Effective Grief Counselors Continued

• Ability to talk about God

• Ability to individualize their work

• Slow to prescribe pills for grief

• Support before challenge

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What Grief Counselors Do

1. Listen

2. They are emotionally present

3. They assist clients in expressing and identifying feelings

4. They normalize client feelings

5. Allow clients to show their feelings

6. Listen non-judgmentally and with acceptance

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What Grief Counselors Do Continued

7. Let their genuine concern and care show

8. Encourages clients to talk about the loss

9. Provides data about the grief process

10. Helps clients tap into their natural resources for support

11. Pays attention to the impact of previous losses on current losses

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What Grief Counselors Do Continued12. Pays attention to events happening in the

larger society and how these events affect clients

13. Encourages clients to be patient with themselves

14. Help with thoughts and thought patterns which may complicate grief

15. Help clients turn pain into purpose

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Logo Therapy

DefinitionsA form of psychotherapy than emphasis meaning/purpose.

A therapy that helps clients discover their purpose. It is derived from the Greek work “logos,” which means “purpose.”

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Developer – Viktor Frankl“You can take everything away from a person except for one thing: the freedom to choose how they will respond to whatever horrible circumstance they find themselves in.”

Viktor Frankl – Third Viennese School of Psychotherapy

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Statue of Liberty

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5 Things That Give Life Meaning

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1. The attitude that one takes toward unavoidable suffering

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2. Meaningful work

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Stemm

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3. Love

4. Taking a stand

5. Helping others

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Helping Clients with Grief1. Keeping memories alive

A. Remember ways your loved one left an imprint on you

B. Telling stories about your loved oneC. Weaving interests or values of your loved

one into your lifeD. Staying linked through a possessionE. Keeping a place for a loved one during

ceremoniesF. Visiting the grave site

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Global Rituals

1. Libations

2. Feasts

3. Shiva

4. Kaddish prayer

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Global Rituals Continued

5. Death store

6. OBON—Japanese summer festival

7. The Day of the Dead

8. The Feast of the Dead

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What Else May Be Helpful Besides Therapy

1. Chat rooms

2. Journaling

3. Art

4. Being in nature

5. Music

6. Meditation

7. Yoga

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Termination from therapy as grief work

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When to TerminateWhen clients can

• Work

• Love

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Stages of Termination and the Role of the Counselor

Denial

• Bring it up

• Expect and explain regression

• If the client disappears, reach out

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Stages of Termination ContinuedAnger

• Allow open expression

• Try not to personalize it

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Stages of Termination ContinuedSadness

• Allow open expression

• Feel free to express feelings of your own

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Stages of Termination Continued

Release

• Discuss client progress

• Discuss work that is yet to be done

• Discuss your relationship

• Express confidence in the clients ability to succeed