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FAU Dr. Brigman
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Goals of
Discouraged Children
All misbehavior stems
from discouragement
Real or percieved threat of
loss of status, acceptance,
belonging
Four Categories of
Discouraged Goals
Attention
Power
Revenge
Display of inadequacy
Clues needed to determine goals
Child’s feelings and behavior
Feelings and reactions of adults
who interact with the child
Child’s responses when crticism
or punishment is experienced
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Attention
active constructive-----------T’s pet
passive constructive----------clinging vine
active distructive--------------class
clown/obstructive
passive distructive-------------
”lazy/dependent”/shy/scared
Feelings of adult=annoyed, irritated
Play strategies for
Attention Seekers
Ignoring when child is
seeking/demanding attention
Giving attention when child is
not seeking/demanding it
Interpreting (during insight
phase)
Power
Active--power struggles involving
arguing, fighting, defiance
Passive--power struggles involving
disobedience, forgeting, manipulating,
being stubborn, being laziness, being
uncooperative
Feeling of adult=anger, challenged,
threatened
Play strategies for
children with too little power
Give all choices/control/power
at first then work at shared
power
Take turns making rules for
games played/directing roleplay
Limited decisions
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Play strategies for
children with too much power
Egalitarian power sharing from
beginning
Give choices and set
consequences
Avoid taking threat/challenge to
power personally
Avoid asking “parentified children to
be too responsible
Play strategies for
children from “chaotic” families
Allow child to be in control at
beginning stage then move
to shared control
Teach survival skills to child
Revenge
Active revenge--violent, malicious,
cruel, i.e. bullies. Bed wetting,
soiling, and stealing prized
possesions.
Passive revenge--moody, pouty,
threatening, withdrawal, sabotage.
Feelings of adult=hurt,anger
Play strategies for
revenge seeking children
Avoid taking the child’s attemps
to hurt you personally
Exercise patience and
consistency
Assure that abuse is not
currently occuring
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Proving inadequacy
Active--suicide
Passive--Not trying, giving up
easily, avoiding
people/situations
Feelings of
adult=hopeless,discouarged,
helpless
Play strategies for children
who are proving inadequacy
Avoid all criticism/judgement
More emphasis on asset hunting
(teachers/parents)
Choose activities with high chance of
success (games of chance, i.e. shoots
and ladders, candyland, finger painting,
sand play.
Limit number of toys to reduce chance
of overwhelming
Lifestyle
Family atmosphere
Family constellation
Early recollections
Family Atmosphere
Parental attitudes toward the
children
Parental discipline philosophies
Lifestyle of the parents
Family values
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Family Atmosphere
Marital relationship
Parenting skills
Personal problems interferring with
ability to provide warmth, respect,
and structure
Family atmosphere of the parents’
family of origin
Typical types of
family atmospheres
Democratic
Rejective
Authoritarian
Inconsistent
Pitying
Hopless
Typical types of
family atmospheres
Suppressive
Overprotective
High Standards
Materialistic
Competitive
Disparaging
Inharmonious
Investigating
family atmosphere
Observing the child and
the parents
Asking questions
Art techniques
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Observing the child and parents
Child--during play session--stick with
the metaphor, during free play and
other unstructured times, i.e. cafeteria
Parents during consultation
Parents interacting with child in waiting
room, or during family session early in
the counseling process
Asking questions
Lifesyle questionaire
3-4 questions per session is recommended
Frame questions to the child metaphorically,
using the play situation as a base, i.e. “What
happens when the child doll doesn’t do what
the mommy doll says to do? “ or “Tell me
about the sister rabbit,” or “ Which of the
parent rabbits is the baby rabbit most like?”
Art techniques
Kinetic family drawing (appendix E
for questions)
• How does the child see others
gaining significance?
• What are the interactional patterns?
Draw a symbol for each person in
your family
Draw a symbol for the entire family
Family constellation/birth order
Psychological vs. ordinal
position
Only, First, Second, Middle,
Youngest
Divide class into groups and
discuss traits
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Only
relate easily to adults
independent
creative
pampered/expect others to be
in their service
more self focused with low
social interest
First
Responsible
Achievement/leadership
oriented
Protective/nurturing
Bossy
Overly organized/responsible
Second
Avis complex/catch
up/discouraged
Opposite personalities from
oldest
Good social skills
Middle
Invisible/neglected/unloved
Peacekeepers/mediators/negoti
ators
Innovative/creative
Rebel
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Youngest
Charming/entertaining
Spoiled
Not taken seriously
Excel at something different
Investigating
family constellation
Observation/questions/art
Looking for assets and liabilities
Sibling rating scale (appendix c)
for parents
Kinestetic school drawing
Early recollections
Snapshot from first 6-8 years of how person
sees self, others, life, what is worth pursuing
and what is likely to happen
ERs provide clues to lifestyle, mistaken
beliefs, social interactions, and goals of
behavior
Event that happened only once vs. a regular
pattern
ERs usually not used with children under 6-7
Obtaining ERs
Before asking for ERs establish rapport, and get family constellation information
Tell, draw, act out using puppets 5-7 ERs over several sessions
Write down everything the child says about the ER
Ask child to describe feelings associated to the ER
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Making meaning from ERs
Look for central themes
Demo . Everyone writes
2-3ERs. Volunteer shares ERs
and class uses questions to
discover central themes
Lifestyle hypotheses
I am
I must
Others are
The world is
Life is
Therefore I must act as if
Therefore my behavior must be
Lifestyle hypotheses
Share over time to help child
gain insight
Present as quesses using
metaphors, art, &
interpretations of conversation
and play
Insight phase-- Helping child
understand:
Goals of their behavior
Their basic convictions about
themselves, others and the world
Behaviors they use to gain
significance and sense of belonging
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Techniques for insight phase--
rate 1-10 ability to use these ten
techniques--
Sharing tentative
hypotheses/interpretations
Metacommunication/communication
patterns/nonverbal communication
Reading reactions to counselor
statements
Role play
Techniques for insight phase
Metaphor
Mutual story telling
Bibliotherapy
Art
Immediacy, humor, confrontation
Connecting play sessions with real
world
Interpretation using direct and
indirect tentative hypotheses
Indirect for children who are resistant or
defensive about direct interpretations
Indirect interpretations use the
toy,doll,role play character or puppet as
the focus of guesses about goals and
convictions. It is importnat to stay with
the child’s metaphor. (see p. 151)
Children’s play is usually more rich than
their verbalizations for interpreting goals
and convictions.
Metacomunication--
counselor interpretations of:
Patterns in how counselor and
child relate
Nonverbal communication
Child’s reaction to counselor
statements, interpretations, and
questions
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Role Play
Allow repetitions of role play events
when the child seems to be gaining
insight or emotional release from them
After 6-8 repetitions consider changing
the scenario by adding a character or
changing the direction of the role play.
Use the whisper voice and/or character
voice to suggest changes.
Metaphors
Using child’s metaphor
Designing therapuetic
metaphors for the child
Mutual Storytelling
Bibliotherapy
Using the child’s metaphors
Statements and guesses are made about the
thoughts, behaviors, feelings, and goals of
the characters in the play vs about the child.
• Ex. from Kottman--Lori, tying the house up--fear of
divorce--”Looks like you are trying to keep the
house from coming apart--It must be scary to the
people who live in the house to think the house
may come apart
Avoid breaking the metaphor--addressing the
problem directly--linking to child’s life before
the child is ready to deal with the issue
directly.
Designing Therapuetic
Metaphors (see p.161 for steps)
Counselor develops story which is
parallel to child’s situation.
Characters are included that
represent the key people in the
child’s life situation.
The characters face problems
similar to the child’s.
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Designing Therapuetic
Metaphors (see p.161 for steps)
Feelings, thoughts, actions, and goals
are attributed to the characters that
match the child’s situation
After hardships the characters solve
their problem in some
healthy/constructive fashsion
Below age 8 animal characters usually
work best, after age 8 people characters
seem best.
Mutual Storytelling For children up to age 8--ask child to choose
puppets or animals, pretend they can talk and
tell a story with them.
The story should not be something that really
happened or from a movie, tv, book, but
something they make up.
The story needs a beginning, middle, and
end. The characters need to have a problem
to solve and to find a way of solving it.
See questions p.165 to interpret the story
Bibliotherapy
Bookfinder-American Guidance
Services-Circle Pines, MN.
Bibliotherapy catalog-
Paperbacks for Educators--
• 1-800-227-2591
Books That Heal--
Art
Extending Kinetic Drawing
• Compare drawing at various
stages of counseling
• Try other family/school drawings,
i.e. ideal, with changes child
would like, how they would like
relationships to be with key
people in their life
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Cartoons
Cartoon helpers (age 8 & up)
• Draw fearful, worrisome situation
• Draw a cartoon helper who can
help with the problem
• Draw how the fear/worry will look
when it is resolved
Symbolic Representations
Oaklanders’s rosebush
Members of their
family/teacher/classmates
symbolically
Reorientation/Reeducation--
learning and practicing new
ways to:
view self, others, world
behave in various situations
relate to others
Style of counselor interaction
reorientation/reeducation phase
More directive
Problem solving/application to
outside situations
Teaching/skill training
• Social skills, sharing, negotiating
• Providing practice/coaching
Review gains and prepare for
termination